Young Mother and Young Woman Who Doesn't Want Kids Meet | Filipino | Rec•Create

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[@zarinaannmagnate6551]

I'm proud of these ladies for sharing their perspectives about wanting and not wanting to have kids without overstepping their boundaries. They are the kind of people that we need more in this world. I mean, it's all about having your own opinions and choices/ preferences but at the same time, respecting other people's too. Plus!!! This channel deserves more subscribers. And I want more of this content. Kudos to y'all. ♥

[@Rec.Create]

Thank you for the kind words, Zarina! ❤

[@sarahflores3672]

The girl in black saying such unsolicited comments like “takot ka lang and missing out on happiness” are totally foul. No man has the right to question your life choices especially if you dont contribute to her/his well-being.

[@yoshisuk6289]

Young mother clearly overstep bounderis. "Takot ka lang kay ayaw mo magka anak?" Huh pano mo nasabi takot sya, no matter what the reason, that's her choice, so what. Ako nga gusto ko magka anak but I understand and wont convince ladies na ayaw magka anak it's their life.

[@pandecocojam]

@@yoshisuk6289 true, and coming from a person who got pregnant by accident. girl in orange is intentional about how she wants to live and i applaud that.

[@ellashiroi9827]

Deciding to have kids or not have kids does not make you less of a human being. It’s all about respecting choices.

[@LadyLou9]

Definitely. It can get annoying when people try to shove their life choices on us just to feel further validated with where they are in life. It's more selfish to me to bring a child into this world when his/her mother doesn't feel like being a mother is the kind of life for them thus not only making one person be miserable to be put in that situation but two people being misrable cuz now the child won't get the care he/she needs from an unfit mother.

[@jakereis1491]

Oh those poor kids living on the streets because of.bad family planning 😭😢

[@reginepadel8943]

@@LadyLou9 true I am afraid na magpalaki or mag alaga na di ko maibigay ang dapat para sa kanya. Parang nasa kamay ko na mag mold nang isang human pag naging magulang ka na parang ang bigat kung anong tama or mali para sa ibang bata it is so tricky and hard to mold a good person. I want to be who I am or find myself before a parent.

[@kecym.4808]

I agree

[@IsidroEstranghero]

nope

[@melisacruz9742]

The girl in the orange shirt is full of wisdom. I feel that she is trying to educate the other woman with her stand without making her feel offended. She’s very careful with her words. I don’t feel like she’s persuading her but rather she wants the other party to understand her views. I can also see that she’s listening intently. Galing nya.

[@Noname-ke5sb]

I love her personality

[@chrispbacon7533]

The girl in black is so full of smug.

[@jingmagallanes5481]

@@chrispbacon7533 true lmfao

[@kecym.4808]

yesss

[@clarkmarano9506]

I was looking for this comment... Eto dapat Naka pinned eh

[@jezzabrina]

“my priorities in life isn’t to make someone else’s dreams happy or fulfilled, i want mine fulfilled.” 💯

[@asapfunky339]

Ulol linyahan ng mga panget na walang manliligaw

[@flipflop4004]

@@asapfunky339 HAHAHAHAH pota 😂

[@dianabanana08]

@@asapfunky339classic toxic pinoy 💖

[@pinkapocalypse3887]

@@asapfunky339 toxic mo HAHAHA

[@Lilia-ix1sr]

@@asapfunky339 you're fucking toxic

[@JoyceXiu]

They shouldn't have brought in a mother that looks like she did not plan on having a kid at 19. There's a difference of perspective from a mom who got preggy to a mom who really wanted to have a child. It would be a better exchange of ideas. The young mother feels like she's just holding onto her mom beliefs right now because she doesn't have a choice anymore.

[@matchandrei1627]

Lang Lang Mei yaaaaasssss!

[@seojuhyun2896]

Yap

[@crystaljeanevangelista314]

yeeeessss

[@CrizaAnnRSaul]

you are definitely right!

[@rheavillanueva3610]

Yeah

[@jerickbaarde5242]

“Gago sayang” not being a mother doesn’t make you less of a woman though. Ayaw din magka-anak ng ibang women because of the drastic consequences of climate change.

[@k_jrin28]

I think on her part it’s more of masaya kasi experience nya with having a child and gusto nya i-share yung happiness na yun sa isa pang girl pero clearly hindi naman ganun yung outcome parati, it’s actually quite refreshing to see young people na masaya magka anak and all

[@biancarollan5076]

truth. ang hirap magsilang kung nakikita mong sobrang lala na nang nangyayari sa mundo, in general. I don’t want another human to suffer. 😢😢😢😢

[@merlinsiervo]

Genuine question, ano kinalaman ng climate change?

[@leedanica7355]

@@merlinsiervo It's more of a conclusion na if I indeed have a child at this generation, would they be able to survive in the next few years knowing all the consequence of the ever-growing problem of climate change?

[@clover5923]

@@merlinsiervo okay so this is a veryyyyy long topic. Climate change basically means that a lot of changes in our Earth will occur. If a child is born today, he/she will be affected by it. The next generation will have to: 1.figure out how to stop evolving viruses from killing them 2. How to stop deforestation which heats up the earth therefode causing more winter and summer: more winter= dead plants, agriculture will go down = lack of food more/longer summer= Dead plants, lack of food therefore: 3. the next generation will have to find out how to have resources for themselves 4. Climate change may also cause lower carbon dioxide& oxygen in the eart which means = the next generation will have to figure out how to survive with low oxygen to breath in 5. climate change can also affect politics, economics, and basically EVERYTHING. It can cause wars, because all countries want resources for themselves. There have been historical facts that societies before collapsed and died because their surroundings(nature) changed and they cannot adopt. Anong kinalaman ng climate change? let us put this simply: Imagine na nasa cinehan ka. Ang cinehan dapat madilim, malamig, at may malaking screen, atmay mga tao, hindi ba? Paano kung mababago ang cinehan? habang nanunuod ka bigla na lang nagkaroon ng ilaw. Anong gagawin mo? edi nagiba ang movie, di mo makita. Paano naman kapag nagbago ang lamig sa kwarto at uminit? lahat ng tao bigla nalang nahihirapan huminga. Anong gagawin mo? Ngayon. Imagine kung may anak ka, at dahil matanda ka nanamatay ka na at ang anak mo ay nasa sinehan ng mag-isa, kaya mo bang iwan siya sa lahat ng problemang ito?

[@hanielsoriano5907]

I'm not scared, I don't trust myself to raise a whole human.

[@sy-zu4uz]

Lmao same

[@imoyshi126]

Same.

[@hllryii2137]

same!!

[@Anggell707]

I don't even know how to cook how can I raise a human being💀

[@jmdoromal1288]

Hahahhaha feel ko Di ako deserving magka anak kasi walang pera yan talaga paniwala ko ang mahal mabuhay

[@jonnahgrafe9655]

Sometimes I wanna have kids but in this economy? Medyo nakakadalawang isip. But in the end, it’s our bodies and choices 😊

[@rafaelrayb]

SAME SENTIMENTS.

[@hannasalatan5079]

same.

[@gertj363]

Totoo. Mukhang may kaya yung young mother na ito e.

[@kweneh]

One of my personal reasons as well.

[@irisespanola560]

I think nowadays it's expensive to have a kid......

[@gandarva1993]

Start pa lang, you know young mother is kinda judgy towards the other woman.

[@berrysugar3347]

In their other videos here sa channel din. Try watching it, im always bothered by her comments slash reactions bc she really sounds judgemental!

[@sailormoon6309]

prangka siya👌👌👏

[@IchGluckspilz445]

Judgy and hyprocrite. Diba nadisgrasya sya kaya nagkaanak?

[@riku-channel4235]

@@berrysugar3347 yeah... pansin ko din

[@carmelagracelcantos718]

@@IchGluckspilz445 how there u to call her disgrasyada?

[@Cicero17-18]

Never have a boyfriend. Never been kissed. Never been touched. Yes, I am lame! 😂 I don't also see myself to have a child. I have my reasons but I'm not going to say it here. 😊 To all women who have no plans to have a child!! Let's cheers!

[@arbitrarychoices]

Sis, same! Cheers!

[@Cicero17-18]

@@cherrylynsibonga4653 Hindi naman. Haha!

[@cherrylynsibonga4653]

@@Cicero17-18 😂😂 mas masarap mang hiram lng tapos pag pagod n mag alaga isosoli nlng. hahaha

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

TRUE. I NEED A MAN WHO PREFERS CATS OVER HUMAN CHILDREN🙂

[@Cicero17-18]

@@cherrylynsibonga4653 Hahaha. Sometimes, yeah.

[@patriciadeleon2986]

First part kind of turned me off with the "gago sayang" and "lame-o" sa not having had a one night stand. But all the good comments made me stay. And it was worth it. I love the open conversation. "The essence of a woman is pag nag bear ka ng child, which is hindi na ngayon." LOUDER

[@Deds551]

Same... i dont like the way she responds or talks like the tone.

[@Deds551]

@NineOne Productions i get how it turned out better, the vid i mean. But still doesnt change the turned off moment sa start with how tjey introduced each other blah blah part... but yeah video ended up being nice

[@titakimandisha]

Masyadong pacool si ate gurl na nakablack.. duh. 😒

[@allena0976]

Bakit sayang? Hapiness and fulfillment can't only be found in motherhood, and not everyone wants to be a birth machine in their early 20s. LOL

[@kate9223]

My mom always remind me na wag Kang mag aanak o mabubuntis kung hindi mo pa kayang bumili ng mga gamit/damit na galing mismo sa bulsa mo. Dapat financially stable ka kasi lifetime responsibility na ang pagka karon ng anak or family. And I'm loving my freedom Kaya wala pa Yan sa mga naiisip ko. Dreams 1st and same with Naka orange girl takot ako sa responsibilidad and I'm not excited for it.

[@ChasingOsang]

Kayako n bumili ng gamit ,etc galing s sarili kong bulsa. In fct i am 100% independent bu the thing is what ever i am earning is 'i feel' enough lng for me😂, so yeah, since i cant buy things for "another' person except mine i think d p tlg pede. Ahahahahhaha

[@uwumart2023]

That's awesome to hear! I love that you have that choice and not having to just deal with a consequences.... it's always good to actually chose to have a kid not just fall pregnant

[@monicamarquez6531]

Same

[@schane9255]

My honest take on this is that the girl who got pregnant at 19 didn’t even intentionally want a child at that age but because some things happen in life she had to stick with it and become responsible. So for her to come off as someone who would “impose” that a woman has to bear a child just to reach this complete state of womanhood is somewhat off putting. I respect women who knows that having a child is a great responsibility and that since they know they don’t have the means and these so called maternal instincts or even have future goals for themselves they’d rather not have a child. Bear a child when you’re ready. If you’re not or you think you’re never gonna be ready then DONT. Kawawa ang mga bata na pinapanganak ng mga moms who are not into the motherhood life. I know so many people who were raised by parents who are not even that ready and hindi sila nabibigyan ng quality of life na every child deserves.

[@ninatalens]

I had a co worker dati na nag share sakin about sa life nung naging super close na kami sabi nya ayaw nya talaga magkaanak nung una mejo weird kasi usually pag babae isa sa mga pangarap un mag kaanak and take note may long time partner sya, tapos nung nag explain na sya about her family background sakin- na bata plang sya na ung bread winner yung tatay nya lang nag wowork sa kanila at mababa pa sweldo, nanay nya house wife. Nag student assistant sya para makapag aral, nung nag work na sya,,sya na nagpaparal sa mga kapatid nya. In short lahat ng responsibilidad inako nya kaya daw ayaw na nya magka anak kasi pagod na sya sa responsibilidad, dun ko na intindihan lahat.

[@espelembergogemirishf.7057]

Naiyak ako sa comment mo kuya... Totoo to 👌👌

[@ninatalens]

@@espelembergogemirishf.7057 totoo po talaga yan, dun ko talaga naintindihan ung hugot nya kaya totoo na wag ko muna husgahan ung opinion o POV ng tao lalot ndi mo alam ung pinaghuhugutan nya. :)

[@analynquinto7462]

🙃

[@brownsugarissupreme]

we need to separate motherhood from womanhood. motherhood is not the happy ultimate end for women. the young mother in this video was really disrespectful and misrepresents filipino mothers

[@freidam.5055]

@@markdonnelviernes3690 why do we have to talk about the "ultimate end" of a woman as being a singular thing? Women can choose different paths in their life, using their supposed potential towards their career, towards a cause, and of course, towards motherhood. We can't impose a single goal on a diverse set of people just because that's what society says so. And just to note, choosing not to be a mother doesn't mean a woman is not "maximizing her whole potential." It's time to stop reducing women to beings no more than baby-making machines. Also, getting rich alone, living alone, travelling alone, and not maximizing my supposed whole-potential sounds like a good "end" to me :)

[@thepresenter252]

@@markdonnelviernes3690 lol sounds good to me, that’s actually my plan, so what if I don’t maximize my whole potential? At least I lived my life in the way I wanted. But please remember that people have their own definitions of “ultimate end”. I will humbly ask you to just understand their perspectives and respect them. Just because others thought that being a mother is the “ultimate end” or otherwise like what you said, doesn’t mean it applies to all of us.

[@honey3693]

@@markdonnelviernes3690 Once your happy and comfortable with just being with yourself (choosing to be alone doesn't necessarily mean your sad, there are people who prefer to be alone most of the time), them you will always be happy either with others or with just your own. Mas okay na matuto kang maging masaya at kontente sa sarili mo para bonus nalang pag nakahanap ka ng partner na makakasama mo to share happinness throughout your life.

[@Marian-zw2ff]

"i'd like to believe that your partner in life is a partner in life. it's not a partner in life to start a family. it's not necessarily about that." wow haha. tumagos tong sinabi ni ate. salamat sa pagshe-share ng ganitong perspective.

[@ninatalens]

Marianne trueee

[@PresidentMarielle]

Ate in orange was smart and very respectful. When she was given the chance to give presumptions about the young mother, she chose to say generally nice things. Usually, the presumptions are that the young mother was irresponsible (because why would she get pregnant at such a young age) and that the baby was probably an accident. But Ate Orange didn't say any of that. And I really appreciate how she was thoughtful and really listened to the other girl. On the other hand, the ate in black seemed really judgmental. I know the point of the exercise was to ask questions about each other's lifestyle/ideology, but she just kept chiming in with judgmental and unnecessary remarks. She's totally a normie 😂 -- probably a sheltered, "I'm-not-like-other-girls" kind of girl, the type of person to be "woke" on twitter to seem cool.

[@sweetiekity3281]

She said her whole, honest opinion. She judged based on what she saw in the video. And if she WAS being judgemental, then what? Humans ain't perfect. (I don't care that this is a 2 month old comment)

[@peytonfelix9464]

@jonty comment section to nagcomment lang sya kung ayaw mo makakakita ng comment wag ka pumunta ng comment section🤣

[@pauggerz8055]

@@peytonfelix9464 damn this statement really good. If there's a problem and you don't want to address it just turn a blind eye. Top tier 👌

[@peytonfelix9464]

@@pauggerz8055 huh? Wala naman problem dun sa top comment yung jonty sinasabi na judgmental daw yung nagcomment eh opinion nya naman yon pano naging judgmental

[@pauggerz8055]

@@peytonfelix9464 being judgemental comes from a person's opinion and how they express it. The top comment was almost a well constructed criticism until the last statements which makes her a hypocrite. Judging a judgy person ain't really good and I think that's what jonty is trying to say.

[@krislumagui]

"Ayaw ko magkaanak" at one point naisip ko ito..lalo nung kasagsagan ng pagpapayaman days ko (very career oriented) .. Kasi akala ko when I become a mom mawawala na ko... It's the end of me... Pero now that I am a mom... Hindi pala totoo un... I've never felt this happy at I didn't know I'm capable of loving someone like this...Ang saya pala maging nanay kung napaghandaan mo.

[@hey.its.carmina]

Mommy Kris :)

[@auroramarieclaire4898]

But it's not always rainbows and butterflies. There's this exhausting, lonely, draining reality behind sugar-coated statements and camera smiles and yung siguro yung nakiita ng ibang women na ayaw magkaanak. They are able to see beyond the candy wonderland of IG and FB posts. The reality is what keeps them from putting themselves in that position, which totally makes sense. If one is willing to become a mother, one must accept the realities of it--- the good, the bad and the ugly.

[@empacheco01]

I think ung pinaka importanteng part ng statement ni mommy Kris is "kung paghahandaan mo." kasi I think dyan mo maexpect na ma enjoy yung fulfilling part ng pagiging magulang, kung napaghandaan mo. Kung na malinaw sa isip mo anu-ano ang posibleng harapin mo at may nakahanda ka nang ways to handle those. Of course, we will never be ready sa difficulties na pagdadaanan but advantage sayo, bilang magulang at sa anak mo, na handa ka physically, mentally, emotionally at financially. BTW, #TeamNoKids din ako. ❤️😊

[@auroramarieclaire4898]

@@empacheco01 exactly. I don't know why it has become a norm to have kids just because. Kahit hindi enough yung finances, kahit they can barely take care of themselves. Nagagalit yung iba kapag sinabing childfree ka kasi nachachallege yung belief nila na having kids just happens and it's as if it's not a thing to be thoroughly thought about and prepared for. Yun bang after ng kasal automatic na yung baby. As if having kids is just something one can be careless about. Very wrong.

[@eduardorecto9076]

May I ask what changed your mind and at what point of your life did you realize that you want to raise your own kids??? I am quite curious about this.

[@joecenaig226]

This is a very good conversation. A woman is not defined by her willingness to have children.

[@rinrinforthewin]

I used to want a child but as I grow older I realize there is so much responsibility in that aspect. If I ever do have one, I want them to have the best life that they can have. It's even more selfish to have a child but not give them a good life and expect them to care for you someday. So kudos po kay ate na naka glasses. You ain't selfish at all

[@melanieaml2131]

Exactly my thoughts. Plus, this world is so cruel.

[@emiiiii1000]

Tama

[@noreenrelloso576]

Totally agree.

[@michaellaferl7476]

SAME!!!

[@ariannelilio]

True

[@sheena3969]

YO CREATOR OF THIS CHANNEL PLEASE DON'T STOP MAKING THESE KIND OF CONTENT. it may be small now but it is underrated! I appreciate all your efforts you put in all these

[@Rec.Create]

Thank you so much, Sheena! ❤

[@mariacassandrataruc2574]

@@Rec.Create ONLY DISCOVERED UR CHANNEL YESTERDAY AND I LOVE THIS SEGMENT PLS DONT STOP. QUALITY CONTENT ASF

[@sanshirada1119]

Narinig ko noon na the essence of being a woman or being a true woman daw is 'yong ma feel ang pagkakaroon ng anak. Naitanong ko bigla, how about 'yong hindi magkaanak or ayaw manganak? Does it mean lesser sila sa pagiging woman? I'm turning 31 and this year I told my mom that I'm not planning to get married or have kids. I asked forgiveness in advance kasi hindi niya makikita ang descendants niya through me. Sabi niya huwag daw magsalita ng patapos. Sabi ng ibang friends ko, hindi ko raw talaga dream ang maging single or ang hindi magkaanak. Sabi pa nga ng isang friend ko na parang desperada raw ako kasi sinasabi ko na "mangkay" (old maid) na ako. If naging Roman catholic ako, papasok talaga ako sa kumbento lels. I wish there's a group for women -regardless of faith- 'yong parang kumbento. I mean, a place where we can support each other and we can do things for the community. Because I know, it's going to be a tough road in the future. Based from the observation kahit anong organization, 'yong mga "mangkay" or "ulay" or spinster, nagiging butt of the jokes. Sasabihan na "at the end of the day, you're going to be lonely"; or "ganiyan 'yan kasi hindi nakapag-asawa", etc etc. I also notice two types of "mangkays" or spinsters: 1. the bitter 2. the happy / blessed I hope, if God permits, puhon puhon, I'll be a happy / blessed mangkay :-) I wish to meet people who do not plan to have kids / marry too. I want to know kung ano ba ang mga activities na pinagkakaabalhan niyo para maging productive sa society :-)

[@Cicero17-18]

Bakit ka naman nasabihang desperada? Desperada saan? Sana nga may org no? Sama ako! 🤣

[@sanshirada1119]

@@Cicero17-18 , siguro akala ng friend ko na i was desperate na magkarelasyon lalo na if naririnig niya na I'm referring myself as a mangkay even though I'm 31. Parang nagpaparinig kumbaga = desperation. What they don't understand is, I'm not really into romantic relationships. Mas iniiyakan ko pa nga noon ang friendships kesa romantic chuchu na 'yan haha. And there are people like me, who cannot see themselves getting married or having children. Gawa tayo ng org para sa mga spinsters? haha

[@Cicero17-18]

@@sanshirada1119 Leigh Quimbo Hahaha, same. Na parang alien ako para maramdaman yun. Na kailangan ko magkaganon para lang may makasama pagtanda ko. Nope. Hindi ako mag-aasawa/jowa, para lang sa purpose na yun. Puuuush!! 😹

[@hioncloud9]

Puhon-puhon. 😊

[@toughsoftieyogi]

Soul sister! I turned 32 this year. I have no plans on getting married and I've never dreamed of having kids. I want to live a light and free life. I don't want to be tied to a lifetime of responsibilities and social expectations. Don't let those naysayers get to you. You will be a happy spinster. Just focus on yourself, your growth, and your happiness. *The only person that can complete you is YOU* .

[@christineracasa7626]

Women who dont wanna have kids deserve as much respect as those women who want to be a mother. This vid really touched my heart for I as well don't have any plans to become a mother. I could really relate to what she said that the decision was not made in a snap of a finger, it was due to compounding instances and personal experiences that influenced me to make that decision. Thanks for this guys, looking forward to more amazing contents. ❤️💕

[@reganme7626]

31 yrs old. NBSB until now. Before gusto ko magkaanak pero ayoko ng asawa, but now didnt think of having a child. Peole around me asking me to get a bf and get married, nakakawasa in my everyday life lagi kong naririnig sa ibng taong nakakasalamuha ko. Kung anu anung sinasabi nila.. but now hindi na ako nakikinig kasi i know na hindi para sa akin ang pag aasawa at pag aanak...

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

OMG PANO MO NAKAYANAN HANGGANG NGAYON NBSB.. I AM SCARED COZ AT 22 I AM STILL NBSB

[@bbbluebird7133]

In God's perfect time💕

[@reganme7626]

@@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388 hindi naman kasi ako maganda hehe. Not a ligawin type. May nagkakagusto pero hindi tinutuloy, nanliligaw sa fb which is not okay with me. Or mas matanda nagkakagusto something like that.... hindi marunong magresponse pag may lumalapit...

[@SuDoVoX]

Omg same here!! NBSB and i'm 27! Tbh, hindi naman kawalan na walang ka-relationship. I guess it depends sa person if she/he prefers to be it that way. Like for me, yes, I still see myself being in a relationship in the future but I'm not in a hurry to be in. Okay lang na single ako cause I get to do things on my own (I'm independent kasi) and I still don't want to break that. If ever the time comes na may dumating, why not?

[@koolcat2317]

@@reganme7626 feel youuu. 23 yrs old here tho. 7 years single

[@marjoriecamilao3845]

'gago, sayang'... choices of not having a kid or infertility and ending up having no kids do not make you lesser than people who experienced motherhood..

[@auroramarieclaire4898]

Feeling ko nagoover-compensate lang si young mom for the lost time and freedom. Kasi youth and freedom is something you can never have back once you've lost it eh. Parang ganito lang yan. The ones who are bitter at the freedom of others are only those who are in prison. Genern. Pero bilib ako sa pag-explain ni ate childfree. Very intelligent and wise. :)

[@theliv7465]

truee

[@DC-ss3xf]

ito na ata ang best comment dito. very well said.

[@michaelphilip1]

the thing is plinan ba talaga nung may anak na magkaanak at 19? all i hear is justification of an unplanned action unless proven otherwise.

[@IchGluckspilz445]

Yas

[@ashantiberenice5798]

baby mama kasi siya oof

[@perryrhinitis]

May mga toxic na parents minsan na they're pressuring their adult kids to start a family kasi gusto nilang maging grandparents pero pagdating sa gastos wala namang kuda 🙄

[@holanicolette]

MISMO!!! Haha gusto lang nila ng picture sa social media na may "apo" na sila kasi yung mga amiga nila meron na, sila wala pa.

[@deeb3272]

Agree ako kay ate. A partner in life doesnt automatically mean youd want to create a family.

[@TitaniumTronic]

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK.

[@musicaddict158]

She has more experienced than her and she thinks she’s cool because of that... she kinda rude to her even if she said “she is just joking”

[@bl00d.basted46]

true! pansin ko din 😕

[@chaiaraneta7408]

yep i really think that girl in black is sooo rude and unlikeable. nakita ko na ung ibng vids ng recreate and i just don't like her vibe. she's comes off really mean and entitled and rude. sorry not sorry. i dont like how she treated the girl in orange, the girl in black was really shady towards her.

[@KCEle]

But she's not.

[@KCEle]

Feeling ko kaya ganun personality nys bcoz of her past, She doesn't have dad and feel ko bcoz of that, nasanay siya na maging independent and strong heehehe

[@jace6156]

@@KCEle may difference naman ata ang pagiging strong sa rude? 🤔 hindi dapat excuse ang past ng isang person when treating others badly 🤷‍♀️

[@deeb3272]

I think not wanting to have something is a sign of fear, sometimes its a sign of being smart.

[@TitaniumTronic]

Well said!

[@Aya-ct4pk]

Agree

[@user-on2bq3oi4d]

The girl in black came too strong at the start. She spewed words like "gago sayang" and something about the girl in orange missing out on so many things. She got pregnant at such a young age and for sure, the responsibilities attached to being a mother must have held her back from other opportunities as well. The girl in orange could have said to her in return "gago sayang, nag anak/ naanakan ka agad" but gladly, she did not.

[@lalilulelo]

I'm 33, male, ayaw ko magka-anak. :) I love the freedom that I can do what I want, whenever I want.

[@joeydacillo9995]

"gago sayang" "you're gonna miss out on so much happiness" oh no

[@SoroOrenji]

“Gago sayang” 🙄 I love how nice/respectful the orange girl is whereas the young mom was basically like “you’re so boring and lifeless” lmao. Imagine your life, happiness, and character being reduced to being a baby factory 🤮

[@SoroOrenji]

“You’re a woman you are MADE to have a family, IT’S THE ESSENCE of your existence” what kinda conditioned, backwards thinking 🤮

[@Rec.Create]

Hi! Just to clarify, the first exercise is meant to talk about society's common misconceptions and assumptions about the labels. It doesn't necessarily reflect the participant's personal opinions but can include societal norms. Kindly keep that in mind. Thanks!

[@JUDEIRA]

@@KaGeeSandamukal same

[@jdb8104]

Totoo!! Nainis ako dun sa part na yun hahaha

[@chrispbacon7533]

@@Rec.Create stop justifying the idiot response of the girl in black.

[@zvlnt]

me too Hindi ko rin feel o gusto magkaroon ng anak sa future. lagi nila sinasabi na bata kapa kasi (20) tapos natatakot pero no e. tapos sinasabi nila na para may makasama ka sa pag tanda yun ba yung dahilan para sa pag tanda may mag aalaga sayo. well kanya kanya lang siguro tayo ng trip sa buhay. time will come naman hahahaha

[@Cicero17-18]

Same! I'm 21. Never ko naisip to have kids of my own in the future.

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

@Mark Florence Patolot TRUE. I NEED A MAN WHO PREFERS CATS OVER HUMAN CHILDREN🙂

[@LadyLou9]

My mom said the same thing to me. Na para may masama ako. Like wtf? Kids aren't freaking insurances for your selfish needs. She made me second guess her motive for having kids. People should seriously think about why they want to have kids.

[@toughsoftieyogi]

@다이앤다이앤 Exactly! We have to be the ones to stop this pattern. We didn't Force our parents to give birth to us so we don't owe them our entire life. We are our own person and we have our own life to live.

[@toughsoftieyogi]

@다이앤다이앤 True. Have you heard of anti-natalism? What you said about being "selfish" is one of the main ideas behind this philosophy.

[@Deds551]

I just dont want kids simply because i dont like kids... i dont want the responsibility and i dont want to bring in another human to this messed up world.

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

TRUE AF

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY

[@lifewithjown]

Same I don't want responsibility tbh. And everytime i say it to other people parang pinapamukha nilang ang selfish ko cos i dont want to have kids

[@Deds551]

@@lifewithjown some people just dont know how to respect our opinions like tf deh ikaw magkaanak in behalf of me... fkbdjdjd

[@naegahosh3665]

Same sentiments

[@christine_15_26]

Just watched this...I'm 34 still single but in a relationship. I never changed my mind about having a child and I'm glad my partner thinks the same. We don't want one. Some will think that, sayang naman yung genes and all that but if people want a childless marriage/partnership, they should respect that. People like us who don't want children clearly sees the responsibility of raising a human being. Hindi ka lang basta magpapalaki at magpapa-aral ng anak, lahat ng aspeto ng pagkatao niya ay dapat mong i-guide - physical, psychological, spiritual well-being. And raising a child in a world like we have now, mahirap. It's a matter of respecting CONSCIOUS choices. May mga bagay kasi tayong tinatanggap kasi nandyan na, wala ng choice. Pahabol lang pala, hindi pagiging loser ang hindi pagkakaroon ng ONS :)

[@badgrandma7420]

From the thumbnail alone. I thought the girl with glasses is the mother. But e. I loved it. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@karyllelarin3643]

Saameeee

[@ninonoelsantos-cruz1343]

Same here

[@sheshe9678]

Akala ko din na sya yung momshie na😂

[@JP-gn7mf]

Yeah. We nees to stop the stereotype that women get less conventionally attractive upon motherhood.

[@toughsoftieyogi]

The girl in black looks tired in the thumbnail so nahalata ko agad na sya ang mother.

[@rodlover7781]

your decision regarding this topic won't be the basis of your humanity. it's amazing how two different but both equally mature individuals engaged even if they have different perspectives. way to go, ladies !!!

[@vincentgerzon949]

Jaw dropping content. These two women are so empowered and independent. Kudos!

[@Rec.Create]

Glad you liked it!

[@xyzwtfcl]

isa lang naman empowered jan

[@toughsoftieyogi]

Michelle is my *spirit animal* . She managed to put into words what I want to tell my family and friends whenever I get asked the same questions

[@jeninaang]

ibahin ko lang sinabi ni Lara Jean (TATBILB) "love, romantic relationship and having a family, it is exciting whenever I think of it on my mind but I can't figure myself having it in reality"

The young mother probably regretted having a kid upon getting that kid though, so what is she preaching for. Get a mom who actually got married and/or was prepared for it, not an accidental mom.

[@newtype5005]

Pano mo nasabe?

[@hwangmiyeon1001]

Periodt

[@BlkKidWithTheGlasses]

Yeah I Feel like they did that on purpose

[@uwumart2023]

yup thats alot of mothers, i think thats childfree woman were judged bcuz of mothers who lowkey regretted their kids at some point,...like the women who had a choice and they kind of subtly-low key wish they did at the start, so they hate on those women as a defence mechanism

[@JeromeManaloPaeste]

Im in my 30's and I do not want to raise kids of my own. I think if our society is more accepting of this we are not over populated . I know a lot of women who are not fit to be a mother became one just because of the notion women should bear a child. It's sad :(

[@ireneguan4010]

Jerome Manalo Paeste Sad fact. :(

[@joannelivea8130]

hindi po sayang ang hindi pag aanak :)

[@joannelivea8130]

NineOne Productions i watched the whole video and i am not judging the girl. I was just kind of upset with her reaction saying "gago sayang"

[@nicolesustituedo7109]

preach.

[@emiiiii1000]

Pasalamat nga sila, nakakatulong sa pagbabawas ng population ung mga ayaw magka anak.

[@chereynmijares4469]

@NineOne Productions z

[@Trese1829]

@@joannelivea8130 Sayang po talaga hindi magka anak. Imagine yourself 60-70 years old, Who will take care of you?

[@lowelladag6106]

“Feeling ko takot ka e, kaya ayaw mo na magka anak.” Wala ka kasing choice kase nabuntis ka kaya you had to hold on to the beliefs u have right now.

[@Angel-tt4tj]

I agree 💯 😂

[@Alw936]

I can relate to ate na nakaorange, huhu I can't imagine myself being a mother too, OMG, gusto ko nalang maging forever alone and travel travel na lang.

[@lmnpodi]

I observed how the mom came from a privileged standpoint; and that this is a mindset of a woman who wasn't really ready being a mom at first. I think the whole discourse would be different if they casted someone who was really ready to have a child even before they had one.

[@mjcortez2460]

People say, have a child and it will change your view of the world. I'm telling you from experience, when I accepted/decided to be childfree, it also changed my world and my worldview. Whatever desperation I felt, chasing milestones especially those related with age, interactions with people - of finding a partner to have a child with... it changed for the better. I felt more free now. To choose bases on what I like, based on me alone with no other person to consider. If I choose a partner, it'd not because of a child but because I truly enjoy that person's company.

[@biancabulan9857]

I feel like more responsible pa si ateng na walang baby.

[@pyperrrjp95]

Bianca Bulan this is NOT right.

[@beiebae]

and she is more mature when handling things like this.

[@markdonnelviernes3690]

@@KaGeeSandamukal actually those who accept responsibilities will grow mature because of the struggles they have to overcome and a lot of realizations will come afterwards. Those who go happy-go-lucky are the ones who themselves know that they are still irresponsible to accept and can't handle more complicated things. So, 1000000% sure the woman who bear child is the one whose far more mature as of now.

[@jhyns]

Mark Donnel Viernes if you’re referring to the girl in the orange as the irresponsible, happy-go-lucky one, i’d have to disagree. maturity is defined by the person’s persona and how they think, not just their circumstances in life. the mother may be experienced but there’s an underlying judgement in her towards the woman who chooses not to want a child who on the other hand, seems to have a stronger grasp on her choices and perception. she has clearly done extensive self-reflection especially since her decision does not conform to socio-cultural norms while still being open-minded and respectful to the mother.

[@analynquinto7462]

@@jhyns agree, agree.. Madami nga tao, matatanda na, immature at irresponsible parin.. Kaya ang nangyayari anak ang nag susuffer.

[@marygoldmagramo5321]

Not wanting to have kids din. Not because I'm scared to have responsibilities but I'm really not happy to show them the world. To weigh things down... I think mas more yung chaos and problems we're facing now. I don't want them to experience all the pressure. I mean, there's part of me that I want them to experience the bright side of living but what if by that time, mas madami na chaos and problems. Alam niyo yun? Hahaha I'll better focus on taking care of myself and other people around me. 😊

[@raccynully]

i saw this on tiktok and i can't with the young mom. also to the public, the young mom in this video does NOT represent most of the young mothers in the philippines. most young mothers here in the ph are not as privileged as the person in the video (by privileged i mean financially stable, educated on sex, knows about protection etc.). it is nice though that the young mom in the video is accepted by her family and really happy to be a mom. idk i got some weird vibes from her. TO ALL OF THE WOMEN OUT THERE, YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO HAVE AN EXCUSE OR REASON IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE KIDS. women are NOT required to have children. if you think women are required or created to have children, think about that again and imagine the responsibility and work to put in raising a child, a mentally happy child for who knows how many YEARS. to the young woman/ate na naka-glasses, i applaud you on bearing this convo with that mom. if it was me, i would rat her out lmao ½jk maybe. especially that "one night stand" thing 🥶 why did the young mom act that way when the young woman said no lmao.

[@harboringrage]

i instantly hit pause when sis really said GAGO SAYANG

[@lord5680]

I love babies so much they relieve my stress but I love the girl in orange because she is so cool and she is right. A woman was not made to just be a mother. I mean mother are the greatest human beings in the world but a woman can be whoever she wants and she can decide for herself whether she wants to be a mother or not. Women are powerful. You go girl.

[@GoldenBeatrice]

This was so sweet! I expected a huge debate but instead I got a heartwarming video of two women having a good and hard conversation.

[@titaintrovertph]

Reading these comments made me smile. Glad that young people are smarter when it comes to life choices.

[@yoon2917]

ako lang ba ‘di nakaranas ng open parties nung high school kasi nga lame-oooo 👻

[@lifewithjown]

Di ka nag iisa. Haha i went to highschool around 2005 at wala naman akong naranasan na open parties haha also i went to a public school so grade conscious mga students haha

[@sola9219]

Gen Z kid ako, born in 2000 pero I haven't heard about open parties. Idk if about sa generation ko or base lng sa schools na napasukan ko.

[@luckylynnabrera6261]

@@sola9219 even me hahaha

[@MiguelLopez-tl4zs]

im 21 years old. ang goal ko lang talaga muna sa ngayon eh magkaroon ng maayos na career. Pinakapangit lang siguro sa kulturang pinoy eh ung iprepressure ka nila na magkaroon ng sariling pamilya without knowing na ikaw sa sarili mo naiisip mo na hindi mo pa kaya at maaring wala kang plano na magkaroon ng anak.

[@jordantheoneandonly7149]

and the phrase po na "sila may mga anak na, ikaw? kailan pa kaya"

[@euphoria3897]

tangina i really love this. every episode is worth watching. full of different opinions that matter. keep it up guys

[@clarissacalaunan1991]

Being a mother is fulfilling and rewarding but a lot of responsibility and struggle andon ung luha mo laht as a single mom of 2 ages 18 &16 naranasan ko laht un no regrets i'm thankful..my respect to this 2 woman!

[@korezine3854]

Nbsb vs Someone in a relationship

[@vascosacinnamonroll8908]

Both women have different perceptions that are NOT, in any means, invalid. "Gago sayang". I'm thinking that she said that bcs being a mom is literally the hardest but most fulfilling role in the world. The moment that you see your child, it's like you feel a deeper and more genuine type of love that you didn't even know you had in you. The girl in orange knows what her goals are. She may not want a child, but she chooses what she wants wisely. She's practical and she knows what her goals are, even if those "goals" don't involve bearing a child. Walang tama at maling opinyon. Iba-iba lang tayo ng source of happiness. It may be having a child and nurturing your baby in the best way that you can, but it may also be living our lives the way we want to live it without others telling us what to do and what not to do. :-)

[@oliviaheart5844]

Reasons why I dont want kids: 1. Its a lifetime responsibility and the thought that I might not be able to give all their needs all the time. 2. Im not ready to raise kids if I myself do not have a stable life and income yet. 3. I dont want to bring life into this world if I wont be able to fulfill the motherhood responsibilities. It's not sayang. To have or not have a child should be a responsible decision. A lot of people bring life into this world but do not fulfill their responsibilities and its so wrong if the reason to bear a child is to experience motherhood.

[@ArkySensei]

I don't want kids too and I hate other people for being judgemental about that. Hirap talaga pag may mga dounle standards.

[@Childfreedollar]

Please make more of these. The deep to deep conversations they were having is really insightful

[@vee5264]

I ended watching by 3:11. Yung babae na may kid seems to have an easy life. Sorry if it sound judging. Again, I said sorry

[@phd6312]

“i respect yours so respect mine, pero at what point do we compromise?” TRUUUUU !!!

[@hadesfelly]

I remembered reclaim the game, sob never wanted a child. Some women just doesn’t see herself as a mom and that’s completely okay🤗❤️

[@SM-gv3ks]

Wattpade spotted

[@f-g18sancheztrishap.44]

uwu isobel the strongest huhu

[@pinkloey6711]

Hala omg yes!

[@burgundy_2919]

It's just here in the PH that people will push their life choices to you. To become a mother or get married. If you dont want to marry, dont want kids it's your choice - there are men and women put there who have the same views as yours. I stayed in europe for several months and most of my colleagues there, are married: man and woman but preferred not to have kids and they are happy.

[@vissaerra]

For me though, I feel like a lot of people actually don’t feel that having children is necessity in life. It’s just that some of them are pressured by the society because it is the the stereotypical way of life.

[@BLoveOfGod]

I've been married for 19 years. I never had the desire to have kids. I love kids, but I do not want to have one on my own. My family & relatives asked me why, they always tell me sayang daw or iba daw ang saya ng may anak. But I believe Happiness can be formed in many different ways. Yet one thing is certain: Happiness comes from within, not from without. Besides, the world we are living in now is already overpopulated; I do not want to add more. I also have many nieces & nephews to give my love, care & support. As a woman, we can be a mother in different ways. Some of us women may not have birthed a child, but we have a heart of a mother.

[@graceansin3754]

I'm that woman who doesn't want to get married or have a partner but i wanted a child so bad.

[@mariecarzapico5504]

Grace Ansin same with me

[@iminviiiiiiinsible88]

If I have the money, I would really consider having a child thru surrogacy. Tapos european yung mother. HAHA!

[@criselcose4323]

So am I.

[@mirasol8323]

Adopt (:

[@annalangres5285]

Baka kasi girlfriend talaga yung para sayo

[@ryansanteful]

Ugh. I hate kids. Have you seen the kids nowadays? No thanks. 💁‍♂️

[@al-fl7rn]

Parang bakla ka

[@narutoshibuya7199]

but you can change that by being a good parent to your child 🙄

[@kaz-kq9td]

Duebrick i agree, and i think the parents also play a big role in shaping the characters of today’s youth

[@butanding1-115]

@@narutoshibuya7199 exactly

[@dwightimperial8301]

Boy! The fuck is your problem a child needs guidance.

[@patricianoreentablizo2312]

The girl in orange shirt seems to be very mature and full of wisdom, I believe she'll be a good mom someday. 💛

[@megtripulca2887]

You will never miss something if you did'nt have nor experience. It's a matter of choosing what makes you happy and fullfill, as long as you're 100% with your decision then its okay and with no regret in the future.

[@marytrixieanntalingting7163]

There’s nothing wrong for not wanting a kid. Kudos to these both amazing women.

[@friam5142]

This channel is like the Filipino version of Cut and As/is 😁, good content though

[@mariakhey9748]

My mom is a single mom and yun din ang naging reason ko na pagisipan ko yung pagkakaroon ng anak. Si mama din nagsasabi na dapat magasawa ako sa 30's bata pa ang 25 at 28 😅. Ayaw ni mama na maranasan ko dinanas niya actually. Until now mag-36 na ako dko sure if naeenvision ko sarili ko to have kids which I openly discuss with my partner and naiintindihan niya at agree siya. If magkaroon ok din if hindi ok din ang importante we are happy together at agree kami pareho 😊. Having a child is a choice and a big responsibility and if we'll have one gusto ko yung existence niya worth it hindi lang sa amin kundi sa mga taong nakapaligid at mga mamimeet niya sa life niya at sa lipunan. 😊

[@quienweller3752]

Im 24 Stable na sa work Pero wala pa ipon. (Nag-aaral kasi ako for my Grad. Studies) I don't want responsibilities marami na nga akong responsibilities sa work at sa life as a daughter (although only child lang ako ha). Parang gusto ko pang mag-spend ng time kasama pamilya ko at hindi maubos oras ko para lang sa magiging anak ko. In the future d ko rin nakikita sarili ko na mag-aanak ako kahit pa mawala na family ko. Kahit walang mag-alaga sa akin pagtanda kaya ko naman alagaan sarili ko. So hahanap ako ng taong ayaw magkaanak din no hahhahhahah

[@seekinglovecreatingdestiny9388]

TRUE. I NEED A MAN WHO PREFERS CATS OVER HUMAN CHILDREN🙂

[@zeldriscruz5700]

Hi friends hahaha..

[@preciousjoymoises1406]

This is one of the subjects which i AVOID to dip my toes into ‘coz i don’t want to know what realizations i might end up with. #MillenialTita

[@e.r.t]

How about a conversation between voluntary and involuntary childlessness

[@raonowenj7076]

Siguro make another episode of this but the age should be 35 above.

[@mariayt8774]

Ate girl with orange shirt don't say lame pagdi mo naexperience ang ons I'm so proud kasi you did not do that makes you a model for us your not loser, having ons doesnt make you COOL but......😂opsss okay i don't wanna say harsh comment but pls wait your the one because even it's so hard for now to find a good man still God will give you a wonderful gift you never expect

[@aldominicgatlabayan6925]

women talking about this and respecting each other's opinion is just so beautiful.

[@gertj363]

Btw EPITOME is eh-pi-toh-mee. Not epi-tow-mhm

[@hanyjanebajet7380]

RIGHT! I WAS LIKE "EPITOME? WHAT?!! "

[@lanceortega24]

ako naman i dont want to have kids kasi what if mamatay din ako ng maaga tas lalaki ako ng walang parents parang masakit at mahihirapan lang yung anak ko katulad lang nung nangyari sakin ang hirap kasi ng walang parents growing up

[@emiiiii1000]

Lance Ortega sadly di lahat iniisip kapakanan ng mga anak nila kaya anak lang sila ng anak. Nasa culture na yan kasi ng pinoy. Parami lang iniisip para maging hayahay buhay ng mga magulang at ung mga anak magtutuloy ng mga pangarap ng magulang.

[@hitchcockscene]

im a virgin. never been kissed, never did it , never dated, kasi takot ako mabuntis. takot din ako makakuha ng sakit but i think the bottomline is: i don't want to lose something irreplaceable. virginity itself. lame? missing out on life? yeah. but im happy that way.

[@elguwapo6153]

Pwede kana man magka bf na walang sex ah. If love ka talaga ng guy irerespeto niya yun.

[@sarahflores3672]

Absolutely disagreeing on what the girl in black said. Happiness doesnt come from just one person or a thing, it comes from what you’re passionate about. Whatever that is. Second, deciding on not having children doesn’t make you a coward. Infact, you choose to love yourself to spread more of it around you. Tamang tama ka sa segment nyong toxic trait. Such filipino mentality. Be openminded, choose your words wisely. #womenempowerment

[@mundanelife9158]

Michelle is so empowered.

[@carlo1736]

This is like Cut and Jubilee of the Philippines and I’m loving it ♥️ continue thiss please

[@gandarva1993]

How dare she assume that women who dont wanna have kids 'are just scared'. How dare she dismiss a woman's choice.

[@MeggyPeggy]

It’s great to see different insights on such conflicting matters. I respect both of their decisions!

[@lehanjoshomimori9543]

Growing up I used to think I was weird having perspective of not having kids, and now that I've seen and read comments. Sheyt di pala ako nag-iisa?

[@camillesantos8761]

This video is about understanding each ones point of view and respecting our own decisions and choices in life. Being able to understand each other despite differences. Very nice topic. 👌👏👍 I love Rec Create na talaga ever since I first saw one of your vids (last week?). I kept watching every single one since then. I'm a big fan of Cut. So now, I am supporting na a foreign version and local version of Cut. ❤️

[@1stdaughterofcain]

girls, don't be afraid of judgement, especially from older people, if you decide to not have any children. it's your life, whatever makes you happy should be the only thing that matters. it does not make you any less of a woman.

[@puddinmaster4704]

I love my friends kids I really do. But I also saw their struggles being a parent and I dont want that.

[@leedanica7355]

kids in this generation: when I grow up, I want to be.... global warming: hmmm?

[@sy-zu4uz]

😂

[@bettyboop7155]

not wanting to have kids doesn't make you less of a woman. and saying someone is "sayang" bc of that is an insult to those women who CANNOT bear a child even if they wanted to.