5 Secret Ways to Make Him Afraid of Losing You | Relationship Advice For Women by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@yaskay297]

Can you please increase the volume of your next videos I find it hard to focus listening with a law volume

[@amc5936]

i warned the one i am dating now i am not repeat not very girlie and refuse to change. take it or leave it.

[@rezotydnic]

1. Draw out his masculine by anchoring in your feminine energy. 2. Be the Queen that you are. 3. Appreciate him for meeting your needs. 4. Meet his needs. 5. Have a life outside the relationship that lights you up.

[@kandykissesco]

The only needs my husbands wants met is intimacy in the bedroom. It’s too much tho 😩

[@rezotydnic]

@@kandykissesco I understand. My only advice is this. Tell him that if he satisfies you, whatever that may be, he can have all he wants. But don't forget the foreplay. That's important.

[@MsLilac88]

Accomodate his sexual needs. 😊

[@wonderingsoul8021]

Communication and compromise so you guys are on more of the same page. Alot of things changed after my third child and my hormones changed big time so my desire for intimacy went downhill. It was a struggle but I stayed honest with my fiance, went to therapy, and eventually my hormones went back to normal and my desire came back. I wish you well though, best of luck!!

[@jkd9573]

I seem to do all the right things per the advice given by dating gurus but it still doesn’t work. Ready to give up forever.

[@aleksandramichalska5223]

I think that with right person by your side in your life you always feel good, happy, safe and comfortable. If you are with right person you don't have to be afraid of losing him/her because you take care about each other.

[@kathykobos8980]

I notice how he always looks out for me and wants to take care of me. He likes to be my hero

[@somalumen7070]

"I'm not really feeling up for it, so if you're willing to do the work, I'm willing to participate" - OMG, if I was drinking anything at that moment, it would have come out my nostrils. Love your guidance Mat, it is really. helping me nourish a new relationship that FEELS masculine/feminine balanced.

[@cw5451]

When a man lifts me up by showing and telling me how amazing he thinks I am, that speaks to my heart!

[@chelseaford8517]

This made me feel so good about my relationship. The guy I’m with has been dating princess’s in the past, and I’m successful and know what I want, but I’m kind and thankful and his friends love me. He keeps saying he’s so lucky, and is afraid to lose me. I didn’t understand why, until watching this. I’m a queen! This let me know I’m doing everything right and I found a man who values me and meets my standards, and I let him know all the time how much I love him taking care of me, and taking charge, Being a man! It’s so natural, it feels right. ❤

[@cathy3878]

Thats so funny you mention this. I also recognize when my husband needs guy time before he does too. We’ve been happily married 23 years. He is such a good husband, father, coworker and he works so hard to be there for everyone. I encourage him to do this especially since his blood pressure was creeping up when he wasnt. He respects my need for downtime too and isnt one of those needy husbands who cant handle the kids for a few hours by himself. He lets me have my time uninterrupted too.

[@godslove331]

I love that you speak about being in a monogamous relationship, That point is the most important

[@Milycabrera92]

Again ladies ..this only work out with the right and gentleman man..not with guys

[@lorrainekriel1499]

You make me laugh 😂 because it is true!

[@carolinepersson8061]

True 😂😂😂❤️

[@camuyana]

My experience has nothing to do with my ex-husband directly. But I experienced from a total stranger his willingness to protect me. The ex-husband never did. I will just leave it at that because I don't want to disclose too much because the stranger doesn't know how I feel about him.

[@tammycain8421]

@@camuyana weird, not like hes reading this

[@ariesh-jk7258]

Great point

[@NotPCandnotadelusionalenabler]

There you go again, assuring me that I'm doing my part and validating how healthy my relationship actually is. Listening to you makes me grow even stronger in my love for him. 💜

[@blu_angel7]

I'm moving out this week, finally, and nothing is stopping me.

[@lorrainea.285]

Moving out from where??? Your boyfriend’s place, husband? What happened? Please share.

[@preshieetv]

I moved out recently and it wasn’t easy for me 😭

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Good for you! You got this!

[@sheilaschneider2091]

Great information for us ladies What most ladies want is first and foremost a honest ethic man who isn’t a narcissistic liar😢

[@pegs3711]

Yes mam ,I was wondering if you did all this for a man and he still cheated who falt is it 🤔

[@missmona9731]

I love your videos Matt, they either teach me or reaffirm my growth within my relationship. Thank you for your insight, I appreciate you. Many blessings to you, your lovely wife, and children. ✌🏾💜

[@shokok5153]

Wow, thanks so much for this video! I realize that I was 60% princess / 40% queen when I was with my man. I am also aware that when I'm busy at work (ie. when I was with him) I don't give him the words of appreciation enough because my mind is so caught up with work. This was a great reminder and also eye opener video, thanks Mat!

[@kathleenking47]

It's also helps, if man is able to support you..FINANCIALLY..

[@sirene7465]

Him reaching out and being consistent

[@DeboB1998]

I met a friend of my brother in a shopping mall, I was alone because my friend cancelled the plan at the last hour. He somehow noticed I was feeling slightly anxious to get on the escalator and he supported me by holding my arm. I instantly liked it because his masculine energy came to the surface ❤ . He gave me an icecream treat 😊 , we visited the bookstore. I was discussing about the books and he was listening to me all the time, with great attention, that was so sweet 😍. I'm 24 now but he treats me as if I'm still a teen schoolgirl. He called a cab for me and I liked all his gestures. Later he talked to my brother about me. He's a government officer and my brother found a good match for me 😂.

[@lesliewoods7774]

Thank you Matt. I so appreciate your grounded sensibility that is focused on helping us all be better, kinder and more loving humans. Much gratitude for all you do!!

[@myriambahri7320]

What feels rare and valuable to me as a woman is the recognition of the efforts I put into something wether it's related to the relationship or not. Basically hearing: you're the best this ou that, you're giving it you all and it shows, you're blossoming on this or that role.

[@cueswithdogs1048]

Rare and valuable in a man. Knowing my wants, trusting my ability to be okay without it and then surprising me with it unexpectedly

[@deltatango6793]

Okay but I need to balance telling my bf of 8 years (I’m 38, he’s 39) that I love and appreciate how he takes care of me/ my needs (and my little doggo!) with respecting his avoidant attachment style because I feel like his mom leaned on him a bit growing up because his dad wasn’t the most reliable… she worked 2 jobs, emotionally handled the family, put up with hurtful nonsense… and he was her sounding board.. so now, every time things are going really great, he pulls back. I don’t want him feeling smothered by the thought of living together or taking the next step, any step.. I don’t want him to think I NEED to be taken care of, but that I love how he takes care of me.. that we are a team.

[@chelseajackman7730]

The hard part for somebody like me is acting like a queen instead of the maid, willing to freely give but not as willing to receive. What could the difference be between having queenly standards and holding to them, and setting unreasonable expectations without being willing to bend to make it even POSSIBLE to get even a little of what I want?

[@vegankochenwir]

When I get to know somebody online, first phone then date (this way, you know the person is real). I never go to his place first. What is great when the man takes lead (like you mentioned), has a plan and makes plans for the future. I like a passioned and romantic guy.

[@HelenJohnson-m5g]

Faithfulness, honesty & respect are so important above anything else, without these there's absolutely no value in that relationship. Also very important & very rare is a man who is a good listener (not him just waiting to speak & not really attentively listening & engaging in what she has to say). To be able to talk about his feelings & be comfortable about his vulnerabilities. Love it when he's a strong person, not a weak personality, but is soft hearted too. A man who can be genuinely modest without self deprecating & does not condescend or put a woman down is so attractive.

[@nancyhynes804]

What makes me feel feminine, valued, appreciated, and loved seems so simple..."Let me know you see me." Hearing he likes spending time together; appreciates a meal or contribution to the house or the garden or what I'm wearing...or a hug...and supporting his guy time.

[@MindfulnessLab]

loved it all, so intuitive and short which works for my brain. Sending love and light

[@itreciastrachan1111]

Appreciation guys like, number 3, is when we as women feel safe around a man's presence, we should tell them that. In our feminine energy. 👍🌞😉

[@mariafaria2256]

The thing with me is that I don't want him to be afraid to lose me. I want him to want me freely. I just want to be related, comfortable, connected, simply who I am and not be afraid or have him afraid to lose me. Let the bird fly. If it comes back to its nest, fine. If not , it wasn't meant to be.

[@utaka78]

Love your energy✨i got goosebumps and teary eyes while you told the story with your wife

[@dianebarnes3180]

My husband gives me time to volunteer at our local museum. Some of it I do from home, and some on site. He loves that I do this for our community.

[@sarahmohsen4142]

Wawoooooo love this Video , great job really like how you gave examples and detailed explanation 👏

[@kayesteves]

I loooove when Mat talks about his wife!!!

[@rezotydnic]

If a man shows up, shows he knows we have something special and shows he values that, that is rare and valuable to me. Takes care of me in ways I didn't know I needed taking care of. Shows up, is present, and asks what I want or what I need. Takes the lead but also gets my input. Realizes that its not ALL just about him. I've certainly made mistakes in the past with my relationships, and I've learned, and am still learning. I love my man and he loves me. But he is very independent, as I am, which he finds attractive. I don't want him to be afraid to loose me but I do want him to 'look after our relationship' like he's afraid to loose it. I want to feel valued. And right now, I'm not feeling it. We are older. There is an older parent in our care, and there is no progression in our relationship. He's a workaholic. The next step would be engagement as we have been together 6 yrs now. I love him to death. And I want him to love me to death. And maybe he does but I don't see it enough. He told me if he wasn't happy, he wouldn't be 'here'. But I need more from him and he's told me to ask him or tell him what I need. Why is asking for what you want soo hard to do Matt?

[@robinettreed1399]

Honesty loyalty

[@bledawolf]

After a lot of self-improvement and learning, I was this woman in my last relationship and got ghosted. He he Thank you Mat, you have been a big part of my self-improvement journey. Keep on the good work!

[@Uncensored0.1]

My Man keeps ghosting me and I am tired of his behavior. He ignores me and when I ask him to just tell me if he doesn't want me to be with him he keeps quiet too. I'm sick and tired

[@bledawolf]

Sorry to hear that Edith, If it has been going on for a while, than it's not worth your time. I always give it some time, and try to communicate, but if it ain't happening I just walk away. You deserve better! Insecure and immature men will never say they don't want to be with you. They need you too stick around so you'd be there when they feel like having you. Take care!

[@Uncensored0.1]

@@bledawolf I'm actually going to walk away now. You're very right

[@romanireva]

@@Uncensored0.1 please move on there are PLENTY of great guys out there . And it is WAY better to be on your own than with this kind of a jerk.

[@violetfekete2885]

@@Uncensored0.1 you should not be asking this question, It is like you are waiting for his confirmation. And he might very much want to leave but won't want to make the first move or wait for you to walk out. (Less responsible this way)

[@michellemccullough446]

That was awesome thanks matt

[@sabinasabit]

I think commitment to promises would really make a huge difference ❤

[@lynneholleycarter8035]

One time we were talking. I acquiesced to his suggestion that we stop talking so I could focus my whole attention on my Grandson who I was with. I texted, "Okay, you're the boss." Just light and joking. 5 minutes later, he sent me this text: " One more thing. No one is your boss. You are your own Boss."

[@mmommo10]

love that, super sweet

[@kateroth7154]

I love hearing that story about your wife!

[@annstar2793]

Only say it if it’s true though !!!! and you can still be great at this and it won’t change anything w the wrong guy, or a selfish one.

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

I think it's rare when someone plans the future with me without fear of marriage, children, or moving in together.

[@derlyhtcreole3811]

Thank you, Mat! I think I spend too much time in my masculine energy I didn't even realize it. Thank you!

[@deviscott2879]

You are the best Super great advise Love all of your videos so far.❤❤❤❤

[@angelam.e.richardson3501]

The things thst a man can do that makes me feel like a queen? -Find delight in me for who I am -Enjoy it when I share thoughts and all the little things that excite me and enter into them with me - Accept my weaknesses and mistakes -Love and relax into the home and life I want to create for him -Be a true participator in team 'us' -Listens, validates, understands, supports and respects me -Lifts me up to be the best that I can be - Feels proud to be with me -Gives a loving, thoughtful and spiritual lead in the relationship, knowing what will be best for both of us -Thinks 'us', not you and me -Sees needs and throws his weight in without implying judgement -Wants to spend quality time with me doing who cares what -Being spontaneous, fun, creative and adventurous together -Learning, discovering, thinking, discussing and growing together all the time.... -Enjoying shared projects -Giving out to others through our shared life together

[@kimfrederick7710]

I'm living my life as a queen and not that many men are sure how to handle that because they aren't used to it. They are used to high maintenance women. I don't settle for just anyone and my life is well balanced

[@kathleenking47]

I dont think, they're used to "high maintenance " women It's the OPPOSITE A high maintenance FEMINJNE WOMAN ..would be dressing more Feminine..as well If his older sister taught him. Was he from a broken home?

[@maggiemaggie2685]

I have noticed the opposite. Men seem to be spoiled and lazy. Not with high maintenance women.

[@EcoworksFL]

​@@maggiemaggie2685I agree.. men are lazy, lacks effort wants 50/50 and sex on tap..if only they were Kings..then they deserve a Queen!

[@vivianamieres]

@@maggiemaggie2685 feel the same

[@osanggonzagaPH]

it's rare for me when a guy makes great surprises without me having a clue that he knows what i like ☺️

[@maryannlord3350]

love this. its so rare to find that special someone. thank you for the special tips that help us show more appreciation for a worthy man.

[@anitajulien8392]

I love that line"If you are willing to do the work, I am willing to participate"😂😂😂

[@teegsyd]

Right?! It’s like we’ve been given permission to say this hahaha

[@lehcar213]

Draw out his masculine by anchoring your feminine Be the queen that you are Appreciate him for meeting your needs Meet his needs Have a life outside the relationship that lights you up

[@maggiemaggie2685]

I loved the messages I needed to hear them today. But please change the title. It was misleading. Thank you for all you share! Blessings!

[@ozwomanid57]

Agree. It only works with the right man. My boyfriend, after 7 months of living together, told me today he loves me BUT is NOT in love with me. He's actually in love with his best friend who keeps saying "no" when he asks her to marry him. I thought if I cared for him, his home, his children well let's just say that was a stupid thing for me to think. If he lost me he wouldn't be sad to see me go...

[@williaminaloftin3814]

Dorothy, I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation. May you have enough self-love and courage to boldly walk away from that relationship. It'll never fulfill you in ways that you need it to. Leave the dead end situation and make space for the man that's deserving of you.

[@jojose417]

Run, don’t walk away! Do it before you get more feelings and more attached to this person! When you let them go you’ll free up space in your life for the right person! You’re not saying no to them, you’re saying yes to your life!

[@lynn-ve2je]

Thank you for the advice

[@billduck846]

Yeah absolutely 💙

[@perla4118]

Love this channel! So glad I found it. Love to hear what a man wants and needs from another man. Thanks 🙏🏽 there’s always room for evolution especially in a relationship

[@Kittavong]

Thank you 🙏 for sharing I learned so much from you I appreciated it ❤🙏

[@mikiwells4572]

Thank you Mat for your videos. You offer excellent advice to women. I deeply appreciate it. After being in the dating pool for a while, one thing I've noticed. These principles only apply IF he is ready to receive. Meaning, he has to want a meaningful relationship. Many men are playing games. They say they're a King seeking his Queen. They want to be treated and respected as a "Man". But, they don't follow through. Because, a lot of women are willing to do anything for a man. We're allowing the gender roles to be reversed. A lot of men I've met. They're handing you their manhood on a silver platter. I politely hand it back. 😊 BUT, they'll give it back. They're being lazy and want the woman to do everything. They want a f**kable mother. Because so many women allow this, this is the new expectation from men. Because they know they have options, many will move on. Because many women are scared to be alone, they'll submit especially in the AA community. I know you have to kiss many frogs before meeting your Prince. As a GOD fearing woman, HE said...He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing. 😉 With that, I've decided to focus more on me. Becoming the best woman NO Queen 👸🏾for my future King. Best wishes on your journey. GOD bless!😇🙏🏽❤ P.S. I don't speak for every woman. I can only speak from my experiences and my observations of friends around me.

[@r.a.5519]

Yes, meeting real men is hardest for us God-fearing women who won't just do anything & everything for men who want f***able mother types in their lives! We should do a week-long conference on this topic... 🎉😅

[@carolinew9964]

I think Mat Blogs is giving the advice thank you.

[@katemiller5990]

Mat I am fascinated by your first date story with Irena, and so curious- where did she learn to be so grounded in her femininity? Did she observe this kind of exchange between her parents growing up? Or is this something she has learned later in life?

[@imaria2979]

When you find the right woman it can only be the reason why you giggle like this.. I love the energy

[@yvesgysel9834]

A man needs to lead and protect. Picking the table, ordering ( asking what she likes)... What I find so attractive. A feminine woman, following my lead. Definitely not a boss babe. It's simple the last thing a Guy wants is to compete with his Woman. We do like to compete with other men. When it comes to our partner, we want harmony and peace of mind. Support her and have her back. In return we ask loyalty and respect. When she does not respect me, the relationship is over.

[@ginahouston9352]

#5 should have been #1 --- have this 1st and it's easier to do the other 4 ....

[@mjdavid3786]

Love your content Mat. Thank you ✨🙏

[@meerlejack6131]

Thank you for this Awesome video Matt

[@Themessenger321]

I don’t think any guys deserve to have sex with me because they didn’t do anything for me to deserve it except only make me more broke and angry all the times!!

[@sandracrawn623]

i recently opened up and snuck in the words in a text that i love you to my bf that was in hospital surgery i could not be there . he did not reply or anything , we have been dating for 4 months and are always helping each other and open talking about anything, just wondering of he really cares or what?

[@tianiemitchell5692]

Matt what you said regarding how you learned how to date by watching your sister sister, really hit home for me. I learned today I watching my dad because my mom died when I was just six and I'm trying to learn by watching a few view gentlemen's and women sites about how to stay in my feminine and let the man pursue me wish I could still find confusing.

[@luxueusecerise]

All 'em come NATURALLY 💗

[@windyaltiche]

This literally true!

[@annpatton9611]

Thank you, good stuff!!!

[@vanessagonzalez9424]

Thank you for the message!

[@MsLilac88]

I enjoy watching your informative videos about relationships. 😊

[@christinaosborne4259]

Thanks Mat. I really appreciate this and puts my last relationship in a clearer light. I was working hard to do all these things. He just didn't want them. He was still f***ing around and looking for a mommy to bang, but we got engaged anyway. It turned really ugly... Anyway to answer your questions -- I have really high emotional standards. I have big feelings and co-regulation is a real thing. The minute he can't meet my emotional needs is the minute he's out. "Maybe you should see your therapist" is a huge red flag for me for a man who hasn't done his work and thinks my emotions don't belong in our relationship. Aside from that -- creative dates that I don't have to think about. I'm along for the ride, because I'm making big decisions every day in my own life. It does not feel good to be the decider in my relationship.

[@celestinebennett212]

What you describe is just not a guy that is Hubby...there are good men out there ..thank you

[@mariastathopoulos744]

#5 = Ladies take on a part time lover, for passion, inspiration and a life outside the relationship 😉

[@Whoamidontknow17707]

This kinda does work, I’ve heard.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Somehow I don't think this tip is Mat approved! 😂😂😂😂

[@LindaDooWop]

I love your videos!

[@eribekevictor3678]

You are a good man. Thank you for inspiring me ✨✌️🏼

[@GP-kb2oq]

Great video ❤

[@loramorrison2778]

I give up on all of it

[@if7363]

This was amazing, Mat ❤

[@nancyclaypool292]

Makes sense as long as he would actually behave like a masculine man & put in the effort & investments

[@valindabalcarzar8305]

Thank you Mat for providing an insight into the male mind. Can you please make a KZbin video that gives examples of the perfect wife. I love and I am interested in learning how I can make my husband feel happy and peaceful In our home.

[@jheavensfaith8801]

Wow wow wow super amazing content

[@haddadiwanassa]

If a man is a liar a manipulative who actually doesn't want you but wants to keep you, won't care to lose you .. if he acts like he wants to lose you, let him have it and save yourself the trouble and time move on ❤

[@leelee5532]

My husband don't care about are relationship because I was willing to leave my country for him but he was not Willing to do so for his son and me

[@wealthysouls1729]

This is really inspiring

[@leeboriack8054]

Using fear for control is what an emotionally undeveloped person does. As a result neither person will be truly happy.

[@mmommo10]

I have a guy who won't text or call. but we go out on the weekends and its pretty nice....but I'm just not sure....and Im sure that is where he is operating from as well.....

[@nazziwaracheal1051]

Mat I'm love with a man younger than me. We stay in different countries and he says he wants marriage. I need your help here

[@sweetdee907]

I really enjoyed the video matt and just makes me add the 4 because I enjoy complimenting my man

[@silviapahlke4992]

Very important video. Really appreciated.

[@auntyb7543]

I think it’s going to be to late I am all ready ignore him

[@bettyletkeman647]

As soon as I set my standards he thinks I’m controlling him and I’m not. I want love and attention which I am not getting from him therefore I get mad and nag and beg more and more. He doesn’t wanna be the leader and he doesn’t want to try…I feel like I have no other choice but to lead because he doesn’t want to. We got married less then 2 years ago. 😔😔😔

[@BlossomAndGuinea]

I was in the same situation. Try counseling. If he won’t go to counseling, end it before you have kids. That’s what I wish I had done. I am so sorry to hear that you are in that situation.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Divorce him and find a real man.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

He already lost me, so too late 😞. I probably cared more about the relationship than he did so..

[@priscillaley1604]

Any suggestions how to date your boss?

[@helensanderson7092]

I'm on my own and that's it now

[@raisinaroll-8980]

I have been cheated 10 times by a single guy.everytime i forgave him.i never doubted him at frst.but each of my friend became his gf lol.its been more than a year now am in another relationship but i fear to lose my present bf alot.i have insecurities.i was never like this before.

[@crystaldance5731]

I’ve yet to meet him mat ❤️😊

[@virginiagarcia9289]

I love these videos cus all of the said advice works in real life 😜🤣

[@isaacima-obongjoan4685]

I seriously need someone to talk to right now, coz I feel my relationship is tearing apart and different thought is coming through my head. I still love the guy buh it's looking like he's going far away from me. Please how can I tackle this coz I'm loosing my mind

[@romanireva]

Matt I love love your videos but PLEASE for us who watch all of your videos, please find another story, as we have heard again and again about the sushi. 😊

[@raq0122]

The only value I have to my husband is to do all the laundry, pay all the bills and take care of our kids. He even gets mad because I work 14 hour shifts and he needs to watch the kids which seems to be an inconvenience to him

[@gracieslick2396]

Run don't walk. Escape now. He's not good enough

[@naomis4228]

1:12 1:42 4:35 5:45

[@auntyb7543]

To late he going to loose me