Woman Says Her Husband's Rage Is Out of Control

“My Husband Rages”
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Natasha says despite her 8-year marriage with her husband, Brenden, being full of screaming, fights, threats, name-calling and pushes to the face, which she calls “muffing,” she still stays by his side. Why is Natasha trying to make this relationship work? Brenden admits he can get anxious, which leads to outbursts of anger, but says he suspects he could have a medical problem. Dr. Phil asks Dr. Bradley Jabour, CEO and Chief of Radiology at Medical Imaging Center of Southern California, to find out if Brenden could really have something medically wrong with his brain. (19126)
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[@BecD1983]

“I’m happy to be here” as she’s bawling her eyes out. Poor woman 😶

[@judithmiller7308]

It has to be a great emotional relief to her to finally get intervention.

[@livalittleasmr]

I dated someone like that for a couple months, I finally had to get the cops involved just to get rid of him. The police officer told me he was a narcissistic sociopath.

[@auzy2u845]

Hr got his brain scanned. And he had lesions on it.

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

You deserve better

[@XeroFailGames]

The cop probably knew cause he is too

[@c.a.greene8395]

Still, that's on him, not you... Having scar tissue on your brain is a you problem, nothing she can fix

[@Billmull8622]

Lmao that’s prob projection. He’s a cop not a doctor.

[@chilo8187]

The damage has already been done to the kids. They will suffer massive emotional and attachment consequences as a result of this abuse. Incredibly sad.

[@jennab4112]

Trauma bonded to this man she needs therapy and a redirection and taught true love

[@laurendeaves376]

@lil auzy yet he doesn’t behave like this in a work setting or he would be out of a job and if she fears what he will do, then she knows he’s able to plan and act on those plans

[@auzy2u845]

He was in the military.

[@violetvallance2062]

Take control of you and your children's lives. He won't change and walking on eggshells daily should never be an option. Leave, divorce and start the next day of your life.

[@CyeOutsider]

Yes leave a violent rageaholic. What could possibly go wrong. 🙄

[@ad03dh]

Narcissistic abuse

[@BlurryAznboy101]

I feel bad for the Children and the Mother, nobody should have to live in fear.

[@AnnSisuLiv]

She allows it.

[@nikkivp82]

And no one has to, we teach people how to treat us.

[@saucinichigo]

Not his fault. Something happened to his brain

[@k.m512]

@@saucinichigo no its still his fault. His brain injury is a reason but not an excuse 🙄

[@saucinichigo]

@@k.m512 yeah i agree. I apologize

[@journeymansmitty8283]

Situations like this make me glad I'm single sometimes when you're marrying someone or you're dating them you truly don't know their true intentions for you until they're ready to hurt you live your life alone don't trust people🤔

[@ejroughley]

The signs are always there. People ignore them and put their prospective life partner on a pedestal, ignoring red flags and buying their excuses for behaviours. Some people are much worse at ignoring red flags than others, due to their expectation that things will work out if you want it enough. You may be single because you're very good at seeing red flags, see them early and don't even bother starting relationships. Most people just aren't like that. We ignore things that later on, after finally leaving an abusive relationship, make us feel stupid for not walking away then and there.

[@journeymansmitty8283]

@@ejroughley you're absolutely right I see red flags were very quickly but you've enlightened me in so many ways I didn't see it like that before🤔

[@brettmitchell8014]

He has control just chooses not to use it.

[@Justice1102cp]

2:09 I’m sitting here dyinggg by myself because I thought I was trippin. 😩😭😭🤣 Something happened with the editing but I just died

[@Cocorodri118]

I thought I was the only one 🤣

[@Ihatewater9000]

What?? I don’t see anything?

[@damonlennox7244]

@@Ihatewater9000 Look at her eye lol

[@nikbarker3640]

🤣 👁 👁

[@tankmanled2874]

Information on this fellow, he's certainly not acting civil in the clips. BUT it is confirmed in a later Dr Phil episode the way he acts is actually because of some sort of brain defect causing him to become irrationally angry. This is not me defending how he acts in this video, you are allowed to come to your own conclusions. For those that are angry at this man, you have every right to be mad but know that he is not acting like this because he wants to unlike those that you may have heard about or know that act similarly. Thank you for listening to my rant :)

[@amybarn9251]

Absolute bollocks which is why tv shows shouldn't discuss brain damage. I am brain damaged and Bipolar (which cause rage) and I would kill myself if I behaved like this!!! I'm also a senior academic so I can follow all the medical research

[@yallarebraindead]

@@amybarn9251 believe it or not everyone is different especially when it comes to brain damage lol

[@RachelkWoolard]

Then he needs to get help that doesn’t justify his actions towards his wife and children

[@laurendeaves376]

That’s lazy and harmful, if he can control himself around people he wants to impress, if he can control himself at work then he can control himself

[@Krackatooah]

@@amybarn9251 what brain damage does to you can be very different based on where it happens. Some brain damage effects memory, brain damage effects your motor control, other brain damage can make you blind. It’s not all the same

[@samw6344]

He's a really good father, but when he gets anxious he yells at them. No, that doesn't sound like a good father

[@mtwin7092]

She’s still with him and now has 3 kids with him

[@audie9642]

I feel your pain lady. Stay strong (even though she won’t see this message). Anybody seeing this video and who also struggles with domestic violence - you matter and you will prevail.

[@xxguccixbandzxx5621]

he has a bain injury

[@xxguccixbandzxx5621]

brain injury

[@-beTHEchange-123-]

@@xxguccixbandzxx5621 brain injury and domestic violence, it doesn't just cancel out his behavior

[@-beTHEchange-123-]

@@xxguccixbandzxx5621 brain injury and domestic violence, it doesn't just cancel out his behavior

[@laurendeaves376]

@lil auzy so can chronic daily drug use

[@h.smith.6586]

WHY would she even WANT to find a way to stay with him!!??

[@br1mo287]

Dear Lord, she and the kids will need therapy. I pray for them all🙏🏽 the worst is loving someone who hurts you

[@pdiddly7397]

Both adults in this situation seem kind of dense. Poor kids

[@drew2fast489]

Agreed!

[@diplorablehomemaker]

Yes definitely

[@ejroughley]

100% she is dismissive avoidant and making him worse. Both need help. Both would be better off with someone else. Not just one.

[@AnnSisuLiv]

She's not a competent mother allowing her children to be in this situation.

[@drew2fast489]

Yes!

[@TheSweetForever]

It takes two to tango boo boo. He is also responsible.

[@AnnSisuLiv]

@@TheSweetForever Never said he wasn't. But when 1 person is jeopardizing your kids, you get them tf out. Full stop. No excuses and spreading the blame boo boo.

[@believeinyourself7511]

Brenden, you need to stay away from any relationship. You cannot control yourself. Be mature and know you have a brain injury. Be responsible and keep your loved ones safe.

[@CBrown86]

All Dr Phil did was victim blame and minimize this guys abuse. Now every time this guy starts with his abuse he’s gonna say “Oh its my BRAIN! Waah!” “You’re OVERSHADOWING ME!” This show makes me want to be sick

[@CBrown86]

@@billusher2265 maybe watch it again you missed some key parts

[@deadspacegrave2219]

That haircut looks really ridiculous on him. He just needs to cut it off ….

[@mktgteacher]

I see symptoms of Bipolar disorder. I live with someone who has it. It’s very challenging!

[@yolanderivera8428]

typical to go back or stay. ya cannot fix a person. move on. there’s life. he’s not the right one, he’s showing you who he is

[@livalittleasmr]

Because they make so many threats, you get scared what more the might do after you leave them. Rightfully so, I almost was murdered after leaving a similar guy I only dated for a couple months.

[@emma92548]

@@livalittleasmr So she should be seeking support to leave him then. Staying in a dangerous and toxic relationship isn’t helping anyone.

[@Livviegirlie]

Sending my prayers to the wife . It must be stressful to deal with his anger problem

[@emmalouise7884]

Anyone threatened to punch my Mum id never see them again 😮

[@tlhogid663]

Absolutely!

[@sillyme1]

I fell when i was a kid on my head once, my life makes sense now

[@bekahgirl]

She shouldn't keep going back to him smh

[@SheilaTrueLove]

And yet she keeps TAKING HIM BACK....In life you are going to run across a lot of women who live for DRAMA, DYSFUNCTION, ARGUING, FUSSING and FIGHTING. That's one of the reasons so many females hate flying SOLO...who would they have to argue etc...with? If she didn't like his behavior there is NOTHING stopping her from moving on. Like I said previously, when women put up with rotten behavior that is the same as giving them PERMISSION to continue doing what they're doing. The reason you can't hardly find decent man anymore has to do with these women out here. They put up with things no human being should put up with....I can see he needs help, but he needs to get that help OUTSIDE of living in her home. She can be there to support him through phone calls, video chat, and meeting in public places as long as he controls his temper.....End of story.

[@keatonscreations]

The audacity of this man to act like he does with hair like that

[@keatonscreations]

@@j.j.8741 1. This video didn’t mention that he has brain damage. It is only mentioned in later videos, which I watched only after making this comment. 2. Brain damage isn’t an excuse. It may be an explanation of SOME of his behavior (like the angry outbursts- NOT getting a new girlfriend in a week), but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be held accountable for his words and actions. 3. The fact that you took this so personally that you think I’m a “man-hater” is hilarious and I’m guessing you’re so angry because you have the same hairstyle as he does 😂

[@lavenderandgold8588]

just had to leave a relationship like this. best decision i've ever made. whether my ex gets helps for his anger issues or not is now his problem, not mine

[@kelldarkheart]

She needs to get a restraining order against him and disappear. Changer her name, change the kids names, move to another country.

[@eightyseveneightyfive6280]

Solution is simple. He just need an old fashioned chin check

[@krystalk8105]

BINGO

[@brettmitchell8014]

Exactly

[@CBrown86]

Yahtzee!

[@adamleroux4279]

Chin check? What’s that?

[@eightyseveneightyfive6280]

@@adamleroux4279 its where someone inspects a chin with their fist

[@timburr4453]

Why on earth would she ever marry, much less date this guy

[@toppdogg2815]

People have issues man. Nobody is perfect

[@Cait491]

And bring children into this mess 🤬

[@timburr4453]

@@Cait491 it's enough to make you want to pull your hair out. She can do so much better

[@ScribblebytesWorldwide]

This is why I don't believe in marriage. I'm single and I can't comprehend how people actually *choose* to marry someone and be in these situations. Seeing stuff like this just confirms my theory that I was raised in a bubble and everyone else is nuts.

[@drew2fast489]

I completely see where you're coming from. Having said that, you can't judge a thing by the abuse of a thing.

[@thirdeye-questioneverythin5801]

Idk why she doesnt get a restraining order and get away from him rather than going on Dr. Phil. But that's just my opinion. There is nothing to save in this relationship. End it.

[@tlhogid663]

Exactly - she also has a problem

[@ethanhopper432]

2:10 anyone else notice her eyes got huge like a face filter?

[@auzy2u845]

He has stuff on his 🧠.

[@sarahiles9588]

2:09 her lizard eyes come out........ lizard people live among us

[@Slickobrien]

wow

[@dragonmaid1360]

Actually that was a bit weird. Not lizard people. Its the koalas.

[@Retrobloo]

what were those last two words that you said?

[@Evealaquisina]

I'm stoned and I noticed it. I think someone messed around with the editing.

[@sharktalez]

Is that mark Zuckerberg?

[@dawnnj3235]

Leave!

[@mattreese-7]

if i looked like him, id be mad too

[@NancyDrew911]

What’s going on with his hair?

[@EncoreASMR]

The tabloid sensationalism in this preview is beyond crazy when you find out the results

[@dragonmaid1360]

How can you keep subjecting your children to this. Hes a good father? So is the idiot down the road but the idiot down the road doesnt get to emotionally traumatise your kids. No man would ever behave this way around my children. No way. My love ends the day your behaviour traumatizes my children.

[@lhmccracken]

Saw this last week on a upload- she NEEDS to get out!

[@theresabeville4420]

What is the solution? What kind of help is available for this guy with a TBI?

[@joywebster2678]

Training to control rage, recognizing onset of rage and doing something else. Perhaps medication. The former show expert head of neural plasticity that dared to disagree with Dr Phil has entire institute was about TBI work.

[@leighhoppins9273]

People need to have more brains that when somebody treats you badly like that You stay away from him or that person whether it’s your wife Husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend People should know that when you attempt to leave the person then you just don’t go back to them

[@christywhitley6053]

I pray he is getting the best possible care & his family life is improving. My daughter is similar if not worse. She suffered through a life threatening car accident, has family history of manic-depression, possible drug influence and minor concussions. She is a beautiful, talented, caring mother/person, but also uncontrollable, disrespectful, violent, abusive and a very real threat to herself and others at times. My grandchildren suffer unnecessarily, but the law does not protect children. I do all I can to get my daughter help & protect the kids but it’s next to nothing. I believe with all that I am that help/ a cure is available and I’m desperate for it NOW.

[@buttsnatch4804]

I am friends with his current girlfriend right now and it's so much more scarier than this..... he's onto physical abuse now but she is also in the wrong and posting all their drama on Facebook but she could also be screaming for help by posting about their toxic relationship. He NEEDS to go back to Dr Phil asap

[@mpat100]

blessings and strength for your daughter and you

[@Jm1285.]

Woah this is crazy

[@pootandbeans5956]

The anger issues had to be visible while they were dating. What would possess her to marry him?

[@emmalouise7884]

We all do stupid stuff sometimes

[@shadowsinmymind9]

Theyre usually not. They put on their best behavior at first and don't show theyre real selves until many months later

[@cottycheese]

His name is Brenden. You should have known lol

[@amicicala3774]

LMAO

[@curly_wyn]

I actually expected a man with anger issues to be named Stephen or Kevin or Jason or something.

[@mamabearactivated]

This is domestic violence by a narcissist abuser.....

[@user-us2kl4jy7e]

I would never sacrifice my own health for ANYBODY else. You only have one life.

[@googleuser2360]

Am I the only one who feels bad for him and want to help him?

[@stephaniepannone4813]

Check out the newest dr phil with him

[@melissalove2463]

Smoking pot is really not good for anybody especially if there already got some mental issues going on !

[@styphlynne8253]

Another thing not good for anybody is to keep bringing those babies in when she knows he's hostile! Kids are disappearing every day and domestic abuse in USA is out of control!

[@yourfavkozyol]

ik this is gonna be good

[@moogiejoogie3773]

A Sunday upload?

[@matella129]

Came from the video about his brain trauma, completley different comment section 👀

[@Moffeliten]

If she doesn't leave him, she accept being abused.

[@raavisengar]

I watched doctor feel for the first time and I am early in my first video

[@PaintedShovel]

Yes, get out of this marriage!! You are not safe. Your children are not safe. Neither you nor them are free!

[@hersheys5964]

He needs individual therapy & counseling. Needs parenting classes Needs anger management classes. They could also benefit from marriage counseling.

[@Spiral.Dynamics]

After watching this I realized that my husband isn’t that angry after all lol jeez!

[@ModernwomanEsmie]

DID YALL SEE HER EYES 👀 @4:55?!?! IS THAT CAUSED BECAUSE OF A FILTER?! WTH lol 😂 ALIEN ALERT 🚨 👽

[@lightfast1]

You can't live with someone so volatile. This cannot end well. Even Angelina Jolie left Brad Pitt over his anger outbursts. Please get out before he injures or kills you or the kids. He had his demons that rule him. You are not safe.

[@acidicsoul4978]

No he doesn't.. You didn't watch the whole show, he has a brain problem, sort of like bipolar.. Something happened to him as a child and that's why the wife said "I'm happy" because she now knows the problem 👍 there's no demons.

[@kenberry8504]

Women who stay or go back to their abuser are every bit as sick in the head as the guy hitting them.

[@nirmaladrieskens4338]

As HSP I’m easy irritable!!! Sinds I use “supplement Magnesium tauraat “ I’m calm now😊😊😊.After a month.!This supplement work on my nervous system.I don’t respond to stimuli like I used to!!!👏👏👏

[@HealthCoachHayley]

That’s not safe

[@lilbigmick2004]

This guy is a terrible person ;(

[@jaxonjaxoff3291]

You got to watch the whole thing. He has brain damage.

[@marcd2743]

2:09 WTF? Left eye.

[@rustybucket7451]

According to Doctors, brendens hair grows out of his brain and looks naturally like that.

[@brandongarcia3478]

😂😂😂

[@user-cb7cz3ty5p]

Stop judging him. He clearly needs help. He is broken insise.

[@heathercloete7450]

Why stay with him. Leave.

[@nAuGhTyKiTti666]

Horrible situation to be in. Theres clearly some stuff he got to work through. But why have a child with someone like that not one but two? She's young she can go on with her life and have a family with someone who doesnt have all these issues he is a ticking time bomb if he doesnt go through with life long mental professional help.

[@beverleyjouannet5102]

Why would you go back Jesus.......

[@audie9642]

Being in an abusive relationship is so difficult to get yourself out of. Only people who have experienced it can understand completely

[@coolintheshade]

What’s going on at 2:11

[@matella129]

He should start mma or extreme sport to Get out his anger. That really helps

[@aarondavid5866]

this is having kids with a young man these days . why arent you dating older?

[@TalkingHands308]

So, someone like this can get a girl, separates, and get another girlfriend within a week... Man, women really know how to choose their guys. And you can't deny that because not only 1 woman chose him, but 2 within that short period of time... lol

[@jintarokensei3308]

This man needs to play some CSGO.

[@JDBlueprint]

Is it scary that I have another identity named Damian who is a psycho that hates women. And I watch this video, Damian makes me hate her and women too?

[@lindloser]

What????

[@JDBlueprint]

@@lindloser I know. I'm crazy. But I'm getting help

[@Spearhead401]

@@JDBlueprint your first comment makes zero sense, but besides that help is always good 👍

[@JDBlueprint]

@@Spearhead401 I'm also autistic. I can't understand my own self and have things make sense. I have cognitive impairment. But I do experience madness

[@braelyngibson747]

Hey

[@sambakerman9406]

Go and watch the brain scan section.....

[@honestoz]

this is my partners aunt silly

[@leighhoppins9273]

Well it’s kind of her fault for not leaving him

[@Laura-yj8nu]

that hairstyle alone is grounds for divorce. jesus.

[@fujimi715]

Lol I don't understand why this is even a thing. Don't be with this person.... she keeps going back. So who cares

[@themulti-coloredcanary5795]

Dr Phil is such a drama shill! The young man clearly has had something happen in his life that is causing this. He needs help and therapy and maybe he'll be able to control it if he understands it. I hate the way this is portrayed 😔

[@zenops1448]

hi

[@elbakh600]

﴿وَیَسۡـَٔلُونَكَ عَنِ ٱلۡمَحِیضِۖ قُلۡ هُوَ أَذࣰى فَٱعۡتَزِلُوا۟ ٱلنِّسَاۤءَ فِی ٱلۡمَحِیضِ وَلَا تَقۡرَبُوهُنَّ حَتَّىٰ یَطۡهُرۡنَۖ فَإِذَا تَطَهَّرۡنَ فَأۡتُوهُنَّ مِنۡ حَیۡثُ أَمَرَكُمُ ٱللَّهُۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ یُحِبُّ ٱلتَّوَّ ٰ⁠بِینَ وَیُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَطَهِّرِینَ﴾ [البقرة ٢٢٢] صدق الله العظيم.

[@marikadolinsky9912]

I had an ex like this but more violent, much more violent

[@aarondavid5866]

she seems to love building up the drama of this mediocre rage

[@Raidena5]

reptilian ?

[@pattysuechandler-lindquist3159]

5/14/23: This is a 0.001 percent incident, where most are trained and raised to be CRUEL to others, most likely molested and head all messed up... Patty Sue, MARYLAND

[@savagest7433]

first

[@ashutoshdas865]

75th XD

[@BlackSage2019]

Sounds like someone I know all too well

[@HBV-um1lq]

why you guys are entertaining others with your family issues

[@SheilaTrueLove]

I assure you if she were MIKE TYSON he'd be able to CONTROL his temper, so it's not that he CAN'T stop it.