WIBTA if I moved out of state without telling my family or my husband I am pregnant?

[@khushalbhati4186]

Uncle jerry the real man

[@F4AltplusF4]

WTF with the husband? Cheating then getting argumentative then calling wife names. After that righteously asking for forgiveness? If this is his creed then he is unfit to be a father or father figure to any child. So NTA.

[@Isez_Simon]

How does this effect the ability to be a bad father? If you think that this is fair you are out of your mind Like yeah he is fvcked up for cheating but taking his Child away is far more fvcked up then what he did And im not trying to say that he is innocent (he is a piece of shlt for cheating) but thats just fucked up

[@F4AltplusF4]

@Isez_Simon I get your point, if he had only cheated nothing more nothing less. But he didn't stop at that. OP's husband's moral compass is totally broken. Adults take accountability if they throw tantrums then they are not adults. His behaviour is horrible. Every action he took in the aftermath was atrocious. Honestly please, ask yourself. Do you want your children to have a role model like that of the husband? Can you accept him as the godfather of your children? Will you leave your children under his care if something happens to you and your SO while having other options?

[@Isez_Simon]

@ well i don’t like how he handle everthing but that is not enough for her to take his baby away That’s the first thing second thing is what if he finds out that he is gonna be a father, do you really think he is not gonna change for the baby? Yeah it’s possible that he takes this as a chance to say to her „look we habe a baby, now we can be a Family“ And he never was a threat to her or to anyone, yeah he called her names but do you think she did not?

[@blackfire6009]

If a guy took his baby away from his wife for the same reason you wouldn't have the same opinion. You guys are absolutely insane

[@Isez_Simon]

@@blackfire6009 nah bro i would have the same opinion just bc you think i hate women doesn‘t mean i actually do? If she cheated and called him names and then begged for forgiveness and he would take the child away is just as bad as this story

[@FrostLordOni]

Yes, YTA. The guys’s a horrible boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean you can keep his kid from him. Unless he’s abusive you do not have the right to hide a child from their father

[@mal7040]

He's clearly incapable of fatherhood if he's this irresponsible and selfish, and it's her child as well. And at the end of the day, neither you nor anyone has any say in her decisions. That's for her and her husband if she decides to involve him

[@FrostLordOni]

@ He’s a bad boyfriend, that has nothing to do with being a good/bad father. And it’s *half* her child, the other half of that babies DNA belongs to the father. If she chooses to hide a child from their father then all shes done is proven she’s unfit to be a parent

[@mal7040]

@@FrostLordOni His behavior stems from lies, betrayal and deceit, if he's capable of that what else do you think he's capable of, and btw they're husband and wife. Not to mention the family other than aunty and uncle have turned their backs on her, if protecting herself and her child makes her an asshole, then she has every right to be. Doesn't matter what your opinions are or anyone else's since she seems deadset on her choice of leaving

[@mal7040]

@FrostLordOni or do you expect her to be a good doormat, just forgive and forget what her husband did and her delusional family for siding with bastard. At the end of the day she made a choice, whether it's right or wrong is her choice

[@FrostLordOni]

@ she’s allowed to leave, but keeping his child hidden from him makes her an AH. She’ll be lying, betraying, and deceiving him, so by your own logic that proves she’s unfit to be a parent

[@aadityadutt1816]

NTA, Tell your uncle aunt and grandmother and move with your friend. Others go to hell.

[@Isez_Simon]

Are you crazy? Yeah he is fvcked up for cheating and that but taking his child away and her denying him to be a father is far more fvcked up then what he did

[@Maninawig]

😮 what a horrible family

[@blackfire6009]

He might be a piece of shit but he deserves to know he has a kid. It's incredible how people will yell at a woman to get her to take her baby's father to the cleaners but the same people don't have the decency to tell her to inform the father. Apparently in western society women can decide to kill or hide a baby with the father's consent and the guy is only good for giving money and shutting up

[@Kraz4912]

Nah Op has the right to decide that cheating is a line that should never be crossed no matter what and the husband should have just communicated his problems or if he wanted divorce her or even counselling but he with his full presence of mind chose cheating so he dug his own grave. I will say this match that the child has to right to know his father but that's for the future the husband definitely does not after the cheating And Op is right in not doing so For context I am not western

[@FrostLordOni]

@@Kraz4912 The guy’s a bad husband, that does not mean he forfeits his right to be a father. You don’t get to keep your child hidden as a way to punish your ex, that’s incredibly messed up

[@blackfire6009]

@@Kraz4912 you are completely demented if you think it's okay to hide a child from his parent.