Why The Best Leaders Make Love The Top Priority | Matt Tenney | TEDxWestChester

[@angelinemay2352]

It was an honor and a pleasure to have you on our stage at TEDxWestChester. What a simple yet profound concept - that the well-being of employees be a filter for all decisions. Matt, if widely adopted, wouldn't this have the potential to alleviate so many of the world struggles!?! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

[@MattTenney]

Thank you again for inviting me to serve at your amazing event! Yes. I believe that if all leaders made love the top priority, it would create the conditions for world peace.

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[@darlenelawson1255]

I always said as the leader of a group of nurses that the group is as strong as the weakest link. So, we must help those people who are lagging behind. Helping others to be their best was always my goal❤️

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for living this message Darlene!

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[@shirleycathcart5502]

Great philosophy, but not often applied in nursing today when nurses constantly being goaded into doing faster & more profitable. Patients should be first- to give quality care while not looking at a computer & taking time to make meaningful eye contact.

[@BubbaGooder]

@@MattTenney This video was inspire'n fer sure... I'm work'n now fer a company that needs this message...if only the team would be will'n to embrace it. Thank you fer bring'n more GooderNess to the world!

[@williambrion2011]

Very, very wise!!! Its what Jacob did in the bible!!!❤❤

[@maing.2883]

I once had leaders who loved employees and i now see how lucky we were, nowadays, people just focus on making money forgetting who makes it for them 🤷🏻‍♀️ we lack of real leaders! Finally someone taking about “love” at work👏🏻👏🏻

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing Main. I hope to inspire many people to start talking about this.

[@maing.2883]

Matt Tenney I’m sure you will 🙏🏼

[@independentthinker1954]

35 years of doing exactly this in my area of management with the largest paper company in the world. IT WORKS. People are still writing me and asking me how I am after 10 years of retirement. Excellent presentation.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for being a great example leading with love as the top priority, Atori!

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Congratulations to you ! :)

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My deep respect to you. You really must be a very HAPPY person.

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[@paulinaquines3750]

I'm an ordinary woman I dont have any knowledge about business.but I am willing to learn by listening to those people who who give speech and share their knowledge and wisdom and I caught the words Love is the is the top priorities...thank you and I pixk up lesson from you Sir.. your message is very interesting. Sallute you.. God bless

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing Paulina!

[@soniaoconnor6745]

“The best leaders are thinking about how they can help their employees to grow and thrive.” Awesome. “Leadership is the opportunity to influence others.” So true. “We want to positively impact the people around us,” what a great mentorship model.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Sonia!

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[@patriciacole8773]

I had a boss that paid whatever you asked for. And routinely asked what do you need? I loved him. He thanked me for wearing dresses to work. Said I classed up the joint. Nothing weird. Sincerely kind man.

[@janmajor1694]

Truly very inspiring lessons learned here. LOVE is such a powerful thing for all levels of an organisation. Making LOVE a top priority at workplace should be another ‘emotional competence’...thanks, Matt

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your comment Rajan. I agree. We should be measuring leaders' effectiveness at taking care of employees with the same rigor we apply to measuring revenues.

[@messisinghthakuri406]

Such powerful thing for all levels of Organizations.. inspiring 🙏

[@franciscojavierbalestrini7847]

Excellent approach! A few days ago, I finished a Lidership training where our coach used oftenly the phrase: "serene ambition" (use this concept for yourself, your inner self) and "rigorous compassion" (for your peers, the outter world). I strongly beleave this aplies to your rational about "Love", and how in the persue of the wellbeing of the others we attract the best results for, not only the company but also the community and environmnent around us. Thanks for sharing!!!

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing this Francisco! I love it!

[@hanakohashiguchi7778]

I have always LOVEDDDD Southwest Airlines! I had no idea the simple yet profound idea of loving your employees would have such an astounding impact! ♡

[@matttenney299]

There's a lot to love Hanako! Thanks for your comment.

[@saimakhalid2788]

It's really Motivational for HRM Employees & for Leaders too , Good Video , Thumbs Up from Pakistan 🇵🇰

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Saima!

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[@angelamartinez9421]

It´s a great message, in times when our leaders confuse leadership with impositions and change their friendly attitude because of some promotion, they forget loving to others. I really enjoyed a lot this lecture.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Angela, and your kind words.

[@MattTenney]

Hello my friend! This is Matt, from the TEDx talk above. If you have any questions about the talk, please feel free to ask by replying to this comment. I try to answer as many of them as possible.

[@calebwest8574]

Hey Matt! I love the video and have shown it to a bunch of my friends and colleagues. A few of us were talking about cultivating love within the workplace and how it is oftentimes a lot easier to show love to others when we are happy with them (or for this topic, happy with their performance at work) What do you think are the best ways to lead someone with love when they aren't necessarily performing well within their position in your organization?

[@MattTenney]

@@calebwest8574 Great question. Most important is to assume the best. Assume that if someone isn't performing well, there's a good reason for it. For example, maybe there's something going on their personal life. Then, be sure to start any conversation about performance issues by asking if there's anything going for the person that could be affecting performance. You're immediately demonstrating love by starting this way. You can further demonstrate love by helping the person with whatever difficulty they're facing or removing the obstacle to them being their best.

[@enis-cirak]

I just watched the video again and saw this comment. Thanks for offering your time! I had a question about how to implement this in day-to-day interactions. Can you give an example of a daily or weekly behavior that someone can do to embody this type of leadership?

[@danfreschi-edge9683]

Hi, Matt! I appreciate your talk about love and loving your employees. I think litigation has scared businesses away from using the word and actually doing it because they want to create and maintain the separation. One of the things I have been talking about over the last 5 or so years when I am consulting is, in fact, loving your employees, loving them so much and wanting what's best for them that if they are not a fit to love them out of your organization. The act of love is healthy for both parties involved and you may even create a stronger bond because of it. I have also been expressing that the act and art of feedback, that is giving employees or other feedback, can be an act of love. Unconditionally, wanting wants best for them and sharing where they can improve and where they are making an impact, again, is healthy for both parties involved. So, what are your opinions and thoughts?

[@MattTenney]

@@danfreschi-edge9683 I agree completely! Often people hear my message and think it means being soft about performance. Nothing could be further from the truth. If we love a person, we want what's best for them. That means, as you mentioned, if they're not a values fit it's in everyone's best interest to help them find a different team to play on. If they are a fit but are exhibiting mediocrity, we would help them be their best selves, not because we want more value out of them, but because we know that helping them be their best will make them happier and help them be more successful for the rest of their careers. It just like parental love. I would never sit idly by while my kids do poorly. I get involved to see what can be done to help them. I do it not because I expect value from them, but simply because I want what's best for them.

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[@jayhutchinson1962]

I'm a contractor in Hawaii, I've hired over one hundred people in the last 20 year's and i make sure they our my top priority allways not my clients my employees, because that's how my clients are taken care of. I work in California for 25 years under other contractors who belittled me over and over again and i decided i would never treat an employee like that ever and i never have, I've had to let some people go, but always on a positive note, I still love all of my former and new employees. 👍✌

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for living this message Jay!

[@The_Ibra_Shaw]

A very influential message that should be put into account for both employers and employees because this determines the basis of a company .

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your comment Ibrahim!

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This ia Gold! Jesus also treats his disciples with love! No wonder people call him great master.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing this Ridge!

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks Renata!

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind comment!

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words J M.

[@ajbreeden948]

Wonderful message. I try everyday to be a Leader through actions of love and to prove, "I see you" ... It matters! ♥️

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for spreading the love!

[@calebwest8574]

Wow! What a powerful and uplifting message. I think everyone would benefit if we all made a more conscious effort to love those around us, especially those who see us as a leader.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Caleb!

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[@AmyColor]

Truth, by learning to show-up and make decisions based on connection, love, and empathy my clients have transformed their businesses and personal relationships. Great talk, Thank You.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Amy, and for helping people to love better!

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Such a great reminder of what truly matters in life. Thanks for this lesson on leadership and impact!

[@MattTenney]

Thanks Enis!

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This is my analogy. You have a bicycle. First you ride it over rough roads to assess the discomfort between rider and the bicycle. Later you device ways and means to install 'shock absorbers' between the two wheels and the frame. Of course, when you ride it again there is an element of enhanced comfort between you as a rider and the bicycle for it would last even longer. I have dwelled myself for almost 45 years now to come out with making workable 'specific absorbers' between Employers & Employees 👌🏼 Of course not forgetting that the 'proof of the pudding is in the eating'. 😉

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your comment Baskaran.

[@JeffinMJohn]

Make love the top priority, to make a significant positive impact on the people around you. Eventually you would empower them to make a positive impact on many others. This is the only true measure of success. Good Conclusion.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind comment Jeffin.

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[@MattTenney]

My pleasure. Thank you!

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Very true... Thank you

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your comment Rasyl.

[@rasylabella5291]

@@MattTenney you are most welcome Matt. You are right, once you give them love, compassion and kindness they grow personally and professionally. The best part of this is when you have the opportunity to see and watch them share and doing these virtues to others ( best feeling ever😊 ) Your employees are so blessed to have you as their boss and at the same time you are blessed to have them, the outcome is there is great connection and great business mould because of this connection. You are such a wonderful inspiration and more power...

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words!

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[@foshotho]

The best and effective leaders are the one ☝️ that knows how to lead by example.

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An AWESOME presentation! Enjoyed. Thank you much.

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks so much for your kind words, Jayanthi.

[@ConDual020]

· If you want to build a ship, don't drum up the men and women to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea. I have practically carried out the above approach and found it to be immensely beneficial to BOTH the Employer and Employees besides having outstanding results 👍

[@MattTenney]

Thanks Baskaran. I agree. A key aspect of loving team members well is creating a shared, compelling vision and helping them find meaning their work

[@latonyamsummers1]

I love this.

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Fantastic. Courageous to share his personal story and drive the point.

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Agreed. I was half-listening up to that point. Then I'm like oh he legit.

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Wow, the way he speaks ...

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So in the moment. What a powerful message.

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Thanks for your kind words Meghala.

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Thanks for your kind words, Chris.

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Amazing video! I am doing an assignment on leadership at University, thank you for helping me with it and giving me an insight how to be a great leader.

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Tsenka!

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Sir, it's indeed a brave decision to bounce back. I've learnt a great lesson from you. Thank you so much, for that. Regards.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing this. So glad you found this helpful.

[@yenoriarcebrenes2334]

Great, that was Jesus came to teaching as, love. Well, nice to ear this TED. Congratulation, God Bless you.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Yenori. Yes, love - as the path to a meaningful, happy life - seems to be the universal truth.

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[@Rozeg666]

This applies to governments as well and is the reason why some countries are developed and others are lagging behind. Look at how the government loves or ignores their people and you can tell if that country will be successful or not.

[@MattTenney]

So true Dzok!

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[@janethutt1882]

Relationships are #1....I agree employee's and employer's should have a loving relationship...it is a two way street...if only one is in...then it will without a doubt...not last...like a marriage...like families...the feeling of being wanted and loved...makes the difference...action...speaks volumes...words do not last without a positive action...100% is effective...from both parties...taking and giving...

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing this Janet!

[@shirleycathcart5502]

Give thanks in All things per the Bible.. look for the possible upsides in any problems and know God sees farther ahead than we do. Give thanks. Sincere caring always wins no matter what.

[@rufuteklekifle487]

Take our PM, the 2019 Nobel winner for Peace! He is a very appropriate example of your statement!

[@MattTenney]

Great point!

[@teddychodon2626]

Love is powerful and it’s to give , take and share and love goes well with mind set and it’s makes mind flexible and think smarter .

[@shoshanabloom8669]

This was absolutely amazing thanks 😊

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your kind words Shoshana.

[@dianeraffoni5992]

I worked for a company who had it right, then the founders left, a CEO was hired and he flipped it to profit first. We went from a double digit

[@dianeraffoni5992]

Increase to massive losses! Pay attention people! This works in life too!

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing this Diane!

[@striderwolf687]

1). “Love” Defined by the presenter was = Doing whatever we can to improve the well-being of our employees personally and in the work place. What do you think it is? 2). Agree or disagree - “I want to love others” as a leader means “I want to impact others”?

[@swatiexperiencerecall5295]

A leader, 's love should influence it's followers directly upon their thoughts and wills..... 💛👍

[@shirleycathcart5502]

Impact meaning making someone’s life at least a bit better.

[@valeriejones3808]

I believe all leaders no matter your title should interact with the front line more often and so the view them as real people. Undercover boss show cased this best.

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing your comment Valerie.

[@MariaTCosta-kz5ry]

Love you mean to say Value the employees.

[@MattTenney]

That's right Maria. Value employees and work to enhance their well-being.

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I agree with you

[@MariaTCosta-kz5ry]

I always say the best Leaders are those who Empower People.

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Group effort. Thank you.

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Good job👍

[@MattTenney]

Thanks Zilo!

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I can’t seem to do it. I tried in docked and switch mode. Am i not pressing them at the same exact time? do i need to wait for some animations or something? i did it one time out of the 30 mins of trying

[@westrph]

Matt, I really enjoyed your presentation. I’ve heard it said “be friendly with your direct reports, but don’t be their friend.” I understand that sentiment, in case of needed disciplinary action. But, after listening to your presentation, I would be interested to hear your thoughts.

[@MattTenney]

Hi my friend. I actually disagree with this. Although fraternization - being friends with some employees but not others - should certainly be avoided (this was drilled into me during my time as a Marine officer), I think the more vulnerable we are with team members, the better. Being friends with someone means we share our struggles and shortcomings with them. While many leaders shy away from this out of fear of looking weak, I think it does the exact opposite. It shows the courage to be vulnerable, which deepens trust and human connection, which are both instrumental elements of any effective human relationship.

[@dr.chetnabujad4768]

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[@perdjoeangangrup39]

Mr Matt,I want to ask to you about "how to be a great person in any place and any relationship" Thank you 💖

[@MattTenney]

Hi Pukis. Happy to help if I can. Could you elaborate a bit more with your question?

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[@MattTenney]

Thanks for sharing Hewad.

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[@pantuvarali]

Hello Matt, great talk and I wish we have more leaders focusing on people and skills rather than KPIs. Would you have the source for the profit focused vs people focused stat? Or is that a stat from 1992? Im sorry I am missing something here. Thanks again

[@MattTenney]

Thanks for your comment and kind words Varchas. The study was published in a book by the same name by Kotter and Heskett - Corporate Culture and Performance.

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[@Fifthelement203]

Sounds optimistic. But will never happen. We see what’s going on right now corporate profits are up 61% yet employees are striking across the country because they can’t afford basic necessities. Profits/Greed is the North Star for most companies now. Our only hope is the new generation changing this culture.

[@tomsd8656]

This is true, but to achieve this model, you need to keep hiring and firing because not all people are the most amazing assets. You can afford to keep the company afloat with some underperformed staff but not half of it. Some people are just toxic. And focusing on employees mean you have to take care of the toxicity, because toxic people have their influence too.

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I love them but right now it feels like they are isolating me because of my promotion. :'(

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[@valeriecamroux4197]

How is love the top priority when its effectiveness is actually being measured in terms of net income and stock price? This isn't love, it is manipulation.

[@MattTenney]

This is a great point Valerie. If leaders do not genuinely love employees, they will not succeed. People know when they're being manipulated. The motivation has to be to love well simply because it's the right thing to do, not because it will make an organization more money. The reason I mention that loving well is actually very good for business is that I know that some people will never try to change and do the work to love better unless they see that it will make them more successful.

[@alioahb-01]

I think it's a bit simpler than that. Human relations are built on give and take. In this case, give love and gain rewards for your company. There's nothing wrong with being manipulated into doing something when you also gain something from it e.g love. And my gosh, love is a valuable thing.

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Jeff Bezzos also said to make it ALL about the customer and their experience... he also serves more people than anyone else on the planet for the time being

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