Women Need To Hear This Brutal Truth

[@PRdude]

If there's one thing I look for in a woman, it's calling other women out on their nonsense. That woman is an absolute legend.

[@BAKER22-l4u]

WTF is WRONG with you

[@anti-carnistvegan]

And women calling other men out too, right? Because if you wont, who will?

[@punsized2296]

​@@anti-carnistveganIf I may ask? What nonsense of men are you referring to?

[@AnonymousProPublicaHakr]

@@anti-carnistveganeveryone knows that it happens. You adding that hold no weight anymore. Go back to your radical nut-job Reddit echo chambers. Where the mentally ill mulch say the same things every hour over and over again.

[@PRdude]

@@anti-carnistvegan That's already pretty common. More women need to understand that while they can support womens' rights, they shouldn't support their wrongs in addition. I also mentioned it's what I look for in a WOMAN. I'm not interested in men that way.

[@Unreasonable1756]

as a young man its exhausting being in your mid 20s trying to date other girls in there 20s. Like i get it. Your in your prime and you could do better, i respect it and you're not wrong. there is ALWAYS another guy who is objectively better than who your with. Who will buy you those flowers.. Whose an inch taller, who drives a nicer car the list goes on and on and on... and as a man its exhausting to pass 4 out of 5 test your giving this week, we fail one, and into the trash we go. Your boyfriend is a human being. He will never be perfect.

[@riproar11]

You're never going to be with a good woman because your writing is full of errors. It speaks about your level of education. Take a basic English course and relearn the basics like "your" and "you're", "there", "their", and "they're", etc.

[@flowerfarmerscott]

My dude. If you're being compared out of relationship opportunities you may try upping your spelling and grammar game. It sounds like a joke but I'm serious. If you put effort into your life, including how you communicate, that guy with a better hair cut or who is 1" taller won't matter.

[@flowerfarmerscott]

@@chillymak26 I never lack a date. Most of my closest friends are women. Yet you have time to diss somebody making a constructive comment.

[@gbd-oq1rz]

@@flowerfarmerscottit depends

[@Jdb63]

​@@flowerfarmerscott A guy who's friends are mostly women is always suspicious

[@davidbarr49]

"Comparison is the thief of joy" what a true gem of truth! This is one of the great lessons of life.

[@brianthesnail3815]

The comparison game is a big issue. Its actually the basis of how women compete with each other. Its why online dating ends up with women all picking the same 10 - 20% of men. The myth is men compete for women - they don't.

[@deoncruywagen5191]

This is so true. The Bible even says that it is foolishness to compare yourselves among yourselves.

[@idnotapplicable]

Yeah. I dumped a girl because of how often she acted childish like this. She freaked out on me because I hadn't bought her flowers in fact.

[@emergentform1188]

Wow she sounds like a total loser. Good job getting that negativity of your life dude.

[@SharifSourour]

“When will it be enough?” It never will. This would happen without social media comparing with relatives, neighbours, community members, etc… social media just exposes what already happens more.

[@SomeGuyWhoPlaysGames333]

It may happen without social media, but not at nearly the rate it does. People would only compare themselves to their neighbors or coworkers maybe. Not loads of people who live up to thousands of miles away.

[@SharifSourour]

@@SomeGuyWhoPlaysGames333 One only has so much energy and social media is more shallow so that’s quantity against quality since social media can also distract from and dwindle opportunities in real life when used to compensate for lack of real life social activities.

[@clanghampton7158]

Social media is essentially gas for the fire. Yes, these aspects of humanity we really don't like were always there. But they were embers that could be easily extibguished. Now they are a full-blown conflagration eating everything around it.

[@gbd-oq1rz]

This shit been happening since the beginning of time

[@taras3702]

The Russian fairy tale "The Golden Fish," is about this very issue in life.

[@wisdomandy9361]

This recent rise in entitlement is similar to what we used to understand as the dumb pretty girl trope. Never needing to mature because people always ponder to you. Sadly this has become the "any women who spend excess time on social media" trope instead of the pretty girl one.

[@buckjones4901]

And they never look at themselves and what have they done to deserve special treatment.

[@awsambdaman]

I cant tell if it’s a cope for insecurity or grandiose narcissism or just pure delusion. The sad thing is I think a lot of it is a genuine response to how men and their dads have simped over them their whole lives, combined with the fact that women lie to them and take their side no matter what. However, reality doesn’t care about your delusions or your feelings toward your delusions, reality doesn’t care what you “deserve” and reality always wins. Better to adapt to reality than complain how about things are, and the worst thing you can do is blind yourself over and over again because you don’t like reality. I think pretty girls learn this late in life but unfortunately so many other women encourage them to stay in delusion. That part for sure is a coping mechanism

[@keithgraham9547]

Here's my explanation. It explains a lot of people's behavior. We age at three rates: Chronologically Biologically Emotionally. Most people are retarded emotionally. Most men stop aging emotionally around 13-16. We like armpit noises, cool cars, and boobs, which we giggle about. Sounds goofy, but accurate, right? However, most girls are retarded with an emotional age of between two and eight. At dance school recitals, the two-year-old class does a little number, finishing by turning their butts to the audience and shaking their booties. The crowd goes wild and tells them how cute and smart they are. Before right, they have learned to manipulate with a combination of faking sweetness, tears on demand, and everything in between. If you want to date or get serious, find a girl who is emotionally mature. For some, that's as early as 15 to 20. For many, it never happens.

[@NotMuchHere]

yeah and they are no longer all that pretyt

[@UnconventionalReasoning]

The "recent rise in entitlement" seems to have been happening for at least half a century.

[@user-rw3sb3pz3f]

Social media is killing dating today!!!! Thanks again for advocating us Courtney!!

[@IndyMotoRider]

It already killed it. You can look up the percentage of men under 25 who haven't had sex.

[@alaska_realtor]

Well said. Gratitude, in both men and women, is incredibly attractive. Ingratitude is one of the fastest ways to kill any relationship (romantic or otherwise).

[@chrisretired5379]

Right on, fellow Alaskan ! Courtney and the woman in the shown video represent real logic, and that’s damn attractive 👍👍

[@craterous]

Why is he buying her anything? ... if she does not demand cash up front, she can pretend she is not in it for the money???

[@samadams6487]

I totally agree with you. There is too much ingratitude going on. I do blame it on the social media and part but also just people have been raised in such a way that character is just missing.

[@TSierra]

I absolutely love to see women call out other women for their nonsense and try to hold them accountable. I think it’s attractive lol

[@awsambdaman]

Honestly I saw this video yesterday called “self love isn’t enough” or something and it was a girl who was frustrated with everyone telling her to just love herself and she said she just wanted to be in a relationship more than anything. She wanted a guy to love her. She feels like she’s being gaslit by the culture saying all you need is to love yourself. It honestly brought me completely into reality for a minute and there was something so alluring when she was talking. I was like damn, this chick is cool. I respect her for that. See if you can find the video it’s about 4 minutes long and it’s a red headed girl talking

[@awsambdaman]

It’s called “self love can’t replace a relationship” channel is “the bigger reality”

[@Tethloach1]

If she looks amazing, I find that attractive. If she has an awesome personality, I find that attractive.

[@lykan337]

You couldn't have said it better this is an attractive trait, women talk shit about one another and this is the right way to go

[@juliooquendo220]

Today's women need to listen and understand from this Tik Tok lady. A man will bend over backwards for you but you complain for the little things like getting u flowers? This generation of modern feminism is toxic i mean very very toxic. Thank you Courtney for talking about this and reviewing rhe tik tok clip. Thank you.

[@DonovanAenslaed]

Her audience is almost all male. Take a look at the comments section of her videos and you will be hard pressed to find a woman commenting how useful her video is. Truth is, they don't want to learn, because they know there is always someone who will put up with their BS.

[@loganblackwood2922]

They won't though. They'll call her a misogynist and move on with the same behaviour and then come back and blame men for not marrying her when all of the men told her what they wanted and didn't.

[@juliooquendo220]

@@loganblackwood2922 and you wonder why these new generation feminist won't get no love physically or mentally. They will be alone forever

[@grennhald]

When someone annoys me, I remember that I probably annoy people too. People really need to dial the narcissism down a bit, I know I try to.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

All I need to see is how other people view me, in the moment at least 😂 I just wanna make sure I’m not annoying but rather fun to be around lol

[@karuns9500]

Yeah, my ex wife is like that. Only fixated on the bad. Nothing ever seemed good enough. Learning to appreciate my own company these days. Its tough during the holidays but trying to get by.

[@mosescamara5421]

Prayers for you brother. I’m sure things will be better for you moving forward. Hang In there.

[@karuns9500]

@@mosescamara5421 Thanks much!

[@daniellehotsky1776]

C'mon man, you are without her, that's a relief, who cares about being alone on holidays. :) It's clear win for you.

[@ThunderTruck2500HD]

Facts! Gave my wife the best gift after 16 yrs of a marriage where I was always social media compared……A Divorce. 😂

[@rogueranger7989]

And an Education 😂and a Trip to Reality.

[@SickocrowAU]

I got dumped in a 9 year relationship because of this. My Ex made new friends at a gym and the comparisons started. Suddenly I wasn't good enough any more.

[@loganblackwood2922]

She will come back. They all come back crying.

[@-MakeItGood-]

@@loganblackwood2922 💯

[@irene4633]

@@loganblackwood2922she won’t, trust! She deserves better

[@stevenwallace773]

I guess the reason I don't see a relationship as being "worth it" is because my expectations of women are quite low. I've never had a woman take care of me or cook for me or do my laundry, cleaning the house, or anything else practical. I've never had nurturing, or encouragement, or emotional support from a woman, even going back to middle school age. I've been doing all of those things myself (except the house) since like 5th grade, so I don't expect someone else to do any of them for me now. (I grew up in a single mother household, if you can't tell) But in a way, since I don't expect much from a potential partner, well then there's not much reason to have one.

[@richardlanier2113]

All they will do is take half your stuff and mentally abuse you. Possibly make false accusations and ruin your life.

[@buckjones4901]

If she is good, I guess the companionship and also intimacy. Trying to find a good one though, and even then she won't be perfect as no one is.

[@Danny328DT]

I feel like a lot of women in modern era rely too much on convenience like ordering food online hence why they don't cook. Cleaning is clearly a laziness issue. There's nothing hard about it, but if a woman feels like she owes a guy something, she doesn't do it because she feels controlled. Nobody is even insisting, just clean your messes like you were still living on your own, basically.

[@stevenwallace773]

@@buckjones4901 I don't even remember what that feels like. I had a GF for a year after I left college, but the distance and such took it's toll. But I was 20 then and I'm 34 now 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@buckjones4901]

@@stevenwallace773 Yeah it isn't easy, especially now days so many women are Fed up in the head thanks to the far Left ideology in the media brainwashing them. I am like in my 50's and haven't given up completely, but at my age the sex appeal of women drops off a lot in my age group, in your 30's you are still in your prime, I had my best luck in my 30's with women. But never did find one I would want to risk marrying to be honest.

[@tommygunn6901]

Thank you!! Holy freaking damn! Im so over it with ungrateful people who compare me to some schmuck that i dont know on the internet! Im not perfect, i never will be and if you cant accept it, get out! Some people need a serious operation done to get the stick outta their ass!

[@richardfranz3180]

I'm 72. I haven't had a woman in my life in 30 years. So peaceful. I had 3 relationships in my 20's and 30's. The 1 thing they had in common was the women were never satisfied. Nothing was ever enough. They always wanted more.

[@koshka02]

Sad.

[@slydog81]

Yup. Most women are never satisfied.

[@koshka02]

@@slydog81 They are when they're knocked up.

[@Michael_RareZebra]

I will be you....

[@Stratos1988]

@@Michael_RareZebraAt this rate me two. So far 12 or 14 years since last 2 relationships and I'm not even from USA xD

[@Danbecker000]

I'll see posts on Facebook from people like, "Don't settle for a guy that doesn't treat you like a princess/worship you like a goddess." Apparently being endless doted on is some people's idea of a relationship.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

What a MESSED UP expectation for relationships!!! I've been OFF social media for almost 3 years. So I didn't know how NUTS it had gotten.

[@Danbecker000]

@@LisaFenton-h7f The fact that it's coming from people I'm friends with on Facebook was what surprised me. Random people on the internet being stupid I get, but realizing some people I know are like this was a big oof. And the comments are a bunch of women saying, "Yas queen, you are a princess. Find someone who treats you like the queen you are." I'm just here realizing "Oh, some people do feel this way. I thought that was just internet stuff." Call me crazy, but I want a partner, not an adult toddler with a princess crown.

[@mamc1986]

Whenever I hear someone say things like, “At least he treats me/her well.” Yes that is a good thing, but what about you? Do you treat him well? It’s just as important that men get treated well, men need to be more careful about who they select as wives.

[@Danbecker000]

@@mamc1986 It seems like one of those double standard where it's the norm to encourage a woman to find a man that treats her right, but not quite the same for men. I don't see many men making posts like, "I'm just waiting for the woman that deserves me," with a bunch of comments like, "don't settle bro, you are a beautiful and unique person deserving of love exactly how you are." The only time I told any of my guy friends, "you deserve better," was when they got broken up with or cheated on. Literally just trying to say: You deserve someone who will not cheat on you. I think it's pretty dangerous to believe that you are a prize to be won by default. That just by existing, as you are, even if you are toxic and intolerable, you deserve romantic love. Some people legitimately need to work on themselves before they're ready to bring another person into their life. It just gets in the way of growth if you think you are already perfect the way you are. Don't get me wrong, learn to love yourself, but we're all a work in progress.

[@zurielsss]

Most women had no idea what an adult relationship is like, all they wanted is a daddy that loves them for no return like a daughter and let them do whatever they wanted

[@andrewdonnelly4597]

Social media has quite literally become the bane of society. We actually discussed this in my sociology class.

[@07wrxtr1]

You should bring up nosticism in that same class… then watch and enjoy the debate unfold 😀 The Neo-Nostics are the present day combination of: atheists, narcissists, transhumanists, and biotech giants. Their goal is merely to transcend human mortality because they themselves are actually weak beta males!! Remember that it’s always the weak individuals whom want the most control over others. Then next week bring up James Lindsey and play one of his discussions around how sustainability is merely a word used to hide an agenda… just like ESG, DEI, and basically everything else you have been lied to in public school!! Get yourself kicked out then go on a media campaign and echo what James discusses - $$$$

[@puremaledark8305]

You should do a video about women avoiding their toxic, single friends that just want them to be single too. Ive watched other women destroy their “friend”’s relationships in real time. It was highly disturbing.

[@sN0WsT4R]

My ex had a friend that tried to sabotage our relationship because I wasn’t a liberal lol

[@yukisnoww]

yup, those that plot their friends to test their boyfriends. Actively baiting them so she can expose friend's bf afterwards, spreading rumours etc. Or they just somehow try to convince said GF that the guy doesn't deserve her etc.

[@puremaledark8305]

@@yukisnoww “yassss queen, you can do sooooo much better!” Only to end up alone

[@yukisnoww]

@@puremaledark8305 might even have stolen their bfs after they break up, scum of the earth

[@justacoginthefkery]

Omg yes, women are weirdly competitive for literally no reason which makes it so hard to be friends with them. What's even more annoying is when you're not trying to compete with anyone & they take other ppl's self-confidence as a type of silent personal threat to be destroyed. Like JFC, can we all just exist? My happiness has nothing to do with you.

[@VideoGameRoom32]

I think people remember what you don't do for them over what you do for them. I would have left her. I have zero tolerance for this kind of behavior.

[@greyman6353]

These are the kind of entitled crazies that if you jumped on a grenade for them would complain that your blood messed up their shoes

[@davidchambers44]

This entire video is spot on. People spend so much time online looking at everyone else's lives on social media, they end up never being satisfied with anything in their own lives or partners. Even the good things people do for their partners are now dismissed as "bare minimum." It's sad and people need to take stock and be thankful for the amazing things they share with their partners.

[@RyanTripp1978T]

I think social media gives us a glimpse of what people are really about, and what we're getting ourselves into. It definitely has its uses.

[@ZUGTFO]

It takes 10 POSITIVE things to counteract ONE Negative thing a person does, no matter the gender.

[@puremaledark8305]

Yea and they stack those negative things against you. It’s like a casino. Bro, no matter what you do and how hard you try…. Ya gonna lose

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

There’s a rule where you’re supposed to have at least 5 good moments for every 1 bad moment in a relationship. I think it’s a good rule to live by. It’s mostly to make sure both sides like being around each other for the relationship to last.

[@derikuk2967]

And then she serves you with divorce papers, and... you lose. @@puremaledark8305

[@cheeselover626]

My sister and I in middle school used to have TVs in the same room and while I was playing games, she'd be watching shows like Gray's or Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I thought I memory-holed the experience but oh man overhearing that episode about the earing is flooding back into my brain. Lol thanks for fueling the reminiscing, Courtney!

[@lauriekeiski7121]

Ignore the name - I’m a male. You nailed it in the video. My late wife liked flowers but for the same reason as the video I seldom bought them. Our marriage only lasted 61 years.

[@aaronburdon221]

only 61? rookie number. lol just kidding. congratulations on a long successful marriage.

[@alanj9978]

I hate buying flowers and then watching them die. Such a waste of money.

[@puppyupper4565]

@@alanj9978 my ex complained I never bought her flowers so I bought a rose bush. The roses still die each year.

[@danielcobbins8861]

@@puppyupper4565 Just buy her a flowering tree next time.

[@grepora]

@@alanj9978 Drinking a few beers or a bottle of wine or a few bags of chips or a box of chocolates is a waste of money -- and they last much shorter than flowers. These cost about the same as a bunch of flowers at Trader Joe's or Walmart. A football, basketball, or baseball game is a waste of much more money. It is all relative to what you value. Once in a while, not drinking for a day and buying your lover a bunch of flowers shows how much you love her, and will show your liver how much you love it, which is not much if you drink everyday.

[@laurapeterson12]

It’s easier to focus on what other people are doing “wrong” than to focus on yourself and what you should be working on.

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

Thank you for tuning in, my friend! You can locate my contact details above.😊🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️..

[@John.Doe-OG]

These fantasy relationships, especially that women get from reading the soft core porn "romance" novels was one of the factors that led to my divorce.

[@07wrxtr1]

50 shades of grey is the number one best seller for a reason

[@orionschroeder9401]

The woman in the TicToc you shared is AMAZING, thanks for sharing this video Courtney! ALL WOMEN need to see this, cheers! 😊❤

[@Gainoffuntion]

What's her name Courtney didn't give credit in the description. Which I'm assuming it's because it's not on youtube?

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

I like this video. Even though she came across as a bit rough around the edges, she points out the truth, and she directed it at the ones who are guilty of it. As far as gift giving, I have found that when you give gifts, it's smart to give the gifts that are actually most useful to her that benefit her and make her life easier in some way rather than just flowers. I've done this before, and it works.

[@guybenson3528]

Courtney, having been joyously married to my amazing wife for nearly 38 years, I wholeheartedly endorse all that you are saying. Successful, loving marriages are based on shared faith, values, respect, commitment, sacrifice, and continuing to date each other. That is what transforms the initial bonfire of desire into a smithy's furnace of banked, white-hot coals in which you can forge steel. I have her 6 and I know she has mine and NOTHING will ever break our bond.

[@SilentStorm176]

Literally had this discussion with my ex, A LOT of women my age follow the grass is greener on other pastures mentality, or the "but they're doing it mentality" and you just Literally cant reason with SOME people, and it's not healthy, TBH i feel genuinely mote peaceful and free once I started living by myself and not being in a relationship, not even dating, like Literally just focus on yourself for a little bit and find out what you REALLY want and miss 👍

[@NickDrinksWater]

I love hearing Courtney say the same things that most of the guys have said for years. Its refreshing to hear it from the other side

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

I wanna have a discussion with you ❤️ Above

[@AlexLancuba]

Great to see other ladies holding this mentality among their female counterparts to account. You’re spot on that Social Media is a huge catalyst for this unhealthy and problematic “more” mentality which is very much a first world situation. The more comfortable and privileged we are the more inclined we are to elevate our expectations (privilege is invisible to those who have it). A lot of parallels to the book “The Molecule of More” by Daniel Z. Lieberman MD & Michael E. Long Great video and take on this.

[@MLCommy]

Oh yeah, this issue with wanting more has been a conflict for a long time before social media. It's where the term "keeping up with the Joneses" originated.

[@searklarak]

The girl in the tiktok is not wrong. If in this modern age buying flowers for a girl is seen as an insult, then she's the one that probably isn't screwed on right. He's not murdering your entire family, it's just a harmless gift to show a token of appreciation.

[@Cloxxki]

Man's tolerating her. Would that be the only thing she nags about or the only thing she'll admit to nag about?

[@jroq101]

I must say kudos Courtney, you are taking on something that few female influencers have the guts to do. You deserve all the applause you get. 👏

[@meddyven]

Courtney, your realism REALLY hit the nail on the head. When you have a partner that goes the extra mile, who doea gestures that are appreciative, why sabotage it over one little blip on the radar. When you post on your instagram about the places you and your husband Teddy go, you can feel the warmth and admiration for those moments. And, ABSOLUTELY, social media has become the green eyed monster, reaking havoc in peoples lives for no reason.

[@drip369]

It's not cringe to buy your own, most girls back in the day would just be out wandering the fields looking for some peace and would take their own flowers. You don't need a man to buy you flowers, that is an outdated thing because nowadays there are thousands of more interesting gifts to give out to let the girl know you are thinking about her but maybe you get on his nerves more than you give him peace which is why he doesn't buy you anything

[@drip369]

2:54 called it prior to that part. Either that woman has histrionic personality disorder, or, she has a blend of anxiety issues with histrionic personality disorder AND a bit of abusive tendencies in the background (comparing others to her situation). I would definitely leave this woman. I would have never even let her live with me

[@arniep740]

Thank you for this video. Sounds eerily similar attitude that my now ex-wife had. My positive attributes and things I did for her were completely negated by one mistake I made. All she could see after 20 years was the one thing I did wrong which, to her, wiped out everything I did right. Glad she is now my EX!

[@mdelriobklyn]

OMG, this is so refreshing. I can't believe this is being said. Human beings always will find something to complain about. The advice being provided is very healthy.

[@FrankM]

"He's going to leave you if you don't shut up, you're annoying." Comment of 2023.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂

[@Firesword534]

Really like that you're getting more into talking about relationships, not just getting a date or what to do on a first date. Keep it coming!

[@SpoonHurler]

We all often focus on the things we don't have/ get (men and women)... I don't like the way she said it but yeah, be EXTREMELY grateful for having someone that cares for you to do all the rest of the stuff and never gets you flowers. Also, I think if you truly appreciate flowers (or anything) communicate that... tell them and show them how much it makes you light up. Tell them how much it connects you to others. Communicate.

[@angelacosta466]

That’s true comparison is the thief of joy. My ex wife always compared her siblings marriages to ours and caused her to be dissatisfied with our marriage, it felt like a competition. All that made me feel incompetent also. But that sentence you said really stuck with me.

[@giggitygoo6797]

From my experience regardless of what you do in the relationship it will never be enough.

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

I wanna have a discussion with you ❤️ Above

[@priortothought]

I absolutely love Courtney's message in this KZbin video. There is deep truth in what she is saying. You can tell how much inner work Courtney has done. As a man that has gone through what I can only describe as hell in marriage, it is this practice that transformed my inner state. I practiced being thankful and grateful for what ever the universe gave me in that moment. The good, bad and ugly from my wife. I believe in Karma and the reason for a bad experience in this moment is not so obvious. Neither is the hidden good behind it. Being thankful and grateful might not change anything about your external situation but it does transform your inner state to happiness and peace. Now that your happiness comes from within, your external situation does not matter that much anymore and most likely will change for the better.

[@506thparatrooper]

Really enjoy your approach to perspectives no matter their harsh presentation. That is a rare talent since most people stop listening let alone attempting to understand others once there's perceived or real insults. You often exemplify one of the most important truths I discovered late in life--the importance of stating where we agree with someone before focusing on where we disagree or don't approve. Amazing how often that calms the emotions enabling others to want to hear more of what you have to say which leads to a much better outcome than arguing. Gratitude is one of the sexiest virtues that inspires love! I hope you never lose your ability to be gracious in your disagreements, corrections and observations. It is fascinating to me how society sees how repugnant racist, sexist and bigoted language is while absolutely comfortable with profanity. Someone wisely said one's use of profanity often meant to shock reveals one's lack of communication skills or intellectual laziness. The verbal smack is meant to accomplish what one's weak communication skills and or laziness cannot. I liken profanity as the equivalent to farting in public. It feels good for the one doing it but the repulsive effects linger long afterwards for everyone else. Like a gentleman's behavior is attractive so to are a lady's grace and class especially while being strong and confident.

[@cynthiahoz3948]

Hi Courtney, As a mother of three grown children, I would love to see you address the topic of low value language that permeates social media. You are the epitome of class and an exquisite model of emotional intelligence❤️

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re so kind, thank you 🤍

[@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp]

"low value language"? what is that?

[@AdamDooley]

If a woman needs flowers to feel loved, then that is what she needs. However, the man probably looks at flowers differently if he would rather get everything else but flowers. They need to talk about that. They also need to talk about why flowers are so important to her. Then they need to either accept that he won’t buy flowers or find a way for him to get her flowers. A compromise could be just getting her an envelope with cash to buy flowers. Or he orders a subscription for flowers or something.

[@Yige48]

People need to focus on themselves and work out their own stuff, and be happy with themselves first. I recently dated someone who asked me if I was happy with the way my life turned out, and I said yes, and when I asked them if they were, their answer was a loud and resounding, NO. Quickly, the relationship ended and I am so glad I dodged a bullet with someone who was completely miserable and didn't accept their present situation or had the awareness to even begin that journey of acceptance...don't get into relationships with people who are not ready to accept themselves because inevitably, they'll ask more and more of you and you'll never be who they "want" you to be for them. Be happy with yourself first.

[@bgrimlan]

I think there are different levels to what you are saying. I am not happy with my personal life, but I am always grateful what people have provided to me like gifts, etc. I don't expect to receive anything so I am deeply grateful. My unhappiness comes from having no one to share my experiences with.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

This is a rough one. For some people they may think no because they’re comparing themselves to some unrealistic ideal, or what they think they need to be. For some people this answer might change depending on if they get that job they wanted, reach a certain salary, if they make friends, get a partner, look a certain way… I think it’s that “if I just get this…” mentality that might separarte a lot of the Yes and No’s to your question. I know I compare myself to some other version of me that could be, quite frequently, but I know that in reality, I’m lucky to be in the position I’m in with the life I have. There’s a really good theory/phenomenon, I forget the name, where nothing you do affects your happiness because once you get used to it, you just go back to some relative “baseline” where there’s another, higher level you could reach and you start to itch for that. So it’s pointless

[@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp]

did the train enter the tunnel? if it did, you LOST. plain and simple. ANYTIME you allow an eggplant to enter and that owner has NO PLANS of forming a life with you, you are being USED and you are allowing it to happen. Only sleep with your husband but, hey, maybe I am wrong.. I'm just a man.

[@IamjustBruh]

Shout out to that lady on TikTok who put out that banger! And you as well Courtney, great video as always 👍🏿👍🏿

[@TMendocino]

I just found you today, so I have been binge watching you. 😂 Your advise is spot on. You should appreciate the little things. I have been married to my husband for 8 years. Valentines Day is our anniversary. That was him. So, eight years later, we were in San Francisco for Valentine's Day. And he held my hand for the first time ever, in public. That was a big deal and the sweetest gesture. I never ask him for PDA. But I am touchy feely. So, this small little thing, was like a truck load of flowers. I was grateful and I appreciated him more than ever.

[@patrickprater3602]

What do women want?? MORE....always...MORE!!

[@James-x8z9o]

I have watched some of your videos and I really appreciate what you are saying. Your honesty is refreshing and it is helping me understand things that I am going through with my recent divorce. This video is just another helpful lesson on understanding what someone else may be going through. Thank you.

[@alejandroxan]

I completely agree. Never give a woman all the money or all the love you have; they will always want more.

[@derikuk2967]

Don't worry, she'll have *all* of your money after she and her divorce lawyer are through with you.

[@emergentform1188]

When dudes say women are ungrateful or crazy, this is exactly what they are talking about. I can't imagine ever being in a serious relationship with a woman again and having to put up with this petty selfish crap. I'm so done with that childish nonsense. Mgtow philosophy saved me.

[@jie386]

I had a date recently that went really well, we both instantly hit it off and spent a few hours just chatting. At the end of the date as I drop her home she drops "my ex gave me his credit card and spoilt me so I'll only dat we you if you do the same because I'd rather be taken care of up front that risk supporting a man until he is successful and he finds another woman". No joy can be found in n comparison... or modern dating anymore 😓

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

Jesus Christ, that’s terrible. What’s even more terrible is she doesn’t have the self awareness to realize how ridiculous that is. If I were you, I’d just get over the feeling of how good the first date was as quickly as possible, because this was probably always in the back of her mind 🤷‍♂️

[@tythesithari4356]

I don't really disagree with the girl in the tik tok, and I might be alone in thinking this, but if the guy knows she likes flowers then why not just get her some? Like, maybe instead of whatever random gift you don't know if she's going to like, just get the flowers you know she does like? It would probably be cheaper than jewelry or other gifts you could be buying. If the girl is good to you, and isn't being demanding or ungrateful, then just get her the thing you know she likes. If she is ungrateful then why are you even with her?

[@lawrence31415]

Answer to your question: social media is definitely a major factor of the comparison game. If someone starts to play this unhealthy game, then they're going to start fixating on things that they probably don't even need in their life. It's normal to want more, but it's also important to appreciate the stuff one currently has and to continue working toward other personal goals and desires. Yes, a picture can tell 1000 words, but which of those words are actually true? At the end of the day, an image will only tell one side of the story. I have started limiting the amount of time I spend on social media, and it honestly feels good. Hope you have a nice Sunday, Courtney!

[@grennhald]

Life is hard, wear a helmet - some based black woman

[@dochamp2]

Happiness is wanting what you have not getting what you want!

[@TheScotian82]

Short, Sweet, Accurate. 🫡

[@DGolfer60]

Absolutely agree - social media has been the catalyst for this what have you done for me lately attitude

[@ajtaylor8750]

I don't think women understand that men's main love language is doing things to make your life easier. If a guy is doing everything to make you happy and comfortable, but you're still complaining about trivial things such as flowers then you're not grateful. A man working his butt off to provide you a good life, respects you, loves you, is loyal to you, but you're fixated on the one thing he doesn't do? Yeah, goodbye ma'am.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Agreed 😵‍💫

[@lebigboy]

Thank you Courtney, but as a 24 year old currently studying computer science to become a software engineer, I totally checked out of the dating market here in America, and will be saving up money to visit/date/work remotely in the phillipines

[@lebigboy]

Thank you for trying

[@melmagallon6233]

This was me. I paid all the bills, worked 60+ hrs a week, and even paid for all the vacations. I got crap for not buying flowers randomly and not being “romantic”. My hard work and sacrifice seemed to count for naught. I’m not actually saying she didn’t do her part of the relationship, but I didn’t criticize her shortcomings in the relationship

[@justanothernoobe]

Gratitude and “ignorance is bliss” ... two simple principles that Social Media can so easily destroy when in fact it should do quite the opposite and make us realise how lucky we are compared to others.

[@drip369]

I'm glad the trend of irregardless quit but people are now saying "but regardless," I think this is the third time I've heard you say this, yet all you need to say is the word regardless. That is the transition; you don't need the word but to transition. Hugs for my little sis 😁😁😅

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thanks Joseph 😂

[@resolving_boris]

Quitting social media and narrowing down my YT channels is the best thing I ever did for my mental health

[@chriscaldow1644]

I bet you a million dollars …. if that dude got her flowers regularly …. She’ll soon find something else to complain about ……

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

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[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

If he doesn’t like giving her flowers because they die, then he could give her a potted beautiful plant like an orchid or something.

[@MessageInABottle869]

You’re absolutely right we focus too much on the negative and it’s not just a woman thing men do it to. I don’t know if it is because the time we living in or something else but it’s really sad.

[@MessageInABottle869]

I’m gonna be honest and say I don’t fully understand the obsession with flowers probably because I don’t care about flowers at all.But my wife do so I found the perfect solution where I bought a flower supscription to her so every week we get the flowers home delivered. Do I think we could spend those $38 every week on something more useful? Yes, but it’s not about me it’s about my wife and it’s making her happy.

[@dh12.]

How do you make a woman miserable? Give her everything she thinks she wanted.

[@jabronijones90]

To comment on your social media question; there was a time i was on Instagram quite often scrolling through its algorithmic never-ending pictures of women as their 'perfect' selves, when one day a cute girl came in to my work, but as i looked at her i thought, "eh, that girl is cute, but she isnt as great as the other girls ive...seen." and the last word of that thought was the moment i realized the grip social media had on my mind. I deleted all my social media accounts 5 minutes later.

[@salkoharper2908]

This problem is actually global now it's scary. I live in England, my brother was at university last year and long story short he goes on a date with this girl. Context. My brother is an absolute unit. Looks like Chris Hemsworth (Don't tell him I said that) and he keeps getting all these girls whatsappin him and swiping on him. Anyway, he decided to let his hair down and actually hook up with one of these hoes on tinder. Anyway, this snaggle tooth Yorkshire bint turns up with a face like a slapped trout. Then she starts going on like, "You look taller/better/more tanned etc in your photo's" blah blah. This girl was so hideous, she should have come with a PG13 warning label, her face would make children cry. My brother can laugh at himself thankfully and got out of there quicker than special forces. He is 22, he said 50% of the girls his age are now brainwashed into thinking they can be with a movie star, doctor or a footballer. Yet all they contribute is a bad attitude, unrealistic expectations. It's kind of sad actually.

[@easlern]

My most recent crime was throwing my gf a surprise birthday party with her kids, getting her a gift, and taking her out to dinner later in the week. I got her cupcakes instead of a cake though, so she felt “uncelebrated”. I told her to move out a couple months later

[@christoph3187]

I had the flower thing with a GF, she complained about me not buying dead plants for her but her complaining made it impossible to buy them without losing face. On the instances I did buy them she complained that I had only done it bc she said so or the flowers weren’t expensive enough. Overall it was just another piece in the vast mosaic of attitude and entitlement I was facing with her. In retrospect I don’t even know why I put up with that human being in my life.

[@kinnymonster]

Flowers are expensive & die, overpriced bags are only looks. Guys wanna buy their girl something practical, useful. Something she'll use many times if not on a daily basis to make her life easier, better, safer. Flowers are a metaphor for death, what a horrible present.

[@johnkeller5163]

How ironic!!! When dating a Colombian woman, frankly flowers are so inexpensive that Colombian women would rather have anything else of value instead of flowers.

[@Chardground4233]

I believe the reason we get fixated on the negatives is because we believe everything they do right is what they’re supposed to do. So we won’t praise someone for doing what we think is the minimum, for being how they are ‘supposed to be’. So when someone makes a mistake it’s like a big deal ‘if I can get him to buy me flowers, I’ll reset that norm back to minimum’ like plugging a leak. Fsr there just isn’t a higher line than that for most people and so we just take it for granted.

[@francoisreynier1780]

Very important video. The social media algorithm is powered by negative comparing and triggering envy. We should treat social media consumption like alcohol consumption. Keep it under control; otherwise, it will ruin your life.

[@_TeIegram_.RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@EightFrancs]

QUESTION FOR WOMEN If you love and care about men... Exactly when are you going to start seriously fighting for the divorce laws, child custody laws, domestic violence laws and false accusation laws to be made fairer to men?

[@nico3641]

Idea. Stop doing all of the other things for her and only buy her flowers.

[@davester1970]

When I was a younger man in the late 80's to early 90's, it was cheaper to buy her flowers than it was buying her gifts. Nowadays the FTD florist is on crack and it is cheaper to buy her gifts instead of flowers.

[@tod3msn]

I like this person you have in the clip. She is keeping it real. A lot of young women are entering the dating world thinking they are Queen of England and have opinions of themselves that don’t match reality. The fact is being pleasant to others and gracious goes a lot farther than selfish.

[@danielmarshall4587]

Here in the UK you can often find flowers tied onto lamp posts FOR FREE.

[@Semiam1]

Or graveyards 😂

[@bumpercoach]

this is what women REALLY NEED even if rude its actually CONSTRUCTIVE rather than the undermining gals usually get from their "friends" and fempremacy

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

Thank you for tuning in, my friend! You can locate my contact details above.😊🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️..

[@nathanrust4908]

I learned long ago that buying a small cheap bouquet of flowers every few weeks for no reason goes a long ways to make most ladies happy and buy me a lot of peace and leeway in the relationship for very little effort. This is an incredible easy no brainer we should be teaching all young men. But if a woman tries demanding it, or throws a fit she wants more expensive ones, I'm out. HUGE red flag. We should be teaching men that as well. And we should be teaching everyone there are different ways of showing love. Sounds like the young couple here have different love languages and need to sort that out. We need to teach everyone about that.

[@dhickey5919]

She makes it easy to see what the course correction should be.

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

Thank you for tuning in, my friend! You can locate my contact details above.😊🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️..

[@CoachSteveJandS]

Brutal Truth is a good band. Everyone needs to hear them... 🎸🥁

[@_TeIegram_.RealCourtneyRyan]

L̳E̳T̳S̳ ̳D̳I̳S̳C̳U̳S̳S̳ ̳M̳O̳R̳E̳ ̳A̳B̳O̳V̳E̳🛐🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@rauldelgado7690]

This is why men turn to the streets to get their “needs” met. Less drama and frustration. No flowers 💐 needed. Just a great time.

[@JustinTrudeau1971]

“A thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts.” - Vision, Age of Ultron

[@CX0909]

I just wanted to say of the many relationship content creators I’ve watched and the handful that I keep coming back to you are the only one who’s actually married. I feel many people fail in this world because they seek advice from those who don’t live what they preach. Why anyone would listen to relationship advice from a single person is beyond me. Thank you for your work.

[@kilppari78]

I just Love this woman! 🥰 Thanks Courtney for thy wise words and gentle way of presentation.

[@bonemagnus4271]

Agree that if the gift is valued by the person receiving it, it is worth it. My wife likes flowers - and she is also very frugal. A grocery store near us has beautiful flower arrangements for about half what they would cost in a flower shop. So - every so often, I’ll bring home flowers - she is happy with them and at how little I spent - that I got a good deal. I am happy because flowers make her feel loved and valued. And she always tells our daughters that they need a man who will bring them flowers. (I buy flowers occasionally for my daughters too.) Win-win-win-win!

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

Thank you for tuning in, my friend! You can locate my contact details above.😊🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️.

[@theultimatemale6820]

HOW BOUT WE DON'T STEREO TYPE NEITHER SEX. EVERYONE IS A DIFFERENT INDIVIDUAL AND SHOULD NOT BE JUDGED.

[@Demothean]

I will say women can’t handle a brutal truth like that. They wanna hear what they wanna hear, what conforms to their feelings and opinions. This lady calling her out is a rare gem 💎

[@vindex7309]

I remember a story one of my friends told me about flowers he’d bought for a woman he was dating. She graciously accepted them but the next day he went to her place he found them in the trash. When he asked why, she told him they were the cheap ones. She interpreted him buying her cheap flowers as implying that she was cheap. What did he come out of that learning? Women are vain and unappreciative.

[@cedricnicholson7446]

Men like KS have been saying these things but end up being called misogynistic and getting cancelled. Women didn’t want to hear the truth because they would have to admit that they had it wrong and the ShEgo won’t allow that so we just let the outcomes and results speak for us going forward.

[@NOMADinteractive]

I made a statement to my therapist where I legitimately believe common sense died when social media was birthed. To where she raised her eyebrows and said “ that’s a very fair point “

[@07wrxtr1]

What if “social media” was nothing but a government funded operation to turn the country into a post cultural revolution marxist corporate feudalism society where you nolonger have free will? Now Go lookup Hararri from the world economic forum - that’s exactly what these psychopaths have in mind They are essentially the new nostics ( athiests narcissists elitists with god complexes). Go listen to a few James Lindsey episodes and you’ll really really understand the game being played

[@Tele-gram_RealCourtneyRyan_]

I wanna have a discussion with you ❤️ Above