why relationships fail

[@jordanshanks5340]

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[@Zyxxx101]

Why sign up for self help when i can just do meth?

[@Danjii123]

It'll never let you down.

[@beastamer1990s]

Coz then you have to sign up for quick cash schemes instead. That's how they get you

[@85priesty]

Just have kids with a "supplier" 😂

[@blazz9237]

A trick I'm using, when stressing and anxious, is to try to build hope for the future in my mind instead of sadness over the present or the past.

[@TheKrispyfort]

Think about how far you've come from your starting point instead of the current location in Life

[@Tekikasou]

Cheers Jordan. Iv been putting allot of this stuff into practice recently and yesterday i finally looked around at where i was in life and realised that iv been in a relationship for 3 years, bought a house, got a new job (at parliament house), taken up some martial arts and i read more. kinda a big shift when to think 3 years ago i was playing video games all day living rent free at my relatives..... and i got it ALL without paying you a cent. thank you, i might actually sign up now.

[@daisyasbury9593]

when he's so australian, you don't know if he's saying presents, presence, or prisons

[@chedz1l]

wouldnt that be kiwi accent , ozzy accent pre ezy to tell differenve between those 3 unless they from Melbourne

[@joelmurdoch]

According to the closed captions he was saying presidents sometimes

[@infernalstan886]

Well yeah, presents and presence are homophones after all 😅

[@samhampton6771]

I’m very good at making relationships last. A month.

[@penelophymorley4005]

For me it’s about 2 😂😂

[@michaelh3023]

I do my bit but sometimes a bloke has to stare into space for over an hour contemplating their next move in the rpg they are currently playing

[@TheKrispyfort]

The Nothing Box Achieving high levels of meditation Which RPG system?

[@adibden1943]

This is SUPER helpful (targeted, applicable tips). Love it J-Shanks.

[@gandalf8216]

Pride is the bane of healthy communication. Relationships are easy, if both parts swallow their goddamn pride. I'm post three marriages, all of them ended amicably. No fuss, no drama, just the realization paths happen to diverge. They could've forced me to follow their paths, or I could've convinced them to follow mine, but we all know, that would end in catastrophe. Most relationships, especially marriages, ends in separation anyway. We only got one life, the comfort of being in the comfort zone of relationship is simply not worth it. Carlton is pointing at his head here, be smart boys. One life, but many, many possibilities for relationships and marriages within a life. Risk vs. reward, after all.

[@MissusAnon]

_Me: abstaining from relationships altogether, the ultimate gamer move_ 🤓* fixes glasses *

[@thedonFC]

Ha, as an autistic person, I read body language, facial micro expressions, and vocal expressions to the point I can tell how someone is feeling or lying and it’s a curse 😢 even if I have never met them or talking over the phone

[@maia_key]

can confirm i dragged my ex to the railway museum in adelaide and three months later: break-up. Maybe he was internally homophobic or maybe I’m just ugly AND auDHD. who knows.

[@TheKrispyfort]

What sort of trains are in there?

[@maia_key]

@@TheKrispyfort Lots of SAR stuff from memory, and a working semaphore arm I played with for a good 5 minutes. Been practically single since.

[@andrewmtgx]

LOL

[@infernalstan886]

​@@maia_keymy handy tip would be to go to a few of those things with your prospective partner before you start dating. I've found having a solid friendship first makes for a healthier romantic relationship later 🙂

[@OfficialAshArcher]

Being autistic in a relationship these days is tough; I try to compromise with my partner, as compromise is important and why relationships used to last a lifetime, but these days no one wants to - it’s what they want or nothing - and sadly there are some things I can’t compromise on, like eating certain foods or listening to certain sounds

[@CutterboyBK]

Thanks Jordan

[@Suchwerewolf]

I’m great at not failing relationships, I just chronically avoid human contact 👍

[@TheMissOmni]

I *am* autistic and I was MORE present in a relationship that my "normie" partner.... hence the reason they are bye felicia.

[@TheMissOmni]

Also, watching this ramble has me feeling like I've just joined some sort of CULT... wtf Jordan?!

[@andrewmtgx]

​welcome 😂😂😂

[@Al-hp7lq]

Bloody profound jordan good on you. Grateful to hear this issue raised. You're like Tony Robbins for 20yr olds. 🙏

[@wobblysauce]

It tickles... and I taste purple.

[@TheKrispyfort]

Same thing applies to the relationship between parent and child. Spend time getting to know your kids. Read to your kids. Converse with your kids. Play with your kids. My relationship with the present moment is listening to Jordan And now missing The Ex. I want to remain missing The Ex. He's not welcome back. Breathing is good AND so is dropping your shoulders. When angry, scream "bubbles" in a terrifying manner. Betcha cant

[@damiandunbar6702]

You’re right you know. I did touch my brain with the 4 colours of the pen.😂

[@ZombieWomb]

Twelve years with my wife, 18 years old to us both being 30 now.. I found that if I took even ten minutes relating to things my wife likes, even if I am not interested in it then go about asking questions and putting my phone down has gone so far for us. Time spent together too, ensure you do things just together and it doesn't even have to cost much.

[@nope1083]

Thanks for your kind works my parasocial friend.

[@MrEvilSprinkles]

Can’t fuck it up if you don’t play 😎

[@doobz2154]

Welp I done all these numerous times ffuuuccckkk. What good timing for a video

[@kvltofsobek90]

I swear his hair is different in every video for the past week

[@The_Jupiter2_Mission]

Some maybe old unpublished videos.

[@flowerslept]

Perfect time for a video like this after getting slapped by my housemate during a heated argument over moving out.

[@mrdobalina3451]

I wish I was more autistic but I’ve never been very creative. I’d like to play an instrument or paint a nice painting. I guess I’ll never be an autist.

[@andrewmtgx]

as a potential autist i wish i could express my creative endeavour but I'm shit at drawing / music stuff LOL

[@redwiltshire1816]

The reason I believe relationships fail so often especially recently is because people put pressure on themselves to have this perfect relationship and not to be lonely and people just don’t work on themselves which we all should do

[@boble222]

Love the feel of these videos 😂

[@WaddupBoi]

yay secret video

[@samhampton6771]

Woah

[@我的家-j4b]

An unlisty? Oooh

[@PneumaticFrog]

80s matress salesman ahhhhh haircut jordan. with love from another jordan

[@maxbracegirdle9990]

I think relationships are so much different now (yeah, newsflash I know) but like think about it. In our parents and grandparents generation, you'd leave home at 7am and not have any contact til like 6pm. These days you can talk to someone 24/7 and it creates a lot more of a different situation where you need to be on all the time. You also have less to talk about since you're just always in touch

[@fredio54]

This feels like a straw clutch at advertising dollars. Not to your usual quality.

[@fredio54]

Oh this is a new channel. The above comment was not in that context and stings a bit more now as it remains potentially pertinent. Sorry!

[@lokilover1315]

So... Finger and toe check, without the finger check, and breathe. Because constant eye contact is out of the question. .. Got it.

[@ryan8488]

Comment before I possibly could have watched the whole video

[@TheKrispyfort]

🏆

[@adriannashaw7523]

Been married for almost 12 years…

[@Darkshadoz]

Remember when the teacher gave us Power Point slide assignments, AY MAYBE YOU SHOULD DO THIS! (My request steps to be better than u are now)

[@maxped8793]

Forever alone lmao

[@Violetvampire34]

How did you know that I was wiggling my toes ?

[@kitsune9213]

2:28 😂😂😂 average jordies domestic argument

[@maxped8793]

Are you ok?

[@MikoyanGurevichMiG21]

Comments 5 months old on a video that's literally been out for half an hour.. what crack is youtube on today?

[@TheKrispyfort]

Must be Methday

[@girlvoid]

Idk man I'm more present in my relationship than I am with myself haha.

[@mts108]

Happy Xmas 🎄

[@andrewmtgx]

XD NOT THE TRAINS

[@vegeta_205]

It’s that 80s guy again discoman

[@Micklepickle94]

Idk where I'm meant to comment for content but can you please give us slower species a run down on what the fuck the budget is and how is it gonna effect is poor people

[@BecauseMikaelaSaidSo]

I highly recommend you read this book, ‘The 7 rules of making marriage work’ by John Gottman. It’s based on years of longitudinal data on thousands of couples, and it closely mirrors what you’re saying in this video, except it adds in some extra stuff about the specific ways to respond to what they label ‘bids’ for attention 😊

[@fredio54]

2x decade plus, the latter still going, maybe I don't need this one ;-)

[@philm.5236]

Boys could you update the spotify account and add more episodes to it 🥺

[@Lefthandedbanana]

Instructions unclear, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up cause i like men and she doesn't ??????????

[@masonguerini5362]

Work harder on yourself then your job.

[@LazyRare]

Thanks. I'm stealing this information and I will not credit you

[@LazyRare]

Although it would be weird if I was just talking to someone and then said I learnt how to do this from a video

[@steadytrousers9813]

I’m shitting to this guys 🎉🎉

[@nathan84544]

Same

[@ChevySamk]

it's because of the mixed bag of worldviews that don't elevate these things and maybe more: their state of thinking, their 2nd guessing towards their own thoughts, and self awareness (the last two are kind of the same). christianity is superior on this regard. the first worlders of this generation easily orbit around what gives them temporary worldly pleasures instead of something/someone infinite. a few can get out of it without god but they cannot justify why their way of living is superior without god as a reference point.

[@monicagrorud2225]

That accent you do , is that being influenced by the folk that live in western Sydney. Or is it a stigmatism?

[@notfred9098]

You guys are in relationships?

[@_s3raph1m_20]

I just watched a guy wiggle his big toe while giving relationship advice for 10 minutes

[@OB.x]

Ez. Become good friends which a chick who one like girls. 😢

[@skoovee]

how about you make your name accurate first

[@TheRoosterStudio]

Are you drunk Jordan?

[@MultiChrisjb]

How is this really self-help, if someone else is coaching you to do?

[@mts108]

Sup bruss

[@David-te9su]

600 views, man, jordan fell off

[@Jonathan-Shadow]

60% of the time. *It works every time*

[@Robo67-24]

Fucked if i know what he is talking about.

[@faenorsjewel5618]

WHAT THE FRELL IS UP WITH YOUR HAIR?

[@Jonathan-Shadow]

Sid/Tintin hybrid

[@jaydeSpade9618]

🧘‍♀️

[@MaowMaow5]

I feel like this would have made a lot more sense as a 15 second tiktik 🤣

[@andrewmtgx]

Hahahahhaha

[@Ligh7Bulb]

These people here must all be shadow banned like I am. They all got like no likes pretty much

[@Jonathan-Shadow]

Welcome to the Shadow Realm

[@infernalstan886]

Probs more likely that not many people are looking at the comments

[@elefant7143]

first??

[@TheKrispyfort]

🏆

[@jaydeSpade9618]

❤️🇵🇸🍉❤️

[@AncientRylanor69]

a😆😬