WHY YOUR LIFE IS SO BORING... (Fix This To Find Fulfillment) | Tom Bilyeu

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On Today's Episode:
Living the good life, is pretty much at the top of everyone’s list. The problem is that nearly everyone is making decisions and acting in ways that don’t lead to their version of a good life they wish they had. To call it self-sabotage seems like an understatement.
In this round of talks with Tom, we have Will, Noelle, and George digging deeper with questions about what it takes to create a good life you’re excited for every day.
After building a billion dollar unicorn company, and investing years of transparency to bring value to people, like yourself, at scale, Tom Bilyeu is very clear and direct on exactly what it takes for you to succeed at whatever level you want to aim for.
Key ideas from this episode you don’t want to miss:
Top 5 behaviors and mental traps that lead to miserable life
How to let go of beliefs holding you back
The trade offs of being a Jack of all trades or the master of one
How to use distraction as a tool of productivity
Why your life is a reflection of your choices not your circumstances
Hearing some of these things can sting, but when you prioritize the good life over what makes you feel good right now, you take the sting and get focused on what you want, how you’ll get there, and getting relentlessly obsessed with taking massive actions everyday until you get ther.
QUOTES:
“Recognize that you are a deeply flawed individual that is holding yourself back, that your life is a reflection entirely of your choices and not your circumstances, and if you’re not happy with that that means you’re doing something wrong.”
“I remind myself in business all the time, my current skill set has already taken me as far as it’s going to take me, and so if I want to go farther I have to get better. But if you don’t believe that you can get better, then you won’t put in the energy and effort into getting better.”
“If you don’t have a massive amount of resilience you are really in trouble.”
“The act of going ham is so intoxicating, it’s so fun, that it is the juice.”
“People underestimate the complexity of a habit.”
“You need a maniacal focus, you need to be lasered in on one thing and you do it to the abstraction of everything else and you do it obsessively to the point where everything else in your life ideally is falling apart…”
“Ultimately my advice to people is to chase fulfillment.”
“That is what self awareness is, you can finally see yourself the way other people see you.”
“Rules, values, and desire are wildly underutilized.”
“Obsession will hurt and it will be unhealthy unless you realize that you can get better…”
“Love trumps everything I’ve been through in my life.”
“My marriage is great because we work on it every single day.”
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[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@a1pwn]

They should make something of themselves and their lives instead. They should watch your videos the most.

[@QuestionThings]

Mr. Bilyeu, psilocybin. That's easy. It's legal in DC. I've got you. Hit me ⬆️ 🙂🤙🏼

[@nogoogle6349]

Do you promise?

[@helencarpenter1899]

You want a kid, I just can't believe youre done thinking this one through. Did you know that the estradiol that men produce is converted to estrogen in the brain? Maybe you are sitting on a decision without taking action my friend. Yes you and your wife will fight at times if you're like the rest of us. So interview people about who stays happy and do those things. Wouldn't it be amazing to impact parents with your efforts? Why are you denying yourself something you say is the entire point of life? Can you design a Disney without a child muse? Do you realize how many insights youll gain? It sounds like you're also worried about the internal conflicts parents face, but it looks like you're already rehearsing internal conflict now.

[@ER-pc3dx]

Beautifully written. I agree with you. I feel bad for him and his wife. Children are a true blessing. His wife will resent him later.

[@CryptoKing347]

The replay value of this is so high and I’m only 40 mins in! Thanks Tom 💪

[@mcee555]

This new conversation format is AMAZING!!!!!

[@AuditionVideosCanada]

Tom, you articulate important life concepts SO well. THANK YOU for this.

[@rhea8263]

Tom, you truly named your company with perfection... you impact with energy..heart felt honesty.. knowledge.. commitment. I always enjoy your guests.. but YOU really put on fabulous talks with great information that has changed my way of thinking and going forward with life and choices... there are some talks you have shared that I would love a printed manuscript ... is that possible? Thank you for sharing and impacting me!!

[@mrignaynipandey8925]

OMG. I so love this format of videos you're doing (with your team asking you questions- they are reallyyyy good)

[@sergekamga4512]

Tom has great guests but he’s truly amazing himself

[@Lennoxx]

Words can’t describe how I felt about this interview. Tom you’ve confirmed to me what I suspected to be true. The human spirit is amazing, I hope that one day we cross paths and I get the chance to tell you my story. Thank you my teacher🙏

[@milaA108]

Perfectly said! You have become such an inspiration. Thank you.

[@danielscott1409]

Tom, from an outside perspective, you are getting better and better. I've been watching for about a year and your earlier videos were interesting but now the videos really resonate, like you're talking directly to me. Thank you and keep it up!

[@TheREALHugo4]

THIS is what i will always avoid to do, "wasting my life" on useless stuff. The reason i've been starting on self-improvement is to slowly going back on track. I've been doing it for 3 years and it's still going strong.

[@izz5946]

What do you consider back on track?? Just curious??

[@TheREALHugo4]

@@izz5946 Getting rid of what we call, the FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).

[@robertreid568]

Thanks Tom. That was a truly excellent presentation!

[@ishficici999]

👏KUDOS👏 to your team👏!! You are a VERY fast speaker. The words that were written on the screen (one word at a time v.s. an entire sentence) was BRILLIANT!! Allowed to keep at your pace. Just wanted to express my appreciation! Those little touches really elevates the experience!! 💗

[@GemmaAdventures]

Wow, there was so much good juice concentrate in here, I had to pause to let it sink in/digest it multiple times. From fulfilment, resilient states to microbiome, this is a great conversation. I enjoyed the questions asked, and thank you Tom for sharing insights and personal experiences in such a comprehensive way. The step-by-step foundation to passion, was super helpful! Thank you all 😊 Have a great week!

[@zeno1322]

Legendary inspiration, thanks for sharing and helping us go higher 🙏

[@timwirshing9923]

This man speaks to my soul in a way a few people have. Thank you for this video.

[@matt79de]

This is one eye-opening interview... Holy cow... Thanks Tom...

[@erikhall7110]

Thanks Tom & Impact team - Always appreciate the process-driven solutions. Tom truly excels at clarifying the challenges we all face; he provides solutions which are easy to understand and apply. 👍

[@nehalinga]

This is elixir of mental training! So grateful to you for making this!!😮

[@ayaazarm3478]

Thank you Tom for all you do

[@HigoWapsico]

This was brilliant! Thank you

[@tijanizulaihat7206]

This is the first time, I am hearing Tom Bilyue saying 'I can't' when referring to something he wants.. That's quite contractory to what you've preached in the past. For someone who goes through life with a hardcore mindset.. It would be super exciting and a huge learning phase if you ever decide to have the impossible; "Having children and a smashing career".. I think that the Tom, who is exposed to a new fountain of knowledge would be super inspiring... But just as you have dealth with all the downsides of not having children, i believe we will all deal with not having tom inspire us in that way... Stay blessed sire!!

[@whoisdark__]

hey tom! you talked about how the channel could be bigger if you only interviewed one type of person or sector for the entirety of the youtube channel, but IMO, the fact that you touch on so many different areas of life/business/mindset is why i keep coming back. i love that i can learn about investing in one episode then pop over to relationship theory and hear your wonderful stories about you and lisa. or hear about motivational strategies and mindset for building brands in a different episode. even though the topics and people change, you are the centerpiece of the channel and its wonderful! i’ve noticed a growing trend of businesses and creators doing more than just one thing in their line of work and i honestly love it.

[@ajaxcomment9185]

Thank you for your passion. For the record, you have done more for me than Walt Disney.

[@CornflowerBlues5]

Best interview ever. Re-watch worthy.

[@barbinman4018]

OMG!!! Thank you for validating my own interest in literally EVERYTHING and complete lack of desire to be the GOAT!

[@xrpjon_998]

Great content, questions and answers!

[@maximilliansdesign]

What a great inside about life and relationship 👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@shaynalee]

I feel the exact same way about kids as you and Lisa, Tom ❤

[@oanahoza6759]

Brilliant!

[@riddlerhymes512]

Another great video that combines science with magic. Tom is a real-world Jedi Master. I just finished Tony Robbins Unshakable 5 Day Challenge. It was very good, but honestly, I find that Tom has now surpassed even Robbins as a mechanic of the mind. Legendary!

[@miguelducasse]

Damn chief you just kill it!!!! Love your wisdom

[@tinamccombs5239]

"More so, the mark of true achievement and truth is to change the life of the common man who will never know who you are." ~ George Yu, MD Tom you are changing the common man. Thank you for sharing truths, knowledge and empowerment.

[@awetyeman5315]

Tom you are becoming unbelievably great.a lot of useful information.watched this interview for the 3red time.and will watch it again till it sink in.Thank you and your team.this is paradigm shifting experience.

[@rickyrozay6112]

this is one of the best insights from Tom Bilyeu. Its the best information out there of really understanding everything he teaches. If you understand what Tom is actually saying here, you would never need to watch another Tom Video again.

[@CresceMusicOfficial]

So interesting. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, there is a lot to learn from this video. Appreciate it forever

[@sergekamga4512]

Tom bilieu is a fucking genius. He figured a lot of shit about success out.

[@JFKTLA]

Facts💯

[@charlesmcdowell9436]

Tom Bilyeu is like my ultimate blue pill role model. His relationship with his wife is so awesome. ❤ I hope they go the distance.

[@MegaSumit]

Super super super insightfull Tom thanks for doing this series

[@margoquintana2283]

I'm always surprised by how insightful you are, Tom. And, how well you explain rather complex concepts without putting us to sleep.

[@Gameboob]

1:11, this point about reflexively and without awareness only chasing what makes you feel good really hits home. Been coming to terms with this lately. Eh, not wanting to go to the gym because I gotta lift weak weights. 5:21, Resilience is key to this point above. You have to be able to shake it off when life shows you just how much you currently suck. Constantly. 10:50, question, how do you unlearn the beliefs that are holding you back? Tom's answer, referencing the neuroscience, is eye opening. 21:30, Buddhist monks know that desire leads to suffering. Tom disagrees with their conclusions about it. He chooses desire. The Buddhist path isn't for him. It doesn't energize him. -> also see 27:58 41:25, How Tom handles distraction

[@TheDionysianFields]

The Buddhist thing is where Tom And I align. The ways we each respond to it are so different. Desire is indeed the answer, but I think Tom lets will have too much sway.

[@Icelander00]

Thanks

[@azhaanebrahim4887]

Adapt or die relentless go all out believing that you can change the world will been to your will power as Eminem says I got the strong will the last couple of minutes was the best part of the interview let's go stay relentless keep up the amazing work🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ajaxcomment9185]

Real challenges to you and your relationship happen while raising children. Face that challenge head on. You're litterally blading your body to that challenge. You will be amazing!

[@kevincounselling]

Fantastic

[@geovannigill2639]

I truly appreciate you it’d be a dream to thank you in person

[@VlogHausOfficial]

It was really satisfying clicking that thumbs up from 999 to 1K

[@NewbyBushcraft]

I can not resist to that title so I came. Watching this kind of video

[@masonltompkins]

never heard about the basal ganglia before. that's an interesting bit at 44:45 !

[@geovannigill2639]

Love you

[@bboice08]

So Tom I think it starts with a conversation with yourself and others.

[@ab2065]

Freaking fascinating. Got a. PhD in chemistry and now doing software programming: i'm far for being stupid. Nonetheless you would gain to speak little slower. Totally Love your channel. Keep It up 😃

[@MichaelRWright]

Some people aren't open enough or resilient enough to get better.

[@gurudra]

We were supposed to be happy naturally but the problem is we try too hard being unhappy🙏

[@SamuelAlder]

hah, nice one

[@RustiAndWritingResources]

Sounds like my son.

[@sxuttv]

I would have had my shoes off on a plush carpet like that! Looks comfy. 🙂

[@renatam1234]

But also when we are older we are more mature to know exactly what we want and go for it

[@autodidatasacademy]

31:00 I think The name is Metacognition. Its hás more then 40yrs of existence.

[@Rise_Hardstyle]

What is love and how does it feel like if you tried to express the feeling?

[@RustiAndWritingResources]

Every time I dip into your talks and viewpoints, I’m rewarded for my investment of time. I dream and goalset to be a guest on your show with my book.

[@ceceliamanalim715]

Eat always a whole foods and natural not the man-made foods so that there’s no bad chemicals on it, and we will be naturally happy and long live the King as you will achieve a lot of good things.

[@madie120]

Best speach on purpose ever!!! third section

[@SA-cb2it]

That is so diabolical and narcissistic to say if I am going to mess with someone I will make sure they don't sleep, they don't exercise, they don't digest..... Basically mess up the body, how devoid of empathy that is!! You do realize this is done through emotional abuse, and millions of people get sick because of some family member doing this to them! Can't express how disgusted I am by hearing this because I myself have been subjected to this by my own dad, very well knowing this is what this is directed at, so I can't flourish! Can't imagine anyone doing this because it is literally an alternative to killing someone without any weapon, I don't wish that on my greatest enemy. Just because you are disregulated you think the other person who is triggering you deserves to die?!

[@sjatkins]

I don't care if I am the best horse. I care if I live fully and make the most positive difference I can. How can I do better or with more heart, or more centered or delivering more value is good. Being the best feels like too much of an ego trip and being too busy looking it the freaking rear view mirror for all good I look. Waste of energy generally.

[@dizneydoby1438]

Truth

[@roushanrai7198]

To win race of car or life you have to change the gears fastly.

[@PinkHypatia]

I really appreciate Tom’s honesty about the inevitable regret he’ll feel for not having children. For him, it’s a conscious sacrifice of something he wants, for what he wants more now.

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

i have a feeling he is going to regret not having children more in the future than doing what he is doing now. i think wanting children of your own is something innate to all humans, and not having that would definitely affect you later on.

[@diniljayadas3547]

@@Dave_of_Mordor like I really wanna how it's going to affect in later life? Because after a certain age kids become adults and they got their own life to lead, and by then the parents are old and lonely too in a way

[@drip369]

16:00 you must not know the quote regarding being a jack-of-all-trades, because you made it sound negative although it is a compliment. A jack-of-all-trades is a master of none but oftentimes is better than a master of one. Makes you more useful to the community. It is a compliment.

[@brianjara3322]

Where can I start testing or learning AI. What tools or apps can I use?

[@ms863]

Keep going. Unless you don't want to

[@bboice08]

Tom, lets talk about religion and being born again and what self esteem really is?

[@innerpull]

0:00 Per new research studies, not exactly true as once believed.

[@worldexplorer0987]

Dear Tom, thank you for brightening my day, lifting my spirit up and saving my life every damn day 😅 with every single precious videos of yours. Forever grateful for having found you 🙏🏼

[@astreakaito5625]

I was working to become an artist and did fantastic progress, but then AI art happened, and now it feels like I did all this for nothing. I have trouble seeing how exactly would I be wrong in genuinely believing that it's not my fault and it's someone else/the world that's against me.

[@KeysLockhart]

Dont worry, ai art needs our creativity. Ai art can only replicate, not create. Stay strong, make something unique, coin it as your own. We WILL prosper, ai art is not the future. WE are!

[@BK26Q]

I think of AI as the difference between fast food or a meal from a trained chef. What meal do you think that people will enjoy, appreciate and pay more for?

[@indiegogogirl2662]

A lot of us are feeling this way

[@stu691]

“a jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one.

[@mad-hatted]

Dude, did you make these last two videos about me? ☠️ Way to unravel the beautiful and over-intellectualized web I appear to have spun for myself… Thank you. You broke it down & reframed it in a way that doesn’t look like an overbearing task. It’s time to move, soldiers.

[@ricomcclinton2982]

Great job, one thing though. You have tiny you. Things you want to do change automatically. If that happens would love to see you speak on that podcast 🤣🤣

[@pambalakhan6020]

You’re such an influencer of Potential wannabes. Luv all your podcasts❗️

[@benchawes965]

I L O V E this episode!! (and thats your echo Tom 😊). But seriously this one is SO good.

[@erickimm5150]

William Randolph Hurst, correct?

[@ELO_BOTT]

Idk bro ! I think your better then Walt Disney I have been so much more from a handful of your videos and 1000 movies from Disney

[@ELO_BOTT]

I have learned *

[@positivity20]

At 28th to 29th minute the two types he explains like monk vs building..is similar to jnana yoga vs karma yoga...in bhagavat geeta

[@positivity20]

He is a wise man..he has put his heart in interviewing monks and gurus that he has learnt so much..

[@positivity20]

He should be awarded a doctorate in psychology 😄

[@sjatkins]

Well, I disagree with some of your "when you get older" remarks. Redesigning myself at 68. Yes, some things are harder. But I also no many things with a lot more clarity than when I was younger. If you are still alive then "better" is still possible.

[@BREAKHTROUGH]

nice video BUT give your guest same sofa like you !!! or is it the KING issue ?

[@napalmus777]

amazing content for laymen

[@2strokeorchoke496]

Marker 48:00 estrogen- not fixing problems right away. Fuck that’s good 1:18

[@jocke-808]

Had to stop the video when i heard it took Lisa 5 years to get her microbiome to baseline. Just have to say amazing fucking work. Is there a video were she goes in depth with that? Thank you for sharing ur knowledge and stories!

[@MicahBratt]

With all that’s happening with AI and all I kind of wonder what happens when everyone can do the same thing. There wouldn't be a hierarchy of accomplishment as much. I wonder how much of what we do we only do because of desire to be liked and how will AI effect that.

[@monikapatel5875]

Time is always getting wasted because the true use of time would be to get infinite time.

[@drip369]

25:08 the man who enjoys walking will always walk further than a man with a destination

[@johnali2354]

I'm new to stock market /Crypto and would like to invest but I've go no idea on how to make good profits. Pls what's the best approach you'd recommend?

[@pamnicholas5421]

Watch out for bit coin!!!

[@benhartart9487]

What some people think is wasting life others think is living, I would let people live exactly the way they wish as long as it doesn’t directly effect my organism

[@margoquintana2283]

Unfortunately, when you have grown 40 y/o offspring who stay in that loop . . . they live in your home and pay nothing. They live off your dole long after you've retired from working 40 years. . . one day you awaken and realize your various suggestions, advice and ideas have not helped. You or the government support them, and/or they live in a van down by the river with lots of others with their mentality.

[@SimilarFrequencies]

💚

[@renatam1234]

Maybe we can be older and still learn a new skill maybe it is cliche to say we stop learning as we get older

[@Mail4Lisa]

What is the book again? I didn't catch it...

[@vaquera9368]

Feeling Great by David D Burns.

[@tedcleveland8488]

Now that’s one real confident man…makes me wonder how people worshipping that guy who currently locked up in Romania

[@roustabout4fun]

Don't accept. Improve~

[@dinosemr8141]

💖🙏💖

[@SteffiHarvey]

This too shall pass is from Corinthians in the Bible. :)

[@endtimesarenear1089]

Why is life so complicated ugh 😑

[@achus1103]

If feel like it's not life that's complicated rather we ourselves

[@rickelpers1820]

Hmmm … sounds like I’d better get my act together, unless of course being miserable is a goal.