WHY THE INFJ SEEMS "TOO DEEP" TO OTHERS

[@Wenzes]

Have others confronted you in the past about being "too deep"?

[@Valentinfj]

Yes. Some people think that I will remain alone because of my religious beliefs. Others believe that my intuition isn't helping others.

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

Sort of - they act weird and distant themselves from me - not an official convo about it. Friendships have been the thorn in my ass - even today. Learning more and more about what a healthy friendship is.

[@lindateuling7862]

@@DearYoungerSelf111 I had to smile at your "thorn" analogy. I know too well from past experience relationships . Fortunately, things are better now.

[@simovtransportmedia1137]

This topic can give answer's to a whole universe of question's about the INFJ. I do find the reasons for my problems with connecting people in my childhood. Everyone knows his inner urge to express him/herself in sertain way, it comes from the inside as it can be said, but what happens when you know what you want to do and what to say, but you have that mighty intuition and ability to feel what other people feel and they are telling you that something is not right, but not just simply not right, something not right with the way you are wired, something is not right with your inner core, something you cannot change or solve in any way. From my opinion this is the top of the emotional pain and we have felt this a thousand, thousand times. That is why the INFJ mind is a mistery. In order to deal with the emotional pain our brain has evolve to perfection the ability to not care about that we arn't express ourselfs 100% true and genuine. Yes it is said that the INFJs are one of the most genuine, but the genuinness has a degree. One thing we absolutely can't do in our daily life is expressing 100% true, because our intuition and empathy have taught us before that this is unacceptable and wrong in some way and that's the reason why the INFJ is so popular in the internet. We need that space to let it all out, to let the pain go, because too many thing's in the daily life return's us there. On the other side the internet doesn't give us that intimate soul to soul connection that we want and the problem still remains in some degree and you will never find your true one as you hiding part's of yourself, but how can you show yourself if your inner voice tells you this is wrong. The lifelong delema of the INFJ.

[@MegaCyberleader]

how many people love you because of your infj ways?

[@zoeanthony2931]

I feel that when I am around people that don't talk deep it's draining.

[@zoeanthony2931]

I am always sharing deep things in hopes they will share deep things back...very few people mirror this...it's sad.

[@moorliving2703]

Why aren't people deep?

[@corysavell6521]

Sad part is, we connect too heavily and they are just not ready.

[@marslander2488]

I think INFJs can have different motivations for hiding our “truer” nature. I don’t believe we all hide out of fear. For me, it’s out of exhaustion. I don’t even want to bother with someone I know who’s not going to get it or someone I don’t instantly have a connection with. I try to move through shallow interactions as quickly as possible and I’ve found as I’ve gotten older that the best way to do that is to withhold.

[@tnt01]

100%

[@fembot521]

As an INFJ absolutely no one wants to hang out with me. I don’t understand it at all. I am nice, helpful, funny and I enjoy chatting and having fun but NO ONE EVER WANTS TO HANG OUT WITH ME. It seems like over the years I have met at least 50+ people and I only have one friend who also doesn’t really ask to hang out, it’s always me initiating. I am so sick of it.

[@kitkakitteh]

We're empathic; and we're drawn to pain, because we see it in a way no one else can. The person feels seen, and we feel connected. And yes, most people are not fans- though some are. I found respite working in an animal shelter. The animals need humans with the ability to go deep and connect.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

Give the kitties and doggies and all the critters some kissies for me

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

Have others confronted me in the past about being "too deep"? Yes. It does bother some people, yet, not all. The ones that are okay with me being "too deep" are the ones that are "too deep" as well. I connect well with those folks.

[@tarotoftelling2225]

I'm INFJ(at least in pretty damn sure I am), ladies and gentlemen... The key that has helped me connect with people, especially woman(my preference), is to BE TRANSPARENT. Let your flaws hang, if you gotta gut don't suck it in, stop holding your shoulders up high... Just LET PEOPLE SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU.

[@lucid_747]

Love that🌹 I would agree from my experiences. But what if your gut hangs less than theirs? How do you handle the competitive type who doesn't like you because they see you as competition whom they've lost to (even around their man)?

[@reginebee2054]

No matter what your MBTI type is, the bottom line is to be yourself. We cant please everybody. I'm an INFJ too and was confronted to be too deep. But along the way, I was able to find my group of people and these are INFJs, INTJs, ENFPs, ENTJs, INFP, ISFJ and ENFJ. Im thankful for them accepting me as I am. 🥰

[@kristi2953]

In the past because I could feel their pain I felt I needed to take it on. As I have grown, I can feel other's pain and just be compassionate and not interfere. I feel more accepting of who I as well and have self compassion.

[@AsteriETERNAL]

Amen!👍

[@allcreativemind]

Now that I know I'm an INFJ my world has changed a lot in a positive way. And you are so right about being yourself. I have had several colleagues, all in the same job position, with whom I immediately felt a connection. As soon as I tried to show my complex inner world, they took a step back and even resigned. I've always seen that as my fault. After years of superficial connections with people, someone crossed my path again last year, in the same job position. Immediately I was the extrovert around that person and the connection was good, perfect actually. Despite my past failures, I have shown my complex world again. I expected rejection but to my surprise there was understanding. The person is still talking to me and not acting strange. I found out that this person is an ENFJ. Our conversations are intense and seen by the outside world as amorous but it is so much more than that. Never give up because there is somebody out there, maybe closer than you think, who accepts your self-imposed strangeness and supports you instead of the other way around.

[@christophernash8166]

I once was a pastor, but now non-religious and I felt like most people in my congregation felt like I was too deep. They acted like they were afraid to get too close to me. And what I spent most of my time speaking about wasn't straight doctrine, which makes the average church goer at home. I spoke about normal ways of living a peaceful life and how to treat others in a way that even non-religious people would relate. I guess, I went deep even on those simple topics. And now as a divorced man, I find women find me too deep even when I feel like I'm not being deep. I can be deep and I hold it back. And on your mentioning of someone having some kind of story or truama, I feel often like I can try to create emotion especially with potential dates by using their story. I'll use it in my head. And with this way of doing things, I easily become too open-minded. What has happened to me is I see the good side of someone and eventually I find their trauma defines them more than I wanted to think. And I might try to date someone who has opposite views as me and feel that we can get along if we understand each other's motivations behind our beliefs. I feel there are people who have pure motivations behind opposing views. However, I'll find that that person almost always is way more defined by their views than I wanted to think.

[@JT-gm4fk]

I understand the "women find me too deep " part. Most of my friends all my life have been female. However, they've always been drawn to me in a sense as far as "mysterious" or sensitivities. But, it's when they get a little closer or try to get a little closer that they run. The depth factor is real and it usually turns others away after previously drawing them in or that's been my case at least.

[@jillmarieweingarten3048]

Everything you are presenting resonates with me. My INFP husband can deal with my "extra" deep personality. I do find the world a superficial place.🙄

[@lorraine8962]

Last time I saw my sis, she started screaming and told me to leave. I finally spoke up and she didn’t like it. And I was really nice about it.

[@Mr.Yang823]

I do this all the time. And people get scared because not everyone wants to unlock their secrets. And they close up. Then I tell myself later, dammit . Too fast too soon too deep.. couldn't agree with you more about organically making friendships when I'm not using my superpower

[@PiNkSpRinkLe1]

If I had a dime for every time someone said, "You think too much"...

[@makeitcount2985]

We are deeply empethetic, deep thinkers, looking for real connection most people are connected on a shallow level which is of no interest to INFJs

[@hopeinhumanity.]

If I could be utterly myself in my ideal world- I would be spreading sunshine and showing people that they are seen. However I also have realized growing up that others don’t live that way and will be skeptical, may believe you have ulterior motives, may believe that it’s not genuine or believe you are just plain weird (I don’t mind this one tho).

[@lesleysprague1158]

I've realized that others project their motivations on to us. If they think we have nefarious ulterior motives and are not genuine it's because they aren't and we show them that just by being us. I completely accept "weird" because "normal" is a locked cage. Oh to get over the insecurity of really letting MY voice be heard and to not flinch at the reactions. Spent the last year trying to fill up my hollowed out being by learning who I am and what I want (still working on it) & setting boundaries. Some people are very unhappy with these changes and are taking their negative energy and fleeing. This has brightened my life. A few others have begun to see me, the whole me and they like the real me. The first time it happened was just a year ago, I'm in my 60s🙄 It was such a relief. At this moment I still feel the need for at least a couple of people to find me likeable but I am no longer willing to change who I am to conform to norms.

[@INFPJannekeNL]

favorite song of the INFJ: True colors :)

[@JR6191947]

Wow you answered a lifelong question about myself and I am 73 INFJ has discernment but I never realized it bothered people My connections are very strong and I am selective. Other INFJ & ENFJ’s……where are you ??

[@mlbullbooks]

No, but I think I intimidate some people without even meaning to, and I'm like why? I'm not doing anything to you. But some people take certain things you may say or do as if you're out to condemn them, when really you're not even worrying about them. Smh...

[@JustineAdlong]

So true! Your comment reminded me of Wenzes' video about being "the bad guy" in someone else's story kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5a4gYuhnttsbcU

[@oraclesma4575]

The bane of my existence...😒😒😒

[@maximinoblas1171]

We're just brutally honest with people and they think 🤔 ur being offensive.

[@maximinoblas1171]

I understand 👍

[@mlbullbooks]

@@maximinoblas1171 Yeah, but for now on, I'm just keeping more to myself. Or at least, I'm trying to.

[@notthatvashti8127]

I've never heard Fe explained this way before; "Fe is about creating emotion." Usually, it's described as the harmony factor. Creating emotion makes sense as you never know how someone will react to your bid. Thanks!

[@Wenzes]

For the Infj it‘s a creative function because it‘s the second. The second is always considered the creating function 👍😊

[@notthatvashti8127]

@@Wenzes Thanks again, great feedback!

[@peterkarsten1992]

@@Wenzes Isn't creating a deciding function and therefore always either feeling or thinking? After all, you apply change to the world by being creative. If the second function would be Ni (as in ENFJ's for example), the 'creative' function would still be Fe, even though it is the first function with ENFJ's.

[@stephaniecara3190]

I just feel like I can’t share my emotions because people don’t care. It’s a lot easier to just listen to other people.

[@euniceo5345]

I’m the opposite. It’s very easy for me to share emotions. I become disappointed when people can’t relate or understand.

[@JT-gm4fk]

I understand, people not caring is my biggest issue. I've been a natural listener and adviser all my life and that's pretty much my strength. Sharing my emotions is not something I put effort into publicly and I'm absolutely comfortable with that . I do disagree with that part in this video. We are all different and not every Infj is as extroverted as others. If you're a sharer of feelings...that's great. If you're not, that's fine too.

[@sararichardson737]

CAVEAT: Beware of Covert Narcs. They love people who respect their wounds. It’s “Game on” for them and the dance macabre begins. Be aware. Beware.

[@nikkip.Christ-is-King]

I usually help the homeless and that fulfills that need. People in those situations open up and you can use your intuitive nature to help them in a lasting way. It's been amazing to be able to do that. You can see exactly where the need is even if that person can't. I feel like I was made to lift people out of those situations. To love them for who they are and who they can be in the same moment. That's what I think INFJs were created for is to help others. I recently returned to God and He is showing me that yes that is exactly what my purpose is. I had this vision of opening a family shelter since I was 13 and I thought it was mine but God gave that to me and recently gave me a name for the shelter..mitzvah. It means gift from the heart. I'm not Jewish but my Savior is.

[@anyadarlingg]

I don't think I do it in inappropriate situations. People usually tell me I'm rly easy to have deep conversations with.

[@pl1763]

I’m exactly at this point in my life where I want to stop being inauthentic and holding back so this message is perfect for me rn. I was so sad about not being able to find the relationships that I desired but I realized that I’m not even showing up as myself.

[@annadw6086]

In person I’ve been light and breezy- meek n mild - wouldn’t hurt a fly - but online I’m different - My ideal self as apposed to being my basic self Our society doesn’t prize being too open too real-

[@MegaCyberleader]

thanks to you I am now living an infj epic life. Heaps of blessings and fortunes have been piled apon me. I wont forget this.

[@REV1517]

Thanks for making this video. I don't have a best friend. Everyone connects with me fast and with in a week I know everything about them including their bad habits and weakness. Then the ghost me and I see them once in a while or never again. Too deep too fast I guess. 🤷🏾 I already had abandonment issues from childhood so as an adult I gave up on having friends or trying to do nice things because the like to abuse my kindness.

[@istvangyorfi4589]

Dear Wenzes! I am really grateful to you and the INFJ community as well. I know that INFJ people are really rare in the World, that is why I struggled so much in my younger years. I can not find people who has the same INFJ problems, who I could ask for advice etc. As you know the INFJ learning method, I just recently decided to start my journey, where I really become the person I want to be. Even tough every start is hard I enjoy every day in my life changing process. Best regards! István (Steven) from Hungary.

[@playboi.l1317]

True , ppl always get scared, when i‘m going deep they feel i can read them . But i don‘t have bad intensions but they can‘t trust. Someone feel the same?

[@derealratos6332]

Yea. they feel like they can't trust you because you don't choose sides

[@Valentinfj]

Sometimes, if i'm not wrong

[@alext.9033]

@@derealratos6332 So true. Most people only want to hear what they want to hear...not what they need to hear.

[@katnipkatnips]

Finding intuitives, I love it, I felt understood finally in the longest time. With Infp - dark geek stuff, social injustices, fictional crushes 👌 (we can also help them if they needed someone to hear and some practical productivity and motivation) Infj - same with infp but also opening about annoyances about people, vulnerability (also counter motivation, I like this I give encouragement, I receive encouragement) Enfj - decision making, validation, public speaking (i don't like it when we are in public space and many people greet them, I feel obliged to greet also 😅) Enfp - can tell all too more on the feeling side and ideas, positive perspective, a good laugh. Be very careful with reading them, sometimes they appear too flirty but doesn't mean they like you. When you like an enfp and they don't like you, you can't change their mind. Though for sure we still know infjs and enfps are good match, they just wanted something more sometimes. Intj- good with practical stuff. I like talking about dreams to them, I think these are one of the things that fascinates them too. I'm fascinated by the way they think (I think they're like our skepticism but full blown not hidden) and I'd like to say sometimes intjs get fascinated also with infj's empathy. They look like they are okay with people hating them, but I don't think so in some cases. I feel like infjs act soft all the time but is tough and dark inside, intjs act tough all the time but actually soft somehow. I think they needed infjs in their life too. At least one. Because they are rarely understood. Good friends, not coworkers. They will awaken my dark side real quick. Haha. Entjs - productivity, social injustices yes practical stuff, they are actually glad to help. They also give validation surprisingly but in a practical sense. They are good with making plans into reality. Intps - didn't have much experience with them probably had few in college. Just let them talk and then but in some sensical relevant ideas too. Don't be afraid to contradict some ideas, I think they will understand if you make a good point :) Sometimes they open up also about mental health. Be sure to listen very carefully, they rarely talk about feelings so it must be bottled up. Entp - haven't gone with them much. I'm not sure if I've seen one. Good friends for laugh but really lazy sometimes it's annoying 😅 you have to motivate them to keep going. Sometimes they get down when things get repetitive and without purpose. I think when you don't know them much they are annoying. But if you get to talk to them deeper, they can get along with you just fine, in fact they are more similar to infjs than we think. Isfjs are ok too. They would try to understand you and they give you care. Even if they don't understand fully. Just pushy sometimes when you do impractical stuff. But definitely considerate about how you feel. My favs are infjs and enfjs. ❤️

[@baaf777]

True, the younger version of me was not comfortable with allowing someone to go deep. And I assumed the same applied to others. It took time before this 8w7 would open the gates to his soul. Take the time to build trust.

[@colonelgraff9198]

Solution: find INFJ or ENFJ friends. They’ll get you.

[@alext.9033]

Or ENTP

[@serban2139]

so basically intuition as the 1st or 2nd function?

[@sararichardson737]

I hate all these abbreviations!

[@Yoyo235th]

My best friend is an ENFJ, can confirm.

[@tsams4497]

or INFP!

[@rc9266]

I always test the waters before I dive into the deep end. Look the world cannot handle the truth. Tread lightly and soon the way will be shown.

[@JoeGambleGuitar]

Wow, Wenzes… as usual this is incredibly valuable insight. It’s heartbreaking when your ability to genuinely connect and draw others out gets construed as some sort of magic trick/manipulation. Leaves me wanting to turn off my INFJ-ness sometimes 🥴

[@conorrogers403]

That’s so true holy shit. Most people don’t understand what it means to have good intention toward other people

[@vickie6662]

I couldn't agree more.

[@mkprojects881]

@@conorrogers403 yeah for real, I have noticed a lot of people have the attitude of "okay what's the angle here." It's not like we're going to exploit this in unsavory ways but their mentality is the conditioning the world has imposed on them. It's a survival thing. The fact remains though, it's a vulnerability and that makes anybody scared if they didn't choose to let that out. Instead of opening my mouth, I just have let the compassion be there and know that may be a person who could need someone in the future.

[@mommablueeyes2012]

I am learning about this...finding this has helped me. Thank you.

[@selorasoulstice]

Ever thought of starting a dating site strictly for INFJs? We need one 😄 (I know such sites exist but we really need one strictly for us!)

[@sarahmountstudios3188]

INFP and I love INFJs…..I feel like I understand them and also wish I had some of their traits

[@proper.role.model.819]

I look at it as were the 180 degrees of most people. What takes people 6 plus months to do in a relationship when they finally get to their depth...is what we can do in the first 6 months and that scares the living hell out of most people because we see who they actually are first. It's uncomfortable and I know as an INFJ and my vulnerability it can be hard as well to be seen. It's getting a lot harder the older I get. I'm 34 now and feeling depressed because most have their click and I'm searching for a connection of any kind. It's hard. It's draining and It makes me sad and feels like I'm missing out and not in the "clicks" of society and living my best life like others are with their groups of friends. Having been in unhealthy friendships where I got manipulated, taken advantaged of and guilt tripped and coming out of that after 10 years or so..Im feeling lost and disconnected and its scary to put yourself out into the "real world" having been so brainwashed and sucked into these guys's manipulative behaviors mentally and emotionally.

[@leilaslivingwater]

You nailed it right here , it’s almost like we can read people like books, all this small talks bore me to death, we can be fun and light once that connection is there but it is needed .. my brain will dissect concepts or anything at a root level almost on automatic mode .. Not many could handle it so I just started to not say anything but my inside world was already finding the root of this and that linking it to the reaction etc .. yes it goes fast and it goes deep . I am thinking that those who aren’t INFJ wouldn’t even be able to grasp the truth you just summarized in this video .

[@goldie3720]

Your analysis is spot on. I have never heard anyone describe this dynamic in such an accurate sense 👏🏾

[@mrtommypickelz3441]

Agreed...

[@graciegracie9187]

I do this! Do you have a Facebook INFJ group. This is what we need INFJs! Thank you.

[@TroyPosey]

Great video Wenzes! Yes, I've discussed many times that I'm "too deep" or "too intense" of a personality. It sucks sometimes. But I've learned that I'm going to be myself 100% of the time. Be authentic in a world of fakes, and you will stand above the crowd. 👍🏼

[@ericdsid3718]

Interesting. I also have one suggestions for all INFJ who read this. Try this in real world not in your head 🤣. I'm INFJ myslef so don't worry, i'm trying this to. Good luck~

[@Jennifera777]

We like being alone so we can dive more deeply into ourselves to try and figure our selves out and that's enough stimulation for the day. Lol

[@troyhofmann]

I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you and what you do for the INFJ community… 🙏

[@abowloflentilsoup3793]

Great video! I haven't seen anyone able to truly quite capture the general essence of being an INFJ quite like you do in your videos. Of course, because I'm obnoxious, I have a small disagreement with this video's title: it has a lot less to do with the INFJ seeming too 'deep' to others, but is more about how the INFJ generally wants to connect deeply in an almost invasive manner, with multiple people. Like fabricating a false connection and saying "show me the deepest most vulnerable parts of you" and then once you have them, you disappear not quite reciprocating the connection.

[@Jennifera777]

Now I get it. I met a girl in Ikea and loved her hair so I approached her in a very friendly manner and as we talked found out we had a lot in common. I felt connected to her instantly that and I felt I had known her for a long time and began to act accordingly to the point that when we were done shopping and went to the checkout, I signed her name on the credit card keypad because I happen to be standing by it when she was done. I didn't realize how much of an impression I made on her. Later, after we spent more time together, she said she felt like I was not the same person she met at the Ikea and wanted that person to return. She was very upset like she thought I tricked her. After that, she was in hot pursuit to figure me out because she fell in love with the person she met.

[@supernova3574]

So true. I never understood why people shut me off! Now I have the answer. Thank you ❤️

[@blainelemire9583]

I am new to your channel. I have never seen anyone describe so accurately all the nuances of the infj personality. It makes me feel understood for once.

[@katherine3217]

Thank you so much for these videos. They really help me to understand myself better and help bring healing to the areas where I just thought there was something wrong with me. I have always loved deep and meaningful conversations, and often feel like superficial small talk is a waste of energy. I think this is what I love about being a psychiatric nurse because I get to help teenagers with their real issues and trauma. I enjoy helping them through hard times and have no problem talking about the deep issues that others might shy away from. I also think that INFJ’s really value authenticity. We like to be ourselves and be surrounded by others who are also real and genuine. However, I have often felt like I had to hide my real feelings, struggles and traumas in order to be accepted and fit in. Like maybe I would be too much for others if I really shared what was on my mind. The world actually can be a pretty superficial and fake place because many people find it easier to focus on these things rather than their real issues and feelings. An INFJ is kind of like a fish out of water in these situations, in my opinion. Our authenticity might even be triggering to others who have gone the route of hiding their truth with masks and superficiality. Just being who we are could bring up emotions in themselves that they don’t want to feel or deal with. I think we have the gift of being able to help bring others back to the truth of who we really are and what really matters. But we also might face some rejection in the process and it was definitely hard for me as a younger INFJ when I wanted everyone to like me. Now I’m slowly learning in my 30’s that not everyone is meant to be in my life and if they reject me that’s really their loss or it just was never meant to be.

[@SamsonPavlov]

You're an artist Wenzes... Thank you for sharing this...❤️

[@Butka18]

I'm watching about INFJ more and more and it seems that it's nothing more than a curse for us... Rather than being ourselves like the others, we need to find out the ways to fix personality to be happy and eventually find a partner.

[@pirateking705]

I never shared my thoughts with others. Majority don't want to talk about deep topics

[@tristanshelton8789]

I know you made this channel to leave a positive legacy in this world. Just want you to know you are fulfilling it thank you! I needed to hear this

[@aquariusstar7248]

This was good. Not sure why i have a sad response to it tho. May have triggered some old memories where I got burned bc ppl seemed close then i got shut out for no apparent reason. I have to watch again later and reassess. Im doing my best to just focus on channeling that "going deep" skill in my new coaching business. And keep things light with others. Idk🤦🏽

[@bluemusej]

Same.

[@TheMangoBoi]

Go with the flow💫Never tip toe for others!💌

[@petalchild]

Oof I felt this

[@ROSALES-S900]

It's the Aquarius in us lol

[@tigre7739]

It never ceases to amaze me how these traits fit the personality like a glove! I would experience this many times over, and it would always seem very exciting at first when meeting someone and immediately feelIng some connection within my own mind at least, it was always a rush, but of course that would either last a little while or fizzle out sooner than later. I think I have gotten a little better as I've gotten older and come to understand it more. It still is very exciting to come across someone, who if even for a while, to share deep meaningful conversations with, which to me, I'd very gratifying. I think that I've learned to to start accepting more of me and who I am and really trying to openly present that, and learning how to more quickly assess and discern my feelings toward people I meet and try to look at it in a more realistic light. Thanks as always for putting it in a great perspective 👍🤟😃

[@sarahsano7471]

I am just gonna be authentic all the time and I am not thinking of that person as my solution, A Great Mindset!

[@gamblinggoons6323]

this channel is therapy💎

[@deborahwolff5651]

I have a tendency to get too deep when I am talking to people I've just met. I look at it as being very friendly but often wonder how the other person takes it though.

[@franco7091]

My best friend, who's an enfp, gets me so well... Outside of my family, he's the one who gets me most I'm so grateful we met... :]

[@stephonblalock641]

I've just recently learned this valuable lesson at 35! Instead of looking for the rare.person to connect with, I started connecting with others and the feedback I have received is amazing! I realized people mostly enjoy being able to connect on this level! And now I enjoy being around people more and more!

[@nisshoku1568]

I generally do I lot of self-reflection in my alone time, and as an INFJ, I sometimes trigger myself, and spiral into depression. So, if I'm being honest usually people who try to go deep into my world can't go deep as I can by myself, or if they do go deep, they either A) misinterpreted what they found, or B) (Which is extremely rare) they say something that is true and deep, but usually nothing new that I haven't already accepted about myself. I know this might make me slightly different from other INFJs, I sometimes purposely allow people into my inner world, without any care what they may find, positive, or negative. In a weird way, doing this allows me to analyze them in a new way, while they are analyzing me, I'm watching them for judgments, and perspectives.

[@rivhn]

in the same situation, thank you...like your videos 👍

[@davidw5532]

As an INFJ-T, At 42 I finally feel somewhat comfortable with myself to just be my authentic self out in day-to-day life. It’s very liberating to say the least. I understand I won’t be able to make a lot of truly deep connections but nonetheless I am being me. And I hope by being my authentic self perhaps people still take some positive aspects of my genuine personality to heart. I simply want to exude positive energy and make people feel comfortable and happy and that they are truly being listened to and acknowledged. We are all connected in one way or another. God Bless. 🙏🏻

[@richardwhite504]

Esoteric! Wow I love that word I love that you use that word. I'm going to try to use that word in my everyday life I probably won't be able to but that's a really cool word.

[@ericdoan9949]

Have any INFJs noticed a deeper connection with life lately? I feel as if some ethereal force is trying to show me something profound. Like a little message of reassurance that we are going in the right direction no matter the storm.

[@aishwaryaiyer3728]

It's good to see similar set of people experiencing similar situations

[@lynnroots7556]

Oh my ! I totally resonate with this ! Just amazing !!! Lynn Rancho Mirage Ca 🇺🇸 Thank you soo much 💕 Dec 3rd 2021 You are amazingly insightful 💖

[@editorjeannie2318]

This is one of the most insightful videos I’ve seen. Thank you

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

We seem deep to others because we see more of everything and we put it all together; plus were honest. To us its just normal. So if were talking with someone and they say im not feeling well, instead of offering the a cough drop we know the underlying problems. So we'll tell them the truth. Well people dont like that apparently 🤷‍♀

[@ambraiezzi5037]

These videos are helping me tremendously to appreciate myself. Things that i thought defects are actually characteristics. Thank you. 💙

[@sunset9729]

I'm ALWAYS pulling back on the Reigns of emotional help to others. Until they want help. Even then I don't wish to go down their rabbit hole.

[@paulsproutgreen4101]

this is great stuff...wonderful ideas...I am a male infj... thanks for that authentic green eyed perspective. Your thoughtful insightful connection helps me. Smiles!!!!

[@robincharron5052]

I certainly can't be something I'm not , and if it makes you uncomfortable or comfortable I'll just keep being me ! Amazing yes 🌞

[@jjsavage6493]

Im at work listening to this...

[@evildeities8750]

All I've been told us that I'm the "only one" who understands unlike any other. This mostly happens when I talk to people about who they are and their problems.

[@mbaratucci13]

I'm an infp and live for deep connections, as well as authenticity is a must. I feel I understand because I feel the same.

[@sahargal2204]

You’re awesome. You change my life with that advice ❤️

[@Sacredearthling]

It's not my fault that the world is external and refuse to live by their souls and be interesting and develop themselves internally

[@DaughterofZyion]

Yeah ..I'm told I talk differently to other people.. people don't talk like me

[@richardwhite504]

I occasionally have women think I'm hitting on them when I'm just trying to be nice. And then I'm afraid to talk to them which makes me seem rude or hateful. Very frustrating and disillusioning. I desperately want to get to know other INFJs but I really don't see that happening anytime soon if ever. I'm in a situation right now where it's almost as though the people around me have been feed negative information about me before they even got to know me so they have a predetermined idea of who and what I am and that blows my mind I just don't understand why or even how people would allow someone to dictate their thoughts or feelings towards another person.... And I'm constantly thinking well it's just my imagination but even if it's just my imagination it still bothers me so it's a problem. Even if it's not true it's a problem something is not right here!!! Even if it's just me it's still wrong!!!

[@jaimemaniglia2594]

i like your explanations during the videos and add your experiences. There was one in particular posted you've done that It was hard exposing yourself with release content on youtube

[@troyhofmann]

OMG! I resonate so much with your message…

[@eternalflame9339]

This is scary AF!! I honestly felt like I was alone, like I was 1 of 1

[@mikemerriman7154]

...because we are too deep for others...

[@AngieMck]

Thank you so much for confirming some things that through self examination, I had already started to process and come to terms with. Sometimes, I am too intense for myself! 🤦🏽‍♀️ So, I can empathize with others about my being too deep and intense! 🤷🏽‍♀️ I have come to realize that most times, I am wound pretty tightly. So, I am learning to lighten up some, and not to take myself and others too seriously, especially when it’s not warranted. 😑 It’s a process, but I am worth it, and ready to continue this journey of being my authentic self at all times while addressing other issues, co-dependency, insecurity, anxiety, and OCD. I will keep watching you to learn more!🤗

[@SweetandSassyRedhead]

I am a medical rep and noticed how much of a chameleon I am with people. Mirroring so much I feel fake even though I know I am sincere.

[@zannejae]

I found this channel recently. Thanks for doing this!

[@anadarth6761]

Where do you think they got the Jedi Mind Trick from? When you let it all out, you have become a Jedi Master!

[@gamblinggoons6323]

I do this way too much, & I can't help it. I just don't like shallow stuff‼💎

[@paul-fy9by]

Thanks for the growth so glad you share this

[@HaleyMary]

I think I might be INFJ. I have a hard time making friends, still have few close friends today and I seem to scare most men away because I tend to like a guy too soon. Weirdly, guys scare me off if they get sexual too soon as I'm chaste. I've given up on dating. I find it emotionally draining.

[@jakemcnamara8317]

This explains so much about me! Thank you!

[@DogWhoFilms]

I’ve been told I’m “Layered Like A Onion” I replied… “YOU NOTICED!?!!” Thank You! It’s nice to read poeple like a book and know what they are thinking about at any given moment… (giving them the benefit of the doubt always… I’m not a narcissist) ALSO… INFJ YOUNG MEN: DONT USE YOUR POWERS ON THE OPPOSITE SEX JUST FOR YOUR BENEFIT! Remember: with great power, comes great responsibility…. Go the next level and make them fall in love with you.

[@drewford3205]

Words were awesome thanks.

[@notasleanstillasmean3593]

Wow, this clears up a LOT for me. I tested as a STRONG INTJ about 10nyrs ago but this makes me think I am an INFJ

[@travisbartholomay]

I deleted the first half of this message I feel like deleting the rest.if it doesn't make sense it's for many reasons. It feels like I built protection walls were only I can destroy myself.and nobody else could have a chance.like did I get bored of torching myself.and start self loving myself so I could not hurt myself.and open myself to let others take there turn to torcher me.so I ask myself do I love myself or am I pretending to.or I'm I opening the door for others to torture me and saying it's ok I'm learning to love myself and loving yourself means I have to except more suffering.it really feels like am mind fuckering myself to except suffering.as I lead myself down a road were people say go this way this is success my heart really believes them .put it feels like nothing but the next level of suffering.now I'm lost i don't know how I was able to survive this new world is feels new .I'm used to the realm of my mind.I'm going in circles.and its a matter of time before I'm completely lost again. I am looking for really good people to suround myself with.i really believe this what I'm doing I believe it that is happening.like it's right Infront of me..people with most love in this world.like walking through heavens door..I don't understand why I am still blinding myself. Why I feel the need to push them away.when I worked so hard just to be next to these people. So I hide buys me time so I think but people are getting upset and they seem confused.and don't think I like them I see that I hurt there feelings. Because they are saying things about my actions that doesn't match my feeling or my thoughts..so I question my words. I think I'm coming up with the idea.that I am keeping my mind so lost and confused like a deer in the head likes. Am I really torching the hell out of myself still rebuild walls again

[@johnwilhelm385]

Wow....now I understand so much! Thanks!