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[@clarkkegley]

Cool if we take a deep dive on how to overcome procrastination? Lmk if you'd like more tips/breakdowns on this. Ready to change your life? Work directly with me & my team to create the 2.0 you in under 10 weeks. APPLY HERE: www.clarkkegley.com/free-case-study?sl=yt-procrastinate

[@prachishinde222]

Thank you so much for making this video 😊 so grateful

[@junebug03]

❤

[@sunflowersoundsofficial4221]

Clark, how did you find things that excited you? I have a problem where I'm not that deeply passionate, one way or another, about anything.

[@Hayden_Hockensmith]

@@sunflowersoundsofficial4221 well, what are you dreams or aspirations? For example I want to be a music artist, so whenever I pick up my guitar or sit down at my computer I think of one day releasing my own songs or playing live in front of thousands of people and that motivates me to work on my music skills. So just apply that to whatever you want do and it should give you some motivation.

[@sunflowersoundsofficial4221]

@@Hayden_Hockensmith I don't really know.

[@davidrubio5548]

I literally added this to my watch later playlist, and I immediately realized that was the issue itself😭

[@notashton.]

Sitting with a 4 digit watch later list..

[@upscaleadsagency]

Same! Watched it now and it's exactly what was needed. Also, I've realised that some 'Watch Later' stuff is stuff that's nice to have but not 'Just In Time' information, so I've trashed a lot of my list so it's only 'Just In Time' information and not 'Just In Case'.

[@f12sus]

I did the same thing and then I said to myself, I must watch this now… it made all the difference 😂

[@majidsaeed]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Mark-df3tk]

🤣🤣🤣

[@jasonnewhauser4592]

One big personality profile that I think Clark missed was: There is a personality profile that won't procrastinate if they are doing something for someone else, but will procrastinate forever if they are doing something for themselves. The solution to that is obvious. Pretend like you are doing it for someone else or higher purpose.

[@Dispatern]

That's true and that person is me!

[@omkarkasar1239]

💯 true... am facing same issue

[@onnol917]

low selfworth trying to compensate doing something good for somebody else because they feel they are not worth it themselves.

[@Dispatern]

@@onnol917 Applies to some people but definitely not to all.

[@onnol917]

@@Dispatern how op described it, then it does. Investing in others over yourself = based in low selfworth

[@akosuakoranteng3327]

“Being a perfectionist is the laziest thing you can be, once you realize this it will set you free” - super powerful insight right there

[@overlordfemto7523]

You have no right to refer to yourself as a perfectionist. You haven’t done a single thing perfect in your life once.

[@ibberman]

As a perfectionist, I don't agree.

[@mystic9609]

What do I do then

[@kayoss11]

@@mystic9609 Do what makes you joyful, don't do what makes you do nothing, life is a journey make it a good one, if your going to follow something follow your higher self. Make today better than yesterday, we only get one life use it well, good look.

[@kayoss11]

I think you mean trying to be a perfectionist whilst being lazy leads to sabotage, hence procrastination. As someone who plays guitar I have to play perfect or there is no point playing.

[@dmitryalmeida8168]

Fun fact, fear and excitement gives the same physiological reactions to the body so you can trick yourself to think you are excited about something when fear arrives and leads to procrestination. This normally works for me.

[@vanishasingh20]

How do you do that can you give example?

[@dmitryalmeida8168]

@@vanishasingh20 Sure! So basically when you experience fear, your brain instructs the body to increase your breathing, heart rate, make your palms sweaty and all that. When you feel excitement, the brain triggers the same physiological reaction. The only difference that will make you "label" it will be your thoughts about the circumstance. So that's exactly the thing I can sorta manipulate here. So I basically tell myself that I'm actually excited about something that is happening instead of feeling afraid or anxious and it helps. I used to have a lot of panic attacks and this was one of the tools I used over time that helped me control it better. They still happen, rarely, but they do. But overall I just feel like my anxiety improved a lot and also helped me with procrestination. Hope this helps.

[@vanishasingh20]

@@dmitryalmeida8168 ohh okayy thanks

[@crystaledwards777]

Thank you sir

[@inacook2285]

This is...EXTREMELY helpful. 🤔 Thank you!

[@albertalu4583]

For myself: How to stop procrastinating 1) DON'T FEAR FAILURE. You procrastinate because you fear failure. Instead of feeling fear, feel excitement. Instead of looking at the things that could go wrong, look at the things that can go right. 2) MAKE IT FUN. Don't make things a grind, try and make it something enjoyable. 3) DON'T BE PERFECTIONIST. Don't care too much, don't be a perfectionist. You can't control the outcome, and caring too much leads to fear. 4) QUANTITY OVER QUALITY. Valuing quality too much makes you a perfectionist. allow yourself to fail and have fun. 5) DO CRAPPY THINGS. Lower your standards, doing crappy things is better than doing nothing.

[@zzzcocopepe]

Also, forgive yourself. Part of the issue with procrastination is that people beat themselves up while they procrastinate. But if you practice forgiving yourself, eventually you'll get good at it. And procrastination won't be such a horrible thing anymore. So what if you decide to put something off? Is it really that serious?

[@z.4642]

The only thing i can agree on this one is the first point which is failure. You don't have to make urself suffer for the failure you have incurred. It's all apart of the learning process. As for the other points, it's really hard to apply them because some of the work that is required of you isn't really fun at ALL. And also the part wherein just have fun and have quantity over quality can actually backfire especially when higher ups requires you to have a serious work about it.

[@darrengordon-hill]

2: This works for me... AT WORK 😂 I'm a cleaner - gimme my headphones or Bluetooth speaker and I'm good to go... But at home? I'd rather MAKE the music I listen to than listen to it...

[@freethinker856]

These are the exact points why I procrastinate)))

[@VDR2612]

I was a heavy procrastinator and i started a business with my friend who is completely opposite.. He pushes me to go and take action.. I still procrastinate a little bit but if it wasn't for him I don't think I would've even started the business.. Procrastination is really a killer of ideas you will never make them a reality if you let it win

[@alexfromsweden5460]

thank you, this inspired me

[@VDR2612]

@@alexfromsweden5460 👍 a friend, family or a gf who pushes you and encourages you is the easiest cure for procrastination..

[@clairehealy4588]

This is good x

[@zzzcocopepe]

Apparently it is tied to negative emotions. People think it's about time management but that's not what it's about at all. You're feeling a negative emotion and you want to feel a happy emotion so you do something that makes you feel happy instead. So it's about emotional management. If you store up your happy feelings that can help you be resilient for when you need to buckle down and do something that doesn't really make you feel super happy

[@raumshen9298]

You are lucky to have such person along with you. I too had one, she went away and from thereon I just haven't been able to do much as there is no one to push me, I am trying to break this mould, isn't happening but I ll try....

[@WPIALInsider]

You nailed this. I've struggled with Procrastination my entire life. About a year ago I realized it was really just anxiety due to my fear of failure. I started practicing Stoicism and it changed my life.

[@justar4]

I am looking at stoicism as well to manage procastination.. do you have any pointers?

[@GroundbreakGames]

Any good recommendations, video or book?

[@ORDUZ1]

@@GroundbreakGames The Daily Stoic

[@jeremywinston1]

i just stopped thinking, rather than thinking about the negative sides of what i want to do, failure et cetera, i just do it.

[@filipewnunes]

Here am I, watching this video about procrastination instead of doing the things I'm supposed to be doing.

[@dave63rd]

*Thank you Mr Clark Kent*

[@abuhuraira5581]

Like the reporter or like the member of the league or more like the superman. But he doesn't seem like any of those or does he? He looks more like Oliver.

[@dave63rd]

@@abuhuraira5581 lol cos his first name's *Clark* and supermans full name is Clark Kent.

[@aarongaffney6466]

@@dave63rd plus, he actually helps people transform like a REAL Superman of the Spirit realm!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@zarramtirmizi8741]

My perfectionism makes me to procrastinate. I feel afraid of doing things which are not perfect. It keeps bugging me until I perfect things. So yeah, you are right that it's not laziness but being afraid.

[@jpjp9111]

I'll watch this tomorrow.

[@MX-CO]

I struggle with indecision terribly. Not necessarily afraid and Not laxy. I procrastinate because I can think of so many things to do and so many different ways to do them but it often leads to not making a decision at all!

[@broerlnag]

I used to as well. At the core i discovered it was fear all along. The primal one type. That was what was triggering going into "deliberation mode"instead of decision and action mode, it was a pattern i had created for myself Hope this helps bringing more awareness

[@theofficialzuzi]

A tip I got from DBT is the phrase, “ validate the feeling, challenge the response ” You’re not wrong for feeling what you feel but in this case challenge yourself to do the bare minimum of not procrastinating by doing the action that has distressed you. You’ll be okay. ✨

[@EvanNagao]

7:18 I like how he messes up saying "quality" when he was supposed to say "quantity" here. But it kind of unintentionally proves his point. You don't have to perfect everything you do. Just make a lot of content.

[@snapran]

Same lol

[@rxw5520]

Quantity over quality is a terrible idea.

[@Leuhim]

​@rxw5520 when talking about objects Yes When talking in this context, not so much

[@grobins84]

Pretty sure that’s why he highlights the correct answers in green. Unintentional intentionalism at its finest.

[@EvanNagao]

@@rxw5520 Yea but if focusing on quality is hindering your ability to post anything, it's important to just post anything.

[@heathertrull8433]

This is solid...procrastination is the story of my life, but I will say that I lost 65 pounds when my mindset flipped from "What could go wrong?" to "What could go right?" When the anxiety goes away and you find purpose in its place, the work ethic is there immediately. I mean, you still have to do tons of stuff that you don't want to do in that moment, even some stuff you're a little bit afraid to do, but now there's a reason behind the ritual. You're not just doing it because you're "supposed to." You're doing it because you've glimpsed a life that you desperately want.

[@kvng.t]

I’m only 22 but after watching this video and reflecting on my life up till now, I came to the conclusion that procrastination is the main thing that has held me back from being great. I appreciate the video sir and now I feel motivated to do what I need to do 🙏🏿

[@tbtelbagmllar900]

"Only" 22? I'm 15 and in the same boat

[@mahbubsualihin9192]

broo, I'm 13

[@zweliniMqwebu6853]

same age and procrastination eventually forces me to work under pressure so that I could pass my exams dawg

[@xMaverickFPS]

When you said "Excitement" is the opposite end of the same spectrum that Anxiety is on, it kinda blew my mind. Made me realize that while excitement comes from external sources, anxiety is sort of like a self-imposed internal excitement.

[@nomi8380]

Thank you so much for this video!!! My entire life I thought I was just lazy which is why I’ve been putting off doing so many things, but you’re absolutely right…I just have really bad anxiety and I’m afraid of whats next to come. I’m too scared to face even the simplest things which in tern holds me back from my true potential

[@Arowana95]

You are not alone..

[@gwen.xo_]

Submitted my dissertation a few weeks ago and honestly I still feel the shame and embarrassment for self-sabotaging myself by procrastinating on it. There was so much build up with my supervisors and classmates telling me how good my presentation/work was etc. but I let myself and others down in the end by submitting a crappy report. It felt awful to know my entire grade is based on the one thing that I did so badly on despite having put so much work into the research stage of it all. I reflected hard afterwards and realized that by procrastinating, I will always have the excuse that the only reason I didn’t reach my potential in the dissertation was because “I didn’t have enough time” and not because of my lack of ability, and knowledge etc. I think my procrastination ultimately stems from the feeling that “I am not good enough”. And by avoiding it all I don’t have to ever face that the outcome is based on my self-worth. It frustrates me because this has become one of the biggest regrets of my life now and I will never know what I could’ve gotten if only I had started earlier. Learning this during the final yr of my degree is heartbreaking but it’s all on myself in the end. I am telling myself that I will commit to changing this from now on. Whatever grade I get in the end, I will just have to accept that this is because I didn’t overcome my perfectionism. I got away with submitting too many things last minute and getting good grades that I’ve lived most of my life not needing to work too hard to do well but I refuse to allow myself to feel the sense of shame and anger ever again. I just hate being a disappointment to those who had high expectations of me. I don’t even want to face my supervisors again during graduation but the only thing to keep me going and not wallow in regret is to own up to it and finally do something about it. Looking back, I’ve been doing this for years now. If I don’t stop, I doubt I will ever achieve the bigger goals I’ve planned for myself. I’m going to give it my all for all my goals from now on. No more running away.

[@jackiegerarde9938]

There is so much in this post. Thank you for sharing.

[@anushka5933]

Same ... I've been doing the same thing ... I didn't really worked hard in the long term and when deadline for an important exam would be approaching , i would work hard for just that time limit and always got quite average but nonetheless good grades and told myself that's all I could achieve because i started late and would've done better and sometimes I just believed that I'm average : ) but I'll , for sure , this time won't just try.... But I'll bring out my real potential!

[@stellastone896]

I am in the same boat as you. I destroyed my life.

[@davedoes7467]

Love the anxiety - excitement spectrum analogy. Thanks Clark.

[@lindsayh.8503]

When you realize you are procrastinating cleaning your house by watching a KZbin video about procrastination. 😂 I love this break down, the part where he’s talking about anxiety vs excitement had me thinking that people who are naturally more pessimistic probably are more prone to procrastinating, vs people who are more optimistic are more prone to being driven and taking action. Now the question is how to change your mindset from pessimism to optimism!? That would be a good video!

[@darrengordon-hill]

Not like I can't load the washing machine WHILE this plays.... 😂🤦‍♂️

[@ojrivas6843]

I clean to forget what I have to do, it's relaxing

[@2SanityAtitsBest2]

“Stay with me here, let’s unpack.” LOL The term I use for so called reasons that are not the root cause: supplemental reasoning Anxiety is excitement… driven by fear instead of joy. The perfection issue is much easier said than done. My wife and a few friends are this way. They’re all very productive but never stop and spend loads of time doing tasks. All their anxiety is high and they burn out on regular things. Thanks for sharing. I agree very much. Simplify tasks, make them smaller, and do them often. The Slight Edge is a book I recommend to those who struggle with this.

[@RobertRiggin]

The dilemma I noticed I have is how taking action can create uncertainty. You can be pretty sure of the results of not taking action which isn’t great because either nothing changes or things get worse. The real only variable that changes with taking action is things could change or not change or get worse or get better. Or maybe it’s that in taking action that things don’t get worse but they get more challenging or fearing you are going to set a bar that you can’t maintain. 1% better each day mindset can help. Some days that 1% is giving yourself grace

[@MOZINGO801114]

That line about how anxiety and excitement are on the same spectrum; brilliant. I never thought of it that way, and now, I’ll never not be able to think about it that way. Thank you for making this video

[@jasminewan5180]

1:22 The example is literally what I am facing rn, I’m not even a perfectionist yet I still procrastinate, glad I bump into this vid and heard the advice. Hoping I could get out of the cycle of feeling guilty and depressed about not having a job and start to be excited about progressing life :)

[@SumitGupta-ys7lb]

You clarified the reason why people in need of something find hard to get it than the ones not in need of it. The pressure causes anxiety, resulting in procrastination for the needy onse... we just need to stop that pressure. You are a gem!

[@macewindu6853]

I’ve played football since I was 6 years old, I’m even playing in college very soon. It took me so many years to realize this, but I love it so much because it brings the best out of me in every aspect. Once it ends, I realize I’m not constantly challenging myself by default and I don’t have a social outing (a party) every weekend, I wasn’t given a chance to constantly improve. I then realized that for as much as a procrastinator I am, I need to keep busy.

[@chrislewis8579]

After watching this video i summed it up for me to find a solution to my procrastination problem. I came up with the quote: „Quality is the result of quantity“. Maybe this helps someone else as much as it helped me. Great video 👍🏻👍🏻

[@vociferonheraldofthewinter2284]

About ten years ago I finally found a way to write. I told myself that this was only for me. These are my private thoughts on paper and NOBODY else would ever see them. I could let it out without shame, judgement, or worry of rejection. I wrote five books, then decided they were good enough to share with the people closest to me. And it blew up. Next thing I knew, I had an editor and the first book was about ready to print. Then my kid died. He was the first one I showed my first novel to and he was my greatest cheerleader. The worst part is that, at his funeral, half a dozen of my betas came together to turn in their final proof read copies. Now I know they were trying to give me hope. To remind me that my life wasn't over. I get that. But as we drove home from the funeral I sat in the passenger seat with all those copies stacked under my feet and I felt a door close deep within myself. I want to write. I love to write. I've got so many stories inside of me, clamoring to get out. But every freaking time I sit down to type I have a full on panic attack. It's not going to be as good as it was. I've lost the magic. I'm going to disappoint everyone. Blah, blah, blah. I've decided to go back to where I began. I'm going to sit alone and put private words on paper. I don't have to worry about judgement because this is mine. It's safe. It's secret. If I can manage to work past this barrier, I'll will whatever books I write to my grandkids. They can do whatever they want with them after I die.

[@thinphilanthropist4139]

Bro, I just added this video to my watch later list. No hope😢

[@TheDisneylover23]

There is one other thing I would add is stop giving a damn what other people might be thinking, because unless they tell you, you don’t know. You can sabotage yourself by assuming what other people are thinking about you is negative. It’s NONE of your business what they think of you and it’s really THEIR problem if they don’t like you. Don’t give a shit about that. There are 7.5 billion people on this planet, so you are bound to make some friends. The other thing I find helpful is not being in competition with others in any way. I will do my best and live my life the way I choose to. I don’t have to be better than everyone at things. It’s unrealistic for one, and it’s internally deadly to your self worth. I don’t care what others would do or how they would do it. I find my own way now and you have no idea how freeing that is! Great video and I needed to hear it. Thank you!!

[@Candiceemry]

Clark is one of the rare KZbinrs who genuinely shares useful advice that can be applicable. Just wow! Thank you, Mr. Kegley 💜

[@danielbroinas]

Yes, that is correct, if you find Clark's content helpful you might also find Denmo's channel useful for social interactions, motivation and self-improvement.

[@danielbroinas]

JulienHimself is also a great channel, I am not promoting by the way, just thinking it might help others as much as they've helped me

[@clairecrepelle652]

Thank you so much for this video. I think deep down I knew it, anxiety is the cause of my procrastination. I'm starting my midterm exam week in one day, had an entire week to study for it, but barely touched my textbooks... I usually manage not to let that happen but couldn't this time, for some reason. It's crazy and kinda scary how much it can prevent you from setting down to work. And also, since I've managed to get out of these kind of situations before, I was not too worried at first, but now that the exams are getting closer and closer, I can't help regretting that I didn't work at all this week... (Btw sorry for the mistakes if any, I'm french)

[@777cartcrash2]

I am in the exact same situation as you are and it feels bad man

[@liteguy7267]

Thanks Clark ! I procrastinated today because I have to look for a subject that I could write about in a big research paper. While I did find some small leads today, I couldn't find THE subject that I could write about and when you talked about making at least the bare minimum, it clicked within me. It's crazy, I knew about the idea of making small steps each day to change something but I completely forgot about it in this context. So this video definitely helped me !

[@originalgoldengoddess]

As a Virgo and perfectionist I know exactly how this feels... sometimes it's not even procrastinating sometimes I'm playing out different scenarios in my head and seeing which one will work better for my benefit. I know it's really painful 🤦‍♀️

[@Maplie]

What really helped flip the switch for me to stop procrastinating is looking forward to how free I would feel when I get that obligation done and out of the way.

[@mohamadwalieddine371]

Man this episode dropped in a perfect timing....

[@f3aldz]

TLDR; Think I'm excited about this challenge, not I'm worried about results. Do little things daily and be consistent. Don't over do it and make it a burden. Don't aim for perfection. Be prolific. Now, go back to work!

[@overlordfemto7523]

Dumb.

[@overlordfemto7523]

Eating everyday also helps! Don’t forget to drink water! Make sure you get 8 hours of sleep. Do a bunch of different things to distract yourself! Be around people who lie to themselves. None of you have ever spent a single moment of your life being genuinely honest with yourself. You’re not meant to constantly be doing busy work.

[@Ritzlet]

@@overlordfemto7523 the one thing I’ve always had trouble with is those 8 hours 😭 it’s so hard for me to go to sleep early enough and plus later at night or in the evening is when I actually get to do the things I enjoy like playing games its honestly a big problem that I need to fix.

[@sakhile6460]

I've reached a point in my procrastination where it becomes impossible to finish the task on time. Sometimes I just don't do it at all.

[@matthewjohnfree2913]

Spiritual whisper this video came up posted after I journaled about struggling on the same topic. For me, I would say being in a state of anxiety that procrastination provides is addictive that I need to overcome.

[@andyconcepcion5883]

Your speaking facts, I used to workout 7 days a week 2 hours a day too when I was training for military. Now it's been months without going to the gym because people started to plant dought in my mind about my decision and everything that could go wrong so I started thinking like that. But what if it did go right and everything I made a goal for comes out to fruition✅️

[@hitenmistry9376]

Excitement is looking at the future and seeing the possibilities that could go right, once you tap into that your motivated! BOOM!!! this is my new mantra and I am gonna write this on my wall, in BIG LETTERS!

[@live4god30]

Not going to lie, I have watched this several times just to help keep reminding myself about the excitement of what could happen instead of the fear of not succeeding

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

I used to keep my homes very clean. We adopted a baby when she was born from a family member. As thing turned out she was autistic. Okay, we'll step it up. She eventually graduated from high school, with her class, not in remedial classes, and on time. She is now 33. My husband passed away nearly 7 years ago. She is now an adult autistic and a violent one. Your assessment of being anxious and fearing is very true in my case. My house looks like a rocket hit it. She deliberately does things and makes messes and dares me to say anything (by her attitude) I've been physically attacked by her after I've done some cleaning . She loses it. Soo I have bought all kinds of things for myself because I DO get fired up and motivated and I used to share my vision with her and she sabotages me every time. I'm afraid to clean things up. I live in a petrie dish. No help. No family. Positive energy and protection vibes welcome.

[@blue-grey6656]

Been procrastinating on my master thesis. Thank you so much for this. I really needed that.

[@rawr3122]

As someone who struggles with depression, this video's like.. a whole revelation. Thank you for this video. IRDK it just really hit me.

[@yankee1919-bx6qr]

thankyou for this video

[@Denti777]

I am pushing off studying for the lost important exam of my life, because I feel like I won't be able to memorize all of the material in time and thereby making it worse and worse each day. I am actually terrified of flunking that thing - it really is true. Needed this Video man, thank you.

[@rrveld]

I needed this!!! Thank you so much!!

[@sgazzz]

Really needed this right now 🙏🏼

[@amandatsiokas2676]

So relatable ♥️ I’m saving this. And going to write my two crappy pages RIGHT NOW! Thank you!

[@nuryerzhann]

Thank you for sharing this Clark, I have been dealing with procrastination for a while, now it is time to change!!!

[@pasekamlotshwa2540]

I really think I needed to hear this... I have a few things I have to do but they don't have a due date so I'm like it's okay not to try yet. I wanna do some workouts... I wanna do some reading and there's a project I need to get started on. I think about it all the time and how hard all of these things are for me and then I end up watching Netflix or just doing something less intimidating to me. Go to bed haven't accomplished anything and feel bad about it then I'm like.... Tmor imma be a different man.... Just to do the same thing again🤦🏽‍♂️

[@darrenpaternoster1865]

Really great advice my man exactly when I needed it. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@WorriorXD]

I needed this! Thank you

[@adedoyinkugbiyi9453]

Clark! Thank you for this! This is what I really needed.

[@EyeOfScrutiny]

Profound and insightful ... life changing. Thanks so much!

[@merelymystic]

I’m so glad I found your channel! This has been a struggle for me my whole life and starting my own business I see it more, and I have improved but I still feel myself judging myself more and more that I stop. Thank you for these tips. I love how you break things down and make it so relatable

[@sharleenduplessis6632]

Thank you so much!! Needed this !

[@christhornham]

Great job man! I've read a lot about procrastination and you covered the topic very well. I actually have a video in my KZbin cue. Keep up the great work. I'm looking forward to the next one.

[@Ryggs]

Thank you! Your timing is perfect, man! I just finished reading Atomic Habits (thanks for that tip as well) and this reinforces it perfectly!

[@ByDaniSimone]

I agree. I’ve tried before and didn’t get the results I wanted so I get scared to do it again. The temperature example hit home too. This week I’m going to do something scary so I definitely needed this.

[@Aubrie_Love_Tarot]

Thank you ❤

[@intignia]

Thanks for that video. It is spot all. I know why I am procrastinating making this phone call, and you are right. It is because I am afraid. Afraid that they will say that I need to pay that doctor's bill when my insurance company says I do not. I do not like arguing, even "nice" arguing.

[@christofinb]

I’ve tried this, I’ve tried this ! For three years solid to make myself do housework I said to myself I will just set a timer for half and hour to do anything around the house that needs doing, then after the 30 mins I can stop if I want. It really doesn’t work as I still have to push like hell to do it, it is a habit now and a habit that I dread but because I have committed myself to do it I keep on doing it every single day, okay sometimes I go over the 30 mins which is good of course, but I often am clock watching to when the 30 mins will be up. It doesn’t help except that I get a little bit of a buzz when I’ve done it, which soon goes away. The technique of a little a day habit is just as much of a grind as when I first started doing it. I get a little more done but I use the rest of the time procrastinating even more.

[@efitz3397]

Watch Diane in Denmark… it’s the fly lady made simple! 1/2 hour is too long, the idea is to build on a mini habit. Good luck

[@TheChrisBrowne]

Thank you so much for this Clark, I always referred to myself as a “Perfectionist” Creating Music, I always seem to begin things then they get left behind half done collecting digital dust 😔 Now I’m a proud “Procrastinator” waiting to switch my anxiety to excitement and I’m making music again with passion! 😊

[@ashead11]

I do music too. I have so many unfinished songs smh

[@TheOcean777]

Thanks for this video Clark. I just found your channel today when watching "shorts" on UT. I've read tons of books on all aspects of improving life, very helpful, and have changed my life completely. Never found anything really good on procrastination, though, since I procrastinated on implementing the so so ideas lol. I think they key is your short brief explanation, it's to the point. I've heard it all before, but not all points from the same author, and your way of presenting it made all the difference. Thanks Aloha

[@abailey4226]

I just love everything you put out. I feel so positive! I purchased a pin from the gray muse that says " Brave enough to be bad at something new". I attached it to my journal bag and see it everyday! Gotta fight the fear to step up and step out! ❤

[@junebug03]

Clark ur simple advice has changed my perspective in life these past few months ❤

[@codyhobbs4766]

I appreciate this video. It is very helpful to realize the spectrum and realize that I was living in fear with too high of expectations for most of the things that I wanted to do.

[@shoppingonchampagne]

Excellent tips, thanks! 🤩

[@nieltheron2050]

Definitely life changing, this is exactly the advice I needed right now. Thank you.

[@Ericjamesmusic84]

This was amazing! I am gonna listen again because this is gonna help me. I'm in a tough spot with this level of procrastination.

[@marneshapowell2190]

I appreciate this deep dive into procrastination, it helped to understand where I am and what I need to do. Thank you so much!

[@rian.segarra]

Very Timely while watching this! I hope everyone gets what they want by working on it and not procrastinate on their dreams!

[@lucky-rx6qi]

Exactly what I am needed, thank you CK. I appreciate you.

[@Carl_Frank]

17:17 You clearly meant to say "quantity" here. You said "quality" both times. Just thought I'd point that out, in case no one else has.

[@ivaldisako]

100%! Procrastination is Perfectionism and Anxiety, fear of failure and making a mistake

[@sleeperno1215]

This is precisely me. I often delay even mundane tasks because I fear that once I start, I will run into a roadblock and not know how to continue.

[@sofiaalvarez8370]

Such a great video! Thankyou 🙏🏼

[@FlorahMat]

This is by far the most amazing and freeing lesson of my life!!! Thank you so much for this 🙏🙏🙏

[@jacquelinediamond6053]

Thank you so much, helped me with immense anxiety over a due date tomorrow! 🙏🏻🙌🏻💪🏻🎉

[@spudinator1522]

About your gym story, I have a problem with needing to run to lose weight but my amygdala tells me no. So I start with a walk so eventually I can tell myself "I didn't get ready for nothing" Otherwise, I'm gonna start looking at it from a different perspective. Instead of thinking of how tired it'll make me, think about losing that weight and joining the Marines

[@page-no1zc]

I love how this video makes the root of procrastination clear! :) I hate when my friends just say "it's just procrastinating and being lazy, nothing else" when I talk about my perfectionism and anxiety.

[@jon_majak]

This is so helpful! We need more resources like this from companies that understand our needs and challenges.

[@ForgeMasterXXL]

Great topic and I agree almost completely, but as someone who has OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Perfectionism Disorder) I don’t find excuses not to do stuff, I find excuses to do more stuff to take ‘that project’ or ‘that workout’ to the next level. No amount of therapy or medication has ever changed this, but I have taught myself how to channel it into positive things and not to wear myself out.

[@dalehaviland4605]

I read Atomic Habits and loved it but your storytelling is enjoyable and relatable and really hits home.

[@jamiesimko]

Very helpful! Thanks CLARK

[@kclarke2971]

Thank you so much, I've lived in fear all my life. Always a severe procrastinator. Absolutely need a new mindset. Thanks so much.

[@smaugbr]

I don't know if these big KZbinrs read all the comments, but allow me to leave you mine: thank you. I'm dealing with something right now and procrastination is hugely protecting me. I've noticed that already, as a protection mechanism (since I have a life-changing issue right now) and I kept myself frozen, even though I know the change is much probably going to be for the best. You added another push towards unstucking things. PS: you said anxiety and enthusiasm rest on the same spectrum. You are right. Look how curious: words define things. I'm from Brazil, we speak Portuguese here. The word for anxiety is "ansiedade" and anxious translate as "ansioso". This word can be used as "I'm ansioso" to say you are either a bit fearful about something (anxiety) or a bit jumpy and joyful for the things to come (enthusiasm). The same word for both anxiety and enthusiasm - of course, the same spectrum ;)

[@smaugbr]

Just a quick feedback in about 24h: I did what I needed to do. Of course this was not the only thing needed to perform what must have been done, it was a whole process of transformation which took me around 2 years (yeah, THAT serious the kind of thing I was dealing with), but this advice here served as the WD40 to unstuck the situation. I kept concentrating in all the benefits I'd reap from my decision, focusing less and less in what gave me fear and anxiety. I just didn't ignored these feelings - I still know things can go awry - but I just put them in a second plane, in minor priority mode. Thus, not ignoring them "per se" allowed me to take action responsibly, i.e., if things go wrong I'll be consciously dealing with them. Bonus achievement: doing that focus shift from anxiety to enthusiasm made me notice something hidden among all the noise. I've been keeping an active stream of detrimental thoughts about myself. Fear, of course. I was thinking things like: "See? That's what you gain for making crap decisions" or "what did you do to your life?". The most incredible: this thoughts were anticipating what I would think AFTER my action, even if this action hadn't still happened. After I did what I had to do, I had a glimpse of a "why did you do it?" thinking but at the very same moment I said internally: "NAH! Stop! Calm down... nothing bag happened... don't be scared, everything is gonna be alright; I'm here with you and for you" and calmed myself. Not a single one of this "cursed thoughts" returned and I'm in peace - and above all, I feel free, after having done what i had to. It was so precious to me I decided to share here. Thanks! :) PS: in order no one thinks I'm a psycho and did a monstrosity or something like that (LOL), I just ended a very long-term marriage (15+ years duration).

[@beetweedledee]

"You’re NOT lazy. You’re Afraid" I know exactly what you mean! You're doing great work.

[@samashengovinder]

Thank you Clark,this was really useful to me.

[@joepangia4413]

OMG this was friggen Gold. Thanks so much for posting this. I’m gonna re-watch this like every day for a while and am excited to start right now on a couple of positive possible outcomes that I was looking at upside down before viewing this video!

[@thomasagelidakis2062]

Who else watches this while procrastinating?

[@coreyloucks4865]

Well, I feel like cold is really just the absence of heat. If you really think about it, heat is the feeling of energy. You can feel the heat of the sun's rays upon your skin. You can feel the heat of the energy from a campfire. You can also feel the absence of heat when you're away from the fire. It's the same as light and darkness. Technically speaking, the concept of cold and darkness are the same in that they aren't actual substances, but instead the absence of a substance. Light is an energy that we can see, darkness is the absence of that energy. Likewise, heat is an energy that we feel and coldness is the absence of that energy. It's a crazy concept to wrap your mind around, that darkness and coldness aren't technically substances. They're not tangible things we can have, instead, they're the void of what we lack.

[@SelfImprovementAvart-gt4jf]

Absolutely loved this video!

[@forxbriden53]

"It's okay to lose to opponent, must not lose to fear." - Mr Miyagi 1989

[@sarahRA86]

Why do we procrastinate things we enjoy though, that have no stakes? Like reading or pursuing a hobby?

[@ostinigisa472]

Loved this episode brother! Thanks for serving! Needed this

[@f12sus]

This makes perfect sense, thank you, this is so helpful!!!