Why You're Still So Damn Sensitive

[@ColeHastings]

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[@toryntucker4819]

It’s incredible seeing the sensitive side of such a muscly dude 😅 just goes to show you can’t judge a book by its cover

[@ColeHastings]

im telling ya, all these muscular dudes you see irl and online have a soft side@@toryntucker4819

[@lightspeed5618]

Shut up you stupid punk you blocked me everything you say is invalid you fucking hypocrite ​@@ColeHastings

[@AcerGMD]

@@ColeHastingsquit caring about your success focus on your life. You looked so much happier before

[@Stellisnt]

@@AcerGMD success brings happiness

[@Nyokicat99]

I'm EXTREMELY sensitive. I have BPD and I'm very sensitive to music, art, personal conversations and interactions. Sometimes I hate it cause I can feel intense anger or sadness, but I also feel intense love and happiness. Ive learned to love my sensitivity

[@cosicisgone]

thanks for sharing 😊 I can relate

[@lucasessman1910]

Felt

[@OnekamaProducts]

Ahoy! I am in the same boat as you matey! Avast, the world is our oyster! Remember life is full of crests and troughs, it will never be pure bliss

[@growingoaks]

Im sensitive to music and movies but my emotions almost just switch off otherwise.

[@lacunafantasy755]

I don't care

[@kilroy4123]

If you’re a guy just know that being sensitive doesn’t make you weak. When I was 19 I started on the ambulance service and I had such an insanely hard time dealing with the day to day of it. It was exactly what he said “things hurt more than they hurt other people”. I looked around and felt like everyone was so much better at dealing with the lifestyle than me. I didn’t feel like a man. Years later I work in critical care, I am in a stressful job but I can express my empathy freely in a clinical setting more than I could’ve in the emergency setting and now I am do my job and competently. I am 24 now. If you are a young man please just know you don’t have to suppress your emotions, be huge and muscular or have a bunch of tattoos. You are already a man, you just are going to find out what kind of man you are going to be.

[@alien_in_white_3]

I remember being more emotional when i was a child, but over time i learned how destructive people can be to themselves and others when they're in a negative place. This caused me to want to be as emotionally stable. Dale Carnegie's first rule - "don't criticise, condemn, or complain", is something i go by every day. And it makes my social relations really good, and myself in a stable place. However, i noticed lately that i have become scared of being emotionally vulnerable. The reason I don't want to date right now is because i can be anxious, depressed, and drained of my logic strength when I'm dating, and i have enough shit in my life that i need to do, that i can't afford to put myself into a rough period. However, when i talked to my therapist about it, and i said to her that at some point I'll need to start putting myself out there again, she said that i could start doing it now. But that scares me, i will lose control over my tasks in life, and I don't want to become the very thing i was scared of.

[@michaelblower7363]

Empathy seems to be in short supply. It's good to show the benefits of being sensitive ❤

[@b1ztake]

I wish I lived with more empathy around me, and that I was more empathetic with others than I actually was at crucial times

[@EkayLaive]

facts

[@Human_01]

Just... Do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of.

[@michaelblower7363]

@@Human_01 of course x

[@sharpie882]

@@b1ztakestop wishing and start taking action

[@NamMyohoRengeKyo-d9u]

Sometimes that whole "staring into the abyss until it peers back" thing is that learning experience you need to understand that inner voice you argue with so much.

[@tiiatanner7616]

No wonder why fluff, hurt/comfort, heartwarming fanfics and comfort sleepaid ASMR videos are popular with HSP (Highly Sensitive Personality) people.

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

I'm highly empathic. I sometimes hate that part of me, but at the same time, there are so many people I've helped, felt for, and cried with who needed that part of me. Everyone being cold and calloused means a much colder world in which individual problems don't matter in the face of "big", "important" problems. I still hate it sometimes though and have isolated myself so often to avoid triggering that part of myself so often. Everything hurts indeed...

[@LoneWonderment]

I’m a woman, but I too have felt embarrassed and weak by a lot of my emotions. I’ve had female friends mock me for feeling emotional over a film or a song (safe to say I’m not friends with those people anymore), but even those who didn’t necessarily “mock” I could tell were confused by my reaction. In my 30s now, I’ve learned to embrace a lot of my empathy, but I do still catch myself trying to suppress it at times. Thank you for reminding us that being sensitive can be a beautiful thing. 🙂✌️

[@Duckylege]

​@@mattata-sanyour comment really shows what kind of person you are !

[@mattata-san]

@@Duckylege ok Indian

[@Carby.J]

Your videos literally always come at the exact right time. I was literally just thinking about this and how sensitive I am due to having ADHD, and am quite insecure about it. Thank you man.

[@Cookedfrfrfr]

I was also thinking about this today. It's so weird.

[@sensei_soto]

RT!!!

[@CyBunny05]

I have autism and have always found it critical for me to learn how to control my emotions better. Seeing this video made me realize I might've been doing it wrong this whole time. I feel kinda numb at the time of writing this, but want to figure out a way to express my emotions that have been bottled up for so long. I just need to find a good outlet to let these emotions out through.

[@TysonASMR]

As an emotional/empathetic man, my dad would say “grow some balls” whenever I got emotional as a kid and it fucked with my head and makes me feel shame for feeling my emotions to this day

[@lia33483]

As a young sensitive person, your video really made me feel good and i can't hold myself back saying it.. i am an artist and when ever i decide to draw something when i feel too intense, the result is really good.. and i wanna do it more often. i think most people are against emotions, and it makes it hard to expect yourself as the way you are.. if we learn how to be brave enough in order to not feel embarrassed putting our unique feelings out there and creating something that makes people feel what we are feeling is sooo awesome.. like the way your video touched us

[@Ohtiaraa]

As a girl, guys that try to be alpha all the time and don't show emotions are 1) not attractive at all and 2) usually always have some sort of breakdown in their lives because this behavior isn't natural nor is it conducive to living

[@kierlak]

Recommended books: Highly Sensitive Person, Sensitive, Empowering the Sensitive Male Soul, The Highly Sensitive Man. Also: Sensitive Refuge website Quiet by Susan Cain is also sort of about sensitivity/introversion. My advice: don't suppress it, it's an innate trait, it's for life. Learn to live with it. Read, join HSP support groups, meet other highly sensitive people. Make lifestyle changes. Please don't fight it. Embrace it.

[@Betheother]

There’s nothing wrong being emotionally mature my friends 🙏🏼💥 Great video

[@seanbrown7011]

This was the most beautiful and hard-hitting video of yours I've watched Cole. I cry all the time when watching things people are unfazed by (Godzilla movies, for example) and have wrestled with emotional regulation the past year. You inspire me, and I'm sure many others, to transmute all these feelings, that are easy to think are a curse, into positive outputs on the world. Thank you 🙏

[@NFSMAN50]

Im a sensitive male, growing up I was taught that being sensitive was bad, and I was shamed for it, but looking at it now, it's a major strength in the world!! Sensitive people rule!!

[@ritchiebaitoiya]

I'm sensitive too mate! From Japan

[@RussianNationalist]

no, weak ass

[@MiroslavWD]

High five ✋🏻 from China. --A Sensitive person

[@5v311]

What’s up bro? Sensitive man from USA

[@bradenhagberg5359]

This might be my favorite video you’ve ever uploaded. I’m an incredibly sensitive person and struggle with that. I always feel like my emotions are pitted against me and my sensitivity is my weakness and that I should change. I’ve tried to. But it never works. This video taught me that my sensitivity is my superpower. Thank you, Cole

[@LoginErroronu]

Wow, this hit everything for me Cole. Your describing every fibre in my being right here. Even though our modern society is trying more and more to accept the sensative man, it still isnt completely there, and i dont think it ever will be. I love what you described at 11:10 about the proporties of emotions: "If you try to control your emotions, your emotions will control you.. emotions are meant to be expressed not surpressed." Amazing work Cole! Thank you bro!

[@tiffszo]

Wow! Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us. Just found your channel and it’s hard to not fall in love with your videos. Subscribed! And I definitely need to watch this movie now 😂

[@foriamjustacommenter7141]

I usually don't ever comment and simply watch, but this video is basically right on the dot about sensitivity. I didn't like how sensitive I was to everything (both positively and negatively) but this video made me realize that's fine being emotional using healthy outlets like the ones described.

[@martinhendle7262]

Hi Cole , as a 60 year old well traveled male from the uk I came across your channel roughly 12 months ago . I never thought that a lot younger guy was so inspirational and knowledgeable . So here’s to you to keep up the good work x

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you, Martin!

[@zrnico611]

You’re just… something else, Cole

[@ultimatexl302]

Not gonna lie, I usually don't watch videos like these but this one popped up on my feed at a crazy time. I've been having a very troubling week, and a couple days agoI had too many beers and destroyed my room and belongings. I wanted to kms and go on a drive. I even wrote myself a will a few days prior and got it notarized. If it wasn't for one of two of my only close friend's showing up and driving me around town, I swear I wouldn't be here. I'm going to try and take this advice seriously and change my life. I'm tired of being hurt constantly. Thanks for the video Cole

[@ColeHastings]

Hold those friends close, brother. I’m glad you’re still with us. This life shit is hard, but you’re harder. Much love dude

[@supp282]

I have known all this about me for years but i still just cant express my true emotions, because the reactions of people trigger me even more. If i'd let go i'd probably burst out crying. I just cant deal with the embarrassment.

[@eliasrisberg2893]

So relatable! For me this is one of your better videos! Never stop making videos!

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks Elias

[@leifedoffmusic25]

y are u so smart. u literally just told me how to fix my pain.

[@aidanl3105]

god man your communication skills are unreal i feel like i have the same experiences as you but wouldn’t have the slightest idea of how to express them in words you deserve all these subscribers fr

[@whambulance8607]

The key is to simply not care about what other people think of you. I know, that is extremely hard, but if you pull it off the reward is magnificent. You also become more empathetic, not less because you calm down and actually process what other people are thinking and why they are thinking it. Already enough shit as it is.

[@Boxingguru114]

I’m sensitive and I hate it and I’m also battling drug addiction thank you bro I really needed this video

[@spiritualqueen2745]

Love this, I am super sensitive and I have always struggled with it. It is so powerful to deeply feel. It is a gift. We must own it as highly sensitive people.

[@OutdoorGinger]

Your insights hit harder than a marshmallow meteor shower. Here's to celebrating the power of feels and making sensitivity the new superhero cape. Keep spreading those good vibes! 👊✨

[@AzureBladeXIII]

Being tenderhearted isnt something to be ashamed about. Ive always felt something was wrong with me as a man when i compared myself to others. but i discovered this is a trait i shouldnt be ashamed of.

[@cobodynares]

Keep making these videos bro. You are saving lives.

[@nome5273]

I appreciate your videos man, so many dads either don't know how to show emotion or are showing it in the wrong way.

[@emierizchoux7976]

Thank you for explaining this, I thought I was crazy to be so sensitive. I tried so much to suppress it, hit myself to make me stop crying for no reason. And the fact that I keep these emotions deep down, when I’m angry, lonely or depressed, I can’t express myself and start to cry. I really thought there was something wrong with me 🥲

[@kareemnevers4351]

You're not alone Cole it's the same for me Too throughout the Years

[@JayFriedrichs]

Wowwww. This was incredible Cole. I also feel very deeply moved by visual storytelling and music. It truly is a gift though

[@jameswillard-brown6697]

There’s a difference between being hurt and keeping people in check.

[@Chris03528]

This is god-given content, delivered timely. Sometimes my senstivity can kick me into dissasociation or depersonalization in which earth becomes hell, and no emotions are felt and understood.

[@TREBLEBOOSTER65]

Just found your channel trying to get out of bed this morning, and I appreciate the quality. Newly subscribed, my man 💪🏻

[@zelowatch30]

I normally hate highly edited videos but will give this a chance. It just feels like I'm watching a robot talk. If you ever get this comment let me know. I notice I got to stop complaining so much.

[@carsongutierrez7072]

I have been numbing my emotions for so long as a response. Thank you for this Cole. I guess it's time to appreciate those deep seated emotions and explore the amazing energy. I guess it's time to acknowledge it.

[@pointbreak2811]

Wow this is what I'm going through. The timing of the video as well is on point for me.

[@AlexandraSalpi]

same,wanna talk? I'm a random hikikomori, there are high chances I respond almost instantly

[@Mandolindo]

Wow. I can relate to alot of this. Being artistic can at times, be a pain in the ass. The book "War of Art" covers this deeply as well.

[@75zy]

Somehow, all of your videos are so relatable. Like I can’t even disagree to what you are saying cus you’re telling the truth 😔🙏

[@4luka824]

The phrase in 3:50 really hit me in a emotional level really hit me inside

[@prathamraheja9989]

i feel blessed after watching this video. thanks Cole.

[@dell_soto]

Feeling validated Thank you for this video.

[@mr.dr.frankenkeys]

Rick's book is one of the best non fiction books I've read in a long time.

[@akemi5358]

I cried my eyes out just cuz my friend didn't react to me telling a joke

[@hojo70]

I have a Highly Sensitive Personality (HSP) and hate it. The only good thing about it is that I am very highly tuned into my surroundings and excellent at reading people, I'm an excellent judge of character because I am able to pick up on very subtle nuances. The bad of course is everything else because I am highly prone to being emotionally damaged by the words and actions of others, whether intentional or not. This also places me as a Type B personality and I feel overwhelmed in large crowds because of sensory input overload. I have an overactive nervous system which I believe contributes to this. I take an SSRI to dull those inputs and make myself less emotional and more able to focus.

[@5v311]

Idk if this might help others but one thing that I have done to embrace and love my sensitivity is to think about the times when I didn’t feel anything. And when I think about that feeling, it makes me want to be sensitive cuz I rather feel something than feel nothing. That is helped quite a lot and I know like being sensitive a lot more.

[@ColeHastings]

Being emotionally numb is a nightmare

[@5v311]

@@ColeHastings agreed. Thank you for making those video. Sometimes, I do struggle with handling stress and even now, I feel it. But I am trying to embrace it more even at times when I can’t.

[@EdgarDiazSpeaks]

Love this, Cole! It’s taken me years to learn to embrace my emotions and even more so to feel comfortable sharing them! It’s a never-ending process but, then again, so is everything else in self-improvement! Thanks for making this - I think all young men needed to hear this message!

[@tomjustgaming6204]

Hi Cole, thank you so much for making this video.

[@LuigiToledo-w8s]

Cole, you are the best! I love you homie ❤

[@TheLotan]

This one's an instant banger

[@Tommyant999]

as a singer it’s a lot easier for me to make depressing and sad songs than the opposite even though I don’t feel depressed or sad

[@NicholasFrancoeur-tt7ed]

All those people who intimidate you have no idea what you’re going through. You will NEVER meet a hater doing better than you

[@betsi_jae]

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏

[@thethirdrealm]

This one felt like it was made for me. Super helpful! Thank you

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Fellow HSP here 👋 My biggest outlet for emotions is songwriting 😁 I used to think I was some weirdo before I found out I was highly sensitive. I tend to also get deeply moved by certain things and find the smallest details fascinating. I’ll admit sometimes I have a bad habit of suppressing my emotions (could be my age, I dunno 🤷‍♀️) But yeah, great video and you should read Elaine Aron’s Highly Sensitive Person book if you haven’t already!

[@MikePr1]

The Problem is: Back then, I WAS really really sensitive. A beautiful soundtrack made me cry, almost every movie made me cry, music made me cry, everything made me cry. Now its the exact opposite and I hate it

[@LazyAssHat]

You just get the spirit beaten out of you at a certain point and also we’re collectively desensitized to so much shit that SHOULD illicit emotional reactions like that but yeah it’s like you lose connection with your soul or something.

[@MikePr1]

@@LazyAssHat Exactly. Life feels different. Its not the same anymore.

[@mehroflomfg]

Highly Sensitive Person 😎

[@TrickerDK8]

Embrace your sensitivy, mates! Your friends lives depend on it. Have a look at the book "Confessions of a Sensitive Man" and learn to appreciate- and live your true self. Don't let anyone prevent you from being your true nature in a complex, ever-demanding world. Cheers.

[@Localhero727]

Title made me cry

[@musadiq_rd13]

i am soo sensitive, that if you show me a sad cat or dog video I will burst out with tears

[@aasisters7910]

Thank you so much for this video !!

[@sethswanson5438]

I needed this, thank you Cole.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you for watching, Seth

[@jacobmorenzoni1873]

Thank you

[@TheNaiv69]

how can we in society create an emotional sensitivity level thats standard for everyone, we will either end up excluding more sensitive people or pissing off lots of people while where comforting the one person who felt triggered, it could be seen as a disability, or a super power, maybe teaching in school how to manage emotions and feelings not control them but have them appropriate for the setting and a let loose place, its a fascinating thing cos nothings like emotions and everyone is different its almost an impossible thing, one of which could be the whole of humanity not getting along cos we don't connect when we should.

[@erikstyers4005]

This video helped so much

[@boogiemcsploogie]

Thanks bro. I am made to feel things strongly, and there's nothing wrong woth that.

[@ColeHastings]

Nothing at all my guy

[@poweredbysoul6630]

Great insights Cole! I can relate to all of this. I’ve had many similar cathartic experiences in movies too. Over the years I think I’ve got a lot better at accepting my sensitive side. It’s refreshing to see videos like this 👍🏾

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Also I was moved by one of my songs in my music library, an orchestrated version of the Spyro the Dragon theme, I nearly cried but I held it back. Maybe I shouldn’t have done that? I wasn’t expecting it to move me in that moment, but the way it was orchestrated, it sounded so magical and epic, but I held back thinking I would be judged (by my own father whom I don’t normally have issues opening up to about anything, and he even got me the HSP book lol) Still trying to learn how to deal with it. 😆

[@Sp53653]

Such an amazing video❤❤

[@CSAcrazy]

There’s a lot of guys talking about how men try to suppress their emotions because other guys make fun of it or think you’re weak. I haven’t seen that. The only people that looked at me less than or made it seem like a negative thing is women. Men have been supportive anytime I’ve been emotionally vulnerable, women lose respect, attraction for you if you show it. They ridicule or talk about it behind your back and say you’re weak or pathetic… men aren’t trying to suppress it. They suppress it because they know they will fail completely with women if they do and our whole biological drive is to have success with the opposite sex

[@alexisandrews216]

Great video!!

[@RobertHowe-zv7gs]

Just pursue happiness ; Remember in the end we are all dead anyway.

[@EMMANUEL-qx5mb]

Can’t wait to see your films… from a fellow aspiring filmmaker ❤❤

[@maxwelldimensio]

Your video is correct.

[@badzimustyle8358]

Beautiful video ❤

[@highsol222]

The title changing on this one was crazy.

[@ColeHastings]

thanks!

[@highsol222]

@@ColeHastings Do you usually have a title in mind before you start recording? Just curious.

[@kimbellakurniawan7269]

can relate to everything that cole said. actually i still find it very embarassing to be emotional. i go to the movies and am the only one sniffing at parts where it was dead silence. i cry at the slightest appreciation by friends that it seems dramatic. but truthfully, if i didn't judge myself, i actually like these emotions. they feel sort of real, sort of different.

[@arnold9098]

Can you hear the music " it's such a mind opening song yaa an experience altogether

[@Staticblox]

The way these videos are so conveniently timed scares me, But other than that, thanks

[@Shu-Burst]

woah i got a notificaton for this vid amazing man keep it up

[@ankito-090]

I'm very sensitive about my impression and my respect. When someone humiliates me I easily get offended and a large amount of anger is reinforced inside my head, ngl, the way that anger wants to get released is by confronting that person. So, the idea that I should release those emotions rather than suppress them, how should I do it in this situation??

[@mikemike7827]

cole please read about the 'letting go' technique by david hawkins. it will set those emotions you got bottled up inside free, which means that you wont get triggered by insults etc. the only thing you have to do, is let go of the feeling, but you have to use the specific technique called 'letting go' by david hawkins

[@Muircure]

i cried at 5:00

[@dusanstojsin4938]

I'm too dead inside to be sensitive. The only time I almost cried was a certain death scene in Naruto which I won't spoil, but I still didn't cry.

[@Hornet049]

Same. I feel like I lost my emotion of crying. If I feel like crying, it either just goes away or converts into anger for no reason..

[@furiousdestroyah9999]

Is anybody else out there so sensitive that rejection feels like the end of the world? When rejection is all you get and it feels absolutely horrible honestly not even trying seems like the more stomachable option

[@Steph.678]

I take it as a stepping stone to bettering myself for my own sake. Fuck the rest and focus on me. It’s not a jab at my self worth.

[@jackdawson1054]

one of your best

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks man

[@karlivanr]

No words, but thank you :(

[@JackTheCool115]

Don’t suppress your sensitivity

[@Paolo-pv1nh]

If you tend to be introverted, can you move along the introversion and extroversion continuum and become tending to be extroverted???

[@BatuhanDere]

Yes. It could happen and you dont even notice

[@guitardoyen]

The number of times you change the title 😭😂

[@ColeHastings]

😂😅😆😱

[@boatx22]

Remember being a kid and crying at the end of charlottes web. That’s where it all started.

[@Maukka8]

When a Buffalo Sabres fan is talking about getting hurt you really should listen. They're experts in human suffering.

[@ColeHastings]

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