Why She Can't Commit To You

[@akasickform]

If someone says they will call you, and they don't.. ..Walk away. They do not respect you or your time.

[@slip-n-slide4807]

For me it changed the moment we had a child together... we were high school sweethearts, together for nearly 5 years and she was always more committed/invested in our relationship than I was and she was the one who wanted the child, and once it happened and I devoted myself entirely to our family she lost that "chase" and wanted to go party... 10 years of separation and me having sole custody while she partied every night, did all the drugs you can think of (literally), and hooked up with more guys than I can count, she came back and said she was just lost and being with me and our son was all she wanted. It lasted 1 month before she left again for that same lifestyle... parent life bored her. It's not as fun as the night life in Austin and requires too many sacrifices. I found this channel after she left 2 months ago and it's helped tremendously, but unfortunately she's already been with 2 other guys (that I know of) since. Plus she had been texting multiple guys the whole time she was here. I'm beginning to realize some people won't change... not even for their own children

[@kursengamer4699]

So sorry for your struggles. Hang in there and love up your child.

[@camellia8625]

I am so sorry, I hope you have a good support network and are also getting some professional help as it sounds like a very tenuous situation you are in.

[@christianbarrientos8267]

It sucks to care about people who don’t care about themselves,

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

Yes, in our modern times the men are often more anxious and the beautiful women are often extremely avoidant and full of unresolved trauma... probably stemming from their family but also because their beauty attracts all kinds of people and situations.

[@ronmexico8383]

If she says her past relationship was toxic it means SHE WAS TOXIC, not him.

[@jayl1712]

Wow Craig. Hit the nail on the head. Your insight unbelievable. And resonating w/ me in my current situation.

[@MonsterTomten]

That part about her telling him she would read and reply later hit close to me. My ex broke up with me and blamed me for everything, since we have mutual friends I wanted to make it amicable. I drove to her and left her stuff, we talked a bit and then I was off. A few days later when I had the chance to let it all sink in I texted her. I wanted her to understand how I felt about the breakup and share my side of the story. I had fallen short due to alot of stress in different aspects of my life but I also told her where I think she fell short and I really wished more understanding from her. I also told her that I wanted to be with her. She told me she would reply later but a reply never came. A few weeks later I found out from a mutual friend that she was already in a new relationship, just a week after breaking up with me. With someone she had had contact with for a while

[@kursengamer4699]

That is so upsetting and heartbreaking, similar happened to me.

[@camellia8625]

Such likely monkey branching (lining up a new person before ending the relationship) is in very poor form

[@alohayoutube]

This girl's a lemon, and, at the very best, you're her backup plan! Walk away with your head held high.

[@StaticCollapse]

In my case, there was another guy.

[@mountainman88]

Most situations probably. Keeping options open.

[@Ahicksaf]

bro Trust me she couldn't commit to the new guy either! lol 😂 in fact she committed to me more than the new guy, it was over in 3 month. Our relationship was a 2 years on and off. I actually did better than the other guy. The point here is that it's her problem, she gave me random reasons for the breakup only to hide her incapacity to commit. I know this because the breakup doesn't make sense

[@StaticCollapse]

@@Ahicksaf yeah, she fed me conflicting information. Her loss at this point.

[@JohnSmith-ij4xe]

I am going through this but I was the one not wanting to commit because she has this kind of problem and would not have a heart to heart talk. She even hand signed she loves me but could not say it. What ended things is when she said she doesn’t trust me and I asked her why don’t you trust me and she blow up. To this day she never answered me on why she doesn’t trust me. She instead started acting like she does trust me to manipulate me but I wasn’t buying it. I asked her a direct question but she gaslighted me instead. 😢 I know and have always known she has problems BUT we bonded really tight before I realized how hurt and scared she is inside. What I found odd is she everyone could ask her anything and she would answer just fine BUT as soon as I would ask the same question she would get all upset and angry as if because she was traumatized by loved ones when she was a kid it’s her scape goat out of the conversation. Thankfully she moved on to someone else so she’s not attached to me anymore but it still hurts not knowing why someone doesn’t trust you if they love you(I am sure she no longer does love me). I bet she didn’t trust her feelings she had for me but she didn’t know how to word it correctly.

[@Zemohc]

See. This is what I've been saying. Doesn't matter how much work you do on yourself. You gotta make sure that other person is on the same page. You could do all the work under the sun and become a literal saint. That doesn't mean other people have done even a fraction of that work.

[@kursengamer4699]

I like being reassured and pursued(anxious)

[@brendaurbina8874]

Yes, courting.

[@Michelle-jr8ql]

He was her rebound

[@roseclimbpaintcont]

P That's not going to work with me because people have gotten so mad at me for expressing my feelings that I will never instigate again. I will never ask for a commitment. I will never ask for a relationship. In fact I may not even try to set a date again

[@roseclimbpaintcont]

When guys do this to me online? First of all I think it's a scam but second of all I often just think they don't value me either because they only see me as someone pretty and so I'm like a trophy

[@brego12317]

Sounds like a headache to me

[@LM_612]

She sounds not dateable tbh. Walk away and let her sort herself out. You're settling for crumbs my dude

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

after 19 dates... he expressed that he missed her after she vanished for a month.. obviously understandable.. but she was not on that page, perhaps she belongs to the streets 😁

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

it looks like she is avoidantly playing the field.. his idea of sex was intimate.. she can pick up on that.. she was avoidant intimacy and probably enjoying the shallow kind of sex out there.. we can all do better than that

[@breatheliveandthrive7404]

They are not that into you or the sexual attraction is not intense.