Would I Recommend 2 Under 2? | Short Age Gap Pros + Cons

[@BethGraceMoore]

Did you have 2 under 2? Share any of your life w/ 2 under 2 tips below for any mums that will have this age gap soon! ❤ PS - if you're interested in trying online therapy, use my link betterhelp.com/bethmoore to save 10% on your first month with BetterHelp!

[@blackstardhall96]

I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old and we are currently experiencing both of them teething. And it is no fun. Plus, my toddler is waking up at night and staying up for God knows what reason and of course that means waking up the youngest; but you know what? I wouldnt have it differently.

[@laylachaaban2243]

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[@bekahstairs]

I feel like the small age gap was definitely the hardest early on, but with each month it gets easier and easier.

[@kayla0810]

So good to hear.

[@lore_0412]

I had two under two. The biggest con for me was how hard it was on my body. My second pregnancy just wrecked me and it was so difficult caring for a baby during the third trimester. I have never, ever been so deeply exhausted. I also dealt with some pretty serious pelvic floor issues and I wonder if those might have been avoided if I had given myself longer to "bounce back" from the first pregnancy and birth. Luckily, all of that is/was temporary--and I've seen a great physical therapist. The age gap itself has been wonderful. Love how close my babies are. I am already dreaming of a third, but feel like I should give my body a little more time to fully recover.

[@kayla0810]

This describes my experience exactly! That 2nd pregnancy was brutal. I needed so much help taking care of my toddler during the last several weeks!

[@jessicasmalls5485]

We had 3 under 3 and in a few months we’ll have 4 under 4! We love it! It’s definitely hard at times, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad! They are the biggest blessings ever and bring us so much joy. My best advice is to create routines and schedule cleaning/cooking into them, or it won’t happen! You create the normal, so teach your kids what you want normal to look like early. It is so fun having close age gaps! (We have a 12 month gap and two 17 month gaps)

[@mirihase4684]

Can you please list your most important advices. It would be soooo helpful 🥰

[@Maryambest1]

Please tell us what helped you

[@monicaandraderandom]

I have a 16 month old and a 4 month old., my first one had a route but when my second son was born. My first born sleep schedule went off all mix. We been trying so hard. But it’s not easy and it’s very difficult when they both cry at the same time

[@lilygreen4000]

I’m about to have two under one in a few weeks (they will be 11 months apart), so these videos are absolutely amazing! Thank you so much for sharing them!! I’ve been binging all day lol. Blessings to you and your family! 💗

[@Ohdeyummm]

Hey mama, how is everything going?

[@lilygreen4000]

@@OhdeyummmThat’s so sweet thank you for asking! It’s going amazing, was a big adjustment and is still difficult some days but I’m in love with my new little one! Watching them interact is the best thing in the world 💓. Many blessings to you!

[@redhot654]

I think the only reason I wouldn't have 2 under 2 is I'd like to replenish the nutrients in my body and give my cesarean scar the recommended 2 years to heal. I love the idea of not gaining back freedom and then losing it again. Once you gain more freedom back it will be more long term.

[@leilaniz5909]

Going to a physical therapist and massage therapist to work on your abdominal wall and eliminate excess buildup of scar tissue will speed up the process of healing- doctors like to pretend that massage therapy doesn't exist when in fact it predates them.

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

@@leilaniz5909 👏

[@hayleyblake3311]

We had two 21 months apart and it has been challenging and amazing, depending on the hour! Personally, I wouldn’t do it again next time (if we have a third we want a 3ish year gap), but I definitely am glad we did it between 1 and 2. I mostly feel like physically I need a longer break this time.

[@ashlyn-marie]

I am so glad I found your channel! Our second is on the way and we will have two almost exactly two years apart and I have only heard negative things about how my experience will be. This is encouraging!

[@ninabntz2517]

Yes, yes and YES to all of it. I have two girl under 2 (12 months apart) I don’t regret having them so close, is challenging but I love how they interact with each other and how they are growing together Can’t wait for potty train videos ☺️

[@monicaandraderandom]

At the point I’m not enjoying it at all.I’m taking therapy and I might go on meds.

[@ninabntz2517]

@@monicaandraderandom I’m so sorry, I mean is not easy at all, is like having twins.. I don’t know if you have family, friends or a church that you can creat a community.. definitely is better when you have people around you is just season they grow up sooo fast

[@emilyjoerger8964]

The way you talk positively about this but really it was hell on earth😂

[@hannaniklaus576]

I feel like the cons you mentioned are very general.. Even with a bigger agegap you'll probably have to deal with that. I was sick for 9 months with my first and I'm kind of scared, that it will happen again.. but again, no agegap will be "perfect" for a 9 month-sickness. But I want to give my body time to heal, do the gymnastics (in switzerland it's recommended to take 10 lessons special physical-gymnastics for recovering after fiving birth, so you can get your body ready for more pregnancies/ back to a good health) and prepare some routins that will be beneficial if I'm sick again. And maybe my body will allow to be pregnant again after some months.. and maybe not.. that's okay too, god has better plans for us than we have for our own :)

[@jordanpitman7928]

Did you have hyperemisis ? I had it in both pregnancies w 2 under 2 it was so hard

[@kaylafixesthefunk5641]

I also had 2 under 2 for a short period of time back in 2018, early 2019. They are now 6 and just shy of 5. Love all these pros n cons. Thanks for sharing.

[@helmisilvennoinen]

Thank you, this made me cry because I am having a second when our first is only 19 months and I’ve been terrified. But this gave me sense of relief❤❤❤

[@indsandemilia]

I had my two children 18 months apart, although it is challenging I do love it! I love having them close in age, as she does love her little brother. It’s super sweet, it has been hard mentally and on my body but I wouldn’t change it! ☺️

[@Petalsandpups122]

Loved hearing your perspective! I accidentally had a 4 year gap between my first and second due to secondary infertility and I deal with a lot of these cons too even with such a large gap! I’m so ready to be done with the baby stage so I’m hoping to get to experience the 2 under 2 gap for this next time! 😆

[@kylakyla3190]

We just found out that I’m pregnant with baby number two! We will have a 16 month age gap 😅 trusting that the Lord knew the right timing!

[@ginapurcell1732]

Due in January with my second. They'll be 17 or 18 months apart. Took me awhile to accept. Now I'm excited! Still nervous but it will be fun!

[@maritseverijnse1876]

​@@ginapurcell1732and how is it going? 💚

[@maritseverijnse1876]

And how is it going? 💚

[@Sophiegirly99]

Can you do toy favorites (especially ones that lasted from one child to the next) and also toys that maybe you thought would work but didnt- for each kid. Love your videos thanks!!

[@1121annika]

My first 2 are under 2. I loved it but I did feel guilty toward my first for not giving him enough one on one time. He’s never known anything different and never experienced sibling jealousy. I had exactly 2 years between my 2nd and 3rd and that was harder to me.. we definitely had some moments.. now baby 3 and 4 will be the same under 2 age gap as my first 2. It depends on your childrens personalities and what your family dynamic looks like if you will love it or hate it. I personally love it. Hoping for a second set of 2 under 2 buddies. I will soon have 4 children, age 5 and under. I hope they remain close and grow up together with a wonderful bond. They all share toys, books and like the same movies and there’s always someone to play with!

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

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[@kayla0810]

I have a 2 month old and 23 month old. It has been challenging to say the least. Mostly feelings of guilt and sadness that I can’t give both of them my undivided attention. It’s SO hard when they’re both crying and you simply can’t attend to both at the same time. Also not being able to carry them both. I do it as often as I am able when I’m baby wearing, but my 23 month old is 35 lbs on his own, so I can’t do it for long! Hearing that yours are now playing together gives me something to look forward to!

[@Raven-wr7qv]

I had a 16 year gap between my first and second baby. So much had changed between the two children and now we are trying for a third. Baby number 2 just had her 6 month wellness check up.

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

My mom had 9 of us, mostly back to back -- all but one sibling gap is less than 18 months -- and let me tell you, it's hard, but it's SO doable! What people don't realize is that, while it's hard in the first year when they're too little to do anything, as soon as they get old enough to help around the house, you don't HAVE to do everything yourself. As more kids kept coming, each of us older kids took on different (age-appropriate) responsibilities and chores. If you have multiple kids back to back, you're NOT going to have to take care of all of them AND everything in the house for long. They can help! And it's good for them to! And it's not just about chores; they occupy each other too. We all played with each other throughout our childhoods, and we're SO close-knit now as adults and teenagers.

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

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[@monicaandraderandom]

That was me I’m the second out of 6. I don’t want a lot of kids My mom has favoritism. Both my older sister and I don’t get along with the youngest because that’s our mom favorite child. We resent our mom so much because we had to grow up fast

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

@@monicaandraderandom - oh, I’m so sorry that was your experience living in a big family! I’m glad that that’s not everyone’s experience, or even most peoples experience. I grew up in a community with a ton of large families, and I knew many of them very intimately, and we were all so happy. I hate that it’s not true for every family, large or small 😢

[@JP12337]

Thank you for all of your content! My second is due this October and they will have a 15 month age gap too! My nerves about this upcoming season have been big but your videos have been so inspiring and are making me excited for what is to come!

[@KarateMami]

Having 2 under 2 is both a beautiful and fun adventure as well as a tough one. My first experience wasnt from my own chidren, but my younger siblings as they are twins and we have a near 10 year age gap. It truky is a unqiue experience of 2 under 2

[@whimsical_lyddie]

I think it's so interesting to hear how 2 under 18 months is different than an older 1 year old 2 under 2. Because I had 2 under 2 (and am about to have 3 under 2) and I definitely didn't experience things quite the same way (example: I did indeed forget some things about newborn life 😂). Fifteen months is actually the age gap we were aiming for between our first two, but the Lord had different plans. The developmental stuff is also a lot different with just that extra four months apart, but I'm still amazed at what my second has picked up just from wanting to be just like her brother. Also, thank you for your note at the end of the pros about making your own decisions and not blindly following guidelines. I really appreciate that. I definitely recommend two under two (hence the fact that we tried for it again, because for us all three of these pregnancies were planned and my husband even specifically prayed for twins, so the 3 under 2 was kind of planned haha). I love how positive this video is!

[@whimsical_lyddie]

I just realized I didn't put my kids age gap: it's 19.5 months which is what our 3 under 3 age gap will be too

[@Heykyddo]

I love watching 2

[@Holly.Georgia]

So grateful for this insight. My kids will be 18 months apart and I’m really nervous but watching these videos help to ease my mind.

[@jaclyngranado3264]

Just found out I’m pregnant and I have a 7 month old 💗 thank you for sharing, your video was very calming !

[@bethbrinkler2069]

I have a 7 month old in few days and found out last week I’m pregnant to

[@Mari-nx5dw]

Pregnant with my second due early Jan! My oldest will be 15 months too. This video is super helpful! Way more pros than cons and I hear it only gets easier with each kid 😝

[@alivia3473]

Not exactly 2 under 2, but my brother and I are 25 months apart. I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

[@Jeeps4evaandeva]

I have two under two, they are 23 months apart :).

[@annabellevanee9132]

As a mom of 2 under 2 I can agree to this 🙌

[@MrsStutters00]

This was extremely insightful thank you!!😌❤️ can anyone tell me about how to handle being pregnant with the second baby while raising the first one??❤

[@katerinakokki2013]

Our boys are 19 and 2 months at the moment, I find it very hard because we live in an apartment in a big city…it took us a year to get pregnant with our first one so for the second baby we thought let’s see what happens and I got pregnant just like that, without planing fertility days etc, one time and…voila! 😅so I suppose…it was meant to be 🥰 I’m sure everything is going to get easier and can’t wait for my two boys to play together!

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

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[@tinamaxwell6302]

Omg the worst of two under two is killing me right now… we are ALL always sick with one bug or another!

[@SAVANNAH768]

I appreciate this ❤

[@shaybae694]

I just found out imma be part of this club the other day 😭

[@UnicornRoseDust]

Love this for the families that can do it! I'm 12 months pp and my hubby and I are SO TIRED we don't even have the energy to have sex honestly. Sooo there will be no siblings for the time being hehehe

[@ninarechin2531]

What lipstick are you wearing, what is the brand and color?

[@blond3mom3nts]

Late to the channel, but my boys are 15 months apart, and we just had our baby girl 6 days after our oldest turned 3 😅 Our challenges during that adjustment to 2 under 2 was a sudden forced and unplanned move to a smaller apartment while my husband was (and still is) in school. Personal care time, mental health, and space were and still are the hardest things to adjust too, especially now that we've added our third baby in the same small apartment.

[@laurenbrush1031]

I love this video! I have a son and daughter 13 months apart :) They are 27months and 14 months old now. They are so much fun!!! Honestly I am so inspired by you. You are so patient and get so much accomplished during the day! I relate to you so much except I wish I had more peace in my household/ made faith a larger priority in the mornings. Side note/ do you recommend any daily devotional?

[@bareerahaamir1584]

Can u share what u give for acreen time for ue 8 month old? Im so confused what to give

[@sofia-tw4pe]

Just wanted to know my first baby is crying so badly ..showing tantrums is this is bcuz of I am pregnant??

[@StephanieHajal]

I would also totally recommend BetterHelp! Love the remote option as a sahm🩷 I also really appreciate you noting that closeness in age doesn’t guarantee closeness in relationship! My sister & I are 11 months apart and we could not be more opposite (personality, temperament, etc.) 😅 Our age gap always seemed to cause big power struggles between us too especially during adolescence. I also never felt like I had that “built in best friend” that people talk about either because of how different we were/are. My experience growing up has made me want to space our kids further apart because I personally didn’t like it🙈 Every family will know what’s right for them though. I appreciate you sharing this since it totally can be true!!

[@IlyHopeSheehy]

Haha we just chatted on insta about the two under two thing. I’m still trying to convince hubby that it’s time for a third, and we’d have 3 under 3 for like two months! I’ve loved our 16 month age gap, and I’m sure I’d love having 3. It’s hard but it’s been so worth it.

[@laylachaaban2243]

Never let your child pick up watch , ⌚💔⚠️ she could be at risk of injesting battery 🔘 that could kill I witnessed mothers who lost their babies results it break my heart 💔😭

[@Athena.Heidi.f]

Love this video! Thank you for all your input ❤

[@novelbytheglass]

The body doesn’t even get to heal when you’re getting pregnant shortly after and it is deprived of minerals and nutrients. More women should highly consider this.

[@Heykyddo]

It's been done throughout all of history. If you're like me and entered your first pregnancy the healthiest you've ever been, and delivered a healthy baby with no surgery, you and your second baby will do great. Plan your own family! Leave the rest. Are you not aware life isn't guaranteed? Fertility isn't guaranteed? No part of conceiving, to delivering, to trajectory of said life is guaranteed. It is actually a gift to be able to do this- ask anyone who has highly considered and planned for this dynamic between their children, and didn't get the outcome they wanted.

[@novelbytheglass]

@@Heykyddo Just because something has been done throughout history, doesn't make it right. I did not say anything more than... women should consider the facts that this is very depleting- THAT IS ALL. To each their own and that is great that you turned out fine but facts are still facts and having babies so soon after another is still hard on the body and more women should just consider that before deciding what they want to do. Again, that is all I said and nothing more. Ultimately, we all do what we want. Take care!

[@laylachaaban2243]

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[@MoneyMan28]

Don’t make a kid because it costs like $100,000 dollars from 0 to 18 years

[@sageann9643]

Kids are worth that and more. ❤ Life isn’t all about money for some people.

[@reenumariabasil4947]

I am one of 2 under 2. And it wasn’t fun. Both didn’t get the care we deserved. Yes we grew up together, and I don’t see any positive aspect for it from a child’s perspective.