Your Relationship with Money! | Kati Morton

[@tscarable]

This hits me right in the poverty.

[@waynefabian2428]

instablaster...

[@kerrylarmand6301]

I feel the need to share, cuz I'm proud of how far I've come....I am ONLY one year away from being entirely debt free!!! I'm sharing because I want this community to know..IT IS POSSIBLE!!!!!!! YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT!!!! Tips and tricks in this video are invaluable!!!!

[@sarazeitz8069]

kerry larmand congratulations and keep up the great work! Don't forget to plan in a good reward for achieving such an amazing accomplishment! I'm rooting for you!

[@treearoha]

The “waiting 24 hours before buying the thing you want” is actually an incredible helpful tip. When I go “emotional shopping” I leave my items in the basket for a day before purchasing because most of time I realise the next day I don’t really need or want to those things. I just wanted to shop to feel better. I’ve saved so much money doing that. God knows where I would be if I bought all of those things.

[@shan6553]

I found the “jar method” to help me as I used shopping as an emotional release for YEARS. Basically, you get jars and write what the expense is on that jar (ie- gas money). Then you take out your entire pay check in cash (sans money to cover bank fees) and divide and budget that amount of money into the various jars for that pay period. No money in the jar means no spending in that area. This method really made me cut back on my spending.

[@tehyamendez9125]

I'm going to try this thanks for sharing!!

[@torrejohnson3940]

Shann D it’s similar to the cash envelop method

[@shan6553]

Torre Johnson 100% yes. Just using clear jars helps you visually see what’s left in your jars. Just an added level of ease for people who really struggle with money.

[@shan6553]

Tehya Mendez if possible, switch from automated withdrawal for bills to you physically having to go pay the bill either in person/online. This will also allow you to be more mindful of your overall spending.

[@sarazeitz8069]

I do this but by having multiple accounts with specific names. My bank is also working on creating "buckets" so you can divide your money into specific categories or goals.

[@TheBinski]

I have the opposite problem but now I'm pretty good at spending money and still VERY good at saving (debt free over here aside from Australia's student loans - a tenth of those in the US if not less). The BEST bit of advice I can give anyone is this: EVERYTHING physical that you buy is something else to take care of. It's like getting a pet. You have to wash those clothes and store them, you have to find space for those mugs and keep them clean. Every little item needs attention and invites making choices. :)

[@allisoncamacho3094]

You should do a video about emotional eating and binging, I think it would help a lot of people ❤️

[@_just_TK]

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[@treearoha]

allison juliana camacho granados yes please!

[@janinewhite5438]

My spending is horrific! I so need this video!! I spend so much money on unnecessary rubbish as I feel I have to 'buy' people because I have absolutely no self worth or self esteem. This is something I really need to address. Currently in EMDR therapy for c-ptsd and praying things get better 😭

[@jswens77]

My weakness is online shopping...but recently when I’m in a funk and cruising amazon, I’ll put stuff in my cart but wait until the next day and 90% of the time I don’t end up buying what’s there. Super helpful to wait 24 hours!

[@katlbird]

One thing I do is keep a Pinterest board of treats / things I love which I have received as gifts or that I’ve bought for myself as a treat. When I get emotional and want to spend, I take a look at the board and it cuts through the self-talk that I “never get anything” and that “no one cares”

[@SusieQ78]

Haha..."you have a budget, you just don't track it".... yea, I track it once it's HOKUS POCUS I AM BROKUS

[@Katimorton]

hahah!!! Omg same!! lol!!

[@SusieQ78]

@@Katimorton well, I just went into my Amazon "buggy" and deleted 3 of my 5 items... thanks a lot KATI!!! XOXO

[@kellyv6075]

That money [which you save] is more yours than the money you give away to companies. Oh damn. 🔥

[@Roll587]

This completely shocked me. I love it.

[@weirritatin8187]

It’s so bad Emotional spending is basically my personality trait. I will save my cash on really depressing periods in my life, not really feeling motivated to buy anything Then once i feel stable enough emotionally(or so I thought) I just blow it all on things that don’t even make sense and go back home feeling bad about myself and the cycle continues cause now I’m broke and sad I’m broke and feel poorer than everyone around me and ughhhhhhHh

[@Katimorton]

Ugh.. it can be so hard to stop!! I hope the video was a bit helpful :) xoxo

[@TarableDecisions]

I've been doing a no buy to help with my compulsive shopping. I've been documenting the process and really appreciate these types of videos you've done. Thank you so much! Im going to share this video with my subscribers. I just have a small following, but I know they will enjoy this!!!

[@gracedlazydaisy3129]

I love Chelsea! And buying impulsive trips when doing well financially has happened to me so many times.

[@southernsuccubus420]

My emotional spending doesn't tend to be stuff for me, but around this time of year wanting to make everyone have a good gift I end up getting a bunch of small gifts for everyone when I find something I think a person would like or could use... my biggest problem is buying the things for other people that I know they want or could really use, but probably wouldn't do for themselves because they do for others more than themselves. I love the feeling when you have given someone a gift that really means something to them

[@nosteviewonder8959]

Wow it is so freshing to hear your friend mention where she was when she was in her twenties and where she is now, it's very motivating. Im about to turn 24 this month & ive been taking care of things and trying to get back to that place where I'm not in a hole anymore and in a better place financially. Its been a journey for sure lol but as they say there's no where to go but up from here 😎

[@sachab6098]

I have almost the opposite extreme of emotional spending/impulse buying. I can spend an hour in one or two aisles just deciding what I want, comparing, calculating the pros and cons, etc. With online shopping, my indecisiveness is worse because the money is not tangibly being handed over. I have a budget (typically about $25 because free shipping), I put things into my cart, and leave them in my cart. For days. Often, I do a lot of changing up the items in my cart before I hit the order button... or not!

[@DaileyDoseOfJoseph]

I really like these analysis videos of how finances connect to your well being.

[@emmyboucher7349]

Thank you for all of your informative videos all year! Have a wonderful holiday season!

[@zebrayellow4629]

Omg.. I have this! Anytime I get upset and it causes me to start ruminating, this causes me to spend! I had 6 years of being in a toxic situation, and spending was the only activity to give me peace. Now, I am in debt. Thank you for this broadcast!

[@liasnclr]

Man that point about the correlation to restriction/binging and our relationship to food/money was really eye opening for me and something I hadn’t thought of before.

[@kerrylarmand6301]

How great is this to hear...and especially this time of year!!!! YAY KATI + CHELSEA!!!!!!!!!! woot woot

[@Katimorton]

Yay!! So glad you liked it!! xoxo

[@wanderlustmajick3739]

This hits me right in the feels right now. What is your advice for individuals who grew up thinking their family was middle class and financially sound, only to find out in my 20s that my folks have been faking wealth and living far outside of their means and looking to their children to bail them out now? How do I break the cycle that now has me crippled and mismanaging money myself because I never was taught good money handling habits (and feeling guilty telling them I can’t help)?

[@sarahdiane359]

This video couldn’t be better timed. Thanks again Kati and I love this collaboration because it gives me a place to go from here.

[@shauny8367]

Hey Kati! This seems like an interesting video, thank you for that! Also I’ve been wondering how interesting a video about body language in therapy would be! Maybe something to add to your list ;)! Love you! 💗

[@NenaLavonne]

Shauny yes! 😊✨

[@nate61989]

Hi Kati! I was wondering if you could make a video about how to navigate a quarter life crisis, and any tips, advice, and thoughts related with that topic? I just turned 30 this year and that seems to have contributed to and triggered a major crisis in my life, leaving me feeling more lost than ever. Thanks for any help, I really enjoy your channel!

[@DrummerGrrrl]

What a wonderful video!! I am so happy I decided to see what new content you had, Katie. To be honest, any time my former therapist mentioned my horrible money habits, I completely shut down. And she FIRST mentioned this in 1991 when I was 24! I'm now 52 and just beginning to deal with my psychological roadblocks when it comes to budgeting. I AM a whole lot better than I was in 1991, but I still have to learn to budget MORE. GREAT video.

[@heatherlouise5270]

I have a difficult time treating myself. I am very focused on saving and sticking to my budget, so I think having a goal idea is great for me! I will definitely use this!

[@_just_TK]

Heather Louise Counseling me too! I’m so obsessed w/ paying off my debt I inherited from a divorce that I have trouble spending money on my basic needs

[@colettelee1162]

The financial self-sabotage thing is reeeally important and I'd like to learn more about that. Also, people who like this video might enjoy Bad with Money with Gaby Dunn!

[@Disqualified_Identity]

Thank you so much Kati! This is probably the most helpful video I have ever watched on KZbin! So much of this applies to my current situation. I feel better equipped to handle my finances after watching this!

[@journeytowellness7096]

I have ADHD and my finances are in shambles. Oddly enough, I’m not much of an impulsive shopper, just buying something as soon as I see it, but instead I become overly obsessed with something I want or tell myself I need for some business idea that I was cooking up. So I’ll obsess over something, sometimes weeks on end before buying it. Either way, it’s usually not within my budget. The other thing I do is eat out a lot. Not at sit down restaurants, but mostly fast food. It just chips away at my bank account till I’m broke and waiting for payday.

[@literallywhy6162]

ADHD financial struggle is real 😭 I’m doing pretty ok right now but my biggest pitfall is just not being willing to cook because if feel like it’s something I won’t be able to focus on without even trying to see if I can or not

[@reilleyfarnsworth6100]

I don’t know how you do it but you always know what I need to hear. Thank you 😊

[@NenaLavonne]

Reilley Farnsworth 😊✨

[@OpheliaCyber]

Thank you Kati! I really needed this. Especially since the holidays are coming around, its perfectly timed

[@HellaBella]

Two amazing KZbinrs on one great topic! :) Waiting a day or even a week is the best way to see if you really want to buy something. I keep a running list on the notes section of things I want to buy and I often find myself deleting items off the list. I always research before I buy, so sometimes if I am not motivated enough to do the research, then I probably shouldn't make the purchase. I also categorize my spending and see what my monthly averages are for spending in each category. It is probably the best habit I staretd in 2019 because I wanted to start seeing where my money was going.

[@bullynator]

I agree, saving today is a bargain with the future. You’ll be in a better place tomorrow. But like spending, saving money has also to be done in a reasonable way. A healthy balance is important.

[@user-vn7ce5ig1z]

19:40 - Experiences are terrible investments; you can't sell them if your kid gets sick or your house burns down. Millennials have a tendency to blow most of their money on food, concerts, and travel instead of stuff. That's very short-term, youthful thinking. Once they're older, they'll wish they had some _things_ as a safety net and some _stuff_ to pass on to their kids.

[@ashleirabesspetion5279]

So real and relatable! Thank you for sharing!!

[@annahoolia]

You are so precious! Thanks for this video :)

[@wax9007]

Good evening Kati, I have a question What are the least effective tests for mental illness? 1- Arrange the photos 2- Arrange the numbers 3- Number codes This question was asked in the Pearson Vue psychology test last year. I want you to answer. Thank you

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Wow! From this video I have finally understood what it means to build something on sand. I’ve heard the phrase before and was trying to conceptualize and apply the meaning but couldn’t really grasp it until now. Thank you 🙏

[@michelesimko7541]

Bravo Kati

[@Dreamer5211]

Thanks Kati , money , the grand love - hate relationship most of us have. We are never really sure how much we need and never feel we have enough. Thanks to Chelsea for working with you on this. Emotions + Cash in the hand = nothing for a rainy day !! I am not the best with money , but I did find that having a separate place for the "break glass in case of emergency " fund is vital , just so sad that too must dwindle over time and necessity negates the madness of reckless spending money , one must live. This is a subject that is truly a 'Circle' , a beginning is an impossible thing , just as ending will never happen. Might have to reanimate Carl J. for help on this one !! Thanks for the video and to Chelsea , XOXO , take care , Gary 

[@krisztinakessel6869]

I do so much shopping for fun. I stay within my budget, but just barely. The sad thing is i could have bought a house from the money i spent on clothes.:/

[@FatiguedButFabulous]

I have dyscalculia as well as a tendancy to emotionally spend, which is a bad combination! Since I find it difficult to understand quantities when it comes to numbers it's super easy for me to accidentally over-spend. Budgeting definitely helps a lot!

[@Mandy-fn8fn]

Hi Kati, I've been enjoying your videos for a long time (thank you!). I am curious if you have done any with advice specifically for pushing through the "don't want to eat/can't eat" feeling when increasing food intake to recover from long-term restricting. I have looked, but not found any. If not - do you have any advice/tips/tricks to just eat the food in front of you when your insides (physical discomfort & thoughts) are screaming at you to stop? (and how to choose what to eat when everything sounds unappealing)?

[@mekman4]

Oh, I love this! Thank you both!

[@Karina_Engr]

Thank you young women.

[@ariwl1]

"My grandpa just saved and saved and saved." "And then he died." "HE DID!" Dark humor yes, but that had me rolling but it makes me wonder what his intentions behind that were? Was he singularly focused on making sure his wife (if she was still around) was taken care of? Did he want to leave something to his kids? People and their relationship to money is fascinating. When you have control of your money, what you do with it speaks to what you value.

[@MelancholyCrypto]

Super interesting

[@kirsty2187]

Love your videos! Thank you so much for sharing Kati!!

[@Katimorton]

Awe of course!! So glad you are enjoying them :) xoxo

[@Nanokarp]

When I moved out I had to make a budget or else I knew I wouldn't be able to pay rent or anything else important. I have purposefully given myself an allowance of 50-100 bucks a month that I don't need to justify. It really helps keep my other budgets in check.

[@paleobc65]

This is a collab I love to see!

[@DaBrainFarts]

Got her book. Reading through it right now.

[@_just_TK]

DaBrainFarts Woot woot! If u like it don’t forget to leave positive reviews online! (Written reviews are the best ) 😉 Checkout Goodreads.com & Amazon.com & give a 👍on Google! 😺

[@kellyv6075]

This is so helpful! What I needed

[@c.w.johnsonjr6374]

Hey, Kati, could you do a video on the best portrayals of mental illness and PTS in film and television? I think the movie Thank You For Your Service did a good job.

[@karrie371]

So excited for this video!

[@Katimorton]

Yay!! xoxo

[@TiaMat99]

I'm quite good at finances, but I have an eating disorder. I've found that my relationship with money is how I want my relationship with food to be. I have a budget: I need to pay my bills (i.e. eat enough + enough veg/protein etc) to keep all the utilities (organs) functioning. I need gas in the car and set some aside for maintenance. But I also need to give myself permission to splurge here and there (i.e. I *can* eat a cookie, just not all the cookies all the time). I plan ahead and I make sure there's enough in all different categories so I don't fall prey to impulse buys. For unplanned purchases, I have a waiting period. For binges, I'm trying to say to myself "you CAN have a bag of crisps, but let's just do something else first.' When I say that to myself, it does becomes less interesting, and after that waiting period, the urges fade more often than not. I think it's to do with autonomy; I get intensely riled up when I get the feeling I should do something... and the urge to do the exact opposite becomes insane (heyo, kid of strict parents here!). But when it becomes my voluntary choice between two equal options, the naughtiness of the bad choice is just less appealing. The same with saving money: if I tell myself I can't spend 50 bucks on shoes because I should save, I start fighting that. If I think, 'okay, I could buy these shoes for 50 bucks, let's check back tomorrow so I can look over my budget tonight and sleep on it'... I usually forget the shoes as soon as I'm home again! My budget used to be too tight and I failed each month. When I gave myself a reasonable amount of guilt-free spending money, my budget really took off and my savings went through the roof. I know (as I should know for eating): I can have anything I want. Not everything I want.

[@terrilynch7845]

THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!🙃🙂

[@JS-ki4vu]

Hi Katie, I love your video and it’s very helpful. Thank you for making video to help other people. I have a question for you. What happened if a therapist want you to go to inpatient? And you refuse to go?

[@_just_TK]

J S I know this probably not what u want to hear but if ur therapist thinks u should be in patient, there’s probably a reason. You can always compromise & see if there’s partial hospitalization program (PHP) an intensive outpatient professional (IOP) in the area. I’m currently in an PHP and it’s been an AMAZING experience so far! It’s like getting on a recovery fast track. You get out what u put in but I’ve made so much progress in just a few days & they were able to drastically change my meds to get me stabilized. I know going to a higher level of care sounds terrible but it can be a great experience if u let it. Good luck!

[@Qija1]

I was so scared of getting a job, bc of my relationship with money. I was terrified I was gonna use it on binge food, stupid things or just food and beverages in general. My ed combined with my ‘anxious tendencies’ made it feel impossible.

[@eliciagarcia3601]

I waste too much money on food

[@icedirt9658]

Qija1 well if you get a job and spend all the money, that’s still probably better for you than not getting a job at all, and you could give away the money or hand it to someone else to manage it.

[@TheWigglebutt]

Kati, I’m the exact opposite. I feel like I save too much money. I’m 27 now, but I’ve always been very worried about spending. Seeing my mom struggle with money has made me weary of spending too much, but I am not my mom. My dad was the opposite, or at least, always acted like he was well off. He passed away this February and it turns out he was in a lot of debt. My therapist mentioned to me, perhaps he didn’t want others to worry / or sort of a pride thing. That made me really go hmm.. wow you could be right! Anyhow, I’ve gotten better, but it’s so interesting how there’s always the opposite side of the spectrum.

[@KatieSmiley29]

Such a great video, thanks Kati and Chelsea!

[@raywood8187]

I've been careful with my money, especially with big purchases, not buying more home or car than I could afford or trying to live an extravagant lifestyle beyond my means. Right now I'm thinking of retirement and hoping the money lasts so I have to be careful. It's not going to be much fun though if I can't reward myself a little.

[@hippogriffgrrl10]

I just impulse ordered a wristband from Kati's DFTBA shop, but I think that will add value to my life. And it was--classic spending excuse--"only $5."

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’m looking forward to watching!! ❤️ I’ve managed to improve how I handle my relationship with money, though sometimes I can still be prone to emotional splurging

[@Katimorton]

I am so glad you have improved your relationship with money!! hooray!! xoxo

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@Katimorton Kati, thank you so much!! That truly means a lot to me!!

[@kristen2439]

I did exactly what Chelsea mentioned at 20, I wanted things I had none growing up... Now I have realized it’s having the security.. No credit card balance and savings, for emergencies..

[@_just_TK]

Kristen Woot Woot!

[@brightpage1020]

Love the team up here! 2 of my fave YTers together! Love your advice about looking at the numbers. In the moment. Check the checking account before I walk to the check out line and view the price tag! I would avoid price tags at all cost and then feel a little shocked once it’s all wrung up. Thinking - if I spend this much here now, it’s ok, but it means next week, we need to cut our grocery bill by half, or that right now I can this or television service or extracurriculars for our kids... which is a bigger priority? Like asking myself, “Does this extra stuff mean more to us than groceries next week?” Also, it’s like a time budget - it will go by. At 5:30 in the morning, when I want to watch videos in my warm bed instead of waking the kids up to get ready for school on time, I have to remind myself of all our tardies this year (way too many) how embarrassing it is for my daughter, an all A student in her own right - to keep showing up late because mommy made an excuse for bad behavior. Dho! That hurts. The pain motivates me to get up and spend the time preparing for the school dropoff in a less rushed, more relaxed way, less anxious, and I get to enjoy the reward of getting them to school with extra time for them to play with their friends o the playground before class. They love that and deserve it. And it makes me feel more in control and sets me up for getting more done with my day because kids around the house are distracting from other goals. And videos. Lol.

[@_just_TK]

Yesssssss!!! Chelsea from the Financial Diet is THE BEST!!!!

[@Katimorton]

woot woot!!! xoxo

[@zeejosany]

“MY FAVORITE KZbinRS” I am glad of this colab my mania is dangerous combined with money, so i am scared of spendings.

[@Katimorton]

I hope some of Chelsea's tips were helpful!! Happy to talk more about bipolar disorder and spending too if that would be helpful. xoxo

[@NenaLavonne]

Zee Jœsany 😊✨

[@zeejosany]

Kati Morton yes please, i have given my spouse the money responsibility and i tend to become a workaholic to provide enough once we are in deep debt.

[@Omeyahsvlog]

I love you Doc..

[@michelesimko7541]

Impulse control important to recognize

[@Katimorton]

Yes!! It really is :)xox

[@willowstewart652]

Hi Katie! I’m not sure if this is a question that’s been previously answered, but do you ever have clients struggle to speak or are only able to whisper/mumble when difficult topics arise? If so, do you know why that happens and how might you suggest resolving this issue? I do not have a very loud voice to begin with, but whenever I’m working through trauma memories in session, I can never get my voice to be loud enough to hear it on the recording device used for imaginal homework. It feels similar to having a bad cold/losing your voice where simply trying to speak louder doesn’t prove very effective. If you have the time, any insight you have would be helpful! Thank you for all that you do; it most certainly does not go unappreciated!!

[@kathrin9674]

I experienced that, too.

[@laken97]

Trauma can be extremely difficult to think about, much less talk about. So it is totally understandable having a hard time getting the words out about what has happened in the past. Personally for my trauma i put off talking about it for a while because talking about it made it feel more real versus not talking about it made it easier in a way for me because it was easier to pretend it didn't happen. I commend you for going to counseling and talking about it regardless of the volume of your voice because it can be like climbing a mountain.

[@suesalach113]

Excellent video ,THANK YOU! I find it interesting that, Your video expressed, our feelings with compulsion to treat ourselves with things, food , etc. To get that quick fix high.. Perhaps ...looking at treating ourselves , by going to visit a friend, family, Or an elderly friend. . And having a nice conversation. Every time I leave, I feel so honored to have the company with her that fills me up , with her wisdom and That fills me up ,& is more Satisfying than , food, more stuff, Shopping,etc.. Which is just a habit of Running from feelings of inadequacy, problems etc & Good old anxiety, depression, the pains of just living !!!.lol. Also , Perhaps volunteer,helping out somebody with moving ,cleaning shopping, ( This helps your shopping addiction , but you're buying stuff that they need) . make time to help a friend, or your family, Or Any person that you enjoy. What they teach you And how you feel after , you can't put a price on!. You will have No guilt! Like the guilt, you feel after your retail therapy.... Time is money! So if you feel like buying a friend a gift, perhaps give them the gift of your time! Visiting with them or helping them in some little way, .. You will have an incredible feeling that's uplifting.. That you can't put into words and put a price on... Listening to your video, does track on the things I often do , Although now that I'm older..in the past. I still have a slips!! Progress ,not perfection. Thank you, Again for sharing!

[@RaeM.C83]

I'm in addiction therapy probably for the rest of my life because there is no cure for my brain yet. It's very interesting how much all of my defects stem in PTSD behavior and addict behavior and my first step was scheduling and making sure I didn't replace my addiction with work because that also effects my reward center in my brain. Also of course spending on frivolous things that I never touch again but at some point in my life I wanted it so I buy it. It's really kind of scary when I started educating and practicing tools I've gathered along the way. To me I feel like I'm gaining ground on my behaviors through education and meditation. Thank you again for sharing with us things that really matter to me. 🏳️‍🌈❤🏳️‍🌈

[@wabbajackwabbajack6932]

Can you do one on how most available jobs often conflict with personality traits like being introverted or empathetic towards animals and the environment? My problem isn't so much spending but not being able to find a job where I feel I'm doing more good than harm to the world.

[@literallywhy6162]

I find I’m less of an emotional spender in the sense that of feeling bad and buying something to make it better, but instead I enjoy buying new things and often do it when I’m in a good mood. I was happy about finding out I was getting holiday pay for Christmas so I just bought some skin care stuff (to be fair, it was on sale, and all but one thing was stuff I regularly use and am close to running out of, but if it hadn’t been for the Christmas pay I probably would have waited longer and paid full price 😂) I actually enjoy budgeting as well! I went through a long period of feeling really stuck, just lost between being a “real” adult and still being a kid, and it was like the first time I sat down and evaluated what I regularly spend it gave me something to do that a “real” adult would do, and I figured out I had more room to get extra stuff and still be able to save than I thought!

[@moriahwebb90]

Hey Kati I was wondering if you could talk about the differences between not eating bc of stress/ anxiety and because of an eating disorder behavior. My counselor said that what I thought was an Eating Disorder behavior was just anxiety and that it didn’t matter that I’ve lost a lot of weight.

[@Katimorton]

It all depends on why we are or are not eating. If we are doing it a way to cope with other things.. or numb out from other things then it's an ED. If we are just too stressed or anxious and don't remember to, then it's not an ED. Does that make sense? It's all about how much of our brain space is spent thinking about food. If it's most of our thoughts.. then it's an ED. xoxo I hope that helps!

[@moriahwebb90]

Thanks Kati

[@bethannward]

This was helpful

[@osse1n]

*Consumerism* is like trying to solve an inwardly matter, through outwardly means.

[@Katimorton]

Totally!!

[@Mang0Tango]

Do you have any tips or resources for people who have trouble "allowing" themselves to spend? Your comment connecting disordered eating to spending habits (people who restrict food tend to restrict spending; people who binge food tend to binge spending) was a real light bulb moment for me, because I exhibit both of the former two tendencies and I never connected them before to an unhealthy desire to control, restrict ... almost punish? myself. Many thanks.

[@inakunaru7131]

Unrelated to vid. But has anyone had their social anxiety mistaken for arrogance? I’m getting this a lot

[@wb8695]

I'm living in a small city in Indonesia with an irregular income and I find this very helpful and validating. Thank the lord I have no debt and I live at home, I work freelance and I immediately save 30% of what I make and live off the rest. It's not easy making a regular income off of working the way I do, it's not easy getting nice things but I do give myself permission to have treats every now and then. I haven't had a project in about six months and it's stressful seeing my numbers dwindling, I hope I don't have to use my savings account, I'm keeping that for future investments but who knows..

[@pickles432noname6]

So I found out my husband is messing around with his secretary. For years I never spent money on myself. Not even to meet my basic needs. I just went out spent $500 on myself. Screw him. Plan on doing it again. Soon.

[@_just_TK]

Pickles432 Noname please reach out to a mental health professional to help you sort out everything ur going through! Splurging on urself may feel amazing right now but it’s only a temporary high. Get in w/ a therapist & then decide if u want to stay in the marriage or not. Good luck!

[@enamored1]

Great topic! If you talk about money again please mention budgeting with a partner, it feels harder for some reason.

[@chantellekaro4344]

OMG Christmas, the car service, Also I did some emotional spending, didn't think about it, big mistake.

[@nayamun4378]

Hi Kati i don’t know if you read the comments but i wanted to ask something. I have a problem with eye contact and i have to do my best to not get head tremors when i have to be looking someone in the eyes. It really keeps me away from talking to people. My mother said she also has a problem with eye contact but she doesn’t get these tic. Is it adrenaline? Can i do something to not have it?

[@aczu12345]

Can you discuss lacking self worth, especially as a parent?

[@_just_TK]

My whole life is a “stigmatized, taboo area” 😹

[@laken97]

As a psychology student I am very comfortable talking about "taboo" topics and i forget that its not normal sometimes and i get those "😮" faces from family members like oh my god i can't believe you just casually talked about sex health. I gave my younger cousin the talk because her parents refused to an was answering her questions because no one else would and she is 16 she needs to know lol

[@mysonrando7789]

Sincerely feel no matter who or where you are at financially, giving a little off the top to something that is not selfish, or self sustaining, but that is supportive of others will cause your finances to fall in line, ... The tithing concept, I don't think it has to be a church just something you have faith in that is helpful to others and that you can feel confident giving to. I swear it does something psychological that makes you better with your money.

[@samlafontaine8552]

When I'm overly stressed I find I buy more snack food and treats, eat out more, I give up being so strict on my money because it's work to keep track of it when im so stressed I can't think straight or care for myself.

[@Roll587]

I go back and forth between hoarding money and buying too much crap. I'm a work in progress.

[@brightpage1020]

Definitely the more stressed I am about money, the more likely I am to binge spend and the more stressed I am about time limits, the more likely I am to be late. Dho! What’s up with that?

[@nataliarays8462]

Haha I totally thought that this was talking about improving personal relationships! Lol!

[@gablison]

I grew up being bribed to love my mother so I have a f----- up relationship with money. I like to see the numbers rise on my bank statement superficially but once it's connected to $$$ it feels so uncomfortable like bugs are crawling all over my skin and I have this instant visceral urge to get rid of all of it, how do I get over that!

[@whywhy2873]

Just random question! Is it restricting if you just naturally forget to eat?

[@_just_TK]

Y.Y. Shin probably not but it’s still not a good thing. Try setting reminders on your phone!

[@abcdefg79]

My issue is the complete opposite, I hardly ever buy myself anything. I don't know what I want or what I like. I'm used to never getting what I want when I was younger, then started only getting my own money in my 20's. I don't think I've established my sense of self. Does anyone else have any issues with self discovery?

[@_just_TK]

Abc Defg DEFINITELY!!!!

[@abcdefg79]

@@_just_TK Now all we totally need is a video on it haha. The struggle is real.

[@jeffbrownstain]

I'm the exact opposite. I have no money but I also spend no money. I dont want anything out of anything, as long as I have food in my belly and an internet connection, I am at peace in my Zen. How does one like me become encouraged to profit?

[@miriamoppenheim]

Wow! I’m a week into my month of zero spending. Not including food and basics for our family of ten...

[@Katimorton]

That's amazing!!! xoxo

[@NenaLavonne]

Miriam Oppenheim 👏👏👏😊

[@richardmyles6570]

Does this work with marriage? And if so, does it require more money than other relationships?

[@juliovangelpereznuno7422]

They are both so daamn cutee!

[@georgigeorgiev8470]

#KatiFAQ How to deal with feeling lonely and being unable to make friends? I am 23, work full time and the place where I am supposed to socialize is work but that just does 't feel right for me, I don't feel like I click with anyone there. Also the area where I live is what I can describe as 'rough' , I don't really go out on weekends so it's difficult socializing. Please help!

[@_just_TK]

Georgi Georgiev I totally feel you, it’s sooooo hard to make friends once you leave school! Check out Kati’s videos on this! kzbin.info/www/bejne/rYjbop1olpWJbNU kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWmtZYJtl5mLnZo