Why you overestimate the joy of achieving your dreams | Reto Odermatt | TEDxBasel

[@genesis4real]

The graph showing life satisfaction with age was an eye-opener. Didn't expect that trend at all.

[@yaeli_i_guess]

i don't know why people in the audience treated him like a stand up comedian, but what he's saying is very important. i had this epiphany when i spent a year wishing and praying for an academic success, and when it came, my excitement only lasted like 10 mins. then i thought about the price i paid in all those hours i spent wishing for it to happen, only for it to not bring me true happiness or change my life. so now i practice gratitude for the small things in my life, the small successes, i try to create happiness and not wait for it. achievement is good, i still strive for it, but i don't put all my eggs in one basket, i don't think of them as make-it-or-break-it events in my life.

[@PLuMUK54]

Perhaps they treated him like a stand-up comedian because he was deliberately including jokes. How dreadful for him had every joke been met with silence.

[@juliehoffstafford5077]

@@PLuMUK54 10:42am.

[@jonathanwalther]

@yaeli Why are you so sour? It's a serious topic, but this does not exclude laughter. And he delivered in fact some really witty slides and statements.

[@copiumkiller]

Self-love is the answer, due to the underlying reasons wishing to be super rich, famous etc. But "self-love" is not profitable for companies, so they poison minds with self-hate and position themselves as the solution. I could make a 1000+ word comment going in details, but instead I made a video about it.

[@retoodermatt8647]

Thank you for sharing your experiece and for the wise advice

[@shureedouglas8682]

Joy doesn't come from achievements, that's pride, dignity and confidence. Joy is more like a state of being and having a good sense of dignity etc, can certainly contribute to it but I think it's more about your overall quality of life

[@thejohntitor]

The 'if only' trap that he mentions really resonates. Even when I've achieved my 'if only' I'm still just me...

[@harperleigh1709]

I've never thought that my life satisfaction might have peaked at a young age and has just been adapted over time... it's making me think about my early experiences and the expectations I have for my life based on them

[@faisalshaob]

What an eye opening statement he makes that life happiness is highest when we are young

[@junipruit]

Isn't it fascinating how we always think we'll be happier in the future? Human optimism in a nutshell!

[@Pranaandy]

Vielen lieben Dank für diesen wundervollen Vortrag 🙏🏼

[@justinerather]

Man it's so cool that they have studies for all these kinds of things

[@freddyparmentier]

Retirement is an exciting time for seniors who are health and financially secure and many blossom and get excited about their new independence and plans.

[@freedomplace5239]

The fundamentals of living is presence. So much easier said than done. The mind can hold you hostage if you let it.

[@warddouglas1982]

Yes, I know exactly what he's talking about. Happiness and joy don't come from our achievements and thinking that they do means you are never satiated because there is always more to achieve.

[@rabbit1731]

((This too shall pass)). I endured the hardest days of my life with this comfort and yes they passed.

[@rheabarbeau457]

Once we know life is not going to be how we planned it we can find peace and happiness that comes our way big and small

[@ursulayildrim]

As we grow up we're conditioned to believe achieving our dreams will make us happy. Interesting that it doesn't last long and we always look for the next thing.

[@iamfitandfab]

The notion that unhappiness also has an expiration date is strangely comforting.

[@celestialcircledance]

Emotions are transient and can be sustained which is why I think it's better to strive for peace and security!

[@marisolroman0-0]

Loved the analogy of life being like a box of chocolates. You truly never know what you're going to get.

[@retoodermatt8647]

Thanks - credits for the analogy to the mom of Forrest Gump (played by Tom Hanks) 🙂

[@elizabethbernard3135]

This is really interesting!! I've never thought about the longevity of happiness.

[@akashverma5756]

Sustained Happiness is like Horizon. It is always in sight but unreachable.

[@curtismartin2866]

Happiness is an illusion. It's just something marketing people sell. If people stopped expecting to be happy, they would be a lot less anxious and depressed. The only lie bigger than happiness is love.

[@willynorris1739]

This too shall pass. Words to live by…

[@wellbodisalone]

Happiness is found in small details.

[@ErManu10]

This is the main message of the famous Pixar film "Soul". It was very revealing for me.

[@retoodermatt8647]

Nice hint, thanks - will watch it definitely!

[@florenciaconde3817]

Happiness shouldn't come from achievement because there's no limit to how much we can achieve or tell ourselves we need to. So you achieve something and you're like okay what's next? Not the best think to be linking our joy to.

[@baileyondricek5041]

I'd be interested to learn more about the measurement tools used in this kind of research! Thanks for the insights 😊.

[@thisisreallyverysilly]

Typically surveys or journals. People enrolled in the study will keep track of their perceived happiness daily/weekly/monthly (however the study is designed) and rate it against a scale. What matters is not the absolute value of the scale but rather the changes. i.e it does not matter if I go from a 3 to a 5 or a 5 to a 7 because both of those show I got happier (in this type of study - because we are not measuring absolute happiness but rather changes in happiness)

[@sivarampnr]

There is an answer for every question in Bhagavad Geeta. Everything too shall pass...

[@LouiePrimeTime]

It’s about the Journey not the Destination.

[@awake-not-woke]

Happiness is what you want

[@bahloulhafssa5360]

الثقة بالله برضاه احسن طريقة لعيش حياة سليمة

[@summerbreeze5115]

There's no GOD

[@meghasingh.2570]

Woow❤

[@firuzanurlan9080]

🔥🔥🔥

[@bukurie6861]

So love video❤

[@thisistheperfectstate]

This is bizarre to think about... my philosophy is to just be as happy as possible with the circumstances you're in. Look for the positives and focus on multiplying them.

[@ikramdoc3064]

Yes too shall pass

[@BSPoK]

This is a Ted talk that can change lives ❤ .. Where is the book?!

[@retoodermatt8647]

Would love if it does! And no book yet, but thanks for the inspiration!

[@dr.chalmers7923]

Happiness is what you make of it

[@GuentherVanRaven]

It‘s the path

[@CLSB-ECHO]

Yes, but so is everything else. Just focus on now.

[@MR_XTEACH]

Jaldi jaldi comments kar deta hu like milenge

[@evadebruijn]

quickly I could only give 1 single like ✌️

[@Earthesion]

So is it concluded that there's really nothing to look forward to in this world? That we're just biasing it and making expected happiness too high?

[@summerbreeze5115]

Yes kinda

[@thefirstrebecca]

Would our happiness at achieving a goal - e.g. getting married last longer if we actively celebrated our special union regularly?

[@retoodermatt8647]

Lovely thought! Research indeed suggests that adaptation is less strong if we manage to make the achievement more salient in the long-term.

[@faisalshaob]

Isn't that what anniversaries are for?

[@retoodermatt8647]

@@faisalshaob Yes, and might be the reason why we could consider celebrating (or simply appreciating) our relationships more often

[@stunninglymoii]

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[@EVlaNika]

Happiness is the absence of unhappiness.

[@G.SaLut14]

Yeap.

[@simplysunmoon]

❤️☀️🌙

[@MosesEgboro-ld2qi]

Just don't understand the people in the audience

[@kentondragon9263]

So sad not knowing why you do what you do. 😢🤔😳🤷‍♀️

[@phoebec232]

omg what? no. studying the data of other peoples happiness in order to understand your own? that doesn't seem right.

[@limatulnuha7735]

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[@MosesEgboro-ld2qi]

Just don't understand the people in the audience