Why Narcissists Don't Like Receiving Gifts

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Mental Healness

Mental Healness

Күн бұрын

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@DeyaIV
@DeyaIV 3 күн бұрын
The narcissist is going to think you want something from them, they are going to feel like they owed you something (the worst feeling for a narcissist), because when they give you a gift they feel they have power over you
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
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@michellecoleman1627
@michellecoleman1627 3 күн бұрын
Yes my ex Mother was one she just had to give me something back I told her I didn’t want nothing back she still gave me something which was some can goods not saying nothings wrong with it but it’s the fact that I didn’t want anything in return it was from my heart.
@Sarah-bn1hg
@Sarah-bn1hg 3 күн бұрын
They’re forreal mad at the world and take it out on the closest to them
@carlosdasilvagama6144
@carlosdasilvagama6144 2 күн бұрын
That's what I was going to write
@IMTinaMarieJ
@IMTinaMarieJ 3 күн бұрын
1 year my ex got upset at me for not giving him a bday gift. Only reason I didn’t gift him was cause he kept complaining that he didn’t need gifts. Suddenly the 1 time I didn’t buy it he decided to get upset. He was always impossible to please.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😫😫
@videofan1010
@videofan1010 2 күн бұрын
​@@treydudley You're describing a different phenomenon entirely. Please know this.
@debraskye6553
@debraskye6553 13 сағат бұрын
That happened to me too.
@gilbaleticia
@gilbaleticia 3 күн бұрын
How about narcissists who want expensive gifts and hate cheap gifts, but they only give you cheap gifts and want to be happy and grateful .
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
Double standards
@giftij
@giftij 2 күн бұрын
Also probably that expensive gift is a supply s/he really needs for something else
@LolaAileenVanslette
@LolaAileenVanslette 3 күн бұрын
My ex never gave me a gift in eleven years. This year, after I removed him from my life, he sent me a message that he deposited $50 in the bank "for Christmas". I asked him why. (He owes me $5000 for tools he refused to pay for!) He said I felt like it. I informed him he wasn't getting a gift from me. He didn't care, which makes it extremely clear he's trying to keep me hanging on.🎄
@nmc1859
@nmc1859 2 күн бұрын
Oh sheesh. Shame on him that is 1%
@boujimobbin9530
@boujimobbin9530 3 күн бұрын
Every gift people give me I never throw it away! Even if I don’t like it I feel the love and I appreciate it !
@lanadst6745
@lanadst6745 3 күн бұрын
Oh my GOD! Just today I bought the father of my girl a gift in name of my daughter. He didn’t even say thank you ! Just silence mute . He really is a narc. Thanks 4 the video!
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
you’re welcome
@DirtyDiana007
@DirtyDiana007 17 сағат бұрын
Thank you Lee. This is way I stop buying my narcissist husband anything and I don't anything for him. He never appreciated anything I did for him or to help him.💯🙏👏I'm focusing on healing myself 😊
@ladeecristyle4093
@ladeecristyle4093 3 күн бұрын
The narc discarded me in 3/24 I bought him a gift for his bday His bday is 1/6 mine is 1/3 He frowned at me and didn't say ty He was so angry 😂 and didn't even get me anything. I don't even celebrate holidays nor birthdays. I'm glad I'm at this stage where I can talk about him without crying. He used to yell at me and call me all kinds of itches with a b. So I kept the vm to remind me this man is not right. I called him can't get right. I'm glad he's gone. I thought I was losing my mind. I pray everyone finds peace as I did. Just let go even if they discarded you.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😫😫
@cletiawilliams1436
@cletiawilliams1436 3 күн бұрын
💯🎉
@kajenslv
@kajenslv 2 күн бұрын
OMG YOU ANSWERED ANOTHER MYSTERY my super toxic former brother-in-law made everyone open cheap dime store gifts in front of him and refused….Absolutely refused to open any of the gifts that were given to him on every single occasion. Now it turned out he was re-gifting a lot of stuff …because he’s a scumbag, but I could never figure out why he refused to open gifts with the family. Thank you for answering another mystery of the narcissistic family I used to be part of.
@Blessed591
@Blessed591 Күн бұрын
Regifting !!! He is a scumbag for sure !! My ex once brought me re-cycled flowers the day after Valentine's! So stupid . . . !!
@curvaceous4095
@curvaceous4095 2 күн бұрын
Lee thank you for addressing this. This sorry excuse of a man treated me like 💩 every year on his birthday when I’ll try to spoil him. I look back & punch the air fr
@ginamendez7758
@ginamendez7758 3 күн бұрын
Narcissist don’t like to receive gifts Bcus their focus is primarily on themselves…..
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😩
@bridgettetraveler658
@bridgettetraveler658 3 күн бұрын
All the narcissists I know want us to believe we owe them everything.
@carolyneasley8980
@carolyneasley8980 3 күн бұрын
WHATEVER you get them has to EQUAL whatever they get/got for you. The petty is epic!!!! Oh they will pretend like whatever you do for them doesn't matter, "as long as you are thinking about me" that's a lie!!!!!! IT MATTERS.
@M282i28
@M282i28 3 күн бұрын
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@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
💯💯
@cindytran5628
@cindytran5628 6 сағат бұрын
It doesn’t work to give to a narcissist out of the kindness and thoughtfulness of your heart and mind. They don’t like to receive that way. But when it’s your turn to owe to the narcissist, they will make it very clear exactly what they want from you, and when they want it. Everything is on their terms. Always. I have a family member like this. I’m so glad that person is out of my life for good. There’s no real relationship with people like this.
@debraskye6553
@debraskye6553 13 сағат бұрын
Your Absolutely Right! Thank You Mr. Lee!
@despinahaase6409
@despinahaase6409 3 күн бұрын
It's it like you give them them the gift of Love and they got mad at you? Can they even hate you for Love them??
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
It’s wild
@rawland229
@rawland229 2 күн бұрын
Lee, thank you I finally understand all the thinks he did and blame me for it. He didn’t want me buy gifts even if he needed. As his wife I will buy simple thinks like shirts socks stuff like that that was needed. He will get angry and blame that he didn’t want to own me something. It got to the point like doing laundry, cooking, it will anger him. I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong . He will accused me of being a narcissist, and will say that by me getting him stuff it was like the abuser given something to make it ok. WHATS? He mentally damaged me so much, just for loving him. Now is over after 15 yrs of marriage I’m trying to heal. He broke me Lee.His entire family is like that, I gave my mother Inlaws gifts and never used them around me. Now I understand. He didn’t want anything nice from me but his fighting legally with for my house that I bought, he didn’t want anything from me but you want my money that I work so hard for.😔
@Andrea-vj2kq
@Andrea-vj2kq 3 күн бұрын
This is so spot on. My ex made me rake his birthday gifts back once but he seemed to love getting me gifts. Nevr undertood why.
@10meme11
@10meme11 3 күн бұрын
Going through a divorce and he's here ignoring the kids today per usual. No gifts bc the kids stopped accepting them, but he's in here whistling like he's "unbothered." 😅
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😅
@evilzinabyssranger5695
@evilzinabyssranger5695 3 күн бұрын
We need to take care to not become paranoid after extensive learning about narcisistic modus operandi and behavior. BUT its real good to have something like you, a nacisist, telling thngs from the other side. Its explains A LOT. Learning is not complete even if you do a post graduation course in narcisism without this kind of knowledge from a real one. Sorry for my english. Peace!
@videofan1010
@videofan1010 2 күн бұрын
I agree with this wholeheartedly.
@octoberdawn1087
@octoberdawn1087 2 күн бұрын
I have to admit i'm weird about gifts now because I was with somebody who could have been diagnosed with that dark titrad thing. People literally have to earn the right for me to feel safe to get gifts from them. And I'm noticing that when I finally do let people do it, they do try to use it to keep me away or at bay or on the shelf or whatever
@Kayra-Letsdothis
@Kayra-Letsdothis 3 күн бұрын
He actually said "why would you get me this?". 😮
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😢
@crystalfelicia9924
@crystalfelicia9924 3 күн бұрын
Got to say your videos on how narcs ruin Xmas even if it's just u and them and u don't even seem outwardly happy, they act TF UP! They make sure to argue and react soo violent for literally no reason unprovoked. Most weird sh!
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽 it is
@cup_o_TMarie
@cup_o_TMarie 2 күн бұрын
Gawwwwddd😹You crack me up! Were you at our house on Xmas?! We had a whole text chain goin in real time about my narc Dad’s response to the gift we got him. He openly complains about your gift straight to your face in front of the whole damn family☠️and DGAF how you might feel🫣🙄😒 My little sis had to hold me back emotionally from just snatching it out of his hand & throwing it in the trash in his face 😹
@ladyCY413
@ladyCY413 3 күн бұрын
Not sure what kind of narcissists y’all used to dealing with but the ones I know always feel like the world revolves around them and every time their birthday and Christmas comes around, they always ask where’s their gift. They take away the fun of giving them a gift in the first place because they’re always persistently pressing the issue about a freakin gift. And when they do that, you just end up getting them a gift to shut them up to satisfy them instead of wanting to get them a gift to actually make them happy.
@LolaAileenVanslette
@LolaAileenVanslette 3 күн бұрын
The ones I know don't like giving gifts, but I've never had a problem with them wanting everything they can get out of everybody.
@giftij
@giftij 2 күн бұрын
It's part of the supply system. It's not necessarily about the gift, it's the drama they can stir from the situation
@thecliff4670
@thecliff4670 2 күн бұрын
I know both types and they're equally as annoying as the other.
@jaquelinedavies4220
@jaquelinedavies4220 3 күн бұрын
Spot on. They want you to feel bad as well for getting a present from them and not being able to give them one. It’s all about the power over you
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🎯
@ChildlesskatLady
@ChildlesskatLady 3 күн бұрын
Again, Lee bringing awareness and making sense of the nonsensical. Ive learned my evil ex basically did the..I'm gonna destroy her before she dares to hurt me mentality. He never opened or used a single gift from me. 8 yrs. Nor did be buy for me, when he did, it was something he wanted me to wear. (I was only there for a purpose). Definitely, love was never involved. Thanks again Lee. But, I dont want to boost your ego... Lol 😊
@rabbit3212010
@rabbit3212010 3 күн бұрын
My xnarc hated gifts because he said gifts were just to try and buy him.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😢😢
@kirbywaite1586
@kirbywaite1586 2 күн бұрын
Projection.
@Wisdomtree168
@Wisdomtree168 3 күн бұрын
At the same time they are resentful inside when people stop giving them anything bc of their sh…y attitude 😅
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😅
@JeanR-H
@JeanR-H 3 күн бұрын
Great message! My husband of 35+ years, would ask me for a list of things I want for Christmas, Birthday, Mother’s Day….THEN…not get me anything on my list…..😡🤯
@11Nashie
@11Nashie 2 күн бұрын
Wtf
@lorrainefrasier4096
@lorrainefrasier4096 2 күн бұрын
Power trip. Sometimes the fastest way to not get what you want is to ask for it.
@JenMS7
@JenMS7 2 күн бұрын
After the first time you should have made it a list of things you “didn’t” want then acted disappointed when you got it😂
@lorrainefrasier4096
@lorrainefrasier4096 2 күн бұрын
@@JenMS7 🤣😂
@lolxd9396
@lolxd9396 3 күн бұрын
Thank you Lee and Happy Holidays. 🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
you’re welcome 🙌🏾♥️
@nelliebly6616
@nelliebly6616 Күн бұрын
Usually, I experience, that they dont think of anybody else,and thus forget to give gifts....and get angry for being called out....
@amywilliams6637
@amywilliams6637 3 күн бұрын
Pick you battles with these stupid toxic people.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🙃
@EricLeafericson
@EricLeafericson 3 күн бұрын
My narc dad was the opposite & used gifts to excuse his bullying. Got straight As & was still called an idiot anyway if I evet forgot anything. Called me a f*gg*t when I made a friend he didn't like. Almost kicked me out for something I had to prove I didn't do, then was gaslighted about it ever happening. I lived in fear, & was made to play happy on holidays. When I was a teen, I pretty much stopped asking for gifts because I recognized what it was. They hated that & tried to make me out to be ungrateful for NOT asking for gifts! Can't win!
@MariaMagdalena_1313
@MariaMagdalena_1313 3 күн бұрын
Wow... We bought nice fathers day gifts for him... After couple of days he insulted all the gifts, saying how horrible they were and so on blaablablaa... Tears was flowing from my eyes... It was just some time ago. Now I am gone from his life.
@wasgibtesleute3318
@wasgibtesleute3318 Күн бұрын
My mother loved receiving but hated to think about what to give in return.
@lucyt-c8092
@lucyt-c8092 3 күн бұрын
I got your kids book ! My 59 year old friend… AND my 8 year old grandson BOTH LOVED it ! me too !!
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!
@princessdumbarton9877
@princessdumbarton9877 2 күн бұрын
I used to always get gifts for everyone at Christmas, I thought it was just what people did. I have one brother who would always be really angry and say things like, "Why did you get me a present? I don't want any presents" etc. I mean he would be MAD. So I finally stopped getting presents for him. I think Christmas would be better if there were no gift-giving. Many can't afford it, many hate what you get them, many are just grinches.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
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@Angelic102
@Angelic102 3 күн бұрын
🎄🎄🎄marry Christmas to u and your family and thank u and Hod bless u for being a good person u must feel alive and a shadow lifted off of u and your family ❤❤❤❤
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
Merry Christmas !
@JennWest-Liberty
@JennWest-Liberty 3 күн бұрын
They love gifts but they hate the gifts you give.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
❤️‍🩹🙂‍↔️
@grace4976
@grace4976 2 күн бұрын
I gave my ex a expensive 1 year anniversary gift. He completely lost his shit and got mad because I spent too much money. And wouldn’t stop going on about it. Took him a long time to say thank you and accept the gift. Other gifts I’d give him ended up at Goodwill. Such a jerk
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
stay empowered
@KKP20111
@KKP20111 3 күн бұрын
Merry Christmas, Lee!
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
Same to you!
@jennifera777
@jennifera777 3 күн бұрын
I used to buy the Ex narc a nice watch for his birthdays and he never wore them in front of me, only around other people he wanted to impress.
@user-gvp
@user-gvp 3 күн бұрын
Merry Christmas, Lee!🎄🎄🎄
@1976smb
@1976smb 3 күн бұрын
Holy crap I went through this, and she sent it back to me to hurt me.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
stay strong
@michellecoleman1627
@michellecoleman1627 3 күн бұрын
Giving is Love ❤️
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
♥️
@estellachambers8786
@estellachambers8786 2 күн бұрын
He complained about every gift i ever gave him. Then turned around and showed off what i bought, as if he did. 🤣🤣
@DEEJOJOHNSON
@DEEJOJOHNSON 3 күн бұрын
When it comes to buying a narcissist a gift, it's damn if you do damn if you don't 🤦🏾
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😶
@TinitaWalton
@TinitaWalton 2 күн бұрын
Merry Christmas and Happy 2025 to you and your family, Lee
@lisajones6839
@lisajones6839 2 күн бұрын
My ex narc never wanted me to buy or give him anything but, he gave me gifts, money, outings and trips all the time. I only at the end found out it was all about control and making me codependent on him and it sure worked for a long while.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
🙌🏾
@mkb7013
@mkb7013 3 күн бұрын
They also don’t like to be taken care of when they’re sick.
@rawland229
@rawland229 2 күн бұрын
Omg, yes he will get angry just for caring and worry, but when I will get sick, I was ignored I had take care of my self and will cry why he would do that to me. Now that he had to leave out of my house and therapy I did I understand and videos like this I had to look up what a narcissist was.
@tracienicole7692
@tracienicole7692 3 күн бұрын
Yes! Got yelled out for purchasing concert tixs and a weekend getaway...it's crazy..How does one deal with this? I just shut down..
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
wow
@kelley4795
@kelley4795 3 күн бұрын
My ex would open the gift after much begging and pleading...... of course I would never get a gift in return...NEVER!! He would never use it, but would use or wear anything his kids or co-workers gave him
@rabbit3212010
@rabbit3212010 3 күн бұрын
Wow! How pitiful.
@samco63
@samco63 3 күн бұрын
Ah this makes so much sense. Mine always bought me stuff or paid for stuff - but I felt like it always came with a price which was my submission unfortunately . I loved it because I felt loved that way but man did I pay in my silence… I’d try to pay him for some or at least buy him stuff or do nice things but he hated getting gifts from me however! Never understood why! It was hard to love him properly because he wouldn’t accept anything nice from me, gifts or favours or anything really!
@thecliff4670
@thecliff4670 2 күн бұрын
He wanted your reactions in return. Make him feel like a king, savior. He wanted your words of gratitude, to be worshipped.
@michellecoleman1627
@michellecoleman1627 3 күн бұрын
Yes every Holiday he started something with me like can we just have a good holiday he always mad ungrateful we should be happy I use to try and cheer him up boy was that exhausting lord knows I’m happy he delivered me from that relationship.
@firelily77
@firelily77 3 күн бұрын
100% spot on
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
💯💯
@erikagutierrez9770
@erikagutierrez9770 Күн бұрын
My ex broke up with me on Christmas last year. I spend all day baking for him and he ate the cookies and broke up with me right after. Days later he bought me a gift and wrote a letter saying how bad person I was.
@sherimascote7495
@sherimascote7495 2 күн бұрын
Don't let the narcissist or toxic person steal your joy that's damage people. 😊
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
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@Irishgoodbye2018
@Irishgoodbye2018 Күн бұрын
They don’t like you showing appreciation to them, because it destroys their ability to call you ungrateful (narc parents)
@amywilliams6637
@amywilliams6637 3 күн бұрын
P.S. Merry Christmas 🎄🎁 Lee & Family
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
Merry Christmas
@grunge_surf_witch_uk9130
@grunge_surf_witch_uk9130 Күн бұрын
My ex narc didn’t want to celebrate birthdays or Christmas!
@cashmere1731
@cashmere1731 3 күн бұрын
They can try to outdo you like its a competition and also replace the gift you give them for a better version more expensive one. That was my experience anyway.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😩
@patriciadooley3058
@patriciadooley3058 2 күн бұрын
When married to my ex narc one Christmas we ended up at his mother's all of a sudden and I'm like, "but I don't have a gift". I felt so out of place. Embarrassed for not having gifts to others. I can just imagine now knowing what I know he probably slandered my name making it my fault I didn't bring gifts.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
oh my goodness
@Blessed591
@Blessed591 Күн бұрын
My ex would buy me an alcoholic drink of his taste , not mine and then emd up drinking it all 😂😂😂. The things that man did to me , I will never forget . . .
@kimoywilliams4530
@kimoywilliams4530 2 күн бұрын
This is true
@sherimascote7495
@sherimascote7495 2 күн бұрын
Narcissist feel more entitlement 😮
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
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@lindseyfassler7096
@lindseyfassler7096 3 күн бұрын
My MIL, who has a lot of toxic/narcissistic tendencies, told her own mother and sister to not get her gifts for Christmas because “it’s a waste of time and she doesn’t know what to get them”. So basically she feels that if they are thoughtful and get her a gift, she gets annoyed because it makes her look bad because she is incapable of being thoughtful herself. Who doesn’t know what to get their own mother or sister for Christmas
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😫
@kammellioo
@kammellioo 2 күн бұрын
Wow, I'm shocked because my ex liked when I got her gifts, even cried when I don't get gifts, her love language was gifts and attention. Real selfish, I thought that was the stapled trait of narcissist, being self centered and selfish
@11Nashie
@11Nashie 2 күн бұрын
YOU. CAN'T. WIN
@Edward_Strong1982
@Edward_Strong1982 3 күн бұрын
They are never satisfied!! Our last christmas I bought him two gifts BUT his bday is thanksgiving so I paid for a trip AND bought him some 130.00 nikes because he was complaining about "not having anything to wear." He had the nerve to complain about his christmas gifts in front of us cousin saying "See bae i bought you three gifts and you bought me two." And i definitely replied and said "didn't i just take you to universal studios AND buy you a pair of nikes a few weeks ago ???" TF 😒 He tried it another time again in front of cousion before a funeral. He bought us these matching 10.00 beaded bracelets and said "See I bought him this and he havent bought me nothing in forever." He always attempted to make me look bad or one up me.
@11Nashie
@11Nashie 2 күн бұрын
I was yelled at because I SHOULD JUST KNOW how they wanted to celebrate their birthday
@inakale
@inakale 3 күн бұрын
nah, my narc mom just loves to torture me despising my gifts. she knows I am suffering because I can never make her happy
@kirbywaite1586
@kirbywaite1586 2 күн бұрын
What could be more narc than introducing yourself as " your favorite"? Lol
@Veritasluxmea4
@Veritasluxmea4 3 күн бұрын
What! That's crazy 😧 Don't worry Lee, I'll ship you an empty wrapped Christmas 🎁
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😶
@yvonneguadiano7343
@yvonneguadiano7343 3 күн бұрын
I need to buy that kids book for me.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
💪🏽
@donnadaniels5095
@donnadaniels5095 3 күн бұрын
I'm so grateful that the narcissist people, Mother ex boyfriend sister's coworkers associates and Brothers and Fake friends that I've had in my life,I have never Got attached to Them🤷🏽‍♀️ Before I even knew they were narcissist it makes sense,I Didn't have no problem walking away from them because I was never attached to them,I always felt The detachment about them just never had a Name for it ,Once Realizing I Had no problem walking away from Them🎭✌️ grateful for the experience😂✌️🙏🏽💪
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🙏🏽💪🏽
@kianicole001
@kianicole001 2 күн бұрын
No matter what you do, it is taken as a slight. I quit.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
🙏🏽
@Bibleinformationandhelp
@Bibleinformationandhelp 3 күн бұрын
Sometimes I like to give gifts. I don't want anyone to give to me if they expect me to give to them. This is giving with strings attached. If there is an agreement or a particular circumstance of giving mutually, I am ok with that. Let it be agreed upon first. Don't give to me expecting something in return in the future. I really dislike this. If I give to you, you don't owe me anything. Nothing was agreed upon and I gave from the kindness of my heart. From few people, I expect reciprocation.
@kirbywaite1586
@kirbywaite1586 2 күн бұрын
This channel is perfect for you.
@Bibleinformationandhelp
@Bibleinformationandhelp 2 күн бұрын
@kirbywaite1586 ok. I like to only receive gifts with no strings attached. If there are strings attached, tell me beforehand so I can agree to them or not. Of course there are circumstances where it is mandatory for both parties to give. Don't give in an attempt to be clever, to try to force someone to do something for you. I believe that is very wrong.
@boujimobbin9530
@boujimobbin9530 3 күн бұрын
When I give my dad a gift on his bday or Father’s Day he will never want to open it in the restaurant. He likes to open it in the car. If it’s a cologne I’m like hey dad give it a try he said no that’s ok my sinus’ are plugged. Then he got upset because glitter was on the gift bag so he made me get out of the car and go throw it away to make sure no glitter got in his car. I always know when my dad is upset because his nose starts twitching. I have to ask him what he wants for the holiday ahead of time because if I buy something he doesn’t like his nose starts twitching like he’s so irritated. However if I do not give him a fancy card and write a very long admirable paragraph about how much I love him I can tell he feels very unappreciated. He hates cheap cards. Or if the gift bag doesn’t match his style he will make a joke about it. Both of my dads parents we alcoholics and he was the oldest of 8 brothers and sisters. I guess my dad was seriously affected? My mom tells me every holiday , do not buy me anything. I don’t need anything buy me nothing. She never uses any gift I give her. Maybe one gift out if 10. It’s frustrating.
@GPDuchess
@GPDuchess 3 күн бұрын
Oh, i don't like gifts because people are spending money on things i don't need; I'm quite a minimalistic person, i already have everything, especially given that I'm not young; surely that doesn't make me a narc; but i did get a vape kit, since I'm a professional smoker,now that's something i need; will i use it? At this point seems like my last wish will be a last cigarette, but future me might think differently 😅
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😅
@Kyvax
@Kyvax Күн бұрын
My ex-husband enjoyed getting gifts, but loved it more to NEVER get me anything or give back. He’d play it up by asking me what I wanted and “promised” to get them for me only to turn around and either “forget” or just get fired or quit his job as per usual. He had 10 jobs for the entirety for our disastrous 5 year marriage. Then when I’d tell him I didn’t get anything and would then prefer just to not get anything from him he would accuse me of being an ungrateful, cheating b*tch because he was “trying so hard” to get another job to be able to pay rent. He was literally a gaslighting basket case. I left a couple weeks before Christmas and moved back in with my parents. He tried to text me a Merry Christmas and said for Christmas all he wanted was for me to “come home”. I didn’t respond and an hour later he went back to calling me a cheating, lying, selfish b*tch that never deserved a gift from someone as amazing as him anyway. I’ve been NC with him for 4 years now and he still talks trash about me today. 🙄
@michellecoleman1627
@michellecoleman1627 3 күн бұрын
My ex never used my gifts he always put them to the side like they wasn’t nothing knowing they was nice gifts only thing he would take and use is cash
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😩
@domolincoln9905
@domolincoln9905 3 күн бұрын
Yes narcissist are bipolar and indeed don’t know what they want. I remember for his birthday trying to take him out to eat and surprise him on a dinner boat ride because he said he never been on a boat before so I try to experience that moment with him and he exploded on him sounding ungrateful saying that’s not what he want and that he don’t want to eat their. I even try to take him on a shopping spree and he blew up on me as well saying I’m just making plans and not asking him what he wanted to do first when I most definitely did tell him in advance that we were going to the mall so he can pick whatever he wanted so he won’t be unsatisfied with his gift and he still threw a fit. Also I remember buying him a whole Dior set for his birthday with a $100 gift card to get a massage and some money roses. I was trying to be romantic and show him that men deserve their flowers too. He threw a fit and said he didn’t want it so I end up giving it to my brother because I didn’t have the receipt a month later he threw in my face that I didn’t get him anything I said remember you said u didn’t want it and he said I should of made a effort to still give it to him. Their is no way we can please these people they are insane. You do everything u can it’s still not enough and they still cheat on you with the new supply. After his birthday he cheated on me smh.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🫨
@nicholecornes1915
@nicholecornes1915 3 күн бұрын
No dude I'm bi polor theres no comparison
@domolincoln9905
@domolincoln9905 3 күн бұрын
@@nicholecornes1915 narcissist have a personality bipolar disorder that’s what narcissism is. They face more than one disorder love. Theirs a man by the name of Leon I watch his KZbin videos just like Lee he was diagnosed with narcissism personality disorder he said that his symptoms include bipolar disorder as well and he has to be on medication. They face more than one mental illness but bipolar is one of them.
@residenthillbilly1194
@residenthillbilly1194 Күн бұрын
They tell themselves you are an idiot for caring about them. Because if you could see them for who they truly are, you'd have nothing to do with them. So in their eyes they've fooled you with their act and you're an idiot for believing in it.
@LadiiiTresses
@LadiiiTresses 2 күн бұрын
My narcissistic boyfriend would spend money on me but wouldn’t let me do anything for him but then the little things I do for him like clean his room he’ll say “you never do 💩 “ BRUHHHHH STFU lol 😂 I just ignore it ….. lol 😂
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😅😅
@bridgetsmith8334
@bridgetsmith8334 2 күн бұрын
I would always buy this narc expensive gifts that he wanted, and he would always get me cheap gifts that he liked and make me believe that. Then you say you like simple things want to give me crumbs and me accept it after my friend saw what I got him and I show them what he got me. I would be embarrassed, but never said anything just smiled and accept it because I didn’t want to argue. Could at least put a little effort into my gift. That’s all I want.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😮‍💨
@michellecoleman1627
@michellecoleman1627 3 күн бұрын
Soon as we get into it he a give me back everything I bought him like what?? I’m not that type of person why would you do that keep it
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
😩
@bossupathomewithtequila
@bossupathomewithtequila Күн бұрын
What!?! @ the title. You mean why they don’t like GIVING GIFTS right ? Lol
@marvasmith2706
@marvasmith2706 2 күн бұрын
🗣️🗣️🗣️ Listen to Me & Listen to Me Good... ALL Narcissist's LOVE MONEY 🏧 💵 🤑💰 So, Just give them MONEY.. Simple😂
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
😩
@marvasmith2706
@marvasmith2706 2 күн бұрын
@MentalHealness 😂😂😂
@Deengirl1205
@Deengirl1205 3 күн бұрын
They think too high of themselves, what you buy them regardless the cost it can never be good enough for them. It's nothing to them B------.
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
💯
@thelastdragon6121
@thelastdragon6121 3 күн бұрын
My father in law…to a T
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 3 күн бұрын
🥹
@nanisatinrose7772
@nanisatinrose7772 2 күн бұрын
🎉🎉🎉🎉
@soniabasic2429
@soniabasic2429 Күн бұрын
I disagree, a covert wears there gifts as a tool, they want their current victims to think he gives a crap and your there one and only, its there trophy they use. Once it ends they stop wearing it and starts wearing the next victims
@kelliedaeges555
@kelliedaeges555 3 күн бұрын
❤️🎅💚🎄👋🙌😊
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
♥️
@Royal_Mindz
@Royal_Mindz 2 күн бұрын
Are you ok with getting gifts at this point of your Journey brother??
@MentalHealness
@MentalHealness 2 күн бұрын
I’m better at it now
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