Women Shared Why They STOPPED Texting Men/They Need To Do More!

[@enmodelife]

I am SO proud of this younger generation of ladies. I am 49, and have always had "real effort" as a basic standard, and I was called "difficult" by both men AND women. Image that... difficult for a BASIC dating/courting standard.

[@motorcyclesandmakeup1297]

I’m 39 I’m very proud of these ladies as well

[@Heyu7her3]

These are primarily young millennials, but I think all generations are realizing that -- esp with older women deciding not to remarry.

[@meli7315]

Same ❤

[@imaniellis1905]

@@Heyu7her3this is happening from 20-50’s we are over the sub par effort from men

[@lolatwentytwo3252]

I agree 💯 Happy that the younger ladies are waking up. I am used to phone calls & courting. A man investing his time. Nowadays some man are trying to cut corners. My reaction to that is always... 📢 NEXT...

[@tynaangelici3023]

These men don’t even want to take you on a date to get to know you. They want you to come to their place and sleep with you.

[@gjinkalla23]

💯 😂🤮

[@danimack38]

Want you to feel false closeness and fast forward intimacy. And stop wasting my time ⏰

[@CoachDeBora]

It’s really simple. When a man is interested in you, he will ask to see you. And he won’t be slow about it. Period.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Always💯

[@Ourown311]

Yes, key word, he won't be slow about it

[@kaydubya6347]

Asking to SEE someone means nothing.. They plan a date and invite you to it

[@renegadedalek5528]

1. WISHFUL THINKING! 2. makes you able to look good to your girlfriends if you turn him down. 3. You'll call the cops on him for stalking.. ALL explained in pidgin English by someone who does not think beyond the next sensual event.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Reminds me of the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" where the bartender dude said "If a man wants to see you, he will make it happen." It's a great movie that still holds up today.

[@evergreenforestwitch]

If she falls asleep when you were talking, dude, it wasn't the fascinating conversation you have convinced yourself it was 😅😂

[@jessikajane4967]

She's right. Cut the foolishness and talk on the phone. Also, schedule limited time to talk. Grown folks don't have endless time to be on the phone.

[@Ourown311]

Right my limit is 20 mins on phone. Don't give men your time for free. Endlessly.

[@LoveAndSnapple]

I always like to talk on the phone when I'm doing something that doesn't take away from my time. So if we talk on the phone for 30 minutes, I'm doing my nails or washing the dishes in the meantime.

[@toscadonna]

Males know that women bond emotionally, even thru texts, and that it takes an act of God for a man to even bond with one woman in his entire lifespan. Don’t waste your emotional energy on males. You’ll never have it be reciprocated.

[@n0426]

💯 Exactly they aren’t being truthful or serious towards you. It’s only women with low self worth who tolerate these behaviours.

[@jasminehill6312]

And it’s a LOT of women like that with low self-esteem and don’t know their worth

[@n0426]

@@jasminehill6312 very true. They are the ones pumping up these idiots ego. Now they don’t even have respect for us real life women. But you know what is funny? They can roll with their kind and leave us the hell alone.

[@Heyu7her3]

It doesn't take "an act of God" because God gave us all free will. It takes a willingness & self-control (discipline/ long-suffering).

[@kourtneydouthard-becker1501]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ToniaAlex13]

I absolutely hate small talks. I get so annoyed when a new person get my number and her they go, "how was ur day", "what's for dinner", "what are u doing", ughhh

[@passionliving]

I have always felt that texting was the lowest form of communication. No one will ever convince me otherwise!

[@Ourown311]

Your right

[@Heyu7her3]

Not necessarily, but dating & tensions require multiple modes of communication in order to work

[@renegadedalek5528]

That's why women love to do it.

[@angelaanaconda5837]

Right! That's why I use carrier pigeons.

[@embluvya]

Texting is impersonal and low effort. He can be talking to multiple women at once without leaving the couch. Besides that, if you're texting morning, noon, and night, we're never going to have anything to talk about when we DO meet in person. If we're texting constantly, there is no build up of anticipation and excitement to see each other again. If we stop texting all day long, then when we DO have a phone call, we can talk about how our day was and have a discussion. We can actually look //forward// to talking to that person again, because we haven't been texting all day. It's also mad clingy to be texting all day, it's like you're scared they're with someone else if they're not constantly texting back... Leave people alone to go about their business and then when you meet up, you have a lot to talk about and share with them.

[@Floreatmajestus]

Yep

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Very true. Good point

[@ccv_ca_cm]

I’m a text AND phone call kind of person. Texting and never speaking…red flag. The quality of the text messages matter too. “Wyd” all day long would feel empty for me. We’re all different. If texting feels hollow for you, don’t communicate that way. I like it though.

[@n0426]

It’s nice when you are actually officially together. Not someone building an emotional connection based off nothing. Just because they keep bugging you start to feel like you own them something. 🙄

[@Ourown311]

Your correct with the quality of the text message conversation as well. If all you do is good morning, good night and wyd all the time, it's garbage

[@TheVerbalAssassinFAFO]

Wyd is the WORST!

[@Rose-kj7rz]

Huh. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only woman who schedules phone calls with guys! My phone is on silent mode 24/7.

[@lmusima3275]

I just learnt that the person I’d known for many years is now seeing another girl. The last couple of years he hasn’t reached out. I’ve reached out 99% of the rime. I’m gutted and fed up. In fact I’m done with friendships with guys. They all ghost too much. Now I’m cutting off, deleting and in some cases blocking them. I no longer carry out communication by text. If you’re not bothered to talk or meet get lost. No more placeholders.

[@Heyu7her3]

Uhhhh... the problem is y'all went on for years like this. Obviously it wasn't serious but it seems like you thought it was?

[@thesoutherngossip4548]

I absolutely can NOT stand mindless texting!!!! It also lead to a lot of wasted time!!!!

[@tynaangelici3023]

Texting a woman instead of calling and planning date shows lack of effort

[@TiredButHardWorking]

I don't waste my valuable time speaking on the phone for hours nor sending multiple text messages with any man. I work a lot & generally lead a very busy life, so my time is limited to text or talk on the phone. I prefer to schedule a day & time to meet up & actually develop a connection with a man. I refuse to waste time with any guy that doesn't intend to meet in person.

[@sarkie3927]

Texting as a way of getting to know me feels like I’m writing MY OWN AUTOBIOGRAPHY THAT IM NOT BEEN PAID FOR OVER AND OVER AGAIN WITH EVERY SINGLE GUY!!! Maybe I will write an autobiography for the guys who want to text me and they can get to know me through written words by reading my book. After they are done reading and they ACTUALLY WANT TO TALK, THEN THEY CAN CALL🙄

[@beautyininsanity421]

Yessssss. Love this.

[@Heyu7her3]

You can copy-paste your autobiography via text, which is a better use of your time than telling it over and over again via phone call 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@RickRorose]

Men don’t even bother reading dating profiles. They’re not reading all of that. They’re just lip servicing and wasting womens time texting Or, just trying to find out what you are looking for so he can fake that for a few weeks so he can get into your panties the fastest and cheapest way possible.

[@rcmurphy5986]

Yes, over texting a guy is a bad idea. What i found is that guys will text you a lot, then expect sex/intimacy on the first date based on the week or two they spent “building” a relationship with you via text. They use texting in place of actually dating.

[@ToniaAlex13]

Wow!!!

[@tlhogid663]

Yes

[@guinealove3744]

WOW! One of my Besties doesn't like to text. If I send her a text and it requires more than a yes/no response, she will immediately pick up the phone and call me. It is impersonal. I agree about expecting more for the men you are looking forward to dating. Most men go for minimal effort these days.

[@Floreatmajestus]

This

[@n0426]

Because they want you for fun free time. No respect for you as a person. 🤗 I had one telling me when I refused to give him time. why are you busy with what children or grandchildren ? B*tch i am busy with my self and my tv time and relaxing and making myself something to eat. That you all just drain us for WHAT?! If I don’t find you attractive anymore (in the whole sense) i immediately lose respect for you.

[@Heyu7her3]

Texting isn't impersonal. Some people don't like calling (me), some people don't like texting. If someone calls me, I'm not answering even if my phone is in my hand lol

[@n0426]

@@Heyu7her3 i agree. But unless it’s business/formal or an important family member/person. I wouldn’t dismiss their call.

[@artbygilik]

Always pay attention to people’s actions. Anyone can text you big promises and words but they don’t mean nothing if they do t take action to show their interest or intention is real

[@vernetta111]

That free therapist part Damn that part hit real real deep

[@IndependentPrettyGirlis]

I don't waste my time texting. Waste of time.

[@R0291-l1l]

I think saying texting at all is off limits is too much tbh. But if they only ever want to text you and they put in no major effort otherwise, yeah that's a problem.

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

I personally hate talking on the phone, i hate when ppl call me. I often ignore calls pretending I'm sleeping. 2 each their own.

[@masixchell]

Right!! Plus I’m an inperson person. Phone calls are for making plans.

[@sugarshannie623]

@@masixchell THIS!!💯💯💯

[@divinelypink]

YESSSSSSSS!!!!!

[@sh5n15]

time of day says alot as well. if you only attempt to talk to me after my bedtime and I know you don’t work overnight 🧐 good riddance!

[@LadyDayK87]

It's about time women woke up to this! I tell men at the beginning I don't engage with small talk or conversation in text so when I get the "Good morning", a meme, or just a picture text, I respond, "????" This stops the bullsh!tting texting and either they call or they don't. Also I don't do the "spontaneous" dates. Usually this indicates they are trying to condition you into being on a string waiting on their schedule and/or its the free time they finally had away from the partner they are cheating on.

[@RickRorose]

I don’t do spontaneous either. I don’t want to give him the impression that I’m dropping my plans and pausing my life for him. Boy please. Please plan a date that will agree with our schedules. Be respectful. And plan with me in mind. I’ll assume I was just next on the roster when the mains canceled last minute.

[@LadyDayK87]

@@RickRorose or when the main decided to go visit a loved one or run an errand instead of coming straight home 🙄

[@CuratedVibes]

The fact that my job requires a lot of email, chats, calls, zoom meeting. I dont want to do any of that outside of my work hours. Im not going back and forth dry texting anyone. Its boring and they dont have anything good to chat about. I ignore the messages.

[@levtieart3409]

Men cry and say women "ghost them" From. My expierience They barley replied to my texts and just did whatever When i stoped texting they did My text was always the last one.... 0 efford 0 interest Like they wanna u to do everything for them and them do nothing Shocked i wanna be alone and became ace (trauma) Now some married men are mad i dont chase men and theaten me Well... I tried to but men dont wanna so why should i try Just male bs... Had enough done They never hapy Always delulu and victim Cry all time like a toddler Cheatin abusing Nothing ever good enough Put out 0 efford and act like they payed with milions So yea

[@princessjones2583]

This ! I’ve been living my best life with no contact with men . I don’t text or call or date or even have sex . (I have a sex toy ) I’m getting to know myself, I’m also focused and getting to my money . I don’t like women in a sexual way . To be honest I don’t see myself ever being with a man again . I fuck myself better then a man ever could and I treat myself like a queen ! Men are nothing to me any more . At least in my community. Am I open to meeting new people yes for friendship with no sexual attachment. I’m living my best life. I wasted so much time with relationships and horrible people. I’m 35 now I don’t want to waste no more time . We only get one life

[@NoName-oe4gm]

You ladies are New-New! This is 3yrs old for Me…🫢 Ladies, Actions speak 🗣️ Louder than Words!

[@n0426]

Lol. I was only 21 when i first went through this crap. I am 24 now and i feel so good. It was a lesson that i had to go through. Now looking back. They really haven’t earned you to have this access to you not even a text. :) Who are you ? No one whom I view seriously. Just like you never thought of me seriously or respected my time and emotions. :)

[@PanteraRosa91]

Hello beautiful woman!!! Thank you so much for uploading these videos, because they really help. I'm a 32 y.o. Spanish woman who is decentering men since last year, and it's a process and a journey, because, at the end, in order to decenter men we have to decenter patriarchy and machism and so on. So these videos are really helpful with it, and I'm thankful. I send you a huge hug 🫂!!!

[@Raddiebaddie]

So true ❤❤

[@pileshongwe7827]

True

[@Goddess_Infinity]

❤❤❤

[@KcMcclary]

I'm an introvert and honestly texting stops me from vomiting or having nervous breakdowns. Ik most ppl would consider it low effort but I think it depends on the person your conversating with just don't be dull and get inventive and creative with the texts.

[@Cantetinza17]

I have a friend that suffers from the same thing.

[@chitlinjuice]

You might have extreme social anxiety which is not automatically synonymous with being an introvert. I'm an introvert too, but I am not shy or afraid to converse with people. Introversion just means you prefer your own company.

[@God-Love-Freedom]

But it can’t remain at just texting. At some point, the two of you need to talk on the phone and meet.

[@KcMcclary]

@@God-Love-Freedom That is true and I'm grateful to have a tremendously supportive and patient partner. Thus far calls are on the horizon for us soon.

[@God-Love-Freedom]

@@KcMcclary You will not know if he’s “supportive and patient” until you two are in a committed relationship in one location, face to face, over time. You will never get to know a man by chatting it up in texts or on the phone. Let’s be honest and realistic ladies.

[@desireegriffin8473]

Brother tell us you're boring without telling us your boring! 😂

[@SupraSoulStar]

I'm an introvert, so I don't mind texting. However it should have a purpose, I get straight to the point and I expect the same in return. I don't like the good morning/good night/wyd texts. I don't keep men around as text buddies either, if things don't seem to be working out, I block them.

[@n0426]

There is no purpose for us in texting these random men. We don’t owe them anything. They are the ones who benefit from it because having a real life and meeting a real woman is too hard for these f*ckbuddys. 😊

[@beewest5704]

WYD texting ppl are boring AF. I just imagine you sending it to all your contacts & seeing who bites. I'm not answering it.

[@n0426]

@@beewest5704 exactly. Especially when it comes to men. I only text for business reasons or with girlfriends whom I already know and have a real relationship with in real life. You are just opening yourself to unwanted demons. 🥴 Men who truly care will never waste time on texting or calling they would rather see you in person and see how you are doing. If you are actually healthy and happy or not. These male wh*res only enjoy the undeserved attention.

[@kylia2009]

I hate when I'm texting or chatting with a guy and it feels like I have to lead the whole conversation. ... an entire text chain with not one follow up question. I will just move on and assume you don't really like me.

[@annmarieknapp]

I'm 54 and if a guy liked a girl, he actually called. Texting shouldn't be an excuse to avoid real intimacy. Ridiculous.

[@annasofiaVttle]

Agreed!

[@meganrenee5581]

I stopped initiating and calling. It forces them to step up or bounce. Best thing I ever did lol.

[@FearfullyandWonderfullyMade.]

My uncle literally told a man who was interested in me, “She is hard to get a hold of.” Between my internship and pre-pharm courses, be serious or get out of my life.

[@JettSettingBengal]

I always let a man who is interested in me that I don’t like texting. If they continue to text me, I just stop responding. I genuinely don’t like it. It takes up too much time and I’m busy. I only text to say I’m on my way or quick message. I don’t have time to be sending novels via text smh

[@lavioletmartin8673]

Right, as soon as he shows you those signs, get to blocking immediately!!!!!! No need for confronting, you said it all in you blocking him.

[@beautyininsanity421]

Texting all day is NOT it. I met a really attractive and successful man on OLD who was starting a VERY demanding med fellowship. We texted a decent amount that first week, then had to taper off as his fellowship got going. We'd send a few snaps here and there, pics, voice files, a few messages...nothing dirty. But, we became absolutely fascinated by each other because it was obvious that we were both busy people doing interesting things. By the time the first month had passed, we couldn't wait to actually meet and spend time together (the first date took awhile because of professional obligations); all he wanted to do was focus on me. We wouldve never had that vibe if we blew each others phones up all day, every day. I think a lot of this texting nonsense is just anxiety and neediness, tbh. If you have a life and are too busy to be attached to your phone, trust me, it's a lot more alliuring and interesting.

[@JenniTulls]

You say all this but what’s the current status of you and him?

[@Heyu7her3]

Now who said people are blowing up the phone all day? That's someone with time/ opportunity to do so. But also not everyone has lots of synchronous availability

[@PullthaleverKronk]

THANK YOU #2, those "grand rising" people do set something off in me idk what it is but I tend to keep it short with them. What the 4th woman said is exactly how I feel and it isn't even a msg exclusively for men the communication with women on dating sites was awful too. I finally decided to do away with all the apps- too many timewasters

[@trezur8693]

Ppl who say grand rising are spawn of Satan idc what anybody says lmao

[@Ourown311]

​@trezur8693 Right, they are the original enslavers

[@CuratedVibes]

I've met a lot of these types. I don't trust them. They're usually scammers or s8xual predators.

[@knHebrew]

I like this for is women/girls.

[@fromcocowithlove]

Lmao the guy was so funny 💀 I love falling asleep on the phone 🤪

[@Keepinglivingintruth]

Thank you for this video. But honestly I can't stand texting but if it's necessary then yeah. But I would rather communicate verbally over the phone. This way I have an idea of what emotions the person is portraying when I'm not in their presence.

[@kokikodevereaux4932]

I'm a texter and not an impersonal one. Connections can be made in a variety of ways, considering each person's communication style. The most important factor is whether communication is valuable to you. I have long, pointless, telephone conversations. The biggest issue that I'm seeing is that everyone is trying to find a "tactic" to dating. We all are different people for many reasons, but we believe that everyone is trying to get over, so we are all discounting each other. The question that I have is, are these people now in healthy relationships? Did this tactic garner results? Only 1 person saI d that they are actually in a relationship

[@bestlife9143]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 to the young lady about texting. It’s a time waster

[@erin-shhmerin3704]

I guess I am the opposite. I don't like talking to people on the phone especially when I first meet them. I guess I like to vet them out first. Keep them at arm's length until I can see if he is actually interested in the next step of a call or meet-up. However, after so long of texting if he doesn't take any initiative or keeps making excuses to not call or meet up, that is a red flag, and I just keep it moving.

[@WeightLosswithPCOS]

Literally so true! I don’t even give out my number on these dating apps because the majority of men who ask for your number don’t actually ask you out on a date, they’re looking for a pen pal. If they do ask you out eventually they waste your time with the lame texts like “What are you doing or how was your day?” cause you don’t even know if you actually have a connection cause you haven’t met them in person. So save yourself the trouble and wait until you actually go on a date and if you two vibe then you can give out your phone number cause these annoying “How are you?” texts will keep happening and no date will occur. Set your boundaries and a man who is actually interested will get to the point and will ask you out. Don’t waste your time - mindless texting, phone calls, etc. when you haven’t even met them.

[@Golden.Delight]

Triple H Tornados are the worst.” Hi. Hello. How are you” on loop

[@tlhogid663]

😂 never heard that one before... but so true

[@historylover9999]

She's so beautiful and i need to do that now too

[@AuntieThree]

This was great advice for me!!! This is exactly why I am taking time for myself, to learn what I need and how to set healthy boundaries. I needed to hear this.

[@babou5694]

True!! Stop wasting time and get to the point 💯💯💯💯.

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

Im the same way, I don't like talking on the phone or texting...kinda just like being left alone 😂

[@aspiring...]

Texting all day... Don't these people work😂

[@neoloanderson6676]

I like texting to be honest. Phone calls can be exhausting for me.

[@KeepTheFaith00]

Grand rising, hey queen 😂 man I hear that lol

[@msmarcia8972]

I totally agree 💯. No more texting. And with some phones you can schedule a text🤔

[@Raddiebaddie]

I agree the endless texting is a waste of time and boring. I could see this being helpful in weeding out from randos. But I also know a lot of people like messaging for a bit to vet the guy before meeting or giving out a number…

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

Yeah, texting takes like no effort, but it'll eat up a lot of time and build a fake sense of engagement. Plus a guy being so texting/phone centered means he's very likely seeking out sexual conversation, lewds/nudes and other things he could be paying an OF creator for instead of bothering you. In-person, doing something that's a little active (so you can gauge how they navigate the world) that still gives you a chance to talk with one another. Our phones are TOOLS for meeting and planning. Never forget that.

[@TheGuniverse2k]

🙌🏽🎯‼️ 💯... over the last 6/7 years my God brother, who is 65+ years old, been apologizing for how poor males conversation lol. Absolutely love this getting spread around.

[@remnesssleep2078]

This is exactly how I feel

[@rochellethundercloud346]

I prefer texts,to set plans or see how I'm doing, but I am deaf,so, little different for me. But if that's all you do, I'll just move on

[@GenieBee]

I heard that, young lady! Texting is no substitute for in person social skills and everyone doesn't have time for small talk!

[@bdjonx]

I don’t text period. I have too much to do. 🙄

[@kiterafrey]

As someone with ADHD, who needs to express those little things to feel heard and wanted, I need someone who'd ask me how my day is via text. My hubby, when we met, he'd ask me about my day at the end of the day each day. Usually in person or video chat not text, but still, it made me know he was the right person for me. Even now, after work each day, we talk about our day unless neither of us worked that day. I'm glad these women have boundaries and set them and stick to them. But that's the beauty of boundaries, each of us have our own unique boundaries and needs.

[@Heyu7her3]

Ugh I hate when people ask me "how was your day?" Lol then I have to determine if I should lie/ embellish, or be honest which comes off as neurotic.

[@coilyqueen312]

A man can't talk to me unless I have a fork 🍽️ in my hand 😂. They can only contact me to set up a date. The vast majority of communication is non verbal and you can only truly get to know a person and see if they are sincere and who they say they are by observing them and getting to know them IRL. I don't like to talk on the phone or write essays via text.

[@LuvDaSkinUAreIn]

She probably falling asleep 😴 on the phone because the conversation is BORING 🥱!!!

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah after a certain amount of time of hearing someone talk I fall asleep and log off she should do the same and don't worry about what everyone else is doing probably nothing too.

[@crystalsagesynergy]

I can't take these men that think they know EVERYTHING. If she falls asleep, your boring.

[@DezHickson]

Texting is the most efficient way for them to chat up more than one woman at a time

[@thrill102]

100% if they can’t make time for some one on one conversation they won’t make time for you in the future so don’t let them waste your time and energy

[@missalice557]

wow I love the earrings!

[@TheVerbalAssassinFAFO]

If a man doesnt call me after the initial text, I lose interest immediately and move on. I'm worth a damn phone call, geesh! Women really need to raise their standards and not let lazy men date them. Remember, a man shows the most interest in the beginning. Hee giving you his BEST at that time. If he only texts you, you should know its going downhill from there.

[@tomiaedwards8828]

Good evening. Thanks for your video. I had a person who is a neighbor I am interested in. He lives across the wall from me and texts me under different telephone numbers. We never talked on the phone and he lives absolutely next door to me. I leave my apartment and his apartment is actually to the left. I He is absolutely not interested in me. He friend zoned me. Therefore, I left him alone.

[@erobinson5942]

Yeah I’m not doing none of that

[@shuris_vibranium]

7:21 Or maybe he isn't as great a conversationalist as he thinks. 🙃

[@sarkie3927]

If he is not a great conversationalist he should shut up and remain single in peace. Nobody is forcing him.

[@Twinklestar932]

Have not had sex in 17 years. Got a 17 year old. I gave up on MEN period

[@LadyJoolree]

That man with the dreads made me laugh! If you're having those big deep conversations on the phone talking about all kinds of stuff for hours, why are you: a) droning on and on without asking for a date so you can meet in person for a deeper connection? b) on the phone at whatever hour it is for her to be getting sleepy? c) not in a 2-way conversation where you're speaking AND listening, rather than just talking her ear off for free therapy? d) so disrespectful of her time you think she has nothing else to do with it than listen to you, including sleep? Man GTFO with your outrage that women have other things to do than service you on the phone!

[@vanaphill2454]

I hate texting men.

[@LoveAndSnapple]

Also, when you're having a conversation with men, watch out for what they're talking about. If they're talking about general themes and topics that can be had with ANYONE then he might not be the guy for you. Start talking about an ACTUAL topic that he'll have to pay attention to, engage with, agree or disagree on, ask more in-depth questions about and things specific to YOU. If his eyes start to glaze over and wants to switch back over into "basic" territory then he doesn't want to get to know you.

[@maddielu5286]

Why are men always deflecting? Who let him in here with that bs😅 You can tell he is guilty of something 😮

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

Texting is for a quick conversation ONLY. You cannot get to know someone through text. Period .

[@Heyu7her3]

You can but not thru the "WYD" texts

[@vernetta111]

I hate texting its the most bs unemotional intelligent way to connect/communicate with a person especially when you are trying to get to know someone im sorry but no no no no no no no more like the lady said im tired I'm sick and tired of it

[@Morgan24_7]

When all he can do is text or call you during his work hours...red flag.

[@meowkity1]

I determined that means in a relationship or wants to use you to pass time at work.

[@Morgan24_7]

@@meowkity1 Exactly

[@saliormoon5534]

Idk but this is depressing

[@cutlyfe]

In my opinion Whether man calls you texts you he still gonna make a little effort, no matter what.

[@sarkie3927]

But texting ONLY is very bad. If a man truly likes you, he will want to hear your ACTUAL VOICE and SEE YOU! Do you think if a man had Beyoncés number, he would only text Beyoncé and never call or try to set up a date? Women are so stubborn that you don’t want to hear the truth. An ACTUAL MAN TOLD ME THAT IF A GUY ONLY TEXTS YOU HE REALLY DOESNT LIKE YOU. STOP ARGUING AND LISTEN!!

[@n0426]

@@sarkie3927yes he likes what you are offering him (free emotional therapy and sexual mental stimulation). Not you personally . 🥴

[@n0426]

@@sarkie3927sadly many women need to work on their self esteem and have real life goals so they don’t feel desperate and fall for anyone. It’s basic human psychology.

[@cutlyfe]

@@sarkie3927 don’t make a difference

[@bottlesofchris]

I’m a millennial. We text lol. I personally dont enjoy phone calls. I rather hang out in person or video calls. But endless texting is silly. That gets cut short.

[@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx]

I realize after men don’t anythe phone that I just doesn’t have to do it. And I stop texting at 28. If he does not he does not. Text him it’s time you don’t have 4 u so don’t sacrifice ur time

[@adriennepalmer1850]

What do they mean, schedule a call, too weird. Schedule some type of Face time session . I would never schedule a general call to a friend.

[@traceylennon1204]

I have no interest in anyone currently. And it's been that way for quite some time, so people wanna accuse you of being a lesbian or something.🙄

[@axelstruelove]

It's not even just the emotional attachment but also things get lost in translation meaning you don't know how people say things and it can be taken the wrong way

[@BoujeeGrapes]

Did one of the girls say she don't text or talk on the phone, she wants to meet in person?!! Seriously though, do what works for you and the person you engaging with. Ya'll gotta be careful about taking generalized advice.

[@sarkie3927]

In a public establishment place of course. Sometimes you need to see their body language and facial expressions etc. Also they are going to waste your time with endless calls like a telemarketer and never really set up an actual date. After a while it will feel like you guys have been talking so long that if he invited you over to his house, it will appear normal because you have had all these intimate conversations without actually going on a date. And that’s when the Netflix and chill begins.

[@sugarshannie623]

​@@sarkie3927💯💯💯

[@sugarshannie623]

💯💯💯💯

[@jlcii]

Okay, I guess I'm in the minority on this one, because I actually like texting, and I don't like talking on the phone. Now as for the first girl, talking about having to schedule a phone conversation with her, I wouldn't even want to be friends with her as a fellow woman, so I imagine it would definitely take a man to be absolutely head over heels for her to even want to pursue her. I think what it comes down to is whatever your preference is. Some of us really, really don't like having to take time out of our already busy and crammed schedules to talk to somebody for an hour or two on a phone.

[@Heyu7her3]

✋🏽 Me. Phone calls are unnecessarily difficult to coordinate & I hate the fact that I gotta stop everything to do _(I cannot talk on the phone & do something else)_

[@RickRorose]

If people falling asleep, either that’s a compliment that they don’t want to get off the phone even when they are so tired or it’s they were too nice and didn’t want to interrupt your tangent of a “good conversation” and dropped a hint and fake-slept (especially if this is happening more than once) so stop hijacking her time, or bro you really don’t have those dope conversations you think you’re having and she legit got so so bored.

[@BellePM]

I agree

[@akaa5928]

The real ones know that we don’t actually fall asleep, we put the phone on mute and pretend we are sleeping because we don’t want to talk to you

[@DeiLovelySparxx]

Idk yall...I get what she's saying... but I don't get caught up on words. It's all about actions with me. If a man has THAT much time to txt he ain't working enough for me. Idk. I don't become emotionally attached to txt. That's like me talking to a stranger in passing. Hey and bye. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@haileys5371]

After someone asks you how you slept or how your day's going two to three days in a row then you know they dont care about the real answer...they expect "fine" "ok" and "good" Theyre not interested in you bcuz it cant happen through generic texts that a store clerk would ask, more effort is needed to figure out subjects youd truly be interested in and I find those generic questions for weeks mentally lazy.

[@dw6317]

You would think we’re all talking to the same guys. They say th same exact things.🙄😒

[@UniquelyHerz]

4:00 is that a man 😩, we speaking from woman here tf !!

[@crystalsagesynergy]

How can you get attached, emotionally attached to somebody texting you? That's a big negative. Where's the emotion?

[@May52525]

A lot of people in this comment section need to get in a time machine and go live in 1993. 😒 I sincerely hope a serious war doesn't begin and we don't have the ability to text, our family, friends, jobs, and romantic partners.