Why Trust is More Important than Love in Relationships

Many romantic movies and books lead us to believe that love is more important than anything else in a committed relationship. However, when it comes to a long-term relationship, I find trust to be most important as we fall in and out of love. This video explains why I see it in my own marriage and in my clients' marriages.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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[@Barneyjo]

I heard this saying a long time ago It is a good comparable. “ Would you rather ride a horse you trust or a horse that you love? “

[@richardunis9204]

I would say trust and respect is the outmost important thing in a relationship

[@nash-a-one]

Well said, trust needs to be earned.

[@NguyenVinhHang]

"If you don't have trust you don't have us." Trust is the guardian of our values. Thank you for this guide for helping me gain more insights into trust after infidelity. 🤔

[@BigToeify]

Words of wisdom. Thank you Mary Jo. I’ve been betrayed multiple times in my life. But I am smarter now. I am paying attention to my gut now and I understand boundaries and trust. Thank for the reinforcement. You said it so perfectly.

[@theoracle5265]

The things you are saying about trust is what I've said to myself and my ex wife who kept doing things to erroid all trust. And because I became a victim of narcissistic abuse it became hard for me to hold to what I knew to be true, but when I trusted myself and held to this fact about trust I was able to break free from all the lies the hot and cold the gas lighting the projecting the triangulating etc. Trust is the foundation to all relationships especially marriage without trust a person doesn't have anything even Real Love.

[@-_Somebody_]

Excellent! You hit the nail on the head and it really made me reflect. Well done Mary Jo ❤️

[@terrywade3696]

I think trust forms much earlier than 18 months. My older brother and I were 13 months apart in age when I was born. My mother told me that she propped a bottle for me and would leave me in the crib and give my brother the attention so he wouldn’t get jealous. I never bonded with my mother. I’ve always had difficulty trusting people. But I trusted my husband completely and had many well thought out reasons why I did. So, can you imagine the trauma I felt when after 29 years of marriage, my husband had an affair?

[@themetalgardener4960]

Now I got the song "What's love got to do with it" stuck in my head.

[@Tamarjit1]

Trust is not blind! It’s an action. It’s who you are. Great words of wisdom Mary Jo.

[@Truman77.]

Yes that love feeling is blind faith and I did this too many years. That loving feeling meant implicit trust: so foolish! I mistakenly thought love could conquer all. Agreed, trust is the foundation of love. A commentator below added respect, which I totally agree with. Additionally follow one's instinct and check things out that may not feel right. I could never settle in my second marriage and there were clues, but I just went along with that feeling of love. Of course things can remain hidden for years and to confront could possibly mean the end of the relationship. Better to confront early than to kick the can down the road. Having been cheated upon this broke the trust I had in my ex. I tried to rebuild it, but the lack of trust remained and ate away at my soul. Foundations of love: Trust Respect Follow your instinct and confront things that don't sound right, which possibly could cause upset and at worse the end of the relationship. Avoid narcissists (coverts as well).

[@bigkj2.027]

Trust is huge

[@danmaertens7872]

This channel and advice is so helpful, so candid and understanding, I’ve taken a lot of notes, thank you!

[@ft4686]

THIS IS SO GOOD!!!!

[@mangopoppy]

Thank you so much for this. 💗

[@MsGaby915]

Thank you!

[@jeanc9868]

👏👏👏 Very good video Dr. Rapini ❤

[@abhijitmajumder9278]

Yes, yes, & YES indeed.

[@KeyaShiva1]

Yes,so true!

[@lotusmccary9365]

Yes........

[@itswow3014]

If i trust someone soo much and that person is playing with my trust then.

[@sharleneanderson1192]

YESSSSS 🙌🙌

[@elfascisto6549]

Trust is naive

[@josdenhartog7385]

❤🙏💕🍀

[@paniq_fnite]

Mention Thomas and Jesus and Im a new sub! 🤗✝️💕

[@rah_soj3rsey]

Thank you ❤