You Cringe You Lose: Proposals From Hell

codysrunclub.com
edited by: / goofyjuice
Jobs: www.notion.so/...
Video Idea / Collaboration Form: forms.gle/2Hnc...

[@sugarmelody1001]

Good on all the women who said no despite the pressure. Those dudes’ embarrassment is on themselves.

[@kasapbandy1776]

Hitting him with a ukulele was a bit much though

[@DeRocco21]

the embarrassment is on both of them, and our enjoyment

[@jayflorien4621]

​@@kasapbandy1776literal assault 💀

[@solala1312b]

that was fake though​@@kasapbandy1776

[@desolate2]

​@@kasapbandy1776That was fake as heck.

[@Emma-zc5jm]

The "she should just say yes to not embarrass him" is like a huge reason they do these massively public proposals. They feel like she'll have to say yes. Unless your partner told you they want something like that, don't do it!! It's super humiliating and feels like a trap

[@shadowsndust284]

Right? Being proposed to in public is the exact opposite of what I want, and if someone pulled that kind of stunt on me, I’d wonder if they really knew me at all and if I really knew them.

[@tonyhawk2479]

you know that even if you say yes you are not legally obligated to marry the gy. just say no after that you silly goose

[@padisleiero]

no fr like the dude my mom was dating proposed to her at a restaurant when that was like the main place she said she didnt want to be proposed to and it worked!!! obviously they’re divorced now if you uh couldnt tell

[@ninad7525]

Saying "yes" and then "no" later could be way worse...making the guy think you actually want to marry him and then pulling the rug out under. Some guys would probably refuse to believe that you actually wanted to say "no" in the first place if you hadn't rejected them in the moment, tbh I feel like that's exactly the kind of crazy that would stage an unwanted public proposal. @@tonyhawk2479

[@eldritchtourist]

​@@tonyhawk2479 Have you tried having a spine?

[@user-xd7dt6gr8l]

what's crueler? saying no to a proposal, or proposing to someone in an extremely public area that you dont know will 100% say yes, and making them be the asshole by saying no in front of a crowd

[@TayTayGrace03]

EXACTLY 💯

[@MiyaMam948]

Say it louder 🗣️

[@rosesigner]

No kidding.

[@squirrel670]

People also want the woman to say yes and then nevermind afterwards because they think that's the right thing to do despite it making no sense.

[@TehIdiotOne]

100%. I don't understand why you would ever do something like that unless you agreed on it beforehand, or were atleast 100% positive that she'd say yes.

[@CUPIDOFFIClAL]

The promposal with the dance routine was so bad because he was facing away from the girl most of the time. He was very clearly putting on a show for the other students and she was an unwilling participant.

[@makeawishkidaaq1222]

it was acc just an act to get views he goes to my school. she was in on it

[@brookmellon1167]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@thebigblippity5221]

@@makeawishkidaaq1222that’s way worse.

[@roogle3878]

Top 5 worst places to propose: 1. Underground parking 2. Crowded McDonald’s 3. Your best buds garage 4. Shopping mall 5. Workplace

[@RainyDays2790]

6 near any body of water

[@Kuromi-jd5pc]

7. Theme Park

[@leahstewart3559]

honestly i think i would rather be proposed to in an underground parking garage than a shopping mall in front of all those people 😭

[@kaleyum778]

Hotel

[@Tenuous.tomato]

The train saying “not so sweet” was foreshadowing

[@kuroneko334]

The whole video was an ad lol

[@catmom08]

Cody's hunch was right. It was an advertising gimmick in India for Cadbury. Haha.

[@PernilleEasterbrook]

Part 2: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fIHapn-cma-Xeq8

[@PernilleEasterbrook]

Part 2: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fIHapn-cma-Xeq8

[@Tenuous.tomato]

@@kuroneko334their marketing team did good then😅

[@thelobester7814]

“When you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while” bro thought he was Bruno mars.

[@octopus8978]

I acc thought he was going to sing the song and say he wrote it 💀💀

[@CuteAnimalVideos2580]

more like Brundeep Mashalkar

[@jenninnoli]

bruno bars

[@Random-sk6hm]

Man out here creatively plagiarising

[@adelia-nsb]

Lmao 💀

[@DaleEarndhardt]

Nevermind the proposal, imagine being the guy in the wolf costume. Like wtf are you supposed to do? *A quirky dance?*

[@hazyrays994]

at least no one can see your face

[@kenziehansen2424]

@@hazyrays994i think it makes it worse that the mask kept the happy expression during such a cringe moment😅😅

[@Angeee119]

Im 10/10 leaving. Like "i think it's my break!" *looks at fake watch and leaves.

[@shonarose6615]

Fortnite dance

[@blockmonster2812]

Your girlfriend of years says no to your proposal and the wolf widderwy hits the gwiddy

[@kalistyles4538]

Booing a Woman because she said no is effed up.

[@robinnicole4466]

It's fake sports arenas fake that sh.t all the time

[@Chunkyjalapeno]

1.2k likes and one reply? Bots!

[@fawnieee]

​​@@Chunkyjalapeno sir, I think it's time you take your meds

[@Chunkyjalapeno]

@@fawnieee you alpha gen tik tic monke Brain!

[@austinhuber3131]

Womp Womp. Shoulda said yes.

[@Carols989]

feel so bad for the girl that was booed, but kudos she stayed strong and didnt let pressure change her decision

[@rita_3967]

Doing a proposal in front of a packed stadium while you're not sure if they're gonna say yes is WILD

[@freakinflapjacks2926]

It’s a minor league baseball team too😭 they were the new Britain rock cats but now they’re the yard goats

[@trevorhman12]

It’s staged😂

[@mariya_tortilla]

@@trevorhman12 thank god

[@rita_3967]

I'm so relieved lol@@trevorhman12

[@JakeYolk]

It's probably scripted

[@rjai5003]

I couldn’t imagine proposing to someone in general unless I was 100% positive they’d say yes, let alone in public, and definitely not on national television

[@lindseyp9131]

You both have to agree ahead of time that you actually want to get married!

[@annierebeccaa]

@@lindseyp9131yep! The engagement proposal in itself shouldn’t actually be a surprise. The only surprise should be where/when/how they’ll pop the question.

[@brittnay279]

Yeah, my husband and I went and picked the rings together and then he surprised me with a proposal…in private. I would be horrified by a super public proposal lmao.

[@PreppyInPink_Girlsss]

"You're my sweetie pie. You're my cutie pie-" 🚂

[@adrianw0w757]

"You're my creampie"

[@PernilleEasterbrook]

Part 2: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fIHapn-cma-Xeq8

[@Damian-ld1ny]

i thought he said curry pie lol

[@arshiiia]

it was fake it was an ad

[@ZeromuS_]

Has to be fake. Has to be fake.

[@karmakameleon113]

There's backstory to the one where the mom fell down (it's an older video)- that was a fake fall- she did it on purpose. Her daughters have spoken out about how she's a narcissist and would always pull shit like that because she couldn't stand not being the center of attention. Whenever they had a big moment coming up (a game, a recital, a birthday, etc.) she would always conveniently hurt herself somehow or get sick. They weren't going to feed the attention demon that day so they just went ahead and had their moment. I remember seeing that video for the first time almost 10 years ago so hopefully the daughters have some peace in their lives now.

[@lacy6710]

6:20

[@anjalik1136]

Oh my god

[@elodieelvira7913]

It is a very known fact that a lot of the public proposals where the woman says no, she SHOULD DEFINITELY SAY NO because it is a transparent attempt at forcing an answer that would not be the outcome without the pressure of a crowd. Men really be doing the most whenever it’s inappropriate

[@cheeseboogar]

If there's something I've learned from watching failed proposal videos is that do not propose near a body of water

[@lehon481]

Yes! Never propose where you can drop and lose the ring! Flat and solid ground is best.

[@denisaelena996]

I swear Cody himself proposed by the sea 😂

[@cheeseboogar]

@denisaelena996 tbf he had a bit of distance away from the ocean and he would've needed a tornado to blow the ring out of his hands. What I should've said is don't propose when you have water below you lol

[@nyreebaldwin1642]

I agree with this! I just watched a video of Millie Bobby Brown telling her story of how she got proposed to. Her boyfriend took her on a dive and they almost fumbled the ring into the deep blue sea lol

[@lakshitadidwania2251]

b-but cody did 😭

[@PrakkleRock]

If you are ready to embarrass someone in public.....then you better be ready to be embarrassed back when things dont work out

[@brookehop8]

This

[@SourLemonade57]

💯💯💯

[@riley1892]

if you're not comfortable being publicly rejected, don't publicly propose. there is no reason a woman should have to say yes just to make men feel better

[@a-mb3wl]

Based

[@its-faithikins2263]

100%!!

[@solus8685]

Based and girlbosspilled

[@zvezdoblyat]

No, why would you even propose if you don't know the answer will be yes? A proposal should NEVER be a surprise

[@TheBookSkeptic]

Exactly! 👏

[@Altarior]

Imagine a dude you don't love proposing to you in public. You're backed into a corner, you didn't put yourself in that situation. You obviously tell him no, and somehow YOU're the a$$hole because you didn't "spare his feelings". Seriously...!? He was the one who brought you both into that uncomfortable situation, it's 10000% on him.

[@HappyLarry.]

The fact that that dude did a whole ass dance for his "prom-posal", but made the entire thing about HIM and showing off to everyone else EXCEPT the person he's asking to the prom is genuinely insane. Like he literally LEAVES her to go and dance to the crowd!

[@thedeviouspanda]

Prom-posals are so cringe in the first place. You're asking someone you're already (usually) dating to a dance. It's just a fancy date lol.

[@desolate2]

​@@thedeviouspandaThere was a white kid who asked a black girl to the prom with a sign that said, "I may not be cotton, but will you PICK me for the prom?" Also had cotton on the sign. That was the worst I had ever seen. And she said yes.

[@desolate2]

Where did you see him walk off & dance?

[@geokim8590]

@@desolate2 It's a funny joke and if she wasn't offended why are you getting mad

[@rxx.Samira]

​@@desolate2 when he goes to dance with the other guys at around 13:40

[@Aspensop]

the mall proposal was actually an advertisement done by cadbury!!! insane tho lmao it seemed so real

[@lemoncakeenthusiast]

source?

[@elisebikker]

@@lemoncakeenthusiast Just look up Cadbury mall proposal. You will find countless sources

[@spookeymo]

@@lemoncakeenthusiast all it takes to find it is googling "cadbury mall proposal"

[@djminchu5116]

yesssssssssssssssssssssss

[@larsland]

AHAHAHA amazing

[@Jellyfish146]

"She looks excited" bro she looks nauseous

[@s4m1r_65]

I hate when people say "she should have said yes, and then no later". She doesn't have to protect him from the public humiliation. She was already subject without consent to be exposed in a very uncomfortable situation in front of hundreds of people she don't know.

[@Sushigabby]

i've started to think this way too. i used to think like oh she should just soft reject in front of ppl to save face or whatever but i don't feel that way anymore. you gotta be prepared for them to say no if you do a big public thing like that

[@MyTexanHeart]

Exactly. She was humiliated by him first so why spare him anything. 😂

[@gingerweasel2]

Yup. He made it public. If he was hoping I'd bend to social pressure if he got enough people to stare at me, then guess what buddy. Also, even if I was super into someone, if they did something like this, it would be a no because we've definitely got some shit to talk about first. Because no one that actually knows me would think I would ever want to be proposed to like that.

[@kay.gochii]

⁠@@MyTexanHeart It’s not a competition, she doesn’t need to get back at him. She’s under no obligation to spare him from embarrassment but if she cares about him and they’re in a loving relationship, literally what would be the harm and saying yes and then pulling him to the side to have a more private conversation later?

[@RossPullen]

As a man, the way I protect myself from public humiliation is by not making grand gestures in public. It's actually quite easy to avoid them

[@chlochlo217]

i think that ur gf saying yes to you and then being like “i actually meant no” at a later time would be much more heartbreaking than some public embarrassment

[@anjalik1136]

Exactly! It would be so much worse to think your partner is going to marry you only for them to reject you later

[@amya7637]

Cody hardly ever has an L take. "Say yes so he won't be embarrassed and then say no later" is one of them.

[@mikuenjoyerXD]

Yep

[@paolaborcic9202]

I think he was making an impression of the guy with the mic while he was saying that, but if he wasn't then i agree

[@graccusbro2061]

W take

[@menoguchi]

​@@graccusbro2061this seems like the type of person who'd call others snowflakes and yet you're here advocating that feelings should be coddled and protected in order for the men to not feel bwad 🥺

[@graccusbro2061]

@@menoguchi how exactly did you figure out how i look? LOL. and no, you're quite wrong.

[@Bambell15]

11:40 ‘you can’t jump it’s too shallow.’ Then hears the sound of someone jumping in, in the background. It kills me every time.

[@Immaculate0ne]

The kid crying cracked me up too, like just perfect disaster like a situation comedy

[@CainValkrie]

from memory i think they actually managed to get the ring back but i could be mistaken

[@austinnsuff6576]

I feel like there are cases when the man asks the woman in public on purpose to try and emotionally manipulate her to say 'yes'.

[@joxxoox]

I agree

[@succhiami]

that's interesting because anytime I see a woman propose to a man I immediately think that, lmao.

[@austinnsuff6576]

@@OldManYellsAtClouds I didn't say in all cases or even in THESE cases. I said I think in SOME cases it does happen.

[@saturn888]

100%

[@RL_ManicFX]

@@austinnsuff6576well tbh in some cases, anything happens.

[@dangerxbadger2300]

For anyone saying these women should've said yes in public and then no in private, I'm going to leave a quote here from a book I read a while back that really stuck with me that I think applies to this situation: "Women MUST unlearn our conditioned impulse to sacrifice our comfort, dignity and safety for the perception of being polite and the approval of strangers."

[@jerry_mandarin]

underrated comment

[@pey5571]

yes!!! exactly. i can understand why people want the woman to say yes to save the guy from embarrassment, but really it is entirely HIS fault if he gets embarrassed for doing such an extravagant and public proposal. it's just not fair to expect the woman to save the guy from his own terrible decision making, especially if it means she has to pretend to say yes and be happy.

[@EveAlyse-pg4mk]

Thank you thank you thank you

[@drogba0019]

Yes because women are the only ones who are taught to do that🤦‍♂️🙄

[@spagheddie69]

For real! Theres been plenty of times where men have chosen to do these elaborate public proposals specifically to pressure her into saying yes. Shouldnt shame women for being honest and standing up for themselves

[@soberserotonin1850]

I personally think these big, public proposals indicate a remarkable degree of selfishness. I can’t imagine a more selfish action than to use public shaming and anxiety (i.e., torture) to manipulate your partner into saying yes despite their prior misgivings. I’m sure many of them are done innocently, at least not consciously being manipulative, but it’s a huge red flag to me if your partner pulls one of these humiliating, cringey stunts. I’m admittedly biased because I experience significant social anxiety, but forcing me into one of these situations would be torture. Even if I wanted to marry the person, I think I would say no and maybe reconsider being in the relationship at all if they did one of these. It’s not cute; it’s selfish, manipulative, egotistical, “main character syndrome” behavior.

[@Toushi99]

if thats all it takes to reconsider a relationship you likely didn't actually want to marry in the first place

[@andarwarje8127]

This is exactly why I didn't kneel down to propose to my wife. It was at a NYE event so we were around other people but I quietly asked her without kneeling and held out the ring not in a box or anything so literally no one else noticed. She said "of course!" but I wanted her to be able to say "uh, no thanks" without the pressure of people staring at us.

[@rileybaker9224]

@@Toushi99that makes no sense. if you’re someone who would hate a public proposal, why would you marry someone who doesn’t even know you well enough to know you don’t want that? or even worse- someone who doesn’t care about your feelings and does it anyway?

[@ninzabeans]

11:39 "you can't jump it's too shallow" *SPLASH*

[@itisyerdad]

The fact the Indian mall proposal was a fake ad for the Cadbury chocolates advertised on the trains that rolls through is buckwild to me.

[@somethingnexttonormal]

It is??????

[@Sadhrita2002]

Yes

[@martispartis05]

in my opinion, a proposal should NEVER be a surprise. The time and place yes, but never the fact that its happening!!!😭😭

[@winniethepooht5776]

​@Maddie-eu8xv because they weren't taught that. So many- not all -but so many were taught to just take charge instead of communicating.

[@whyaretheykinda]

I hate this mentality of "oh she should have said yes in public and no later." Like, she doesn't have to cater to his emotions to help him save face. Another commenter said it could be a way to manipulate her to say yes, and I totally agree.

[@leebubbles]

I agree😭😭if she doesn’t want to then she gets to reject him, that’s it. Idc if it’s in public😭😭the guy was the one who chose to do it in public anyways. A girl shouldn’t have to fake her emotions, give someone false hope, and go back on her word after they’re not in public. And vice versa

[@josiahjray]

Literally no one said she was obligated to do anything, but it’s kind to try and save the person you love from some embarrassment.

[@avasava7720]

If I ever get proposed to it's my life mission to just overtly say no..

[@GoodTimeForARoll]

Wouldn't it be bad anyway to say yes there but then no later, if you say yes, it should be because you mean it. If I said yes, it would be really hard for me to say no later bc they'll be very happy and telling everyone I said yes

[@Zionswasd]

no, youre a psycho, and yes they should have said no later to not harm them.

[@nickparsons3194]

Marriage is such a huge commitment and something you should both talk about and agree to. You can still surprise your partner with the timing or do something sweet to show how much they mean to you but you should still have had a conversation before hand agreeing that marriage is something you both want.

[@aqua-mina]

Most of the times, I think massively public proposals are kinda selfish/self-centered and more for the person making the proposal rather than for the person being proposed to.

[@datoneweirdo2524]

yeah i always see comments on public proposals saying she should just say yes to not embarrass the man what the hell, no no no people should never feel like they need to say yes when they dont want to, especially just because itll make someone else embarrassed for something they decided to do

[@th3summoner]

Unironically you shouldn't propose to ask someone if they want to get married. The proposal should be the formal/ceremonial agreement, please for the love of god coordinate your intentions beforehand.

[@KOmyself]

yeah ppl mostly do this now cus it’s tradition but it’s just weird like not how humans should work

[@Sushigabby]

yes! you should already know that you both want to get married. the proposal is the surprise of when and how you ask, not ~if~ you're asking!

[@thelittlepixel_4798]

Fucking yes!!!! I don’t get not talking about it before hand

[@mcreynoldsmedia]

I like to say that the proposal is a surprise but the engagement should be planned

[@nyrea8163]

My man and I discussed marriage and that it was what we both wanted and that we wanted to marry each other before he proposed. It was perfect. He set up a picnic in the mountain it was just the two of us we built a little snow man and went on a little walk and then he did it. It was perfect the ring was beautiful and we are getting legally eloped in Vegas on Tuesday just the two of us but we are gonna have a wedding next year

[@barbieoftheweek]

I'd bet money that the stadium proposal was his last ditch effort to get her to say yes. She said something like "you know I can't", so this isn't the first time he asked. Cody saying she should just say yes in the moment is probably exactly what he's hoping for

[@myriellachance]

I don't think some of them are like: "No, I'm too far in, stopping now would be even more embarassing." But way too delusional to realize that what they're doing is uncomfortable asf for the other person. I mean - some cringy videos out there are proof that there are people who really overestimate their charm and abilities. Not to say that's a bad thing, but I just feel sorry for the ladies who have to sit through this out of politeness. And it's not like the dude might get "backlash" from these failed proposals - more often than not they get pitied while the woman is seen as weird and cruel for saying no.

[@ancientalien000]

i have never met someone with the social awareness and emotional intelligence that is required to pull off a surprise public proposal. but unfortunately i have met many who tried anyway. like you said way too many people think they are more charming than they really are, but also many of them think they know their partner better than they really do. it's not that hard to figure out if someone has a personality that is open to receiving a public proposal, but a lot of these guys still can't figure it out.

[@myriellachance]

@@ancientalien000 Tbh if they can't figure out if their partner wouldn't like that, they're not ready for marriage with that (or any other person) in any way. And it shows how little they talked about, too when you see the shock on the partner's face about the possibility of this proposal. There are some really sweet public/social proposals (like the one at a bird show if you've seen that one), where both partners just know each other and know what makes them happy. But I usually can't watch any public proposal videos because I can't handle the sheer discomfort. The stress it must put on the "victim" of that situation ... ugh. Awful. Especially with those shows these self-centered people put on, too. It's not about their partner, it's about them.

[@dangerxbadger2300]

Women are conditioned and expected to fall all over ourselves at the mere mention of a man being interested in us. We are supposed to make it our entire life goal to be chosen and be grateful for anyone who decides to do so. It's disgusting, but those psychological roots run very deep, and the conditioning for those beliefs starts very, very early in life. We have to be aware of this and raise our kids to be and do better! Women deserve agency, and men deserve to function as full, socially intelligent human beings.

[@christinepoppy3277]

I think sadly, that some people do this because they know their partner is not that into them and wouldn’t say yes, and they think an over the top display like this will change their partners mind.. Whether it’s because they’ve been misguided by movies or poor advice that this is what women want, or they are genuinely manipulative, I don’t know. But I wish we could just agree that these were bad ideas to begin with and we shouldn’t blame the person who had no involvement in planning and was just dragged into it all. Also, expecting that person to lie, is a whole other layer of unfair, as if they wouldn’t be shamed for being cruel for “leading someone on”…? Anyways, it’s 2024, and we need to finally acknowledge the importance of consent and accepting rejection, no matter how embarrassing it is for the person proposing.

[@twilightgavemebpd]

every time cody talks about how the little mishaps make special moments more memorable i know it's because he's thinking about that damn dead walrus

[@trashcameraguy999]

My husband is a diver. He went for a really long dive one day in Lake Tahoe. The thing is that he gets bloody noses really easily. Well, while he was diving, some people set up their wedding where he was going to come out of the water. He didn't know what was going on. He had blood all over his face from his nose bleed in his mask. He starts walking up in his fins. He walked right through the wedding, in the middle of the ceremony because there was nowhere else to walk. Talk about a bad sign. I have always wondered what happened to that couple.

[@figleaf8948]

If they're saying no, that means marriage wasn't discussed ahead of time. The ones being proposed to don't owe it to the men to save face for them by saying yes just because they don't know how to have a conversation.

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

To all my ladies out there: DO NOT SAY YES just to save a man's ego. IF HE LOVED YOU he would have discussed marriage with you beforehand. You do NOT EVER SAY YES to MANIPULATIVE MEN. NEVER. Do NOT back down, do NOT listen to the people telling you to "just say yes then no later". YOU ARE YOUR OWN WOMAN. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY, SAY NO!

[@wispurrin]

THIS

[@fernandalarios1414]

Exactly ! Sometimes I think these public proposals are so manipulative like they do it so they’ll say yes.

[@Random-sk6hm]

@randyRamrando As another guy, seconded, don't peer pressure people into marriage

[@sleeanisnotlean]

love based men@randyRamrando

[@Алинұр-б8к]

The worst one is not the say yes then no caption its the mcdonalds proposal where people stated to boo her for rejecting him while he clearly does not care for her enough to make this moment special 😭😭

[@theunnamedboog3197]

I find it so annoying when people say 'you should've said yes and then told them no later' well MAYBE they shouldn't have put you on the spot

[@susannehuber3996]

Amen to that. It’s very personal.

[@amentrison2794]

tbh the only reason I'd do that is to save myself the embarrassment of getting booed, rather than trying to spare *his* feelings

[@EatinPeaches82]

True bitch logic. If you can't handle that simple kindness maybe you don't deserve a good man proposing marriage in ANY setting. Man offers to spend the rest of his life with you and you can't even bother with a tiny bit of kindness. He was probably trying to make it a memorable occasion and now lives with public rejection and humiliation because he mistook you for someone better. Pretty sure he dodged the bullet not the other way around 😅

[@EatinPeaches82]

True bitch logic. The guy is offering to spend the rest of his life with you and you can't even offer that little bit of kindness. Probably trying to make it a memorable occasion and you publicly rejected and humiliated them. You don't deserve even a proposal in private with that mentality. Pretty sure the GUY dodged the bullet not the other way around. Remember, you get what you give in life.

[@miriammusembwa3733]

14:51 My thing with the failed public proposals is that it shows that either 1) the guy doesn’t know the girl he’s asking out well enough or 2) he just cares more about himself. Like with the guy who proposed the Banghra dancers they weren’t even dancing for her. They were dancing behind her, so she would have to turn around to watch them dance. It was clearly more about him looking good for everyone else who was watching the proposal than for her to enjoy the proposal.

[@evane179]

I hate when people say that you should "just say yes and tell them no later." It isn't your fault that they decided to do a public proposal. You're allowed to say no to a proposal, and them setting themselves up for some embarrassment isn't your fault. Giving them a false answer would involve crushing their happy feelings later anyways. They put you in an awkward situation too where you have to say no in front of a crowd. That's the unfortunate consequences of making that decision. You're setting yourself up for either a public proposal or rejection and you should accept that.

[@yv-ui7he]

people blaming the women for not saying yes instead of the men for proposing in a very public place is insane

[@romanmay2867]

i mean it’s the most gracious thing to do obviously no one should do that cause it can cause issues later but that’s asking a lot especially when they put them into an embarrassing situation for them even if the onlookers don’t think it’s bad or anything, i don’t feel like many people like their personal stuff to be megaphoned to random people and then proposed to i think these men just are either naive or arrogant and think the big gesture is all he needs to “win the girl”

[@JalapenoBizniz]

While I can see why folks think it’s harmless to say yes in public, it really casts a light on why women feel pressure to say yes to things they don’t want to do.

[@romanmay2867]

@@JalapenoBizniz true also what about the heartbreak later lmao it’s a hard decision tho if u don’t wanna embarrass them more

[@squirrel670]

​@@romanmay2867 the most gracious thing to do is to reject them as appropriate. Saying yes for pretend makes them think they're going to get married when that's not the case and if they were genuine the pain is going to be worse later. If they assumed it would be yes, that doesn't make sense if marriage was never discussed and they aren't ready to be married. If they are manipulative and using peer pressure to force the relationship, it's harder to say no after you've said yes. People have gotten married and stayed like that when the relationship should've ended because they felt pressured into it. Just straight suffering for no good reason.

[@squirrel670]

​@@romanmay2867a lot of people have told their partner explicitly that they'd never want a public proposal. They get it though. Why? To pressure them into saying yes. They get backed up by naive people who take pity on them and their manipulation as if all of them don't know any better and they meant well, when they clearly don't know enough about the other person to be proposing to them.

[@lazyken6468]

“The worst she can say is no” Her:*concussion initiated*

[@romanmay2867]

it’s either fake or he dodged a bullet

[@v.xien.]

@@romanmay2867dodged a bullet from what? He embarrassed the shit out of her and was gonna make her look like the villain. It’s a manipulation tactic to force the person to say yes/control them. And the way she reacted, he’s probably pulled stunts like that before

[@romanmay2867]

@@v.xien. ofc i’m not saying he’s not in the wrong he is, but that doesn’t constitute assault, using your logic who knows about the abuse she inflicted on him. i agree it’s a tactic for that but you can still say no or say not here or not yet or leave but assault?

[@adeposie]

@@romanmay2867 where’d they say assault?

[@romanmay2867]

@@adeposie they didn’t i did. she hit him with a guitar over the head

[@Solitude1990]

Asking someone to marry you in public in front of a bunch of people when you’re not sure she’ll say yes is an easy manipulation tactic to get her to say yes; and then if she says no later(after she comes to her senses) people will call her a bitch for it. No, women don’t have to say yes to cater to someone else’s feelings. Say no if you want to say no ladies; just say no and walk away

[@Annabellethedoll666]

Exactly, it’s so messed up they boo her.

[@danyellebanegas9013]

I mean I understand the girls in high school rejecting those guys. I literally had a stalker who would never leave me alone, he literally got me valentines gifts, and wrote me love letters that I never accepted. I told him to his face to leave me alone and that I didn’t like him and that just fueled his crazy obsession even more. So way to go girl for telling that guy no, she could’ve been in the same situation.

[@duranneeaton895]

The dude doing the whole dance choreography proposal reminds me of a bird trying to find a mate with its flashy moves. Bring this back

[@Lindseyisloony]

6:20 Their reactions make it SO CLEAR that mom is being dramatic and they know it. Nobody lies completely still for that long after a fall unless they're unconscious or felt something break. The latter is generally accompanied by cries of pain. She fell for real but immediately decided to milk it because she had just been unceremoniously ushered out of frame when she wanted her picture taken.

[@dead_girl777]

that's what I was thinking as well

[@thecrepeofdeath]

​@@joeb3017magnificent

[@urbestcowboy]

yeah it seemed like she was trying to be in the picture for attention tbh

[@brookehop8]

the other daughter being like “look at your daughter” while she was being proposed to is like okay girlie maybe just tough it out for a minute or two unless you broke a hip

[@ChimeraGirl_]

Sounds like another person that grew up with a narcissistic parent. lol 🙋‍♀

[@angelicabattise3186]

You’ll never forget the dead animal really close to your proposal. Kelsey loved it haha

[@sophiaminutoli2489]

"it's not me farting" sure okay cody

[@LittleNinja2013]

That’s what they all say after farting 😂

[@chains4715]

If I proposed to someone I would wait till winter, ask her to go on a stroll at night, then reveal the spot where I I pissed in the snow to spell “Will you marry me?” I think that would be totally acceptable

[@silentpeppers47]

what a chad

[@chains4715]

@silentpeppers47 lol

[@Samantha-ts4tp]

The last one was so wholesome, like he rejected the proposal but still confirmed his love & wanted to talk about it later lol

[@avasilvia1280]

wonder when kelsey will let cody back in the house

[@kenziehansen2424]

he only goes in for baths, and on really stormy nights.

[@bandaid.bandit]

@@kenziehansen2424help this is so funny

[@ellinskey4422]

To propose in front of thousands of strangers is such a weird concept to me. It puts so much pressure on the person being proposed to. I know I would be really uncomfortable if it happened to me...

[@nicolenotizieeamici]

I would not be happy at all about that

[@EnergizingBane]

I’d hate to propose in front of anyone else but a partner

[@localnailjunkie]

NEVER NEVER NEVER propose over a floor that has cracks between, holes in it, lots of water directly underneath you, or sand. If you drop it, slim chances of finding it! ❤

[@music9521]

Even for an adult it's a risk, and he handed the ring to a child 😭

[@AngryKittens]

I thought you were gonna say something about it being bad feng shui or something. Haha

[@psycherevivedby]

Never propose on water or land!

[@SergheyKatastrofenko]

14:12 those people booing the girl because she said no will stay in my head for ever. That must be traumatizing. WHY?? That was insane.

[@PaulWillisJr]

Used to work as a photographer at the top of the Sears Tower, and we had a couple come in once to take photos. The SkyDeck is CONSTANTLY packed to the absolute gills, especially the glass boxes. They get on, and take some photos, and then after a minute or so, one of them drops on one knee. The entire line behind them erupts in applause, which prompts the rest of the lines to do the same, and I'm sitting there snapping flash photo after flash photo as the partner being proposed to is repeating, "Man what? What are you doing? Stop this. Oh no, oh no, nah" etc. They were there for a full fifteen minutes before they finally left and quietly exited the SkyDeck. Catastrophic to watch in person.

[@lyledeyounges1276]

That’s why she left, she’s was shaking her head and saying to the worker “this man did not just propose to me in a line at McDonald’s. In a mall.” We all would’ve walked.

[@kasiarodkey5149]

If my bf proposes to me in public, we’re breaking up. Luckily, there’s a 0% chance of that, as I have no bf.

[@xXbreeezaliciousXx]

Same girl, same 😕

[@Conbonicle]

Yeah. Why the fuck would you want an audience? It's a private thing anyway. We're not here to seek attention from the world (though some are)

[@Daisy99999]

Literally i saw a video of someone getting proposed to in the middle of a DJ at a huge EDM festival right next to the speakers. It was so cringey like what

[@cupcakeabc123]

Cody's unique proposal experience was a rotting seal carcass lying between him and Kelsey

[@rachelmayes3064]

The ring was inside the carcass.

[@w.lvermaak9894]

15:14 that dude only proposed because he thought McDonald's would pay for his wedding like the KFC proposal went down in SA, guaranteed🤣. And proposing after shopping at Checkers too, a true romantic!

[@shadowgirl11]

These proposals make me so happy that my husband took me to the park, found a quiet place and proposed. My husband and I planned it because he was too nervous and even though he knew I would say yes. But I honestly really liked it because though it was not a surprise, we both talked about it, planned it, and had a lovely proposal.

[@heartroll8719]

The guy singing “Somewhere over the rainbow” mad me laugh. I’m sorry, I know he wants it to be a perfect way to ask someone to prom but sorry.

[@pbloc1399]

I had to pause multiple times cause of the cringe.. haha

[@nichole9818]

"She should have just said yes to save him the embarrassment" is probably the most straight guy take you could have on the situation

[@brigit.the.seagoat]

fr

[@curtisisaverage8817]

Well he is a pretty generic straight guy lmao

[@kushj9568]

Love how being a straight guy is being used as some sort of insult here lmao

[@evosteff]

holy sh*t cry about it , its a PROM proposal. Find something actually worth getting worked up over 🤣

[@choosehappy9224]

@kushj9568 And it totally checks out 😂

[@noraeable]

The mom: I've fallen and I can't get up. Everyone else: This isn't about you!

[@byrontheusurper6505]

5:22 that's gotta be a skit, her knocking him out is too perfect

[@stephaniebaird6937]

when I was in high school my boyfriend of 3 months came into my 3rd hour class during SILENT READING and lip synced/danced to not ONE, but TWO justin beiber songs for valentines day. a full 6 minutes of me sitting there in silence totally mortified.

[@Shark-vi2cz]

The Mcdonald's employee covering her head in embarrassment for the lady cracked me up

[@OkaroShinn]

I resent the mindset that it's the person who's being proposed to's job to put on an impromptu performance for the proposer so they wont get their ego hurt. If they decided to do a public proposal, and didnt have any sanity to figure out if their partner was going to say yes or no, then getting embarrassed by being told no seems like a lesson learned imo.

[@brandonwilson9614]

That one at the mall HAD to be fake right? The lady mopping behind him not even acknowledging him, the train going by, his horrible speech, her hitting him with the ukulele 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@iainwalker8615]

It was an ad for Cadbury, that’s why the train with Cadbury branding on the side of it blocked the whole screen at the perfect time for several seconds

[@melissafraser2190]

Yeah. When she turned and grabbed the instrument, she knew it was there and she had a plan.

[@lunomalangabi]

15:07 STOOPPPPP bro proposed at the mcdonalds at SANDTON CITY!! bffr💀💀💀

[@KD....]

Public proposals suck in general. Why do you want to have a bunch of strangers watch, whats supposed to be, an extremely special and intimate moment?

[@biffdiff6725]

Cody showing off his hickey in the first 10 seconds is crazy

[@miiakathleen]

didnt see it at first and now its all i can see

[@CamcorderHomeVideos]

You mean leprosy? Measles? Chickenpox? Smallpox? Bubonic Plague? Rugburn? So many possibilities! 🤩💀

[@birdsinthewind]

Nah that’s a rash fs 😭

[@evie7601]

dude that’s a rash 💀

[@MrCornelius234]

that's clearly a rash dude

[@JonathanW-]

Cody filming proposal reactions in the garage is high tier KZbinr

[@kenziehansen2424]

I'm here for the married-dad era 😂

[@kaemincha]

The idea that someone could just spring a proposal on you that you don't want is WILD. Like, totally get being nervous even when you've discussed it and wanting it to go well, but not even knowing if they're gonna say yes???

[@Militant_Vegan]

4:46 NO WAY HE SAID HE WROTE A POEM FOR HER THEN STARTED RESIDING BRUNO MARS LYRICS LMAOO IM CRYING

[@jessthemess9003]

“Don’t jump it’s too shallow” *splash noise in the background” lmao

[@Gnomey97]

These women do not have to say yes for the male's comfort. He was the one that put himself out there without discussing it with her. Everyone always puts it on the women/person getting proposed to when they didn't ask for it. Stand your ground and say NO.

[@snkybrki]

"women" "male" I get your sentiment, but I'd steer clear from the manosphere-like word choice.

[@squirrel670]

​@Maddie-eu8xvthey're saying it's manosphere like. Flipped but still not the same thing and thus the link was made.

[@Gnomey97]

@snkybrki lol I am the farthest from a manosphere person. Women and males is an accurate term.

[@snkybrki]

​@@Gnomey97 Both are technically correct, sure. But calling women "women" and men "males" is akin to the sorta language used in the manosphere, except reversed. I think we both know why the manosphere equivalent is seen as suspect. You're doing the same thing.

[@Gnomey97]

@snkybrki I think you are interpereting my intentions wrong. I didn't think me saying "males" meant anything other than the definition. I get that YOU would rather me say "men" but I don't have to change that to make you comfortable and assume I hold "womenosphere" opinions. Assuming from one sing comment doesn't help or solve anything.

[@elizabethnoneofyourbuisnes2806]

Honestly, good on the super public ones where people say no instead of feeling like they have to say yes. If a person wants to set-up a big public thing to propose then that's on them. I may have a bias though since a huge public display for a proposal would make me incredibly uncomfortable, even if I loved the person doing it.

[@hollyhenison9345]

I had a friend in school who’s mum would get proposed to frequently by the same on-again-off-again boyfriend and she’d turn him down every time over the span of years, always in bad locations. The local diner, fast food restaurants, hospital waiting room, her workplace

[@nereidfromneverland]

your "just say yes now and no later" take just reminded me that no matter how much you're funny, you're still a man. thanks

[@FaithTheZombieWolf]

word

[@montygatwick1829]

yeah he's got some pretty bad takes from time to time. i don't think any of it comes from a place of hate or malice, just ignorance. it does really bug me when people excuse it because he's "dad cody" and dads often have bad takes. he's a multimillionaire in his thirties, not some silly himbo who needs his hand held. i get he's a comedian so he's not exactly trying to make any type of statement, they're just slightly myopic off-handed comments so i dont expect him to go back and address them, certainly not something this small at least. i just wish people would stop acting like the silly lighthearted persona he puts on in his videos is how he always acts, he's smart enough to be more socially conscious.

[@mohawkan423023]

Can you imagine going about your day and then suddenly someone does a whole dance routine for you in front of half of of your peers, and you just have to STAND THERE?? And people afterwards expect you to accept something you’ve never wanted in your life just so you don’t hurt the feelings of someone else? God I’m glad I’m not a woman sometimes.

[@Emmie12Rainbow]

I disagree so hard with Cody on his take of “say yes and just say no later”. When someone is humiliating you in front of people on this scale, you don’t owe them the courtesy of an intimate rejection when they never extended that intimacy towards you. Also this reaction tells me that either you 1.) don’t know your partner well enough 2.) are trying to manipulate them into saying yes or 3.) using this as a way to make them look bad in front of others by them publicly rejecting you and making you the “victim” As for the homecoming/promposals I think it’s kiddos just having fun and being goofy/cringey and it’s perfectly normal 😂

[@Random-sk6hm]

Fr the peer pressure isn't okay

[@robinnicole4466]

Most all of these are fake

[@maramaroney7057]

I didn’t know Cody was a “say yes say no later” kinda person 😭

[@Sisterlisk]

He's a people-pleaser, but he's working on it...

[@quinsey9211]

yall reading into everything he says so hard. leave him alone he was just saying something to help escape the cringe he was feeling it doesnt even mean he has like a hard stance on the opinion. Internet freaks take shit too seriously

[@maramaroney7057]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@quinsey9211what are you even yapping about?? You’re doing too much keyboard warrior-ing over a single sentence.

[@quinsey9211]

@@maramaroney7057 a single sentence for you maybe? Its like 50% of the entire comment section. Just pointing out you dont needa label him as a "kind of person" because of one thing the man said.

[@PyxeledGenesis]

Benefit of the doubt here, he's very dude-bro and even being married probably isn't used to seeing things from the other perspective like that. But he's proven before he can accept when he's wrong abt these things so

[@sanosukecole]

Cody, I lost two of my best friends last week, and your energy always lifts my mood. Just wanted to say thanks for doing what you do.

[@heeyitsmaee]

Getting married should be a conversation between both parties. If you both want to marry each other, then yes, the proposal should 100% be a surprise. But if you’ve never had the conversation and have no idea if they’ll say yes/no, you probably shouldn’t propose 😂

[@Logananan]

Yay a normal video thats not uncomfortable in every aspect

[@heyheyitrachelgray]

The singing promposal has to be the saddest

[@rachelmayes3064]

I found it kinda cute. It was awkward and embarrassing but that's high school. At least he's not a grown ass man trying to make a lifelong decision and fucking it up that bad, lol.

[@selinnicole]

we are truly living in the cody ko golden ages my man uploads literally every day

[@tobyfinchghost]

you have to prepare for rejection no matter what. it is NOT on her to save your ego, you put yourself out there knowing the risk. and maybe you're embarrassing her too buddy.

[@peepeenik2048]

cody please watch “don’t tell the bride” you’d love it. it’s a 2000s UK reality tv show. they give the men 12,000 dollars to plan a wedding in three weeks without letting the woman be involved at all

[@kateki8801]

just sat down to eat, hell yes

[@elisaranney5120]

literally same lol enjoy your meal :)

[@agentcodydanks]

Lame, overused comment.

[@jace_elijahh]

Same

[@indigorogers4251]

Literally bon appetit

[@lancah5655]

i just woke up🤝

[@huntterhudson]

I wonder how the people who are proposing got the idea that the person they’re proposing to would like the way they decided to propose

[@jrdnbly93]

It's the whole "grand gesture that makes the girl fall in love with the guy" cliché found in movies

[@huntterhudson]

@@jrdnbly93 yea but wouldn’t they know the person they’re proposing to enough to know they wouldn’t like something like that lol

[@freedomm]

The dancing Indian(?) dude was really killing it. That choreo was mad.

[@warmcupofbatteryacid9438]

yeah that was a traditional dance called Bhangra!

[@hustle_rose]

​@@warmcupofbatteryacid9438 thank you, warm cup of battery acid

[@officaldungeons]

I love the girl at 16:20 She knows she’s not interested and she’s not scared to say it 👑

[@Rosie-ij3on]

6:01 I remember that video from years back. Everything about it is hilarious to me, my family didn't understand why I found it so funny 😂

[@profoundbeggar9722]

"Let's skeebop right into this" should definitely be the intro to every video moving forward 😂