"YOU'RE TOO PRETTY FOR LOCS" - LOCS AREN'T FEMININE?

[@caramelle86]

it’s so sad that “beauty” for certain black people means straight or loosely curled hair. Locs are so beautiful as well as loose natural hair.

[@Kiki-jx6by]

My brother once said to me “ locs are for men.” I couldn’t understand that because it’s the texture of hair I was born with. Another asked “ so are u going to take those out? “. I had to keep them because they are healthier for me. My hair is fuller, can do more with locs with less work. No way am I “ taking them out!” I am accepted now. If not, oh well it’s best for me. My peace is more important to me than opinions.

[@demetragregg9362]

Peace is exactly why I'm locing my hair . Thank you for putting a word to my thoughts. I was questioning if I was lazy, like my mom hinted. I just want peace tired of stressing and fighting my hair.

[@Th3lov3virus]

Honestly this is my first time hearing about people thinking like this. I guess I'm the opposite I honestly prefer women to have dreds then men 🤷🏾‍♀️. Mainly because I don't like a man with long hair.

[@RavenMarie2001]

Yes I'm so glad I seen this comment people feel like you're suppose to wear your hair to their likings or what's beneficial for them and it doesn't work like that if you can't accept my hair for how I want to wear my hair then that's a personal issue 💯

[@therealjt.]

Those femininity videos are heavily based on eurocentric standards! You are so beautiful and exude such class regardless of what style you rock. Much love 🤍

[@SharmelLynnette]

Thank you! I definitely agree with you, thanks for watching ♥️

[@Tybriaaa]

I loc’d my hair last year. Feel like you going get push back from people because we as black women are suppose to hate our natural hair. Love my locs and love seeing another beautiful black woman loving her natural hair.

[@nanapearlpearl2696]

Girl if you worry about what people think you will always be seeking validation from others. Your absolutely beautiful no matter how you rock your hair.

[@ArtMusicHairMakeUp]

I am 7 weeks into my loc journey and I appreciate your honesty... I have definitely questioned my femininity and confidence with my starter locs... thanks for sharing 👑

[@joannamelanie]

Me too

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

These locs are absolutely gorgeous on you! I really love the colour on you too. 😍😍

[@SharmelLynnette]

Thank you!! ♥️♥️

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

@@SharmelLynnette You're welcome beauty!

[@imeekay]

Thank you for making this! I wanted to cry so bad today because I’m in my 8th month and now that my locs are starting to form I see people staring at me more as if there is something wrong with me, whether I look nice or not, whether my hair is retwisted or not, whether I have nails or not. It hurts knowing people are judging me based on how I am choosing to wear my hair. I’m trying to embrace my locs beyond others negativity because I know they don’t know who I am and this is a journey that I personally chose to take. ❤️

[@Danity56]

If they look at you funny, look back at them funny. It's time people stop with the European look that we're not meant for. We are divine and feminine.

[@giggles1219]

​@@Danity56 PERFECTLY PUT💯😆

[@risenshineofficial]

Subscribed. I can relate so much I've been ridiculed, mainly by our people. I am so blessed to have found your channel. Love your energy and this video. I fell in love with my natural hair at (16) I am now 23 and currently locking my hair. I was told it was a "slave" hairstyle. Ignorant people will say anything because they DON'T KNOW. I am in the beginning stages of my locs they do what they want I don't comb them or retwist every week. And with every step I'm falling in love with my natural beauty and how I look raw how God made me. This style might not be deemed as "beautiful or feminine" but who cares? No one in main stream is paying my bills. No dictionary will tell me I'm "beautiful" I am a woman and I can't help but be feminine its how I was created. Thanks for the amazing tips I needed this Love you sis keep your crown up queen.❤️👑

[@sikaametu]

I love how honest you are. Keep being you, beautiful! ❤

[@islagirl10]

First I wanted to say thank you for making this video because it’s so authentic. I’m starting my loc journey in two weeks and I’m doing it knowing that I’m going to have to go through a natural hair journey all over again…and all of the criticisms that’ll come with it. Thank you for defining femininity for us and making it clear that we are feminine in all our forms as women! Much love 💜

[@getrealhood]

Women look so good with locs. That’s all

[@18QueenHearts]

You are absolutely beautiful! I have always had a sense of self and never felt connected to fitting in with relaxed hair. I've never relaxed my hair, by choice and loc'ed my hair in my first year of uni in 2007. I've trimmed them etc and they grow back out very quickly BUT I never forget the woman who inspired me lol. I saw her, just a glimpse of her and she was the most beautiful feminine, well kept clean woman I had ever seen and I saw that woman when I was around 16...that's almost 2 decades ago hahahaha. People always loved the way my locs looked on me and they complimented me very well. It's natural and I think when women embrace those natural parts of themselves with confidence it adds to our beauty and femininity. Everywhere I go, people admired the way I looked. I was never lacking in attention, desire AND serious interest from men from EVERY echelon of society AND multiple ethnicities...multiple hahaha. It is because of WHO I am as a woman and certainly how I present myself. I'm very ladylike and graceful (I was told hahah) well-groomed, I speak really well, carry myself well, I admit so the entire package is palatable. I say this to reinforce that locs are just part of the total package and people who make ignorant comments are truly just that, ignorant. Be blessed and stay beautifully loc'ed.

[@denesed9554]

Sis you could be bald headed with one eye and stilllll slay! Your beautiful and folks don’t need to project their insecurities on you! Keep shinin 😘

[@keymone9056]

It's funny you made this video because I'm almost 3 months into my journey and, here lately I have been really feeling a kind of way, not myself, not good looking confused even about what I'm doing not wanting to go outside cause I feel like my hair "isn't done" jus a mix of emotions. I jus hang in there because I can see the potential and I know in the long run it will work out and look really good 😞🤦🏽‍♀️

[@SharmelLynnette]

I know exactly how you feel, there a many days I don't feel like myself. But this too shall pass. Best wishes along your journey.

[@keymone9056]

@@SharmelLynnette SAME too you boo I'll be watching 😌🤗

[@the_artful_rabbit]

This was a great video :) and this was one of the main reasons that I was scared of getting locs (I'm just shy of 6months into my journey). There's this internalised idea that you cannot be soft, feminine and beautiful with locs. I think this is because it's in no way shape or form trying to emulate the look of "silky, soft, long" European hair, aside from the length locs are so different to the accepted standard of beauty and femininity that these feelings that you may no longer be considered soft and pretty are 100% valid. I do think that representation is an important thing here which is why it's great to see celebrities like Chloé and Halle who are very feminine and beautiful wear locs and I imagine after the new Little Mermaid comes out there will be more black girls who can look to a Disney Princess like Halle Bailey and be like "oh her hair is so pretty I want hair like hers" (thats if they keep her locs which I hope that they will.). Great video!

[@melgordon9441]

I love watching your videos. You are very talented and blessed. What caught my eye was your name. I had to hear how you pronounce it. It's exactly like mine and I have never met or heard of another Charmel. Growing up I've always spelled it with a S because everyone thought it did and it looked pretty to me haha. My parents have always told me they created my name from their names split in half which is true but I guess somewhere around the world there were others loving our name. Thanks for the videos. Your gorgeous and I hope this message brings a smile or laugh your way.

[@fashionaddict9294]

Thank you for being honest & transparent about this topic. I had locs then combed them out because of this reason but now I’m missing them. I’m working on my internal femininity now just external before I get them again

[@plainjanekay4347]

Everything about this video is perfect! Very well said. I just started my locs on January 16th and I’m honestly so excited about my journey. #subscribed

[@shishim6813]

Thank god for your brother. Ppl need to shut up sometimes lol

[@roxaneowen613]

I subscribed to your page when you started your loc journey and I wondered how you would reflect during these months. When I started my loc journey there were definitely people looking at me crazy. I think it is because the beginning stages are tough to get through. I was giving buckwheat from the little Teasdale on my job 😂. Honestly, You can pull off any hairstyle and because you do a lot of “glam” styles..... it is a difficult transition. It is important though to embrace your natural beauty. It could easily be missed doing all of the external things that we are used to. I just look at myself for long periods of time with no makeup, nappy locs and all. In a couple of weeks I’ll be one year loc’d. I’m super excited but honestly this is an ongoing journey. There will still be plenty of days I will miss my loose hair but i am loving all of the things i will gain..... and you will too ❣️

[@lyn9415]

4:15-6:53 spoke to my soul.

[@selenemiller9976]

This is a really good vid/discussion....appreciate you sis ❤

[@MultipleStrands_]

Talk yo shit! 🖤 People are brainwashed anyways.

[@infiniti__alex]

Omg your sooo BEAUTIFUL ❤❤❤

[@alanispocahontas_]

Said everything so perfectly, thanks for sharing this

[@sherldavis4791]

You are absolutely gorgeous! 😍 I appreciate your honesty.

[@SharmelLynnette]

Thank you so much!!

[@TheVafinest]

Love you for being you 😉 Keep doing what you do and let no one tell you different . Your beautiful on the outside , but your aditude , compassion shows your beautiful on the inside as well . You keep that beautiful spirit and continue to uplift the beautiful queens that God has made us to be and for those who don't realize their inner beauty yet . Again love your make up and hair tutorials . You spoke eloquently and respectful without demeaning others as others disregarded your feelings with their harsh judgements as if it's their given right or something . God is the only one who can pass judgement on what's not excepted .

[@SharmelLynnette]

Thank you so much for your kind words!

[@realgoodenergy5223]

My mom called me a dyke the other week for having my locs I couldn’t believe it…im 15 also😪

[@Valley__]

😡

[@joilove1444]

This video was right on time! 🤍

[@rozchristopherson648]

Locs make a woman more beautiful because they are real. What is not beautiful is fake hair or hair straightened and you know that it is either going to revert or fall out one day due to heat or chemicals. Femininity has been controlled by the dominant culture so there are certain standards and stereotypes connected to that. Beauty is when you are your natural self. PS Your locs and you are beautiful.

[@1Rydann]

What is the song in the beginning ? 😍

[@SharmelLynnette]

Jazmine Sullivan - Masterpiece 😊

[@luckydonnee7185]

So let me ask you this.. you rather wear fake hair, weave , wigs ? To be up to par to for the European way of beauty ?? GIRL YOUR BEAUTIFUL with your natural hair and beauty please stop