Why you should ask out your crush | Alex Le | TEDxYouth@Dayton

Taking risks in life builds strength and confidence, even if the outcome is not what you hoped for. Insert bio This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@thulaniwav]

i feel like this guy actually asked his crush out and when it worked he was so hyped he gave a ted talk about it

[@tahaqtr7439]

😂😂😂😂

[@axle_le]

I can promise you that did not happen XD

[@thulaniwav]

@@axle_le so what did?

[@michaelalafin4706]

@@axle_le I don't know but I feel it worked, but you want to make us feel better.

[@ashutoshs1966]

*bruhh

[@AllThisPower]

Me: I'm going to ask her out. *Crush enters the room* Me: Ight imma head out.

[@jalissatowns3434]

You won 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@antfactory1]

Bruh me

[@ZayingIt]

lmao!

[@ScarletxP]

Very original thanks

[@maximillianford9301]

This is literally me hahaha

[@tianrun_li.3dm]

Me: You Tube: you look like you are single, here are some tips.

[@enzocerrudo314]

This is no tip, is a ideal thats not useful. There’s better ways to interact with ur crush. And better ways to get better as a person

[@UknownAfrican]

Enzo Cerrudo Like how? You sound like you’re experienced af 😂

[@patricioiglesias5346]

@@UknownAfrican I would say that instead of asking if she wants to go, you should say "let's go to..." . Less posibility of rejection.

[@wspacefacexx]

HWHEHE

[@Khe2BVevo]

😂

[@shanepartridge2744]

It's called a "crush" because they crush your hopes and dreams

[@MattDav]

Draino 9 f a c t s

[@yogangstudios5715]

Stonks

[@thelordandsaviorgigachadrr888]

Can we get an amen

[@samcavemanlosco6417]

14 years old white girls be like

[@JoseARosas-wl1fx]

Abby beef boss wife do you watch Proofusre? The guy who rages at wii sports?

[@deanparker5542]

The most awkward part was getting weird looks as I got escorted out of my family reunion

[@Dream-nt2vv]

Lmfao

[@SushiReversed]

Yes officer, this comment right here

[@DefinitelyTheRealFBI]

@@SushiReversed uh huh ill take note of that

[@zoeken5086]

@@DefinitelyTheRealFBI this is cursed

[@z3ddd]

HOLD UP-

[@-overdooo-]

"To get something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done."

[@stfsp9745]

Looks like i should go out from my room... Nah!

[@domri4203]

I've been rejected before.

[@alizoncastillon3055]

Whoaaa. It hits me. Ok, I take courage now!!! For real!

[@imanafdar]

@@domri4203 good then you wont wondering and overthinking about her and can move on since all clear

[@maskboy2743]

oh my god, i will frame this in my room if i had one

[@adriand8035]

“Why don’t you just ask her out” *You wouldn’t get it*

[@angelika_joanna]

Negative_ 32 I understood that reference

[@garethrice4393]

@@angelika_joanna We live in a dateless society

[@danisirooszadeh7305]

Nice one😂👌

[@kgroovy3649]

It really be like that tho so😂😔

[@johnriordan9083]

"there ain't enough coochie in this town for the both of us, compadre"

[@kaitlinniiicole]

i actually asked him out and he said no. i’m mad at myself now. thank you for coming to *my* ted talk

[@tyler.__.g3923]

Kaitlnn it’s aight, you had the guts to ask and that means something.

[@meredithmoore461]

Yea my friends decided to write one of my crushes a note saying that I like him, and it was so embarrassing bc he was kinda like one of those popular guys in the school, so pretty sure ya know how that ended!😂

[@kaitlinniiicole]

Meredith Moore haha yeah i feel that, i asked him out and no one else knew so it was just like kinda awkward at the time. we’re chill now though lmaoo

[@sumitshrestha2986]

@@kaitlinniiicole respect! Atleast you dont have the feeling of regret.

[@kaitlinniiicole]

Sumit Samuel haha yeah, i’m pretty happy about that. i was super scared that it would hurt our friendship

[@joelv6605]

I like how everyone out here is getting rejected because of this one video, respect ✊ 💯

[@TheDarkestMarcus]

@@gabriellwin7882 ouch

[@TheCharmZ]

@@gabriellwin7882 Same it just happened to me Monday

[@dontedoestuff]

Gabriel Lwin Bring it in brother *im hugging you rn, embrace it

[@n0nenone]

@@gabriellwin7882 i too got rejected without even proposing and rest is same

[@subhamchowdhury6229]

@@gabriellwin7882 F

[@seanandrasick698]

Instructions unclear, accidentally asked out her dad.

[@LEVYATHAN]

LOL

[@_cynth_wave]

Did he say yes?

[@888PsyMike888]

Did he crush you?

[@seanandrasick698]

Collons Yes we are married now, please send help.

[@__sharavanan__]

@@seanandrasick698 😂

[@No-wt3mf]

Bruh why does KZbin recommend me this now

[@dragoncrafter4831]

Yeah for me too. Couldnt sleep because I was thinking about asking her out, and this gets recommended

[@josepablobermudez6283]

it's a sign, you have to tell her

[@erzloh]

@@dragoncrafter4831 lmao I'm in the same situation and I fear that the more the time passes the more it's difficult

[@se7vin77]

oh, you _know_ ;)

[@adhdx2reacts186]

Brandon Rios same bro I could’ve used this a year and half ago and now she has a boyfriend and they just hit there one year mark 😩😩😩👌🏿

[@desaeviantaylor2218]

When he said ''your scared it will ruin your friendship'' i really felt that

[@trendisty6160]

Same

[@egodumpster]

It hurts, because you like the person but if you Get together and break up things will never be the same

[@meredithmoore461]

Yea

[@ItsRaitisLV]

Not friendship but the opportunity to have a relationship

[@kinni02]

Man and whaman can't be friends

[@QuantumParticle]

"You should ask out your crush" *No, I don't think I will*

[@matthewh.8717]

I understood that reference 😂

[@vewayy]

nah fam

[@tf3confirmedbuthv54]

I’m about to tho, ngl

[@vewayy]

Some High Voltage Channel go on bro u got this

[@mrtyrant1680]

I'm not in the mood to get rejected

[@therandompandaman4521]

"One second we're the smartest, funniest, best looking person in the room. Then we leave our bedrooms and go into rooms with other people." This line almost makes me want to do it.

[@dahlia_moon1475]

The Random Panda Man omg god I read that while he said it

[@CamIsSuper]

I want this quote on my wall

[@randompheidoleminor3011]

Basically me when I transferred into an elite school.

[@mr.perish6799]

This is gonna be my senior quote

[@sen7167]

I don’t get this joke

[@jameschristensen1658]

i did and it’s exhilarating but she doesn’t like me back

[@hamzasoumlali3601]

It doesn't matter you did your part the rest was up to her it's not your problem, to the next crush.

[@asuraborn]

There's plenty of fish in the ocean.

[@gabrielmauger7608]

@@asuraborn *sea but whatever

[@Rayan-is7ky]

Gabriel Mauger there are also plenty of fish in the ocean :)

[@bastiarnogoll6783]

@@gabrielmauger7608 The metaphor is with 'ocean' tho

[@user-pv1ng2od2n]

OH MY GOD i've listened to this about a 100 times throughout the last week and was determined and even excited to get rejected and GUESS WHAT HE SAID YES and I was SO confused. So now onto searching for ted talks about first dates😂

[@tyler.__.g3923]

all.in.or.nothing _ congrats! Wish I had the balls to ask mine...

[@jereanellaster2085]

Congratulations, young jet eye🥳 😂🥳

[@meredithmoore461]

I want that!!😂❤💔

[@steelsaber54]

Good job!

[@EaszyInitials]

r/thathappened r/youngpeopleyoutube r/nigga

[@rexrecks1490]

You know, I believe that this talk applies to way more than just asking out your crush.

[@thecookiehero4338]

Right? He really expanded the concept to life as a whole. Inspiring.

[@prudvim3513]

Definitely, but this example is relevant to most of the people.

[@micaelanieves9718]

rexrecks yes so true

[@Zero-ef4sc]

True. It is the same thing in business for example, if you ask a potential investor to give you money, the answer may be yes, the answer may be no. But if you don't ask them, the answer is no.

[@calamitrialchoerry8835]

rexrecks facts

[@michidaisydog1816]

nobody: Me on the inside at school: Whoever here has a crush on me, ask me out. You have no competition. Im rooting for you even.

[@fredriklarsson1707]

Michi daisydog I can see that you can use Control C,V

[@michidaisydog1816]

Fredrik Larsson it was supposed to be a meme quote, ya boomer

[@bhavyareddy4912]

BRO LMAO THIS IS MEEE

[@tonyth9240]

😏

[@tristandepakistan9947]

@turtlesilike2much funny thing is most people don't even know what it means

[@ei6728]

Its not about rejection, its the guts

[@humbertodelac0494]

i have no guts

[@ei6728]

@@humbertodelac0494 same.

[@abdullahmohammad6803]

Mine is about rejection

[@Milewski23]

Mine is the possibility of her saying no and it being really awkward since we work together 🙃

[@abdullahmohammad6803]

@@Milewski23 same bro

[@connormay1891]

Me: I’m gonna do it today Later: Her: How’s your day? Me: you too After: Me: It’s ok you weren’t ready for the trick questions

[@daronpopin9881]

Lmao

[@YoutubeShortsIsACesspool]

I just wheezed so hard

[@octave11thpianist58]

Damnit I dont get it, please explain.

[@bladeealbania]

Octave 11th Pianist he wasn’t supposed to say you too.

[@octave11thpianist58]

@@bladeealbania ik, I thought it would be more co plicated than that.

[@cb5170]

im watching this knowing that i will never ask out my crush

[@thiruvalluvar3880]

Same lol

[@DaChessinata]

Same 😆 😆

[@danmoreta]

Nah you got it have a little faith I believe in you 💯

[@mdm2186]

cozy boys

[@chinares]

Im watching this not even having a crash

[@noahtucker8491]

i just did it guys, the most awkward part of it was leaving the preschool class in handcuffs

[@MikhaelAhava]

Woah.

[@birkoyun8432]

Lmfaoo🤣🤣

[@myraniang3649]

haha

[@danielstevenson1074]

Uhm I think you should watch a tedtall on if you're ready to date lol

[@tonyth9240]

Oof

[@noahloveshisark]

Who else randomly got this in their recommended

[@donkey3454]

Noah Mariscal I think KZbin is trying to tell me something so not random but yeah

[@harrywang6792]

"Randomly"

[@allenshen4902]

KZbin knows I'm single

[@Inseut]

"randomly" KZbin knows. Go ask her/him out!!

[@sh1roume]

I really think youtube is telling me something

[@paulgolke2012]

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” -Some basketball player

[@juliansantos3342]

Michael Scott

[@zjenthusiast3037]

Gahndi

[@theinfamousdingus2228]

Wayne Glensky!

[@gside772]

It is is one of those shots i wouldn't want to risk but dying inside everyday cos shes all i want..UGH

[@teddyIngram]

- Micheal Scott

[@darienwhite6223]

"They might not like you back" Knowing me, they DEFINITELY don't.

[@ItsAlice1]

It be like this sometimes

[@aisir3725]

Same, man, are you sure you don't need depression treatment though?

[@vaultboy1086]

Feels bad man

[@Psychy]

I don't know you, but if you don't like yourself, how can you expect someone else to?

[@darienwhite6223]

@@Psychy My point exactly lmao

[@saxoboy739]

I refuse to go out with any girl whose standards are so low she would go out with a guy like me

[@siegejay6364]

ahahah lolz

[@mrmcfluffed580]

Go to the gym

[@thehighgroundhimself736]

Task failed sucessfully

[@jordanabarcelos3733]

Guess who is going to be alone forever... lol

[@nasharar6946]

Omg don't say that bro 🥺 no need to talk down on your self like that

[@icecream6446]

so im guessing everyone’s youtube started recommending this?

[@yungariesx]

yup...youtube knows what we’re going through lmao

[@shovel5526]

yes & ur hot

[@icecream6446]

hannah let me update my photo real quick for you

[@johnny3402]

Yes

[@shovel5526]

Jessica Bui blesst x2

[@DawoSida]

Finalllllyyy gonna Propose my crush tomorrow.. Update: just got friend zoned 🥺🥺🥺 *She said she sees me as her favorite friend*

[@lala12718]

Dawo Sida how'd it go

[@aparnaga1182]

That's another word v shl add in Oxford dictionary..... Sorry about the girl. Hope u find someone better

[@Evgplays1]

Dawo Sida rip

[@jacksonmontgomery6716]

F

[@JohnemonSilver]

Lol I felt that

[@offbeatmoonknight]

Probably the first guy who wore a 🧢 in his ted talk.

[@jakewillenbring3078]

Yang?

[@samuellopez240]

Backwards

[@sandwich434]

Himanshu Prasad ❌🧢 tho

[@ch-17vevo55]

I think Marc Rober was the first one to wear a hat at a ted talk maybe

[@gremlinflat_]

CERTIFIED NERD TALK

[@shovel5526]

god, is this a sign?

[@icedwhitechocolatemochafra9851]

Yes

[@amninderkaur9664]

I'm thinking about the same thing😂

[@johnrommelramirez7534]

It's up to you. You have to choose to get over with the rejection or spend the rest of your life regretting about it.

[@vdmur7952]

No

[@hellotheirgoodsir9291]

Yes

[@Benni259]

Instructions weren’t clear enough, now I’m dating her brother

[@muddy111]

We lovw Fortnite Woah

[@Benni259]

Santiago Carrillo yeah ikr, idk how i ended up with him but now we have a family and we are living happily ever after

[@Psgamer-pl8xq]

Same

[@nickcarle6290]

Maybe that was your destiny

[@lilxtravert1299]

Lmao

[@sophiek2817]

Can’t relate, I just admire from a distance

[@davidbolha]

A good fantasy can fuel you for months instead of a bleak grey reality. 😏

[@simpletonproductions]

_Sounds like stalking_ Okay

[@mlnchly1536]

SAAAME

[@tinasway9097]

Literally

[@arnavpramanik9112]

Same

[@MrThat0neperson]

"When you fall off that horse, you get right back up and you eat that horse"

[@torylanez5809]

You had me in the first half chief

[@midnightcruise3426]

Now get up and Eat that horse!!!!!!!

[@torylanez5809]

@@midnightcruise3426 ngl that notification did brighten up my day 😂 I wasn't expecting it

[@midnightcruise3426]

Haha, its team 4 star

[@jewlzn7130]

Unless you broke your ribs with that fall!!!!

[@shrimphead2381]

F's in chat boys to everyone who just got rejected cus of this vid...

[@cliffordcalhoun3201]

Apprecated

[@ramsho7898]

F

[@postnuclearradiohost]

Yo, shoot me an F

[@jenniesrealgf9372]

lol me

[@noxxider4361]

F

[@bartekg5144]

IT WORKS!!! I just asked my crush out and she said "yea why not" Wish me luck boys

[@thiruvalluvar3880]

Haha you already got it bro! Why you still need luck? But good luck anyways

[@888PsyMike888]

"Yeah, why not?" The words every man dreams of...

[@abracadabruh1313]

When you call her your number ID is gonna say 'free food'.

[@EmoPineapple]

Moose Moose oof, mean. Go for a walk or smth.

[@antonellapastor861]

Good luckkkk

[@rachels.1332]

I love how he actually is scared of giving this TED talk but he still did it. Proud of you man

[@julial6789]

Me: God give me a sign if I should tell him I like him God: Recommends KZbin video as a sign Me: I don’t believe you, give me another sign

[@johnpangarakis396]

Julia L lmao, I felt this

[@julial6789]

Logan Staub I say go for it because rejection lasts for five seconds while regret lasts forever. If your crush doesn’t like you back, don’t worry and keep in mind rejection is just redirection and you’re closer to finding the person for you. Best of luck to you!

[@mikhailhakim2631]

@@loganstaub8690 tell me the result

[@ruris189]

@@loganstaub8690 how did it go?

[@Matthiel]

How did you know how I feel

[@AbdulRehman-do9xj]

Me : "breathes in indian accent" Crush : I have a boyfriend

[@AbdulRehman-do9xj]

@That OneBrownGuy I'm not Indian,

[@TheJoseph0012]

@@AbdulRehman-do9xj then why do you have an Indian accent?

[@AbdulRehman-do9xj]

@@TheJoseph0012 i have Indian face. I only mentioned breathing in Indian accent just to convey the message how i look like And we all know how much girls like Indian boys or Indian looking dudes.

[@bhavikajangid8579]

😅

[@MelloCello7]

Nothing wrong with Indian dudes, it's just the memes that kills it. Show her that you're a chill dude and u should be fine regardless of answer

[@Ravioliyt]

Me: tries to talk to my crush My brain: ight, imma head out

[@morrasod1858]

Ravioli yo that’s straight facts. I could talk to anybody (male or female). And make jokes like crazy. As soon as a girl I like is around. My brain just dips😭

[@benjaminchen4367]

Me: asks crush out when I know I'll get rejected *Gets rejected* Me: surprised Pikachu face It happens but honestly it was not that bad

[@mikhailhakim2631]

Later it will be bad and then you'll be fine

[@roeseldelgado]

Benjamin Chen Jäger geile Sau

[@nataliagodoroja7953]

LMAOOOO that's basically me

[@VaishaliThulkar]

yep, like u know its gonna be a no, but u still when. do get rejected its like "ahh, well"

[@Arpita._]

Exactly in my case. But bro he was totally giving mixed signals so that made me think he would agree 💀 Anyways atleast I'm glad that he knows I had feelings for him, I liked him...that's it lol

[@klab705]

him: what if climate change is real and all the polar bears die? crowd: *LAUGHS*

[@דןרווה]

Fuck'n boomers

[@justingriffin36]

Yes. That's how it went.

[@jonesaffrou6014]

@@דןרווה ok boomer

[@gregd335shot9]

Exactly

[@cxt7181]

Yeah I'm pretty sure we watched the same video?

[@beckypettifor4374]

I don't currently have a crush, but I'll be taking notes...

[@josepablobermudez6283]

same here

[@arkadiuszgiber6904]

Same

[@Unschnurr]

same

[@weirdchamp4601]

I’ve been in school with the same kids for almost 10 years and I am not interested in any of them

[@Kipchoge475]

i'm not good enough for you? that's what it is, huh?

[@meliodas.1108]

I tell myself all the time when I get in a situation: "The worst thing that can happen is you'll die "😂

[@skipdiner9972]

I tell myself that too but it sadly never happens

[@meliodas.1108]

@@skipdiner9972 But it helps to get the job done 😁

[@skipdiner9972]

@@meliodas.1108 I meant I sadly haven't died yet

[@meliodas.1108]

@@skipdiner9972 you won't die for sure just like that 😜

[@carterjohnson4079]

Ima sound like a week but by his name that makes me thing of naruto when sauske learns chidori

[@kromandi897]

“What if climate change is real and all the Polar Bears die?”

[@alexandergeorgiev2631]

The video played that right when I read it 🤯

[@z3ddd]

Who else pisses on the side of the toilet to make less sound

[@nickgriffin7710]

You know, peeing on the ground, if you aim the right way, can be nearly silent

[@kromandi897]

Stoopid Stuff TV that is a great life skill

[@nickgriffin7710]

Kromandi thank you. I have always considered myself to be full of wisdom

[@bernadettecastro1319]

What if ur crush is a 40 yr old woman with husband and kids Asking 4 a friend

[@xander9517]

Fullest send brother, best of luck

[@Annayasha]

Interesting. Risk it, why not?

[@billygilmusic5072]

wait for the inevitable divorce when her husband starts banging his secretary and being absent at home... it would probably happen sooner than later given that she's in her 40s

[@stockholmsyndromeself-trea7517]

@@rrd On the contrary, when he/she asks her out, she's given a chance to have a new family. Isn't it cool?

[@dvs7440]

best to stay away

[@TalesOfFath]

This is where boys get seperated from the men

[@danielb1372]

walking sickness this comment urged me to speak to my crush more than the whole video did🗿

[@bonjey1]

True. Go hard or go home

[@hawkisdaboss5768]

I'm a man, I've done this multiple times.

[@dsetgetatme]

Yep.... You feel like a BEAST after you ask out FINE WOMEN!! And sometimes I got a date with them 😎😎

[@hawkisdaboss5768]

@@dsetgetatme and usually it makes them impressed since you're being direct, so even if they say no it gets the girls talking about you.

[@Nobigwords]

*asks the universe for a sign* The universe: Me: no

[@zimitraa]

lmaooo

[@simpletonproductions]

Universe: *throws a brick at you* Me: hmmmmmm I don’t this this is clear enough

[@devonhaapakoski2011]

I asked out my crush and she said she’s going to tell her boyfriend, weird

[@prankster8241]

Sure is

[@satelconsa6873]

That girl can't make decision of her own, yes she's weird

[@dhruvvsnv1601]

Is he still her boyfriend?

[@LongCOVIDAdvocator]

He already smashed. You don't want another man's d in your girl already

[@studiousboy644]

@@LongCOVIDAdvocator bruh

[@V1SION394]

I asked and she said yes, never thought I would go this far

[@amitkerurkar8685]

Wow man congratulations

[@bbd4880]

I salute you

[@mikeyboy7719]

Lies

[@dasterlykiller7435]

W

[@soba_star]

What a god

[@axle_le]

Ayo, why does that guy look so cute though, what's that about?

[@samueldiaz1967]

Alex Le I don’t want to alarm you but he looks just like you

[@carmen-yc9tl]

This needs more likes😅

[@gustasvs]

Nice talk dude... Really inspiring!!

[@123vitaminC]

Hahaha

[@lialeavasa]

i was just thinking that 🤤😍

[@yumikogita]

I could give a Ted talk on why this is a terrible idea

[@leonardos.1507]

With that username and picture i'm not surprised

[@nilexx2379]

This is so funny;) you have a sense of humor

[@SC-fh9sb]

Leonardo S. you deadass have an anime pfp aswell ,actual simp

[@smingjr]

@Marco Solis he isnt wrong tho...

[@adammansueto10]

@@leonardos.1507 savage

[@anushree1183]

"What's the worst that could happen? " *He could hear me*

[@LeZylox]

Can we also get a Ted talk on how to become friends with a girl in the first place?

[@Sam_Wolff]

All you gotta do is talk to her

[@litterallyquaking1017]

@@Sam_Wolff it's not as easy as it sounds though..my guy crush is always hanging out with a relatively big group of friends, leaving me no confidence to even talk to him;/

[@scoob1670]

Treat them like an actual person and brush your teeth

[@mrmcfluffed580]

So i guess the real question is how to stand out from the rest?

[@myric8537]

Mr Mc Fluffed be true to yourself, don’t try to act “Normal”. I’m not saying to jump on a table and start dancing but more just don’t be afraid to express yourself and your opinions. If she likes you for that, cool, if she doesn’t, oh well.

[@haydeltae5887]

Ha I talked to my crush without any likes!

[@tinaa6908]

Dogs 😂

[@alexosow]

But how can you talk to them?

[@Miguel-yb3hf]

@@alexosow a mouth and words

[@alexosow]

@@Miguel-yb3hf it's a dog

[@emanessa8795]

I'll still give you a like.

[@jirachayaoc]

Me : **watches too much KZbin** KZbin : _bro be single af_ **Sends me this**

[@kevinbl7821]

Me: God please send me a sign if I should ask her out God: *Literally comes down from heaven and tells me to do it* Me: No

[@izucram2969]

I love how he expanded the simplicity of asking someone out to the broad concept of conquering fear altogether, excellent talk.

[@Levnerad]

Well that’s the only way it would be allowed to be a ted talk

[@enzocerrudo314]

Yeah, but its all wrong

[@hannahanneabraham97]

You know, there's some truth to this. I had a bad experience in high school where I had a crush on a guy for a while and he found out himself. After that, I resolved to never again let another crush find out from others and to just tell then myself. I muddled through college with this ideology, taking it to a whole other extent, telling every single guy I thought was attractive so on their faces, making countless problems for myself what not. 😂 But you wanna know how it ended? It ended with me exiting college victorious with my degree, plus with my batch mates holding a viewpoint that I was fearless and go-getter, never afraid to speak up when I had to. Cause this whole asking ppl out out loud? It ended up translating to all the different aspects of my life too. I became louder and bolder in the classroom, in public space, never reluctant to call out bs when I saw it. And that equipped me better for adulthood than I think anything else possibly could've. Honestly, I only realised this as I wrote it. 😂 So go ahead lads and lasses. Ask out your crushes and stare your fears down. I'm living proof that it's worth it.

[@swathishanmugasundaram394]

This is honestly the best comment in this entire section!!

[@prashasti598]

dang.. that explains a lot! you're my inspiration🙈

[@mightyminotaur5056]

I feel like if I did this I would get placed on a watch list. But you’re comment was so inspiring, I kinda want to try anyway!

[@gabrielcastro6601]

I'm going to do that because we work at the same place and I really like her I was going to ask her if she wanted to I literally was but got interrupted by co workers

[@cycsportapparel3350]

This was a good lesson and so true about life. Everything is related. Overcoming one fear ultimately leads to overcoming a multitude of fears we wouldn't have even thought were related to that "one".

[@DaChessinata]

I'm just going through the comments laughing not paying attention sorry lol

[@jj-kq7cu]

Justin McCue heehe same

[@nevaeh-lehlipscomb4435]

Facts lmao

[@chloemitchell5698]

ME TOO LMAO

[@welcome2wyzard]

mood

[@raik.d8538]

Justin McCue oof

[@KPthesigma]

Thank you so much. This really gave me the confidence to ask my crush out and she said yes. Everyone listen to this guy, even if your crush says no I promise you will be proud of yourself afterwards.

[@ok-rn2un]

happy for you bro :)

[@jacobcooper7123]

I’m going for it tomorrow in class 🫡 We’ll see if she says yes. 😭

[@jacobcooper7123]

@@Balletlover777 Initially she said yes and gave me her number, but then she took like four days to respond and said she was super busy. I took the hint haha. Still glad I tried though, it helped me push pass my comfort zone and now I know without doubt.

[@axle_le]

After reading all the comments of people getting rejected, I am starting to wonder whether or not this is really good advice...jk jk. Thank you to anyone that watched this video. I appreciate it more than you know : )

[@wallownine554]

ayo why has no one seen you here good speech my man

[@august-bl1jh]

hey, good stuff man!!

[@magnusbevaart2477]

You said the point was not getting that date but becoming the person you want to be, so mission successful :)

[@bladelazoe]

This is an important lesson that I learned earlier this year at 26. Anytime you get that uncomfortable, nervous feeling...Act upon that. When all the cells in your body are shaking and giving you a million reasons to NOT do that thing but you know you want to. If you do that enough times, your life will change in ways you never expect. It's strange, anytime I've ever done something uncomfortable, the universe has a way of rewarding you in unexpected ways. If you act upon that feeling, you elevate yourself from the crowd because you are willing to do things most people are afraid of doing. Taking risks, taking that chance. Literally the best decisions in my life have been the ones that I was most scared of doing. It only takes a few seconds of awkwardness but I'll take that over regret. Expand your comfort zone. Confront your fears directly. Scared of the dark? Scared of asking out that cute boy or girl? Afraid of walking into a gym? Learning how to drive? Whatever kind of fear you have. Start small and scale it up.

[@nintata419]

This is a dangerous game, but can lead to so many possibilities. The pros outweigh the cons, but its just so nerve wracking. GL yall 👌

[@drummerboy0620]

This comment needs to be pinned right now

[@whytheheckdoiexist7628]

@@noahr1379 Jesus loves you.

[@joelv6605]

Noah R Jesus loves you

[@_carrbgamingjr]

@@noahr1379 Jesus loves you

[@nomady4023]

@@noahr1379 Jesus loves you a lot.

[@andrescurls29]

The hurt from rejection does not linger like the pain of regret...

[@rebeccaastill3293]

“Do things you’re scared of” Welp I AM scared of my crush but I’m working on it

[@clostridiumtetani5965]

@Mon nom I can help man. Just tell me where you live?

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

What's the point of anyone you can't relax around?

[@littleprincess4615]

Courage?? Good thing I’m not a griffindor

[@enzocerrudo314]

Well, ppl want persons that are self confident, its probable that if the other person feels doubt in u, will reject u.

[@michellepavlikovska9860]

i don’t even have a crush why am i here

[@yentl]

I'm here for the nostalgia, cuz I can still relate to it from past experiences. XD

[@dvegan314]

God bless the KZbin algorithms...

[@gaurav_bora_]

@@dvegan314 youtunes? itunes? lmaooooooijuhgf

[@chaosdweller]

Education, I don't either

[@stilleswassermaximalist]

Same. Haven't had a crush for years now.

[@elijahmitchell195]

I’m starting to watch the episodes that even my psychology teacher didn’t assign

[@dodiumprod.5190]

Goated pfp 🐐

[@elijahmitchell195]

@@dodiumprod.5190 yessirrrrr

[@sunnyrayavarapu3068]

Still can't get over how good this TEDx Talk is. I didn't have a crush or anything to act on, but this inspired me to take risks in all aspects of my life and has had such a major impact on my life.

[@579enact]

As a 50 yr old guy I'd like to give some advice to younger guys out there: That bit where Alex talks about summoning up the courage to ask his crush out, reminded me of myself, but here's the thing: Unless the girl also happens to have a massive secret crush on you, and is just waiting for you to ask her out, then if you make a big deal of it when you ask her, I mean if you actually say "will you go out with me?" like that, then more often than not you'll get rejected. Why? Because men are very romantic in our minds. We have a crush and we build it up and up and think it over until it becomes this great dream-like thing, and so asking her out becomes like this great heroic challenge. Women are romantic too of course, but not quite in the same way, or at least, not always so. What I'm trying to say is, try and keep the asking casual, if you can.

[@joshualeon3486]

Thanks..I will try this.

[@smingjr]

Yeah. I've seen that just trying to get a friend group together with that crush is best. You get to know them. Slowly shrink the amounts of freinds you invite and ask your crush one on one if they want to hang out. Just make it casual. If you make is romantic it is more likely to end up weird

[@ClearlyVague1]

Thank you for your wisdom

[@Amanda-qe5lj]

so 'will you go out with me' is casual bot more often than not that'll get me rejected, but i have to keep things as casual as i can? what?

[@TheStianmann]

@@Amanda-qe5lj No he's saying "will you go out with me?" puts too much pressure on the person being asked because they know your intention is to date them. He's suggesting to ask to hang out in a more casual situation, and see if any chemistry evolves over time.

[@neol07707]

"Her golden hair" That blonde white girl lost out bruh lol

[@stockholmsyndromeself-trea7517]

Doesn't matter though. Maybe he was watching anime where everybody has golden hair.

[@annmariebartholomew2591]

Tonghe Wang 😂😂😂

[@loutouxmilux818]

I actually did it, a year ago, I asked a girl out. She was perfect, really, intelligent, beautiful, funny, nice with everyone… But she already had a boyfriend, and I'm a girl. She was so comprehensive, and said that it made her feel better about herself too, because she was feeling down. That there is no shame and that she was proud of me for asking, that it was really courageous. We're still good friends, and the last time I asked someone out, she said yes ! We're going on a date tommorow ! ^^

aww this is actually really cute, enjoy your date!

[@loutouxmilux818]

@Kaspian Sea Hi Andrew ! I know, but some positivity in this dark world is better in my point of view, no matter the likes, I don't need them, just wanted to share. And the relationship didn't last long, only a few dates, but it was still cool ! Thanks and hugs, Carla ^^

[@ariannaselleri1103]

I confessed to my crush too, she's a girl and I'm a girl, just like you. She just told me yesterday she doesn't reciprocate, but we're still friends. The most hurtful thing is that she's just so perfect, it's the first time I've felt this way, and it looks as if I'll never be so in love again. I know I'm just very influenced by the recent events, but I'm feeling so sad right now. Does it ever end?

[@shanley89]

i know this was a while ago but that's awesome I'm so glad she was understanding

[@braedenfullam7936]

@@ariannaselleri1103 Believe me, it gets better. If anything, you'll still have awesome people like her in your life, and that's enough. Someone who puts themselves out there is already worthy of love, just know that

[@jessicabaum9370]

Three experiences to share: 1. The Monday after homecoming my freshman year of high school I asked the guy I went with about the possibility of us dating and he said he didn't think it was a good idea. (Knowing him better now than I did then, I know he sometimes freaks out and says the opposite of how he feels which is what happened that day.) About a month and a half later he asked me out and we dated for about 8 months. 2. I had a crush on my best friend during my sophomore/junior year of college. I was 99.999 etc. percent sure he didn't feel the same way, but I needed to hear him say it. I didn't ask him out, but I did talk to him about it. I was right, he didn't like me that way. But it was the first of many difficult and awkward conversations we've had that have made our friendship stronger. 3. My college boyfriend and I started dating because I asked him out. I remember debating with my self about whether or not to ask him. Ultimately, I realized there was absolutely nothing he could say that would be worse than the amount of anxiety I was feeling. I have to say I don't regret anything about those experiences or anything that happened because of them. My regrets come from the times I didn't ask someone out or tell them I had feelings for them. "What if..." can be one of the most painful questions to ask yourself.

[@lily-8954]

Thank you

[@prashasti598]

that is really amazing! what ifs can be terrible >o

[@livingforhim1005]

Great message

[@livingforhim1005]

@@riniedarryllan1846 omigoodness, I always thought flirting with the guy first would make you memorable, lol. --though this wasn't to me, I wanted to say try not to think that way about all guys as a whole. There are many jerks but also so many hidden gems and nice people. I've met one guy super nice and someone else a bit blunt and hurtful 🤷‍♀️ even though both turned me down ---With risks comes pain but in the end it gives you confidence and you won't overthink and regret never saying anything. -Lastly forget those girls and forget their judgement, I think a girl being bold and confessing or asking someone out is crazy awesome. And you're not easy, your inspiring because it's what many people in general are afraid to do 💗

[@parsanasirzadeh2733]

Where the frick do I find a girl that’s willing to ask me out like these pepole lucky AF

[@Harsha-pe3pw]

This is one of the most underrated Ted talks

[@paulhuynh6228]

I thought he was going to say She said yes, and she's my girlfriend sitting over there. But the No answer was more realistic. Great talk though

[@TheChosenOne66501]

Paul Huynh the whole point of his talk was that rejection makes you stronger and just do the things you’re afraid of. His message wasn’t “You can’t get things unless you try”. That’s why I knew he was gonna say she said no

[@jackd1026]

Spoiler alert?

[@hplsswrr]

the no answer makes his message even more clear and influential though

[@TheChosenOne66501]

Jack D blame Paul for not understanding the point of the video

[@MisterDillPickle]

In the words of wise boomers, "it builds character."

[@a1001ku]

Ok boomer

[@mcdonalds452]

Ok boomer

[@celinas.3667]

Ok boomer

[@jaxtonfunk2034]

Ok boomer

[@rienokimchee6687]

ok boomer

[@anjana5853]

Regret hurts more than rejection! So confess your feelings for your crush.

[@anthonydicenso7333]

Anxiety won't hurt you seeing him/her with someone else will, don't be afraid you got a whole comment section here for you

[@lei8229]

The only thing I'm afraid of is everyone finding out about it...

[@lilswag6690]

daisy j for real

[@myrafoundation3369]

Well they won't I told my crush I liked him he rejected me. Only two people know about this till now

[@hilalelgargini1846]

Does it really matter if everyone finds out about it?

[@Corehardstyle472]

Hilal Elgargini yh

[@shorx9199]

Damn I wouldn't really care

[@kcmoney9042]

guys i told my crush i liked him and now he’s my boyfriend :)

[@hazzahannah]

Congrats 👍👍

[@themexican8720]

Congrats! I am so happy for you!

[@enzocerrudo314]

This kind of things doesn happen in real life lol

[@litterallyquaking1017]

@Lolicon I'm starting to see a pattern- the guys are all getting rejected while the girls are getting accepted lmao, either way props to them in having the courage

[@gameseeker6307]

Adorable

[@arigdn3782]

i will always be thankful for this video. Yes, i just got rejected but i’m proud to say, i’ve faced my fears and i told my crush i liked him. Obviously he said no, but i’m so proud of myself bc i did something i was terrified of and now i’m ready to focus on myself and my life again. Thank you very much 🙏🏻

[@imbored5334]

Ok, it’s official KZbin is spying on me

[@jordanabarcelos3733]

I’m Bored Algorithms are spying on you

[@comical_flask]

Reading all these comments about rejection, I just wanna share my story on here too. This year was the first time I actually mustered up the courage to FINALLY ask out my crush. Walked up to him and just did it without worrying too much about what he would say. Asked out the guy I have been crushing on for a whole year,,, Let me tell you that was a major turning point in my life. because I would've never dreamed of doing something so scary. My heart was thumping louder than a marching drum the whole time we talked but I managed to keep a straight face and get through the whole conversation. I was SO DAMN PROUD of myself for doing that, I just patted myself on the back when I got home since then I have unlocked a new level of confidence I didn't know I was capable of and all my friends have noticed it too. I'm a whole new person now lmao And I know that is not the point of this video or my comment, but we celebrate our 4 month anniversary in two days. Best decision ever. 😋

[@haznayn5521]

ik this a lil ate but good job

[@opoopp959]

Pro Tip by Me: Ask the girl out ...If she says No. Say it was a dare And then get a bucket of ice cream and cry.....

[@meredithmoore461]

Yesss!!!!😂😂😂😂😂

[@aaronb2181]

Wow lol

[@simpletonproductions]

Depends... Which flavor?

[@sebas6842]

DO NOT SAY ITS A DARE

[@joshgonzalez9362]

@@sebas6842 yeah that will make you look foolish

[@MrDaWang]

Asked my friend (who I've known since we were kids) last weekend and found out that she was already seeing someone else. My advice to everyone: DON'T WAIT. Don't wait for the perfect conditions; assume they won't come. Being honest with someone won't mess up a friendship. The feeling of wondering "what if" later on will hurt more than anything else

[@mutailenunshikokola2727]

Only an actual human teenager will understand this only leads to being burned

[@StephJ0seph]

Exactly, usually crushes come and go and most people aren't in that 10% of people that will go on to marry their high school sweethearts.

[@BigTorr704]

You only live life once, even if you get rejected and burned you are increasing the strength to face fear, doesn't only have to be in the subject of crushes.

[@shorx9199]

It makes life more interesting. You did that. It's embarrassing but it is an achievement.

[@ClearlyVague1]

I'm confused. Are you implying people passed their teens weren't teenagers at one point? This problem can relate to everyone.

[@Danpet1234]

What do you mean by burned

[@plaplik1013]

Crush: Enters the chat Me: Left the chat

[@king_supreme1102]

RIP to the people including me who only start to like people that already have dates

[@vathsanakasiri5285]

:(

[@VerycoolEsso]

People who are in relationships tend to be more attractive anyway. They are happier and it shows on their faces. But again, they had to be somewhat attractive in the first place to have a boyfriend/girlfriend while also attracting more people.

[@king_supreme1102]

Siri Akabane095 :(

[@king_supreme1102]

Catjohnny Esso Yeah, unfortunately I only ever like people who are already taken. Except my current crush, who I think is my dream girl. But even still it seems like one guy has got her pretty much locked up, and they could date at anytime it seems.

[@skrrtv1]

Catjohnny Esso this is true

[@krishnac4910]

I recently asked out my best friend and crush. I was convinced she was not interested AT ALL. But my friends kept telling me to do it. I waited 4 years and finally told her I liked her through Instagram DMs. The next day at school I found out that she likes me too. So that evening I asked her out using DMs again. It was awkward at first and we couldn't talk to each other about this in person for a week, but now, after 2 weeks, I'm happier than I've ever been. For the first time in my life, I was truly happy. No matter what u believe, just do it. We only have one life, and we should try to be as happy as possible in it. Take risks. Bonus points if you make others happy too. Hope I reached you. Have a nice day.🙂

[@perioddramasstan1834]

Alex le: doing thing you’re scared of will make you feel better. My anxiety, years of dysfunctional parents, bad relationships, insecurities, depression,...: you bet

[@TotalWarKS]

Then step forward and face them. Every difficult challenges you face will cultivate yourself into being a better character.

[@muttakeenhabib4299]

Period dramas Stan *Activate INSTANT REGRET mode*

[@johnnyjoestar1930]

I just don't want to ruin my friendship with them but, I am gonna ask em out now. Here goes nothing. Update: She said maybe Update Update: SHE SAID YES OML!!!! Update Update Update: She broke up with me today. I feel so down... Edit: Thanks for the support guys! I really appreciate it!

[@Adriel_HD]

Aye

[@sleephead4551]

how I wish we're the same

[@johnnyjoestar1930]

@@sleephead4551 Did you ask someone out?

[@sleephead4551]

@@johnnyjoestar1930 we probably like each other coz her friends always pair me with her. I'll probably ask her to go out, I just need timing.

[@smallcreature7999]

Johnny Joestar okay jojos fan

[@mr.aadhii]

Don't do that, don't give me hope

[@TitaniumN07]

Alright hawkeye haha

[@mustafaamin9516]

💀💀💀

[@johnrommelramirez7534]

You have to choose. Do it and get over it, or spend the rest of your life regretting that you never asked.

[@bigsmoke1179]

I had 47 rejections my whole life but I'm still on it.

[@need4spe3dBeast]

Ask cj for some advice

[@haznayn5521]

fuckin thats a lot. still gotta give u props for mustering up the courage to ask, gotta a crush rn and might drop a big hint tomorrow and ask her out the next day, who knows she might even say yes

[@눈에눈이들어가니눈물]

You've counted them all?

[@dunkhustle]

I just told her and she had no idea I was into her lol. Just tell her how you feel, it feels liberating whether they say no or not.

[@joffefan590]

I told my best friend i had feelings for her after this. Yeah, she didnt even answer❤️

[@mathebus]

Respect to you bro 👊 I just did the same and I'm left on read 😂😂 that's life

[@joffefan590]

Mat just wait, im sure she’ll answer eventually🙌 for me it took an hour, and we’re back just as before now man👊 it’ll work out, better than regretting not saying anything! Respect to *you* man👏

[@jereanellaster2085]

😥💔

[@meredithmoore461]

Yea I was like her who didnt answer and its just kinda awkward

[@billowen3285]

Guys you need to do this stuff in person

[@MVDNXGHT]

KZbin recommends this video to me only 2 days after asking her out and getting rejected. But this video is 100% true, I feel a lot better getting it off my chest and also accepting rejection with open arms. Trust me, just do it. Getting an actual answer feels much better than never doing it and then regretting never doing it. Regret hurts more than rejection.

[@Adam-jo3tr]

Dude Alex has such an amazing outlook and attitude on life and rejection/failure, and it's gonna take him far. I couldn't help but clap and do the occasional WHOO every few min while watching this because I just resonated so much with what he had to say. Viewing fear as an opportunity to grow is such an awesome way to succeed, and I hope everyone can start doing it, even if it's just a bit more every day :)

[@nomorecramps]

I did it boiss, I asked my crush out last week. She accepted, We're planning on a date this Friday after she's back from her cousin's. Wish me luck :P

[@abhishekrnath6560]

Malayali aano?

[@nomorecramps]

@@boristheviewbot6056 Well, we went to grab lunch at this noodle place. It was a jittery start I'd admit, but it slowly picked pace and it was a really funn experience! She said she really enjoyed it and we're planning another one this coming week xD

[@nomorecramps]

@@abhishekrnath6560 nan oru tamilanan, pakshe enik kurachu malaylam ariyaam.

[@abhishekrnath6560]

@@nomorecramps cool bruh..✌️

[@abhishekrnath6560]

@@nomorecramps keralathil vannitundo

[@getsemanilinares5369]

I love how real this ted talk was because everyone makes mistakes ✨

[@courtneyrose5507]

Me watching this knowing full well there’s nothing anyone could say to make me tell him

[@jijischmid1427]

My heartbeat increased by 100% just by thinking about asking her out