Why So Many Men Buy Sex In Japan

[@belmarmom]

With the husbands working long hours, sometimes even in different prefectures, the wives are essentially single mothers. They're exhausted and so are their husbands. If working hours were cut back to no more than ten hours per day, couples would have more time for themselves; they would be able spend quality time with each other and their children. It's hard to be married to a stressed out zombie.

[@TheOmletMaster]

I agree. *Reduce Work Hours*

[@morgonfr33m4n1337z]

It's crazy how much of these problems are root caused by the severe lack of work-life balance

[@nicolai8820]

Japan really needs drastic Work hour reduction and free College. If no they will dismantle their own society.

[@tenaciousrodent6251]

You can get a lot of things in life by grinding. But love will never be one of those.

[@veetour]

Love is conditional. No woman is going to love you if you don’t provide any benefits to her.

[@cloudslady3400]

@@veetourwell I actually loved my ex with zero benefits…cause I was young and reckless he never even bought me a bottle of water never touched my hands never been there to any of my sad or happy moments…all he wanted to participate in is nagging about his issues with a female therapist that is ten years younger than him….and get some comfortable words Women that take nothing exist but men see no value taken as no value given… !! if I don’t set a price to my existence I’ll be free and men who take free things are broke and can’t afford the pricey women..once he is good financially time to switch to a higher in status woman !

[@mark9294]

@@veetourlove is based on physical attraction.

[@hollowficate]

Japan can feel like a dystopia sometimes.

[@qilimercurial5116]

They are already dystopia..

[@lcd1063]

It seems to me that sex less marriage has it roots from avoiding difficult conversation. They only want a tidy surface, while obscuring the spotted interior. The gentleman who was told by his wife of not being a good partner on bed is perfect example of this. Instead of confronting the issue of why he is not performing well on their marital bed, he sought validation in the arms of young women who are being remunerated for rendering services. Maybe his wife's repulsion is not towards him per se, but more of underlying issues such stress, hormonal imbalance or even anxiety. However, most of us don't have the capacity to tackle what is bothering inside us and the courage to make amends while acknowledging that we have limitations as human beings. We all want that connection, yet we don't want to suffer the consequences of it.

[@NervinJ]

A japanese classic...

[@bruninhamrso]

@@lcd1063 well put. Tatemae is taken really seriously, where hoone is seen as less important than anything else. Showing a nice face and pretending everything is fine is more important than assuming the human nature and seeking betterment of oneself through living the truth.

[@DxV04]

Good point.

[@Hello0x0]

Japanese women marry just to marry, its a checklist for them. Every culture is different but that just how it is, the young love in youth in anime is lit escapism for men not joking (plz if your Asian too youll get it) but only the very attractive boys get to experience that form of dating, like less than 10% of my class had guys dating while most girls had crushes of idols (safe and soft masculinity). Women grow up and lit give money to for these women to sleep w their husbands while they get to enjoy their girls night out at bars amd host clubs. It's not that bizarre for American, poly/open and honestly the idea of marriage is definitely being questioned in the modern lenses

[@TheJapanReporter]

確かにそうだよね~

[@tonyb9735]

"I want to help those underprivileged girls....." 🤣

[@AsianRailgun]

It has the same energy as "I can fix them"

[@cxireen2193]

I mean money isn't free.

[@etaka]

But seriously though, Japanese are ashamed to ask for or accept help like donations or tips. They would rather feel they are exchanging something of value or working for it.

[@zhenyuwen2922]

Sounds so self-righteous and justified

[@ashishbarthwal6961]

Our mans on a mission lmfao

[@wadewilson5712]

I think the culture of repressing ones self is what is hurting relationship in Japan and it is sad that some girls think brothel work is a way to make money right now in this economy. It is easiest but not best.

[@theloniuspunk383]

there's no such thing, repressing the need to defeat judaism maybe

[@TheJapanReporter]

でも日本だけかなぁ?🤔

[@InfernosReaper]

On a fundamental level, there is nothing wrong with providing sexual services for money. The problem really comes down to how badly these businesses operate.

[@cnaizhen]

​@@InfernosReaperI'm saying this only by inference, rather than knowing the exact situation in Japan. But if there are so many young women willing to join the sex industry, the brothels most likely have a good enough management system that allows the women to feel relatively safe.

[@educateyourself3872]

@@cnaizhenit seems that most of them get recruited by their friends, so yes.

[@userMB1]

02:45 Those percentages are wild! It's really insane how many couples loose interest in each other after marriage.

[@louditalian1962]

It’s because many Japanese relationships are not really based in love but more like a living partner.

[@mahakhatib27]

When expectations meet real life, you are bound to be disappointed. Instead of thinking, "I want this marriage to match up to my dreams and fairy tales" you should instead think, "I will accept this person, fault and all, and I will do what I can to make this relationship last".

[@Over_It]

Marriage success varies greatly from culture to culture. Compare that to India, where arranged marriages are still practiced, but it has a surprisingly high success rate. Cultural attitude towards marriage plays a HUGE part in whether or not a marriage is successful.

[@tonythekillab8189]

Thus 100% ​@Over_It

[@JeromeProductions]

@@louditalian1962damn

[@koogeejee]

As an outsider, Japan seems a strange place. How does a relatively small island nation produce so much pornography and yet has so little sex in a marriage?

[@ViewByRay]

Simple... Money

[@Collector_Phil]

It’s self explanatory as per what you wrote, so simply

[@mushroomcrepes]

"small"

[@koogeejee]

@@ViewByRay money for the porn producers... but the customers must be horny to consume all that smut... so if they are that horny, why aren't they having sex with their wives?

[@koogeejee]

@@mushroomcrepes both genders are "small" so shouldnt be an issue ;)

[@jkhmr8283]

No amount of communication will convince the sex that is driven by emotion to find you exciting again when they aren't even self aware enough to know why they found you exciting in the first place. Failing to acknowledge women's true nature the way we acknowledge men's means this will continue to be a problem that men are expected to "fix" without any idea how, and both sexes telling you the answer to a lack of sexual attraction is "communication" and has something to do with "love".

[@MrWescottX]

@@jkhmr8283 Indeed. In America or Japan

[@metalman_j]

this

[@jayrollo1352]

Exactly.

[@poonoo87]

Japanese men, well Japanese people in general, are very agreeable. That trait is universally unattractive to women sexually, in the bedroom they want a man who is dominant and acts like a sociopath. Young women (college age) will date a guy who is like that 24/7 but as they get older they want a guy who takes her out on dates and is romantic but can turn into an animal once they enter the bedroom, but in reality the realistic option is to find a guy who is balanced in between those extremes. A lot of the time women will settle for a polite guy who earns well and is stable for raising a family but they never found him sexually attractive in the first place. Once they stop having kids they stop having sex immediately, that is not just in Japan but globally a lot of men are in sexless marriages. Recently we found out that most men paying money on Onlyfans are older married men and not incels in their early 20s, married women to to put out more for their husbands even if they never thought he was attractive. "Communication", "doing more around the house" and all that other crap will not make her have sex more, if anything taking out that sexual frustration out on her in bed by being ]aggressive and assertive (to a point obviously) will be way more effective.

[@Satrina777]

"Women's true nature"? As in what? Sexual? Because yea I would have to agree, we need to stop pretending women can't or shouldn't be this way, stop shaming them and then wondering why women don't have as much sex with their partners as they (men) want. Truth be told, many women are afraid to let loose with their partners for fear of judgement, which is no surprise, and when there's a lack of sex, eventually things fizzle out. Husband and wife alike, inevitably seek comfort and sexual outlets elsewhere. Ultimately, men created this issue a long time ago themselves, with things like religion.. Kind of sad really, no offense to any religious people. Anyway, we're dealing with self-perpetuating cycles at this point on both sides which need to be broken. To pin it all on one half or the other, is dumb.. Perhaps once we acknowledge this, we can have some semblance of genuine health as a collective society, globally. Once we _all_ drop the hypocrisy and stop lying to ourselves on various levels, we can move on.

[@pmg2585]

So how do young Japanese men repay their student loans?

[@ChristopherCricketWallace]

Same thing if they're pretty. f not they work like a slave in an office until they die.

[@BigJoe-g3o]

probably by doing the same

[@DontKnowDontCare6.9]

Through their parents. Japanese tuition is not as high as western scam education.

[@martindang7333]

They would do it the same way if there was as much demand. That’s sort of the point of the video…

[@ThePS101]

They have to work for a living as a soulless salaryman.

[@Dewstra]

I think Ichika Takamoto at around 7:00 hit the nail on the head. Japan needs better sex education. It's also a really culturally prevalent issue that they don't know how/will avoid communicating properly because of potential conflict. They do some serious mental gymnastics to convince themselves that everything is fine. For. example, the guy saying he is helping the girls pay off their debt so he thinks he's doing a good thing despite not telling his wife about it because he doesn't want to confront her about something that he knows would upset her. I think a mix of these two problems, among a myraid of other issues is what causes a lot of these societal issues in Japan.

[@mahakhatib27]

I agree with you when you say it's a societal issue and the mental gymnastics are crazy like you said. However, sex education is not the solution to this. Everyone can figure out sex on their own like they have 1,000 years ago, it isn't that difficult really. The education I am thinking about is more along the lines of how to solve complex social issues with other people, how to communicate effectively, and learning to understand another person and the importance of assessing their needs.

[@Dewstra]

@@mahakhatib27 I agree with you that effective communication plays a key role in these issues. I didn't mean to highlight sex education as playing a significant role in these particular issues. I do think it's undervalued though and I was just agreeing with the sex education expert in saying that if they had better sex education in Japan, Japanese people could make more educated decisions around participating in these activities. I agree sex isn't hard but there are risks involved. I think more education across the board is always a good thing. I have been a little surprised at the Japanese schooling system, it doesn't appear to be as strong as I thought it was.

[@stefanswiss3760]

Do you think that America that has a "better sex education" is in a better place than Japan? I can see why some people would say yes and why some other people would say no. I think personally that each culture should find on its own what seems to work for them

[@Dewstra]

@@stefanswiss3760 i don’t know, I’m not American. It’s also hard to compare it with different cultures since there are so many other variables that are different. You are right that they do need to figure it out on their own though. I can only give my perspective as an Australian living in Japan.

[@CyrilCommando]

No, women just need to open their legs more. It's a difficult conversation to have with a woman, considering how defensive they get about it, so I don't blame the men for not speaking to their wives about it. The problem ultimately just comes down to women being extremely anti-sex, just like they are here.

[@dholmes3307]

It's simple, for anything like this, the women get attention that they didn't get before and the men get the same, attention, sex and respect they aren't getting at home. I think it was the Beverly Hills Madame that said "A man doesn't come to me when he is getting what he wants and needs at home."

[@MrWescottX]

@@dholmes3307 for real worldwide in marriage life

[@mariegiardini]

a man will be a whore even if he was being treated like a king at home. The fact that Japanese women are so accepting is also alarming. As long as it goes both ways then it should not be a problem right?

[@TheJapanReporter]

ホントにそうかなぁ?🤔

[@globaltheater9343]

A man marries and expects sex majority of the time, that's a key tenet of marriage: reliable and consistent sex. When a woman withholds it for whatever reason, justified or not, the man is going to look outside the marriage to get it, just like a woman for financial support or attention.

[@Bateluer]

@@TheJapanReporter Yes. I've heard similar statements from many professional escorts

[@griffinina]

Those women who said they're okay with their husband going to brothels are possibly: 1. Getting married only to have kids as society dictate, it's a milestone they need to achieve to be considered success life as an adult 2. They no longer like their husband but also don't want to get divorce to save their own face 3. They got married simply to be housewife because then they will no longer need to worry about earning income. Well, at least this is what I can assume from watching Japanese & Korean dramas No women in their right mind can stand seeing their husband with another be it sexual workers or other type of extramarital affairs.

[@MatthewF-vl9nk]

You're probably right. Living and working supporting yourself and being alone are difficult. I think many women want relationships exclusively because they want support, companionship, and perhaps the lifestyle of raising children. Even if they are attracted and love their husband they may find sex to be demanding on their body and emotions. Even if they enjoy sex with their husband the demands on their body and emotion can progress to eventually feeling like it is more burdensome than it is enjoyable. This is why couples need to talk about how to make things more enjoyable.

[@anaromello]

I disagree. If there's no emotional involvement and practiced safely, it's no threat to the marriage. There's no such thing as "all people" agreeing on this issue. You feel how you feel about it, others have different opinions.

[@griffinina]

@@anaromello I am sorry to hear you think it's okay. If you were/are in similar situation, I hope things get clear soon.

[@anaromello]

@@griffinina What a weird response. Everybody doesn't think like you. Everybody doesn't share values, boundaries and morals with you. What I consider horrific may be something you consider minor and vice versa. That's called a difference of opinion and the world is full of people with different opinions and perspectives. There's no tragedy in someone disagreeing with you. Don't be so arrogant to assume that the world is supposed to reflect your assumptions, it doesn't, other people aren't extensions of your ego.

[@AnneMary-h1s]

Japanese logic are amazing 😂😂 If this type of logic spread across the world then society will be in great trouble of trust 😢

[@MrWescottX]

@AnneMary-h1s for real. In USA 🇺🇸 - almost abouts to be like Japan. UK 🇬🇧 Australia 🇦🇺 Canada 🇨🇦 New Zealand 🇳🇿 China 🇨🇳 Europe 🇪🇺 Korea 🇰🇷Brazil 🇧🇷 Argentina 🇦🇷 Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 - who are super religions in Islam ☪️with trust issues

[@AnneMary-h1s]

@@MrWescottX what? Are you sure? I mean it will really be a problem in these society

[@MrWescottX]

@AnneMary-h1s now, seems like it. In the future, it is likely so, still marriage is or are almost nonexistent not for us western people

[@jack_stone]

Japanese crime statistics doesn't lie. If you give people a safe outlet less people get hurt. Cry about it.

[@rebeccachia]

look at South Korea 🇰🇷 medical system in shambles, teachers are overwhelmed, there are toxic groups among students, the online bullying , etc.

[@lililinda6947]

That last women said it all. Communication, trust and respect can build closeness and in turn physical intimacy and both people are fulfilled, but you need to start by caring how the other person feels and being honest with each other. This is a sad downward cycle nothing good can come from this - broken relationships, younger people viewing that divide between parents and not wanting a partner or marriage. How do you expect to resolve the issue of depopulation. Resolve this and it will be one step.

[@evebot883]

Idk maybe they have to make those services as illegal with significant punishments first I guess

[@ch4.hayabusa]

To be honest, a woman who is 60 is going to have to work a lot harder to satiate a man to the point where he won't be tempted by 20 year olds. Is it not socially acceptable to give your man blowies under the table and get kinky as a 50 yo woman?

[@cxireen2193]

I'll take depopulation over Overpopulation any day

[@UNGGodYT]

Japan is a country in copium, 'no, this dont affect us really', keep lying to yourself.

[@jayquanfloyd9384]

I'm late on the news. Can you please tell me what they're coping about?

[@pheunithpsychic-watertype9881]

@@UNGGodYT the imperial army was full of it

[@blazingfire_0712]

Japan is a different culture than the west. Considering that Western values are from Christianity (like infidelity = bad), Japan didn’t have Christianity. So obviously you a westerner would have this sentiment but in reality, they don’t really see it that way.

[@cottoncandykawaii2673]

@@blazingfire_0712 sort of, Japanese seem to still marry for conveinence rather then love, so there is like an agreement that the man provides and the woman cleans house and gets to have children. When there is no bond people don't care about cheating

[@JapesZX]

Japan's prostitution is a symptom of a problem, it seems. They need to address the issue of sex education and communication between spouses.

[@honeymoonavenue97]

It’s sad how it’s normalized that women start to be okay with it.

[@jayrollo1352]

If they f*cked their husbands this wouldn't be a big issue. But they don't. Now the question is why?

[@kingmaafa120]

Sorry it’s a SA KO KU thing 😮

[@thebrowser6758]

i thought its from the edo period?

[@etaka]

Sex work anywhere is a long held tradition. Taking escorts off Craigslist or newspaper classifieds is just a cover in the US. Human trafficking of minors occurs in all 50 US states, DC and territories. Before the US Occupation changed laws, actual human trafficking of children was a thing, and legal in Japan. Japan is just more open about it.

[@MrJm323]

You're sad that Japanese women aren't sad about it? ....You think they just started to be okay with it (like in recent decades)?

[@Braxtonkai]

it's probably a problem that snowballed intona bigger issue from other issuses. Attacking prostitution is addressing a symptom, instead of what is likely a much larger set of problems.

[@bruninhamrso]

@@Braxtonkai that is correct. Lack of communication and inability to really be ones authentic self, bottling up all those unfulfilled needs, repressed desires and having to only show a nice smiling face really slips through the cracks eventually.

[@AnneMary-h1s]

Is student debt such a big problem in Japan ? What is the need to study if I have to pay money after selling my own respect and body? Japan doesn't have scholarships to help those kids in study

[@Tabletpillowlamp]

Not only are Japanese colleges not free, neither are high schools.

[@jw841]

I worked at a university in Japan and from what I've been told and seen its less about university costs and more about luxury items. Girls compete alot with each other when it comes to branded clothes, the latest iphone, the latest handbag and status. Japanese hate being looked down on by other girls more than anything else in the world. I often see girls I know are from poor families walking around in top designer clothes and designer bags. So when they say they need money for college. It is not the cost of attending they are talking about. Its the cost of status and keeping up with the jones so to speak is what they mean.

[@AnneMary-h1s]

@@jw841 I understand sir but don't you think we should be always think and limit ourselves according to budget. Because it's impossible to compete with people in the name of nonsense things like branded and makeup. Like I am from a lower middle class family in my country girls don't want to show off It doesn't matter if we are going to study not to show off. Sir I think these are preplanned by the Japanese exploiters who exploit girls. They make such norms so that the bulk of girls get trapped.

[@jw841]

@@AnneMary-h1s I agree with you in principle but there should also be accountability and responsibility on the side of the Japanese girls. Like I've seen many are not doing this because they have to or are exploited. They do it because it is the easy option to get what they want. Since the beginning of mankind women have always traded sex for resources or status. This is essentially what marriage has always been about. And university girls are no exeption to this. They are trading services for resources. We may not agree or like this but its a big part of female and human nature. I am always sad to see it happen but these girls will always justify their behaviour and always blame it on others as well.

[@rebeccachia]

@@AnneMary-h1s I totally understand you, keeping up with the trend and brands shouldnt drive you to prostitution. But when we think of limitation and budgeting, I doubt these young kids would ever think about that. it's the last thing on their minds because being accepted is more important. it's the toxic culture whether in university or places like Harajuku. 😔 perhaps they weren't educated to stand their ground, or they had been bullied etc.

[@JeromeProductions]

Aside from basic morals, one reason for why I would probably never get into this is the risk of STDs.

[@sinister_sushi]

In some European countries, the workers are required to test regularly. All customers are required to use protection. If mistakes are made and the worker gets infected, they are required to get treatment and prove that they have a clean bill of health again before returning to work.

[@FromDkWithLove]

@@sinister_sushi So what? It's still fucked up. Just take care of it yourself.

[@sinister_sushi]

@@FromDkWithLove what’s fucked up and take care of what yourself?

[@mearetom]

Hmm, I think this only applies to normal work? Specifically legal ones. I'm not sure prostitution is a legal work. If it is, sorry for trouble.

[@sinister_sushi]

@@mearetom that’s exactly right. This is why it should be legalized everywhere. When it is legal and carefully regulated, then everyone can be safer.

[@subterragaming836]

Well alot of japanese dont consider buying sex to be cheating so I guess thats 1 reason. The culture. Another 1 is that people probably dont have time for a relationship or can be bothered so buying is easier.

[@InfernosReaper]

If it's *just* sex, I get how one could consider it not truly cheating. The idea is that *emotional* stuff is cheating and this is merely a transaction-based service without any real emotion. Again, I get it. If someone goes out to find someone else to date on the side, there's more likely than not going to be an emotional component in there somewhere.

[@cottoncandykawaii2673]

What a horrible situation for children to grow up in, no wonder so many chose to not even bother daing/marrying when they were exposed to such corruption and deception

[@Justjeroam]

Taking advantage of a persons circumstances is not helping them its exploiting them.

[@glennlgg6871]

Ban employers then. Most people work because they have no other choice to survive.

[@Justjeroam]

@@glennlgg6871 the man said that he is helping them by paying them for sex, this is exploiting someone who are in dire straits. Imagine if you had a daughter and she opted to take money for sex rather than turn to family for support.

[@glennlgg6871]

@Justjeroam She is not in dire straits. She has a lifestyle to keep up. It's her own choice to make money that way. It's not exploitation. At least not more than most people's jobs which they need to survive. Imagine soldiers who have to die. For a meagre salary. That's exploitation. You got your false morals wrong.

[@RevoRPM]

Interesting. I think there will be a wide range of opinions on a topic like this because many people have fundamentally different views of commoditized sex industries. Many people viewing this video probably think prostitution and sex work should be completely legalized, while many others likely deem it immoral or rotten to society. Ultimately it's rising popularity is simply a symptom of a larger problem that exists in pretty much all first world countries nowadays.

[@InfernosReaper]

That is the best summary. Most people in relationships, especially married people, generally wouldn't be using such services if there weren't some serious issues with their work/life balance and lack of communication with their significant other. Japan, the US, Canada, ect. really need to address the problems that cause people to have to work so much

[@TheMeetymeet]

Man, I can address a LOT of issues that's going on with Japan when it comes to this, but I mainly want to say the lack of communication, presence (which I would pair that with time) and intimacy is what comes it as the top 3, in my opinion. I get that Japan cheating is different there, but it's obvious that this is a huge problem when it can also take a toll on families. I can understand why they do it (because of those that live with their job 24/7), but there has to be a way that something like this can help build up for something to have healthier relationships.

[@TheJapanReporter]

賛成しますわ ಠ_ಠ

[@ToeKnife166]

Why sugar coat it, women in Japan think it’s perfectly okay to neglect their husbands sexually.

[@TheMeetymeet]

@@ToeKnife166 I'm sorry, but even if that's okay to them, that's not a solution either. Just because the women look fine on the outside, doesn't mean they're okay on the inside. Too many of these situations are being masked.

[@andrebaxter4023]

@@ToeKnife166, they’re doing it because their men aren’t turning them on. It’s on the men to be more masculine. A good romantic relationship has one person that’s a lot more feminine, and another that’s more masculine. If any of the two fail to maintain that core essence, sexual intimacy disappears.

[@stubbarn]

I hope we can also touch on the elephant in the room here; the spread of STDs due to unregulated sex work. How does it affect the healthcare system and relationships of these people.

[@MickeyMishra]

Like with everything else in Japan, they don't have super spreaders.

[@stubbarn]

@@MickeyMishra that and there’s a practice to relegate gaijins to the faux Japanese sex workers or not even accept them at all.

[@SpoofNPC]

Watching this makes me sad 😭 I hope I can have a good communication about sex with my future husband so I don't have to deal with these kinds of things

[@skyhawk61]

Consider this: sex was great until cancer raised its head and surgery was required along with chemotherapy. Then she declares that she is no longer “interested” in sex. He has supported her all the way during the cancer episode ams still has sexual cravings for her. He has not yet found satisfaction outside of marriage. What to do? Communication has not resolved issue. He still loves her as she is a good woman. Life is hell at this point. Hope you are able to avoid this situation and find yourself a good man to have by your side.

[@Urduhkhan]

If you like everything about your future spouse, except they are twice as interested in sex as you are, what do you do then?

[@DontKnowDontCare6.9]

SpoofNPC Yknow, marriage isnt only about sex. If you can bring something to the table, he wont cheat on you. My wife hugs me when Im tired and knows when to give me space when Im stressed. And I reciprocate her love in return.

[@Over_It]

The example you got was way out there. The key to a happy marriage is (source: me. I'm an old married lady. Whether you believe a random comment on the internet or not is up to you. I'm too old to care, haha. But the advice is worth the 2 cents if your comment was honest. Not PERFECTLY married, mind you, but happily married. There is a difference.): 1. finding someone who shares your VALUES and your cultural attitude towards sex & marriage (this is actually why marriages within the same religion have both higher success and happiness rates than secular ones). Not getting this one in order will cause you a lot of heartache & hardship if you choose someone with different major life-values, no matter which way you swing, ideologically. 2. Communicate with that person like your life depended on it. No secrets. 3. They do NOT exist to make you a whole person (and vice versa). If you are not whole without them, you'll never be whole with them. Their existence does not change your baggage, and your baggage is not their problem (even if they want to share your load because they love you. It's okay to share. It's not okay to make the burden their problem instead of your own. You have to be able to sort yourself out.). 4. Mediocre sex had out of love is WAY better than good sex with feelings that have been compromised. It's just not worth it with someone you don't trust, imho. Life is too short to waste your time on people you don't love or who don't love you. 5. Your commitment begins and ends with you. This is the weird thing that arranged marriages get right: you are the master of your own mind & body. Your urges/desires do not control you. You are more than that. Many people in cultures with arranged marriage (like Hinduism) say "the commitment comes first, then the love." The sensation of Love comes and goes over the years. MUTUAL commitment & loyalty does not (emphasis on the mutual part. Many honest people get burned by this one). The fights happen. The anger and tears happen. Saying "**** you, I'd rather sleep on the couch" happens. Both parties CHOOSING to work through it is how couples go the distance. And if #1-4 aren't in place, then choosing to work through seems impossible. If 1-4 are in place, then chances are you work it out okay. Good luck on chasing your dreams for the future!

[@Thecodeist]

Make sure to let it be known to every man you ever get to know and all women should do this if they don’t want to end up in such a materialistic state of affairs with their husbands if you’re looking for depth in a man make it be known and you will have that I’d even be willing to take any woman who isn’t a materialistic fool that will cherish each other over money or anything else let me know

[@neonnwave1]

So this problem would be solved if couples just talked it out and communicated like adults. Unfortunately, not many adults act like adults.

[@ytano5782]

I‘m from Germany and had affairs with a few Japanese wives and the reason why they didn't have sex in the marriage was always the same two: 1. no emotional connection 2. the man does not respond to their needs Regarding 1) Everyday life = foreplay (for women). If you deal with each other objectively 90% of the time and only create a romantic/erotic mood when you want sex, then it doesn't work for women. In my opinion, this is more of a problem that men cause. Regarding 2.) The responsibility here lies more with the women. Because none of the women communicated their needs with their husbands. I still don't know why, because the women were very explicit about what they wanted. And there was never any crazy stuff involved, so no fetish that would explain any shame.

[@kingmaafa120]

Wow 😮

[@henli-rw5dw]

Haha. You are helping them out. The man pay for it. Women gets it from u for free.

[@ytano5782]

@@henli-rw5dw To be honest, it is wild how normalized cheating is in Japan compared to Germany. I was introduced to most of the women by women I had already met. Friends, colleagues, once even a cousin.

[@DevilsDisciples]

@@ytano5782I would assume as a Westerner you would be sexually objectified as well for your exotic looks, it happens to Caucasians a lot

[@mark9294]

@@henli-rw5dwkind of unfair, isn’t it?

[@HeavenlySaviour]

He said I want to help under privileged girls 😂😂😂😂 yeah sure buddy

[@rebeccachia]

Communication is the KEY to every successful marriage. However, Japan has brought up the culture of trying to be nice and not wanting to bother another party or person, and keeping the hurt to themselves. I think some Japanese wives would giving consent to the husband and the husband not telling the wife about their doings just for the sake of not hurting each other, but rather they would have them hurt themselves. Does that make sense?? bottom line, communication, and working it out together.

[@mark9294]

Thats definitely not just Japan

[@beverins]

Witnessing population collapse in realtime

[@jac1207]

So the big main factors are "economy/finance" and "communications"? Communication with your partner is the easiest part, it can be mentally hard to break down barriers and ego to open up to someone, but if the both of you really want to make it work, good and honest communications is absolutely doable and you'd be surprised at how much assumptions were wrong. The big problem is the financial part. That point isn't always attainable as an individual, even worse so if you're already at the bottom. For every big success rag-to-riches story, there's 1000 unspoken failure stories. It's crazy how so many people don't understand that as more and more of the population struggles financially, society overall degrades.

[@najatulshima1540]

Has lower s'' crime, you said?! Even I still believe that the late Junko Furuta case is too gruesome, too cruel, and inhumane among cases around the world! How can you say that?! Lower? Isn't because the were more many unreported cases. Don't you ever think about this possibility even once?! Lower, you said? Gosh, this is INSANITY... If this is not insane, I don't know anymore . . .

[@Rafi14022]

They're called the most country who violated war crimes not for nothing 😅

[@justhomashere]

Hi. Thank you for your videos. I've been watching NHK news amongst other outlets to learn more about politics and other issues that are a concern for Japan. I'm a Psych major so I appreciate the onsite. Though an uncomfortable subject maybe more so for/because foreigners

[@franksfamily]

I lived in Japan for years. Married people, both men and women, have lovers outside of marriage. It is normal. I'd estimate that 60% of the women I messed around with were married. They simply don't have the hangups us Westerners do about having sex outside of marriage. They are comitted to the marriage and just want to play sometimes, "asobu". But come 3pm, it is time to go home and get ready for the kids return from school and the husbands return from work. My wife is Japanese. She told me many times that she doesn't care what I do as long as I come home every day and be a good provider and husband... and to not tell her anything because she doesn't want to know about it

[@koogeejee]

If this works for you guys, great. But it sounds like coping with a sad reality to me. There is something amazing about devoting yourself to one person for life. Its not easy, but nothing worthwhile in life is.

[@franksfamily]

@@koogeejee If that is how you feel, great. Having sex with just one person for your entire life sounds and feels completely unatural to me. Nature has wired males to want to breed with as many femals as they can. Seems like you are supressing that natural desire by choice. If that is your choice, I can respect that. If it is ones choice to have sex with as many femals as they can, I can respect that too. Both are not easy roads to travel. Each with their own set of drama and challenges.

[@sea_susie]

This is disgusting but whatever, never trusting anyone again 💀

[@franksfamily]

@@sea_susie Sorry you feel that way. Remember, most of the world donesn't feel the way you do about it.

[@Michelle-rdz17]

@@franksfamily well you also have to watch for STIs… if you loved your partner you wouldn’t risk giving that to them

[@armorbearer9702]

It sounds like Japan needs to find some way to lower college costs or offer alternative paths to decent careers. It was mentioned a couple of times that young girls go into prostitution to pay off their student loans(2:00)(5:02)(7:38). Does anyone know if it is necessary to have a degree if you want a decent job in Japan?

[@hyzenthlay6049]

Yes, it's almost impossible to get a job above minimum wage without one from what I understand

[@retardo-qo4uj]

Thats a wrong take. Its cultural problem not financial. Even free college wont fix this.

[@bc-cu4on]

Or maybe the girls should learn to cope in the same way that boys do instead of taking the easy-but-sleazy option?

[@LukasVokrinek]

It's the logical choice if you don't mind being part of that business, and while it's not as wide spread in other countries, students elsewhere do it too. Would you rather work at McDs at 10 bucks an hour and continue paying your student loans indefinitely, or get paid 10 times more while having (arguably) a more enjoyable job, albeit frowned upon? In most cases, you can make that choice freely, and are a consenting party. Not talking about underage girls, that's a separate issue, but one that probably isn't gonna be solved if the country keeps getting poorer, and social services and police are lacking (and the behavior is somewhat "normalized")

[@AIIIAKS-vn4co]

I'm Japanese and I paid off my entire college tuition with just a regular part-time job. I'll be honest, 99% of students have regular part time jobs to pay back their tuition. I don't know about their personal circumstances, but honestly, unless you go to medical school or a private uni where tuition is extraordinarily expensive, it is possible to pay off your entire tuition with just a regular job.

[@Whitetiger187]

This has been going on in Japan for centuries with the samurai having mistresses and such. Many would be led to believe, as I was once was, it was because of Japan's patriarchal culture with the samurai culture's machismo of egotistical and selfish men thinking that they can have it all, even if it was at the expense of thier women. But now I'm thinking that isn't it at all, it's just that women don't give a shit so long as that a lifestyle is maintained, hence wives denying sex with an indifferent attitude.

[@MrWescottX]

Ikr

[@GinJ1337]

Yeah people are missing this has been going on forever. Japan is said to be the first country to have organized prostitution as in brothels etc

[@teamkimochi191]

Because every Male and their mom were samurai w harem like my animes 🤓

[@CastleRaccon]

Bro, women don't see sex like men do. Women see it as a way to get stuff done like how we men see manual labor.

[@lorddevonshire6382]

The samurai often had boyfriends too.

[@oriolagullo9800]

I am Spanish. I have been sexless for 37 years (I am 37 😆). I have sexual desire as any other man, but I think there are other ways to deal with it when you cannot get a girlfriend, it is not just about I have a sexual need and I must satisfy it. We are not simple primates. I have never used this kind of services. At the end, it is just a temporary satisfaction and you are using a human being as an object for a selfish purpose.

[@BigJoe-g3o]

speak for yourself . lol

[@dannielz6]

You must have a low sex drive then

[@FinalCountdown-oz8pc]

37 years? Bro fix this immediately

[@Mattokishi]

It’s a lot easier to an escort then it is to meet a women at a bar, club, dating app etc …

[@valdius85]

and cheaper for high earning men.

[@altdelet3778]

Of course it’s easier you’re paying for sex, its a transaction. God forbid actually trying to get to know a woman.

[@valdius85]

@@altdelet3778 All relationships are transactional.

[@altdelet3778]

@@valdius85 Not healthy ones

[@johnhannibalsmith1607]

​@@altdelet3778No. "God forbid" getting to know a woman, dating her and then *_marrying_* her only for her to take your *_HOUSE_* in a divorce. I don't know much about Japan, but in the United States, no fault divorce has _"RUINED*_ marriage. Paying for sex is a simple transaction. It satisfies my biological needs (and satisfies hers with money) while allowing me to avoid the trap that relationships and marriage have become.

[@ImNotMito]

The world is crumbling including Japan....

[@greendragonspirit1646]

Only the G7 are crumbling.

[@rubiesfame688]

​@@greendragonspirit1646delusional

[@TonyYeungExe]

Simple answer: Consent. It is a mutual business agreement. One party agrees to pay for the service providers. However, this creates some issues, such as the ones mentioned in this video, overly attached, not satisfy the service, etc..

[@MrWescottX]

@@TonyYeungExe for real.

[@mahakhatib27]

The biggest problem I am seeing is the lack of necessary communication and awareness of the other person's feelings. It's really a social issue that Japan in particular struggles with. The mindset of the people is not healthy and needs to change, or else the birth rate and the mental health crisis will continue to get worse. The women are too harsh in their expectations for their man, and the men need to be more masculine and deal with their issues, instead of ignoring or running away from them. Both parties are at fault here and it needs to change in the community level, not through the government. These are just my thoughts on the issue, and I would like to hear more possible solutions.

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

Looking at the commet section it doesn't give me much hope but they might be incel westerners tho i agree it both it more on the men side that need ro improve

[@gsongchan1615]

The environment that doesnt encourage learning, expect your ability to scale with your age, but doesnt allow everyone to learn. Hence people who are alreadt behind to fall even more behind and fail in any possible opportunities that they can get... The you must have experience to get job dilemma, and not much people willing to hire paid intern.

[@RosaKaraline]

I think it's very much like the one lady said, that if the women feel overburdened they might not want sex as much due to being so drained. It is also not ideal that the men are expected to work such unreasonable hours. There is no time for him to unwind much less help his wife either with raising the kids. It is hard to keep a healthy life that way, sex or not. I do think both sides could do more to communicate with each other their needs and work things out between them. The whole situation just seems kind of sad to me. The only way for it to change would be if the Japanese wanted it to, though, and that is entirely their decision.

[@mahakhatib27]

@@RosaKaraline You are exactly right. Well said☺

[@CookieBear187]

Another thing that can be mentioned with this is that if men in marriages are having less and less sex with their wives, that must also be contributing to the population decline. Japan really needs to make some deep societal changes for its survival.

[@cxireen2193]

Just say you hate men.

[@ishratjahan8627]

Unlike other countries where religion plays a big role in social norms, japan doesn't have any religious restrictions on prostitutions so their society never saw that as something immoral. Prostitution is a deep rooted culture in china korea and Japan. They don't even think about it as something very serious. We from other cultures, especially from Abrahamic religion based culture, will never be able to wrap our head over this type of thinking

[@ch4.hayabusa]

Have they never heard of couples therapy?!

[@glennlgg6871]

It's useless

[@ch4.hayabusa]

@@glennlgg6871 wdym, the men are essentially hiring a therapist in a way. Why not instead invite her to spicy things up? Modern problems require modern solutions

[@glennlgg6871]

@@ch4.hayabusa Because many of those wives are fine with the arrangement and the men too. The wives prefer to spend their time differently (e.g. with their kids or girlfriends). The men prefer the younger women for sx. Better accept the facts and think in a practical way. Besides Japan has always been like that and many other places too. Japanese just do it more in the open. At least they don't become pedos like those religious clergy.

[@marcomongke3116]

So, should we try to understand or declare moral superiority over the definition of "love or marriage" from a Japanese perspective? Or everybody else around the world also does something similar covertly, and the Japanese are just more straightforward about discussing it?

[@nopenope6151]

nope, not really, this is mostly part of japanese culture, i have never heard of any people going to prostitutes especially when you have a wife, and while i myself am not merried am friends with several married men, i have also been to other countries while brothels do exist the only people i do know that have used similar services are usually single man who are not looking/are not in serious relathionship, and even that is frouned upon, prostitution in general is not viewed positively, the reason its commen in japan is cause its more accepted and mainly because of the sex less marriage, in other countries, okey i dont know about others but in my country having no sex for so many months can lead to a divorce, again i dont think its bad, its difference in culture mostly i dont think others can claim moral superiority since people would do similar thing for no reason, some women/men cheat just for the exitment but even that will probably lead to a divorce the moment you are cought, as i said its just difference in culture, men use it cause they dont get it at home, women do it cause they get money, regardles of moral views from other countries its help both parties as long as the women are not forced to do it, but choose to, both those reason happen due to iconomical and marriage problems, and thats very, very commen problem in most countries

[@stefanswiss3760]

It used to be that way in France in Paris before the 2nd world war There were a mix between love mariage and mariage to get a life style. Some families would be very faithful, some others would accept "cheating" the important thing being to keep providing a good life for your family. Victor Hugo was one of our biggest writers (Notre Dame de Paris), the most famous of his time, at his death it was rumoured that half the brothel of Paris closed to pay him an homage (as he was a very regular client)

[@Hay8137g]

@@nopenope6151lots of married women would rather have their husbands go to prostitution than them having real affairs. Either way this first world country is twisted as F.

[@marcomongke3116]

@stefanswiss3760 many things happen in life. Many factors affect life changing decisions or lifelong philosophies. Likewise, many aspects could contribute to a well functioning society or individuals. I hope it's not just a Japan only issue but rather a state of being for many other nations as well. But i do have to acknowledge the peculiarities of Japan as it is a country with its long complicated history, culture, mentality, and constant natural disasters.

[@bruninhamrso]

@@marcomongke3116 this is a global problem.

[@t.kersten7695]

there is no supply without demand but there for sure is also (almost) no demand without any supply. the two sides are completing each other - only with some few little adjustments here or there. We already had videos on this channel - and others too - stating that not only men but even women in sexless marriages seem to use or provide that kind of service. but no matter of what people think about the morality of (married) people using prostitution, as long it is not forced and consentual between the parties involved, isn´t it better to have such option? what is with countries where prostitution is prohibited at all? this wouldn´t reduce cheating but might possibly increase sexual assaults and r*pe.

[@AlvinLeong-me3iu]

The oldest profession in the world unless there is a disruption from AGI🙏

[@LuckyBoy-y7h]

This would explain why so many Japanese women even before finishing High School getting to the AV business. Producers of this kind of content don't fail to produce what men fantasize about.

[@EpicDawgYT]

So this is the reason why fertility rate in Japan is extremely low

[@MrJm323]

Well, decades ago the fertility rate used to be much higher, and there was even MORE prostitution than now.

[@robinvlad141]

What’s even crazier is that Dating Apps for Married Couple exist... 😂

[@flakcannon722]

Because most (not all) japanese married woman see infidelity as a hobby, and nothing wrong. It's ingrained in the culture. Married men don't get any at home, and single men don't see the point of investing so much time and effort to get a gf, just to be betrayed.

[@wobbegong4366]

What infuriates me is when women say ‘you’re bad in bed’ and then expect you to just know what they like rather than tell you what they like, then they get upset when you inevitably seek comfort elsewhere. Ladies COMMUNICATION IS YOUR FRIEND!!!!

[@mariegiardini]

GENTLEMEN COMMUNICATION IS YOUR FRIEND TOO! If men would improve their techniques in the bedroom then women would not complain. Men never will accept that fact that they may not be good at sex but okay i guess that is above all logic and common sense. If you suck in the bed just find ways to IMPROVE your intimate life!

[@Cuticatie]

​@@mariegiardiniThe key is..none until there is any real concession and sacrifices are made. well, unfortunately with the way the world works and so many rampant femin*sm who love to berate men at daily basis because of past grievances from even nobody like many of those in the comment section, good relationships are relic in the past. women and men need and expect different things and there are no ends to this, just like these two. It becomes the circle of evil spiralling down to destruction.

[@falsefultruth4884]

What kind of stupid take is this? Girl tells you you're bad in bed, so you have a reason to cheat because boohoo I need a girl who will call me daddy? What a fucking loser mentality lol

[@ToeKnife166]

I bet you, that women that say that are also terrible in bed

[@TheFlamingScarlet]

Good job shifting blame away from cheaters. If your sex life is such an issue, break up. Doesn't justify this crap even if you find it "frustrating"

[@ovidiosakfree7537]

It's Its excellent how you brought so many different points of view on the video. I think it would be mind-bogglingly stupid to start developing and implementing stricter law or any type of legislation against prostitution before trying to solve the economic reasons behind the surge of such type of business. Its appalling that the police only focus on punishing street prostitutes, it would be even worse if the police started tackling the customers as well. Street prostitution should not be criminalised at all, and instead should be properly regulated.

[@idolsrule4678]

What is “free” is often the most expensive- Kevin Samuels.

[@Zalen88]

Because its a 10000000x easier. Dating and marriage the old fashioned way is dead for 80% of the male population. Also, its not worth it anymore.

[@MrWescottX]

@@Zalen88 ikr. In America 🇺🇸 n Japan 🇯🇵

[@GinJ1337]

He missed this point in the video. I've talked to countless of single Japanese men who said they don't even try to date anymore. They pay for sex and that's it. In fact I've been to red light establishments in Japan and you see also quite a lot of young guys there who have good looks.

[@sunnysunshine8897]

No wonder their birth rate is tanking

[@MrWescottX]

@@sunnysunshine8897 Indeed become less n less

[@jason.phan23]

same. don't have much time, it would be hit or miss when trying to date someone, so paying for segg is safest choice when in budget, 100% hit

[@lobodraco]

Great video and a great topic 👍🏽 It would be cool if you did a video interviewing the sex-less wives and see their opinions about their relationship 🤔 💭 Thank you for an excellent video 📺

[@Vlican]

thanks for taking on this issue, it's gonna be a hard one

[@pheunithpsychic-watertype9881]

It's legal in america but relegated to Nevada. I know this because I was a customer but I only became one because of a manga I read gave me crippling depression so I booked an appointment under the name of one of the characters.

[@SoHottScott]

You can't say it's legal in America but regulated to only one state lol. Even then it's only parts of Nevada and not state wide. It's not legal in Las Vegas for example.

[@ThePS101]

It is pretty much ILLEGAL in the US. Sure, it is "legal." But, searching Google reviews and Yelp shows that the prices are for RICH PEOPLE ONLY. Who the f%$K is paying $5,000-$10,000+ for AVERAGE AT BEST poonaney? Might as well go to the local ju-co. Either that or buy a plane ticket to Columbia.

[@evo1ctrx]

I believe the root cause of this social issue stems from a strong cultural background that is outdated and needs to be adapted to modern life once and for all. Below is a list of traditional Japanese cultural practices where both genders are forced to comply, hence causing Japan as a whole to regress in both economic and cultural progression: - Avoidance of conflicts of any kind in social and private life. - Culturally suppressing men from emotional expression due to traditional norms around masculinity. - Culturally expecting women to maintain harmony ("Wa"). - Culturally expecting women to restrain negative emotional expression. - Culturally expecting women to conform to the social role of “Yamato Nadeshiko” (the "perfect Japanese woman"), maintaining qualities like humility, patience, and gentleness. In recent years, there have been shifts in cultural attitudes; however, a collective update is essential.

[@MaryGrace-w6u]

Where's the decency? Or self respect. In marriage it's love making. You only do it to the person you love and marry. If it's out of marriage it's just a lust. Better to be single in Japan because marriage is just a piece of paper.

[@glennlgg6871]

Your belief does not apply to everyone

[@speedforce131]

Everything balances itself out. It's not perfect but nothing rarely is.

[@kingmaafa120]

Facts

[@XDNarutoVSBleachDX]

6:39 how to tear a man down 101, poor guy

[@Rampart.X]

It's what they like to do

[@louditalian1962]

@@Rampart.XIt’s what soy boys like you like to cry about. Be a man.

[@gsongchan1615]

The environment that doesnt encourage learning, expect your ability to scale with your age, but doesnt allow everyone to learn. Hence people who are alreadt behind to fall even more behind and fail in any possible opportunities that they can get... The you must have experience to get job dilemma, and not much people willing to hire paid intern.

[@IOverlord]

Girl was probably cheating with someone with a bigger schlong lmfao

[@retardo-qo4uj]

Sound like these prostitute selling respect and love beside sex. Japan really need better communication

[@primarinaprincess]

If the client is a man who's married with kids, he shouldn't be going to a brothel. You're not respecting your wife, you're not considering how other kids would talk about your children if they somehow found out you're sleeping with prostitutes, and you're not putting in any sort of effort into your marriage. If Husbands are upset that they aren't having enough sex then they need to be upfront with their spouse and TALK ABOUT IT. Don't just go out and have sex with some stranger, that's telling your spouse that you don't love them enough and that you're only married for the benefits.

[@kingmaafa120]

Spot on 👍

[@MickeyMishra]

Just another solid reason to never get married.

[@markmuller7962]

Having to pay the university loan isn't really a "freedom of choice" situation

[@glennlgg6871]

You can pay university loans in many different ways.

[@markmuller7962]

@@glennlgg6871 Even if it was that easy to find a job *for everybody* (it's not) you clearly don't understand the Japanese hob market and contracts

[@glennlgg6871]

@@markmuller7962 You mean the problem is the job market? There is no freedom of choice where you want to work? Is that a problem only in Japan that people are exploited to work in jobs they don't really like?

[@markmuller7962]

@@glennlgg6871 No, you don't know the Japanese culture, the work culture and the work ethics

[@glennlgg6871]

@markmuller7962 You don't know that. You don't know me. I know very well different job markets. Even in Japan, lowly educated women get jobs in fast food restaurants that are exploitative. You don't understand.

[@rashaadweston364]

A lot of the first world countries straying away from religion maby that’s a factor

[@Pit1993x]

Very likely not the case, considering how repressive and heinous many religions are when it comes to sexual topics...

[@ThePS101]

Religion won't do a darn thing. You'd be surprised about WHO is participating in such activities. Just because someone is religious does NOT mean they are "pure." In fact, it is NOT surprising to find out that some of the BIGGEST 304s ARE religious. These religious ladies can be some of the most freakiest 304s out there.

[@sumthin5]

@@Pit1993x religious countries tend to have the longest and healthiest marriages and birthrates

[@jpined14]

@@sumthin5They’re also shamed for divorce and manipulated by those same “god-fearing” societies. Try being a Muslim woman and saying you want out of your marriage.

[@Pit1993x]

@@sumthin5 Longest? No surprise with how repressive those cultures usually are. Healthiest? Highly doubt that (see above). Birthrates? Doesn't matter. Whether someone wants to have children should be dependent on whether they want to be parents and not whether they want to fulfill some quota for their malevolent sky wizard.

[@Nyo_Fight]

All sex is paid for in one way or another, but one is simpler than the other and skips several steps, and if you stop to think about it, it's even cheaper.

[@mimojapan]

Probably, in many cases it's not "even they are married" but rather "because they are married". Commonly, with a marriage, as soon as some kids are in the house, you can forget about sex since the Wifeys seem to switch that activity OFF, never to be seen again.

[@valdius85]

for many that was the plan

[@mimojapan]

@@valdius85 Lol

[@ripewatermelonlol]

it also doesnt rly help that lack of sex ed also makes that perhaps there's lack of knowledge on female pleasure. I bet that if their women actually enjoyed the sex as more than just tolerating it for the man or procreation, they would create the time to have sex together, kids or not. So eat your woman out fellas, it does wonders.

[@latt.qcd9221]

Not even a "Japan" thing; that's just how marriage works, which is all the more reason men shouldn't marry. Men don't gain any actual benefit by marrying; they only lose things.

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

I got annoyed when the man being interviewed said he was 'helping' the women by paying them for sexual services. If he wants to help them, he can gift them the money! Thank you for the video.

[@Rampart.X]

If his offer of work is not helping them then neither is their offer of services, so why do they do it?

[@Zalen88]

That's called being a simp and a sucker.

[@RevolverOcelot79]

@@Rampart.X Well said.

[@RevolverOcelot79]

@danielintheantipodes6741 This is a silly statement. If you're going to put money out you should receive a service in return. It's good for both parties involved.

[@DontKnowDontCare6.9]

Why would you get annoyed? You dont know him, he doesnt know you. What you think youre some shining knight in armor?

[@SeanHayden-v3u]

I agree with many points in this video. It's true some men have a larger sex drive than others. This can be very hard and difficult for your partner or spouse. I don't believe sex services in Japan are bad, however it should be kept private from your spouse or partner, unless you're in a relationship where your partner enjoys multiple partners (?) It's true that many girls that choose this type of work can also become great partners in no way does it diminish their role as productive members of society. Unfortunately, mostly due to religious and cultural preference, some people might deem such work as negative.

[@aliceesperanza]

This is why the STD and STI rate is so high in Japan?!?? 🥴🥴

[@kingmaafa120]

Under reported 😮

[@ChimpoLust]

Japan especially a huge city like Tokyo should have free STI clinics, which as far as I know , they do not have.

[@kingmaafa120]

@@ChimpoLust if there’s a will there’s a way just get on the internet 🛜 👍

[@jedipenguin2641]

I thought prostitution in japan is illegal.

[@MrWescottX]

@@jedipenguin2641 same

[@DontKnowDontCare6.9]

It is. Your paying for companionship for the night. Sex isnt covered. But they can sleep together consensually if they want after the "date." They also define sex as contact of male and female organs. So BJ, hand jobs are "not sex." Clinton logic. Techinicalities and loopholes.

[@DragonmindLai]

prostitution with penetrational sex is, non pene is ok, seems.

[@youtubesadhominem9118]

unfettered and unregulated prostitution is illegal. However, if you are a hired escort by a legitimate company, brothel or service, it is legal. Meaning, a woman cant simply choose to prostitute herself just because she wants to, it has to be decision stamped with her legal name,

[@Goodmorning1221-]

@@youtubesadhominem9118 It's not legal. Only "play" is legal. But of course, in the bedroom, police can't check what they do.

[@crimsonsigma5531]

We live in a new generation where modern women’s standards are very high when it comes to dating you can pay an escort 200$ for an hour and a half and they leave right after but you could be spending more than 200$ for gas, drinks, 5 star restaurants and clubs and still won’t get no play by the end of the night

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

I say good for them high the bar because the bar been low for us men if you not going to improve have empty meaningless sex with a prostitute who put up an act no same if you like that but don't act it better because it different or be maidenless dont complain when yoy make yourself undesirable as andrew tate

[@prickly_procyonids]

A flesh light costs $50, is reusable, and won’t give you an STD.

[@zahraboudidah9334]

Ah see but the 500 woman won't care if you sick and won't cover your back when it is attacked. Treating a potential partner to dinner and so on just for sex is the wrong idea... in that case you are better off just buying the service. Dating a woman is for the relationship ( which happens to include the Sep in due time). Not for the money spent on her and whether or not it gets you laid. The exact same moment applies for women BTW. It the whole value you see in a man is his money, you migh as well turn professional...

[@bc-cu4on]

​@@zahraboudidah9334Wives mock their husbands when they get sick and have no loyalty in a conflict. That's such a common fact that we have 5000 years of literature describing it.

[@Hello0x0]

So it's women faults? Use that money to work on yourself the same way women do, pay to play is when men pay women to be blind. If men can't sleep w a woman they have no attraction to its the same

[@extremepsyche3135]

Another reason to not get married.

[@brutalpony1331]

How come?

[@Svendskommentar]

A shame. Some may hve too much money, some may have too little control and some traditions should be reevaluated.

[@MrWescottX]

@@Svendskommentar agreed in Japan

[@ChimpoLust]

WHY? - because it's reasonably priced, many cute regular "civilian" girls making extra side cash, it's technically legal in Japan, it's fun.

[@brianburgess3231]

Because they treated like a commodity .. I imagine it's the same reason American men do .. A real relationship is difficult with someone that treat you like a possession

[@begobolehsjwjangan2359]

A real relationship is difficult with someone that treat you like an Automatic Teller M achine

[@ripewatermelonlol]

@@begobolehsjwjangan2359 didn't you hear that the man interviewed basically couldn't satisfy his wife? Instead of trying to improve her pleasure too, he took the easy way out. Would you like to catch teeth while getting head all the time? fuck no. You'd try to tell her to change it, or shut that activity down, and thats what these women are doing. Because i bet that if these men actually made their wives have orgasms, there would be a lot more sexually active japanese relationships. So eat your woman out fellas, it does wonders.

[@dannielz6]

We all pay for sex one way or another😂. Prostitution, if consensual, should be legal.

[@watchWorld100]

amen

[@serenityssolace]

So it all comes down to the lack of communication again because of Japanese culture of reading the air. Anmoku no ryokai or kuuki wo yomu. You can't communicate about your sexual needs, so you outsource them and because your wife needs to uphold kuuki wo yomu or anmoku no ryokai she says she's okay with it but she's dying inside. So much for men reading the air

[@captinhindsight7345]

For better or worse, prostitution has always been a thing since forever and will continue to exist till the end of time unfortunately as much as people may not like it. A lot of people need to start asking themselves questions and look inward when it comes to stuff like love and sex.

[@MickeyMishra]

RObot Waifu's are on the way.

[@davidabello5824]

In my country this services are much hidden dont see it in streets but in Japan very common to see it there very much accesible...

[@MrWescottX]

@davidabello5824 I bet. In your country, compared to Japan so common

[@jamaroha2891]

A bit different from the topic of this video, but I wanted to input on “Because other people are doing it” mentality.. This mentality is another reason why people who tried to be righteous is always at loss, so there’s more people who don’t care anymore. But this excuse should not be justified. This has been a huge problem in Japan. Example: Guys going up to the girls doing Tachinbo. People stealing clams from places you shouldn’t steal from. Smokers smoking outside the area which is permitted. Bands playing outside when they don’t have permits. And many more.. This happens because there’s no law strict enough for people to stop. The police only warns you not to do it, but these people will never stop. If they get caught you get doing it multiple time, you will fined/arrested but that’s only if you get caught. There’s loop holes in the system because Japan is a country that heavily focuses on people’s goodwill. It’s a good thing but there should be stricter laws other than just warning..

[@MrWescottX]

@@jamaroha2891 for real.

[@misterbig9025]

1:16 Hitomi is very kind

[@uronchanokoe128]

My favourite is pre modern Japan, Yoshiwara. 😶 Guess we never move on from that period!

[@markmcgrew9012]

Buying sex in both Japan and America it’s a little dangerous but simpler than a regular relationship such as marriage, where you can lose half of your possessions, if and when divorce comes….🇯🇵🇯🇵🇺🇸🇺🇸🇯🇵🇯🇵🇺🇸

[@SoHottScott]

Does that apply in Japan too?

[@shirolee]

Yep.

[@Weiss_Fudder]

This also happens in Brazil... 🤦‍♂️

[@hilfigartommy8056]

Korea is HELL.

[@louditalian1962]

The issue is not the divorce but the lack of integrity of both parties and that we have allowed feminist causes to poison the mind of women

[@Labyrinth6000]

All that book studying in school and no socializing, not to mention no dating allowed in schools has permeated adults in Japan to doing this. No communication and the aboslute fear of confrontation is a huge problem is Japan.

[@ToeKnife166]

Dating in school doesn’t mean you will have a sex filled marriage. America has the same issue of sexless marriage

[@TrytheGreenOne]

It seems like Japan's birth rate problem isn't being handled at the source. Some better sex education would be a great start

[@marquisscott3546]

It's probably stress free because you'll gain true honesty from their escort

[@MrWescottX]

I bet

[@louditalian1962]

You are paying for service they will lie even more than anything else, so suckers like you keep coming back.

[@DontKnowDontCare6.9]

No false allegations, no drama. Thats what paying sex is for.

[@latt.qcd9221]

@@DontKnowDontCare6.9 You can still get false allegations thrown at you over it.

[@susanpurcell3120]

Evening from the U.K, just come across your post and I seen a few you have posted, this is a hard won for me, if a lady wants to be involved then so be it, if you are forced then it a different question altogether, sadly it's been around for Hundreds of years in all Countries, it's not only women, men are often not spoken about, thanks for sharing ❤

[@HeavenlySaviour]

Outsource sex 😂😂😂😂😂 I’m dying laughing 😂

[@malamasaw1]

HIV is also an epidemic in Japan because they don't know much about Health related knowledge. Of course there would be few who are interested in medical terms especially when in Kanji characters

[@sinister_sushi]

To anyone shitting on this industry and the people who engage in these activities, you are too young, too inexperienced, too lucky, and/or too much of an outlier (very handsome or beautiful) to truly understand why this industry has existed and thrived since the beginning of time. So, please live your life, experience great failures and setbacks, and then revisit this topic when life has beaten you to a pulp. Also, if you think they can just legislate this industry into nonexistence, you are very mistaken. That has already been done in many countries and it just leads to women engaging in much riskier deals and increasing the likelihood of human trafficking. Prostitution should be legal and regulated to protect both customers and workers who will find ways to do these things regardless of the laws.

[@Rampart.X]

Men and women don't want to work hard to get what they want. That's Economics 101.

[@MrWescottX]

@@Rampart.X for real nowadays

[@jeffb.140]

It's much better value than marrying

[@cloudslady3400]

The sad reality men don’t see in prostitution is it’s self violating…you’re are abused too…you clearly see women in po’rn becoming more and more selfish and greedy for money at any cost..no empathy for the man involved as he believes…men should be held accountable but more so women who do that job not for the poverty but for quick gratification… I remember saying to my ex who was at the lowest point of his life paid half his salary and needed me to complete that month..”she abused you and wronged you and she doesn’t care”…that’s the reality of it..broke men are also mainly the ones being taken advantage of !

[@theshadowman1398]

I guess it's quite simple. They aren't getting any from their wife / girlfriend and many women apparently really like to do it professionally.

[@kingmaafa120]

True

[@ayrasimmons1607]

The way they just take being in a sexless marriage as normal is sad.

[@containedhurricane]

Because they can't afford marriage