Why Men Choose One Woman Over Another | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@emmalove135]

I greatly suspect that you have a “ Scammer” on the prowl on your channel. ( This one is using Telegram. They usually use WhatsApp , various phone and numbers. I know whereof I speak, earlier this year in April , I experienced the audacity of a scammer who preyed upon my innocence of this internet thing of which I had little experience but got some education real fast in this regard. I don’t mind saying that, in the interest of others learning from my mistake , I was left with a feeling deep in the deepest part of my Soul like a ‘ sinking ship’ . It took about 3 weeks for me to be able to pull myself out of it and turn it around as my Super Power . It’s my way of declaring war on them for that which happened to me. ‘ Carpe Diam- Seize the day; However, ‘ Buyer beware. ( Best to “ Report “ them. )

[@kiranjitKaur61]

Hmmm. Well well well.

[@wannettahoskins4812]

Ok this is fine for some one young what about in there sixthy?

[@carissakirksey6606]

"And know this: The man that you would love, that man is seeking you right now." I needed that, thank you!

[@DaisyPeel]

1. Do we share the same vision of the future? 2. Do you want the same things at the same time - kids especially? Are you ready to launch the relationship at the same time? 3. Do i enjoy my time with her? Do we have a lot of fun together? 4. Do we have great physical chemistry? 5. Can I live with her? Can we spend a lot of time together and enjoy it? Do we have the same life rhythm? 6. Do i like her family and friends? 7. How do I feel about myself when I am around her?

[@beatafiejdasz4983]

Thanks a lot!!!🥰❤

[@mayfairmoore4518]

❤

[@SunitaDe]

Meanwhile women are expected to be like: 1. How can I compromise myself to fit into his future? 2. If he's ready for a relationship, then so am I. We'll have kids when he pressures me. Especially if he makes more money. 3. Time to get into hiking even though I prefer tennis. 4. Am I physically hot enough for him and look like the first crush/movie star he whacked off to? 5. Can I cook and clean and pick up after him fast enough and settle on a later bedtime? 6. Again, all about if he likes MY family and friends. His? I better find a way to win them over. 7. For every 100 times you praise me, you are only allowed half a criticism. Thus stroke my ego. All of these are so selfish and center around the man. Women's wishes are like: "Is he kind? Does he have integrity?" and then are called too picky.

[@agathangenzirabona8339]

Iam a woman but I go through the same places as iam making decision to accept his offer.

[@refreshingtwist]

​@@SunitaDeThis sounds more like you focus on all the negative in life. Could be the problem. It's interesting how you felt the need to write this and complain. What would it look like if you flipped things on a more positive note? How would that make you feel? What would that attract?

[@melocoton7]

I have asked my husband why he loves me. He told me basically everything you said plus big brains and big boobs😂 Still, 10 years in, he thanks me for a great time after every date we go on. My mother doesn't like most people. The minute these 2 met they became BFF's. His parents adore me because I'm great obviously LOL but more because they see how happy and content he is. Our life is drama free and that was one of the first things we agreed on. We are a team, it's us against the world together and coming home has to be something to look forward to.

[@manishapujari6465]

It's mutual respect, commitment, to have each other's support, a man who knows how to honour her woman protecting her dignity through his actions he must be aware, to feel an ease to be yourself and the maturity

[@BartsozMarek]

You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

[@Manisha-gx5uy]

Thanks😊for your lovely compliment

[@laurakaufman6333]

The man who I want to be with values the things that I value and has character , loyalty and integrity. He is genuinely generous and shares with me in many ways. He acknowledges and appreciates what I bring to the relationship as much as I do what he offers. He views us as a team.

[@n.s.8015]

Last night while I was out a man came over and complimented me on my style. Later in the evening I happened to walk past him and he stopped me to ask me if I have children. When i told him that I don't, he told me I would be a great mother. Yet here I am, most of my life - I've not really even been given a chance by the men who I actually feel there's a connection with and with whom I have enough common ground. (BTW - The guy was a lot younger than me and I thought I saw a wedding band on one of his fingers.) I've found in my life, that the majority of men are not as thoughtful as this video lays out. : )

[@liesyereini3595]

I agree. I'm 42 going 43 now, and I am childless, not by choice just haven't happened yet and found men like in the video 😢

[@GraysonOLucas]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Agree

[@Nicana68]

This sounds like a list of what a tiny, tiny percentage men may look for in a relationship. I've not met many men who are that intelligent, mature, or self aware.

[@hjtres7261]

Exactly

[@erikak3328]

this attitude is exactly why men stay away from women~ very insulting comments about men

[@hjtres7261]

@erikak3328 Sometimes the truth is insulting.

[@cfatj0e]

Lucky you to have met a few, as the aim is to find the one. Imagine having to choose between all these amazing men

[@mysticalvibe4241]

Amen to that. To me it’s about what makes them Bing!!! Sorry

[@marinakruger6492]

A phrase that I use when I really feel a connection whith a man, and want to make sure he does not roam away to other possible partners, is : You know what? I really like you and want you to know that your heart is safe with me. ❤ It is then his decision whether he want to give me his heart or if he is just fooling around. A true man who is into you, will embrace this and automatically open up to you and be vulnerable. The players will run as fast as they can, and be thankful for this. As he is not ready for an honest, true relationship!! Sending loads of love from beautiful Cape Town, South Africa ❤❤

[@brandonthevampireslayer]

7 Questions I Ask Myself When Choosing To Be With A Man 1. Are we choosing each other 2. Are we understanding of each other 3. Do we have a willingness to overcome obstacles for/with each other 4. Do they care, do they relentlessly try, or do they abandon and give up without realizing the grass is greener where you water it 5. Do they take care of themselves. Am I currently taking care of myself? Could we take care of each other in a way that supports our growth 6. Are we fearless together? Do we face our challenges despite our feelings or do we find ourselves held back or sabotaged by doubts, fears, and insecurities 7. Is it true? Is it real and raw? Do we love each other fully as human beings or do we hold each other to an ideal, do we become more of who we want to be or do we lose ourselves? I think these are the foundations of the things I think about, but it’s only scratching the surface for what I consider when thinking about my romantic future. I believe I’ve found the love of my life, but I know that even if he doesn’t choose me, I still have myself. Loving yourself is the most important thing, and if you don’t then it’s learning how to. That’s how you learn to love. That I think, is true love. Giving the love you give yourself back to someone just for them being themselves ❤️‍🔥

[@artgirl7649]

Thank you for this. The timing was perfect. I'm at a crossroads right now. I wish I had asked myself these questions 5 years ago. I also appreciate your validation of your women viewers at the end. I clicked on your vid because I am in the best place in my life ever and I don't won't to make the same mistakes again. I have been praying for answers.

[@jennifermorrow6895]

Advise from a newspaper article while I was in college…don’t marry the one you can live with. Marry the one you can’t live without. My marriage lasted 26 years; until death did us part.

[@Christopher-hh1ek]

But what do you do when you don't find the one you can't live without

[@helenpalmesi7579]

Thank you for including older couples in your photo examples.

[@GailPedone]

Matt - this video made a lot of sense but I also want the foundation of friendship & soul I think as we age we just realize more & more what’s important. It needs to be solid. I personally don’t want to ever go through what I went through when I was married or when I was in long term relationships. So to me it’s important to have that foundation & connection.

[@Light_Worker]

Man aren’t spiritual woman are. If there is man who can connect spiritually with woman they think he is weird. Look up at the history. Many BC ago woman considered to be Goddess and we would give advice to man based on our spirituality and intuition. There was spiritual and physical harmony to balance our relationship. We lost that today. It doesn’t matter what guy woman meet and how she is trying to please him if he doesn’t have appreciation what is in front of him he will never be satisfied and look for another.

[@donewithwokism599]

It's a great video, but this also easily applies to why women choose one man over another. In most relationships, it's the woman who decides if she want to be with a man.

[@Giovannax427]

he said that in the first 30 seconds of the video lmao

[@donewithwokism599]

@@Giovannax427 I missed it when he said it in the intro. The title is misleading and is a click bait for insecure women.

[@Giovannax427]

@@donewithwokism599 he said it a lot throughout the video too lol

[@donewithwokism599]

@@Giovannax427 ok thank you 👍

[@struggleplay8436]

As a woman I hardly disagree. Really hardly. It's the mans choice. Women are more likely to try it. To give him a chance. To put their needs back because they want things to work.

[@lindziep6319]

The things i ask or what i look at in a relationship is trust and respect, then we both accept each other past and flaws but we're also both advice one another if we see something that needs attention, we have both our personal space, we both value the same things or mostly, we motivate each other, when we fight we talk about it and listen without any shouting, and we introduce our family to each other

[@SharieFoster]

I truly am enlightened by your work EVERY time I am exposed to it. Thanks so much for sharing your understanding with the world.

[@karenmarr7266]

I once read that dance Maxim Chmerkovskiy said of his wife: "She makes me a better man." That's totally what I'm hearing here. I have a girlfriend who I love to spend time with, because I feel like she makes me a better woman / person. That feeling is addictive (in my not so humble opinion).

[@EllieM_Travels]

We’re a little older, beyond child bearing ages, but the rest of what you’re describing makes sense. Especially the part where we enjoy each other’s company, laugh, and can be ourselves.

[@sheilazimmerman3905]

Chemistry and compatibility can change. If two people don’t have a real connection….game over! A connection can not be forced or ever be broken. You either have the connection or you do not! JMHO! Blessings 🌸

[@kiranjitKaur61]

Apparently chemistry may additionally be rather created.

[@Mokh7777]

How would you define connection

[@sheilazimmerman3905]

@@kiranjitKaur61 Hello 👋 Maybe but it can also disappear in a relationship. Blessings 🌸

[@sheilazimmerman3905]

@@Mokh7777 hi 👋 Connection is two spirits recognizing their match. A connection is spiritual. Chemistry and compatibility are important, but it’s the connection that fuels them both and defines the relationship. Blessings 🌸

[@michellefiery739]

This advice is what children and the next upcoming generations must be taught. Great wisdom for love, fun & harmony. 🌅🌺🌴✨

[@BartsozMarek]

You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

[@lisajones6535]

I need someone who will respect me for who I am

[@Light_Worker]

Only dogs can do that, humans aren’t unless they need something from you. That is sad truth.

[@lyndalabriola8287]

❤you are so right

[@paolanamuncura8879]

It's hard.

[@reasonableeccentricccc]

Change that “need” to a “want”. You WANT that because you choose & you respect yourself & when you do that a man will show up for you in that way.

[@blacktea-podcast]

Are you also willing to respect them for who they are?🤔

[@Bianca2802]

Although we are not together right now , I love him for his values, his shyness, his soul, his hard working in his job, his sweetness. He is fun to be with and i love his kind of humour. I fell in love with him when he sent me a video of an old man dancing with a goat😂. I couldnt stop laughing. Our chemistry is incredible. And he is reliable. Unfortunately our timing is not right. I had to move far away...😢

[@ClaraLeMond-ii2ll]

What a pity!! Bless you!

[@heidilish5191]

Probably one of the best and most helpful videos you have done for me personally. Great info!

[@keyin4answer]

I think I was confused by compatibility vs. chemistry. It was always said that we had great chemistry but it was really compatibility… not chemistry. This was helpful to watch just to evaluate a relationship from the past. I will not mistake compatibility for chemistry again.

[@gritsonamission]

Something I never knew I should look for, that I've recently discovered I want after seeing it in a man I'm spending time with: (figuratively) when the sky is falling, and the seas are choppy, and the city is on fire, and I'm under attack... There he sits. He listens. Is affectionate. remains calm. And I either hear or feel 3 words: I got you. ... He knows I can make it through the storm on my own. But offers help where he can (doesn't just take over). Like burn cream to a burn. "Oh, is that heavy? Why are you carrying it alone?" My thoughts on this are a little disjointed, b/c I only just recently came to this realization and need to roll it around in my head a little more... maybe this makes sense. I guess the big question I should ask myself: How could I return the favor? Is there a way women can help men feel supported? What could I say/do to communicate that I want to fill the same role for him--that I've got him when the chips are down, too?

[@karlabritfeld7104]

This is overly heavy

[@Light_Worker]

Most woman are gave up on man and prefer to be alone. Just like someone recently said to me: “why get entire pig to get a little sausage?”

[@joymacasieb9540]

Lol 😂 not the sausage

[@gracegrace983]

Haha best comment ever ❤😂

[@Ziggimomspal68]

As an older widow I’m not looking for some of the things brought up here. Companionship, compatibility, chemistry, a caring & affectionate nature-these are the important things for me, the boxes I check.

[@goworldwide]

Mat, your motivation words at the end have just brought happy tears to my eyes. ❤

[@carmensylvia4001]

Very insightful! The man I’m seeing often tells me how comfortable he feels around me. I can see how he might be expressing some of these ideas.

[@deliapasqualini970]

I am the woman who lives and let men live and be who they are.

[@daniellewilganowsli9602]

It's called compromise and meet in the middle if you really love each other

[@Princess15732]

From my experiences, It's just about money. When he's confident and ready to settle, he would literally pick any girl who's around and accessible. If guys were that wise to ask questions and think, there were way less incompatibilities in marriages.

[@giselesarian8484]

And less broken hearts, pain and dissapointment.

[@v4175g]

With a oversexualized society, who else can think better? That's the deception. In the end, it's not just about broken hearts and broken promises, who does truly love ?

[@MsLilac88]

This is an amazing relationship advice video. 😊

[@desiemehrabian1133]

I consider dating stepping stones- each guy has gotten better based on what I’ve learn from the previous dates and relationships

[@nataliep501]

These points make a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing!

[@BartsozMarek]

You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

[@shea5542]

Another thing to look for is conflict resolution skills

[@thefuzzfactor2989]

Aw. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@Ayesha-ug8ej]

Thank you Matt it helps me a lot for my personal and relationship growth.🙏

[@sharonsouchak7877]

I am in my 50's and I have NEVER, ever met a man who is that analytical ans self aware when it comes to his emotions.

[@antjestr1047]

I think I'm not built for relationships in this lifetime

[@angelsky6869]

Without watching the video. I would say because connection, spark, something you can’t just find on paper.

[@christinamitrovich7554]

Its okay to have disagreements or something negative every so often, but as long as they are minimal and not constant. 80-95% of the time, it needs to be positive and fun and not "hard or work." Some families are just shit no matter what. So just be yourselves and open and honest, and loving in the case of being in a dysfunctional family. You can not control the family you both were born into, but you can only control yourselves.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

The fun only lasts so long... You both must be headed in the same direction.

[@dianasternspeaks]

Amazing video Mat! thank you for much

[@lynnita321]

Great content Mat, I appreciated this review. An additional question I consider is how does he treat others? - his business associates, his family, the wait staff? And, what is his style of communication?

[@ItsSoarTime]

I'm REALLY FEELING this guy! 2nd vid. 2nd thumbs up!!! SUBSCRIBED!!!!!!!

[@anitamoses4071]

I love watching your videos You are so good at what you do Interesting video Thanks for the tips

[@lyngrey4186]

This video is very informative. I've never seen a video like this before.

[@julieberg5951]

I am always thrown over for the other women, I was told I wasn’t girlfriend material tried to improve myself but it still happens really like to know where I am going wrong

[@EadsB7002]

Would need more context for giving the best advice. But I will say that your self concept (how you view/what you think about yourself and ultimately believe) is everything!! The most important! This and working on healing your triggers/issues from childhood, etc. All of this made a tremendous difference for me.

[@Florida_gyrl]

I’m sure physical chemistry is important but I don’t really care about that part of a relationship. Lots of other things are more important to me than the bedroom.

[@FTSD2023]

As always, packed with wisdom, insightful, thought-provoking information, and value. Thank you, Mat. I love that all your content is focused on helping couples WIN together. I appreciate all of your content and hard work to bring us fresh material, and to set us up for success in love. With gratitude.

[@seaglasscolor]

I asked myself, “Does he treat me with kindness” and “Does he have a wandering eye.”

[@bobjacobson858]

I didn't realize this video was specifically intended for a female audience, or at least that's what the other comments suggest. However, I'll share some thoughts : 1) There is a middle area between "having fun together" and "having drama and fighting". There are some people with whom one can get along, but at least one side is rather indifferent to the relationship--that is "we don't argue or fight, but if don't see the other person for a month I wouldn't miss her/him." This type of relationship is not ideal and would probably be boring at least to one of them. 2) I've thought of selecting a spouse as being somewhat a combination of choosing a Christmas tree and conducting a job interview--that is, am I physically attracted to the other person, and then does the other person have the qualities mentioned in this video. There was a woman I dated (long distance) that would probably have made a good wife, but I simply wasn't attracted to her although she wasn't by any means homely. There was another one to whom I was much more attracted, but she was very naive, introverted, and seemed unaware of basic things "everybody else" knows--I figured I would get bored with her after a few weeks if I were married to her.

[@lorijharman-runyan6433]

It really comes down to a few things when picking a man that is good for you. Does he go to work everyday & come home to you eveynight? Is he mature in his actions? Do you treat each other with repect? Are you honest with each other? Can you put up with each other's worst parts?

[@CapricornSunSagRisingLibraMoon]

This advice must be based on Mat's experiences. Every family is not the same. There's no law that says all families are good or positive or good to be around. Some do not like their own families for legitmate reasons. I personally do not place my family as a determining factor to my relationships, and there's nothing horrible about them. I believe the emphasis should be on the two individuals not what the family and/or society expects of you. As long as the couple is emotionally, physically healthy, happy, loving, safe and secure and in love who cares what others expect. What matters is the couple.

[@71LibraryGal]

Questions I ask abt a man: Does he treat me with respect? Does my well-being matter to him? Does he make me a priority in his life? Does he support and encourage me when I’m down? Is he financially responsible? Does he accept me as I am? Does he accept my adult kids’ presence in my life and activities? Has he shown by his actions that he is reliable? Is he a good kisser 😉

[@karlabritfeld7104]

And the save could apply to you

[@teresaquail3503]

I havs been looking for a man who loves and respectsvme for 40vyearsvi gave up hope long ago, accepting my life as it is has given me peace❤

[@jacquelynhorton373]

I enjoyed this very simple but meaningful talk.

[@clementakpeto6634]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@GraysonOLucas]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@clarisec1451]

Those are some great questions and good to think about whether a man or woman.

[@BartsozMarek]

You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

[@GraysonOLucas]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@lianevoelker9845]

Well and here we have it... If a man has no vision of his life and doesn't know what he wants, he is not mature and ready to be in a relationship. I learned it the hard way. Tried to support him...asked him how he wants to be supported. And it all came down to him being out of touch with his feelings, needs and what he wants in the future. It's a shame that i have fallen in love with potential. I will be way clearer sharing my vision in the early dating process... Hopefully it will scare those Mr. Undecided away.

[@joymacasieb9540]

I was/am always the runner up and never the “one”. Sucks 😢

[@christinamitrovich7554]

I was born too and came from a very dysfunctional, very toxic family.. this has made everything fmhard for me. I have decided to seek therapy from a good psychologist to work strictly on myself and be the best mother for my daughter. I told the psychologist about my family history and my previous relationship (my daughter father). I can not control other adults, only myself and my child. I told the psychologist that i want to work on my personal growth and development, working on setting boundaries and relationship skills so i can thrive, and that hopefully, my next relationship will be more successful. My toxic family and ex partner can do their own dirty work. They are not my problem anymore.

[@GraysonOLucas]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@christinamitrovich7554]

@GraysonOLucas thank you. My mother i think.

[@clementakpeto6634]

That smile 😁 looks good on you, I'm a busy man and I don't have much time to be on a dating site or so, most time I'm always busy but I'm working toward my retirement soon and I need to get hooked up with someone I can spend the rest of my life with but it's quite hard finding a good woman this days cos I have been hurt in the past.

[@Mme_Chantal]

This is so great that you are able to put boundaries between your family and ex partner. The work that we do on ourself is so not easy but so rewarding.

[@btwthblood]

This is so good. Thank you.

[@mybearmymartin]

I wish I could listen to your guidance when I was young.

[@cvsop7338]

honestly dating for me (female 35) looks like a deadend & I don't know from where & how to fix it... so disappointed

[@catherinemccright1256]

when i met my husband he was talking casually to a few other women, but i did some investigating at one point he talked to those women very flirty and sexy, and at first it made me mad he didnt talk to me like that, in hindsight i see that he actually took me seriously and respected me and didnt want to just have me as a sex partner or fling, they didnt stack up he stopped talking to anyone else within the first few weeks of us dating ( he asked me to date him with flowers and a necklace, and marry him with a ring 4 months later)

[@lisaherrick2610]

Where are these men that think like this? I think in the same terms but find many men just think with their second mind and when you don't give them physical intimacy right away they just move on to someone who will. I am a pretty and professional woman looking for the type of man that actually wants a commitment and it is so hard to find. It has been my experience that men tend to talk sex only instantly and don't get into long term thinking conversations very easily.

[@dachitownman1]

Wow....... Great list dude!!

[@ksenijaglavac1592]

Thank you, Mat ❤

[@trinerberg2375]

There are absolutely good things about getting older. Our parents are long gone, the children are grown up, no thoughts concerning establishing a family or going to work 👍 We have different political views, but what does it matter, when the chemistry is there and we relax in each others company? Do we have to live together? Maybe, maybe not. He does not care driving to visit me, I don't either. What will happen in one year, two years, five years, ten years? I don't care. Being 66 I've become very good at living in the moment. Just want august and september to be nice with sunny weather and good health 😀🌞🌻🦋

[@christyrobinson6827]

Very interesting message thank you ❤

[@erikak3328]

helpful information thank u

[@shingj4007]

When I choose a man, the foremost thing is: the look/physical chemistry, if there is no match, forget it, if there is, I'll look for other things like, common interests,...etc.

[@yurimaperez1145]

Thank you Mat! I can’t agree more, choose his/her family very well because it can be an issue long term

[@beckyharper6263]

Great video Mat

[@thuyyouto]

You just chose the person who have the same taste of life as you do. Morals, loyalty, intelligent, …etc …

[@relaxcalmly1742]

Ummm in the real world, most don’t think about all of those. I asked my husband why me, and he said none of those. And none of the guys in my life - brothers and past guy friends doesnt have all those questions to even consider. Mostly, it’s if they’re physically attracted towards her, then they just try to win over her families and friends.

[@marlenekern1232]

You have great advice I'm in a situation right at this point in time in my life where I'm just regaining the love me first and then I am also trying to work on a relationship very small baby but I'm enjoying chatting with him we're learning things but unfortunately he's in the military and he's overseas right now we're ready to take the steps but we're just taking an extremely slow

[@yourhealingjourney9824]

In my case, it was a yes on all questions for him but he still chose her

[@Yathome00]

I left a great guy because I didn’t want to have kids, EVER, he thought that if we married he could eventually change my mind. I knew he couldn’t and I refused to trap him in a lopsided marriage. I have ZERO regrets.

[@DrValerie800]

My late husband, when asked by his friends how he knew I was the one, said: "I knew it when I realized I couldn't imagine my life without her." But we were complete opposites. He was a complete control freak and I drive control freaks crazy...he was a neat freak and, while I love a clean and organized house, I am not...he was great with money and business, I was not...he was an assassin/agent for the CIA and I'm a healer. Yin and Yang, as people called us. Opposite sides of the same coin, where we met in the middle was complete bliss. Not an easy relationship though (Twin Flame relationships are usually like that, here in 3D).

[@jelenapetkovic616]

Absolutely the 1st I see how I feel on the 1st 2 dates. No matter if he is smart, if I feel bored, look at my wach or phone, I absolutely know he is not for me, even he is the most handsome guy. If I feel like I could spend more time on the date it is a sign for me to go further.

[@melanieschneller6761]

What if you have someone that he takes one day at a time? He says he's looking forward our future but also told me he does not know what God has in store for us. What should I do just be patient him? We have been together a year now and I live with him. He doesn't talk about the future.

[@guisellalosa7557]

Why a women choose a man over another? I wish there exist more love coaches for men, the world would be so different and a lovely place. 🌎 I feel like we, women, are doing all the homework while them are just chilling drinking a beer.

[@lilybelle2780]

I've been married for 38 together, 42. I was pretty, thin, funny, smart, AND a CHALLENGE. He's a corp lawyer, a pilot, a black belt, tai kwon do, a certified lifeguard, scuba instructor. Taught sailing at UCLA> I am not athletic. We argued ALL the time. I had 3 children, 1 died at age 26, he was a Fighter Pilot in training and he died from a Heroin overdose (probably fentanyl) in 2012. My husband wasn't comforting. I love him dearly and he loves me. He is honest, trustworthy, a good dad, great provider and I guess my point is. Not all the boxes can check. There will ALWAYS be some deficiences in the relationship. Marriage and relationships are DIFFICULT not always blessed fun.

[@missives3894]

Women decide who they sleep with. Men decide who they start a relationship with.

[@mjoachim9554]

I know four women, including myself , who have gone through stages of challenging times. PTSD sort of issues and were not in the right mindset for fun , adventure and sex. All four guys pulled away and were looking for other means of escape if you know what I mean. So what is the solution to this?

[@kathyreneaycock9455]

Thank you mat❤

[@kimberlysinspiration256]

Thank you Matt 🙏❤😊

[@GraysonOLucas]

Honestly! that smile on your profile picture looks good on you. if I may ask who did you get it from? I guess it is from your mother❤️

[@nasha4everr310]

Ah, yes, the “exclusive” trick….. Don’t fall for it ladies😅😅…

[@peaceUg256]

Thank yu very much Matt❤👍

[@Mokh7777]

None of it included his feelings for her or if he loved her

[@ShoJ369]

I'm seeing someone who I have known for years, We have just started seeing each other, and the physical relationship is excellent. He has told me he has no interest in an emotional attachment or a relationship. I'm in love with him and I'm thinking he will fall in love with me soon because our sex life is wonderful. . Please tell me, am I kidding myself ? I don't have many friends who I could tell this to.

[@judyl.7811]

2:05 do we want the same things at the same time?

[@beverlylooper3927]

That's easy, whenever it's me or another woman, they choose the other woman...every time.

[@sujatakarmokar2158]

If he has other options he dont deserve u.

[@martiseelye6443]

My hubby says one question is all you need to answer...can I envision a future without her?

[@ElliScott]

I disagree with some points from my own experience. 3:00 it's important to say that men want a partner that stands for themselves and makes personal boundaries clear! My partner started to respect me way more when I made clear what I didn't like and we had our first conflicts. This also showed that we can discuss in a good way! "Criticizing" is sometimes necessary in my opinion. I think we should become better through the other person, so it's okay when they tell us what we haven't done right. It's also difficult to say that you always have to feel great in your partner's family. My mother for example is not always easy, she has already made jokes about my boyfriend. Well, I don't feel good about it and I had a difficult childhood, but it would not be fair if my partner had rejected me because of that! In the end it's not your partner's family you decide to be with, it's the other person that should make you happy!

[@Bennysouzamedia]

I always ask myself ; 1) Is there mutual love and respect? 2) Does he value my opinion? 3) Does he value self care? 4) Does he have an active spiritual life? Does he know and love Jesus? 5) is he driven career wise ? And does he value and appreciate an ambitious woman? 6) does he want children? 7) is he honest? Does he mean what he says and says only what he means? 8) How does he speak about his ex's? 9) what's his relationship with his parents and siblings? 10) How emotionally intelligent is he? 11) how does he handle conflicts? Does he address it ? Or ghosts?