Why No Second Date? 3 Surprising Reasons She Stopped Dating You

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The first date was great so why no second date? After all the effort of meeting a woman you like and having what you thought was a really good date it can be baffling when she disappears after the first date. Especially if she's still texting you but there's no second date planned. In this video I give you an insight into 3 core reasons why she seemed to lose interest after date one.
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[@magnetman3t725]

Women have options it’s called competition. You are not the only one she’s dating. Move on she did you a favor. If she was into you she will go out of her way to see you again.

[@nixale6091]

Why would I even be want to be with a girl who is unsure or has second thoughts about me. I am really not interested in what her reason is for not seeing me again. I want to be with a girl who likes me and is into me. If she doesn't want to see me again I move on. If a girl likes me she will make a second date happen. I will only date girls who are into me, with 3 billion women why pursue girls that are not into me.

[@HayleyQuinn]

agree - this is advice men need to hear more of that you need her to be showing up as interested in seeing you and emotionally/physically open to dating

[@petru4335]

Very true!! Is nonsense saying that because the second date does not happen immediately the momentum ends. If she wants a second date she will be there, regardless her motives, she is just into you at least for the moment.

[@MisterFeltz]

Had two fantastic dates, lots of touching from her and myself, lots of laughing, you could feel the electric chemistry, she was kissing my face off on both dates for nearly a minute. You could tick every sign of attraction in the book, but I've asked her for a third date and she's now fallen off the face of the earth

[@MrSit87]

Alpha Chad respondend on Tinder and said: "i´m done with the 28 other chicks, it´s your turn tonight baby".

[@MsLotusBlooms]

That is so true...I know when a date is or will be a bad date immediately, but I'll try to act into just to make it a seemingly pleasant experience for us. Afterward, I can't wait to get home.

[@alangwhiteTheBoss]

Why not leave that’s so retarded wasting both times

[@SWIFTzTrigger]

The trick isn't to cater to her child like demands and want to be entertained constantly. The trick is to have self respect and if she's not interested move on and not analyse this bs.

[@frankiegunnz8066]

Amen!

[@marcusj97]

I've had several first dates go well lately just to have the girl change up on me afterwards. Start to take long to reply to texts, send one word replies etc.. Completely the opposite of how things were before the first date. After the date I'd get home and politely say thanks for meeting and I had a great time. Then not get the same in return, and these girls are not out of my league IMO. I feel like if the girl likes you she would let it be known to the guy. Because if not I feel there is no mutual connection and I feel like a fool for chasing.

[@TheWinterShadow]

Those are 'surprising' reasons....but lets get to the real reason.....she is more interested in someone or something else instead of you. So, I wouldn't worry about it because women tend to be ruled by their heart and emotions; which, cause them to make some of the worst decisions. That is one reason a lot of them are not all that happy today.

[@robertjohnson4401]

This is excellent feedback. I think this explains why this was happening to me. Rather than try to use this information to try to get that second date, I have given up on dating. It is just not worth the effort. There is more peace in just enjoying life on your own terms. That 20% of the guys that are willing to play the game, they can have them.

[@beetleything1864]

People are fickle nowDays.

[@ethorii]

You are so right. The next guy is a click away. Only two or three things matter: looks, income, instant charisma

[@robbieanderson227]

What is SHE bringing to the table? Takes two!

[@tripgrundelson9015]

#1. She is impatient. #2. You didn't try to flirt with her. #3. You mistake a having a good time as something to build upon. Women want a man who doesn't see them as a sexual object, but don't have interest when you don't flirt with them before really getting to know them. All I hear, is you have to be a man who wants to have sex with them first, and then work on an emotional connection. Women's "logic"

[@edkaeuper5607]

If she not into me then she not into me time for both of us to move on.

[@jlecampana]

I've had the best first date ever, and then I managed to playfully ask her out on a 2nd date using a role play (and she was playing along all the way) but when it came the moment for her to Accept, she ghosted me! Funny thing is, she has continued to text me here and there, I have no idea where she stands!

[@anthonymurillo8886]

1st) She paid. 2nd) She drove. 3rd) I came first

[@cuddlycooper8169]

What if, on the first date, she has a great dinner, lots of conversation, she gives you a ride back to your place, then she kisses you for like 5 minutes, you text her the next day asking if she wants to have lunch during the week sometime and never hear from her again? I'm still baffled beyond comprehension about this one

[@EVLA8]

This literally just happened to me last week. I haven't heard from her since I last saw her. Literally ghosted me from texting.

[@argumentumadbaculum]

Who payed the bill?

[@cuddlycooper8169]

@@argumentumadbaculum I paid it which was about 60 dollars and she insisted to pay the tip which I don't recall, maybe 15

[@thereisnospoon5782]

Free dinner! .... never take a woman to dinner on a first date! .... drinks only! ....

[@Ravlow23]

@MotivationalBeast same with me,i think we just move on plenty fish in the sea bro

[@jhhwild]

Why must all the responsibility lie with the man to make the date interesting or exciting? What effort is she putting in? It takes two to tango. If a date isn't going the way you want perhaps you should communicate that, maybe you should take charge if you want more excitement, you can't rely on the man to always be able to read your mind and do exactly what you want to do on a date.

[@JohnM...]

Any tips on LENGTH of first date, and in what manner to conclude it? Like, do I say I'd like to see her again, or leave her to text me? Apologies, I'm inexperienced, and I've never even kissed a woman.

[@KeeranRoberts]

Hi. Can you give some advice on the below? I have been talking to female for a bit on the phone, laughing etc. We decided to do the first meet, lunch etc however my guard was up, I was a little reserved which she picked up on. After the date, she sent me a message saying thanks but the date felt uncomfortable and strained. With this in mind, does this mean that the chances of a second date are out the window? How can I get to the second date so she can see the true me?

[@nikan4now]

Thanks for the video. Good insight :) One question: But Hayley, why should a person "create tension"? It's either there or it's not. Also some girls just like kind guys too. I just feel like this whole "skills set' thing is unnatural.

[@dustyboi8975]

“I just don’t feel a spark” Anyone else consistently get this after a date that has good conversation, laughs and mutual compliments? What are they expecting? Like girls, a 27 year old Brad Pitt lookalike CEO with all of your interests ain’t coming along.

[@balkangetaway]

Momentum is key. If it takes too long I no longer care.

[@fabolous86]

If i try and kiss or touch a girl on a first date isn't that sexual harassment?

[@HayleyQuinn]

consent is key - if you are unsure just ask. it's not lame to be clear

[@robbieanderson227]

No! That’s not being a a man

[@MissHannah2036]

How're you supposed to keep the interest up with a complete stranger you met only for 2 hours. Definitely the interest wanes after 4 or 5 days. So much effort can go into the 1st date this interest needs to be kept up at that level to move forward for a second date, not easy when the person ends up a figment of your imagination. As a woman, I got asked on a 2nd date but it never eventuated for whatever reason, texts days apart and offer of a phone call that never happened. Also people start to really reassess if they really want a relationship. Or just went of the date for the sake of it, didn't want to say 'no' and be rude. Alot of emotionally unavailable people out there men and women who think they want a relationship but aren't capable of it.

[@TheBlanco951]

So you like to string guys along?

[@johanpeters1184]

After a second date she sais not sure we will work out she hasn't you d the spark she's looking for. She knows her mind at times but she said she knows her heart. But the heart is deceptive. Help me understand

[@claudioluisjunior7428]

That happened to me but I knew since the beggining there was something wrong Hayley only confirmed it

[@taweller]

Hey, I was in London Sept. 2018, where in the hell were you?

[@yungboulder7338]

Or you could have just sent a text that shows weakness or trying too hard then you lost her.

[@Ravlow23]

These things just happens to me last week 23/10/2021,the girl i dated just disappear we go on first date it was cool,she calls and miss me alot after,then before second date i notice something has change,shes sometimes forget to send morning tex,shes just foeget to say goodnight,shes just ignore my calls,from there i have noticed something has changing untill last week after our second date she just disappear,it was sucks,so i just move on my life.

[@EbonySeraphim]

Thanks for the honest reasons. I would substantially disagree with the idea mentioned in this video that guys should assume she is interested, which you yourself walk back as you contextualize and made point #3. Doing this as a guy is utterly the wrong thing to do. Assume she isn't interested and has 5 other men trying to get her attention and deal with your reality that way. Put in effort if you are interested, but if she doesn't respond to reasonably, strong, and attempts, then leave her alone. She's missing what you're putting out there and heavy effort isn't worth any more time an investment. Don't ever accept the lie if a woman claims to not trust people easily. That's her just trying to buy time to evaluate you longer because she knows you're not a yes and wants you to keep trying (giving her whatever attention, or resources you have). I hate to do this but I also have to criticize one of the things women do that was mentioned in #3. The whole "she's just not into you" and kept being polite during the date. The problem I have with this is how the fuck was this concluded within minutes or seconds? And more importantly: now that she's in this 'just act polite mode' this is effectively a 'sunken place' for a guy and there is no getting out of it. Whatever disqualified the man in a few minutes, will set a tone for the conversation immediately making the woman not give a fuck about any substance that may come out later in the interaction. I get that we all tend to form an early judgement quickly, but don't mature and sensible people realize that how you feel around a person when you just met them and at various stages and contexts/situations can be extremely different thus definitely changes how you act? I don't suggest women give me all the chances in the world, but if you're going to mentally check out, physically leave to and don't add to any confusion. Maybe the guy knows the conversation isn't going 100% that well, but if it's a potential long term relationship, he is hoping he might have a chance to share time in a setting that energizes him. If you're a guy and you notice a woman doing this, keep calm, form the quickest possible exit strategy, and leave.

[@EbonySeraphim]

Didn't finish watching far enough: if you're a woman and not into your date, don't touch him on the arm unless you're in the middle of saying "I think you're nice/sweet, but I'm not into you" and are on your way out. First dates aren't for breakthroughs where a woman opens herself up to who she really is and anything shy of that is failure. A touch on the arm on the first date would absolutely mean she's interested in seeing you again given all other things pleasant on the surface

[@jasoncohen5469]

If you say even the one smallest thing they don't like or disagree with your done. Women are too judgemental on first dates like that. Dating sucks for men but sometimes it goes well so I keep trying.

[@alex124241]

What you say is true. They are so fickle. It feels like they are finding reasons to disqualify than reasons to qualify you.

[@donwald3436]

How do you become a dating expert, do you have a lot of dates and never get a relationship lol.

[@HayleyQuinn]

Also... filmed a whole first date yesterday from beginning to end which I will release and then deconstruct in full to show the conversation, touch and venue choices that make for a great first date. Of course the people who are on the date and their connection is the biggest factor but wanted to get this super clear too

[@Owondr]

Hayley Quinn what was all that talk on TED about how you weren’t doing this anymore? Im still learning to decipher woman-code-talk and probably have missed the intended message, lol.

[@mattblom3990]

I've got a second date Monday and at this point I feel like I've won the lottery Lol.

[@mco5383]

Matt Blom she has won the lottery bro don't forget that.

[@marioadventures8906]

Hahahahha, is that shi** really that hard You make my day with this comment

[@mattblom3990]

@@marioadventures8906 That was two years ago. Though I just had a breakup today ironcially.

[@marioadventures8906]

@@mattblom3990 breakup really sucks, take care friend

[@justice8193]

When you guys click well on the first date then you don't get a text back from her to see if the 2nd date is confirmed.

[@maube8007]

I'm hearing a lot about problems but no proposed solutions.

[@TheWinterShadow]

Solution. Don't date. Focus on you and your purpose. Why waste precious time trying to analyze someone?

[@jillimyjilikers2036]

In Western Australia dont bother dating if you're not a FIFO worker

[@pamelaazzi913]

Yup that sounds like me 😄

[@JuicyFruityify]

My date was bland as they come, pretty girl but her only interests were animals and Disneyland...yawn. It was obvious who brought all the sunshine... After coffee we went by the way to have some dinner, wasn't the plan but it happened...I noticed it was me being attentive, she wanted what she wanted to eat and didn't really show any consideration for what I might be interested in eating. It struck me as selfish and demanding but as I said she didn't really have anything interesting to offer. (We split the bill) I would respect and be demure to someone who obviously has it all over me in spades...but there is that demanding selfish element. Can't quite get over that.

[@thebrain678]

For a moment I thought her name was Harley Quinn and said whoa Batman.

[@arvinjandaghi3378]

Mate if she’s the one doing everything you gotta change your mindset

[@1bosstv]

A first date only went well as a guy if she wants to see you again, and actually does.

[@thewebmogul]

Best tip.forget her and move on there are billions women out there. lol...😄

[@HayleyQuinn]

Not bad advice! It's true that the most important quality you have to look out for is 'IS THIS PERSON AVAILABLE PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY TO DATE' if not there are many more who are :-)

[@nisa15632]

I hope men realise instead of getting obsessed and upset with women who disappear.

[@vfgrfbgrb]

If you text alot a girl does she get annoyed

[@glenno-2403]

Women just instant judge and then bin you off. No accountability and I’d rather not bother with them rather then the other way around. I do appreciate there are some odd men out there, but some many women have demands like a narcissist, I’d rather not bother

[@silverschooner5821]

Reality? Not enough money. Not enough money. NOT ENOUGH MONEY!!! 🤔#AWAKEN 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😎

[@fudgedogbannana]

When she left something at my house on purpose, I sent it back to her UPS.

[@undecodable6145]

Because social engineers panicked

[@traderxart9551]

3 reasons why she disappeared?? Just stop...97% of dates never go to a second or third date....so take all this lame advice and throw it away.. this advice is worthless!

[@whoreallycares2368]

trader x art 9 yep. Complete waste of time to chase women, unless your name is chad or Tyrone

[@SM77785]

How about this? Don't date. Just "meet" for drinks after hours.

[@TheWinterShadow]

@@whoreallycares2368 Yeah, and she is probably dating both at the same time too. O.o

[@oc850]

exactly, western females are a complete waste of space and time

[@63Baggies]

What makes you an expert Haley?

[@anthonymurillo8886]

Robert Dore Exactly....Something a narcissist would say!

[@gabrielpauna62]

@@anthonymurillo8886 he is right, she can not have empirical data thus her level of expertise is theoretical at most which is even in question

[@lochofmceo]

@@hockeymasktime1918 facts

[@kiskeacity]

Sorry but this advice is just weak sauce. It’s way too blue pill.

[@TheBlanco951]

Lmao yepp

[@shutting88]

Do you have any advice for men to pay less on dates?

[@HayleyQuinn]

Dates don't have to be expensive to be fun. Grabbing a coffee and going for a walk is a great first date. Or ice cream in about 8 months time when it's warm again

[@1greenMitsi]

lol

[@lapreebarber1355]

Plan a picnic at a nice park with her face sandwich n snacks. Arcade so she pays her way. Look upfun cheap ideas

[@oc850]

@@HayleyQuinn well you don't know anythig about what us men have to go through, so shove your lame advice someplace warm and stinky ;)

[@HayleyQuinn]

Made this video after speaking to a lot of guys who thought they had a great first date that never turned into date 2. Hopefully this explains where your date didn't connect. If you are done with all the effort of a first date, and no second date contact me for advice [e-mail] :-) or comment on my Instagram @hayleyquinnx

[@ronaldfitzsimmons9902]

Good all the money i will save. Personally myself i prefer the MGTOW menu plus if you want desert it's your choice.

[@markjackson7083]

2019 only a fool would take a chick on a date,waste of money and time, even if you take her to Mcdonald's.

[@razorx6905]

Starting to believe that too

[@TheWinterShadow]

I have heard many women say in a conversation about a past date that they were just up for a dinner...which is short for 'free dinner'.

[@oc850]

even worse in 2022 , poor world

[@jpdeoliveira5503]

Love stinks!

[@whoreallycares2368]

Three reasons: 1) you didn’t foot the whole bill 2) you treated her with respect 3) she found something which gave her just a bit more tingles in her pants!

[@themacocko6311]

Who really Cares 👍Nice self-pity, brah👏. You really nailed it.

[@whoreallycares2368]

TheMacocko what an idiot you are.

[@whoreallycares2368]

TheMacocko reality is not self pity just because it doesn’t fit within the framework you are willing to accept. It’s still reality.

[@themacocko6311]

Who really Cares Ahh, that's your reality.

[@tripgrundelson9015]

@@themacocko6311 I think you under estimate the truthfulness of these three reasons. A lot of women think men should pay. Also, pretty girls seem to have this mental disfunction that causes them to be attracted to men who aren't respectful. They see it as he is different because he doesn't treat me like all the other guys. Thirdly, women are constantly being turned on by other men they meet, no matter there they are at in terms with a man. Hypergamy is a very real thing. People think it's only men who are superficial.

[@timnic9242]

Bottom line is, many women are too awkward to have a good life and dating.

[@UltimateGattai]

I'd have to say this is true of both genders until their mid 20s if they go that long without marrying.

[@sanctuaryism]

exactly.

[@SunRise-ul7ko]

Treat her the way she wants you to treat her. Let her pay for the full cost of the date & you may want a second date. Woman asked for equality, so woman cherry picking who asks & who pays has become an insult to men. No wonder I'm thinking of dumping my girlfriend & going full time MGTOW, the juice is just not worth the squeeze.

[@simondaniel446]

never learn how to fish from the fish. :))) non sense can be 1000s of reasons

[@kungtony]

Great video Hayley. The problem is most guys don't know how to create attraction, sexual tension and don't know how to flirt. So it just turns into a friendly conversation, maybe some laughter. You're right a lot of guys don't take risks. They don't try to kiss the woman. if a woman says she felt no spark or chemistry it means you didn't tease her enough, there was no challenge and she didn't feel she could lose you at anytime. Most guys don't lead either. I've been guilty of this too especially if the girl has a strong frame. A man has to lead and be dominant. On a date try to sit near a woman. Don't ever go for dinner on a first date. It's hard to talk and you're sat opposite which makes it hard to escalate.

[@HayleyQuinn]

sitting side by side definitely makes physically connecting easier. I am actually going to do a video on how to create that touch and connection across a table - which can feel like a physical obstacle

[@kungtony]

ideally you ought to sit close to her. If that's not possible and I want to touch I will take her hand and examine her jewellery.

[@jamie49868]

Go ahead, take that risk of touching and kissing her...what's the worse that could happen? ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND? Men are not the hapless idiots you make us out to be. Have you seen what is going on? Helen of fucking Troy is not worth losing your reputation, money, or freedom over.

[@UltimateGattai]

Does eating her food and drinking her drinks without permission count as taking risks?

[@zandilekhumalo5396]

I feel like imprisoned her the while time i was with her Been lonely 4 a long time and i love her but i feel like i did bad (SHE JUST FUCKEN RAN AWAY WHEN SHE LEFT) im so down bad

[@Sunshinestarryrose]

Lazy Came on too strong too fast Boring

[@ex10102]

MGTOW

[@JaysonT1]

Randy Rhoads Being called a loser by a professional group of losers isn't exactly an insult.

[@JaysonT1]

Daniel Grohl Me too, except the MGTOW part.

[@ironwillie7666]

This is me going my own way. Its good to hear from you again, TheMacocko. If I didn't know better, I'd think you have a "thing" for me. (-; wink, wink,.. Has it been a week? Long boring day at the office is it? People demonize what they don't understand. MGTOW is not for everyone to understand. But MGTOW does have a right to "exist peacefully" just like religious, racist, politicial, transgender, or any other group people do. Again "peaceful" is the key word here. We are all apart of the human collective. When you choose to ignore or demonize a group just because you don't like it, you are closing your mind to a piece of human nature. And I propose, that my friend is not a very good long term solution.

[@ironwillie7666]

TheMacocko = super duper judgmental angry butt hurt troll that is going to hate his life at 50. Fact! And doesn't even get it. Just full of hate... And more hate. Plus, foul language. Nothing makes you look like an ass like poor language. End of story. Good luck, Have a good life and the last word. I wont even read it.

[@JaysonT1]

Chris LikesPPR nobody care if your "dropping out", it's the fucking crybady bitching and the stupidity of "red pill" logic.

[@jonathanchappell9503]

Hayley Quinn These comments seem to be filled with men who are in pain, yikes. Anyway how do you get women to take off that reserved front? What would make them enjoy thenselves? Edit: jeez the more comments I read the better I feel about myself. If these mgtow npcs are my competition Im set. Also are you single? (just out of curiosity)🙂