Destroy Your Mental Limits & Unlock Your Best Self - Adam Grant

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Are People Just Born With Natural Talent? 06:25 How to Know What Your Potential is 10:50 What We Get Wrong About Meaning 17:10 Becoming Better at Dealing With Uncertainty 21:22 The Fear of Failure 34:40 Why Vulnerability Is Important 40:56 Respecting & Managing Your Emotions 49:20 Adam’s Recipe for Happiness 56:36 Become Smart By Avoiding Being Dumb 1:05:37 Enjoying Satisfaction From Successes 1:13:02 Where to Find Adam

[@motivason]

I told this to my kids many years ago - "To make an impact, you must; show up, stay positive, and be so good they can't ignore you."

[@manupandmove]

That's great, even more if you showed your kids how it's done. Love it!

[@tallahass3357]

They get a metal for showing up 😂😂😂😂🎉

[@csawandsaid]

Unfortunately, sometimes when you’re so good, you have bosses that recognize it and want to get rid of you or beat you down so you also need a support team that’s confident enough to help promote people that are doing well being well and showing up and making a difference that aren’t intimidated so that way the entire team moves up or They benefit by helping promote people that are doing well.

[@ivanharrison241]

Exactly. So many concepts and ideas have been thought of before but get rehashed like their an original thought.

[@brentmorton3680]

From a psychological attachment perspective, your kids probably heard "to earn my love/ respect/ appreciation, you must be positive all the time, always be there when an authority figure needs you, and excel so I can tell my friends and random people on the internet how great a father I am." This is a recipe for the creation of a false self and a life of mediocrity, conformity, and pathology. A better message might be "radically orient yourself in your own quirky direction, be whoever it is you are, be negative and positive and everything in between, and keep going, I will maintain a relationship with you whatever you become and will do my best to keep my own needs and longings out of the equation."

[@Dailygrilling]

That ending was so authentic. Seeing Chris uncomfortable not looking at the camera and really not wanting to provide an example of something that could have been better. That was a perfect ending to this episode. Such a great episode

[@willl5970]

"A compass is better than a map." That is one of the best ideas I've heard in a long time!

[@paulspeaks9521]

0:20 "we tend to see people at their peak", this is difficult for many people to comprehend. Instead of them being born with innate talent and ability, they cultivated it through endless hours of work

[@Hydronix006]

Every time I start doing something, I am the goofy who is obviously incapable of ever getting good. So we all make fun of my failures and have a good time. But years into the thing, people start to realize that I am getting better consistently, without ever stopping. I simply stack the hours. I was the weakest guy, but got a good boxer. I had no rhythm at all, but got a good dancer. And I was the dumbest, now doing my PhD. Talent might be important when you are top 1% or something, but for some respect, self-esteem and fun, stacking hours is always sufficient!!!

[@melissachinnici]

I like this dude and his demeanor. He is very coherent and easy to understand.

[@Tufas]

I love the ending about how if you are someone who keeps friends around it tends to ground you. So much advice is about cutting out old friends "who do not contribute to your improvement", removing the "ballast", only surrounding yourself with people who are "better" than you to become the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with etc. This just means you are constantly cycling through friends which seems like the definition of miserable to me. Your friends also know that you could leave them at any moment since they are only tools to you. Such weird advice

[@navis462]

Underrated comment. I’ve never thought about this.

[@AJax7886]

55:00 The funny thing I noticed about bias: it's incredibly easy to spot when you disagree with it, but incredibly easy to miss when you agree with it.

[@v9b23j]

As a manager, the worst way to give feedback to your team members is to give it all at once during a performance review. Both positive and constructive (negative) feedback is useful when it is given in a timely manner to allow your team members to reflect, expand, create a course correction plan, improve, and grow. This is why you have weekly one-on-one meetings with your team members.

[@tallahass3357]

So you just have weekly performance reviews? Seems stressful 🤔

[@scotchbarrel4429]

Seems to work well in some industries, not always practical in others 😂

[@v9b23j]

@@scotchbarrel4429 Some managers deliberately hold giving feedback to their subordinates to undermine their growth.

[@brewmastermonk9356]

I loved what he said about having a compass instead of a map. Life is an adventure and the future is unknown. And if every generation just retreads the same path we will stagnate and die. Virtue ethics all the way.

[@havenwyld]

Yes! Love this.

[@lukes5631]

It was a great point. It's also the difference between having a formula for success and a framework for success.

[@TimeSkipChapters]

⏱️ Timestamps by TimeSkip ⏱️ 00:00:00 - Introduction: Talent vs. Opportunity 00:01:46 - Motivation and Learning Environment 00:03:40 - Personal Story: Overcoming Challenges 00:06:25 - Hidden Potential and Growth 00:11:19 - The Importance of Meaning in Work 00:13:44 - Connecting with Purpose and Impact 00:17:10 - Dealing with Uncertainty in Progress 00:20:52 - Navigating Uncertainty with a Compass 00:23:09 - Understanding Fear of Failure 00:25:12 - The Reality of Resilience 00:29:20 - Learning from Failure vs. Success 00:34:45 - Vulnerability and Self-Awareness 00:38:31 - Feedback as a Growth Tool 00:40:08 - Cutting Away What's Not Working 00:42:01 - Managing Fear Before a Project 00:44:20 - Strategies for Emotion Regulation 00:49:51 - Balancing Expectations and Reality 00:53:01 - Criticism vs. Creation 00:54:48 - Understanding Feedback and Its Value 00:59:18 - Information Foraging and Knowledge Scarcity 01:01:15 - Setting Boundaries on Consumption 01:03:04 - The Shift from Collectors to Connectors 01:04:48 - Motivation vs. Ability to Focus 01:06:52 - The Pressure of Achievement 01:09:33 - Grounding in Relationships 01:13:02 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

[@CuriosityasaCompass]

I like how he uses data to support his points. Really good storytelling too. Very worthwhile content! Great guest, articulate and likable! Thanks! 😊

[@hunterreams5532]

Love Adam Grant. Happy you brought him on, Chris - his data-backed optimism is so refreshing. Cheers

[@ashtonmartin3398]

it's all cheery picked data. Random luck has much more to do with people success then successful people want to admit. For evry hard working successful person there are countless equally hard working people who never gain any success.

[@TheMetaHistory]

@@ashtonmartin3398 then why aren't you successful

[@Goldenspiderducck]

It often takes at least ten years to be an overnight success.

[@tallahass3357]

Huh?

[@tallahass3357]

That is a lot of nights

[@marianpe5773]

What about kids who are better than adults who train 2-3x time more?

[@lukes5631]

How much potential? You don't HAVE pontial. You FIND it. You dig deep into yourself and go searching for it.

[@Lucida1818]

You do have potential but you need to develop it. This is done over time throughout your life. You don’t ever reach some goal and say oh I have achieved my potential …NO once you have done something amazing what is the next step after that? For example Elon Musk never stops. It doesn’t matter what he achieves he keeps going. There is no limitations to one’s ability to grow their potential.

[@lukes5631]

@@Lucida1818 Your example of potential using Elon Musk is interesting. Are you saying that someone who has created a >$1 trillion dollar company has not understood in their lifetime that they have potential? The very definition of potential is "having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future." Or even 'potential energy' which is stored energy. What I'm stating is that you have to dig inside of yourself to find that stored potential and release it. What it seems that you are describing is something closer to 'perfection'. We will never achieve perfection, we can only strive for it continually, knowing that we will ever achieve it, and by doing so, we end up somewhere great, and far beyond where we ever imagined we could be.

[@dragonrider9051]

Keep failing till it's comfortable and then when you win it's a surprise

[@apple1231230]

great episode guys, id rate it 8/10. not life changing, but sprinkled with plenty of golden nuggests of some truly valuable modern wisdom dare i say.

[@realninja357]

Absolutely brilliant conversation. Adam dropped multiple gems.

[@MichaelJohnson-vi6eh]

thats me. Ruminating on what might go wrong and not saying to someone "This needs to be fixed help me fix it"

[@karandeengar]

Listening to this in my commute. Thank you!

[@altervaas]

Ayee relevant to my life AND within 10min of release; Fantastic

[@NeverSurrenderYourQuest]

The default response is resilience. The conditioned response from those working in corporate environments that treat people like their disposed the death of the spirit.

[@NordylitoDungo]

Thank you guys great job😅❤️✌️

[@dannyversteeg4993]

Does anyone know which meta-analysis Adam is talking about, regarding attention-span?

[@csawandsaid]

Yes. To answer the original poster’s question ‘Are people born with natural talent?’ Yes. Thus NATURAL talent. Can people learn skills and excel, succeed and surpass natural talent. I believe so. Sadly some us do not ever find what our natural gifts are and it’s great if parents let their kids explore and if people as they grow up KEEP exploring.

[@everybodysayparty]

Loved this convo!!!!

[@OstOst-t6b]

The 'good coach/teacher' thing is right. Although works the other way round, of course. Who hires the good coaches?* Those capable to ignite a spark? Now we are back to resources and distribution..rince and repeat. Creates what..? Now lets get a little further. Lets say you let something else, than 'only' resources and skill, effect the selection process. Lets take - 'favors'. What happens over time..?

[@PatrickKerwin]

I filled a page with notes from this episode. Thank you.

[@randymarsh3432]

Why is his moustache blurred? Is he the new Joss Whedon superman?

[@jaybee3181]

“Failure an American Success Story” Tom Haverford

[@IsaacWendt]

It's Hard, Good luck. Brillant convo

[@bismuth7730]

I saw this thumbnail a couple of times and my mind always read it "stop being bald"

[@CryptoPredictionsAnonymous]

wilddd

[@KerberEnglishClasses-LetíciaKe]

Yay! I became a cool role model for my younger self 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@adamcrozier3197]

Anyone have a link to the ‘find your niche’ article that he attributes to Adam? Not sure of the author’s last name?

[@evelyna5192]

Looking for it too

[@שלומיטובול]

Nice one!

[@Arendt_Hannah]

Isn’t he the one that tried to stop Coleman Hughes TED talk from being published?

[@treeze_it7800]

I enjoyed this conversation. ❤

[@s_don57683]

Wasn’t this the guy that refused to debate Coleman Hughes about colour blind policies and wanted to censor him?

[@avengemybreath3084]

Probably. Leftists are insufferable now.

[@skepticalbutopen4620]

Yep, this is him. He tried to censor him instead of challenging his idea. He’s a coward.

[@go9ro367]

“Random acts of kindness” is insane. The idea that you would willy nilly be kind to somebody just for the hell of it is absurd. Perhaps you gain some solace in learning that you were kind to a murder suspect on the run from the police. Try intentional acts of kindness instead. Be kind ON PURPOSE to someone who deserves it.

[@tallahass3357]

I think you have a point of being intentionally kind, but I'd like to say that all people have value, and deserve respect. Until they do something to revoke that. God gives value to each man, but he let's those men chose what to do with it.

[@go9ro367]

@ I wasn’t suggesting your default mode should be disrespectful or unkind. I urging people to be thoughtful and kind intentionally.

[@advocate1563]

Is this man a.research scientist? I can't hear much of either. Incredibly.anecdotal.

[@pricklycatsss]

In the description it says he’s an organizational psychologist which requires a masters degree and he’s a professor so obviously he knows something at least.

[@paintbase]

i don't think this guy should use the phrase "drain three pointers" ever again

[@AH_ICT]

its when everything was against me , i had myself and Hope

[@BieberSama808]

1:04:00

[@humanselfcare1919]

Much love boys

[@johng8911]

Ohhh this would’ve been perfect for today’s long run

[@knwtr8461]

Interview jonny kim please

[@al-moony]

The quiet "umm"s are unusually distracting

[@forgetaboutit192]

maybe....

[@blueplanet87]

I don’t believe this man

[@LieingCostsYourSoulTellElders]

Lieing Costs our souls elders need to know and be a food servant for the homeless and do the task in person very important for us all in the future

[@Mitro.t]

👁️

[@endgamefond]

My goal in 2025 is failing 24 times. Let's do this!

[@YeahYeah-g5v]

whom the gods will destroy, they first say "has potential"

[@ashtonmartin3398]

This is all such horseshit. Luck just pure random chance is what separates peoples success. That it. These is nothing to unlock.

[@TheMetaHistory]

then why aren't you successful

[@marcusdimbleby3307]

Do you feel lucky?

[@tallahass3357]

Why is bro's upper lip blurred out?

[@cleannodebtrich]

first

[@tommikovlog]

I like your videos! I also want to help others, so my self-help books will be free today. I hope will help someone. Available via my bio. Everyone take care!

[@AW_77]

Gayest sport... Diving! That goes for diving footballers too.

[@johnt.2000]

Another boring vid, skip

[@OnlySinner]

Lmao maybe get some comprehension skills then, respectfully

[@johnt.2000]

@ my apologies bot, i take it back, its not boring. Actually it’s lame, and seems this guest comes straight from TED talks.

[@jeta1383]

Some constructive technical criticism for you my friend, why on earth are you looking off camera (below camera to be precise!) - it appears you are reading from a cue card for your intro. Seriously, you're doing yourself a great disservice by not looking at camera - especially when you're obviously directing your message to a 'video' audience - why do you think news presenters look at camera presenting the news? If you truly don't know why then go google it. Moreover you're either so narcissistic that you're actually looking off-camera and watching yourself onscreen as you speak or worse, you're incapable of ad libbing a few lines to camera from a prepared script. Either way, it's rookie. Along with your favourite white cordlessNOT earphones dangling from your ears. Mate. you are 100% amateur hour. Clean up your technical house.Peace

[@NewsCrasher]

One of a handful (at most)channels i can click on and watch! Very relatable, not fake and deep down i can tell ur not about squeezing every penny out of it or using subs. keep being yourself 🫡