Why we need to immediately stop all weddings

[@theTwilightSystem]

I've been to a few weddings now. They're horribly boring. But I went to one this past summer that was absolutely amazing. The bride and groom really wanted it to be a party for the guests. Ceremony was 20 minutes. The rest was open buffet, a dance floor, and some games. There was a place to put coats and a change of clothes if you didn't want to stay in your formal attire. There was a quiet room if anyone got overwhelmed. I have so much anxiety around social situations and had a great time.

[@orphero]

Bro that actually sounds like an awesome wedding instead of long boring shit where you are in a super uncomfortable overpriced suit

[@possiblymad8226]

That's my plan. 30 minutes of ceremony, hours of partying and fun. With a quiet area containing some board games and fidgets because I get overwhelmed easily.

[@aazhie]

That sounds like an amazing wedding c: love the quiet room. Sounds very chill

[@StarryDust718]

the quiet room is a genius idea, i already was thinking of having a dress change after the ceremony to appease my autism. and yeah, a long ceremony is awful. ive fallen asleep to enough hour long masses, 20 min is so much better

[@ItsBearCraft]

@K.C-2049 And they drove home afterward? Uh Oh, it seems a group of School Children are crossing the street! "We can't go under it, we can't go over it , OH NO, we'll have to go through it!"

[@Bro_Guyden]

Love isn't just blind, it's also financially gullible.

[@eldritchtourist]

Obligation, not love.

[@Bro_Guyden]

@@eldritchtourist Love, not obligation. Cry about it

[@LetMeEatDem]

@@Bro_Guydenyou were sold a dream.

[@Bro_Guyden]

@DTB2397 I cant afford to be sold anything.

[@LetMeEatDem]

@@Bro_Guyden you definitely bought it though

[@jax_firestorm9689]

As someone who works in fine dining and event catering, weddings are absolutely a scam. They’re so overpriced. Please keep having them. They’re the only reason I get to pay rent.

[@Jade_d577]

made me laff

[@chinogitarista7379]

As a musician, I agree. Please keep having them.

[@felucca]

Haha, true. And your rent's pretty safe, since catering is probably the last thing people want to skimp on. You can easily skip live music or the professional photographer to lower your costs - no one complains because you make a Spotify playlist and I'm sure you have at least one friend who can take an ok photograph. But everyone with a working brain realises that making all of your own food for an entire wedding and serving it would be a stress-inducing logistical nightmare that just goes on and on for the entire evening.

[@Lady_Amelia-Eloise]

They aren’t a scam

[@VaChiee]

I know the feeling 😂😂 Same thoughts go for divorce attorneys

[@kulpriya3778]

At my parents' wedding my dad straight up refused to pay the ransom for the joota churai and walked out barefoot. His shoes still are at my maternal grandparents' place it's been 25 years lmao

[@badmotherfucker6328]

Cheap ass groom lmao

[@misstekhead]

Your dad is a legend. 👍

[@Ultran122]

Based

[@fnfdmgjfndf]

Tell your dad I think he's a legend. You can refer to me as "some weirdo on the internet". Or just tell me you did it but don't actually do it. Or don't respond at all and I can pretend you did it.

[@kulpriya3778]

@misstekhead listen I love him and hold him in v high regard but this was not his best moment a lot of effort goes into stealing them shoes (I was not present at my parents' wedding but I have been part of this ritual at my sisters' weddings and it's tons of fun!!)

[@NeonLeon02]

I have been to some awful weddings, but they all worth it for my aunt and uncles; they rented out a top floor of an airplane museum because they’re both pilots, the ceremony was only like 20 minutes, they immediately proceeded to have a lightsaber duel with dramatic star wars music, there wasn't a lot of people and for basically the entire night we just danced to fun 80s songs with the family and explored the museum :)

[@chocolateaddictedartist5924]

Wait that sounds so fun-

[@peteryeeterson5766]

That sounds lit as hell

[@maggg8450]

The only venue i would consider is a museum

[@tessiepinkman]

That sounds awesome! Like, truly friggin' AMAZING!

[@hephaestus369]

Did a "ceremony" at my parents dinner table with a family friend who was also a notary. Screw destination weddings.

[@zeropen0719]

what is a destination wedding?

[@kennydoggins1712]

@@zeropen0719 you and your families live in one place and then decide to have the wedding in a different state than you live in meaning everyone has to either drive fly or travel in some way to go to the wedding.

[@zeropen0719]

@@kennydoggins1712 that sounds like hell

[@kennydoggins1712]

@@zeropen0719 it is especially when the wedding takes place you are in a shitty relationship so now you get to argue and fight in a place that's supposed to be a loving paradise location. Stay single don't get married if you do elope.

[@LoveAndSnapple]

I think destination weddings are good if most of someone's family members are in a different country and don't have the means to travel.

[@Theevintagewitch]

Most people I know who spent thousands on a wedding ended up divorced, while those who went the cheaper route (EX: Courthouse wedding with a modest celebration afterwards) have been married for YEARS. Funny enough, one guy I know spent big money on not only his first wedding, but also his SECOND wedding...which both ended up in divorce. His third marriage where he eloped has been his longest lasting relationship ever. lol Just a weird coincidence...?

[@alchemist0019]

It's actually statistically proven that the more you spend on a wedding the more likely you are to divorce.

[@parkchimmin7913]

@@alchemist0019 Exhibit A: Kim Kardashian’s and Kris Humphries’ marriage lasted *72 days* and they spent $10 million on the ceremony.

[@jms855]

Nope. I've had a small wedding and divorced 2 months later.

[@silasstryder]

Nope, statistical fact, weddings that cost 20K or more are 1.6 times more likely to end in divorce than weddings that cost 5-10K and couples that spend less than 1k are less likely to divorce than the average. - 'A diamond is forever' and other fairy tales: the relationship between wedding expenses and marriage duration by Andrew Francis-Tan and Hugo M. Mialon

[@TheUncouthGentleman]

​@@jms855 That's anecdotal evedience; we're operating on statistics here, i.e. large-scale punching numbers

[@angelprinz]

As an introvert the thought of a wedding makes me shiver.

[@annacobb1140]

Could you imagine paying all that money to spend a weekend with 100 people? If that's not the definition of hell idk what is

[@binasdna]

as an extrovert they seem fun ngl

[@lisahoshowsky4251]

I’m an introvert but I love throwing an occasional party on my own terms. That means my place and I can kick you out when I’m at my social limit😅 I can’t imagine having 100+ people there with their attention on me for the better part of a weekend😩

[@Sometalllperson]

Shiver me Timbers

[@RockinChairGoblin]

My wife and I are both introverts and yeah...having all of that attention on us had us both going through panic attacks leading up to it and even afterwards.

[@sketch_heaven]

I went to a wedding once where the ceremony was "log" themed (bride's choice) and just had a bunch of logs everywhere covered in flowers and glitter. The reception, however, was starwars themed (grooms choice). The bride and groom came out into the hall as husband an wife through a tunnel of friends and family holding up light sabers. The food was emaculate and the weird lack of coordination between the two themes made it very memorable and funny.

[@mostHumblePersonAlive]

It sounds like an episode of Portlandia

[@Synister125]

You know if they kept it all star wars, the bride would only had have had to get a princess Leia costume to act as the wedding dress.

[@sketch_heaven]

@@Synister125 honestly would have elevated the expirience

[@Synister125]

@@sketch_heaven 🤣🤣

[@SigFigNewton]

Endor themed wedding?! Cool! Glad to hear it all came together well.

[@the_tangled_girl9494]

My mom is a photographer who charges more reasonable prices than others, but she does hike up the wedding price because she says its awful, having to go for hours, including the practice run thingy before the actual wedding, trying to get soo many people to be properly in the picture, having to deal with proper lighting, and all sorts of other junk

[@Lambdaleth]

My wife and I had a COVID wedding and honestly it was the greatest fucking thing, because it gave us an excuse to have exactly the wedding we wanted without having to cave to the wants of family. I haven't finished the video yet but one of the worst parts of having a wedding yourself is your immediate families' demands, including all the people (extended family you see once or less per year, family friends or otherwise) they expect you to invite. And the fact you apparently are not allowed to only invite the cousins you're somewhat close to and not the rest. So yeah we didn't have to fulfil any requests, our dress code was casual, everyone got personal make-your-own fajitas (and TONS of other food), we did fancy donuts instead of cake and the entire thing was only 4 hours long. I think we did a pretty damn good job all things considered. Edit: I also have to share the best wedding I've ever been to (other than my own) that was a friend's wedding at a beautiful canoeing resort, and it was viking themed, and we were encouraged to dress up as vikings, so you bet your ass we dressed up as vikings. I have never been so comfortable and had so much fun at another person's wedding before.

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

Both weddings sound amazing ❤

[@brettvale9432]

Thats awesome to hear you had a good wedding. Im gonna die alone ❤

[@LoafofSourdough]

⁠@@brettvale9432yes you are ❤️

[@krewisamazing2895]

@@brettvale9432 same

[@norrecvizharan1177]

Ey, at least having good friends can still be pretty dang meaningful. True love is kinda overrated, considerin how expensive it is (and also how devastating the emotional impact is if the connection goes wrong somehow)@@brettvale9432

[@Пинагод]

All the wedding traditions of other countries can be condensed into one. First, the Chinese bride is going to cry with her female relatives/friends, then as day of the wedding comes she can finally stop crying cause some Indian friends decided to steal her soon-to-be husband's shoes and demanded him to hand them money as a joke, then the South Korean bros come in, swoop the groom of his feet, and start beating that same feet. That's just hilarious.

[@no-m8]

It is sister of bride who steal the shoe not friends.

[@Selina-yc5lr]

​@@no-m8it depends because sometimes everyone wants to join in

[@hwasassidechick]

I love this comment lmao

[@markzambelli]

Meanwhile, as the boys are distracted, the girls get together to see who the bride can give hayfever to when she hurls a bunch of flowers at them before the limping groom and bride attack and murder a cake with a big knife.

[@whoahanant]

This video is everything I ever thought about weddings lmao I love the more chill, small or personal weddings in general. Also yes. You could easily buy alot of stuff for much cheaper but the second you add "wedding" to it they jack up the price.

[@HauntakuTV]

Just make a lasagna

[@dulcecitarisitas3504]

@@HauntakuTV ok garfield

[@zoombeanie]

I’ve always hated weddings, I’ve always hated a lot of social occasions! Which makes me so goddamn grateful that my stepmom understood how much weddings suck when she married my dad because she actually made it kickass. 10 minute reception, no dress code besides the groomsman and bridesmaids (even then we got to choose which version of the suits and dresses we liked the best, no need to match,) literally just a dad barbecue for most of the time and you could leave whenever you want. It was also just in a cute park, didn’t even have to rent a single thing and only the cool family and friends were invited. Minimal effort, do whatever you want type event. Everyone thank my stepmom.

[@Dechelgo]

Your stepmom is smart in realizing your opinion of her is more important than everyone else’s besides her husband, but it’s the woman who cares anyway, so, smart. I respect the ceremony and would have done the same

[@LancashireAndYorkshire]

Thanks Zoombeanie's stepmom

[@jmac356]

What about the ceremony itself?

[@koolkel00]

I'm currently helping my sibling plan their wedding and the goal is super chill fun vibes. Both bride and groom are socially anxious introverts who love each other very much and just want a small wedding with their favorite people there and wanna just be in love and have a fun time with minimal social pressure! Hell yes! They wanna keep the ceremony 30 minutes TOPS, less if possible, and then party the night away! There is a COOL ASS CUSTOM FORGED SWORD INVOLVED IN THE CEREMONY!!! And they're gonna be handfasted to the sword as they say their vows! (All done by them and the officiant, so its not very complicated.) and have a pretty, uncomplicated ceremony and have as minimal stressors as possible. Dope shit!

[@LilCorgiGal]

A custom forged sword is hella cool. Major props to both of them

[@MaiNameJeff]

Tugg always manages to make me view completely normal things as weird and nonsensical stuff, and to be honest it's starting to scare me

[@huntercoleherr]

That's because they weren't normal to begin with, you were just raised to think they were and never questioned it. Comedians are really good for pointing this shit out.

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

You are scared because you're being shown the truth. Most people don't like that.

[@imonyoutuberightnow2668]

The Joker.

[@emmanansel2820]

Nothing to fear, being baffled and exasperated by arbitrary social norms is just how autistic people exist at all times

[@sillyvinvin]

@@imonyoutuberightnow2668 society....

[@Kingbimmy]

“Jesus Christ, Lindgren, pull it together…” under his breath for some reason made me snort laugh. I’ve been studying Korean for like 7 years and I had no idea about this tradition, which is suuuuper unfortunate to learn, because I have a pretty bad foot phobia 💀 But I do appreciate the inclusion of other cultures wedding traditions, because sooooo many other places have cool and interesting shit they do.

[@222cubing8]

Like of your own feet too?

[@youknowit8713]

You scared of toes? Prove it show me your toes.

[@온새밀]

Don't worry, I have been Korean for my whole life and I didnt know anything about that🎉🎉

[@shadow-faye]

Youre afraid of feet?

[@kalaharilee9614]

Ill never understand how someone has a phobia of their own body part. it must be torture lol@@shadow-faye

[@StackatackaStudios]

4:37 you know what’s a funny thing my parents did their wedding was not religious at all, they included our cats in the vows, my dad had to do the thing you do where you declare that your wife’s kids are your kids now too, for our CATS, and the chapel was from “The Church Of The Dude” it was amazing.

[@aazhie]

That sounds like they have good priorities :) having fun is a way better idea than being all stuffy and fancy

[@jaythephoenix]

The most good thing about realizing that the shadow of eternal slumber draws ever closer, and seeing the ambitious glimmer long gone from my eyes reflected in bright young souls not yet twisted by the abominations of this world...is reading about folks whose parents are my age or not much older sharing cool modern takes on things :). Will have to look into this church as it sounds- fuck what do the kids say? Uh. "Straight up boss?"

[@Sloposaurus_Rex]

Cringe af

[@eatatjoe]

@@Sloposaurus_Rex Not as cringey as a regular wedding.

[@Novictus]

​@@eatatjoeincorrect

[@Ghostly_Gal_]

I will say, the best wedding I ever went to was my first one, and it was sci-fi themed. Instead of formal wear, you got to literally cosplay as whatever fantasy/sci-fi/whatever character you wanted to. The bride and groom were dressed up too: the groom, the 10th doctor from Dr. Who (my whole family and I were characters from that show), and the bride was a stormtrooper. There were cardboard cutouts of Star Wars, Star Trek, DC, Doctor Who, and more characters on the dance floor, and a TARDIS directly in the middle. There was a whole lot more, but those were the highlights. All this to say, that’s the only fun wedding I’ve ever been to, and if mine isn’t like that one, I’m literally just not getting married.

[@hailsatan6678]

People here are talking about Tugg and the wedding stuff, meanwhile im over here feeling feelings because at 9:49 hes reccomending music made by his buddy unprompted while knowing his friend will never know, like that guy on reddit who watches his friend's _'sad girl hours'_ spotify playlist and checks on her when he sees she's listening to it 🥺🥺

[@smolbluegoblin]

The only wedding I'm genuinely excited to attend is my cousin's because she called me to invite me and said "you're gonna be the only one of our cousins coming because you're the only one I like, so don't tell the others" I don't talk to any of our other cousins so anyway, I'm just glad she's not feeling forced to invite people she doesn't like to her big day, and I'm also glad I won't have to endure my drunk cousins' weird jokes

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

Happy for you and your cousin. ❤ Lovely to see more ppl stop feeling forced to invite everyone just to not offend anyone. I never got why ppl who you talk to once in a blue moon feel entitled to an invite just bc they are technically family. Doesn't make sense to me. 😅 Congrats to your cousin an much love to you ❤

[@felucca]

My cousin just casually told us she was getting married and we weren't invited, lol. I'm glad we're close enough she could say that without worrying anyone would be upset.

[@DailyDemon]

Tugg in a wedding dress is something we never asked for, but always needed

[@hailsatan6678]

What where??

[@quattuorvigintupletritrigi8357]

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[@yikes5683]

I was dragged to the wedding of my then-girlfriend's brother, and it was held in his backyard. His wife was absolutely stunning in her dress... however he was wearing one of those T-shirts that have a simple tux design printed on it with camo cargo pants and muddy sneakers. It was a small and quick wedding. I understand that nicer weddings are expensive, but I'd hate myself for wasting an extremely special and magical day with someone who couldn't at least wear something a little more formal and clean if I was in the wife's comparitively elegant shoes. I'm sure it was agreed and planned beforehand but it was so cringe from an outsider's perspective

[@yahiiia9269]

It's cringe from outsiders perspectives because weddings are fundamentally based on complete and utter delusion. If the delusion breaks, the brain short-circuits and you cringe. There is nothing special about the day or the clothing or the items or the cake, the person you are with is the special and magical part, every day of your life. If only a single day with someone is considered "magical" and "special", then maybe you're with the wrong person. The sole reason why so many people fall for "special" and "magical" on wedding days, is marketing. The same reason why pugs are breeds designed to suffer and our feet are unhealthy due to our toes needing to contort like crazy in shoes that don't offer sufficient toe space, reducing our overall health, it's all a sham, to make money. You and many others were manipulated into thinking a day should be special, instead of the fact that you are supposed to spend every day with people who are special to you! Who knows, maybe he bought the dress for her and couldn't afford anything for himself, solely so she could feel beautiful. That changes the whole story in an instant. If we don't know the full story, all complexity and beauty is lost to the observer. Of course things become cringe when you don't know anything about these people, you were the npc, the side-character in that story. Your perspective was entirely meaningless to them. Perhaps one day, they will have a big wedding when they're more comfortable financially, due to having saved up, maybe they used the money for a long vacation or to rest easy together later in life, maybe they were unsure if they'd stay together and to that I say, they wasted no money on someone who might turn out a bad match.

[@goldenealgefromdutchbros6834]

ew

[@gaywizard2000]

Sounds like an episode of My Name Is Earl.

[@yikes5683]

​@yahiiia9269 you're so right. I never thought about the idea of weddings as a marketing tactic, but I truly do think that a couple celebrating their (hopefully) lasting love is beautiful and special. Of course, the wedding doesn't have to be huge and flashy, but at least dressing up nicer than usual makes the event feel more significant, at least in my eyes.

[@Eli_Guy]

See, if it was a wedding where the bride was also in on that - walking up the aisle in like a big hoodie, sweat pants and crocs - then thatd be a wedding I actually would go to lmao

[@Mangaka718]

I have been to exactly two (2) weddings that were not a horrible, stressful day, one of which I was the "maid" of honor for, and the main reason those were cool and not terrible was because they tried to be as little like a traditional Western wedding as possible. One was Halloween-themed, so there was individually wrapped candy scattered on the tables, everyone dressed up in costumes (and like, *actual* costumes and not "formal" costumes; two people in the wedding party were dressed in inflatable Patrick Starr onesies), and after dinner we played Ultimate Werewolf. Plus, the bride is a crochet artist and she handmade a lot of the decorations and her whole bouquet. The other was fantasy-themed, and several people including the notary showed up in straight-up armor, the bride and groom handed out "collectable cards" they made about all their inside jokes and all the guests got to trade them around, and instead of a bible they swore over a copy of D&D 5e Dungeon Master's Guide. I will never pass up an opportunity to hype up nonstandard weddings, especially if it saves money and makes the whole event, like, *actually fun.*

[@trinitygrau4978]

Wedding photographer and videographer here so I’m biased, but also I totally agree with most of this. When my husband and I got married we spent under $3k (which still feels like a lot but what you gonna do) and had a wedding with 40 people max, all of our favorite people who we knew would blend well and people have told us multiple times we had a super fun wedding because it was all under 4 hours of time and we had strategic invites. Also, no we don’t overcharge cause it’s a wedding. I have to do a LOT more on a wedding day than I would with other types of photo and video work and there’s a LOT more pressure for a million angles and options because brides stress. I put a lot of effort into the experience I provide brides including gifts, client aid/calls, etc. Also it’s my full time job so you bet I’m charging so I can survive and afford to actually do my job.

[@trinitygrau4978]

Also I’m convinced wedding venues are the real biggest scam. It takes zero effort to rent out a building and half of these places don’t even offer a lot of amenities you still have to have bartenders, planners, etc come in. They literally are just rolling out tables and putting down linens. Half the time they don’t even decorate. So…if you want great passive income become a venue owner I guess 😂

[@TackeMatty]

Officiated my friend's wedding last year. They wrote such a short ceremony that the venue workers were stressed out because the guacamole wasn't done yet. It ruled

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

I like how he completely left out the cost of wedding rings. Probably because it was just so obviously dumb it could be overlooked. Some can easily cost as much as an entire wedding. Of course they also hold no real value because diamonds are stockpiled. Then there's the engagement ring...

[@mangledfoxy2052]

This is exactly why I don’t want a diamond ring. Hell maybe even forgo the ring, and make it something else more personal and heartfelt instead, I think that would be more personal

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

@@mangledfoxy2052 It doesn't even make any sense from a golddigging standpoint. If a woman is upset her man won't throw several thousand out the window for her, clearly it's not about the money. Because that could have easily been invested. Just a thought I had.

[@bretth342]

Get an opal ring. Lab grown and holds its value more than natural diamonds

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

@@bretth342 Get literally any gem and it has more character than glorified glass

[@_Sloppyham]

@@JustSomeKittenwithaGunlove the emerald and gold color scheme. Reminds me of ba sing se from Avatar 🤌🏻

[@SaucyB1]

i saved about $41,500 and went to the courthouse 😂 cost $125 for the marriage license and to actually have it at the courthouse, went home and cooked dinner 😎that was our reception

[@altusshow7574]

Same. My wife and I went to the courthouse and the mayor of our smallish town happened to be there and free, so she married us. It was just 4 people but it was quick, easy, and pretty great.

[@aazhie]

Sounds so pleasant :)

[@brunoqnzbk7891]

Smart couple ❤

[@SaucyB1]

@@altusshow7574 ayyyeee the mayor being there and doing it is amazing and i had about 5 people at mines 😂 so that sounds about right 👍🏿

[@zynpkrdg]

So i thought you might enjoy learning about some wedding traditions from Turkiye! There's a "henna night" that's only for women to gather around and dance before the actual wedding and the bride generally wears red. They dance to random songs really, but there's a tradition of making the bride sit down, and then walking around her in a circle with candles in hands while her mother or someone close applies henna on her hands and puts gold, and then there's a song called "high high hills" that they all sing until the bride cries. (The bride has a red veil on her head, and someone looks under it to see if she's crying yet every once in a while, and once she sheds a tear they're all like "the bride cried!" and then it's over lol.) The crying part comes from how in the older times women used to go to far away places after getting married and transportation was really hard so they'd go really long without seeing their families and miss them. The song's lyrics even go like "let them not build houses on high high hills, let them not send their daughters to far away lands, let them not scorn the apple of her mother's eye, let the flying birds know i missed my mother, my father and my village." So it's to express sadness over leaving your family, but for the rest of the night everyone dances like crazy. And for the actual wedding, in some places people just dance (they especially do halay) the whole day. The groom goes to get the bride from her house and everyone else follows them with cars (this is generally for closer people) and then they go to the wedding place with a big tail of cars following them (they bind a towel or scarf around the car's mirror so people know which cars to follow). And every city has its own wedding food, but there's generally rice and meat involved. I go to every wedding i'm invited to because i love the wedding food. The stealing shoe thing also made me think of another tradition. Both the groom and the bride have someone by their sides (i guess groomsman and brideswoman? Idk if there's an english equivalent.) and sometimes people pull pranks on them. Like kidnapping the groom and using him for ransom from the groomsman. The groomsman has to get him before the ceremony.

[@travellingdog3794]

“I’m not an incel, I promise” my tinder intro

[@MrBlakeleyden]

THANK YOU!!! I’ve thought this for ages. It’s like many girls feel the need or desire to have a wedding that lives up to a royalty’s standard of wedding. A marriage is literally the most intimate relationship you can have with one other human being, and yet everyone else is involved with the 2 people kissing, for some reason? Then my dad had to drop money on the right kind of suit even though he had other suits that still looked nice. I was asked to as well, but didn’t comply. If you want me there, i’ll wear something affordable, thank you. It never even came up. But the money is so ridiculous. You NAILED IT!

[@christinem1458]

I still remember my coworker some years ago. Her husband is a grocery store clerk, which is minimum wage, while we made $16.50/hr. She was complaining about how she and the guy went into debt for around $30K, and the wedding planner bailed on them for whatever reason. They couldn't get refunds because the venues didn't allow it, idk why. And that's not even the full cost because both their parents were contributing $45K additional to their weddin. I have no clue why people would spend so much money to show off when it gives them so much stress. I'm an introvert. I don't like parties or other people all that much. I told my partner I want to go to the municipal court and have a backyard gathering with close friends and family so we don't have to spend that much money. Idk, to me, affording a mortgage and cost of family planning is more important than a stresful $75K party

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

Agree. And even if you were to take the introvert part out of the equation, it's still such a huge amount of money to just spend it on a party...Not saying others aren't allowed to do that but it would burn a whole into my heart to have it go down the drain for that instead of something useful you can benefit from more fundamentally in the long run like the things you mentioned. Much love to you ❤

[@WannabeSleeping]

Not trying to change your mind on any of this. I just want to put out to the world that you absolutely CAN have your fancy party (aka wedding) without it costing THAT much. Most weddings ARE going to cost at least a few thousand dollars, but it definitely doesn't have to cost more than, like, 15k-20k. Some people are able to get the cost down even lower, and keep it around 5k.

[@robertklimeck1918]

​@@WannabeSleepingEven $5000 for one day is ridiculous to me, unless you've got money to burn and in that case, give it to someone less fortunate and $15-$20k is flipping insane.

[@dometrikschramm5301]

5:12 The Taijya crying thing seems super healthy to me. Marriage is a big step for any culture. Taking steps forward means you're inevitably leaving things behind, so you gotta cry it out or carry that bad mojo all the way through your marriage.

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

But it does give "Midsommar" vibes tho... ❤😂❤

[@dometrikschramm5301]

@@tallulahraccoon3832 only bc it's not a common practice to us. For them, it's probably both revered and kind of an "oh that's normal" thing.

[@cloud__99]

I‘ve had great and not so great times at weddings as a guest but the overarching impression I got at 95% of them is that the hosts can’t even really enjoy themselves? Like they’re super stressed from all the organisation building up to the big day, constantly running around trying to do all their guests justice but aren’t able to get into meaningful conversations with any of them, constant photo ops and when they finally make it to that ludicrously expensive buffet they meticulously picked all the best stuff is gone. I feel like a lot of them romanticise it in retrospect saying how this was their best day ever but few actually seemed to be feeling it in the moment.

[@kahliainglis71]

My best friend literally got married in our backyard and spent I think just over a grand on everything, all the decorations were from op shops, cheap shops or fb marketplace, and she had a bunch of friends and family help out with things like photography. As much as I don't see much point in weddings, it was kinda cool to see someone be so thrifty planning their own wedding

[@Nik-Name2008]

One of my aunts was on house arrest at my parents wedding, ankle bracelet and all. That should've been the sign that things weren't gonna work out.

[@codemiesterbeats]

Lol I come from a line of mountain folks my aunt is a truck driver, at my mom's wedding before the ceremony got started she said "I believe this paneling would look good in my trailer" 😂 As I like to say, "she ain't got no act right" 😂

[@TheErikaShow]

@@codemiesterbeatsOmg…Your holidays must be epic. I’m almost jealous. Take a page from MY book and make sure to film EVERYTHING! Especially if it gets messy. You will be the family hero.

[@panmush]

Covid weddings were definitely an unspoken gem.

[@gianlucatartaro1335]

That “bonding experience” Freudian slip had me spitting out my cereal 😂

[@jerryAAAAAAA]

"and then you have to drive back to the penis man" (1:19) has to be one the funniest things i've heard in a while

[@Txtally_a_swiftie]

4:00 as an indian I would have liked you to mention that the grooms side of the family has to protect the shoe from the brides side of the family

[@RajetsuKiba]

In Austria one of the traditions is to saw a log together (which I think is very cute.. alone it's hard, but together with a two person saw its easier) 😊

[@Norp-i7m]

One time I saw a saw saw salsa.

[@kayburcky7146]

Southern Germany here and that is because you're not allowed to bring your god damn chainsaw. When you use those old ass saws ofc it's difficult to do alone. And I never really understood the symbolic of this except for what you just said and that seems a bit arbitrary as sole explanation

[@Ittosmelon]

Oooo

[@amoretdegray1892]

I also live in austria but that must be a more rural tradition, bc I've never heard of it 🙈 also hi 👋 good to see some fellow Landsleute on a random video about weddings ^^

[@legorebelsoldier7896]

Always a good day when tugg posts

[@Hobobgoblin]

Saturday?

[@thebluedragon493]

​@@Hobobgoblin or Sunday if you happen to live in Australia

[@wintershock]

The only cool wedding I attended was in a ghost town and since we were already somewhere pretty informal we had no dress code. We had no tables. We all had to bring our own food so it was basically like a potluck and the photographer was whoever brought a camera with them. It was a great time, albeit it was a bit sketchy.

[@renthemen.]

I'm guessing the couple couldn't pay the expense of the food, venue and photography, but they still wanted to make it fun for everyone

[@234Spotman]

I LOVE the idea of a wedding potluck tho.

[@gmofan6689]

I love your content brother, it truly is a highlight to any day. I sit in my car and watch your shorts on my lunch breaks to escape from my medial life for just a few minutes. Thanks man seriously. I can rewatch your vids and still crack up laughing. You’re the man

[@rhythmsynthesis]

My wedding was incredibly fun. It almost turned into a full on rave (our friend DJed- he’s a dubstep DJ, and that’s our kind of music. I mean, our official Honeymoon was Lost Lands music festival). It was also extremely healing for my husband’s side of the family and the owner of the venue said ours was the most loving, love-filled, and also most fun wedding he has ever held their. I definitely think my wedding was different, all bias aside. We made it a point to NOT be boring.🥰

[@rhythmsynthesis]

It also helped that our photographer is a family friend and we did a lot of DIY😊

[@forman208]

Wow, you found your own wedding to be incredibly fun? What a shocking take that is lol

[@rockinrootbeer1795]

The formal suite thing is one reason why clothing shouldn't be "gendered-locked" by societal norms since it's very possible to find a dress that can be passed off as "formal" for less than $50 at certain stores and can be used multiple times for a variety of events. Just make sure the dress fits your frame and covers all the bits and it should be fine.

[@justvibin1447]

My spouse and I (we already got legally married this Halloween) are having a ceremony next May and it's gonna be fuckin lit. Gay, goth, and a dress code of "come as your most authentic self." We cut down on costs by having it in my grandpa's garden and basically DIYing everything. I made our Save the Dates in Paint tool Sai and sent them via email/text. I plan to splurge about $400 on my wedding dress + accessories from Etsy, and we want to splurge on a cool looking cake, maybe a skull or a human heart. 😀 Ain't nobody walking me down the fucking aisle, either. I'll be blasting my air-guitar skills to "Crazy Train" by Ozzy Osborne.

[@naomih4716]

Congrats and hope you have an amazing wedding ceremony!

[@justvibin1447]

@@naomih4716 thanks so much!!

[@Crumbledpaperball]

Sounds like a badass wedding. Love the music choice btw!

[@jennifergraceh]

Congrats! That sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate! I agree that you absolutely should splurge on something that will make you feel beautiful wearing it 🥰 I’m very happy for you and your partner and wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.

[@justvibin1447]

@FullBodyToupee thank you 😊 it's been one of my fave songs since I was like 5

[@Sometalllperson]

The microphones for the ‘Guess that obscene price’ bit change every video while getting just a little bit more unhinged. Love it👏

[@jakedoesyoutube]

Most recent wedding I was at was 3 minutes long. The couple intentionally speed-ran their wedding because they new that no one likes super long weddings.

[@Vividiot]

ive hated weddings my entire life and knew going in I was gonna love you for this video

[@eshnd-1]

One of the only short creators who makes good long form content

[@mjdally82]

0:05 Booooo!! I was promised Tucker in a wedding dress 🤣

[@whereami475]

As an indian bro I loved the weddings it was like a full buffet and you get to stay up chillin

[@friedrichhartmann3539]

Everything about this is awesome, the content, the delivery, our Tugg, the Thumbnail. Amazing. Everything. Amazing.

[@Dopamine404notfound]

Facts. I haven't finished the vid yet but Tugg always spits straight facts so... Facts.

[@rocket_racooon]

NEW TUGG VIDEO RIGHT AFTER I JUST BINGED ALL OF HIS VIDEOS THIS DAY COULD NOT GET BETTER LOVE YOU BIG TUGG I AM PROUD TO BE A TUGGLET

[@GlassOfWhiteMilk]

I took a finance class two years ago and when I found out how much weddings cost I dropped the whole wanting to get married bs, and as someone with social anxiety, standing in front of a bunch of people just ain't it.

[@laurie8857]

My friend was stressed about everyone looking at her on the day. On the day.. she was still stressed about it. For me, I saw myself as a symbol. People werent looking at me, they were looking at "the bride", so I didn't feel nervous about it. I just wish I had written a list of who to talk to in order so I didn't get stressed about being rude/snobbing guests

[@redred7702]

The main thing that throws me off of weddings is inviting people you barely know/don’t even like out of “family obligation”. Fuck that shit. If you’re gonna spend stupid amounts of money for a SINGLE DAY, at least spend it for people you like being around.

[@samhilal1097]

“ You do a ceremony for a religion you haven’t thought about since middle school” is on fucking point 🤌🏽

[@meangreen320]

Tug’s social awkwardness would force him to drop this kind of video just to avoid a conversation with his spouse

[@el_miller00]

I love how every time during “Guess that obscene price!” It’s a different mic

[@soral94]

I got a little nervous when I saw the toilet brush. Hopefully a brand new one 😂

[@artgremlin2847]

As a hopeless romantic, the idea of a wedding seems lovely! As an introvert I would rather die

[@SebastienDrac]

Bruh, I literally just got back from a wedding; opened YT and was greeted with this. And I can confirm, weddings suck.

[@monkeyBOIIImysingingmonsters]

We need to have a video completely to “guess that obscene price” LIKE ITS MY FAVORITE PART OF EVERY VIDEO EVERY TIME HE SAYS “now it’s time for americas favorite gameshow…” I START CHEERING LIKE I LIVE PLAYING ALONG

[@dotUnion]

I had a small ceremony with like, four family members (all were my spouse's family members) at a small church. We even paid for the ceremony on the same day. We then went to Red Lobster for a wedding dinner. Infinitely better than having an expensive wedding with hundreds of people.

[@HappyHyperHuggieNini]

they better have given you the good food then

[@bonesofeao3968]

Recently went to a BYOB wedding at a lake with a waterslide, casual beach dresscode, 10 minute ceremony, just a badass beach party with a good band

[@TheErikaShow]

My wedding was supposed to just be the courthouse and then the pub, but my Jamaican mother insisted we include Jesus…so we tootsie rolled our way down the street to a chapel and had a $200 ceremony. Best day EVER! It was complete with the groom’s drunk best friend crying harder than all of us, inappropriate (yet adorable) flirting between said friend and another married friend, sitting up all night singing along to Radiohead…very loudly. 15 years later, we are planning a “good for us” ceremony that will be a little more “organized “ and a little less “The Hangover”. Almost forgot…had to mention that we live in Vegas…so we REALLY thought we were funny…lol. You don’t need to spend a home down payment on a wedding. It’s over so fast, it really is crazy to go into debt like that. I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything.

[@forman208]

Well isn't that special

[@pikminfan123_]

This video is another way to admit defeat and know we will forever live our lives as a virgin.

[@msfionamariposa]

just found this channel and oh my lord. this is exactly what ive been looking for, great content

[@luthorr000]

i'm literally watching this right before i go to a wedding

[@-Woodstock-Lastrussysux]

Little wewe I have

[@TraeshawnMitchell]

Grower or shower my guy

[@Goldcoastcoasters]

😩

[@PatrykWills]

Its average😂

[@BradenChristensen]

Same my guy

[@whos-kk]

you are a true tugglet

[@Jessie_Helms]

Hi, I was a wardrobe consultant for 3 years. Renting is better _only_ if you think you’re only gonna wear it once or twice within the next 3 years. If you have a few weddings, or some sick elderly relatives, or are nearing graduation, don’t waste your money renting. Just buy a $300-$500 suit from a place like Jos A Bank, Men’s Wearhouse, or something. You dip under $300 and it’s gonna be cheap polyester, itchy, and not fit right. But like $300 and maybe $30 in tailoring and it’ll be comfortable, look good, and last you several _years_ if you take care of it.

[@shoomboom]

the best wedding tradition I've ever heard of is from Mauritania! it's that after the wedding at any random time the bride will escape from the groom with the help of her friends and he has to find her with the help of his friends, it's like hide and seek but things like guarding the bride so she can't escape and putting sleeping pills in people's tea so she can is all fair game! I really wanna be involved in a game like that someday.

[@eldritchtourist]

That... sounds really creepy...

[@pinkdragon4830]

Me reading the comment: Yeah,sounds fun :) „Putting sleeping pills in someone’s tea“: 💀

[@Kryxx07]

It all sounded like fun until you brought up drugging people... wtf.

[@hwasassidechick]

@@pinkdragon4830 right like this sounded fucking fantastic and I got to that part like excuse me, wha- what? 😂

[@glitchjam]

i fucking read that as marijuana

[@deirenne]

Weird wedding traditions from around the world: Poland's edition In my country we have a tradition called "Brama" which means "Gate" and its whole point is for the [future] newlyweds to buy out their [future] spouse from the community. Most commonly it's neighbors and some more distant acquaintances, close enough to know when youre getting married but not close enough to get an invite. In it's most basic form its a "gate" made by tying up a ribbon or a string on the way between bride's and groom's houses and church/wedding venue. It can be more decorative and elaborate, but it can be just a string hung between two lamp posts. The gate is guarded by the neighbors and acquaintances and the bride or the groom have to either pass some challenges or pay a "ransom" to them, to be allowed to pass - usually it's wine/vodka for adults and cady for kids. Basically anyone can make the gate, so it can be as little as one or none and as much as a dozen, multipled by both houses [since it's customary to start the wedding from your parents house], so best men and bridesmaids are expected to have several bottles of alcohol and a big bag of candy ready, just in case. It can be annoying, because it can sometimes happen that some local drunks make one, even if they dont know the couple, but it's cutomary that the best man is supposed to negotiate the terms of the "ransom", to not spoil the day for the [future] newlyweds, if the gate keepers are more pushy and a nuisance.

[@masterjediemma]

I never understood why weddings were always in the summer. Winter is just inherently romantic to me

[@marsiepann]

4:50 If I recall correctly, the Tujia crying tradition is to show how sad the bride's family is to let their daughter go. It's supposedly incredibly taboo if you're a woman and don't cry during the wedding. Additionally, a bride's intelligence and virtue is kind of determined by how well she can sing while crying. The channel "chinesewithmia" did a short on this not too long ago if want more details!

[@tominieminen66]

Keep the onion/wasabi mix at the ready then if you're not the greatest at leaking out of your eyes

[@Norp-i7m]

Sounds horrible. 👍

[@spookyplaguedoctor5714]

I'm glad my great uncle got married at a science museum. The food was fine but I loved running around the exhibit like a feral little guy

[@DragonLee214]

Yeah, im definitely just gonna do an at home ceremony and eat ice cream cake when i get married cause there aint no way im gonna spend that much money when i can just eat ice cream cake with my partner

[@AtomicSkeptic]

Brother, freaking love ur content. Even though the subjects are somewhat sarcastic (with a big fat layer of truth to them) I've never found a youtuber who shares more opinions and feelings about anything. Keep it up man!

[@felucca]

Weddings are only horribly boring if you lack connection to the other people attending the wedding. When my best friend got married, you bet your ass the wedding was fkcing AMAZING. And not because they arranged it better than any other wedding - it was the same deal, and I'm sure there were plenty of bored guests there who were too disconnected from everyone else to have a good time - but I personally had a blast mingling and partying with my friend's family (who I hadn't seen in a few years and was excited to reconnect with) and all her friends that I either knew from before or met at the hen do (and we're all still friends to this day). At the same time, it was fun to see what my friend's now-husband's family and friends were like, because when else would I get that opportunity? I arrived a day early to help out with preparations, so I'd gotten to know some of them before the wedding even started, which again made the wedding day more fun. KNOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, and I promise weddings will be a lot less boring for you. It makes perfect sense for the bride and groom to want to gather their beloved ones in the same spot, for once in their life, and have them meet and mingle. When else is that ever going to happen? It's actually a pretty cool concept. Shame weddings have gotten so expensive though. I feel like if you scaled the whole thing down cost-wise and focused on the actual point of a wedding - the joining of two families, and two friend groups - you'd have laid good groundwork for a wedding. After that it IS up to the guests to be good sports.

[@budew2.036]

never in my life did i think i would see tugg in a wedding dress

[@amandajay7922]

Watching this about 3 weeks before my secular wedding and glad it's very small and low-key. Extra glad we aren't doing any of the cheesy/cringey western wedding traditions.

[@sh4tt3r3dw1ngs]

i went to my godmothers wedding this past summer, and since shes indian it was a traditional wedding, and i was just sitting there watching the groom try to trade for his shoes back LMFAO

[@JustSeb22]

In Romania we have the tradition of ,,stealing the bride"; A few random people,whenever they decide to just sneakily take the bride away and the groom has to haggle with them to get her back,it's usually a small amount of money and a bottle of something for each thief,plus the ocasional dares from them to the groom,pretty amusing when you see it. Also it's often seen not as a bad financial decision but quite the opposite because EVERYBODY attending as guests offer money to the couple,almost all the time in secret and it's a pretty big sum too.

[@daintydawn4503]

You uploaded this right after the 59million dollar wedding fiasco

[@averyfish2211]

Tuck looks absolutely fabulous in the thumbnail

[@shannonfatimapaylaga8496]

Yass( honestly idk why i made this reply)

[@Nyxthegreat17]

Big tugg never fails to impress and engage with us

[@ThrasheReyes]

Engage you say?🤨

[@Louhands]

Not comment

[@VillianousKitty]

Totally different vibe in Ireland. We dress up and party til the last die hard Uncle is scraped off the venue floor (usually a pub, or hotel if you wanna go til dawn) 😂 we start drinking right after the ceremony which usually only lasts like half an hour. The only traditions we have is the cha cha slide and poor Irish dancing to trad songs 💃🏻✨🤣

[@sarahpeterson9422]

Its funny how thats the ideal amount. I was an event coordinator for 7 years so I planned my whole wedding. I tried to be as budget-friendly as possible. Worth it! It was a great night! Although we did not stay together, we co-parent our son very well and we are still good friends. I even helped him set up his dating account. 😂 We may not have worked out, but I still want him to be happy. We didn't even do child support.

[@notmydidea]

that is so wholesome ngl - shoutout to both of you keeping it healthy and happy

[@Aulakh_Yuvraj]

Tugg is not pregnant... But never fails to deliver.

[@ControversyCupcake]

Love that thumbnail so much I manifested into it

[@shannonfatimapaylaga8496]

Damn

[@lianahippie]

I lowkey needed this thank you Tugg. My ex (who im very in love with) just told me that he was over me and i cried my eyes out and did something really bad and this just made me feel so much better

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

❤❤❤

[@jaytb2005]

Stay up fam. ♥️

[@justagiraffe9434]

The second I saw the word wedding I was like "ope, we're gonna have a guess that obscene price segment" bc what the legitimate fuck

[@hoasam5786]

Romantic love is a dangerous illusions

[@kabpronicaunstudios4287]

Thanks for the song recommendation at the end, I've checked it out and he makes really good music!

[@melodyrivas2777]

Tugg: Taking a garter belt off in front of family is weird Also Tugg: We should beat the groom

[@coliedeekenzo]

WHEN A FLORISTS HEARS “WEDDING” THEY TRIPLE THE PRICE!! CRAZY! Never say that its for a wedding!!

[@TamerlaneTunes]

I’ve been to two weddings. Once when I was really young and I was the flower girl but I screwed it up so bad that they asked me to stop in the middle of it… Edit: i was probably like four or five at the time. barley remember anything about it. i was told that i was the flower girl, but i had zero clue what that meant. a basket of petals was shoved in my hands and i was told to throw them. so i started walking down the isle and throwing the flowers... but the petals didn't land where i wanted them to land. and for some reason i felt the need to bend down, pick up each one and carefully place them where i wanted them to go... when i got halfway down the isle, i was told to stop and sit down.

[@MrJesus4132]

I was the ring bearer at one and dropped the rings, one rolled under everyone's chairs and took like 15 minutes of awkward mumbling and shuffling to find, then caught the leg belt thing not knowing what it was......yeh I was like 6

[@bleeka325]

Aawww that sounds really cute actually

[@ambiarock590]

I've only been to one wedding in my life. I was like 8 to 10 so I don't remember a whole lot from it but it was long and tedious for a young child.

[@h_i_20]

Great video Tugg. Man I would love to see how your wedding goes❤

[@tamikens]

For our wedding, we spent around $10k for everything. Venue, catering for 100, dessert table, dress and alterations, suits, photographer, photobooth, everything. Paid for it in cash, got rid of all the weird traditions, and had a super short ceremony so everyone could just get to hanging out and having fun. $10k isn’t pocket change, but compared to the debt some people go into for their weddings to be a fraction as nice as ours was, it was a steal. I definitely wouldn't go that route again if I could get a do-over (I barely wanted to do a full wedding in the first place), but for a one-time thing, it was a beautiful memory to have.

[@Sirenhalo]

Im in the process of planning a wedding, and my god are the prices insane!!!! I had a venue tell me that their food and beverage minimum was 15k-24k! Im only having 40 people at my wedding, and im not spending 15k for them to eat. Then i had another venue that was reasonably prices, but i had to pay a rental fee for each individual table and chair that i needed. Luckily, i found a venue that is a little out of the budget that i had in mind, but its worth it after the headache of everything else. It's 5,800 in total. I have access to their mansion, their lawn and gardens, and their barn, and i have it all day from 8am-12 midnight.