A Powerful Way To Re Attract Your Ex

[@dcdude171]

Now that I'm single Margret and I can finally run away together.

[@kevinhallett1112]

Lucky!!!! Lol

[@ishnookie]

You sick fuck

[@angelsolano2243]

@@ishnookie lol

[@raypierce3205]

That’s creepy bro

[@islandgirl5953]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@marksnow923]

Guys, listen up. Do NOT despair. This fellow speaks from knowledge. Don't slip and make possibly unrepairable mistakes. Be strong, be Alpha, and most of all be patient. It's SO hard, but it works. And, not to be a bummer, but if it doesn't work out in the long run there's a million, jillion other chicks out there. And you WILL be stronger in the long run. Good luck!

[@navp8017]

mARK SNOW really needed to hear that. Thank you. It’s been nearly 3 months since I’ve heard from my ex bc she’s in a rebound bc she got with him shortly after she left me but I’m staying strong and patient. Going day by day

[@kiplove9164]

mARK SNOW or men lol not just chicks 🐣

[@matiaspereyra9375]

But how can we be on the path of moving on whilst giving it one more shot. How can we move on in a way that will create interactions with our ex that are effective for showing intent in an attractive way that can reattract our ex

[@tylerswitzer9062]

mARK SNOW I actually needed to hear this!

[@plusultra5735]

@@navp8017 update?

[@l.k.1111]

I listened to the sleep playlist...and I was actually able to sleep all night. This channel has helped me on sooo many levels (and still is!). So grateful that these exist. 🙏

[@chriscline7905]

I feel like my ex wants to come back, wants to work it out but she is literally that stubborn that she doesn't want to be wrong

[@cfnaround1585]

That’s narcissistic not avoidant

[@chriscline7905]

@@cfnaround1585 odd I'm married now almost 5 years later and out of nowhere she's blowing up my phone, showing up to my work and texting me all the time like she didn't just abruptly leave me in 2019 despite living together and being together for years and now out of the blue? What does that mean?

[@implive17]

I don't know if this will work for everyone and I hope I don't sound corny because this is over the net. But gym F#cken works! I spent 5 months suffering from anxiety after a break up. After one month of gym I just felt way calmer. I made new friends at the gym. I started watching a lot of style videos, bought some new clothes, altered some of the ones I have and threw out the rest. I look way better then I ever did. The women at work are even looking at me differently now lol Now we haven't spoken in months. I might not be where I want to be yet but it feels good knowing I'm well on my way to being my best self again. I won't lie I still love here and do want her back (hence I'm watching this video lol). But I also know I will be fine if she doesn't come back. Work on yourself guys. Now if only I could quit smoking 😂

[@WillMartelinspire]

Kudos brother! I read your post and I am in the exact same situation. I was always a gym rat and had a ton of muscle. But since my break up I have gotten ripped like Sly in Rocky 3, and now I got women at my job also taking notice. I was always a great dresser but even improved that part. I have read a bunch of self improvement books, and also watched these amazing videos by Coach Craig and Coach Margaret which continue to get me through a very dark period of my life but I know it will be brighter days ahead. I also am still in love with my ex and think of her often. The hardest thing about a break up is walking away from someone you're still in love with so I can totally relate. The gym helps out a lot with depression. Keep up the great work brother, and as long as your heart still beats when you rise in the morning(?), you have a chance!

[@irfanafandi3145]

Im hitting the gym tmr dude. Thank you for the inspiration. Separation anxiety feels like death. I wanna get over this so badly! Looking good is the best revenge! 😂

[@aronbechiom565]

Doing the same...and the smoking is an issue. Causal factor for my breakup.

[@wrestlebdk]

Officially 3 years back from watching every single video, the binge continues!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

500th video!

[@jestinlu]

Thank you for your hard work!! : )

[@terracotta2700]

Coach Craig Kenneth OH my gosh what a milestone!! Thanks for all your hard work, Craig and Margaret

[@selilatte]

Thank you!

[@meeraraj0]

Coach Craig Kenneth congratulations! Great talk

[@joaniehays7870]

Wow!! Please keep them coming Craig and Margaret. You are both an inspiration and have dragged me up from the depths of breakup grief to hope and positivity! ❤️❤️

[@pauljimenez6935]

Thanks craig and margarette you both make my day and give me a smile despite my problem to my almost a month break up. I watched all your vids. And im doing no contact already and been fixing myself to be the best version of me. Thank you both.

[@DayaTom]

You can't play when you feel unsafe. But it gets better with time and work. Learn to feel safe and loved by yourself, even in the middle of a storm.

[@WillMartelinspire]

Well said. I figured out through my break up that the person that I were with had a narcissistic complex with passive agressive behavior. The more time goes on I've learned that you really need not get an ex back but love, respect, and know YOU are worth it! If the one who dumped you out of the blue with no explaination whatsoever wanted a "Break" or needed "Space" is all bs. They didn't want you and don't deserve to have YOU back! Have that ex live with the decision they've made by being a person who evolves and become successful in life, growing as a human being! Where I am now in my thought process.... and it was very hard to get here. I really don't want her back. At the end of the day it's about self respect.

[@TheElizabethjoanna]

@@WillMartelinspire you absolutely right it's important to choose respect over being loved or liked ...they didn't die they choose to live they broke a reletionship they took a power away already why we should be so masochistic ..if he left me he already killed my erection 😂😂😂I love it that saying 😉that should be huge turn off

[@TheElizabethjoanna]

They always comes back in them week moment's but in them strong they live ...

[@coccoonz1]

Doing so much better now! 7 months now since the breakup! I still think of my ex but way less and she kept reaching out, i told her i didn’t and couldnt be just friends. She still contacted me on xmas and i replied short and polite, suddenly she was mad because of that!! Which reminds shes a master in making a storm in a glass of water... lol. I didnt reply. Im in a good place now. All of you, just hang in there! Itll pass! Be 💪🏻

[@mb285]

This is so helpful...I watch your videos almost daily.. I am getting stronger day by day..working on myself and my attachment style ❤

[@kimballew1805]

What if my ex boyfriend playing the ghost, then he starts coming around talking about settling down, and getting married!!

[@mushcake56]

Feeling a little stressed lately. This video is one of my favorites. Great message. Let loose a little.

[@TheDrelewis38]

Coach Craig I pray that you read my message. I lost my wife and I have been separated from her 3 yrs I pray that I get my wife back I don't have any chance. She is with another guy! It's still painful. Crippling pain!!!! Please help!

[@shiningdiva_2]

Since i spleet with me ex i went vegan, i go gym, i go out with my friends, listen music more often, and now i want to pas my driving licence.Fingers cross!!!When i was with him always he was trying to put me on the last place, stuck with kids in the house 24-7🤨 I just hate i past 6 years next to somone who didn’t value me at all. Plenty fish in the Sea ladys. Don’t cry for your exex they always gona watch back for what they lost. Sometimes is to late cos we gona forget them.

[@foodie7612]

J L beautiful lady

[@becs0331]

@@michaelmiller8455 that's a little mean

[@B1GK1NG]

JJJ JJJ amen sister, you’re in a better place of mind and spirit.

[@tammi908]

Margret....You melt my butter 😊❤

[@jednaylor5321]

Mmmm melted butter🤣

[@Dixslap]

Thanks Craig for your great advice! Congrats! Happy 500th vid!

[@wcc181]

I just told my ex I dont want to be friends with her today and that I love her and will always love her. If she wants to contact me great if not life moves on. She was the best thing to happen to me and my depression and behavior ruined it. I hit rock bottom and lost her. I cried for weeks hoping she would return and I finally told her that I cant just be friends with her and that I'm moving on.

[@Geekspace12]

Growing Pains 215 I’m in the same boat right now

[@wcc181]

@@Geekspace12 shit sucks doesnt it, but I'm becoming a better version of myself currently and it feels amazing...keep your head up!

[@B1GK1NG]

I know how you feel brother. Keep your head up

[@wcc181]

@@B1GK1NG yeah bro I'm doing much better after this whole thing..getting my life together and staying focused..not really dating just yet.

[@noubietube3062]

@@wcc181 update?

[@eliasmd2003able]

11:07 ... sleeping with this video tonight. Whatever helps.

[@purefoy7642]

These vids helped me over the past few years. Thank you.

[@debraclemence1347]

Now this is definately what I needed to hear today! Especially after binge watching you guys again... So thank you coaches!

[@katcuzzi]

Hi Craig and Margaret! What if we’re doing our best to just be happy and live in the present moment, but we haven’t heard from our ex in months? There’s no way he’d be able to see the change.

[@sarawilkenson686]

Kat B I wish he would answer this question too!!!

[@lucittashillingford1627]

Based on my experience I use to think like you. How will ex see the change if you don't see them? You should be changing for you and you alone not anyone else and believe me at some point they will see the change. Probably when your not remotely bothered with them anymore. Keep your chin up x

[@katcuzzi]

Lucitta Shillingford Yeah I have a feeling he’ll come crawling back when I don’t even want him anymore, that’s the sad part. You’re right though, I’m just trying to make myself happy and not think about him too much, but thoughts pop up every day! I’m the prize and he’s an idiot, but I still love the idiot. :)

[@lucittashillingford1627]

Kat B I completely understand hun. You spent time with this person so those feelings just don't go, even if it seems his has but your doing great. And yeah they always crawl back unexpected. I had a ex return after 5 years 🙈

[@lucittashillingford1627]

Kat B and your right. You are a prize. His loss will be someone else's gain

[@upperiscopeUK]

Splendid! It’s high time I wrote some more frivolous verse and learned to draw caricatures. “Regression in the service of the ego”, a grand idea. “Heaven lies about us in our infancy” (Wordsworth); “the world starts lying about us pretty soon afterwards” (Ambrose Bierce).

[@angelasmith4456]

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[@angelasmith4456]

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[@angelasmith4456]

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[@cristinefairfield3161]

I listen to your videos at night to uplift my mood and give me hope.

[@joshcourtois9556]

I've tryed all of this. It's not helping me at all.

[@membering]

You guys are too cute! I go for walks at night and listen to your videos ❤

[@ruthgonzalez3767]

TM G agree

[@Mrs803]

I love listening to your Videos! I have a question Though.. at what point after the playful banter back and forth do you try to reconcile.. do you wait for them to ask to talk? Or eventually do you say something like hey would you like to get together sometime and catch up?? I would love to know what the right approach is for the next steps after...thanks so much!

[@Obsidiansarah]

thank you guys ♥ thank you for the amazing content

[@brandonrobertkersjes]

It just doesn’t make sense…we made each other happy…

[@27MiaBella]

Can you please cover a video on how to cope with Death of an ex? I had 2 ex,s tragically die on me the 1st one was my child's father and the 2nd one tragically passed away in a horrible car accident that crippled me for life. I was the passenger. I still remember trying to wake him up but he wasn't responding. I Spent a week in critical condition fighting for my life. I tried to get back into dating maybe way too soon as friends and family thought it might help me heal to give new love a chance. Met someone new and that too failed. Left me after almost a year for some young girl who is super air headed and easy for him to control and after a month they already signed a lease to a house together. He played me and cheated on her with me at the end of that situation. It's clear to me and many others looking at her pattern she has a reputation for not making any good decisions. He turned bout to be a lier and player and shes a 18 year old selfish homewrecker as she condones him to backslide into regressing from getting and doing better from his traumas and unhealthy crutches. When he was with me he was so much better and healing. By him choosing this girl 11 years younger then him also showed not just me but his family and good friends that he Doesn't want to heal or grow up and overcome his addictive codependency issues. He left out for an enabler for a unhealthy lifestyle. I made the mistake of blowing up on him yelling at him and cussing him out. Plus he threw it in my face how he hated that he Sense that the trauma and PTSD from both ex,s before him dying was still haunting me as he used that for his excuse out to jump ship. Even worse he owes me money and a very expensive and sentimental possecion of mine as well as left a lot of his belongings at my place and 2 months after he's not even reading my messages at all. I'm the one who really was hurt but he's acting bitter and indifferent towards me swearing he's so happy when I hear through the grapevine they fight and are having Some serious issues with in the 1st week he left me to move in with her. At that point they only knew escother 2 weeks they met at work. Sooo after one traumatic experience right after another I feel stuck in a rut. Working in physical therapy still trying to fix issues from injuries I sustained. I feel like the trauma from the accident could be what's holding me back. I feel like I'm grieving all of them now at the same time. It's hard letting go. Weather it was love, anger, failure, grudge, or changes all together. I feel like I'm deffinatly not the same person after 2 tragic death's and recovering from multiple broken bones. Also fighting for disability. I worry now it makes me undateble. I pretty much lost everything and don't know what to do now. Always missing when there where good times knowing we can't touch the same water twice and each loss seems like another hole in my heart in the shape of that person that can never be filled. But trying to meet new people build new friendships and make new memories is all I can do. Sorry for my long rant... But Coach Craig you are awesome and listening to you and Margaret is super helpful and comforting.

[@christinecarlos7316]

Notes: Be playful. Go out & play. Witty banter.

[@aronbechiom565]

Wow...that last bit about regressing. I'm doing that now. I have my plan...yet, this regression is like "one last hoorah" before leaving my old self. I quit drinking in 2009, yet the past few weeks, I've gone out ...indulged a bit, but not like the past....too much to risk. The leap is coming...very soon. Thanks.

[@Outsider_aa]

I can't help but love you both, maybe it's admiration and respect, who knows?

[@joshcourtois9556]

I can't believe it but this stuff works!

[@ellenbartlett7933]

I LOVE the content of this video!!!

[@DailyServers]

I thought about when I last did karaoke and I remembered being so drunk and I sang sat down and some old man said to me don’t you feel stupid? And I said “f no you only live once” and I just smiled to myself literally just felt so weird but nice....

[@mariaant7019]

Dear Craig and Margret! Thank you for all your work! Did you just say we should have sex with our ex? I am constantly worried about that. We had a long relationship and whenever we had a fight, when it was over, he would come to me to kiss me or hug me. I am afraid that if /when he decides to come back, it will not be in a verbal but in a physical way (as usual). And I don't know whether to have sex with him or not?!?

[@coccoonz1]

My ex who is not ready to get back or go back with anyone else, is now mad at me, because im dating... after 5 months now shes saying that now she have to stop talking to me because it hurts too much... its so confusing

[@bch5758]

Would love the chance to be playful., But I’m blocked and she won’t reply to emails.. 😫 and prior to break up, she slow faded me, quoting tiredness.. hard to be be playful alone

[@rwentfordable]

Did she reach out?

[@Innerstanding_mind]

Oh well, I am glad you both make me laugh while watching your videos, but at the same time, at least one tear runs down my face each time. I am getting better, but I miss her... a lot, I miss seeing that happy and loving smile, never felt so loved ever before.

[@lizalomocso993]

How to re attract my ex if he is in other country? Because We have LDR.

[@B1GK1NG]

Liza Lomocso Save yourself some money and find someone locally

[@kungfukenny1540]

Update

[@callumwalker8183]

Hi Craig, What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?

[@raysun8560]

Instead of trying to patch things up you should accept the break up, don't chase or pour your heart out with everything you done wrong etc work on yourself and what wasnt working for you while in no contact. Her moving on that quickly is most likely to fill the void instead of looking at herself. Just make sure boundaries are in place and don't let her back in the minute she reaches out. If you were to take her back she would need to show change in what you weren't happy with before getting back together

[@annadubi]

Please help me. My ex broke up with me 3 months ago, we lived together, so we had to meet and talk after the breakup, but the last time we talked was 1,5 months ago. It was my first relationship and we loved each other very much, but my insecurities always caused fights between us. He supported me and tried to fix the relationship but a week before we broke up we had a big fight, which I feel so guilty about ever since. I know it wasnt the full reason why we broke up, but it pushed him to break up with me. I wont explain the whole situation, but I know he doesnt want me back. I didnt do anything very wrong in the relationship, I was a very supportive, loving, caring girlfriend but I couldnt communicate properly. I tried to move on but the guilt wont let me move on. I just feel depressed, because he was the type of guy I always wanted and I ruined it all. I wanted to expain it all to him several times but I always stopped myself because I dont want to be the type of ex who cant accept its over. I really want to explain to him why I was behaving irrational during the last fight and I really want to apologize. I feel like it would help me move on, because my guilt is consuming me. I know it wouldnt change anything but I just cant let it go like this. Should I try to talk to him? I dont know if he has moved on yet, but 3 months is a long time so I guess he's doing a lot better than me. I've been trying to hold my apology back since months and I'm afraid that months later I will still feel this guilt. I feel like it would be easier to move on if I apologize, but I still want him back so maybe it would be worse. :( what should I do?

[@annadubi]

He will move out in august and he'll give me the money we payed for the apartment (I dont know the english world for that but the point is that he will reach out to me in august) Should I wait until he reaches out then, or should I reach out to him now, apologize and give him my card number so he wont have to talk to me again in august if he doesnt want to. I really dont know how to cope with this guilt for another month and waiting is just giving him more time to move on and I'm afraid he wont even remember what happened in the last fight and bringing it up will cause more drama. I'm so helpless :(

[@LittleMissMadLib]

If that's how you really feel then I would go ahead and apologize for everything you feel guilty for. I would suggest writing a letter or email for this purpose so he can read it over again. I would leave it as short, sweet, and to the point as you can. And leave it open-ended. Say something real simple along the lines of "if you ever need me, just give me a call and I'll answer." Then don't contact him any further unless it's strictly business or he reaches out. The timing is up to your discretion, when it feels right. You can go ahead and send the message on to him before he reaches out to you. Or you can hand deliver it to him when he gives you the money without saying anything other than it's a final word and apology letter from you, and send him off with good-wishes and don't contact him again until he reaches out to you. What you're looking for is closure, so I'm sure this will definitely help you to move on from your breakup. Hope this helps!

[@leviet7736]

If the only thing you want to do is move on, so just give him a call and say whatever you want. But seems like you just lying yourself on that part though :)

[@annadubi]

I dont think I will reach out, I was thinking about it, and I know that after the fight I wanted to explain him my point of view and wanted to apologize and he told me he doesnt want to talk about it. He used to bottle up all his negative feelings inside and we never really had a full on conversation about our issues. I really wanted to explain him my behaviour while we were together, but since he said he doesnt want to talk about it I didnt force it. He probably doesnt wanna hear it now either, and I dont want to cause any more drama or force things, even though I feel guilty and full of regrets. I guess the guilt will also pass with time :(

[@leviet7736]

Good choice lady. You have no guilt in this story. Relationship come from both partner. You ask for the right to talk, which is totally fine. But seem like he isnt a good communicator and isnt a mature man, that why break up must happens

[@jjzz541]

500th Vid and going strong! anxiety killer!

[@ClayMilesComedian]

Honestly this is your best video perfect

[@viharapeiris2922]

Coach craig would you explain in a video of what to do if exes comments on your social media while you implementing no contact?

[@MemoG-vz5hf]

vihara peiris just give him a chance bitch!

[@spacito8617]

What happened to your video "7 Steps to Reattract Your Ex"? Was one of my favorites.

[@deweycouto6922]

But she doesn't wanna see me,...been 4 months...lol..n there s another in the picture...

[@dukedunn]

Do you have a written list of these activities? I’d like to print it out

[@nargissokwallah4345]

thank u coaches...superb coaching..

[@miguelulloa1291]

Hey Craig, I have a quick question. So my ex and I have been broken up for a month now. I pay for our phone bills (it’s under her name). Should I only pay for mine from now on and should I let her know ? I feel like that would make me look petty

[@LittleMissMadLib]

Miguel Ulloa not Craig, but I would seriously consider getting your own phone plan if at all possible, not just paying your half of the bill. She should understand it perfectly. It shouldn't come off petty at all when you tell her about it. You're broken up now, regardless if you want her back or not. You need to establish that you need to lead your own separate lives. It makes sense to start living on separate plans! Of course don't be mean about it, be civil and assertive to her about what it means for you two to not be together anymore. This includes any other bills and responsibilities that you two may be sharing. Then after you get it all settled and done, when you have no other obligations to talk to her about. Go no contact. Hope this helps!

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

The walking backwards and rubber band snap thing would be pattern interrupts I believe they are called. Just like how when people go on vacation it breaks up their regular pattern and they become much more present with where they really are.

[@johnrey1203]

Coach Craig and coach Margarette i am doing no contact right now almost a month. Currently right now Im in Dubai. Can I go and have at least 2 weeks vacation overseas? Is it going to help me more?

[@Zi-mg6rv]

Are you still single?

[@Thetrucky69]

Excellent advice.

[@thelegionary07]

Coach... It's now officially 3 months since our email coaching, and you gave the assessment that she'll reach out in about 3-4 months... I've remained strong, and have stayed on NC since... I've also started dating in early June like you suggested, and have been hinting that I am on social media... I feel like I've succeeded in many ways, but I'll keep you posted if I have a success story in the form of an indirect/direct reach out from the ex!

[@hindy7570]

thelegionary07 any news??

[@thelegionary07]

@@hindy7570 8 months no contact now, and not even the slightest of signs. Still dating around though. Made a lot of progress in my personal life

[@hindy7570]

thelegionary07 is the want to re attract her still there? And also, did you have a problem looking at social media or trying to see what she was going

[@thelegionary07]

@@hindy7570 Sure, but 8 months later, there's nothing I can really do. She recently made IG private, which she's never done since I met her. Not sure what it means, but before that, there was no hints that she was dating anyone.

[@hindy7570]

thelegionary07 I feel you, I have no idea what to do for me. But I sure hope you find happiness and that the stress and anxiety has gone away

[@michiboo7694]

Am convince my ex has an avoidant personality or he is narcissistic. we broke up 2 times I did all the work he came back after 18 months, we had a good thing going and now he says he prefer to be on his own because i asked him to contibute to the household by buying back stuff. I apologised but that is not good enough for him. I am drained. Want him to collect his stuff and move on for good. This is toxic...

[@ivyclementine3070]

How's it going with ur ex now?

[@yeoitscori3618]

How can this apply to long distance (3years) breakup..... 3 months no contact

[@patsydawes7108]

Can someone as im new to this channel give me the names of criegs anxious attachment videos plz ive searched and found 3 of em..plz help

[@seanrooney170]

U ARE A HERO. I love your advice

[@NotoriousRKB]

How does no contact change if you work and see your ex every day at work? We do not need to speak to each other but we literally see each other every day (she sits diagonal of me so ALWAYS in my peripherals)

[@Ken-zn1kf]

Ryan Boyer i left my job bcuz of that.. I couldn’t handle it bcuz we were seeing each other daily.. what I can advise u is to stay strong,positive and patient till u get an opportunity to move from the place or even if u stay

[@iamxtimkongx2664]

How do you go along with no contact if you have a child with your ex

[@lilianaalonso6121]

Great video!!!

[@obiecomedian]

This is gold. Tha ks. Makes total sense. Me and me ex were at our best when we were having fun.

[@CrazyCandy5]

I was cheated on for 3 years on a 7 year relationship should I take him back or move on.

[@jasonhardie6961]

Jackie G definitely move on, no doubt about that. once a cheater, always a cheater.

[@jacquelinelopezzeledon9844]

Almost 10 months ago my ex broke up with me, I did all wrong after he broke up with me, after a few months we started being friends but he was already in a new relationship, “they met and got along” that’s what he said, they didn’t meet by change, he looked for her, I know, anyway we were talking as friends but after having a talk with him on the phone where he told me she’s moving in with him and how wonderful is everything between them we didn’t talk for 2 weeks but he texted me so I ignored him and he said: you’re not talking to me? I answered after 3 hours and I told him: you know what I feel for you so I think it’s better if we are not friends for now, I’m sorry. We haven’t talked for 2 weeks, did I do the right thing? Well he’s in a new relationship and here I am trying to get him back, it doesn’t make any sense, I think it’s better to let him go and end any kind of relationship with him, a friendship would have been fake and hurtful for me, he’s posting pics with her on fb, 😢

[@leviet7736]

Why you want to be friend with him ? Ditch his ass and move on, woman !

[@leviet7736]

Anyway, being in friendship sure make you a friend, not a lover.

[@aprilmendez9724]

Know your value girl! I’m sure you are a beautiful, strong and intelligent woman. Don’t hold onto someone who isn’t willing to commit to you. Put all that energy into yourself and build a life that you are proud of. The best revenge is a life well lived ❤️

[@jacquelinelopezzeledon9844]

April Mendez thank you for your words, you are absolutely right

[@manishekkumar5177]

I m sorry , but I guess he was a real manipulator ...... The real nature of two people comes out when there is a breakup ......

[@abtinarts]

I said goodbye then unfollowed her...since then nothing happend...wtf !

[@billhawco8407]

God bless both of you ..for helping us

[@HAPPYPANDA53]

So then, why so serious? Lighten up a little. Makes perfect sense.

[@zsoltdr.zimanyi4004]

Dear Craig, Can you please let me know how to reconcile with a borderline woman? She broke up for the 5th time because of the behavious of my ex-wife (they fought using my FB, emails, texts etc) and she had enough. Although the reason is as stated above, the manner she behaves is crazy, because I always stood by her and two kids, lived with then, so the abandonment issues are not true. She split me black in 2 minutes, when she heard me speaking to my ex-wife on the phone. Happened after we had a fabolous 10 days in the far east. She is not diagnosed, but she has all the traits, I pais no attention to the red flags in the beginning ( spending, saying she was territorial, engulfing me in love very quickly). I am a nice guy type and gave in a lot effort tomake our relationship work. She is very high sometimes, then very low nad did not get on well with my son (saying she is jealous of him and sees my ex-wife in him). That was the only point I did not budge, so I kept my house for us - so the two us can spend there time away). She broke up with me 3 times in a two eek span of time on 10 pages of text very angry and anxious.First I tried to defend myself, as I had not been aware of her illness, but then went no contact seeing that my reasoning found deaf ears.This happened in the beginning of March. In April she initiated the indirect approach, but did not say sorry so I just answered politely (she said she need information on her car's highway sticker and told me to meet up). However since then I met her twice accidentally and I feel depressed. I am in therapytaking anti-depressants, because I cannot fathom how she could be so cold and forget our pleasant memories, travels. I am told that the relationship could be mended if I went made up to her, but it would only start a new narcissitic cycle. I miss her very much, no closure, just before of the above mentioned phone call we were in deeply love. Everything went down on the drain in 5 five minutes!!! Is there any hope for reconciliation? I watched your videos and I am keeping no contact, even when we metwe just said "hi". But is breaks me to see the hatred in her eyes, when I know I had done nothing wrong. Thanks

[@meeraraj0]

Zsolt dr. Zimányi im sorry. Why do good people suffer. My relationship was good and fell apart in 5 minutes too. I found out by mistake he talked to his ex, asking her to meet. I did not get angry. I asked him why does he want to be with her. He became angry nasty and broke up with me. It was Dec. Its now 6 months hes still mad angry with me. I did make mistakes in the relationship but it was because i used to be upset when he disrespected me and call me names for no reason. Hes a bit narcissistic

[@meeraraj0]

You can't get her back like this. Look at why u need her back after the way she has behaved with you. Ur attachment style. Her feelings about your son, a child, is unacceptable. She must grow. Leave her alone. Point out to her in a mature way her behaviors that were unreasonable and how it ruined ur relationship. Then leave her to think abt it . However long it takes. Its hard being borderline. She's scared of abandonement but she sounds narcisttic too. Because she won't apologise.

[@lossennedlorwen]

Zsolt dr. Zimányi As someone with BPD who caused the breakup, I can tell you the abandonment fears are *very* real in her mind. They were in mine, and they became a self-fulfilling prophecy. I freaked out on my ex and ruined the relationship in only a few hours, and earlier that day, we were happy and in love. Of course, everyone is different, but if she doesn't get help, like DBT therapy, the next best thing would be to educate yourself about BPD and the various ways it can form (there's research done since at least 2011 that suggests it, too, may have a biological aspect to it, like other mental illnesses). For example, not *everyone* with BPD has an abuse history, but many people do. There's also books written as first hand accounts of what it's like to have BPD, which can give you more insight into what it's like in your ex's mind. Learning leads to understanding leads to empathy, and that may help you (& her) in the long run.

[@meeraraj0]

lossennedlorwen so true. I only discovered some traits in my ex and myself after my breakup. We were happy he was in love then one anxious episode ftom me. Not sure what came over me. Anxiety. Abandonement. He saw it as contol. I went into deep meditation this week and saw the patterns of pain n separation in my life. Abandonement and death is the ultimate abandonement my dad died. So when i dont hear from someone i think they gone. I am working very very very hard. I want to be well.

[@zsoltdr.zimanyi4004]

Vim Raj I do feel your pain too. Thanks for your support, although deep down I am trying to let her go. Just cannot acceot that all our beautiful memories, her two kids sister and brother to my son are gine in a whim of a second.

[@drguthrie7621]

Kinda off topic from this video but is is absolutely necessary for the ex to reach out first, I get a lot of mixed advice on this saying it doesn't matter who reaches our first, you have to reach out first, or they have to reach out first. I know you are in the camp of waiting in radio silence till they reach out but I would like to know more in depth on why you believe that, I don't doubt you the advice you have given so far has been a huge help but sometimes I feel NC is pushing my ex more away from me than leading her back. Thank You!

[@LittleMissMadLib]

Dr Guthrie in coach Craig's words himself: When someone breaks up with you they are also telling you that they need space. So going no contact is in turn you respecting their wishes and having them see that you respect them enough to not cling to them, and force them to stay with you. This is to also allow time for the both of you to cool off and ponder about your relationship. About whether you two were a good match or not and thinking about if you would/should get back together based on that. It also allows the ex to experience separation anxiety from not seeing or hearing from you at all anymore. That anxiety is the #1 driving force that convinces them that if they doddle around any longer they'll lose you forever. And so they finally contact you because of it. The no contact rule isn't about getting your ex back, however. It's to help you move on and better yourself. Consequently, this doubles as also being the best strategy to use in "winning" your ex back, more than any other strategy. Which is why so many people misinterpret the no contact rule as just a way of getting your ex back instead of (also) bettering yourself and getting over a breakup. Trust me, my ex broke up with me 8 months ago and has never said another word to me since then. And I went very strict no contact since the day of the breakup. So I've never said anything to him since then, either. And sometimes I feel the exact same way as you. Thinking that no contact is driving my ex away rather than bringing him back to me. However, I see hints here and there that he still misses me and tries to keep tabs on what I'm doing. It's subtle, but it's there. And being a detail-oriented person I hardly miss a thing. Asking a good friend of mine about me, watching my Instagram stories often, etc. But, if he were to come back I have definitely set my standards higher, as I have done a lot of pondering on the relationship and working on myself. So whether or not we get back together by then depends on whether my ex will be able to meet those standards. If he cannot, too bad for him. I can't date much less marry someone who doesn't meet my standards. His behavior doesn't guarantee that my ex will come back. But, it is also not guaranteed that he won't come back, either. So it's a wildcard at the least. I'm certain your ex would be at the very least interested in how your life is going. And they have either just been real sneaky around you, or you have been too distracted by other things to notice the signs. No contact takes a lot of discipline. Even from someone as stubborn as I am who's set in my ways for the most part. It's hard not to reach out and try to get a dialogue, but resist all temptations. I also don't suggest you put your life on hold waiting for someone to come back. Keep up the no contact, and live your life as you see fit. You'll eventually see good results. Either you'll get your ex back and you'll resolve your issues and become a happy couple, or you'll realize you don't need them in your life to be happy, and move on to someone else who's worthy of your love. So to answer your question: Yes, it is absolutely necessary for your ex to reach out first. Especially if they were the one that broke up with you. My personal thoughts on it: If they break up with you, it's their job to initiate the reconciliation between the two of you. If it was you who broke up with them, it's your job, then. If it's mutual, assume the first situation unless you feel it's absolutely necessary to reach out first in order to get back together. I hope this helps a little! ❤

[@drguthrie7621]

Little Miss Libby Thank you so much for taking the time to type this all out and include your own situation I can't express how much it means to me. I'm in a situation where my ex kinda gave me an opening to start contacting them further down the line of no contact by asking me to tell her what I thought about this one movie when I finally watch it but now I think she did that on purpose to try and make herself less anxious over the silence by offering me a door back into her life but as a friend and I was getting two different sides of advice saying to do it or don't do it. You have convinced me to avoid this trap that I'm sure I would have regretted if I took it, thank you. I also realize how little I need to worry I have been improving myself so much day by day and currently my ex is in a rebound (she jumped into it a week after the breakup with a sleazy guy who is the complete anti-me) and I think that says more to do with how much she misses by trying to fill the void she created by dumping me instead of whether or not she is over me. If I took that door however I think it probably would have relieved her seperation anxiety causing the rebound to last even longer and it would make me feel horrible for being rejected again but if I don't take it I can focus on myself more and she will start wondering why I didn't take that door and it would probably cause her anxiety to increase exponentially. I'm rambling now but for real thank you a ton.

[@LittleMissMadLib]

Dr Guthrie You're welcome I'm glad I could help! Sounds like our exes could be twins! Mine jumped into an on/off rebound (still going) 2 weeks after the fact with someone of similar standing to your ex's rebound, who's nothing like me (and the fact our relationship was never on/off). I also thought the same of that situation. I can't really help but pity them at this point. Good luck!!! 💕

[@elleroberts765]

@@LittleMissMadLib , I am sorry, but SOMEONE has to reach out after NC. How do you know they are WAITING ON YOU to contact? Maybe they think you don't want them to contact you!

[@hunterkubat4805]

My girl broke up with me about a month ago because of pent up anxiety and disconnection (we were both really stressed with work and school these last months. I've gone 5 days without communicating now, and she has been watching all of my Instagram stories. Eh?

[@LittleMissMadLib]

Hunter Kubat I've been very curious about this kind of behavior in exes myself. As from my observations this seems to happen often in breakups, including one of my own. I'd like to see the coaches views on this matter and what they think may be going on in their heads.

[@hunterkubat4805]

It really gets you in a 'flex' mode haha. Just trying to make your feed as crazy and ridiculous as possible

[@arifomer6669]

Hi Coach from Turkey, can you please make a video about; our ex doesn't have same pain like us after the first period of break up. But then she realize the pain. I heard these sentences from your video and it's really important.

[@arifomer6669]

Petros Giorgallis yes and it is really important. Everyday I am asking this question to myself. Why she doesn't feel pain like me. If she feel the pain like me, she tries to reach out to me.

[@kelleyoneal2578]

Kind of hard to reattract him if he blocked me on social media (FB). ☹️

[@erikfountaine5427]

My ex didn’t think twice - she’s never coming back. How do I get over this?

[@JillyScope]

Awe!!! This is my best video!!!

[@silvermont331]

I’m a Leo mature woman 😆 looking for a nice 👍 romantic, respectful and dependable gentlemen. Yes I’m very playful kind nature and also lovable! Bye Capricorn in mature guy.. something better awaits for this Beautiful gal👍😄😄you guys are great therapists!

[@icyivy2424]

Leo and Capricorn do not go well together! Go with a fellow fire signs.

[@blam9346]

@@icyivy2424 this. This and this

[@TheMuralv7777]

Love it !

[@chelseewilliams5988]

Love you both. Loveeee Margret

[@kiplove9164]

Love you both ❤️❤️

[@tonidenicola9222]

You guys lighten me up. I laugh all days 😃

[@chairbean6418]

This is funny, yet helpful.

[@ingridaccount]

I love Margaret! She is such a sweet lady!❤️❤️❤️

[@angelasmith4456]

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[@angelasmith4456]

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[@justgo5529]

I loooove this video

[@Ozama1221]

Sooo how can i indirectly do this while still in no contact?

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Obviously you can’t. This has nothing to do with no contact. Guys not every video has to do with with where you are at in your situation! Everyone is in different places. This is exactly why I say every situation is different

[@1990lathan]

LOOKING FOR RECOMMENDATIONS! Can anyone suggest some Craig Kenneth videos about an ex reaching out when they feel lonely? Info: 6 year relationship. She reaches out after 7 months no contact. Soon heard that ALL her friends had gone overseas on a holiday together and she was left out. Obviously she reached out because she felt lonely. I'm looking through Craig's material to help make the decision whether or not to reply, and IF I do how I should approach the situation CHEERS GUY

[@juliefrecker3811]

I've been playing Sorry every weekend at my sister's. Lol Before seeing this video. Wish I was in Florida!

[@LiLgPnoy15]

How the hell can I be playful when my ass is in no contact = T

[@timsullivan250]

I'll pray to st Jude patron of hopeless cases

[@Whopperwarr]

Walking around the neighbourhood at night Your exes neighbourhood

[@georginagozum4351]

what if your 'playfulness' puts you in the "friend zone" by your ex? :(

[@georginagozum4351]

p.s. my other aside, is that although we have become close again, even playful, the erotic side and quality of our relationship has diminished and I wish it would return to 'normal': to the way it was before!

[@shodowhawk]

If you're playful and mature they'll come back when all their other options run out. Unfortunately thats how exs are. If you were their first choice they wouldn't have left.

[@sohilfayzan8948]

VERY TRUE WATCHING AT NIGHT!!!

[@but7845]

Sounds like inner child work

[@christirb1]

Yeah chocolate milk and kahlua 😈

[@B1GK1NG]

christirb1 that sounds great 👍🏻

[@marquita3058]

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Never play with a dog with a laser. And no band snapping on the Wrist.. ouch. Otherwise love your content and applaud your presentation!

[@denisejaydub]

Marquita Forte ????

[@legendaryboss54]

That explains why I suddenly had an urge to play with my toys

[@ClayMilesComedian]

Also I’m a comedian 17 years

[@biancamontgomery1187]

You two are darling :)

[@angelasmith4456]

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[@angelasmith4456]

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[@angelasmith4456]

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[@cmajor8084]

My ex girlfriend and I loved playing Trouble... 😔

[@juliefrecker3811]

I love the game Sorry!

[@lebe6863]

Playful.sex?. night off watch a movie ..back to things that gave you energy as a kid. Finger painting. Video games ..bath soak