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[@BrianMakesFilms]

I often feel much lonelier in social situations (weddings, parties and other big group settings especially) than I do when I'm actually alone.

[@ToddModule]

Especially when it gets so loud that I can’t hear conversations, I just shut down & wish to leave.

[@sadikhussein1460]

Same here. I’ve been called a lot of names as a result. But whenever i am at these events, i feel so out of place, people are so full of themselves sometimes. I find myself wanting to leave less than an hour later

[@chanarali]

🔮@🔮🌙✈

[@ablipinthecosmos]

at some point, we all confused being alone with loneliness. You can be with crowds and still feel lonely. You can be all by yourself and still feel whole.

[@boglarkabuchmuller9916]

When I was just a child, I also had to learn to play the piano, and I struggled a lot with perseverance when it came to exercising, although I liked to have weekly lessons. After many years I reconnected with that beautiful piano, and I feel so content now, that I did learn to play it. Now, this activity brings me tranquility and inspiration. It’s really interesting how things can turn out in the end. 😊

[@nonZensically]

"[...]building a solid relationship with yourself is one of the most important things to do" is a sentence everyone deserves to hear and take to heart. Life is infinitely more bearable when you're comfortable in your own solitary space ❤

[@howtogetoutofbabylon8978]

A lot of humanities problems are caused by people sitting in a room by themselves alone depends on what the person is doing whether they're planning good or planning evil. Look at Stalin and listen to the song by Saga; The Snow Fell; "He he sat in a room in a square of the color of red, he'd rule the whole world if there was a way that he could. He'd sit and he'd stare at the minarets on top of the towers for he was a beast as he hatched his new plans to gain power"

[@howtogetoutofbabylon8978]

Part of your question has to do too with the fact that chosen people have people with a mission in life have to be alone. They're isolated by deity by Providence by the universe to develop the character that they need to be to be the person they're going to be need to be to lead other people to help other people

[@Foto384]

People should never fear being alone, it is a beautiful thing. Often people fear it as they are either running away from feelings or are scared what they may discover about themselves. I agree with what you said in the video that living in a city you can feel more lonely than in the countryside. I have lived in both and now live on an island and know more people than I ever did in the city but still love spending long periods of time on my own surrounded by nature.

[@karperman14]

The relationship with your inner child is the most important relationship you'll ever have.

[@datdang9113]

Sometimes when I have to join a group of people, around whom I'm not too comfortable, I feel awkward and have to pull out my phone to look at something just to avoid the awkwardness. Now that I'm more confident with myself, I can join conversations more comfortably and don't have to use the phone to hide myself away so much anymore. But when meeting people but not able to connect with anyone of them, when the conversations are shallow on the surface of a topic that I don't care, I feel lonely - my social energy is drained from such situations. I believe as introverts, spending time to connect with ourselves, or connect with good friends who listens to our sharing and we can listen to their sharing, that's when we feel fulfilled.

[@OttiIie]

Absolutely, I have the same!!

[@spontaneousadventurouskid]

Agreed.

[@TheUnlazyWay]

you're developing such a unique style :)

[@petewilcock]

Don't you guys live together? 🤔

[@OttiIie]

we do!

[@kurtc021914]

Thank you for expressing my feelings and thoughts so beautifully with the sensitivity that shines through your videos ✨

[@verdaderoken]

I wish more KZbin vlogs look like this. The authenticity and realness of each moment make me somehow feel peace

[@soffmosele]

I'm glad I've found this channel, it's very rare to see these kind of videos about introspection, self reflection and meaningful sharing, I really appreciated it. I resonate with a lot of the things you said especially because I'm an introvert and I haven't know that for years and I've tried to force myself into something I was not. But now that I've learned to enjoy spending time alone and trust my instinct I feel way much better

[@unlikelymoment]

I love being lonely. Its the best feeling I have and the most creative I am. I always feel like a different person when I am among others.

[@Niramay-ff2uy]

when you have taken control over your dopamine, you can feel completely happy, even alone.

[@nunja924]

I absolutely agree. I'm out alone on long rides or runs on most days and always fet asked things like "Isn't that boring all by yourself" or "Don't you feel lonely". I think many people aren't comfortable alone because they are deep down not actually happy with who or how they are or are out of balance in some other way but do not allow themselves to admit it or explore why that might be the case. It's far easier to try to avoid getting to know yourself by constantly distracting yourself with people around you or always doing something or even multiple things at a time. That's up until a certain point when it ll comes crashing down.

[@BecomingLeoTorres]

I spent a lot of time alone once. I spent most of that time wondering why I was uncomfortable with it. Then one day the word "Alone" was transformed when I realized that EVERYONE feels this way. Then I didn't feel alone... I felt ALL ONE. I saw my fears in everyone, my insecurities in everyone.

[@lesterphil9584]

This is what i feel too. I'm genuinely happier when alone.

[@FrontwaysLarry]

I've always put it like this: "You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life." Great video, and seriously will never not be happy t hear this thing talked about, because it's a weekly occurrence for me wherein people just don't understand how you can be completely content with your own company if you learn how to treat yourself like a good friend.

[@OttiIie]

absolutely!! glad you resonate :)

[@LWdrumz84]

To truly know yourself, you need to be alone with your thoughts and get to know the real you. In the presence of others we all wear a mask.

[@JustinJamesJeep]

"You are the only constant in your life" I feel like this video was made for me! I'm glad you came up in my recommended

[@emrecankarabacak]

These videos feel like my blog from college turned into film. I love it.

[@OttiIie]

ahh love this!! 🥹

[@OIP_1]

the countryside where you are living is stunning! beautifully shot too. i love spending time alone, especially outdoors but happy just to be indoors cooking, making music, or working on a project too. it's fun to balance - some social time and a lot of alone time.

[@GhitaFilali]

Wow. Completly blown away by the quality and beauty of your videos. Some of the most thoughtfully made videos I have ever seen. Looking forward to seeing more 🔥

[@OttiIie]

thank you so much! 🤗

[@loversloverslovers]

As an artist, I've been intentionally trying to find some space to work and think alone. Thanks for sharing your journey and process. It's inspiring!

[@jimvinespresents...8463]

I may be the life of the party, but I truly cherish my solitude. As a writer, photographer, and avid reader, I have no trouble keeping myself entertained. That "alone time" is essential for me - it's when I connect with my best friend: me. At social gatherings, I find that after about 20 minutes, I'm already longing to return to my cherished "me time." I empathize with those who require constant external stimulation. My advice is simple: dedicate more time to solitude and acquaint yourself with the most extraordinary person in your life - you!

[@Ethereally13]

I’ll add for those who require constant external stimulation- it takes exposure therapy! I’m in the process right now, of intentionally being alone on more days, training my body that it’s safe and that I’m still okay.

[@jackthe15headedmonster25]

Recently found your channel, and I couldn't agree more! Yea the more time you spend with yourself ("lonely") the more you get to know yourself and understand yourself better, building a strong character. (Also you get better at quieting the public/distraction) Being alone has really thought me very valuable things that I wouldn't have otherwise ever gotten to learn! I take & see alone time as a time to self generate and improve thyself!

[@karanbehl9878]

wow the compostition of each shot is amazing. just love it

[@OttiIie]

thank you!! :)

[@gremics-gallery]

Introspection is good and something we have to do. Sometimes you are confronted by problems or issues rattling around in the brain. You mentioned feeling Lost. But that starts the problem-solving process around how you counter what you need to. Aloneness is a form of meditation, and you generally build far more resilience than others.

[@pbrooks4040]

the happiest times in my long life were, as a young boy, the one or two month canoe trips in northen quebec. the peace and serenity were everywhere.

[@Anonim-64]

I've been making relationship with myself for 3 years to be alone. My life's getting better . I'm not afraid of having not friends, girlfriend, or missing out of parties. I don't say that I'm an antisocial person. Instead, it makes me better in socialize because I know the time to socialize and time for myself. Thanks for your video❤

[@slhcn8609]

It's interesting, me and 2 friends went to Norway last month on a road trip. I was completely away from my normal rutine, slept in tents every night, hiked to the peaks, swam under the waterfalls, cooked on the way, pretty much the same as you did. We have met other adventurers, one French guy was biking from Denmark to Finland through Lofoten. I don't know if the magic is in Norway or the trip itself, but i think the trip itself, being on the way and the purpose for each individual make the differance. In addition to that, I think it is not possible to be alone, if there is something to be observed (you in that case) there should someone to observe. So you are suggestiong being alone, i agree being away from majority is the way, but i also feel that i am not alone on this "seeking" journey which makes me happy, seing this video now. I like how you said, we're trying, often don't know what to do how to do, but we will figure out hopefully...

[@TheDoutorsimpatia]

I finally found someone who thinks exactly like me: "that being alone is the best thing to do." Because most people don't understand that we stay in full contact with our inner self. It's the best way to get to know ourselves, do self-analysis and be grateful to ourselves. Our ethical and moral values ​​are strengthened. Now this opens up a big internal discussion with ourselves, because we end up being more selective in social and personal relationships, greatly reducing the circle of friendships, because we no longer share the opinions of people outside our way of life. Much peace and positive energy to you.🌹🌻🌹🌻

[@AlanKvasnovsky]

The scenery in your part of the world is very mystical as well as amazing.🏔️

[@duaneverreault1765]

I can resonate with this. Loving that I'm not alone in the appreciation for being alone.

[@timeisup9400]

i spend all my life alone and i can tell you that those are the times when you learn a LOT and get to understand how this world works while getting the opportunity to get to know yourself better and listen to your own self WITHOUT the noise that is all around us constantly.

[@ClimbingCaed]

It’s very touching how well your thoughts and feelings are articulated through. From the first shot to the last. Thank you for sharing your journey! Subscribed

[@OttiIie]

thank you! :)

[@kierlak]

As an introvert myself I've come to the point that self-acceptance is key when it comes to enjoying solitude. That's because it can often be us being self-critical and not truly embracing our preferences. When someone asks me if I feel lonely, I am not offended by this question at all. I just say that I rarely feel lonely and that I need to spend time by myself to recharge my batteries. If I get asked further questions I usually explain to people what introversion is all about based on the books and articles I read on the subject. If someone still finds it weird then it's probably not a person I need in my life (I don't go round and ask people why they have to be around people all the time - I accept them and respect their preferences if their lifestyle makes them happy). Overall it comes down to our culture that promotes extroversion. Open offices, group work, networking parties, etc. But I again I believe it's up to us to be comfortable in our own skin and to embrace our choice of how we want to live our life. I love solitude, it really is a great way to reconnect with yourself. To find out your values, what you like to do, anything that needs processing (e.g. trauma), unmet needs, clarity and peace. Hobbies such as reading, journaling, meditation and being surrounded by nature just enrich my soul ❤ Lastly despite all of that I sometimes do feel lonely. But what helps is not being around a lot of people or having tons of friends. What helps is just having a few people who I connect to on a deeper level. So I feel understood ❤ It's interesting that often being around people who don't get me makes me more lonely 🤔

[@InspirefulWomen]

Well said. I experience it similarly

[@caitlinmusic]

This video inspired me to write a song. Lovely to stumble upon

[@OttiIie]

that's so nice to hear!

[@VistarCreative]

Excellent timing for me on this topic. Thank you KZbin for the accurate algorithm. Cool the be on the first floor of a channel that is going to blow up. I just know it.

[@OttiIie]

appreciate it!! 🤗

[@MaggiekaplanB]

Feeling at peace after watching this .Had a long day🥲❤️

[@rogerwalker6407]

Thank you for this. So many people don't understand being alone. Your insights are spot on. Great videos.

[@OttiIie]

appreciate it! :)

[@davidmimay]

We say "spend" time alone, but it we should say "invest" time alone because it gives you something in return such: peace, clarity… (loved your video 😊I too used to hate piano lessons😂)

[@MajorTrollerHAK]

Groundbreaking video. Really touched something deep inside. I put off watching this over the days as it sat in my home page. Finally decided to check what you had to say about it. Exceeded expectations! Thank you.

[@OttiIie]

thank you! glad you enjoyed it :)

[@TravellingKook]

Such a wonderful message and beautiful shots to accompany the amazing storytelling! Bravo ❤️💫🙏 keep spreading your light and creativity! It is such a gift to enjoy the time we spend with oneself! Much love and guidance my friend 💛

[@OttiIie]

thank you! 🤗

[@EsmeeMarije]

I loveeee this video!! You have such a unique style, I love the way you visualize your brain spinsels! It’s like we are seeing your journal, it’s so intimite! Thanks for sharing it!🙏🏻🤍🦋🌞

[@OttiIie]

Thank you so much!! this is such a nice take 🥰

[@DontBeSoRambo]

I have spent a year on the small island in Denmark mostly by myself. Spend this time reading lots of books and just wandering around. I did find peace with myself and learned to spend time with myself. I had my special places to sit and daydream, I slept for 8+ hours a day, did some exercise but for the most of the day I just spend time thinking. After a full year of doing so I was ready to return to people and now - 10 years after this experience I am really good at being alone, whenever I need to stay by myself I never got bored and I have a bit different perspective on people who are by themselves in restaurants or cinema or wherever - I see it as special time they have with themself

[@thisismyyoutubeaccount3322]

How did you get that opportunity?

[@Aqualiser]

Your video really inspires me. It also makes me quite jealous of how far you are with self-development. ❤ I am now trying to work on this myself. It really is a beautiful adventure and I am getting to know myself better every day.

[@EyeonU100]

Hi Ottilie, I love your content and saw all of your videos and I really loved this one. I myself am a very lonely person. Since I was a Child I need some time in the day to just be alone even having lot’s of friends and relatives to be with. Today I’m a 41 year old father of two lovely kids with 16 and 2 years old and I’m married with my wife since my 24. Even today with all of this scenario in my life I can’t pass one day without being alone in solitude. Being alone in nature just listening and watching is one of my life’s pleasures. I’m also aware that the “dose makes the venom”, and try not to exagerate, even so till this day I never feel that I was lonely, but find your balance and be happy with that… Keep on making those magical videos, but don’t rush it… Cheers from Portugal.

[@WaWax17]

Hi from France, Your video made me feel calm and peaceful. I regularly want to step back from the permanent activity around me but feel bad about it, because we are supposed to enjoy being surrounded by people, because it's joyful to share with friends. And it's true. But sometimes what I need is just being alone. After watching this, I konw it's fine. I'll go read my book now. Bye, and thank you

[@CyprusSunLoverShe]

Yes, same here, I enjoy spending time in my own, homemaking, baking, talking walks, then after this my social battery is charged and I cam spend time with friends, its perfectly normal

Hey, that was phenomenal! I love your style. Congrats on finding the peace to live alone.

[@OttiIie]

thanks!! glad you enjoyed it :)

[@ChristianPinoC]

I can relate so much to your thought. Maybe we are sometimes inclined to judge ourselves because society constantly tells us what's right and wrong, not because we feel bad when we are alone.

[@ninaliflander5197]

A beautiful, thought-provoking video. Thank you Ottilie 💚

[@OttiIie]

Thank you Nina!! 🥰

[@lelandstronks319]

One of the best things you can enjoy in life is yourself.🥰

[@Alphain]

This is amazing!! I find Solace and peace in times when im alone!! This was so relatable!! Great work

[@mikeschiestl9950]

thank you for sharing your experience, it was a very pleasant and enjoyable vibe throughout the whole video. Keep it up🤞🏼

[@hernangb7717]

4:35 Ikigai is a Japanese term that blends two words: “iki” meaning “to live,” and “gai” meaning “reason,” which translates to “a reason to live.” It's a concept that encourages people to discover what truly matters to them and to live a life filled with purpose and joy.

[@dreamer_35]

keep going girl 🎈 you create really good content. and nice to see we have similar thoughts and mental.

[@stf8375]

You’re the only constant in your life ❤

[@espnmk]

"A man among friends is king but a man alone is ruler of his kingdom" Thanks for Sharing...

[@johndoe-rq1pu]

True, I see other people one or two times a month and it's always a pretty bad experience.

[@maducam]

This is amazing. Thanks for the well spend time here. Love from Brazil :)

[@kellihillebrand8341]

Beautiful and deep message which I resonate with immensely🙏. New subscriber🌾☺️

[@steencd]

We love your way ❤️🙏🌲

[@GirlVersusWild]

What a beautifully filmed video! Solitude in nature can be so good for the soul! I’m inspired to make more videos a little bit like this one ❤

[@OskarAckerberg]

Great video! I see a lot of myself in you. I need to be alone a lot, it is my default. I have trouble thinking clearly otherwise. =) It took me about 30 years to fully grasp that every feeling is there to be felt and that they are there for a reason. There is nothing wrong with not feeling perfect all the time. It is all a part of a beautiful journey but it certainly can feel like hell in the moment sometimes. Surrender has been a huge key for me to enjoy life more. Hope you have a wonderful day, take care!

[@sanddab]

The only concern I would have is a medical emergency. If it takes longer than 20 min. to get to a hospital, or if it would take a long time for paramedics to get to you. That would be my only worry.

[@gmccmemberk]

Great video! I hope you get to experience some of those times „alone“ with Jonne, too.

[@OttiIie]

Absolutely! :)

[@franco-gil]

thank you for the video, cheers from Venezuela 🇻🇪 far far away from Sweden 👋

[@sammyakmohite]

I won't call it a video or a film. It's a narration of an human's heart to another human's heart through this medium of pixels.

[@makelovenotwar2467]

I think people in this comment section would appreciate the song "Bru C - Introspection". My favourite quote from it is "You were born alone and you will die all by yourself" which also really shows that you need to come to terms with ultimately being alone and that that's fine.

[@Dardasha_Studios]

Being alone is easy. Being lonely is devastating. Being alone with conviction is hard. Being lonely with conviction is self-suffering.

[@michaelvandenheuvel317]

What a nice video. For a time to answer this is ok. And another time a reminder says no. More of your own.

[@clementquidor2876]

Hello i m Clément from France and i just want to say thank you for sharing your thoughts .

[@douglaskaye1395]

If you like yourself it’s easy to be happy alone.

[@SalTino]

It takes a different kind of strength to be alone

[@charleshenderson1174]

Thanks beautiful. I agree. I love my alone time.

[@FishingTheLure]

Otroligt hur nästan 8 minuter film kunde kännas som en så mycket större film. Jätteinspirerande film och kan verkligen relatera till att tappa ett intresse som man hade när man var yngre. För mig var det filmskapande i yngre tonåren vilket jag slutade med på grund utav andras åsikter. Men som jag nu gått tillbaka till igen vilket jag är glad över. Känner också en frihet att vara själv men känner en skuld över att inte umgås med folk när man ''borde''. Tack och fortsätt med sånt här

[@julioaguaded5963]

I´m agree with you, i´m a nature lover too. I will enjoy my loneliness in one of these places, but i don´t have nothing similar.😭😭😭

[@Roan_RoRepair]

Very nice calming video and insane scenery!!

[@brandmarz]

Solitude does not mean lonliness. Solitude is active and regenerative. Loneliness is a mentality burdened from victimhood and lack of vision. I found a ton of nuggets and discovered what I truly wanted without bombarding myself with the opinions of others with more silence (i.e. take time away from screens). What feelings and thoughts are you running away from? Maybe there’s a breakthrough behind a little bit of solitude (aka quality time with yourself).

[@sterq]

I dont like to use the word alone, i prefer to use the words: with myself :)..because really, when are we actually really alone? When i'm with myself, i always have my own thoughts to accompany me ;)

[@fr0sty999]

living in a place like that... alone? yeah thats so peaceful

[@a.t.cycling]

I don’t know that I can be alone for a long time but it would be nice to do a solo trip sometime though that can prove hard when you’re married and both share a passion for traveling to new places, feels selfish.

[@Fasel99]

So glad I found your video. It really makes me think. Really nice video style by the way! :)

[@OttiIie]

thank you! glad you liked it :)

[@benny_ngch]

Thanks for the video. Loved it. Wish I found your channel sooner.

[@harsshtshah1051]

Im glad I clicked your video

[@seb_steimel]

wow! it took me less than a minute to hit the subscribe button! thank you so much for the video.

[@OttiIie]

ahh thank you!!

[@NicoleSchmidt-v7d]

Ottilie, I love this viedeo so much! well done!!!

[@OttiIie]

Thank you so much!!

[@MH-ec1qc]

Humans have generally spent considerable time and energy building a "life" that they then spend vast quantities of time and money trying to escape and avoid. Vacations, toys, addictions, and distractions. I created a life I need no escape from, and it is in no small part due to spending introspective time alone. A lot of time alone. No one else understands it, I feel no need to try to explain it.

[@madyati]

How do you make these beautiful soothing videos, one tutorial pls

[@micdavey]

Your comment about piano lessons-- oh boy, that's the same for me!

[@odyhovius]

I love the way you express yourself, made me think! Beautiful! Funny enough my name is Ot ;)

[@OttiIie]

Hahah love it!

[@FullPowerDomino]

Great video!

[@EmranTBI]

I like your content so much and I love being lonely

[@LisalotR]

Great video ❤

[@ellenvanderwoude9882]

Wow, wat een wijze woorden. Supergoed!

[@EmbraceMoreMeaning]

With your view.. who needs people? Hihi i love your video style! Keep going ;)

[@MaduZA-ht7oj]

I love ur voice ✨❤

[@sinnnanoraa]

I admire this lifestyle

[@AnoNyMous-ho2zk]

solitude is necessary sometimes to edevelop yourself

[@nathanyuki]

i needed this right now