WHY NOT TO CONFRONT THE NARCISSIST (WATCH NOW)

[@balozhende5727]

"met with silence" exactly when you confront them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯

[@macseagle5968]

I confronted my narc. She blew up in my face and kicked me out of her life. I didn't realize the blessing in disguise and the pain of being used as a money mule is real.

[@maha_sage]

If you confront, they enjoy it. They get off on that. Or don't care. Or deny. Or try to confuse you. Or insult you. You think you are making them deal with consequences but it won't do that. They are incapable of introspection

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@heartburn6160]

Excellent advice. Whenever I confronted the narcissist, they responded, "I am worried about your mental health."

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@goldilocks3593]

Don’t do it. Play dumb and figure out how to get away as quickly and quietly as possible. Escaping is for you, not for them. If they are a true narcissist, they aren’t going to change and will only turn your “accusations” against you. And as we all know any kind of reaction will do. Negative is almost as good as positive, if not better. Move on with your real life. The next victim will have to learn their lesson the hard way too - unfortunately.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight thank you Goldilocks..💯🙌☀️

[@50shadesofgreyrock68]

Exactly!!!

[@julieschubert4014]

So true !!

[@kendraheard2799]

Its so crazy when i found out about narcissim i was actually still in the relationship...watching videos with the narc in my presence but I DIDNT KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING AND WAS JUST FINDING OUT ABOUT THIS KNOWLEDGE...soo...i confronted the narc and told him i thought that he was a narc and tht i thought he had a demon living in him...he said "what did u say?" ..and i repeated myself he said yeah ok ill look into tht...so later tht night i woke up in the middle of the night...he was pacing back and forth in front of the bedroom door with A GUN...i said what are u doing he said nothing go back to bed....HE WAS CONTEMPLATING ON KILLING ME!!!... 5 YEARS LATER NO CONTACT I NOW REALIZE THIS GOD WAS PROTECTING ME!!!...I DIDN'T KNOW THE DANGER I WAS IN SO SCARY WHEN I THINK ABOUT IT...DONT DO IT!!!...JUST RUN FOR UR LIFE!!!

[@sunshinelalu]

I did. I left half of my stuff and idc about it. I don't want to be abused even further if I go back to collect the rest of my things.

[@terridillon3053]

100 percent correct !!! Stay no contact. Let God deal with them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes Terri 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@anaguq4651]

@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama Hmm...not sure about that. Woul'd love to do that, but it's more inportant to stay safe.

[@flyinbry]

Let god deal with them…. You mean screaming forever in hell with Satan!

[@robinsnow7779]

💯

[@Caller-jk3me]

Confronting the narcissist is like trying to confront the devil 👿.😮

[@JH-td4mn]

Every day since I escaped the Narcissistic FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) I've imagined how I would confront the Narcissist if he ever came to my door. It would be a waste of words. He already knows what he is and knows I know what he is. He doesn't care. All I can do is promote awareness of Narcissistic Abuse and support anyone I know who is suffering from it. I got discarded almost a year ago. I have 2 close friends I already knew had suffered Narc Abuse and many others have revealed themselves to be survivors too. Another friend is just discovering his ex is one. It's far more common than we think.

[@ibadi45]

The silence, to go no contact, and the indifference are more effective against a Narcissist than any words or statements. Those people never will accept any kind of responsibility for all the damage that they had done.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

☀️🙌🙏

[@Dee-mj3pu]

A Police Detective confronted the narc for me. The narc never contacted me again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪💯😌

[@Crystalquartz964]

If you confront the Narcissist, they will deny it, RAGE at you PLUS they will spread rumours and lies about you because they don't like being found out! I just disappear from their lives, that's my revenge!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌🙏

[@craigsmith1365]

How amazingly healing it is to know I'm not alone on this journey. Thanks to all of you for opening up. Really-Really thank you all...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Craig 💯🙏☀️🙌

[@yvonnebliss9061]

❤️ I agree Andrew,. A narcissist is a bully ,. They never reflect on their own flaws and never will. In their eyes....they have no flaws.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️

[@yvonnebliss9061]

❤️ I love your work you are doing , so kind and caring, greatly appreciated

[@danielborrowdale3903]

Their emptiness is not for you to fix. Your job is to respect yourself. The person I was with was damaged long before I was around, I used to think that if she loved me she would change for me (my wrong logic), but she should have changed for herself as an adult. The fact that she didn't change for her kids was proof that she couldn't change.

[@smustipher]

The confrontation is just more supply for them. There are "Don't Feed the Animals" signs for a reason. Give them food and they keep coming back, become bold, and sometimes become aggressive. Give them nothing and they leave you alone.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Shannon 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@trauma2beauty934]

I actually said, walk behind me satan in Jesus name, and he fled. The spiritual battle. Let God fight this, we can only get educated. The sword of the spirit works on these satan enablers

[@misfit7866]

Shannon that was funny!!!

[@PostFamilyOfOrigin]

Exactly! ( It's weird, I never thought I'd go back to the National Zoo of DC moving to Ariizona decades ago, yet I am hopefully escaping IT by the skin of my teeth now)

[@joann5465]

If you tell them how you feel, they wont learn anything from it, they will actually twist it around and use it to hone their skills on somebody else. if you tell the narc "you never cared about me" they will tell others that YOU never cared about them...if you confront them about lies then they say YOU are a liar, .and so on. Dont give them weapons to use against you ,because that's what they will turn your well meaning words into,

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Joann..💯🙌☀️💪

[@christinahutton9983]

They LOVE it when you tell them how they are. It's attention,which is supply,which they need in order to survive. So gross! 🤢

[@TheKakamuka]

Exactly. I did this with my covert mil only for her to rage on me. With healthy individuals we look for resolution. But with npd folks it gives them one more reason/weapon to hate, demean and devalue us 🙄 Going no contact is the only choice

[@elizabethazasriel6553]

Exactly!!!! I just said those exact words to my sister in law today about my Narc husband. I'm busy planning my very quiet exit still this month.

[@BluntlyHonest12]

Agree going through this mess right now

[@debrarayter8256]

Never share your knowledge you've gained the hard way...keep it in your pocket only for you. Narcs are unteachable. They like it that way! Andrew, you are amazing with all you share. Thank you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@izawaniek2568]

I agree with you. Confronting the narcisist is not a good idea. The best strategy with them is not to defend, not to engage, not to explain and not to personalise. No contact is the best strategy. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@malibudolphin3109]

Pray for me I'm getting close to getting out this narc asylum circus 🎪

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Prayers and positive energy sent to you 🙏🙏☀️🙌

[@malibudolphin3109]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you & thanks for your video's

[@montzerattejones3823]

I always am tempted to confront her but being non contact is the only way to maintain my peace of mind. It's almost like addiction, every day I don't contact or allow contact is another day mentally sober...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😉

[@SoulForce_]

It is really like that. Mentally sober 😊 good one!

[@toniacompton255]

I have NO desire to want to be around or ever see this monster again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯

[@mrstoyaoboya]

This is so true!!! The narc doesn't care ... that's the one thing you have to repeat to yourself over and over and over again, until its accepted. Sadly I have to raise a child with a narc, wish I could stay completely away from this individual. Ty for the videos- they are truly truly truly a reminder every time I'm not crazy! "Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord"

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯🙌

[@heatherroberson1648]

Thank you so much Andrew. You are totally right. I'm no contact and I don't want to be abused anymore. I want peace and to feel safe and that's not possible with a narcissist. I will stand firm in my no contact and only move forward. The best response is no response. Thank you from saving me from more pain. I'm very grateful 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Heather.. I am grateful to hear this..💯🙌☀️🙏

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Heather, BELIEVE ME, once you give yourself the chance of experiencing the PEACE of the no contact approach, you will begin to tap into a PEACE that you had forgotten was possible!!! It is THE MOST DELICIOUS thing to feel, once you get past what I will call “the withdrawal stage”. I swear I have not felt this level of peace in close to thirty years and I am LOVING it. The more peaceful place also allow my head to be clear so I am able to detect minions and flying monkeys when they show up and immediately cut them off. When you have a million monkeys flying around, you can’t tell what anything is because of all the chaos. But when you shut most of them down and all gets relatively QUIET? Oh, you will definitely be able to sense when one is trying to enter your realm! Try cutting them off one by one or two by two to start with. Then check in with yourself to see how your body and soul feels. I check my social outlets maybe once or twice a month just to make sure and I inevitably find one more person who needs to go. It has worked beautifully in terms of promoting my healing process! I wish you peace and joy!

[@jennielai2459]

It’s waste of your time and energy to confront them unless you’re ready to walk away from your relationship. Because if you’re staying after the confrontation you can expect your narcissist be even worse.

[@trudyramgren8817]

Thank you Andrew! You are spot on. I've confronted the narcissist many many times and I got absolutely nowhere!!! He dissed me, wouldn't validate my feelings and refuse to apologize. It only ended up with me feeling stupid and crazy. I learned the hard way after numerous confrontations. I appreciate you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Trudy..🙌🙏💯💯

[@elberethfw]

❤

[@paulag7108]

No contact is the best advice you can give people 👏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 💯💯💪💪

[@dawngardener9586]

Yes Andrew, spot on. I confronted my narc husband early in my healing journey and was derided, mocked, belittled and accused of being brainwashed by youtube. Thankyiu Andrew, I no longer go into that space, great advice as always, love to you and all on their healing path back to themselves xxxxx

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Dawn 🙌💯🙏☀️

[@elenavasquez234]

Say no to narc supply!!🚫

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💪

[@myriamortiz6331]

When you call them out they go into a rage . Don’t waste your time and avoid any further pain for yourself .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😉😉

[@jesusrules9925]

Good warning Andrew, and this needs to be reiterated, because confronting is the most emotional damaging thing one can do. Let's say they attack you over and over and over, nitpicking you, criticizing you etc. They EXPECT and DESIRE for you to say "why do you keep doing this? I've always treated you with respect" or something along those lines. THAT IS THEIR GOAL, to get you to POINT OUT what they are doing.. the level of pleasure and sick glee that they will get from it will make you feel utterly sick and defeated. They have a plethora of responses just waiting to make you look like you're the problem. And they will win the conversation with the biggest smirk you have ever seen... and you will look crazy and problematic. Why are they so successful in giving you rapid fire responses to you pointing out what they are doing wrong? Simply put, the demon inside them is witty, fast, quick, evil, premeditative, and has already spat out the rapid fire bullets many, many, many times. The only way to defeat them, is to flat out PRETEND they are not doing anything wrong, no matter how EVIL and SADISTIC it is... The more they try, the more you pretend they aren't doing anything. They will be so confused, baffled and dumbstruck by your strength. In the meantime, the more evil deeds they rack up, the more they will be punished in the end by The One True God... meanwhile, you will be rewarded for biting your tongue. It's a win win. They will either leave you alone for lack of supply, or God will remove you and deliver you after you have passed the test. Literal perfection. Best part? It's all in The Bible, it all lines up with His way, He is awesome beyond measure.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your kindness and honesty… thank you for sharing this beautiful message..💯🙌🙏☀️❤️

[@emmaharper860]

Amen 💯

[@lionfriend3557]

Thank you for your comments. This was very helpful.👍🌷

[@jeanetteshawredden5643]

@ JesusRules : great comment !!! Thank you - yes there HAS to be a demon(s) involved, helping them, leading & guiding them, telling them what to say because these Ns all use the same playbook. (aka witchcraft). Their similar words, tactics, strategy, & behavior can't be coincidence!

[@elizabethbrehm8996]

Omg beautiful thank you

[@EricNorthman-h2f]

A reaction is what they want ! Exactly !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@freespirit9806]

We have authority over demons. As authentic human beings in Jesus name This is a spiritual experience that has changed my life

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 😉😉

[@zulemaflores1234]

I definitely agree with you, confronting the narcissism demon is not a good idea!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯

[@garyclark6032]

Andrew is right - these people have no emotional capacity to converse on an adult level. When my ex-n came to return some of my belongings, I had planned to confront her and talk things through but she behaved as though our breakup hadn’t happened and I was just an “old friend” (and then subsequently blocked me 2 weeks later as though I never existed). It was one of the most awkward and peculiar experiences of my life.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯😳😳

[@justdaisy316]

I did confront my narc..i couldn't help it...! I cannot let that scum treat me that way! Although I do understand what you are saying and I agree with you..i am an empath with very HIGH MORALS and VALUES..im also very intelligent and when I see someone doing wrong I have to call them out on it..this was before I knew what a narc was..i just called out the bad behaviour towards me and I am glad I did because it made me feel better! But you are right they do not care..i just needed to do it for me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙌🙏

[@maryomahony5648]

Come to think of it...he never sat down with me and even wanted to see my side of things...nothing seemed to worry him...he used to say....are you finished...can I go now

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

My experiences as well 😉😉

[@christine11347]

This was actually my same exact experience also. It gives me the chills how they all play out of the same playbook.

[@nleativa]

Once again...thank you Andrew! So grateful I get to watch your videos three times a day. I co-parent with a narcissist and he shot me a cheap text while I'm at work.. Of course the text contained him being a victim and I'm accused as being the unfair abuser regarding parenting time with our son. I wanted to respond saying he's "full of shit" but I watch your video and it saved me from making a mistake with this narc. What's even more crazier is for him to text me this while he's spending with our son for the day, and he's the one who canceled other parenting time with our son the past Sunday. Thank you again Andew.

[@kmax2584]

To any of the subscribers on the channel who you suspect might be dealing with any malignant narcissists or those who are high on the Cluster B Antisocial Personality spectrum, confronting them can actually be dangerous and can put you at risk. Plan an exit from the relationship quietly and do not confront the individual as it could be met with violence if they feel they are losing control of you. If for any reason you have to meet with them afterwards to wrap up any loose ends as a result of breaking away, then make sure you are in a public place and even bring another person (or police) if you need to. Go no contact, stay no contact, and in the case of those narcissists on the malignant spectrum, also have a long-term safety plan.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 💯💯💪💪🙌🙌

[@debieaves4788]

Yes! 100% in agreement!

[@joe-yc3xz]

Wgat do you suggest if they try to ever get back into your life. Or if you bump.in to them. If you walk away wont they then have it in for you and want to hurt you,? I'm just happy now I don't see them.

[@deeanthony7713]

This is Feb. 2023, and it's too bad I did not see this video, sooner. I sent a last e-mail to my narc, in Jan. 2023 and it felt good to get stuff off my chest, that way. I have not had any contact with my Narc, since, nor do I feel like I need any more contact, ever again.

[@thekellers5041]

You gotta play the card right. My ex was in fact clinically dx’d with NPD. After our divorce he hoovered me with a frivolous lawsuit. In it, he made a false claim that I ‘knew’ such and such about him and therefore, in his claim, my ‘intent’ was such and such (all of which I knew was a lie, his latest wounded character he was playing for the court) So in my written response (this was just small claims court) I refuted what he claimed I ‘knew’ by dropping the bomb that what ACTUALLY ‘knew’ is his clinical diagnosis and his 27 year history of being a pathological liar. (Cited a few examples, with witness statements) That, among other utter nonsense in his case had judge dismiss with prejudice and never even gave the N a chance to speak

[@michu2888]

Thanks for sharing this!!

[@BrendanPaez]

No games played cutting people out the frame is how I say Goodbye.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@kristinej.4182]

Going no contact and moving forward in a positive direction is the best! But before I realized that, I will admit that I did try to take revenge and confront the narcissist. But all that did was more harm to myself. It depleted my own precious energy and sanity. It did nothing to the narcissist bc just like Andrew pointed out- the narcissist doesn’t care!! He acted like I was the crazy one. Actually it felt like he was getting a high from it all. These narcissists are really evil human beings. Thank you for this video!! 👍🏻🙏🌟

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Kristine 💯🙌🙌

[@alimccreery755]

I’m with you 👍🥰

[@christinahutton9983]

Yeah,they LOVE it when you confront them and respond to them. They do get high off of it. It's what feeds them.

[@alimccreery755]

@@christinahutton9983 yes but what I learned today is that their biggest drug is the discard and if we can get past it then we can look at it as a relief. I helped in causing the discard so after doing some serious internalization I can now get back on track with my own life and if I want to be miserable I don’t need any help I can do that all on my own cause I know how 😂. That’s taking accountability 👍

[@kennethsilvestri5874]

I did lay it out to them and they did gaslight me and painted me as the crazy one, I got the, "I'm sorry you feel manipulated" with triangulation that "my friend thinks you're crazy," which is also her new supply. And she even future faked me with, "I was going to watch a game with you, no expectations." They did get an angry reaction out of me. At least I got to take some shots on her integrity and character in treating people this way, how she is being the wrong role model for her son. He started to say, "I love you mommy" before asking for candy/treats or playing video games. Ultimately, Andrew is right, acting indifferent and moving on is the best action to take against a narcissistic discard. They can't stand that and an angry reaction only plays into their hands and validates them. You can't reason with them even when presenting irrefutable evidence, they will only use the narcissists prayer if you ever saw that meme. It's so true. www.thelifedoctor.org/the-narcissist-s-prayer

[@RoseKent-uu7rw]

Nothing good comes from ever speaking to them. They are unable to have a sane conversation. Their actions have shown you this time and time again. They don’t care, they are delusional and their pain, they will never own it. Let them figure it out, let them move on and find other victims. Live in your power! Thank you Andrew for your words of wisdom.

[@thekellers5041]

What worked for me is quietly KNOWING what the N is, patting myself on the back for recognizing it, then setting about to protect myself without telling them. For instance, long before I brought up divorce I spent 2 patient years building my friend support structure, researching legal choices, planning my finances, even surreptitiously boxing up my most precious personal items and slipping them out to a storage rental. In another incident with a N who was trying to gaslight me by revising history and putting words into my mouth: “I’m glad you understand that ‘X’ is going to happen” I KNEW what the N was doing and stood my ground inside reality: “No, no, I do NOT ‘understand’ nor do I agree to that, and you saying I ‘understand’ is not going to change that fact” Then that N had to play by MY rules. My eventual outcome was sweet.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Education is empowerment.. thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙌🙏☀️

[@michellepileggi27]

This is 💯 spot on. Before I watched this, I did confront. It literally BLEW UP in my face. I had notes and I honest practiced what I was going to say. They turned everything back on me and quickly, very quickly, I started to doubt my own thoughts. I hung up, because they refused to meet with me in person for that cup of coffee of course, and I wished I never confronted them. Don’t do it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@jeanetteshawredden5643]

Michelle - the exact same thing would have happened in person! Even if you had written "note cards" - he would have eaten your lunch There is a REASON they are so quick and crafty and cunning to turn things around against you. And that is the EVIL spirit or demon that controls them - it simply is not human.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

In the end it comes down to this: ‘. I can no longer go down to your level’. Do this internally and enact no contact

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful 🙌🙏💯💪

[@MJ-qb5ph]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone if only took 50 years to get there but lesson truly learnt finally!

[@user-uq6ic8pw8x]

Wow so true u got it right. I'm at this stage right now. After knowing everything never give validation or approval which is very important.

[@thatboringdude9429]

Andrew is right. Just move on with your life, chase your dreams, and ignore the narcissist. Trust me, you will be happier. Love to all ❤️♥️🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😉

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Personally I am convinced that there are a fair amount or a lot of narcs are watching your videos. They are absorbing your content to educate themselves and enjoying your personal beautiful Andrew energy but not in the same way that us empaths and codependents do.🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️💗

[@joe-yc3xz]

I've been looking and left 2 comments yesterday on Andrew's videos. I thought the same thing. I dont care what the narssisst thinks now. As I dont want to see them ever again. The only way they would know I was on line is through these videos. Would it be a bad or good thing if they seen my comments and realised I worked them out? There is so many videos on you tube, it may be unlikely but its crossed my mind? I've had no.contact with them for a long time now and feel better since I worked out what they were?

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

@@joe-yc3xz good for you... can't love anyone unless you love yourself first 🕊️

[@i.sch.4697]

They are learning how t Deceive better. Learning more tricks. Probly staying up all night , plotting even harder with new ideas , strategies and come backs . They hate these videos!!! Exposure !!! Makes finding a good Prey harder

[@PostFamilyOfOrigin]

@@joe-yc3xz NO CONTACT CURES ALL! As you know, you've GOT THIS bro!!

[@bonnieromick9397]

Yes they are a wrecking machine. My narcissistic sister in Monroe North Carolina is Narcissistically Abusing my 83 year old mom in Monroe North Carolina. I have begged her to go no contact and as she can't do it she's abused again till she's hysterical and damaged and sick. Now again she says she'll get a no contact order. If they let her. My sister is having ectasy I moments watching my mother get dangerously upset. I tell my mom action to get no contact does something. Just complaining does nothing. Teaching an 83 year old mentally fit mom that her Narcisstic daughter is no good breaks my heart. The end of my mom's life she could die under the strain of narc abuse unless she gets a no contact order from the Magistrate in Monroe North Carolina. Elder abuse down there does not recognize narcissistic abuse as abuse. Thank God we have each other and I know how to advise my mom to keep her health. Everything you said I 100 💯 percent agree to the detail. You have to change the Narc criminal NEVER WILL

[@charviecuadra9175]

No need to confront the narc..they don't really care .just walk away and never turning back.i left my ex bf narc moretan 6 years .. just walk away and have peaceful in life and love my self much.

[@LaceyMad]

Andrew is 100% spot on here! I tried confrontation years ago and ended up more frustrated and drained than before! It's not worth your energy, it's too emotionally damaging AGAIN to you/me! I wrote my feelings down instead and what i wanted to say to him, then burnt it on my BBQ. Very cathartic and healing👌. I'm 2 months, 2 weeks & 4 days into zero contact, grey rock and feel stronger already thanks to this channel 💜🇬🇧

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️💯💪

[@spreadthegospel6667]

He’s right! I made the mistake of venting and basically calling him out and it wasn’t good for me. He got extremely mad because I told him he can get a woman, he just can’t keep a woman. I honestly feared for my life, I could feel his anger. After that I walked away, no contact. Life’s be great since. I should of just kept my mouth shut… those few minutes of feeling justified, weren’t worth the fear of my life!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@shannamarie8816]

This is soooo true!!!!! I know cause I have confronted him and you do go backwards and you feel more lost!! Avoid it!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly Shanna.. thank you for sharing 🙌💯💯☀️

[@gzg5441]

I hate feeling like this. It’s killing me. Good luck to everyone stay strong

[@robertfrantz4788]

Confronting a narcissist is a waste of time.

[@Cindy-dg6vr]

You are right it doesn’t work . It makes it so much worse.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 💯💯😉😉

[@deb2319]

They do not care, its so sad when u truly figure it out. Everything is negative with them after the mask falls, there is no turn around fresh words nor fresh vibrations for them. Moving forward is for you. Peace Be With You. Love & Light. Andrew this video is excellent. Tnx, again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@maggiesullivan8821]

In reaching out to you, I found the key to my prison door, and I set myself free. I am still wobbly, but I am out the other side now. This past week, the work I have been doing regarding learning and healing, led me to the center of the damage done. The cause, the particulars of the injuries, aren't even important anymore. Yes they happened, but it is over, and the task at hand is damage control. There is no way around it. You have to go straight through it...the Dark Night of the Soul. It is actually a crucible. It contains death and rebirth. I realized I already had the answer. I already knew how to dissolve the grief that has been killing me. I commented about the burner only being guilty of being a burner, and if it is burning you, it is because you haven't removed your hand. You are in control of your pain, not the burner. The same is true of psychic injuries; of heart, mind, and soul injuries. I am in control of my pain. I have the power to stop it. Let go of it. Just let go. And I did. I will heal and come back all the way, now. Typing my thoughts out to you, has been the best therapy possible. When I heard your words and saw your eyes, this empath knew. This is someone who knows. There is not one thing I have been through that he hasn't, in one way or another. He already knows. Thank you for being there. We all need you very badly. Oh, about not confronting the narcissist? Why would I waste anymore of my light, or my life force? The textbook definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Maggie 💯🙌💯☀️🙏💯

[@Jennifer12714]

Just started my journey less than a month ago and wow has it changed my life. I don't get angry. I let her insult me and just ignore. I can tell when she looking for a fight. Seriously, knowledge is power. This journey took me 38 years to realize why I always felt guilt. Why I was treated differently in my family. Made to feel crazy and always blamed for everything even though I am an empath, the most giving person, and guess what. Narcs love that personality type and will make you their trash can right away

[@debieaves4788]

Great post @Maggie Sullivan ! I’m in full agreement with you. I particularly like your “burner” analogy. As I write this, you are 3 more months further down your path of recovery. I 🙏 you are healing and feeling peace. ✌️🤗

[@Julie-tr4ug]

Thank you for ‘journaling ‘ with us.. Your sharing ,along with Andrews info ,are like legs supporting a table. For me too. Well stated🙏

[@kimgordon3695]

Insight excellence

[@detjaggillar8081]

It's right to 100% - Do NOT confront the narc and tell them ... They will always gonna get a defense speech that YOU are a narc or crazy etc. and of course they will deny it all! Then they will started MORE of lies about You into their slander campaign against You and show them selves to other that they are a victim. Let it bee and do not let Your energy go to such things. Take Your own energy to heal and go into a good life without thinking of revenge or some shit who DON'T belong to Your new life anymore

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly Det.. thank you for sharing 🙌💯☀️💪

[@stacymurphy7407]

I had an interesting experience with this. I confronted the narcissist. The narcissist identified themselves as being a narcissist. And... They have no problem. Now that they have admitted they are a narcissist....they are free to continue to be a narcissist. Wrap your head around that. * Oh...and I also experienced everything in the video that Andrew mentioned, as well. * followed by them admitting they are a narcissist. .......................... And ultimately it's, "So what?" .......................... What a head game. They are a narcissist. They still deflect, deny, lie, push pull, stonewall, silent treatment, triangulate. All of it. With no apologies, because they continue to deny and deflect any narcissist actions. And... They like who they are and what they are. Wrap your head around that. Wrap your head around that.

[@WhineyOne]

I don't care to let him know honestly. I love having the upper hand by knowing. It's helped me to combat his attempts cause ive learned so much. He seems more confused than ever that I am now able to counter his mind games.

[@i.sch.4697]

No daily school bully ,just a daily cruel heartless father , who took everything that mattered to me ... my Family.

[@hoolahoop333]

Yes do not ever confront them. I did that bc I couldn’t hold it in and it gets worse bc you want to say something every time you notice something but you learn to talk to yourself in your head silently instead. They are so convincing until they can’t remember their own lies and change them frequently bahahaha. Pray for anyone whom has narcissistic tendencies bc it must be such a miserable existence having to fake smile so much since they are different in your face. Lol 😂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 😉😉💯💯

[@BR9900-w5l]

Excellent advice Andrew. I did confront him and of course he denied everything and still continued to lie! I wondered why I bothered.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing R W.. 🙌🙏☀️

[@P4Eight]

I really enjoy your positivity, even with such dark topics. Thank you. A month after the discard I messed up and left a few emails, thinking I could expose her.. I regret it, it definitely gave her more fuel to solidify the new supply. It's really difficult to remember why no contact is the only way, as it can also make you wonder if you're being like them. It is the only way, thank God we got out alive! God bless everyone in their journey forward

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this.. continue on the path.. 💯🙌☀️🙏❤️

[@susanruggiero589]

He called me a “Crazy C” and turned my accusations back onto me. He accused me of being a narcissist. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m so glad this nightmare is finally over! TY for everything you do Andrew. 🙏🏻 I’m extremely grateful. 💙

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯💯

[@rebeccaelle135]

Good reminder!

[@robertallen6026]

Thank you sir. I confronted my narc about cheating and got nothing but confusion out of it. Your spot on.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@TheMisssy2]

This makes me so MAD..LOL..cause I did react after the discard and left a note on his window. He did call and I did go backwards because the conversation I don't even remember what it was about, but nothing I said in the letter....I haven't contacted since...and yes he basically was non-chalant when I talked to him. I lowered myself. But, I am sure he is surprised he hasn't gotten many more letters. Silence is golden.....makes him wonder what I am up to...because I would be psycho normally, if I wasn't aware of these videos. Thank you Andrew.

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Andrew! 👍🏼 Precisely stated! 👍🏼 I believe they have spent the majority of their lives sold out to the dark side which causes them to have great pride and satisfaction in their substandard decisions. You wear yourself out trying to reason with an unreasoning individual. Then, one day, a welcomed life coach, such as yourself, explains it. The sense of obligation to tirelessly work on the relationship lifts. Life becomes nicer because you are now doing things for your own self-betterment.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Karen 🙏☀️🙌💯

[@alimccreery755]

Absolutely, well stated Karen, Hi there 😁

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You are welcome! 🙏

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@alimccreery755 Thank you!

[@alimccreery755]

@@karenzilverberg4699 any time Karen 👍

[@abez6083]

100% correct. Get out and don’t look back.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@ammj6202]

The Narc in my story- maybe if you caught them on a good day they might listen to you (doesn't mean it would matter past 24 hours). Other times- whether I commented on a concern or something that made me happy I was met with rage or silence. After my discard I thought to myself what I needed or wanted- and you know, there was so much carnage in my life because of this rage, an apology (no matter the kind) would change NOTHING for my circumstances. I keep hearing Narcissism is on a spectrum. Some people say we give them too much credit- they are dumb and more about knee jerk reactions despite outcomes, while others say they are very calculating. Andrew is right in that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If they didn't care for your feelings then, they certainly are not going to care about your feelings now. The one small justice I feel, is that the Narc's narrative is being challenged in some way that they have to post passive aggressive and vague comments on social media. This isn't new, I've seen this happen before. Point is, their reputation is a growing stain. So many people have heard and experienced enough of the toxicity that the subtle maneuvers of manipulation don't work as well anymore. The mask is exhausting for them to wear; I've watched this in action. Yes, they have their enablers, flying monkeys, and naive new supply but these things sit on their own ticking time bomb. People online will say the day you were discarded was the day you earned your freedom. Some will say it was the day God, or the universe, or divine karma was moving you out of harms way for the karma thats coming. Other's imply that "you" are the Narcs karma... perhaps your supply was of some grand value and the other sources are a mixed bag of gas station twinkies and stale chips. But how much does it matter? They are corrosive and self destructive and no amount of YOUR love or caring or insight was going to save them or protect you. What I am learning is that every second of thought you spend on your Narc and the pain and anguish you've been through.... needs to be an hour or two devoted to healing yourself and remembering your own power. The Narc gets no say in that anymore. They are crippled forever by their own shame and boiling hatred for themselves (which they target onto others)... that part is real. I got close enough to see that. Their happiness is shallow and easily disrupted. I wish I had a better story to tell. I wish narcissism wasn't a thing. But Im learning, and if you are capable of healing.... do it full force without the Narc in any way.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight thank you for sharing this message sincerely.. AM MJ..🙏💯🙌☀️

[@debieaves4788]

Very astute observations about our experiences with narcissists. Thank you! 🙏✌️❤️

[@shannonvanderhoof4810]

Full force. FABULOUS!

[@motowngirl5891]

Silence!!! NO CONTACT

[@ericrobbins9399]

Andrew, I’m very fortunate that I’m a non confrontational person by nature. This helped me in life and kept me out of trouble. Until I first fell for a woman who turned out to a drug addict. The narcissist immediately followed that. I know nothing good would come if I set out to confront the narcissist. I simply blocked on both phones and social media. I had to hire a lawyer because she sued me in frivolous cases. I live in a small town. The narcissist was staring right at me as I was crossing the street. I’m sure my eyes dilated and I looked shocked for a brief second. Luckily I was talking with another lady on my phone in left hand. I had coffee ☕️ in my right hand. I did not walk any faster. Instead I kept on walking and talking. I get halfway to my car, then the narcissist cusses and screams at me. Well I never turned around. I got into my car and drove off. She could’ve easily caught up to me if she wanted. She was a coward. Trying to get me to react but I didn’t. I would’ve poured coffee ☕️ on her if she charged after me in defense. If I wanted to say something to her, I’d have to communicate through my lawyer. It has come to that point. I have nothing to say. She’s suppose to communicate to my lawyer anything she has to say to me but she will not do that. Instead she likes to be a covert narcissist. I actual would like to know about the other woman who is a drug addict. It’s been nearly four years. I hope and pray she’s drug free now for the sake of her children. I have not seen her in four years so I may never know.

[@kathryngracey7993]

It almost never matters to the narcissist what I say unless it is to praise /compliment him. Anything else triggers him to interrupt, lecture, question and criticise me. When he asks me a question he answers it himself as if I am a merely a puppet.

[@Leesa1303]

I told my Narc that he was a narcissist and he sat quietly for a few seconds and said I don't care what you say I am not whatever you say.....

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤔🤔😉😉

[@Leesa1303]

He said I was the narcissist

[@christiecamacho1720]

Wow. Your videos are short and straight to the point. Thank you. I am going through this with my own mother. It's the worst. Your videos are definitely helpful. Keep them coming, please.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌😌😉

[@hillerm]

Thank you so much for this video. It helped me finally let go of this awful idea of confronting her sixteen years after the fact.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💜😌

[@troll23-troll23]

I have made this mistake more than once (too many narcissists in my life to practice on). At a point where the injustice of it all kills you, you just want to set the record straight, once and for all. Maybe I even got cheered on by well-meaning, but clueless people who said "you have to tell her, she has to know". So I prepared my speech, letter, confrontation, spent a lot of energy on it, sleepless nights etc. And what was the result? In the case of my mother (narcissist no. 1) she did not get a thing, denied, lied and twisted everything I said, as she had always done, then she turned the whole family against me, most family members changed into flying monkeys (including my Dad and my siblings), she also attempted turning my husband and children against me (which did not work), eventually blamed me for her stroke (years later, we were not in contact anymore) and spewed poison wherever she could. She turned into a "caricature of nastiness" (as someone called the aging narcissist). It was my desperate attempt to tell her to leave me alone, and to a certain point it worked. But it caused me a lot of agony and did not change anything for the better: the narcissist stays the same. Andrew is so right on, save your energy, your hard-earned clarity for yourself. Don't waste it on them. They already took enough from you that they never deserved.

[@kimgordon3695]

🙏🙏🙏

[@kimgordon3695]

Why did you choose Troll 23?

[@troll23-troll23]

@@kimgordon3695 My sense of humor. 1. Because I am anything but a troll and 2. because 23 is the number of our time. Watch out for it...Thanks for asking.

[@tbz1209]

"Stew in their own misery" 🤣 thank you Andrew, I needed that today. I agree 💯 ... confronting them will only leave you frustrated, exhausted, drained, and in utter disbelief... first, because they have no reasoning skills, and second, *you* will be called the narcissist, or better yet, they will enlighten you with the classic "everyone is a narcissist to some degree". 🤦‍♀️ Andrew is right, don't do it. Spend that energy on you, because it will require a lot, and I do mean A LOT

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌🙏😉

[@Jennifer12714]

I cried out to the universe yesterday, to my dad, I asked him what do I do now? What would you say if you were here" a voice in my head said "It wasn't your fault " I like to hope that was my dad telling me from this other realm where this bs doesn't exist. I felt him hug me...I wish he could again. What helped our relationship before he past was me moving 8 hours away. And visiting often but knowing I didn't have to live around that trap was my shinning light and our relationship was much better the last 5 years of his life. Regret doesn't help and would never hate him.

[@Dr.Rich27]

You are absolutely positively 100% correct!!! I spend my energy now focusing on becoming the best that I can be, until my divorce is final.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💯

[@27mmo]

What hurt me most is to feel that all we've experienced together before the discard did not mean anything to him at all. that was the sensation i got out of this.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Good morning Andrew. Prayers and good thoughts sent your way especially over the holidays. Confronting the narc is at best worthless.🕊️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Tootie..💯🙌☀️🙏

[@Jennifer12714]

Exactly 💯 Don't tell them! Even be careful with the others who were in the narc family. They will defend to the end and not admit the trauma I went through bc they can't relate or don't want to pop their bubble

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

I moved on. Walked out the Door Never came back. Cant use me feed off me. I cut the energy off. Cold Turkey

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Kimberly 💪💪🙌💯💯☀️

[@meredithyoung9200]

Hahaha.." Wow..I got this person's attention..I got them to react..I control them..this is great..I want to do it again and again"..We have to laugh or we will cry!

[@christine11347]

This video is a 💯 spot on. I know it is because I actually confronted him twice before I left and one really bad time after. I was doing great for 3 weeks had up and down days and I was feeling stronger but I was still in the tight grips of the trauma bond and fog. I tried so hard to grey rock and not take the bait and then I snapped he pushed my last button and I found the words. I confronted him with everything and then it was over. Then he looked at me with that dead stare and he projected all of his crap onto me. I could be right back there right now it was awful and I felt such guilt and anger towards myself. I had a huge setback and I hate to use that word but in that situation it was. I literally had to start from scratch. This whole process is so unnatural I totally get it but for anyone still in the early stages of the recovery and are still in the trauma bond keep rewatching this video over and over and don't do it NOTHING good will ever come out if it. Instead I would recommend journaling. Everytime I wanted to say something to him I would literally just sit there and write a letter to him. I know now I would never give it to him because honestly I do not care at all what he would think about how he hurt me. See I realized this morning I never lost my ability to love other people in my life I was actually very capable thank God but I lost my ability to love myself and for some reason I thought that was ok. You lose yourself in this abuse everyone has I am certain and it's really sad but once you realize that and rebuild everything in your life things definitely start to get brighter. Then all those people that you were still able to love even back then who love you now will benefit so much more from your healing. I am blessed to see it everyday especially in my kids. Trying to heal yourself is very difficult however I would encourage anyone at any stage in their healing path to put the focus on them. The narscistist doesn't care. So don't waste your energy on them. Take all that energy and care about yourself enough to put it all back into you. Once you are able to see your worth to yourself you can begin to move forward and continue to heal. If you keep on looking for self worth and validation from the outside world you are just going to be stuck. The only one that truly can make ourselves happy is ourself. One of the most beautiful young women in my life said to me yesterday "we will never be by ourselves we are with ourselves" and I just took pause to think how amazing that is. When you are with yourself and for yourself then the sky truly is the limit to your healing and you will never be alone again. Don't ever confront them or look for closure. Self love, dedication and self worth will bring you greater closure than you can ever imagine. As always Andrew spot on advice I couldn't agree more. 💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Christine.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@kristinej.4182]

I can totally identify with this, Christine! Well said! 👏 👍🏻 Thank you! 🙏

[@christine11347]

@@kristinej.4182 Your very welcome. Self love is really the path to happiness and empowerment. They have taken so much from us but that was the past and now it's our time to take it back. The future is all ours for the writing. Do something that makes you smile today and laugh alot it makes everything better 😊

[@toniacompton255]

Well said!! I totally agree!!

[@christine11347]

@@toniacompton255 Life is way to short. Enjoy every minute of it. Live in the present and appreciate all that you have. We will never let them or anyone else for that matter take our bright light or anything from us ever again. Thanks to our education and dedication to finding our own self worth we will continue to heal and move forward. Have a great day☺️💪💯🙏!

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

I really needed to hear it today. I agree with everything you said Andrew. Let’s move on and leave the bullying narcissist in the past. We should not have anything to do with them. Thank you 🙏 . God bless you❤

[@rodsylvestre]

It’s a blessing to know and hear from people who have actually been through a traumatizing narcissistic relationship. I have dug myself a deeper hole to climb out of each time I broke the no contact rule. Now it’s harder than before to keep no contact. But I have learned my lesson. Starting today I know Christ Jesus will give me the strength to truly stay away. Learn from my mistakes y’all. This Channel has blessed me more than you know. I thank the Lord for allowing me to come across it.

[@dianapinto79]

Thank you once again ❤ 1 year I sent him away and still struggling 😓

[@yvonnebliss9061]

❤️ I agree....they will never take accountability for their actions. They love to blame especially if they are caught out on their childish ways. Their words will never match their actions even if they say they will change when your ready to walk out the door. ...... Words that dont match their action are just cheap as they are coming from a child like energy as they have no intention behind their words. A narcissist in a court room will say " the drugs made me do it your honour " 😂 what a joke.

[@pamelakelley5535]

This is true Andrew. They are in complete denial that it could ever be them that destroyed the relationship. It's always your fault for the failure you were toxic u made them unhappy on and on. Especially when they cheat. There is never a win win with them. Your wasting your breath.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly Pamela 💯💯

[@elberethfw]

If you've finally managed to get out of the relationship and you see the narcissist, act as though you didn't see them. Keep going. Just keep going. And stay strong. Keep yourself informed and stay safe. God bless you Andrew and God bless you all. 🌠🙏🏻💕💕🕊

[@therealbronxilla]

Really good for me to see this. I think we all want justice and to understand why the narcissist did something and for them to acknowledge back to us that they wronged us. We think this will then give us closure and we will be at point where we can move on w/o the narcissist or, maybe, be with the narcissist in some healthier, controlled way. But we are looking at the anticipated scenario and the results from the point of view of a normal, good person. We project the replies and outcome of the encounter from that perspective. It's almost like a child watching a cartoon about a myth and practically "knowing" the outcome - everything ends well. But what I'm hearing from Andrew (God bless him and his work) is that this is not only wrong but potentially a huge mistake that will only drag us back into that fog of pain, hurt and confusion. Far better to go no contact and work on ourselves on an entirely separate path. God will send us other people to enrich our lives, and we will become better at telling the real, loving ones from the counterfeits.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌

[@kimgordon3695]

"seek peace & pursue it. In all your ways take notice of Him. He will make your path straight. He will make You strong." verse

[@kimgordon3695]

Proverbs 3 : 5, 6

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💯

[@jayjo77144]

Stay away from the bully (great advice ) Another great video Andrew I literally hear the Jaws theme ( in my mind ) whenever I fear a rage fit is coming 😭 Why is explaining (peace) to these individuals so hard to comprehend …….

[@lindatritt833]

This is what I’m going through right now! I did no contact 9 days ago and I’m in the anger stage. I won’t do it because I refuse to give him my energy.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙏

[@exodus1314]

Great advice! If you confront them, You will go backwards, rest assured and they get the charge they so desperately seek. You walk away feeling worse than if you simply went gray rock! I tried it several months ago when I saw them, all I got was I need Psychiatric help, I am the crazy narcissist not them. It moves you backwards, and it you've finally started moving forward. Very well put Andrew!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you exodus..💯🙌☀️🙏🙏

[@thekellers5041]

Oh you are so right. Looking back on 27 F-ing years with a N, I recognize now that I wasted so much time wallowing in totally useless conversation and it was ALL BECAUSE I didn’t yet know what a N was or that he was. I was toiling OUTSIDE the boundaries of REALITY. Once I DID know, I couldn’t ‘unsee’ it and almost instantly never wallowed again. EDUCATION is all we have to shift the earth out from underneath a situation and ground us back into REALITY. 👊🏼

[@exodus1314]

I forgot to add one thing. When I was watching Dr. Ramini's channel, she spoke about once you confront then, instead of turning it down a notch, once they know you know, they actually get worse, and more confrontational. Best thing to do especially with the holidays, is to stay far away as possible!

[@barbarathomas5827]

Yes. This is true. I needed this reminder!! What is past is gone. I won’t back track! Keep away from the bully. All you are saying is true!! Thank you Andrew! We love you! ❤❤

[@heidilight3636]

I thought love and communication and persistence and getting them to understand and deal with the fact they were abused would help, but if they are getting supply from their abusers, there is no hope

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙌

[@jayjo77144]

Spend more time figuring a way out At least that time won't be wasted

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@rebeccahowell6538]

I watched this too late. Made a lot of classic mistakes after ending things. It's because I didn't realize what I was truly dealing with. How do people understand this when the mask was effective- yes, there were cracks in the mask, but with every "discussion" he'd make me feel like he was listening and that I was getting through. The maddening thing is that someone who knew me had zero respect or empathy for me. It's just so foreign that none of us know what we are dealing with- until we've made many mistakes as well. Thanks again Andrew. Your videos do give me strength on my journey of healing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌🙏💯