What Happens When You Reject A Narcissist?

[@prunelle9051]

The insults you came up with made me burst out of laughter. They get so much shame yet they behave in a shameful way to counter it. Nonsense galore.

[@Eloquently_Rud3]

I don’t even try to make sense of it anyway. Requires waaaaayyy too much energy✨

[@Annie-ol3jx]

Their little feelings are hurt, they fear being rejected, being figured out, losing their supply!! Such big cowards. These people can dish it out but can't take it back!! Get away and stay away!!

[@Eloquently_Rud3]

Narcs are super sensitive

[@linneasimchah1621]

@@Eloquently_Rud3 Yes. They're very thin-skinned. I think Lee has said before that a narc's ego is like a very thin sheet of glass. FRAGILE ego.

[@joebhouse]

I sometimes watch your videos for your sense of humour more than anything. The scenic arts certainly suit you!

[@shoeminister4250]

Very glad to see you getting more open talking to wide audience about how _you_ think and react in different circumstances, you are brave doing this.

[@bonnielee7134]

Yes. Thank you Lee. Great job! 👏❤️👍🕺💯🔥

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾♥️

[@BenWayne85]

Their perceived rejection can also lead to them ghosting you! 💯

[@casillasangel]

Hmmm I got ghosted but still have to see her at Church and she acts like nothing happened I pray God truly heals her

[@MentalHealness]

🎯💯

[@mariegumpel4955]

What happens. ..they are going to lie about you and bad mouth you behind the scenes. They might even try to destroy your life. Head for the hills..

[@MentalHealness]

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[@gerrycrothers7871]

Great to hear what a narcissist thinks. Good to hear. Know what you are dealing with

[@jenniferhartranft3394]

I don't think anyone likes feeling rejected, I don't mind it much anymore, still can sting, nonetheless, what someone else thinks about me is none of my business.

[@bigsisterology]

Exactly !

[@MentalHealness]

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[@mercedeswalker7819]

Told him I wanted to be friends he said he’s supposed to be the one telling me that! He manipulated my emotions after a few involvements and did indeed turn it around on me saying he doesn’t want a relationship - because there was a new supply !

[@MentalHealness]

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[@ModelValeriaa]

Why would a narcissist during lovebombing ask if you can call them, then you call them and they smear you that you stalk them? Why would they say that you stalk them while they have contact with you and want contact with you. It makes no sense, he doesn't reach out anymore because he's afraid I would flip the script but now I don't contact him anymore since he uses it against me. What's the whole point anyway in this dynamic where he just says I'm stalking him? He even asked if I could add him on more things, while he smeared me to his friends and family that I stalked him?? I don't even know his family or friends, we didn't had mutual contacts anyway.

[@Analist_altijd_elegance]

Sounds familiar. My friend and her narcissist met up sometimes, then he wanted to meet up with her again, when she arrived at his house, he would record her suddenly saying that she was in front of his house stalking him and smear that she was stalking him, whole time he was begging her to come at his place. Til this day she still doesn't know why he suddenly is telling everyone she's stalking him, it happened very random and she didn't even knew his friends or family they had no mutual contacts and out of the blue and this kind of smearcampaign is very weird, I hear it from more people but there isn't much content about it

[@fruitcupshawty]

Projection

[@ModelValeriaa]

@@fruitcupshawty Projection doesn't make sense since he didn't stalk me and he didn't do the same things. He would set me up so it appeared that I stalked him.

[@fruitcupshawty]

Maybe was just trying to get supply from family/ friends.

[@ModelValeriaa]

@@fruitcupshawty It's very weird, he would set me up so I looked like a stalker then also saying in my face that I stalked him. While at the same time telling me to add him on other things so I could reach him there too

[@bonnielee7134]

Lee, great video! You answered something that I’ve been wondering about. Thanks!

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@Cloud-ok1zw]

100% true! Thanks, Lee!

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@pinkheartfairy]

Great video thankyou ❤😊

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@KKP20111]

Much love, Lee! 💯

[@MentalHealness]

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[@heartofleaves]

thanks for the insight

[@linneasimchah1621]

Number of videos per day: when I first started listening to your videos a few months ago, I was very surprised to see four new videos every day! I'm used to some youtube channels uploading one video per day at most. I'm happy you're going to pull back for your own sake. I do really appreciate listening to a mini marathon of your videos when I'm busy working. Realigns my thinking to narc realities so I stay out of hopium.

[@bonnielee7134]

😂 oh my gosh, that’s funny, hopium! 😄😆😂

[@MentalHealness]

i appreciate it. Had to pull back a bit, but im still here

[@Amazingcellist7010]

Rejection breeds obsession. I rejected my ex narc as kindly as possible and they because obsessed. Makes me wish i was frank and blunt instead....

[@iBlindAssassin]

Your delivery doesn't matter I have cursed my ex out like a dog and he still to this day calls me! If someone were to curse me out the way I cursed him out I would never speak to them again they are truly sick

[@bonnielee7134]

No. You actually did good by being kind, first. Because you don’t want to be mean and then they obsess on wanting to delete you. They’ll take any response as an opening to try again. Even a mean response could be taken as an opening again because they could think that your emotions means that you are weak to be thinking with your heart and not your head. It’s ok that you started out gentle and then get strict next time with a fierce, no contact installment.

[@MentalHealness]

😢😢 stay safe

[@barnbum6677]

My ex just asked me to get freaky.. rejecte him. He corny... but that aint my problem no more. He can call the prior exs he kept throughout our entire decade relationship.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@gerrycrothers7871]

Never sure what triggers narc Rage

[@reallue]

Anything tht touches their shame/core. Rejection in any form. Advice or Criticism in any form, even constructive. Are All triggers

[@princessmandy1757]

😂 " Bald headed scalley wag"

[@cherylarshaluys6079]

Lee, I so wish there were Spanish dubbing on your content. Or, if there were Spanish subtitles. But honestly, content with dubbing would be a hundred times more attractive to a large sector of Spanish-speaking communities. My saying this is oriented for me. Dubbing in other languages as well would allow more of us to benefit from your work. Maybe down the road.

[@seameology]

Their silent rage will continue for decades.

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@oldbear6813]

Before he called me the narcissist I had no clue what that meant but because I realized that everything he said about me was something he was or was doing, projection off the charts. So before I realized what was happening I agreed to polygraph testing .. I took 2 and passed both with flying colors. Normal people would be happy and say Omg I'm glad you're truthful with me. I quickly realized that no matter what I did or said it would never be enough. According to him I never took the test (he was at the 2nd one) the man doing the test is someone I must've done sex acts with or he has decided the first time I went I was actually meeting with some bf I have. The stories are So unreal and so damn dumb but this man will stand behind his lies until he dies. I am so glad I'm dang near 18 months out, we have kids so it doesn't stop him from coming up with new stories to run me into the ground but it doesn't work, I just don't care about any lie he wants to tell.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@natika31able]

I always catch you at the end 😂😂😂😂

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@joannturi3968]

If they become a repeat offender then it's game over. How do they keep up with changing so much? They seem to have lost touch with themselves, for me that's a scary thought, it brings to mind the movie Sybil, about the girl with multiple personalities. That movie scared me more than The Exorcist. And now, low and behold I've been encountering many friends, family and people in general that are exhibiting her personality. Sad but true.

[@AngieTwomey-x6b]

So when do u block a narcissistic?

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

When you realise the malignant narcissist is at war with you and their aim is to destroy you.

[@bonnielee7134]

@ AngieTwomey-x6b Like the comment above says, they will destroy you. It will be a hard lesson to learn. The antidote is to practice self love. Self love will bring back your self respect. If he blocks you, block him back to give him his own medicine and then laugh to yourself because he won’t like that at all. And that’s funny! 😄 . They’re want power and control because they get a dopamine hit off of it. They also get a dopamine hit off of being cruel and sadistic towards you. They’re your classic bully all grown up now.

[@Analist_altijd_elegance]

When will them hurting you because you hurt them balance out for them in their mind though and be enough as vengeance for them? When is the balance made for them? If you caused several narcissistic injuries and they smeared you, did they hurt you back in an even way in their mind? Is all well after that or can they keep getting mad even when there is no contact?

[@ModelValeriaa]

Wonder this too, how does this balance work in their minds

[@bonnielee7134]

It never balances. They have an inferiority complex that they overcompensate with a superiority complex. They put themselves into a superior mind set; think of it like a delusion or a fantasy that they need for it to be true, otherwise they are left with feeling the inferiority which destroys them and they don’t want to feel that at all costs. So now picture them being on the stage. They want to be front and center stage and they want to be the star. They want to get all of the admiration from the audience. This is why their nearests and dearests are their victims because the narcissist wants you to only be the audience clapping for them. They do not want you on the stage. If you get up there, on the stage, they will fight with you, to get you off and put you back into your place, as the audience, clapping for them. Conclusion: if you want to get along with a narcissist, you have to be a nothing and a nobody around them. That would be impossible. But some players might do this just to get laid. And for a short period of time, because it would be that hard. Just an explanation to help you to see it. A type of analogy.

[@bonnielee7134]

Ok and the, keep getting mad, even if there is no contact is because you once served as an audience to them and they want that back. They see you as an object. Like a toaster. You were the toaster that clapped for them and now they want that back. They felt like a star, on the stage, interacting with you. Alls they have to do is beat that toaster a little bit to make it work right again and then they can go back to playing, the star of the show, feel good about themselves, you help them keep that delusion, that fantasy, alive so that they don’t have to feel that inferiority and feel destroyed by it. You help them rise up from drowning in the water of inferiority. They live. But if you live ( take center stage ), they die. But if you die ( beat you into submission forcing you to be a nothing and a nobody, just an audience, clapping ), they live. That’s why they destroy a lot of people. Just a simple analogy, about the disorder, to help you understand it.

[@bonnielee7134]

@ ModelValeriaa I wrote an analogy. I would like for you to see it. Thank you.

[@Analist_altijd_elegance]

@@bonnielee7134 Thank you for your reply but I don't understand it. I know they want to hurt people but what if you hurt them and they want to revenge that, like in this video, how far will they go for they got even with you.

[@DEEJOJOHNSON]

They don't handle rejection well at all. My narcissistic ex-wife hit on her married coworker, and he called her weird, so she smeared his name for two 2 days. Until I found out the truth

[@MentalHealness]

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[@cierrabennett206]

Easy... they marry the next supply! And live happily ever after...😅

[@MentalHealness]

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[@WalkingwithChrist97]

Why are they so delusional. I went no contact with all 3 narcs in my life and they are posting things as if they are the ones rejecting my "hoovers" when its definitely the other way around 🤯

[@MentalHealness]

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[@deborahyarborough1080]

I just rejected the behaviors not him as a man. The behavior was destructive and will steal our peace

[@MentalHealness]

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[@kiesha1526]

@mentalhealness thank you so much !

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@annascorpio117]

Disney love ❤is dangerous

[@MentalHealness]

It absolutely is

[@Alexis-gs5od]

My ex narcissistic try to offer me to take me out on a date to a fancy restaurant. Mind you we are at a restaurant with our kids co-parenting. At first I thought of going but then I change my mind and told him no I don’t wanna go after all. I try to explain why I didn’t want to go. My ex stood quiet, he stop trying to talk to me. He doesn’t eat his dinner, when I ask why he doesn’t want to eat he said he lost his appetite. Then he starts to sing to himself I found weird. Then he walked us to my car, he gives me money for gas and tells me go put gas on your bucket car smh I know he said that on purpose to get me upset.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@karendiaz4106]

Thats what im getting now, my husband which cheated on me. Now in another relationship, being i blocked him over a year ago, called a friend of mine demanding ( a month ago) i unblock him, lol NOOO !! trying to get $$ to me. Lol. No thx. LIES . Still w this other Bi**h, yes she was supposedly a frd ofine. Telling me hes no good. Never change You deserve soo much better. Then i hear facts . She called 911 on him si many times, What he did to me LO.L. Thank you for taking my Headache and broken shells. She thinks he is the best thing since sliced bread. 😂

[@AntDavis-k1l]

Man your funny ,you have me laughing

[@MentalHealness]

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[@rebekahhawkins1318]

Do mortification. They are obsessed with smearing you. I can’t understand rage and the hate for every single ex thy have. Cover Narc that slammed me and called me everything but a white lady and gaslight and word salads and then raged. why would they want to “keep up” around after telling everyone how horrible we are. I don’t understand how they have anger and rage for every ex, and the ex did all the wrong stuff but they never ever do anything wrong. To me at some point in life when your kids even say you treat your “girlfriend” like a roommate that MAYBE it’s not every one else

[@MentalHealness]

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[@helenwashington6212]

Would you say they're trying to weaken your resolve ?

[@MentalHealness]

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[@edithintuitivetarot8616]

So you like being a waste of space ?? 😂😂 that’s says so much about a narcissist they a waste of space.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Angelique-q9g]

You have bombs 💣💣💣🤣🤣🤣

[@MentalHealness]

😂😂😅

[@MizzzLuna]

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[@MentalHealness]

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[@maryryanlearnteach4633]

😂

[@MentalHealness]

lol

[@MyTubey101]

When you reject a Narcissist they will most likely try to just take you out, but that’s just my opinion 🌚

[@MentalHealness]

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[@LadyDiamond-gv3bk]

Lmfao 🤣 😅

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Shankari1112]

It’s ridiculous how Lee, a narcissist who hasn’t healed completely, is training people against narcissists

[@MentalHealness]

Can you do better?

[@chickwitthagoodies]

Facts lol

[@Shankari1112]

@@MentalHealness yes

[@crystalnewsome4578]

What's ridiculous is to watch and comment on someone's channel when you clearly don't support them. Like, why are you even here? Invest your time in channels you enjoy or find interesting.

[@Shankari1112]

@ are you the flying monkey