No, they don’t change, they appear different to the untrained eye. Narcissist do not love lol
@cincyfanjunglecity98714 ай бұрын
Man I’m only day 6 of NC and so far I feel pretty solid about my decision, but I’m going to be honest , I’ve had points where I feel really bad and miss her , but then I think about everything that’s happened during , and even after our relationship , and I feel a lot stronger. I’ve also been watching these videos about narcissist and it actually really helps.
@vincenzacotroneo27614 ай бұрын
Good for you, keep being strong 💪 when you think of how you existed in such a world of toxic poison. You will be stronger than you ever could imagine 🙏
@cincyfanjunglecity98714 ай бұрын
@@vincenzacotroneo2761 thank you and I will definitely follow your advice. I hope everything is good with you as well. Thanks again friend
@djw85044 ай бұрын
I do the same thing! Lol! When I have a bit of a rough time start feeling sorry for him because he is begging after 2 yrs to come back, but I have learned wayyyyy to much and Thank God I’m healthier and happier being alone with my dogs! Keep pushing forward, life is beautiful without these robots!! Many Blessings 🙏💪
@RawMotivations3 ай бұрын
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@maryhannah96854 ай бұрын
Transformation vs change is an excellent point. Also thank you for saying that truth comes from God. When they change out of ego vs transforming to please Christ, there'll be a massive difference!
@shamama18344 ай бұрын
Wish everyone could read this comment bcuz you perfectly highlighted the very essence of this video!
@robfeldschun61464 ай бұрын
I’m not religious but I agree with this
@emmetfloyd64364 ай бұрын
Well Christ is dead so I don't think he cares
@maryhannah96854 ай бұрын
@@emmetfloyd6436 Jesus died and resurrected from the dead. I hope you find Him. God bless
@emmetfloyd64364 ай бұрын
@@maryhannah9685 nah he just dead zombies aren't real
@nicholecornes19154 ай бұрын
There love is fleeing it wont stay
@Vacheriedevacherie4 ай бұрын
It’s not love to begin with.
@nessauk27864 ай бұрын
Its addiction from both sides very difficult to abandon yourself in this dynamic.lose the hopium and love yourself first ...its a experience.Thanks Ben I appreciate your perspective.
@Sarah-dn7edАй бұрын
You wrote "hopium" and this is so right. Hope is opium.
@jafhio22844 ай бұрын
They will never change.! Coz they lack accountability and they dont have emphaty The best thing to do is LEAVE and move forward.
@msavandeventer690Ай бұрын
I don't think Narcs necessarily know they are one! It is hard to hear that he did not love me, only used me! But I fell so hard for him until I released something that is not right here! Thank you Ben.
@deezgex4 ай бұрын
When both people can respectfully check in and communicate is also good till one chooses to not care after the respect was once there. But claiming there is respect and love and then rage and belittling and leaving is so confuzing
@nicholecornes19154 ай бұрын
He did have anything to offer except paying bills
@kfluhx4 ай бұрын
The more I've listened to your content the past 1yr or so, the more I've realized how scary skilful my ex was... borderline Ted Bundy kind of skilful. I actually knew from dealing with my mom, that it does no good to push someone into getting help. So I never even once asked my ex to go to therapy. I simply said at the end of the first break up that I hope he gets some help, if nothing else than to be more emotionally available to his girls. That's exactly how he designed his next hook to hoover me back... after about three weeks he "drunk texted" me saying he's been researching therapy and is planning to go on his own desire to be a good dad. He knew I wouldn't go back if he said he was going for us, so he used his girls. He also lied about actually being in therapy and legit started making up stories about his sessions and "things his therapist believes about me and my actions" 🙄 Thank god my mom inoculated me to this mental manipulation from a young age, or he would have had the skill to twist me knots and get me under his thumb. I worry about his girls, and his next supply because he really had to level up to keep me as long as he did. I probably helped him become an even scarier predator 😢
@RawMotivations3 ай бұрын
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@BeTheLight6244 ай бұрын
Great honest video, thank you.
@deezgex4 ай бұрын
I never wanted mine to change anything about her except. Her reactions to me in the way of toxic and mental abuse. Thats it and to be able to actually talk about the issues without rage or ignoring and claiming to be a different person all the time telling me i need to change is the issue into all these things she said which were never really direct
@JessicaG19714 ай бұрын
I've listened to your for a while and had NO IDEA you are a narc. I'm still listening to you. I just give more credence to what you're saying.
@SuperRajat19844 ай бұрын
Oh My! you almost got me at LOVE
@KaylaHarmon-cp5bt4 ай бұрын
I get they never change but they have been together a year makes me wonder 💭
@RawMotivations4 ай бұрын
How much have you changed in the year? Or you still watching them and not moving forward?
@KaylaHarmon-cp5bt4 ай бұрын
@@RawMotivationsI’ve changed completely been in a 3 year relationship. It’s his new supply that keeps my entire family updated with what they do how happy they are. She won’t leave me alone :) I could care less but obviously imma have a little curiosity I don’t think you fully heal from something like this.
@RawMotivations4 ай бұрын
@@KaylaHarmon-cp5bt I am glad to hear that. Have you blocked her on everything?
@deezgex4 ай бұрын
At the end with my ex. She ignored most of all i said, tried to make me feel all fault, and told me sorry not sorry mamy times
@nicholecornes19154 ай бұрын
Guys us wives wasted YEARS of our dam lives! Being miserable! While all we got was control thats IT
@DisOrientedAngie4 ай бұрын
What if a narcissist wants to rehabilitate himself like you did? What resources does he need to be self aware and wants to be better?
@Vacheriedevacherie4 ай бұрын
That’s a lie, a personality disorder is not mutable.
@RawMotivations3 ай бұрын
Have him email me at ben@rawmotivations.com
@lynnanderson19234 ай бұрын
All I get is "I'm trying"
@Vacheriedevacherie4 ай бұрын
They’re not.
@alicearcturus86103 ай бұрын
I hope by god you meant looking inside yourself. Religion does not help. It can be a bandaid for awhile but it is empty, superstition. You can become so dissolution ed that you get worse. You are god and god is you.
@marcia209529 күн бұрын
God was willing to die in your place..greater love has no one than this, in order to forgive your sins. (This love has Nothing to do with what you can give Him) If you don’t receive this love, you won’t be able to know love.
@delphinameredith3 күн бұрын
Maybe religion wont help but God IS NOT a religion, it's obvious by your statement you have never exprienced the love of God and never invited Him into your heart. In my opinion you both need transformation.
@bernadettekuhns78324 ай бұрын
So a narc can change and have a good relationship, a loving commitment. ???? If he (or she) truly wants to change and be truly loved. The can heal and become authentic. What are the odds of that happening?
@akanicolerocks7114 ай бұрын
close to 0
@bernadettekuhns78324 ай бұрын
@@akanicolerocks711 Thank you for your response.. I Appreciate it greatly.
@paulneal74954 ай бұрын
Zero
@nessauk27864 ай бұрын
Ask yourself what's in it for them in every circumstance.