Why You Won't Get Your Ex Back

[@LordTails66]

While true that many need to change. We must also not forget that our exes are humans too. They made mistakes and heck maybe they made even more mistakes than you did. Maybe they should be the ones who should be scared to lose you and they need to change. At the end of the day, just strive to be a better version of yourself every day. Taking small steps each day will need to long term success. Change doesn't happen overnight.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Absolutely! Personal growth should always be a priority in our lives

[@cherrybacon5154]

Yes, well said.

[@mirnarodriguez4599]

I also noticed that the most valuable videos you have are the less watched. The ones where you pretend to make people think or reflect about themselves. Your most liked are the one that is related to "breakups" "getting back exes" and the so called "fast way" I love the videos where Margaret and you take your time to explain how we, humans, act and why we do things. I have learned a lot from you guys and appreciate what you are doing to help people get some peace of mind. Working in yourself is not easy, because first, you have to accept there is something "wrong" with you and then take the necessary steps to heal, I am not saying your ex is not "guilty" but as humans we are flawed and we have so, so much opportunity to become better every day that we better take the chance when it presents. Thank you for contributing for my peace of mind

[@giovanigonzalez7585]

I started working out to be more physically attractive, I got me a therapist and we start sessions this month so that i can learn to work on my emotions, and I quit smoking weed cause it was making my depression and anxiety worse, and im making new friends and trying to go out more, cause ii found out I have an avoidant attachment style. And i watch coach craigs videos everyday. I am constantly finding new things to work on. I am currently going through no contact and it sucks. But I am determined to become the greatest version of myself for me and also my ex of three years. Lol the days i'm to tired to work out, i go over to my exes facebook page and look at pics of her and her new man, and that shit motivates me to get out of bed and go work out wish me luck every body. And I wish you luck along yall's journey as well.

[@pauline941]

Giovani Gonzalez how did your story go on?

[@minaknoell2345]

Good luck 🍀 n u have a great motivation....

[@eppeep42]

Hey buddy, thats amazing. Im NC Day 40. How are you now?

[@jessepushor9967]

update?

[@shanikancita]

This is very true, listen to him. I regret not healing my anxiety before I got back together. Everything fell apart. So please focus on yourself, love yourself first. Good luck everyone!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Sorry to hear that. Thanks for sharing. Workbooks will help with that. Have u started them yet?

[@ceecee2066]

I needed this.. thank you

[@karenzhang1020]

So are you working on your anxiety now? What did you do to overcome it? I will see a local therapist for the first time in my life next month, other than that I have no clue what to do.

[@OnFeature]

@@karenzhang1020 any updates? I'm going to a therapist also in 10days, kinda ashamed and scared but i know its the best for me.

[@karenzhang1020]

@@OnFeature Therapist is very helpful. No need to be ashamed.

[@aliacoo]

This is spot on. Stay the course, It's hard, it's horrible, but if you want another chance, get up, dust yourself off, lick your wounds, dig in, and do the work. God I hope this works.

[@peterwhite4429]

Aliacoo any update??

[@CHAOTICxB0MB]

Survey says 👀

[@CorporateQueen]

You can't make someone do something they don't want to.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I debated on this video, but I know sometimes tough can help us see things more clearly

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

*tough love

[@noneyabusiness9931]

Craig you're the man! Listening to your advice makes me not even want my ex back. Im happier now than i have been

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

That’s a success story in my book!

[@shirleymadiva6886]

Coach Craig Kenneth I love your videos l watch them daily and after learning what l have l don’t want him back after 33yrs married!! HE IS A COVERT NARCISSIST!!! Of the worst kind!! Some ex’s should have been ex’s lonnnnnng before they became EX’s. You help so many....be blessed🙏🏽💕 Margret is a sweetheart 💕

[@noneyabusiness9931]

I did no contact and worked on myself few months after the break up, we went out to dinner and hearing her talk made me realised she didnt change i did i thanked her for joining me to dinner but i told her i didnt feel the same about her like i used to do... She left me for her kids dad which treated her horribly. She threw me away like trash. The trash has been emptied i walked away with my head held high and loving myself... I see my worth and she never did. Now I'm with a very loving woman that treats me well and i treat her well. Thanks craig thumbs ☝

[@speedyb5434]

Don't change yourself for anybody but yourself. IF YOU WANT! Love yourself the way you are.

[@hellochips]

Now that I’ve had some time, I know that I would not take my ex back unless she made the changes I need her to as well. She has an avoidant attachment style and shuts down a lot in conversation and cuts conversations short. If I ever did that, she’d hate it. Our breakup was mutual but I was deeply unhappy and felt so lonely. I realise now it’s because she can’t cope with intimacy. I didn’t beg or plead with her to change her mind but I stood my ground and said I need at least as much investment as I put in. I’ve learnt that I have an anxious attachment style but was very wary of getting into that anxious/avoidant trap so I didn’t let it happen. Got work to do on myself, but she does too!

[@jessepushor9967]

update?

[@Ghost--676]

That's exactly my situation rn almost word for word, she texted me on my birthday but i didn't wanted to follow up on conversation cause i was so hurt. Anyway i've messed up NC once when i sent her a meme that reminded me of her, she actually responded but we didn't talk for too long. Now it's been a couple of weeks and I haven't heard of her, I really miss her but I don't know if I want her back because of the avoidant-anxious trap you talked about. I'm anxious and she's very avoidant, and although I want to change it is not fair for me to change and do all the work while she does nothing, so if she doesn't change too I won't go back.

[@cynthiadavison5785]

I have to say this, I completely understand all the frustration, anxiety, depression, loneliness, desperation that one goes through during a breakup. I have been there. I have those feelings on and off still. Life is always gonna hit you like a pie in the face. If you are on this channel, you know you need to change. You must get to the point of knowing it's up to you. There is no time limit. Some will get there faster. Be kind to yourself. Everyone is flawed. Work everyday to be your better self! You will see improvement! To the lost souls, good luck to you! Love yourself better all will be alright, maybe not today, but it will!❤

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I know you are doing the work!!!

[@cynthiadavison5785]

Can you tell?

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Yes. And from what you are reporting! You should do a Skype with Margaret!

[@cynthiadavison5785]

Are you a mind reader? That was my next move. I wanted to do some work on the workbooks first. I wanted to combine my efforts with feedback and coaching.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

She’s amazing

[@chrisdedafoe5760]

This was exactly my story 2 months ago. So much guilt and regret

[@ZinqHerder]

I love this video, it could be just because of the length of time since my breakup (I imagine this might sting for people fresh out of a relationship), but there's a lot of good info in there. I didn't see the email as negative at all. More of a "get off your ass and change" kind of tone to it.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I agree. I think it came from a place of love and true regret. He is trying to tell everyone how he failed so others won’t

[@ZACKATTACKk95]

Hi Coach, I came across your videos a few weeks ago, just as my boyfriend & I of nearly 6 years broke up. It's a long story but basically, he found out through my friends that I had kissed someone on a trip to Europe last year (2017) in May of this year (2018). I know, it was a terrible mistake which I severely regret and did not even enjoy at the time, I hate myself for what I did and I was willing to do anything to fix it. A week went by before we met up and I admitted to everything he asked me about and he dumped me, but the next day he rang me while I was with a friend wanting to see me and possibly thinking me made a mistake in breaking it off, and he suggested we meet up again the following day to discuss things further, but when I got home that night he called me back and said "there's nothing you can do" and that we were done. I panicked and left letters on his car windshield and even got a tattoo of his name (I know, bad idea) and after the third letter he sent me a text saying the letters had to stop, but also that he's "moved on and has a thing for a mutual friend" and wanted me to "be okay with it first" and was curious about my "opinion on him pursuing her" which really hurt me and I found confusing because I don't see how anyone can move on that quickly. I didn't answer his text so he called me so see what I had to say about it. The phone call was calm and respectful but he made it clear there was nothing I could do to fix the situation. Do you really think he's over me? Is it a test? Is he trying to hurt me? What do I say if she likes him back? This mutual friend also dated my last ex and we were not on speaking terms which made it hard to socialise at parties and made it uncomfortable for everyone. I want the best for him and him to be happy but it would honestly kill me inside if they end up dating. I wouldn't think the friend would go for my ex but I'm not sure anymore as they're pretty close now. Do I make it an issue or do I completely accept it and give them nothing but support and not do anything to get in their way? I'm torn because the last thing I want is to lose more respect from him but I also don't want to give the impression I don't have an issue with this potential relationship when I very clearly do. I would very much appreciate your advice on the issue. Since watching your videos I've learnt so much. I find them very soothing and helpful. You and coach Margaret and wonderful and I'm so glad I found your channel. I know now that the letters and the tattoo were pushing him away rather than bring him closer and I'm making sure I make all the necessary changes within myself to be a better person and hopefully he will see that when we interact next (I'm blocked on all social media but I don't think he's blocked my number.) I decided after that last phone call in regards to him liking that other girl to set a "no contact" countdown in my phone for 30 days to give myself a goal to work towards. I've been going to the gym every day, I booked in to see a counsellor and I'm constantly reflecting on what I could've done better as a girlfriend or why things went down the way they did. I was wondering if you could do a video on HOW TO REACT WHEN YOU SEE YOUR EX FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE BREAKING UP. I will probably see him at a birthday or something eventfully as I won't want to do anything to make things worse. I know a lot of people would also want a video on this topic please please please, you're the best! I'm going to continue to watch your videos every night and while I make myself a better person, maybe I will get my ex back in the process. I will update you if there's any new information. Have a great day (and sorry for the long post!)

[@aaronk4310]

I hope you found happyness

[@toyat1059]

Brian is just too bitter, it made me want to stop watching this video but I continued. I know what my part in the break up was, not communicating my needs, and ex, not wanting to deal with any emotions but just break up without any explanation. I've learned that sometimes people come into your life to teach you a lesson.

[@amarub90rubino43]

Craigggggg! I love you 😘 I have been cheating on my boyfriend for 2 weeks with your channel! Definitely going to figure out how to get, The Knowledge! Great name btw.. I’m 28 going on 80 with my computer skills😂 I only just made a KZbin account just so I can give you and Margaret likes and I pressed the bell 🔔 bc you guys deserve so much gratitude 🙏 this whole series of videos really has me contemplating my relationship of almost two years (yes you were right about thT 2 year “ love drug” hormone thing!) I am a psych nerd 🤓 and this is one of the best channels on KZbin and you’re right about nobody else understanding attachment trauma. I also learned that maybe I’m a “quiet borderline” ... when I was younger up until my early 20s, my behavior was TEXTBOOK BORDERLINE! I also had a drug problem and annorexia buttttt -was fortunate enough that my day family sent me to behavioral health treatment center. I lived there 3 separate times in one year! My borderline personality symptoms slowly disappeared and I became much more humble and took off my heels and put my hair up! Only now - 7 years later can I even admit that I most likely have borderline personality disorder since it stems from early childhood! Butttt 15 years of therapy and institutions taught me how to behave - little by little - until I was in tact.. but Craig, it wasn’t until this channel that I realized I still have a lot of borderline traits deep inside! I have such a hard time with emotion regulation, which is why I seem like an avoidant to others.. it was learned over time bc I would self reflect on my behaviors with boyfriends and grow dramatically after each breakup. I would look back and be embarrassed by my behaviors ! And the anxiety ! That’s what it really was that I was suppressing! I went from being an anxious social butterfly 🦋 to an avoidant practically over night! I realize now that I just avoid intimacy with others because of the anxiety! So instead I hide away and bury myself into my business.. that’s another thing.. it’s almost like I’m in a relationship with my business! I am constantly scared endlessly that my salon will close down because I don’t believe in myself and just adding the business on top of everything else makes me want to hide Away not answer the phone for or even see my bf, family, friends, events. Therefore, I preoccupy myself in order to avoid my real problems so that others think I have it all together. Or at least that’s what my gut is now telling me binge watching almost all of your videos in 2 weeks! I am going to send an email over to you and Margaret and purchase your program. It’s insane how I just ASSUMED that since my bf was 35 at the start of our relationship, that he wanted to marry me too. We didn’t talk about marriage until after a year. I thought men hated that and that when he was ready that he would initiate that conversation. A friend of his told me that he doesn’t wanna get married at all.. It took me months to muster up the strength to say, “ if you won’t consider marriage in our future, I can’t do this”. He told me that he will consider it a d that he loves me very much and a wedding is just a piece of paper! He has had gold diggers as exes...

[@glee105]

Why you won’t get your ex back is because during the no contact you get to see who they really are and now the desire is no longer there. I grieved the relationship. Made him dead. I’m a good woman with much to offer.Are you out there?

[@jimmygee3219]

I believe I’m putting in the work. I’ve lost nearly 40 lbs, I’m in professional therapy for my own attachment traumas, work trauma (professional first responder) and other various issues. I’m not sure I’d even want her back even if I had the opportunity. My relationship had a lot of problems, I had my problems but she had a ton of her own which I don’t believe she will ever work on (knew her for over a decade as a dear friend prior to dating). I truly love that woman but without both of us doing work it’s not going to make a difference. I dropped contact a week after the breakup and have done not only the above but reestablished friends and family relations as well. I’m doing this all for me and my future I’m increasingly looking forward to. It’s unfortunate to have lost someone I loved dearly but I’m moving forward.

[@ponokunishima1]

Wow, great video and awesome email, it was like a wake up call to most of us who were or are still in a similar situation. Might have to view this again.

[@CozBlueOcean]

Hi Craig- I enjoy watching your videos on different topics. They have helped me a lot. One question: can you do a general video on how to get your ex back if you were the dumper? I looked but have yet seen one from you and I would love to hear it from your educated perceptive.

[@Calida2308]

I told my ex he gonna get the same problems with any girl.. But he didn't listened.. He actually know tht he got problems.. But hates psychology n think a other girl will help.. Because in the beginning everything is so easy n light...

[@schuylerwednesday4679]

We are never getting back together. Four months into the breakup and he has turned very cold and he doesn't care anymore even if he knows I have health problems which started right after he broke up with me.he could care less even if I'm on my deathbed.i know I made many mistakes in our relationship but I'm not solely responsible for the demise. I know I need to change so does he.I'm currently in no contact for a week and I like the fact I'm starting to become indifferent.I know I won't get any new year greeting from him let alone to hear from him next year or for the coming years.throughout this breakup he has been very mean to me and I did not expect he can turn into a vile human being.what I was before that was in the past.I'm still in the progress of healing and improving myself but throughout this breakup I saw a side of him that I think he needs to change a lot.that's what he is now.

[@dianaathens1]

Schuyler Wednesday update?

[@schuylerwednesday4679]

@@dianaathens1 it's not a straight healing path.i didn't go full on no contact.we had a time off and after a week into the new year I think he reached out and he realized he was harsh to me after the breakup.he was hot and cold and I felt breadcrumbed even if he did not intend to.so we had communication and slowly opened up and I don't know if it's the reconciliation phase since he didn't want to commit..so I got tired of it.i have to admit I still cry over it sometimes.he is still closed off and I haven't heard from him for 16 days.i even feel I messed up if that was really the reconciliation phase since I said I only do certain stuff with my bf.he said before when he graduates he will come back and try that is if I still want to..but I feel that chance is slim since he has not even reached out anymore.and all the while I thought he already forgave me cuz he said one time he forgot about it then I found out he still held on to my mistakes.i feel so hurt cuz here I am thinking we are ok yet we are not.so that's why I am in no contact again.16 days now.he used to ask me how I am and wanted me to update on my health and that was the last thing he said to me and I haven't heard from him since.i was fine for many days until Friday early morning.i feel bad again on top my health problems plus this virus issue going on.anyway,I am hurt that I feel he made me believe that he moved past our or my mistakes... I just want him to be honest about what he feels and felt before.i made mistakes of not fighting for him and other issues like I easily get annoyed but I remember he wanted me to be honest and I was... whether good or bad...so I told him so we can improve but now I realize he just kept his feelings to himself if he wasn't ok with stuff.and that in itself is toxic.i feel now he made me feel that I am entirely responsible for this relationship demise.i feel if there's something you don't like about your partner you can just calmly tell them and have a proper conversation and not say ok when you are not really ok with it.i found out he has that side.sorry for this long ass message.just need to vent out.was fine before then I am not again.

[@schuylerwednesday4679]

@@dianaathens1of all the health problems I experienced right after the breakup.that in itself is a wake up call for me to change.and I know now what to do.i sometimes beat myself up about what happened but I instill in my mind that I already forgave myself.it's his problem if he hasn't.that was before and this is him now.unforgiving.he said what we had meant to him but then why can't he move forward for the better rather than hold on to my mistakes.i learned the lesson the hard way by being so stressed out after the breakup that I got sick then he recalls or brings up what I used to do once in a while when we had conversations like I would still do it again.i get that he can't forget but should not have a blaming undertone to it..we have always been on LDR and it was no problem just other issues.but now I don't believe and don't want to believe anything that comes out of his mouth so if he tries to contact me again..that is....if he does... I'll just let him talk and just let it out the other ear and not take anything seriously.

[@rwentfordable]

He could care less? So he cares?

[@AnthonySmith-yu8vc]

I SO APPRECIATE YOU GUYS! GOD BLESS YOU! Committed to be my best self in first loving myself and then attracting the love i deserve.

[@gerdje1976]

i hope that his books will one day come in audio form. I always had a hard time reading, so for me if there would be a audio version, that would really make me buy them

[@camellia8625]

I think there is a special optical character recognition pen you can get that you can roll over words and have them read out for you.

[@RhianeHacker]

What if he broke up with you and said that you did nothing wrong, he just doesn't love me anymore but still cares. He said he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, but can't tell me if he wants to be with me in the future. All I get is 'maybe we will, I don't know'. He's 20 and I'm 22. We were together for nearly 3 years and lived together (we went through uni together). He hasn't unfollowed me on any social media platforms. He still wants to be friends. We broke up on the 20th June and we've seen each other a couple of times (because he was moving his stuff out of our flat). He was cold with me or anything. We haven't spoken now for 4 days since he said came round to say goodbye as he's moving back to France. How do I change if I don't know what I need to do? The only answer I get is that he just doesn't feel the same way anymore and doesn't want a relationship.

[@jupiter-walk5461]

There is always something. Love is build on attraction too. Maybe you did or say something that may have push him away from you but didn't tell you. The way you talk could be it or jealousy. Did you trust him or have he been open up to you? And how was the relationship in the beginning or before it began? Was he the one to approach you and liked you and you gave him a shot at dating you? Like I said there is always something that we, the dumpee, did and our partner didn't say and disconnect from us. For me it is my insecurity, however it is a difficult relationship because of different race and religion. I never abuse my ex physically or talk down on her. But my insecurity of "another guy" pushed her out the door. Hope this helps.

[@Ari-jy3nd]

Any updates?

[@lizpalomino6998]

Rhiane Hacker cc

[@kassidykilborn5815]

Any update? My situation is somewhat similar. My ex acted the same way and said the same things but blocked me on everything except Facebook.

[@NotYourTypicalMermaid94]

Time and growth makes you stronger

[@onelife5302]

What if they have attachment issues and runaway everytime things get serious?

[@CorporateQueen]

The hardest. : (

[@majadera2233]

I finally get out of my house. Went to a mall and activity center. Found a lot of attractive people there. I realise how blind sided I was all this time. Geezzzzz. I have now the abundance point of view.

[@biaten]

Inner Core Maybe but you do not connect with just everyone . Real connection is actually rare.

[@rosaamile2534]

Coach Craig Kenneth what if it was the other way around?? I was broken up with even though yes i did the work and he acknowlegdes it but he wanted everything easy so he would constantly run when things get hard even though he loves me? 4yrs and I tried to encourage growth and stayed but he would constantly run and come back and now he broke up again? Why does he run when things dont go his way? He even says that he doesnt deserve me. I went no contact...its been almost 2 months now.

[@carolinejennings5021]

Hi Craig and Margaret. I have to say that you are both amazing! I absolutely love your channel and never miss a day without you. You have got me through a realkytough breakup. Because if you're so wise and compassionate I am starting to feel better about myself. Thank you thank you to you and Margaret. YOU'RE CHANGING THE THE WORLD. Bless you both. Caroline xx

[@yanavai22]

Hi guys, I have a question for you with anxious attachment style like me. what do you do for personal growth? Besaid watch Craigs videos and doing a skype I dont know what exactly should I do.

[@KB-hh8rt]

I won't get my ex back because she relapsed and chose the sad life of meth but I am enjoying these videos and working on myself. I finally got the courage to talk to a local therapist and I'm getting on meds for my anxiety. Thanks Craig for all you do!

[@irenamelia4016]

Hello getting back your ex shouldn't be a problem anymore.......

[@irenamelia4016]

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[@irenamelia4016]

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[@familylife6394]

Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean💖💖💖

[@familylife6394]

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[@hentypretorius9390]

Hi coach Craig you think I will have another chance with her,because i told her she must move on with her life

[@fxbinder]

This is an annoying letter- 100% projection on an audience he presumes to know. It's not wise to assume everyone is like yourself just because you have a common interest

[@rwentfordable]

i agree, if he didn't do the work that's on him. I believe I absolutely deserve to have another chance. 3.5 year relationship, 6 months engaged, her mother made shit up about me and my fiancee believed every word of it. We never fought, no neglect, no jealously, cheating or abuse. Done the CHC and workbooks and on second run through, no contact perfectly, mastering relationships playlist on repeat. 15 months later I've heard nothing and blocked randomly months after the break up. I see these success stories with much shorter relationships, lower commitment level, toxic behaviour and partner comes back 3-9 months later, sometimes multiple times because one hadn't worked on themselves. i get really bitter about it.

[@shiningdiva_2]

My ex after 3 months still abusing me when he calls and is him who left after 6years. I never call him for nothing. 2 times i called him cos our son he wantend talk to him but he didn’t answer cos he was in his ex house, his gone to see his other children. When we was toghter always he was hanging around at his ex and alwyas was acusing me about me seeing my ex🙄🙄 I left my ex 9 years a go and i never called him, i never meet him, even i don’t have his number.🤷‍♀️ O my God his drives me mad this ex🤦‍♀️ His really sick in his had i am sure. 🙂

[@marrytissina1967]

i'm totally broken today,it's hopeless , I just wanna die ,I can't take it anymore.

[@weisthor0815]

don´t be, it will get better. my break up was 11 months ago and i do not even want her back anymore.

[@marrytissina1967]

I hope one day I can forget about him,and move forward in my life.I can't love someone else,I love him so much,he broke my heart into pieces,I'm now a body without soul. weisthor0815 Thanks for your reply

[@marrytissina1967]

Petros Giorgallis I will ,Thank you so much

[@ceesarjoust3794]

marry Tissina I'm the same way.

[@marrytissina1967]

Jew I'm so sorry to hear thaat 💔,sometimes I feel better and sometimes I don't,I wish this nightmare ends as soon as possible 😿

[@rissx]

This guy is awesome. This video gets me pumped up

[@anthonyfultz8510]

hey do u got a video about you catching your ex cheating but wont admit it but wants to break up cause they say there not happy with there life... and says there in love with you but doesnt want the relationship...

[@kenishalperkins]

Omg this is scary okay I’ll listen 😐

[@claudiagiacometti8237]

Mine will never come back. We fought for years and it wore him down and he decided for months before that he was leaving. I could feel that emotionally he had left me months ago. Plus we live in diff states and neither want to live in the other state. So, there are many factors more than just how you act.

[@BibekGhosh11]

Coach more videos like this..keeps us motivated

[@mariotibbrine1]

Why would you need to change? If a person likes you for your potential thinking you can be molded into what their agenda is. they are sadly mistaken that is manipulative be who you are. if they devalued you they in turn are devaluing themselves. accept they are not your kind and you are not their agenda. leave them to their purpose, and pursue your purpose know where you are going and why. what's the big picture for you? get there for yourself dont be co dependent that's being needy you dont need anyone else's validation if you are achieving or winning if you are not winning on your own time to find a new sport or learn a new skill or skills period. If you wear your heart on your sleeve rip it off and cage it in your chest dont be quick to accept and offer your love and heart in return for nothing offered get what you are worth and what your time is worth.

[@topkat8268]

I'm sorry, but HE is the one who needs to change, not me. When somebody lies to you with a straight face, l finally caught onto his lies. I really loved him but not putting up with a pathological liar. It took me over 4 years to realize l was dealing with a narcissist. I knew nothing about this personality disorder. He destroyed my self esteem & so much damage to me. This is so abusive. He hit me at the end but l fear reporting him as he threatened me. I can ruin him if he gets arrested. Meanwhile he moved onto his next victim & lm a mess.

[@Zafoshin]

Why does he need to change? Why are you a mess? You start and end your comment with these statements, but in the middle you're all about how he isn't good for you(or anyone). You shouldn't care what he's doing or saying he needs to change. Because these imply you want hi back. You really do, don't you? You wish thing would be different, that he would be. At the same time you know he isn't good for you. I don't even know know or judge him, but do I feel like you should be happy you're finally free. At any rate, it's not about him, though your comment is..You're at war with yourself and have placed opposite feelings at opposite sides of the battlefield. It's normal to feel everything. Embrace your feelings, accept them. Then just control your actions and your feelings. Know that you'll be just fine. Life goes on for you. It just does. It really does, even though you feel like you're stuck at some point, especially relative to your e, who has moved on so easily. You're on your own path and happiness is deep and complex. Maybe he seems happy, or even every1 else does. Follow the advice you'd give some1 else. I wish I would...

[@topkat8268]

@@Zafoshin Have you ever been involved with a narcissist??? They are users , liars & abusers. The thing is in the beginning of the relationship, they love bomb you & you fall deeply in love with them. Thing is, that is not the REAL person. After awhile the mask comes off & you realize they are EVIL . They are usually victims of an abusive childhood. That is why he needs to change. I helped save his life when he was suicidal, now that he's better he discarded me. I do still love him, but l know there's no going back. I just wish he was really the person he pretended to be. Narcissist do tremendous amount of damage to their victims. I had to read up on this personality disorder because l never was involved or knew one. Its very painful.

[@Zafoshin]

@@topkat8268 Such a horrible person, yet you still talk about him, read up on his disorder, love him...Sounds to me you should be really happy he's gone and indifferent towards him becoming a better person. You're not being magnanimous, you're (rightfully)bitter and stuck in the past. That's ok. Embrace this side of you. Only then you'll truly move on eventually.

[@LiquidfirePUA]

@@topkat8268 you arent working on you

[@ceesarjoust3794]

This happened, I got my ex back in december it was great, we were seeing each other for a bit now, until may that I found she was still sleeping with the other guy.... I started neglecting her again. I started telling her things, calling her names, and now shes broken up with me again. I dont know if I'll ever have the opportunity ever again. It destroys me knowing I fucked it up again.... my jealousy took over me but at the time I felt hurt... because she lied to me. I felt betrayed I dont know what to so anymore.

[@kassidykilborn5815]

In all honesty you did nothing wrong. She was cheating on you. Maybe calling her names wasn’t the right move but sleeping with someone else when you guys were seeing each other isn’t okay. I think you should’ve dumped her. You said you started neglecting her again. So you know where you went wrong. You were neglectful. Learn from it and honestly you deserve better than someone who cheats on you. If you put the effort in to change and be better there’s so many other woman who would make you happy. I know it’s hard to not want her back but from the sounds of it you deserve someone who doesn’t cheat and she deserves someone who doesn’t neglect her. Both of you have stuff you need to work on but only the future can tell if you guys are meant to be. It’s true what they say, if it’s meant to be they will come back. And hopefully be better for you

[@jedharper9262]

How do you do the work when you are broke

[@cherrybacon5154]

One of my worst faults in the relationship with my Ex was my temper, my jealousy and insecurity. Sometimes he would throw other women in my face, and I behaved in a way to embarrass myself. Whilst my reasons for being hurt and mad were justified, I often played right into his hands. I believe that was partly responsible for him being attracted to someone else. To try and be a better person I have since let go of the anger and frustration the relationship caused, and wished him well nomatter who he was with. Even if he came back I don't think we'd be right for each other. I needed to let go in order to move on. It's still early days, and in the space of a week I feel I've been grieving a lifetimes worth of hurt, so I'm concentrating on myself now and the person I know I can be. Scars and all. Cherry 🍒

[@cherrybacon5154]

@@wmtrade6328 I have researched so much about my feelings and how he made me feel. He was a Narcicist and I am going through the trauma of withdrawal from him. It's hard and I know the worst is yet to come. I'm keeping busy, looking after myself and focusing on myself. He pops into my head and I remember the symptoms of abuse he made me feel. I intend never to make contact with him, but I know one day he'll contact me for a 'fix' because that's how they get their power. I will face him head on and ii will say 'No'. I need to do this or I will forever avoid problems in my life. Cherry 🍒

[@cherrybacon5154]

@@wmtrade6328 Any help to sort out the mess in my head would be appreciated thanks.

[@cherrybacon5154]

Hell yes, I'm ready.

[@kassidykilborn5815]

Your right you guys aren’t good for each other. From what I can tell at least. You should be in no competition with another woman. Especially if he’s throwing them in your face. You deserve so much better. For some help I would suggest therapy. I’m just gonna assume you have insurance. Call and see if it’s covered. It could really benefit for you to talk to someone who’s completely unbiased in the situation. Being compared and put up against other woman is emotionally draining and really drains your self esteem. I know from experience. Someone will come around and see your worth and not even want to see what other woman have compared to you cause to them you will be the best.

[@cherrybacon5154]

Thank you so much for those kind words X.

[@bobby1602]

congrats Craig on 500.

[@GN999MT]

How do you show them or tell them you’ve been seeking therapy and have been making major changes to better yourself if you’re in no contact??

[@sandyhowell3256]

I would like to know that answer too.

[@shetookthekids484]

you dont, they will see the work you've put in when they contact you believe me!

[@hentypretorius9390]

She block and unblock and send me work related staff,but why she will do it?

[@destinyritchie3378]

Thank you for these videos

[@Korek3217]

I watched like 1 minute and already know this video will be awesome because i asked similiar question Oh yea, finished workbook 1, soon i will buy all next. :)

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

So glad you are enjoying the workbooks!

[@playalot86]

Is 6 months long enough for no contact to work?

[@FreedominLove711]

I would think so.

[@markdismang8550]

How do I get the Workbook?

[@christophermccarthy9497]

Where can I buy the workbooks?

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Only at AskCraig.net

[@christophermccarthy9497]

Awesome I’ll look tomorrow! I honestly don’t even know if I want my ex back lol. It was an 8 year relationship and I’m just exhausted but I definitely want to grow as a human being.

[@Beast314m]

my ex wished me a happy birth day should I do the same when the time comes

[@MrPumpkinDumkin]

Nah screw her.

[@lesleysole6427]

I think this guy angry still . !! How about the ex changing too ? They may walk out but they do have issues too that need changing in some ways too

[@RCT479]

Lovely video coach today is the buy day 😄

[@RCT479]

Coach I can’t buy the set as it says update it card pls help

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I don’t know why you’d have a problem. If you have Paypal, email me on my website and I can set that up for you

[@catalinababy6068]

He was one who abused me I was way too nice Not sure why he dont want me

[@saniabthomas480]

Same here...He used to verbally abuse me for no reason.when i started react to it he says i am a feminist and blocked me on whatsapp.

[@sarawilkenson686]

Coach Craig how can our ex see our positive changes if they've blocked using social media and in other ways?

[@TheJunxiang92]

Sarah Wilkinson I think they will see it. My ex blocked me too, however I realized she created a fake account to see my Instagram stories, but she never reach out to me. The point is, don't give up hope and be patience

[@donniesdesertcannabis9246]

The positive changes are for YOU, nobody else. You have to change for YOU. If your ex somehow notices, great. If not, others will.

[@glenndiddy]

I used to be a secure partner but slipped into a (minor?) depression and my personality changed. For me changing is relatively easy because I had already committed to changing a while before the breakup. I sadly hadn't told her about it because I didn't know she was suffering.

[@Nomad-yn7pv]

I want to change, for myself and also to give myself a better chance at getting my ex back, but I have no idea what I'm supposed to do.

[@charlesizuchukwu423]

Hey coach Craig my ex liked my tweets and sent me a text saying “hey” in my twitter dm..after a while she deleted the message and I couldn’t find it..I got the email notification that she texted me, but she deleted the message , should i reach out? Or wait for her to finally decide to text me?

[@noneyabusiness9931]

Charles Izuchukwu she going hot and cold. Just let her forreal reach out to you

[@empathwriter8700]

Can I pay with PayPal for an email session? If so how? I don’t have a credit card only a normal Bankcard. (I finally saved some money so please answer)

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Did u try using whatever card u have? Try it first. May work

[@empathwriter8700]

Coach Craig Kenneth it didn’t, I tried.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Try again today. I just checked and nobody has gotten their card declined for an email coaching today. I looked

[@empathwriter8700]

Coach Craig Kenneth but the type of card that is requested is a credit card? I don’t have one. On the normal bankcard (I’m live in Germany) is said to not have the number you request. I made research. I’ll try again tho I doubt it will work. I’ll keep you updated. Thanks.

[@empathwriter8700]

Coach Craig Kenneth it doesn’t work, as I explained the card I have doesn’t have the required numbers since it’s not a credit card. Can you put an option out that has paypal?

[@yeet6876]

Well this is kinda of a depressing email :/

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I can see that aspect. But the takeaway is important. I think this video may be helpful to watch twice

[@mercwiffamouff7301]

He's telling you that you need to put in the work. You need to actually try hard and do the work. That's all.... Don't assume you're doing enough. Do more

[@christainsmith4868]

they way this man reads is hilarious.😂

[@marselafuentez2923]

I told my ex I was going to move on but didn’t mean it did I blow it anybody coach someone need advice bad !!

[@gmoney5173]

No you said exactly the right thing. When somebody breaks up with you, they are telling you that they are moving on. so you should too! Moving on doesn't mean you won't still have love for that person. It just means you won't be attached to them anymore, and it will allow you to view them logically.

[@Rat454]

Listening to the way he’s sitting on his high horse in this email, I can see why he didn’t get his ex back.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I suggest u watch the video again

[@cynthiadavison5785]

I watch every video 5 times in one day. I want to completely understand what I am hearing and retain it. I'm tired of being the way I have been. I want a good relationship. This guy is being honest. Don't rag on him. I have done some of these things too. He reached out to help others. That's a change right there. Good luck to this guy!

[@sacrificiallamb3637]

that dood us rlly bitter AHHAHAHAHAA

[@robinforrest1736]

L

[@leviet7736]

That guy in your video is so pathetic. Feel pity for him. So negative and little person

[@robinforrest1736]

Iiiii

[@miguelamengual2196]

Wow I should have waited to view this video before I called her and broke 0 contact. Her last words were. "It will be obvious whats going to happen after this conversation that she and I had". Not a good sign...

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Wow