Working Together Within Marriage and Business | Couch Conversations | S1E2

What's it like when you're married to your business partner? Khadeen & Devale talk marriage and business with couples Deondray & Quincy and Robert & Amber.
Follow Khadeen & Devale's YT Channel's! ‪@TheEllises‬ & ‪@KhadeenEllisIAm‬
And listen to their Podcast, "Deadass" on www.deadasspodcast.com/
Follow Deondray & Quincy at / deondraygossett
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Recorded in 2018

[@valgetit12]

The lady with the twist out is so gorgeous 😍😍 Naturally beautiful!

[@geminirising633]

Yes indeed ✨ She shining like a brand new diamond 💎

[@tamirajohnelle4700]

I saw her hair on the thumbnail And clicked immediately

[@SteffonyaRaines]

Black love is so underrated in society, I’m watching and I cannot stop smiling. My faith and hope in Black love and marriage has been restored, makes me excited again

[@U_neekliss]

I need married friends that I can have conversations like this with

[@mrs.jashawnrogers1433]

It would be so nice to talk to other couples who support each other but still debate and laugh.

[@clarissajones564]

Ours Moved!😢😢😢

[@IAmTheeRaquiB]

I COMPLETELY AGREE! When I was married me and my ex husband ALWAYS wished we had other married couples to bounce ideas and understanding off of. It would have been great!

[@amandalauren4167]

Married friends are good. The conversations are funny. The person you choose is always the opposite of you. So you connect with the other spouse. “See, that’s how I feel.”

[@BEAUTYFUL18]

I KNOW RIGHT.ALL THE ONES I KNOW ARE FUCKED UP AND DYSFUNCTIONAL.GOD ME AND MY HUBBY NEED TO GET AWAY FROM THESE MF

[@DelaCriss]

Homemaking is such a lost art and so undervalued especially in our community. I love all the honor it is being given in this video 💕

[@mrsbdubc2174]

Yes! I'm a stay at home mom and it is looked down upon but I don't care🤣

[@wanjirum4826]

Amber is gorgeous. The twist outs are 👌🏽🧡

[@antoyawhite319]

What a pleasant surprise. I click on this video and see my close friends Robert and Amber. They are in real life such a beautiful, inspirational couple. One thing I admire about them is their friendship within their relationship. They are good people and great parents. They are definitely a team. Happy to see them on the show. 👏🏾❤️

[@aprylaevans]

This makes me happy to know that there are couples out there really making it work together & individually 😊

[@amandaslay6045]

Were the snacks for decorations? lol

[@thatochabana2293]

They didn't have any on the last episode too lol

[@dejacroney3089]

Right! I would have been eating 😂

[@missjones8123]

Right! Lol

[@itstheseasonseason9556]

The conversation is too good to be snacking 🤣

[@monicacooks4874]

@@itstheseasonseason9556 I was thinking the same thing!! I was hoping someone would break the ice and reach for something!

[@ToriRenee703]

I love these videos. Please keep them coming! To have these authentic conversations around love, marriage, sex, family and business is necessary. I love the Ellises #BLACKLOVE

[@Delresha_Monai]

To the Men: Just because your mom had 3 kids and worked a full time job doesn’t mean that it was easy for her to do. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Essenceofme]

My husband and I have worked together for over twenty years AND we homeschool our kids. 😂

[@U_neekliss]

Us too!! I wish more of these conversations were happening. This was a really good discussion. I could definitely relate to ALOT of the things they mentioned lol!

[@Essenceofme]

@@U_neekliss Congrats to you guys!

[@lilBITofWHITT]

When Devale was sharing about how his mother had three children and a full time job, it reminded me of the quote, “Just because you can doesn’t mean you have to...” We, especially as Black Women, are expected and even expect of ourselves, to do it all and wear ourselves thin. Though this seems simple, if you’re able to do so in a balanced way, go off. But nothing should be at the expense of your quality of life and/or your peace.

[@redefiningalexandria7875]

I think sometimes we put celebrities on a pedestal and think they have perfect lives. It's nice to see that these issues/conversations are normal. Thank you guys for sharing.

[@reneeegbunike4821]

I think Adair and Jason will make great couple guest on this show. Love them!

[@jade1655]

i love how you include ALL black love keep it up

[@redefiningalexandria7875]

Also, we have to stop asking women to do it all because your mother did our other women did. Let's stop normalizing overworking women.

[@madelinegarvin9792]

The conversations are interesting. I enjoy the diversity and the camaraderie. I did notice no one touches the snacks/appetizers.

[@antoniafigaro9718]

I love this forum! @Devale....yes your mother or mothers back then juggled a lot, it's mostly because they had to. If we are a team; a family unit, nothing is wrong with wanting teamwork or more effort from your spouse. It takes a lot of stress off just one partner and with teamwork time and effort can be saved and then can be poured into dating each other continually to keep things interesting.

[@donnajackson1535]

I love the way they laugh together.

[@tiffanig9810]

THIS CONVERSATION IS GOLDEN AND SOOOO ACCURATE!!!! So glad I'm not the only one going through this!!! Thank you for sharing! It's therapy to hear others perspectives and to share as well 🤗

[@LifeisSoSincere]

Loved this conversation, that balance is so hard when you're building but so necessary. Everyday is a work in progress.

[@daniewiggins]

Loving this series!!

[@rozmo2008]

You guys are funnnnnyyyy. Appreciate the transparency. Not enough open, honest conversation about relationships in our communication.

[@ramondahanze7498]

I love the topics. Keep them coming. Even when it is living together for several years these topics are really recognizable

[@llsimpson17]

sooo happy you guys created this! im a black woman learning what a healthy black relationship is!

[@susanngugi4397]

Love these conversations! More please...

[@jenniferh.7219]

10:41 the homemaker comment really hit the nail on the head for me. both of my parents were divorced and did not remarry and I really didn't have a home with either one of them. Now I'm not saying the woman has to or should be the homemaker, I'm saying it does require a certain type of skill to be able to make a house a home as an Adult or Parent male or female. honestly it's one of the mysteries I'm still trying to figure out - not everyone has or grew up with that foundation/blueprint

[@agathachris9722]

This hits close to home. I find myself feeling that I don't have a home to go too. Nowhere where my roots have been, where I can remember the feeling of home.

[@angelaalston971]

I Loved this.... Everyone was accepted and allowed to contribute to the topics.... 💚💜❤💛💙🖤

[@eveliz2023]

They are such a Beautiful couple inside and out! I love their vibe!!🥰🥰🥰 ( speaking of the hosts)

[@The_Dancelegz_Experience]

I love the energy on this one...some good facts...the things marriage comes with

[@simonespeaks9152]

Watching these videos again and I must say this is still my favourite 👌

[@calinemetayer2608]

Thankyou guys for the lovely info I appreciate that even though I'm not a business entrepreneur right now but I like the fact that you guys gave some good advice if I would ever be in this kind of predicament I wouldn't know how to handle the situation.

[@peta-gayegolding9459]

i enjoyed this so much guys

[@icytraore]

Great episode!

[@Kipepeogirl]

I liked these couples, great conversation, and emphasis on reciprocating support for your spouse and their dreams,

[@brittanyedwards8862]

i don’t understand how devale wonders why kadeen can’t do more work and then goes on to say that he “helps when he can” with the kids and also doesn’t cook or clean... so he wants kadeen to work more on top of doing most of the housework?!?

[@user-cc4lp4hr7r]

He’s one foot in and one foot out sis!

[@ItsSoulRealPodcast]

Ayyy Hampton Love!! 💙⚓💙

[@bridgettespears9039]

This is so good

[@shnnajones6201]

I Loooooove this episode 💓💓💓

[@tvaughn1245]

Something I wished the women would have pointed out. He said, "I TRY to HELP with the feedings WHEN I CAN." When you aren't helping with the feeding it still has to get done. So she has to drop what she is doing to feed the kid there is no TRYING or WHEN SHE CAN. I do appreciate that my husband finally got it and still understands that when you are home with the kids, it does not stop. Sometimes I wish I had a job because at least I get 2 15s and an 1/2 hour break.

[@janevieair7158]

I love the couples 💛

[@fosteringthelove1092]

awesome!!

[@Teyonce_1124]

Thank God for present and active Fathers/Dads....but it will never equate to what a mother does and every woman/person is different so please stop with the Mama references sir.

[@janevieair7158]

This was when Kay & DeVale we’re in Brooklyn?! When was this filmed?

[@MarcusCq]

It's something about them hotels 😂

[@fahnakafranklin8211]

Im an active parent. I help out when I can???

[@Tosha22]

Right.

[@geraldapetit-homme7238]

Riiiiiiiiiiight 😂

[@fahnakafranklin8211]

And another thing.... ( I’m so black😂😂😂) She retold a moment he missed “the girlfriend” when she said she missed “ her “boyfriend,” he had an excuse

[@cheyenneking-joseph4165]

THIS!!!

[@iamsadeashley]

Yeah I heard that too smh

[@sansm6297]

I love you guys but you need to watch out as you dominated the conversation and didn't give your other visitors a chance to speak. It seems like if one is not vocal they won't be able to put in some words.

[@gsimplyme]

I'M NEW & HAVE WATCHED A FEW VIDEOS TONIGHT. YOU ARE SO RIGHT.

[@juneplumlogan]

Beautiful couples ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@keimaaaeimma8503]

Devale said he needs help and only has “about 2 pamper changes in him before he has a conniption” yet doesn’t like when a woman “thinks” she does everything for a child That’s why babies be just wanting mommy

[@adrekleintjes5697]

True. He does a lot of comparisons lately.

[@piscestheDon]

Not I Help with feedings "when" I can 😬

[@santaniabella5378]

Hey Kay and Devale 👋🏾😍

[@glois80]

I got so excited when kay say we are having a baby than I forgot this is a old video

[@lalitshikalange2072]

I'm enjoying these conversations. My only criticism is that people talk over each other and I cant hear what everyone is saying.

[@mrs.jashawnrogers1433]

I need married couple friends like this.

[@rhodathepurpleprincess5058]

Wait can we please talk about all the goodies on the table that nobody seem to notice 👀🙄🤤 I am literally binge watching couch conversations to try and see if ANYBODY touched the snacks 🤔

[@TheRonny20]

Not the toilet paper😂😂

[@nzuix]

How do I get into contact with the Graphic designers couple? Will love to do some business with them. Supporting black business.

[@phlickster]

Devale is so ridiculous! I want one of my very own. He is a keeper. His selfish honesty is so adorable.

[@msfocusedonmejohnson4221]

Black Love💝 I like all of the episodes... this one was a little hard to hear with everyone talking at once though

[@didintlemonyai1973]

Deondray is cute. Dang!

[@tanyear3837]

Men help when they can which is appreciated, but women do it all of the other times bc it must be done. Kids needs are not aligned to when we "can" do something. They need many things all of the time. That's on mom.

[@cocalita03]

It shouldn't have to be.

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

Idk its really hard to listen to Devale speak in this episode....

[@rashidaelizabeth5717]

what’s your reasoning?

[@blessingtshego4141]

I don't know who he is, but he looks like Jordan Peele🌞🔥🔥

[@jpoolux64]

💞

[@nevasanford-griffin5691]

Can you guys address. Blended families with marriage or relationships. Like if you both come in relationship with children. That would be nice.

[@lavinarogers3887]

Bkacklove I like how Deval b running around the house from kay and her mom . But these conversations are needed n the black community they hit on real issues when I get mad at my husband I'll find a video of the conversation n tell my husband I'm goin to sleep lol

[@donshay2010]

I agree with the target trip, it happened to me to do

[@joycewilson7045]

Is the food fake or real? They never eat it...lol

[@awade2436]

the dude with the all black is the type of dude i like, however not what I attract

[@patricekelley6355]

❤️

[@christinerichardson673]

Ur jobs are taking more time than you realize it’s not just 8 hours it’s 16 hrs

[@wljren]

She not your mom she is your wife she is different

[@jadeenmoore1684]

Am a bull too

[@amark8786]

I appreciate that they work on their marriage but the conversation is cringy 80% of the time on any platform with them. Now I suffer from depression and people tell me all the time "your not alone"my situation is I don't want to be a part of it. So don't make it seem like it's okay to be uncomfortable together when you can probably be better by yourself.

[@ForeignHuslter365]

Yes, you making excuses but, life has changed and things will never be the same.

[@gsimplyme]

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔😐🤨 Husbands & Wives 🥰

[@coachobispersonalworkoutti2223]

Hehehehehehehehhgegegge I am just trying to figure out what the gay couple has to offer to me a straight dude Two handsome men who decided to go solo😎😎😎😎😎😎😅😅😅

[@Dominion-1]

(1:15) Reason 101 why I don't put my race before my relationship with God. This is why I stay away from the Blackadee-black crowd, because there's no real God laws to guide you, only just being Black qualifies. * You have *MEN FOLLOWING THE WOMEN* who agree with the alphabet lifestyle. Which is the same simple (simp) spirit that led the man to obey the woman in the garden when she ate from God's tree. * Adam didn't speak up then and today these men are not speaking up now.

[@Princeunique4life]

Yes! Finally, a gay couple.

[@ezekielthemack]

When the hell did two men constitute marriage??? Stop with this NONSENSE. SMH.

[@catadvocateNy]

Two adults who share love with each other regardless of what their gender is, Makes enough sense to me. I bet there's alot $hyt in your life right now that doesn't make sense right.

[@ezekielthemack]

@Rizu's Best!🔥 Is this vapid shit the best you can do? LOL

[@leonidas1794]

It really shows that people don't give a shit about what the bible say. And folks really out here defending it lol.

[@KingAmaniImani]

The show was going well until...

[@charlesbessant4207]

This seems very uncomfortable. Doesn't feel like their cup of tea... IJS

[@Abe208]

Please dont do gay stuff!!! That is not even marriage. Yaaaakkkkkkk

[@twtybrd106]

It's not "gay stuff", it's relationship stuff. Queer/gay/homosexuals exist. They're not going to cease to exist. The Ellis's feel that all varieties of relationships or marriages matter.