Your natural hair isn’t childish, but wearing her hair is 😬

[@fruitsarelife7073]

I prefer a Style that makes me look youthful rather than age me 😂❤

[@healwithmare]

Lol yesss! I love looking youthful which is completely different than looking like a child. Thanks for this comment 💗

[@shakane95]

This was the comment I was looking for! ❤

[@Iamcoatcheckgirl]

Exactly

[@tanielawardlow8024]

Natural hair makes us shine .. and black women don’t even realize the glow that you get from wearing your own hair !

[@healwithmare]

You are absolutely right! We shine so different when we are being our most authentic selves and rocking our hair with joy 🤩

[@tanielawardlow8024]

@@healwithmare yes 🫶🏽❤️

[@deec3561]

It’s childish because in the black community only children wear their hair natural. Momma gets perms, extensions and wigs, and weave. The more we wear our hair, the less childish it will seem

[@healwithmare]

I am doing my best as a new mom to a baby girl to show her how much I love my hair and hers. It is up to me to do right by her. I don’t believe that it is possible for our daughters to fully love their hair if we don’t love ours. Thanks for this comment ❤

[@coffeewednesday553]

As a child my mum wore her natural hair braided in many different styles. As an adult I wear my mid back afro hair so confidently

[@healwithmare]

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Playing dress up and playing pretend are things that children do. Wearing her hair is childish because you are essentially in a costume. There isn’t a single thing that is childish about wearing the hair God has intentionally blessed you with. Our hair will never be their texture and what a blessing that is! Embrace exactly who God created you to be and step into the authority you have as a beautiful Black woman. I love you all ❤

[@sparker7768]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kemi1486]

I think it’s colonized mind illness. I did my big chop and been natural for about 13yrs now. I like walking, running and dancing in the rain. I never got into wearing wigs. Everyone comes into awakening and awareness in their own time. Glad you’re talking about the subject though.

[@healwithmare]

We have been natural for around the same amount of time. I went natural back in 2010 and got sucked into the wigs becase a lot of Black women were promoting it as a “protective style”. I had so many setbacks with my hair and big chopped 4 times since 2010. My last big chop was in August 2022 and I am finally awakened and fully accepting all of me. Now my hair is thriving. Thanks for engaging with my content 💗

[@Demthorshie]

To wear our own hair is to promote our own beauty. I have no envy in my heart for any other group of woman. We are all beautiful in our authentic expressions.

[@healwithmare]

Yesss! I love this comment! It reminds me of how God completely purified my heart last year when I started this journey. I no longer see other women as my competition and the byproduct of that is that I no longer envy or desire anyone else’s hair. It has been a blessing to fully have love in my heart when it comes to. My hair 🥹💗. Everyone is beautiful because God does not make mistakes!

[@heleneloved]

Also what’s wrong with looking young i think the youthful appearance our hair gives us is beautiful, there’s this one darkskin bw page i came across on insta, she’s fully natural no hair no makeup just natural Afro not even lipgloss nd when I tell you she’s STUNNING, you can tell she’s an adult but she also has such a beautiful baby face and youthful features and the natural hair just makes it even better I love how she looks , I wish we would start embracing our natural hair texture more often even if it’s extensions, our texture and Afros are beautiful ..

[@healwithmare]

There is nothing wrong with looking young! It's a beautiful thing. It’s truly sad to see so many Black women wasting the best years their hair may ever have by hiding under a wig. I am about to be 33 in May and my hair has changed a lot as I’ve aged and have had a child. I sometimes wonder what my 20s would have been like if I hadn’t been hiding under a wig. I vow to enjoy my 30s as a natural woman. I have seen dark skin Black women similar to the one you described and they are drop dead gorgeous with their natural hair but often times they think their glow up comes by wearing someone else’s hair texture. The world has fooled us. I have hope that things are getting better and will continue to get better ❤️‍🩹

[@Dagai18]

You’re right. It is sad. All the more why your content is important. I see comments that try to paint you as anti-Black or a hater but you are leading with love. It is clear to see. Keep going! I love that you are not easily discouraged ✊🏿

[@healwithmare]

I appreciate your support and encouragement. It's important to speak truth in love and I hope more Black women will come to understand the truth about our beauty. 🙏🏾💖

[@yousured]

I been natural since Nov 2024 after seeing your videos, and it has been quite the experience, and nothing has changed and men are still approaching and buying drinks … it’s crazy …no more damaging my hair with heat everyday …true freedom …

[@healwithmare]

That’s so amazing to hear! I hope you continue to rock your beautiful natural hair. This freedom is the best 🥰. When you start to notice you actually get wonderful treatment just being yourself, you realize how brainwashed the world tried to make you

[@coolida23511]

There's no way non-black women don't talk about us and/or laugh at us behind closed doors when they see us desperately wearing non-textured weaves/wigs to emulate the hair that naturally grows out of their scalp. The sad thing is that when we wear non-textured weaves/wigs we are a cheap imitation of non-black women. Black women don't love themselves enough to realize that.

[@healwithmare]

One of my white friends who I love dearly admitted that she thinks a lot of Black women are insecure when she sees us in the wigs. Non-Black folk definitely notice that a lot of us avoid our hair like the plague. Black women will argue “well white women get BBLs”. That comparison falls flat every time. The average white woman does not get a BBL, but the average Black woman is DEFINITELY wearing a wig that isn’t her texture 😢 I don’t ever want another race of women to benefit from me promoting their beauty. I am promoting my beauty only because God made me to be a beautiful individual. It’s a slap in His face when I try to look like something I am not. Thanks for this comment ❤

[@LisePlansandJournals]

Girl, no WAY. 100% agreed.

[@Aalayahhh]

I feel really moved by your message Mare. I’ve been watching for a few videos now and sort of just soaking it all in, but today I felt moved to take off my wig and just silk press my hair. No clip ins no nothing. I know it’s not totally natural but it was a big step for me. Turns out my hair is thick and very long compared to when I wore it out last . Thanks for spreading your message 🤍

[@healwithmare]

That is so amazing to hear! You are headed in the right direction my love. I hope you continue to love your hair more and more as you journey to your natural hair, in all its glory! These are the comments that inspire me to keep going🙏🏾

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Natural hair paired with a soft, clear skin, small waist, etiquette and an intelligent mind is the most beautiful image of a woman.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for sharing what you find most beautiful. I truly believe all Black women of all body types, skin tones, etc look sooo much better in their God-given hair. God doesn’t make mistakes 💗💗💗

[@heleneloved]

@@AminaPhilosophy YESSS omg the natural curls + clear skin combo 😩😩unmatched

[@BantuBeauties]

It's called wig blindness. When they feel like any hair is better than their own.

[@healwithmare]

Wig blindness is soo strange. I pray God gives the girls the sight to see just how sad loving someone else’s hair texture more than their own truly is 😢

[@heleneloved]

@@BantuBeauties it’s so sad

[@shalayne9054]

I heard a women saying she's trying to find natural styles that don't make her look like she's twelve. Im telling you I be a grown woman with her natural hair in some flat twists in a minute. My hair is growing, its healthy and it's mine, twelve or not😊

[@healwithmare]

Wow smh 🤦🏾‍♀️. The things I have heard Black women say about their own hair is honestly so sad. I don’t know why its been so normalized. I am so glad I woke up to the toxicity. There is nothing childish about our hair. It is beautiful and I love the fact that my hair is finally thriving now that I have embraced it 🙌🏾✨

[@sibria]

@@healwithmare they're saying it's childish because typically we wore our natural hair as a kid. it does say a lot!

[@LisePlansandJournals]

And then when she’s old she’ll wish she looked younger.

[@4blikeme165]

You make Tuesday’s great. I’m braiding my hair while watching 💁🏾‍♀️

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for being here! Enjoy that braid session! 💖

[@LethalLemonLime]

A lot of the women who say that are wearing big bows on the back of their buss downs. Is that not childish?

[@healwithmare]

I saw that a couple of times in Ghana! It was strange to see how the African women adorned the wig hair. Would they adorn their God-given hair in the same way? Honestly, I know far too many Black women who neglect their hair but lovingly brush a wig on their head that is another woman’s hair texture. Soooo bizarre 😬

[@gorlunion]

Pls keep doing what ur doing! I think it’s really a true calling and assignment for u to help free us, cuz girl after 4 vids abt wigs and all the drama in the comments I was like what’s the use . These women wanna be bound i give up. But u def built for this ! 💪🏾 ur making a difference , it’s MINISTRY atp

[@healwithmare]

Hey sis! So happy to hear from you. I appreciate how you used your platform to bring awareness. I honestly believe we need more Black women going hard on this topic, but I can tell its a topic that can burn a lot of people out. God literally wont let me quit and I am being obedient to Him. He truly gives me the strength, love, and grace to keep going. A lot of Black women do not want to be set free, they are trapped in a trance lusting after the looks of women who look nothing like them. If I can snap out of it, I believe a lot of Black women will be able to come to their senses. There are definitely soo many Black women who are too far gone. The insecurity runs deep deep. Thanks for this comment my love ❤❤

[@BraveOne7]

Girllll, when they say childish or nappy. I get sooooo upset. How is my hair in its natural state childish and nappy! I was called nappy by a man at my work before. I got ugly looks before for my natural hair a lot work, they were monitoring spirits. I’m so glad I don’t work there because braids or wash and go I go dirty and smerky looks. I walked around with my head high and ignored the behavior but I wish I spoke up back then. This video too me back to that mindset! I have my hair currently in braids no extensions after seeing your Fulani braids with the beads. You don’t look childish, you look gorgeous, natural, and effortless.😍

[@healwithmare]

Shame on that grown man for even saying anything about your hair. SMH 🤦🏾‍♀️. People can be so foolish. I’m sorry you had to experience that. It is truly the devil working through those people. Once you realized it’s the devil orchestrating a lot of this negativity, you start looking at it from a different perspective. I no longer let anyone get me down, which is why I can fully stand on my own beauty for the first time I’m my entire life. I am sooo glad to hear you have been wearing braids on your God-given hair. I have my hair back in mini braids now and I have been loving them!! Keep your head up love🤩🤩🤩

[@BraveOne7]

@ yes absolutely, ain’t nothing but the devil workingthrough people! I’ll never allow that negativity to affect like me like that ever again!💕

[@aniyaruffin3288]

@@BraveOne7you girls are gorgeous! haters gone hate.

[@BraveOne7]

@@aniyaruffin3288 thanks girlie, you are gorgeous too!💕

[@Mommabear30]

Yes indeed! 🙌🏾 I was told by several people that my natural puff is cute, but I have to be careful because I may be viewed as a child. There was a video I remember watching a few years ago saying wearing a puff is childish once you enter 30s.

[@healwithmare]

I know exactly what you mean. It's all part of the indoctrination. Meanwhile, no one is telling other races of women that their ponytail is childish the way they try to tell us our hair is childish. We have to stay alert and of sober mind. The devil is real trying to fool us🙏🏾💖

[@annunaki7044]

You look fabulous. Thanks for being genuine.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for your kind words 🙏🏾🥰

[@suikiemiyazaki5503]

Preach Mare! This will ruffle feathers but you are so right.

[@healwithmare]

I am definitely in the business of ruffling feathers and shaking tables. I love it here. Thanks for watching ❤

[@naeb9486]

You’re absolutely right

[@healwithmare]

💯 Thanks for watching!

[@shidastyles5477]

Loosing the battle is diabolical 😂4:29

[@4blikeme165]

😂😂😂😂

[@healwithmare]

All that manipulation just to have their natural hair coil up in 90 degree weather is so saddd 😭. Just shows how much they desperately believe they look better in someone else’s texture

[@Clary_Sage]

I am so with you!

[@healwithmare]

Thank you! I love that you are here and I always appreciate comments from you 💗

[@CoilyCode]

Yes. These are strongholds of the mind and it will take the power of God to remove the scale from our eyes. Always look forward to your videos Marilyn! 🥰🤎

[@healwithmare]

You said it perfectly sis! A lot of Black women have scales covering their eyes. May God give them the right vision to see themselves the way He sees them. Amen 🙏🏾. I absolutely love your content as well. Thank you for continuing to be you! 💗

[@tlovechild4194]

Beautiful message. I agree with every word. I got weave once, it felt heavy and performative. Like I was in a high school drama skit. Since then I’ve noticed that a lot of women with weaves are a little mean and snooty. I often wonder if it’s the real them or the character of the hair they’re wearing.

[@healwithmare]

I notice that with some women who only wear wigs, they have a conceited energy to them. This isn’t the case for all of them, but I have noticed that trend. Some women put on the wig and have an entire alter ego that comes out. It’s very strange.. Thanks so much for engaging with my content 💗

[@tlovechild4194]

You’re welcome. Some say that it’s possible to “pick up” other people’s “spirits” when you come in contact with personal items or body parts. I’m sure the same goes for some of this hair being purchased and worn. It also keeps the woman’s head from being connected to the sun. There’s so many layers to this. Keep teaching us, Sis!❤

[@LisePlansandJournals]

Natural hair is ‘childish’ to many black women because from childhood most of us are forced to part with our God-given texture of hair that we’re born with. And that is nothing, nothing to brag about.😢

[@healwithmare]

You are soo right sis. It is truly disheartening and absolutely nothing to brag about. We deserve to experience our hair fully in our lifetimes, unfortunately many Black women will keep their hair hidden for the rest of their lives. It’s sad 😔

[@Starberryyy777]

So happy I’ve been a natural girly for over 7 yrs. I used to press it out way too much when I was younger. I’m glad I have come around to really love my hair.🥰🩷Your hair looks good btw.😍

[@healwithmare]

Shout out to you for 7 years of being natural. I am about to be on my 15th year and it is still such a journey for me. Thank you for the compliment, I really loved this hairstyle 🥰🥰

[@Starberryyy777]

@@healwithmare 🩷💜🩵

[@healwithmare]

It’s Tuesday again and I am back with another video! Thank you to everyone who has been engaging with my content. Whether you watch, subscribe, like, comment, or share it means a lot to me. This movement matters. Love you 🥰

[@healwithmare]

Sorry, I just noticed the audio gets weird at some points. I shot this video on my iPad while I was traveling in Ghana. Hopefully the audio doesn’t take too much away from the message in this video ❤

[@Dagai18]

Another great and honest title. Appreciate your creativity while doing the Lord’s work 🙌🏿

[@healwithmare]

Thank you, I pray we can continue to spread the word 🙏🏾✨

[@sunkissedkhala]

My comment got deleted so I’m reparaphrasing what I wrote yesterday 😢 It’s hilarious when women say that bc in no way do these women look 12. If anything, they’re aging themselves trying to wear straight hair all of the time. It’s delulu. First time I heard this “childish” discourse on natural hair was from Kelly stamps a few years ago. I didn’t realize how much she and other black “luxury “ content (which is mostly just fronting tbh) had an effect on me bc I ended up relaxing my hair. I had been natural my whole life, and it took years to really master my hair. All of that ruined bc I coveted other women’s lifestyles. You are correct, this is spiritual warfare. Bc relaxers and even flat ironing is not as easy as they make it out to be. Luckily I big-chopped 2 years later and am back to learning how to do my normal hair again. And this is no shade to Kelly, I didn’t realize that she was such a right-leaning person until the obsession with straight hair, and daisy dukes. Some people forget you can be Christian without conforming to fundamentalist beliefs (like you, Mare). All in all, you’re fighting demons, blessings to you and your family

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much for taking time out to comment again in order for me to finally see your comment! You are soo right that they age themselves with the straight wigs. If you look at a lot of my old videos I was wearing wigs and weaves and looked so much older back then even though I was younger. It’s truly a shame. So disappointing that Kelly would say that about her own God-given hair, what a slap in God’s face. She has such a large platform too. I truly don’t understand Christian’s who still dislike their hair (including some of my fave gospel singers who keep their hair hidden). I know some people may genuinely have medical issues, but the vast majority are struggling with self acceptance. At the end of the day, I do my best not to pass judgement. The spiritual warfare is scary. I remember back when I was obsessed with being a “baddie” and wearing the wigs had me in such a destructive cycle with relationships and self esteem. I am so glad Jesus set me free! We don’t wrestle against flesh and bone alone. I read Ephesians 6:10-20 regularly in order to put on the full armor of Christ. Thank you so much for engaging with my content 💗💗

[@TheLuzytube]

The last part is deep. "Where did you buy it?". I don't like to wear clothes that everybody has. So having hair that is uniquely mines and mines alone is the best. Wear your natural hair because nobody can buy your exact hairtype, density, volume, porosity, etc. Wear YOUR natural hair!!!!!!!

[@4blikeme165]

That part! No one can every find our hair at the store. It’s so unique and special. Meanwhile, Black women are constantly asking “where’d you buy that wig?” In order to be a clone 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@healwithmare]

There’s something so powerful in knowing that my natural hair cant be bought anywhere on the planet. God made it just for me 🙏🏾🥹💗

[@vanillavania.]

@@healwithmare AMEN!!🙌🏾🤎

[@4blikeme165]

Why did I get the chills when you were describing how that girl came up to you back in the day and stroked your wig? When you know about the unethical practices of the wig industry, it makes it so much worse the way some Black women obsess over these Asian wigs 😭😭😭

[@healwithmare]

Yeah I still remember that moment and the way the woman looked and everything. If only she knew that her natural beauty was incredible and not something that could be bought. Thanks for your comment 💗

[@iammchloe]

i just took out my hair 2 days ago and i felt like i looked very “childish” and i’m glad i saw this

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for your honesty sis. God placed this video in front of you for a reason. You are beautiful and a grown woman, don’t let anyone infantilize you, including yourself. Remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made ❤

[@iammchloe]

@@healwithmare thank you you as well🥹🙌🏽❤️

[@rosewithhope]

Every time I watch one of your videos Mare you make me feel so happy to be who I am. I mean you have a way with words that is so beautiful and rich. What you say is very healing indeed. I appreciate you so much sharing your thoughts and encouraging the ears of those who are meant to hear this. Blessings to you. ❤

[@healwithmare]

I am so grateful my content can have a positive impact on your life. I really do appreciate your encouraging words. God bless you 🙏🏾💗

[@rosewithhope]

@ 🥰💞

[@exveganbadgal]

Such an important insight on the natural hair topic! We're fine with our natural hair!

[@healwithmare]

Yess, we are beautiful with our hair as is! I’m so grateful that I have a community of Black women that I can share this with 🙏🏾

[@1mochadelightable]

Losing the battle 😂😂😂😂 4:18 😂😂😂😂 It is sad tho b/c it doesn’t have to be….

[@healwithmare]

The leave out fought as hard as it could but the battle was lost so swiftly 😢😅. I loved having these braids in Ghana, it allowed me to fully be present and not worry about the way I looked ❤

[@heleneloved]

7:34 I’ve never seen a good wig in person , only glue less wigs sometimes or a wig with bangs, the lace throws me off and I’m sorry if this sounds rude but when I see women all over social media with their lace showing and it’s like super obvious n u can see the crusties n everything I’m just like, why couldn’t u do anything else like how do u walk out of the house like that omg I’d be so embarrassed man😭😭 Forgot to add this but those parted wigs that match your natural hair texture with the leave out are cute too!!

[@healwithmare]

I can honestly say that wigs in person do not look the same as they do online. The awkward thing is we all know its a wig and meanwhile the person wearing it is healthy, young, and has a head full of hair underneath. The issue is the hair underneath is a texture that she may not fully love. I pray God sets more Black women free 🙏🏾

[@maeesther1]

the natural hair peeking thru the fake hair is a testament to show how bad our hair wants to be free!! it wanna come out and i love that about our hair ! ❤

[@healwithmare]

Our hair truly wants to break free and enjoy the elements. God wouldn’t give us hair that needed to be hidden and “protected” all the time. He is an abundant God that wants us to fully enjoy life 🙏🏾💗

[@theoriginalAlaya]

I have been enjoying your videos and love the way you are going about introducing this self-love for hair. I do want to add to the aspwct of Ghanaian women and natural. As a Ghanaian woman myself who was born and raised here with natural hair, I would say the problem is less of sellf hate and more of a lack of knowledge. Many Ghanaian schools(public) require their girl and boy students to keep a low cut. This system prevents them from learning about their hair in their formative years. So what happens? By college and into their working years, they start finally growing their hair but then use a relaxer bc they simply dont know how to do their hair. It was like this until the introduction of wigs and their versatility. So now these same women become hooked on wigs. Growing up, all I knew was relaxed hair cause I went to a private school. It wasn't until a friend came with natural hair that I started asking questions, then I did a big chop by 15. Since then, I have had big long natural hair. Many Ghanaian women and men compliment me on my hair with the women, often inquiring what I do to my hair. In the restaurant a waitress will ask me and one lady even brought me a pen and paper to give her tips. In a store they will ask me. They ask me almost anywhere. It isnt that they dont like natural hair or they hate how they look or think it's childish but rather they are ignorant on how to take care of it and that is largely due to a system that enabled it to be so. There are lots of women who wear wigs, but the younger generation has been growing up with their natural hair more these days, and even many grown women are taking it up. Braids are also very common. To me, there is a lot of hope with Ghanaian women it is just a matter of education

[@healwithmare]

Hey my love thanking for sharing insight. For a long time I was relaxed and didn’t know a single thing about caring for my own natural hair, so I completely understand. In my personal opinion, I lean on God when it comes to caring for my hair. I used to take a lot of advice from people online and offline but nothing truly worked for me until I started going to God first. Once I actually wanted to start loving my hair, I needed to put the work in myself to get to this point. In this day and age, there is a lot of information readily available to people who desire to love their hair. Where there is a will, there is a way. Thank you for engaging with my content 💗✨

[@amaris5]

I love my natural hair and everybody else’s. It’s odd to not like yourself 😩😩😩😩

[@healwithmare]

You share the same sentiments as me. I think people look beautiful when they are being exactly who God created them to be 🙏🏾💗

[@Ehlaar]

I look forward to your videos!

[@healwithmare]

So glad you’ve been enjoying my content. Plenty more videos to come 🙏🏾💗

[@stylefromwithinministries]

Yes we don’t look childish with our own hair. When we wear our natural hair it makes us look young and youthful. Thanks God! I feel like the straight wigs mute our features.

[@healwithmare]

I completely agree with you. I love looking youthful, especially as I near my mid thirties. I appreciate the way I still look after all of these years. The straight wigs truly dull us down and its so sad 😞

[@heleneloved]

4:26 this is why I haven’t gotten straight hair silk press or anything since 7th grade omg the leave out looked so bad it wouldn’t blend n it would always piss me off 😭😭😭

[@healwithmare]

Yeah I have learned that I am not going to fight with my hair anymore, she always wins. I let her win now and embrace the fun natural hairstyles 🤩

[@aniyaruffin3288]

2:02 . Whew. Very Intresting how you put that into perspective. Colonization has done a number on people of colors mental state.

[@healwithmare]

Colonization definitely took its toll. Now, it is time for us as Black women to take responsibility for our beauty and fully embrace it. It is definitely a journey but it’s important to make the choice to believe what God has said about us being made in His image. The minute I believed God instead of people, was the minute I was able to let the past go and move forward confidently ❤🙏🏾

[@Z-ef1rr]

Mare, you are a lovely human being. TY for sharing your brilliant mind and presence with us! ❤ I never get tired of watching your videos

[@healwithmare]

I really appreciate you and this comment. I’m so glad you are enjoying the content! 🥰

[@MuhammadAbdul-Kareem]

What's up sis ? I trust that things will continue to be better for you and what you experience . us men feel the pain too . looking at our sisters chasing after European standards is disheartening . As a man we keep our eye on this matter , but we just keep quiet because the sisters often time are not ready for that heart to heart . It makes you think that the women still have a love for their slave master . I mean , we could advance so much further if we could just keep it melanin . But , it aint looking too good . As long as there is freedom to express as opposed doing what is morally upright , we'll continue to have to wait for those to whom this pertains to catch up . Then we could give healing our relationships a chance . But yeah sis , we got problems .

[@healwithmare]

I hear from Black men all the time that they love Black women’s natural hair, but unfortunately Black women don’t believe them. I remember when I was deeply insecure and my mother and brother would compliment my hair when it was natural. I didn’t believe them. Now looking back, I realize that they were telling the truth. I was just too far gone to see it. I only started to believe I was naturally beautiful when God set me free. There’s a lot of healing that is needed but I am thankful for the Black men in my life who have tried to uplift me. Honestly, I have sometimes been uplifted more by Black men than Black women ❤

[@chloem.3949]

Love your message sister 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much for watching 💗

[@ItsRemedi]

The first time in my adult life in 2020 i decided it’s time to be so honest with how I feel about my natural hair and actually do something about it. My hair my WHOLE life never grew beyond neck length until I found a hairstyle that works for me. 4 going on 5 years loc’d and I will NEVERRRRRR go back to wearing those atrocious wigs and weave, i even stopped wearing braids over my locs because synthetic hair wasn’t good for the health of my hair. I used to spend 2-3 hours putting on a full frontal that eventually destroyed my edges. Now? I wake up and GO! Neverrrr going back. My quality of life has gone up and I relearned to truly love myself. You’re right, it’s a psychological illness. I used to not leave the house without a wig no matter how RAGGEDY it truly was 😢 I hope all black women will stop with the madness and just be so fr about how these extensions are ruining their hair and quality of life.

[@healwithmare]

You are so brave for putting your health first! You deserve to feel beautiful and confident in your own skin and hair! I really do pray that more Black women realize that actually being themselves will reap more benefits than putting on the hair and looks of other women. It is completely fine to admire other women, but it’s MOST important to have love for yourself. Thanks for this comment and I’m so glad to hear your loc journey is going well 💗🙏🏾

[@sparker7768]

What's sad, is that if non-Black women suddenly began to wear our coily, textured hair styles, many of us would find the hair desireable 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@healwithmare]

I can definitely see that. It seems like a lot of Black women depend on outward approval in order to be confident. I get it because I used to be the same way. It’s so sad 😞

[@ericaerica2797]

I just went on and subscribed because, girl, you're speaking nothing but facts!! And I've been clicking on your videos. Lol, I wear my natural hair a lot (mini twists) mostly, and I have had folks tell me this! (Hair looks childish) It's sad and crazy honestly. I think its just them projecting because they don't have the confidence to rock it or they're just jealous! ❤❤❤

[@healwithmare]

Welcome to the community! I am glad you decided to subscribe. It is definitely as mixture of projecting, insecurity, and jealousy. We are beautiful just as we are 🥰🥰🥰

[@cocaknotz]

Thank you . ✨ your a beautiful woman , and I have been influenced by your courage 💋

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am grateful that my content can touch your life in any way 🙏🏾🥰

[@cocaknotz]

@ 🥰

[@1love847]

Our hair makes us look yourthful.not childish. As I age i appreciate how young it makes me look more and more.

[@healwithmare]

I truly do love my youthful look. It is a privilege 💗

[@AdiannaRobinna]

THANK YOU.

[@healwithmare]

You’re welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 💗

[@heleneloved]

I sadly lost a lot of hair due to bleaching plus heat combo so I have a spot that’s just SUPER short and I’d have to get a pixie cut to even it out but until my hair grows out I wear hair extensions that are similar if not the exact same as my real hair texture

[@healwithmare]

So sorry to hear about your current hair loss. You are doing a great job of loving your hair as it is growing out. There is no shame in using hair extensions to blend in with your natural hair as you wait to grow it out. God personally has me on a different journey so I don’t use hair extensions at all. You are gorgeous btw😍

[@heleneloved]

@ thank youu for the compliment you’re beautiful aswell!!🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@Iamcoatcheckgirl]

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[@healwithmare]

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[@YoungHotEbony142]

omg! you're in ghana!!?? hope you're loving it there! i haven't been in ghana in years so i'll just be. living vicariously through you😂😂😂 and also. yes african women/ people are still under the colonial spell of thinking anything white people do or anything close to whiteness is better/best. also african people associate weave/wigs with wealth, if you dont wear wigs they think it's because you dont have money. when i told my mom i was going natural she was like "people will think you dont have money to get your hair done" like girl what???

[@healwithmare]

I noticed the association with wealth when it comes to wigs. My husband and I spent most of our time in wealthy areas and going to restaurants etc. Most of the people at these establishments were wealthy Ghanaians who lived abroad or in Ghana. Most of them were in wigs and weaves. When we were in the car riding through different neighborhoods and seeing regular people living life day to day, most of the women had their hair in braided styles (some wore wigs still tho). It is truly so sad to see. We are back home now after 2 weeks in Ghana 🇬🇭 and I truly miss it. We had a blast!

[@blaineyeamlak]

Me watching this with curly crochet and braids in order to grow out my hair after color damage: 👁️👄👁️

[@healwithmare]

Color damage is no fun! I had that back in college when I was experimenting with dying my own hair 😭. Praying your hair has a speedy recovery so you can enjoy it 💗

[@chrisharris2367]

When I wore my hair natural 10-12 years ago I had honey blond highlights and did two strand twists with a side part. My twists looked like little curls because I used products(kinky curly). My hair was really healthy then. I also braided it and put wigs on too. I liked to switch up my style so I did braids my own two strand twists wigs and crochet I was obsessed w hair back then And spent sooo much money on hair styles and products

[@healwithmare]

I used to be that way too and I would drop hundreds and thousands on hair care, hair products, wigs, etc. It was such a waste. At the end of the day I still didn’t like myself and was miserable/suicidal. Now I have pure joy in the way God created me 🙏🏾🤩

[@FF-by6ci]

For me what I see very sad is going to weddings/events and seeing all these beautiful women with straight wigs, it's like a uniform and takes so much away from their natural beauty. Just imagine the opposite if you walked to an event in Europe and every european woman was wearing an Afro wig, what would that say about them.

[@healwithmare]

Going to an Asian or European wedding and everyone having afro wigs on would make me so uncomfortable. I get so uncomfortable now when I see so many Black women in straight wigs. I used to think it was normal because my insecurities blinded me to the truth. There is absolutely nothing normal or okay about wearing someone else's texture on your head. Thank you for pointing out the absurdity. God bless you!

[@FF-by6ci]

@@healwithmare What I am trying to get at is, if you walked in to a european event and almost all were wearing Afro wigs you would feely sorry for them/pity them that they can't shine with their own hair or even a wig that resembles their natural hair. It will also confirm that you are the superior beauty standard because these white european women are living in europe yet buying so much Afro wigs/weaves and chemically perming their hair curly to the detriment of their health and even willing to go bald for the Afro look. You see that's how we appear to others, we wear our insecurity on display for all to see. Look up a south sudanese wedding or a senegalese wedding and see how odd it is to be so Black and beautiful and diminish your beauty with jet straight wigs.

[@stallion9113]

I worked at a beauty supply and alway advocated for black women to go natural and not wear fake hair... I never wore fake hair after I became woke(original meaning) in highschool. The brainwashing is heart breaking to watch and some women just refused to believe their hair was meant to be seen as beautiful... U hear.. "It looks good" or "if my hair was long i would wear it" in actuality if u don't change how "you see youself" no one will be your beautiful because you don't...ijs

[@healwithmare]

Glad you’ve always advocated for Black women to go natural. The encouragement is definitely needed!

[@keyahninaylor4974]

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[@healwithmare]

💖💖💖💖

[@Pisces5878]

I think you can promote natural hair content without shading wig wearers and vice versa. I’ve always been natural but there was a period of time for about 4-5 years where I only wore wigs and sew ins. Partly because I didnt want to deal with my hair but mainly because I was going through depression. At the beginning of 2024 I stopped and started wearing my hair again. Hair dysmorphia is real, it is a sickness, and it did take a while for me personally to realize I look way better with my real hair rather than someone else’s. But on the flip side of that I can still appreciate a nicely done wig or a super laid sew in. I do braids every 3 months and I even did a weave ponytail for Christmas as an alternative to a silk press. It looked good and I felt good about it. I would wear a wig again, if I’m going after a certain look or just for fun, but I wouldn’t feel the same dysmorphia I felt before. The point is, black women shouldn’t be policed by their hair. The ultimate goal is for those who are brainwashed by wig culture to appreciate their hair more, but implying that all black women who wear wigs are trying to look like white ppl simply isn’t the best way to sell the narrative

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much for sharing your story! It’s very important to accept where people are and not judge them, especially when they are struggling with their mental health. I have hope that more Black women will be free of hair dysmorphia. 🙏🏾

[@sparker7768]

Pause: your hair style is gorgeous on you; ok, back to the video.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much, my mom always told me I looked like a Fulani person so I decided to try Fulani braids. They fit me so well 💗🥰

[@AdiannaRobinna]

I am a new subscriber, by the way.

[@healwithmare]

I am so glad you found my content! Welcome to the community 💖🙏🏾

[@chrisharris2367]

It’s not fair natural hair is seen as childish and pressed hair is seen as more professional, but unfortunately we don’t make these Westernized rules. You have to understand who is in power, and it’s not us.

[@healwithmare]

You’re right, we don’t completely make the rules, but who says we have to follow them? And who says we cant re-create the rules to fit who we truly are? If more Black women just accepted themselves, our natural hair would be uplifted. The responsibility is in our hands. My life has literally gotten immensely better since accepting all of me 🥰🙌🏾✨

[@MsRenaissance]

If you want to wear your hair natural you're free to do so but you have no right to push your preference on other people.

[@healwithmare]

It’s not my preference my love, it’s God’s preference. He didn’t make any mistakes. God bless you and thank you so much for engaging with my content. It helps my channel grow a lot 🥰🙏🏾

[@MsRenaissance]

@healwithmare God didn't create the first humans in clothes, so does that mean we should all be walking around naked? And let's not forget, some white people tan their skin to look darker or get lip enhancements. No shade to them if they feel a little more confident or comfortable with those enhancements. You have no right Hunni, keep your opinions to yourself and stop trying to force it down people's throat.