You Are Enough: Self Worth & Comparison Traps | Back to Basics

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[@BriaBarrows]

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[@pinkupinkubooboo9435]

"I'm sorry that I was not enough for you but enough I am and enough I will always be"

[@kaylatubbs5723]

"What you admire in others, you have within yourself." So simple yet I have NEVER thought of it this way. I needed this so so much today and I am mind blown by this revelation! Thank you!

[@ChV342]

i totally get what you are saying "you admire smth because you have it whithin " !! It's so true, because if you didn't have that qualitie you wouldn't be able to see and appreciate it into others! brilliant

[@lavendaire]

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[@chloeroantree9385]

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[@lavendaire]

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[@jaskayy6590]

+Lavendaire I hears that true self esteem has to he earned and simply saying that you are good enough doesn't work. is there any evidence to go for or against this?

[@blankpaperstudios]

Yes! This makes so much sense! I never thought of it that way, but what a beautiful perspective!

[@lavendaire]

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[@reginapricillia5354]

don't know why, but right now your videos literally makes me cry a bit. it feels like everything in my life tell me that i'm not enough but you say that i am. so thankyou so much:)

[@lavendaire]

that's so sweet to hear, sending you love! you ARE enough

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Let Remind you that miss .....youre enough , you have been enough, you for ever be enough for the rest of your life ......love yourself , Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe...

[@emanalmutawa8564]

i dont know why, but i just teared up without noticing! what you said hit something deep within me. thank you 🌸

[@lavendaire]

💞💞💞 i'm so grateful for you. thank you & sending you love!

[@anavii12]

i get jelous of people who get a lot of likes in their posts because i feel like that means they have a lot of friends. whenever i post it always goes unnoticed. then u start questioning myself if i am even worth anyone's anything

[@zohashahid30984]

Same

[@shjsjssjksksa6452]

A lot of ppl commenting on others posts are sycophants and fake friends. Do you want to be surrounded by fake people?

[@sakshijindal9493]

I love the way you perceive to your thoughts and find the way out of it😍😍

[@rekhalahkardeka4989]

You are an angel from the heavens who always stays beautiful hustles on and inspires other people.Your words are loads of blessings.😘😘😘

[@lavendaire]

aww thank you love, you're too kind ✨

[@nisha_t1014]

Omg How can you instantly uplift my mood 😭❤️❤️. I was depressed and stressed by looking at others social media life and how they are so perfect not realising it's my own reflection that I admire in others . You taught me soo much in these 3years . You taught us to look at things from a different perspective . You taught us self love ans self worth . Continue to do what you do cauz you never know who you inspire to be the best versions of themselves. This is a note from my heart ❤️ Love you #laviloves❤️

[@katielarsen2630]

This totally makes sense and it's an awesome way of looking at things. I've also heard that when you dislike someone it's because you see a part of yourself (that you don't like so much) in them.

[@lavendaire]

yes!! it's so true. when there's something annoying in someone else, it means you're annoyed with yourself in that area. something like that. super interesting!

[@OnlyIfForAPage]

The thought about actually having the qualities of people you admire is beautiful :- ) It is certainly useful to realize why you are drawn to certain people... for me these people are positive (because I wanna be more positive), determined and ambitious, inspiring me to not give up, experience new things, exercise, read books etc. Thanks for being one of those people for me :- )

[@lavendaire]

yes yes!! so glad you're here ✨

[@brycemccormick9406]

this came right when i needed it. thank you

[@lavendaire]

amazing! 💜

[@justineleconte]

Thank you for the self-confidence boost 😊

[@clix7145]

This is so peaceful ! Most of the times we forget who we are.Thank you its really helpful.

[@autumn_breeze]

honestly, you're an angel. i'm so beyond happy that this channel exist; you inspires me a lot 💕

[@myhumbleapothecary8284]

yes you definitely have all those qualities. and i agree 100% you see in others what you see in yourself, we're all a mirrors and our reflection shows us where we are in our journey. great series, great video :)

[@lavendaire]

aw thank you & yes it's so true! ✨

[@DivineDimensions]

neonblaQc completely agree! She's beyond awesome!

[@ronweisblum6614]

So if i try to develop certain quality or qualties i see in another person am i basically just trying to bring those qualties out instead of aiming for qualties that i lack?

[@ronweisblum6614]

A

[@ronweisblum6614]

I forgot to write a before certain quality grammer mistake :)

[@gattz5892]

I just love the way you talk like this! It makes me feel so much better about myself (I have depression and anxiety) people tell me stuff sometimes but I just can't listen. You are the best motivational speaker ever!!! Keep it up girl!

[@meganlee5897]

should write a book one day about all these gal. This is amazing stuff! Thanks for sharing!

[@travelfarklar]

Revisited this video and I really love it. Comparison is so awful and at times when you are not feeling fulfilled it's easy to believe you are not enough. Thank you for the reminder - simply watching/listening has changed my mindset. Revisiting videos like these helps shift the mind and get myself back on track. Thank you thank you!

[@angelarlene]

thank you for the positivity as always.

[@lavendaire]

thank you! xx

[@kessen4]

I'm still happy that my best friend made me discover your channel ! Your vids are really great and can give good advices, good tips about how we can change our perspectives and how to feel better in our lives ! Love it ✨

[@ioanaecaterinagutu3893]

When you start talking ,,you are enough, you are beautiful " I start crying because I was trying to change myself, but you make me understand that I am enough ! Love you ! I just descover you!

[@alisakazinets6174]

I actually admire you because you are one of the few people on KZbin and in general that thinks about the deep values, ideas in life and l like listening to you 💜

[@LoveDaringGreatly]

I actually tattooed "enough" on my shoulder bc I struggle with this.. 4 years later I'm more at peace but everyyy once in a while.. I slip back into old thinking.. thank you for this!

[@Emma-ye1xs]

You are enough, you are so enough, it is unbelievable how enough you are!!!!

[@lifetrail_hiking_mentoring]

Yes your comparison idea, is right, I have never thought of it that way. It’s a mirror of yourself but you are fearful of expressing it. Genius

[@Daniel-e9c1k]

I'm a Taiwanese and really like your videos. You inspire me a lot and I become more confident after watching your videos. Thank you and always support you .

[@economadic2103]

I really like the thing you said where when you are admiring a quality in somebody else, that it's the Universe calling on you to bring that quality out from within yourself. I love that!

[@Princess27494]

I've been struggling with such pain of jealousy that's cause by what I see in social media and this video really helps me 😊Thank you so much!😄

[@lavendaire]

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[@talhakareem6839]

Ur words and voice are so inspiring. Everyone has flaws but that doesn't mean if u have seen yours u are less than them..Beauty is accepting who u r with ur flaws as well...

[@mydarlinglina]

You're amazing, Lavendaire ♡ So inspirational! Thank you for creating this series. There needs to be more youtubers like you.

[@lavendaire]

aw you're too sweet, thank you 💞

[@kania4688]

Thank you for saying that we have quality within ours that we see in the person we admire It makes me feel more motivated in life Have a nice day!

[@Prae58]

Thank you for always sharing and emphasizing how important self-love is💞.

[@tahura6017]

seriously , i never thought this . This is such a beautiful thing actually

[@MizzFizzy]

So, it's like you have baby versions of certain qualities within you, and you get hung up on seeing their cooler levelled-up versions in other people! This point of view is so much better than thinking "oh, I see. so I don't have this and this quality in me that person x has. let me go cultivate them now", because this will only lead you into the rabbit hole of "I'm not enough" once more. The idea of already having those qualities within you that need a bit more love and attention to flourish further is quite comforting, because why else would you be noticing them in others if you didn't sense them within yourself, to begin with? It's so wonderful! 💗💗 Thanks for sharing, Aileen! 🥰

[@BasavarajJambagi]

You are right. Its quite natural to admire the qualities/traits in others that we really want to be. So next step would be to first feel we are born worthy,enough and complete. Next step would be to consciously work towards them/practice them to reach to some accepted standards. Very well said, we are perfectly imperfect🙂. Yes, we are work in progress, evolving not perfect, we are bound to make mistakes.

[@okimsky246]

I just recently started watching your videos , and I’ve noticed such a big difference in me && how I’ve been doing thing. Thank you so so much

[@lavendaire]

Amazing 💕💕

[@TiiABooSKeeH]

Thank you Aileen, and yes positive affirmation is so important especially when we don't feel it. I am worthy, I am enough. 😊

[@lavendaire]

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[@Anonymous-jq5zy]

You're literally one of my favourite people to listen to

[@VV-fq1cx]

I have a big envy problem, and I actually found this really insightful. I didn't expect to find helpful advice on something that already consumes my thoughts, but I'm so glad I did. You made important connections I hadn't quite reached on my own. Thank you.

[@katiabeltran1812]

Although I don't completely understand all the words you say, your videos help me just like no one. You are an inspirational person, I really enjoy your content and you make me better. A hug from Mexico.

[@daredreammedia]

Thank you Aileen..That's so amazing! Am learning Self-worth deeper and deeper.

[@lindaethiopiawit3554]

ever since i discovered you you literally made me want to change for the better. i never felt i can achieve everything in life. you just said so much wisdom and you have so much light !! i thank you for everything you say because its helping me want to shape my life. love and respect hun

[@lavendaire]

+linda Ethiopiawit that's so amazing to hear! So happy for you!!

[@lindaethiopiawit3554]

so happy for me too love

[@anandyadeasyandra157]

No, it's very good logic We see other people like we want to see, and it reflects ourself Well now I know why I admire you You are full of joy and I appreciate that you want to share positivity and happines to others World needs more people like you ❤

[@priscilamenjivar6741]

This is such a good video! It really opened my eyes and made me feel better about myself! Thank you so much for the empowerment!

[@scarlettr97]

I can't begin to tell you how much this vid meant to me today, I'm so touched by the positiveness and kindness that feels from you is amazing. Thank you ❤️

[@TrishM]

I'm feeling so down right now but I swear the world is always finding ways to help me out- which I'm grateful for. I wasn't looking for any videos like this, I just came across it. I'm now signed up to Shine and I'm looking forward to better days :) thank you for this video lavendaire, you have such a positive impact on others

[@MsAdrianjp]

Completely agree! Living in the Northwest (Vancouver BC), people always complain about the rain. Lately I have heard over and over "It hasn't stopped raining for months!" or "I am so sick of this rain". It's funny, because when I think back I can remember all of those sunny (or dry) days and I don't feel that it's rained that much. It makes me laugh inside when I hear people complain. I know that it is all about perspective. Once you start seeing only the good, only the good starts seeing you. XOXO With Gratitude, Adrian

[@lavendaire]

ha! yes everything is all perspective!

[@acriativelife]

You are one of that profiles that I always scroll!!❤️

[@lavendaire]

aww love, hope you bring out those qualities in yourself :D

[@curiousenough5906]

I second that :)

[@Hederaa9]

You're such a lovely person :) thank you for this series

[@KatieFilms]

thank you for always inspiring me 💚

[@lavendaire]

aww thank you for always supporting love! ✨

[@federicafantozzi7723]

Thank you Aileen for this beautiful persective! You are one of those who I admire ♡

[@lavendaire]

[@camilakomorebi178]

I loved the message of this video from the Back to Basics series. It´s awesome how you try to be inspired by what you feel/do everyday and how it helps us a lot. Thanks for this video, now I understand that the people that I admire is what I want to achieve as a person in a good way.

[@simopoci8]

I think that the name of this series is really appropriate to this video. You're right: to be happy and confident it's necessary to think that we are enough. For me we have to say not also "we are enough now, we are enough as we are in this moment" but also "we are enough to do whatever we want. Thank you for your video; as you say in another video, you really help people to change their life in a positive way.

[@jeanne_gdrd]

I had never seen things from this perspective (the whole mirroring thing) and I must say, it feels like an awakening. Thank you so much for that!

[@lynnicecarter1210]

This definitely makes sense. Sometimes it takes someone else to point out what we already know but don’t realize it. Thank you for bringing these inspirational thoughts. I watch your videos in the morning because they are so uplifting and the video quality is easy on the eye. It’s soft and simple. It may sound strange but the simplicity helps me focus more on the content verses a crazy busy scenery. Thank you 😊

[@SJL07]

This way of thinking makes perfect sense! I'd never thought of 'flipping the script' and realizing what I see in others is what I like in myself but it really does make sense. Looking at my friend's through the years and putting this logic to the test makes me realize why so many friends came and went. The qualities they and I had and how my needs changed. Thank you, Aileen 😘

[@lavendaire]

:) i'm so glad this video helped you see things differently. good luck!

[@sharebear5854]

Literally made me tear in the first minute, I needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@kythefairy2029]

This is so eye-opening!! I've never thought about the mirror thing, thankyou so so much for this video💜✨

[@happysparrow5929]

whoa! Spot on message. I definitely keep watching you videos because I admire your authenticity, positivity, generosity (never feel like you are holding back), hopefulness, openness, willingness to learn and teach. What a beautiful message, that the qualities we are drawn to, are the same qualities trying to break through the surface! I will let them 😊

[@elmrivo]

It made a lot of sense. Thanks for those kind words. I think we all need to tell them to ourselves regularly.

[@delhipanipuri]

Thankyou..This is the best way to not to compare in a -ve way but rather use that quality to uplift us.♥

[@nadzfNz]

I find myself keep coming back to watch your videos, such an inspirational and positive person.

[@enialb]

I think that's a great reflective exercise! Even if it takes awhile to act on those qualities, it's nice to look at jealousy in this productive way instead of just as a crippling social construct. I think this would be especially helpful for young people but, hey! It's never too late, right? Thanks for sharing your insight!

[@lavendaire]

yes! :) thank you, you're so kind

[@ohpinkiepie]

It's so true. Funny thing - your profile picture caught my attention and I felt this feeling of jealousy for a little while. I tried looking at this feeling closer and I understood: Your hairstyle looks amazing and I wish I could pull it off! I probably could, but the thing is: I've always been afraid to experiment with hairstyles. I thought it wouldn't suit me and would make people look at me. And here it is - I found myself in the person I am jealous of, haha!

[@happysparrow5929]

You are about to break 200,000 girl. You are a FORCE💜 I hope you celebrate 🍾💃🏻

[@Indrani_Mukherjee19]

it absolutely makes sense... I am going through this transition myself... I completely relate to every word..

[@pm-ne2vt]

I am attracted to people who walk with confidence as if the only thing that matters is what they are doing/need to do. Like they're the main character of their world.

[@lindacoufalova9871]

I found your channel yesterday and I already saw like 15 videos. Thank you for the thoughts you share! One other youtube blogger once said that we need to surround ourselves with people who uplift us and share positive energy with us even though they are "only" bloggers and we don't speak to them in person. It really reminded me of you, so thank you, your videos are really inspiring.

[@bth5319]

" I am enough " . Thank you for your video!

[@kiterafrey]

I really admire your style and your voice and your genuine love of self

[@jessjones7647]

You are absolutely incredible, these 8 minutes have completely shifted my mind set, needed to hear this more than anything ❤

[@KatyStephens1]

I love this SO much! There needs to be more people like you in this world that deliver beautiful messages like this one. 💖

[@lavendaire]

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[@DarkRuins]

Your channel is literally the greatest, most inspiring, peaceful work of art I've ever discovered. I've been searching for a channel like yours for a while, and I feel so blessed now that I've found yours! It's perfect! x

[@lavendaire]

omg i'm so glad you found my channel! thank you so much

[@ohjulia5690]

thank you for inspiring me!

[@lavendaire]

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[@sonalibachwani6241]

Thank you so much, Aileen. Comparison traps were constantly bringing me down and your perspective completely gives it a new meaning, I already feel so much better.

[@F0reverblessed]

Sonali Bachwani Comparing ourselves definitely steals from our own joy. 💕

[@annaguerra3040]

Funny enough I did a guided meditation this morning talking about the same topic. I had to pick out three people I admired and the qualities they possessed. It made me realize those qualities were actually some of my values and the reason I was drawn to them so much.

[@lavendaire]

Anna Guerra aww that's so nice!

[@livingunjaded]

You are so right about us having the qualities that we are envious of in others! It's like that saying that judgement from others is a reflection of their insecurities. If we apply it to ourselves, it's a similar point...love how thoughful and insightful this series has been :)

[@lavendaire]

yes that's true too!! people who judge the most are the most insecure. everything is a mirror. sending you love ✨

[@nane6267]

I needed this really this week...THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MOTIVATING ME AND CHANGING MY LIFE INTO GOOD❤❤❤❤

[@SimplySereneWellness]

Wow, beautifully said. I never thought of it this way. Thank you, this really shifted it all for me 💜

[@mozaalkharji7760]

I wish I came across this a while ago, it could've helped me with stopping from beating myself up. I like the way you think about it and how to think that you have what you've liked on social media. I'm trying this now and it's working out!

[@jingpei7547]

Thanks Aileen for this refreshing perspective on our attraction to others! I just started a blog and started out super excited about it and through the weekend became more and more discouraged. I found myself comparing myself to others who had such established followings and felt like I could never share my experience and reach people like them. But I know that feeling definitely stems from my desire to positively influence someone else. Love your videos, thanks for the Monday morning pep talk! :)

[@elizaksapara-grant6559]

I’m honestly so grateful. So so grateful for this channel ❤️

[@wikaramadani1368]

i never realize before for what reason I adore a certain person and maybe now i have to ask myself again. and topic about comparison trap really help me... thank you and i love you Lavendaire! keep inspiring!! 💜

[@oh72911]

I love that. It's inspiration and aspiration to what I could be. Another step up for myself

[@hollyberrii]

You are a breath of fresh air

[@ANabiha]

you're literally like the big sister I never had, telling me I'm good enough.

[@ambarosaky9945]

you always make me feel better :)

[@lavendaire]

[@U2xfan]

I love this, and really needed it. I have recently been struggling with my self-confidence/worth, which is something I have never struggled with before. I realized that a lot of the cause is that i see a lot of people on social media doing a lot of things that I want to do... then i realized well.. duh, just make those things happen for myself!

[@lavendaire]

Yes :) make those things happens for yourself! ✨

[@AshleyABrannon]

beautiful message xx you're full of light!

[@lavendaire]

thank you love, you are too!! ✨ (if you see it in me, it's in you too hehe)

[@LeendaDProductions]

awe super cute video thanks for sharing :)

[@lavendaire]

+LeendaDProductions thank you!!

[@ashley-nicole6605]

This literally changes everything

[@mh-nc1bg]

I was crying the whole video 😢❤❤ I was feeling self conscious like crazy!!You are a life saver 😍 Thank you soo much♡ Have a wonderful day and you are STUNNING❤

[@dalyazeno]

Thank you so much for this. Especially lately, I've been craving the feeling of self love and confidence. Constantly comparing myself to everyone else can honestly get so exhausting. This video came exactly at the time I needed it most, I even teared up. Thank you again, you inspire me❤️

[@F0reverblessed]

Great video! Especially today, where social media has become so powerful and the main reason why people start to doubt themselves. 💕

[@joseneto8260]

I can't explain my feelings watching this. Thanks😍