Why people are increasingly choosing to spend time away from others

[@untouchable360x]

Because most people are "toxic" and mentally draining.

[@weston.weston]

Amen!

[@ericb8413]

You got it!

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

I wish this wasn't true 😞

[@MarkS-y6k]

Hell Yeah! That's the TRUTH!

[@Lucysil1970]

I love being alone. So many people just suck.

[@ano070602]

I cannot stand the whole main character and entitlement of people in public. It is impossible to go shopping, dining out, or even in public spaces without dealing with those kinds of people.

[@eddieg6436]

There is a 1000% chance I’d rather talk to my cat.

[@KarenWendt-k3w]

😂 Same.

[@lindapereboom]

Dog person here but ditto

[@eddieg6436]

@ …..ANY animal! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Majeedigital]

I've always been a loner but i am not lonely.

[@Karoke77]

EXACTLY.

[@Supernivek80]

I’m not lonely - I just don’t like people today. At all.

[@Castaway_Chuck]

"I have never found a companion as companionable as solitude", HD Thoreau. I agree completely

[@FaithTrustandPixieDust89]

Knowing how to keep your own company is a valuable life skill. No one will ever take better care of you, than you. ❤

[@SomethingSomethingg]

Yes but at the same time we also need people we really do. Humans are social creatures. I can keep my own company but to do it all the time is pretty draining

[@Here4TheHeckOfIt]

That's not the point of the video. The point is people are choosing to isolate because dealing with people has become tedious. There's no basic civility anymore. I guess a generation or two raised on reality TV shows and social media normalizes constant conflict, no matter how petty. It isn't normal. Plus, people work longer hours and are just burnt out.

[@TheBella2u]

Alone doesn’t = lonely.

[@aw4610]

It is not isolation. I just have the capacity to be content when I am by myself. I still enjoy companies of whom I find pleasant to be with.

[@gingerhill507]

The people that crave frequent social interaction are the most unhappy people I know. Let’s talk about that for once.

[@ItsMeHello555]

Amen. 🎯

[@mimiwilliams8918]

💯

[@mkhanman12345]

Don't care Kids are dying in 3rd world countries Americans will be fine and have the freedom to do what they want

[@Rex_Manning-]

AGREED 100%

[@patricialavallee8286]

Or narcissists .gotta have the white hot spotlight

[@eileenclaussen977]

I don't need anymore negativity in my life - people are toxic and make me exhausted!

[@cherylreitz4779]

Agreed...people exhaust me

[@kgreene460]

I even tried online pen pal's and it was fine for a few weeks and then the three folks that I was corresponding with freaked out over one thing or another and it hurt, it really hurt! It did not feel good! I'm done with people beyond pleasant exchanges with strangers.

[@fytghggyungf7601]

As someone that absolutely hates people, I love working from home. I rarely have to deal with the general public. It’s so peaceful ❤

[@farmingpoet]

I definitely understand. Do you have any pointers on how to get a real online job for the rest of us antisocial folks? Please and thank you.😊

[@PAIDFOR50]

When someone says they HATE people the problem is with that person and not people. Believe it or not most people are GOOD people. Liking being alone is fine but Hating people. Very sad thing to say.

[@blessedbeyondmeasure8-md1wk]

@farmingpoet A lot of the remote work I’ve done had lots of micromanaging , low pay and lack of job security . The good ones are hard to find .

[@SaveTheFuture94]

85% alone - 15% socialising is a good balance for me

[@conqueringlion420]

90/10

[@vidaacheampong2563]

What does 15 percent mean?

[@SaveTheFuture94]

@ it means as a proportion of my waking hours, every now and then I'll go out and meet people

[@weston.weston]

I agree with you! I may can get away with 75%/25%.

[@roygoldman308]

That's one of the reasons why long haul over the road truck driving has worked for me 41 years,it doesn't bother me to be on the road a few weeks at a time,I love my wife kids and grand kids but I don't need to have interaction everyday everyday.

[@TheRandomINFJ]

I actually choose solitude. Most humans are as deep as a puddle. I'd rather be with nature and animals any day. Animals are authentic.

[@tag7592]

So true

[@SparkleSunflower123]

Well the name definitely checks out. Greetings fellow INFJ!🤗❤

[@novaboy1174]

I'd argue that people who seek out social activities 24/7 are by far the unhealthy ones.

[@ninajohnson8389]

That's what this is about. It's about the need for connection

[@Vincent67337]

I seek peace. Outside my door, there is no peace. There is always someone out there looking for their next victim.

[@7knightsoftheround]

After seeing how people behaved during the pandemic, I don’t want to be around people. I especially don’t want to be around anti-intellectuals. They tend to be MAGAs. I said what I said.

[@johnnymichael1804]

Define intellectual. I'll wait patiently. And no buzzwords please.

[@sharontabor7718]

I've worked in customer-intense career choices (hospitality, retail, restaurant, tourism), I relish my alone time, and I am not lonely. People drive me nuts and exhaust me I retired last year, and love it. I've gone a week or more not leaving my house and it has been heaven. Just me and the cat.

[@ladonna2u742]

That was me! I was working brutal rotating 12 hour shifts in a noisy, often chaotic county jail. On my days off, the last thing I wanted to do was interact with people. Now that I’m retired, I have the option of human interaction or not😊. I’ll take doggies over people any day🥰🥰🤗

[@coopart1]

A soon to retire hairstylist agrees with you!

[@nolaheart]

We are exhausted

[@brandytorretta3701]

It’s because people are varying degrees of toxic, not working on their sh*t, and they don’t know how to have healthy relationships. The older you get the less tolerance and patience you have.

[@singularspace2782]

I used to be a people person.... but people ruined it.

[@TheSimmpleTruth]

In my case, I prefer to go out at night and be home during the day and see friends every now and then. That is because people out there have become so hostile, angry, rude, evil that I can’t stand being around people. When I go out, I get stressed out by people. So, I do my groceries and shopping online or in stores that open 24/7 or are open until late, let’s say 11pm-12m.

[@brianbarnes7774]

I will be more social with people, when they learn how to be sociable. Is it really asking too much of someone not to be talking loudly on their cell phone, or flipping out on someone because their food order was wrong?

[@teedamartoccia6075]

Stop over analyzing it; alone time is peaceful and priceless.

[@adammitchell3462]

Im 36, never married,no kids and i am a pretty isolated guy but i really think having a partner would annoy me more than anything...i kinda like being like this

[@MSRez95]

48 and same as you😂

[@Teefs69]

I feel tired whenever i talk to people.

[@KD-up3sz]

lol. Same

[@craigwynne8209]

46, same as you. I like people, but I don't want them living in my space.

[@adamhuffman3354]

Yea Adam same here. Solitude is blissful solace.

[@tristramstout8988]

I’m 67. I’ve a been a “loaner” all my life. I get nervous and anxious when I have to be around people. My blood pressure goes up, my heart rate, and no doubt other biological factors are affected when I have to be around others. I’m much better health wise staying away from social occasions.

[@conqueringlion420]

Bless you

[@SomethingSomethingg]

Did you ever think to work on those problems and grow stronger?

[@SomethingSomethingg]

I'm the same way but at the same time I don't understand this new idea that we should just give up and wear our weaknesses like it's a badge of honor. I still travel. I still talk to people. It's hard but it gets easier and easier. I don't want to be a weakling my whole life

[@somedude-tr1mj]

@@SomethingSomethingg But in some cases it's not true that it gets easier, and since they also said they're 67, there's a good bet that they have worked on those problems through different means, and even after working on them, the issue still persists.

[@Heather9Y]

It’s interesting how someone can express that being alone at a bar, away from his toddler, feels like "the next thing to heaven." I wonder if he realizes that being alone at home can also offer a sense of happiness and fulfillment. He might assume that when I'm alone, I'm just on social media, but in reality, I truly enjoy spending that time reading, writing, listening to music, or learning a new skill. For me, solitude is often more satisfying than being in a social setting. Perhaps he could take a moment to reflect on his own views rather than focus on how others choose to spend their time.

[@patricialavallee8286]

He can't cope with the realities of having children .it's a 24/7 job .even when they're grown. They'll need you .he probably didn't have them until late in life, mid late thirties..it was all about him. Career, lots of money to spend on self, and a genuine free leg to do as one pleases when one pleases. The phrase today for these late bloomers is, adulting. Having a night out is one thing, but if if a habitual get the babysitter, leave it with the nanny scenario, more than not, to go hang out at jugs pub getting loaded, crying in your beer until they throw yiu out after last call, you got a problem PS don't have anymore kids Just sayin...

[@coopart1]

Many loners are realizing it’s ok to be alone. Especially when the general population puts a mountain of expectations on you to compete, join their bandwagon. Consumerism could be dying out. Individual joys of enjoying quiet and embrace of nature is on the rise 👍

[@free2beme375]

Extrovert here! The mental Instability that has been running rampant since Covid has forced me to become Introverted and it’s been hard but I don’t have the capacity for this foolishness going in in these United States

[@juliethompson8685]

Too much, isn't it!!!!

[@TheRelaxationWorks]

I sense the presence of a fellow ENTJ. In any case, I share your sentiments!

[@KeithNagel]

"It's not that I dislike people. It's just that I feel better when they are not around" Charles Bukowski

[@stephanied1028]

I would love to spend time with others. Unfortunately, people are so ill mannered it makes you dislike spending time with others. People are self centered and spend half the time talking about others. If they’re talking about others behind their back, they are certainly talking about you.

[@LovingTheBrauns]

I wish "experts" would 🛑 framing social isolation in such negative terms. I feel so much happier and safer being alone. If I want social interaction, I will venture out. But you have to remember, venturing out is not as safe as it used to be. There are a lot of bat 💩 crazy people out there, doing bat 💩 crazy things, and you never know when you're going to encounter one of them. So, thanks, but no thanks. I'd rather stay in the comfort and security of my own abode to guarantee my safety.

[@Majeedigital]

Me too

[@sunshinedaisy9879]

Yes amen

[@TheSimmpleTruth]

Well said. That’s why I don’t like to go out either. It stresses me out and I’m on the alert for the next Karen or crazy person that would target me for no reason.

[@juliethompson8685]

Home and family (dogs) are the only ones that matter to me. The human race has grown too caustic.

[@PolarisAb]

Not everyone is an extrovert like this guy. I find frequent social interactions mentally and physically exhausting. I enjoy my alone time. I don't need some "expert" going on TV to tell me that I am broken just because I don't spend the majority of my time socializing. If you are lonely, find others or one person who you can socialize with on occasion, but don't expect everyone else to be your entertainment. Create your own entertainment and find a hobby you can do alone. I feel like extroverts expect everyone else to entertain them as if everyone around them are trained monkeys whose only purpose is to perform for them. It's an incredibly narcissistic behavior and I think most of the extroverts I have known are some of the most manipulative and toxic people I have ever met. So I don't need lectures about how being an introvert is bad for my health or mental wellbeing. I simply want to be left alone and not bothered. I'm content with my life of simplicity.

[@SonyaTheSidePieceCrumbSnatcher]

The return to office work crowd is definitely that type of extrovert and they are making everyone else's lives miserable (in addition to wasting money on renting office space.)

[@vidaacheampong2563]

Its because of social media... It ruined life

[@h7opolo]

anti-sociality is not the same as social avoidance. fail.

[@michaelmcginsie2600]

I have always said about myself. “I am my own best company”. The older I get, most humans bore me.

[@shiningstar5540]

Leaving the house is scary in 2025. It's safer at home. The more friends one has, the more problems one has

[@SomethingSomethingg]

Yikes lol is it really scary or is it scary because people on the TV tell you it's scary?

[@shiningstar5540]

@@SomethingSomethingg No, its really scary. Lots of loonies out there

[@74GenX]

We introverts have been enjoying alone time for decades 😂

[@Rex_Manning-]

Because people suck. And people are increasingly becoming more and more sucky. I mean, look at the state of our current political system. People really suck.

[@Castaway_Chuck]

It's OK to be an introvert and read, think and do whatever you want, whenever you want. I used to be a people person, but people ruined it.

[@ReginaPhalangee]

The social exposure I get at work is PLENTY. The rest of the time is spent in SOLITUDE and I love it.

[@SomethingSomethingg]

I know and I hate this because it's just getting lonelier and lonelier. I do miss when people were just a little more interactive. I miss feeling like somebody cared about me other than my mother.

[@KanaeArie]

As somebody that have been treated soooo bad since her childhood,I prefer to be alone.It makes me really uncomfortable to be around a lot of people.But I do like to be around people for shorts periods of time.I appreciate my alone time.🤷💖

[@redcomet0079]

People are awful and selfish

[@tomdrummy4984]

Because the biggest challenge in life is……..other people. People make life complicated……when it isn’t 🙂

[@tarawhite4419]

I'm alone and I'm just fine

[@susanbrennan5511]

There is no problem with being alone. My husband soulmate of 24 years died 15 years ago. I spent the next 3 years trying to find another. Didn’t happen. I am alone and happy to be that way. I come home after work and there is no one I want to talk to no one I want to be with except myself. And I am happy.

[@patoconnor9600]

I don't dislike people but my favorite getaway is heading into the wilderness with my solo canoe for two weeks, the fewer people I see the better. Most people I socialize with are on their devices most of the time anyways lol.

[@anitarao4932]

Idk if it’s about being lonely. But rather spending time with real friends. Quality over quantity.

[@weston.weston]

Excellent point!!

[@rvrgrrl]

His point about our alone time being crowded due to social media is such a good one. A little is okay, but I get the impression that many of us get on social media *whenever* we’re alone, and I don’t believe that’s healthy for us. We *do* need alone time, but we need that time to build us up instead of drain us and make us angry or more anxious! Over the past year I’ve been trying to be more aware of my time. At some point, I thought - what did I used to do with my time before I had this cell phone? I was busy, my time was filled, I wasn’t bored, so what was I doing? I used to be so creative! I made things with my own hands! I hiked in the forest, read real books, tried out interesting recipes, made soap, worked in the yard…We only have so many hours in a day, and I’m really feeling the need to reclaim those hours in meaningful ways, especially in the time I have left. Many times that doesn’t include other people, but I like to choose when I’m going to be social.

[@user-os7fi6bl6k]

i very much enjoy quiet time alone, say, playing a game on the computer or making art or something, but I have been feeling isolated for a long long time, decades maybe... and I never felt really good at being social, anyhow. I always felt awkward socially and now it's really hard to even speak to people I don't know sometimes because words come out wrong and I get flustered and it's just hard to talk. I feel so alone and abandoned. It makes my heart and head hurt and it's bad when you are asked for references, or emergency contacts and there's nobody, really, that you want them to call.

[@TheSimmpleTruth]

Maybe joining an online community that do what you like to do, like your hobby would easy out the transition. You don’t have to keep the camera on,at least, I don’t do it. But you will be able to feel safer because you ca control the situation.

[@FerrisRomero-em8tq]

I give off an impression of inauthenticity during social interactions because the truth is: I'd rather not be interacting

[@lalida6432]

Just can’t take other people anymore.

[@davidb71184]

Outside of work my husband and I only spend time with each other for the most part, because most people really suck.

[@Benz5469]

I've always been a loner, but not necessarily by choice. I used to literally beg people to give a damn, but I'm way too old for that these days and just simply don't have the energy for it anymore. Being anti social is the new norm in society, unfortunately and I've learned to just accept that.

[@saracash7959]

I like to deal with who I like. I don’t mind not being around people. Especially not a whole lot of folks.

[@OhSankYouDoktor]

I moved into an apartment I love two years ago. I'm surrounded by nice things - my books, my movies, my pictures and posters. I love being in my apartment, and to me an ideal day is when I don't have to schlep to the store for something and can just stay in. I work on-site in an office four days a week, and though my commute is thankfully short, the chaos of the crowds and subway and garbage everywhere (yes, I live in NYC) just makes me appreciate being alone in my comfortable own place. Yes, I get lonely but having never married, the idea of living with a girlfriend or wife terrifies me. I get bored of people very easily, and I have found after sex I just want the person to leave and I want to be alone. So not exactly great boyfriend/husband material here. Thankfully I have my best friend who lives close by, and we usually hang out every weekend and also go on vacations about once a year. So I have one great friend, others who I mainly text with. Some days are better than others. In the end, it all sucks, but I do not have the time, energy or desire to waste money on "modern" women who only play games. In that sense, it is definitely better to be alone, especially when you enjoy your living space.

[@BrianLockett]

We could be brothers from other mothers.

[@marym.garcia4147]

Well said and I appreciate your candor. Enjoy your day.

[@adrijackson9429]

So tired of all these surveys and statistics. People want to be alone because of the rampant crime, mental illness, greed, selfishness etc. Sometimes we rather be home than deal with humans that this country has neglected to hold accountable. Peace is needed, not all of the other insanity.

[@violetgilkes3625]

I don’t dislike others, but I have chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) and sleep deprived, I just don’t have the energy to socialize much 😢😢😢

[@BrianLockett]

Count me as such one. Personally, I just find more peace as a person when I'm alone and busy with an interest, than I ever do when around others. I'm rarely lonely and I'm never bored. I find that, more and more, you have to fake a lot of conversation, emotions, and listening, just to deal with people. I don't even like talking to my own immediate family, half the time. Same deal. Niceties and small-talk and fake laughs. Nah, to be alone sometimes is a chance to be real and just reflect on life without the constant drama and distractions called "People." Also, pets generally make for better company than people.

[@karronlaneNOLA]

the crazier our world becomes, the more we want to spend time alone - not lonliness. i don't think he's in touch with what's really going on out here. no worries. carry on loners.

[@melbamartinez2183]

Alone is a state of mind.

[@osielramirez7274]

Being lonely and spending time on yourself are 2 different things. Some of us spend all day taking care of family and interacting with others at work. Sometimes I just wanna go eat a bowl of Pho by myself and enjoy the scenery in peace

[@pinkroses135]

We have an epidemic of people not doing the work on themselves. Whether it's the people we avoid or us.

[@jennifershanks453]

People are getting less and less social skills.

[@julioc.gavotti7276]

Putting up with people's BS is overrated.

[@whimsicalhamster88]

I mean, have you met "others" in the US? Generally they're not so great.

[@monaedoyle3631]

I like being home and reading a good book. I am a single woman and getting off work and spending time at home reading is absolutely nice. I don’t mind spending time by myself and doing something I enjoy.

[@scottdavis2711]

Being single sucks! All I get to do is what I want all the time. Freedom!

[@liram1971]

The internet, computers, hand held devices have made humans less social. I'm ok with that though. These mediums have shown me I don't want to be around the majority of people.

[@Shernks]

If so many people commenting on this thread say they are happier being away from others, so alone not lonely, I think the psychologists are full of it! 😍

[@Mossy-Rock]

The problem is that people have lost the ability to have enjoyable, meaningful F2F conversations. I'm seeing it and so is my partner and a few others that I have asked, "what the heck is going on with people?" We're finding that they don't listen, they hijack the conversation and then never stop talking, or start spouting nonsense and illogic (pseudoscience, conspiracy theories) or start foisting their religious or spiritual values upon me. There was a time, believe it or not, when I could sit down with a friend for hours and we had healthy and fun back-and-forths. They actually listened and asked questions and kept the conversation going. This is gotten to be so rare that I'd rather just be alone most of the time.

[@sacredhand]

Do you understand the only people can ruin your life! Used to be a people person but people ruined it for me. I am so much happier and more productive being along and doing my own thing! Seems to work for on all levels, spiritual, creative, general happiness and productivity!

[@nancysmith3400]

I think Over socializing is way over rated. Find out what works for you as an individual. Balance and personal awareness takes years to explore, and master.

[@missbrownskinlady23]

I been a loner, im anti social society in general is a waste and humans is toxic in general i found my peace and happiness in my beautiful apartment and i will adopt a cat which i will spoil and give all my attention to, my apartment is my sanctuary it's where i have my privacy and it is where im the boss. ❤😌✌🏽

[@farmingpoet]

I believe in being alone here in America because everyone is racially, politically, and religiously deceiving so why bother. Id rather watch my movies or go fishing or farm alone. I spend time when I'm making money. That's the nature of capitalism. Americans are apathetic towards each others pain and suffering. Therapy helps more than people. Especially now. We need time to process the very real dangers of going out or being around people that are going through things. Forcing these relationships don't help anyone. It's why Americans aren't marrying anymore and the divorce rate has climbed substantially. It's that time in America where everyone knows or feels the same frustrations but we're not taught to deal with them just hide, but you can only bury your feelings for so long.

[@Theresebonath6077]

Since social media came ppl have forgot how to socialize and this have created an epidemic in lonliness that is mentally not good for us. Ppl dont call eachother anymore its only text which creates that ppl are losing their ability to communicate. We have become more and more selfish aswell which is awful. I dont like my lonliness but i have become so isolated for many years now that even though i want to have ppl around me at times i have become scared because i dont like how many ppl are these days.

[@stache1954]

Whoever is doing wardrobe for this should be replaced. Her dress has hanger bumps.

[@ravisookdeo8618]

Yes because people are stupid and we don't have time for nonsense!

[@Dahnoie]

I think they miss what is probably the root cause, like so many "issues" do. I think people feel worse than they used to, they are less healthy, have less time to prepare decent foods, etc. More and more toxins in our homes and environments. For whatever reason, people may just feel more tired and worn and with that comes less energy for going places and doing things.

[@ConnieBach]

So true! People are closer to people on line across the globe whom they've never met than their friends or neighbors.

[@krisk3363]

Duh there is NO TIME for personal life. Work culture is shaping us

[@EricAndradeMusic]

Because most people just bring problems into your life. I have a few people that I'm close to and that's about it. One or two friends that I can go to if I need something or if they need something but that's it.

[@KD-up3sz]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!

[@violetgilkes3625]

I also feel stress when there’s too much going on around me, I end up exhausted after spending time with others 🥵🥵🥵

[@jimwile9313]

Not at all lonely, gone to movies by myself my whole life. I was forced to be around people by work. Now I am retired and I avoid going out. People pretty much aren't worth being around. If I get lonely I will get another cat or a dog.

[@Carlos00762]

Now living is Spain. Much a more social country. Everyone lives on the street and are always together. Much healthier lifestyle.

[@BriggitteBuchanan]

I like spending time alone, therefore I don't feel lonely. Before technology took over, people use to have real friendships and friends. We use to be tethered to each other. Most of all we use to love each other enough to find common ground. I don't know if we will ever get that back.

[@Shantelle6253]

Got a call today. I declined the call and sent a text that i have no voice and am sick in bed with the flu. Their response? To just listen to them vent. THAT is why I dont "People".

[@caroletuthill3075]

Technology has changed the way people interact for sure. Sick of digital world. 😅. Apps, shopping social media blah blah .. he s missing the effect of Technology

[@ElphabaThe2nd]

Well maybe we would desire more social interaction if we weren’t forced to spend 8+ hours a day working with people who aren’t our close family and friends…

[@VictorRook]

Once again, it is the result of cell phones and social media. We were not meant to read and take in so many comments and judgements (mostly negative) from other people in a given day.

[@jivefive99]

The loss of the middle class results in wealthy people with access to high-priced social media (like an interview on CBS) staying away from the larger group of poorer people who we've been cultured into thinking can do us no good, so why bother interacting with them at all?

[@jrr4475]

17 month old? Give me a break.

[@bmwlane8834]

Reading all these comments....I didn't realize how many people feel like me!!!

[@ProCoach2373]

I could go days without speaking to anyone. There are times when my brain just wants to rest and be. I'm of the philosophy to be highly engaged or disengaged. I don't do well in the middle. Thankfully, I'm moving out of the big city very soon into a small country town. It's far more peaceful naturally.

[@crisscrosschristina]

This video doesn't address the "why".

[@ericmcbrian1638]

This guy is 100% correct.