5w4 or 5w6: Enneagram 5 Wings Explained

[@sitbytheocean5998]

As a 5, the cell phone battery illustration is so good... I can relate to that. In a large/loud group of people, I can feel my battery charge dropping by the minute.

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

Thanks for sharing! It's so important for 5s to have space to recharge.

[@Ekkiert8]

I resent being married because there are all this expectations about holidays and anniversary parties and presents from my husbands parents and I feel so stressed out that I have to show up for this social constructs and replying within a certain timeframe. I just keep thinking that marriage is not for me because people just don’t understand and interpret everything the worst way. I’m my best and more loving with my pets. They don’t place any emotional demands on you but are always there with unconditional affection and loyalty and most importantly they don’t judge me. I do feel lonely without a pet. I’ve lived for years without human relationships and never have gotten lonely. I do miss kissing and sex, but not the emotional mess or conflict that most relationships have and dependency to the system as well as the need to compare themselves to others🌿🌸

[@bhill9057]

I love this!! As a 5w6 wing, I can really relate to a lot of the amazing content that was shared! Thank you!!!

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@natashatrump7875]

Very interesting hearing how these traits express themselves in 2 very different 5's! I loved hearing their coping strategies and how they have grown. It gives my shrivelled little 5 heart some hope!

[@sylviaowega3839]

A great and informative video as a 5w4 married to a 1w9.

[@nyasmith-assis5168]

Great hearing from fives that are also women especially hearing them talk about envy. I keep hearing that word envy thrown around me and am always confused. I think it is people projecting their own insecurities on me. I think I was mistyped as a 9 becauseI laughed exactly at the same time they laughed and found myself having similar reactions to the questions in this interview. I was left thinking, my goodness, I need more women friends who are fives!!!

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

We're so glad you found this helpful! Feel free to check out episodes 129 and 130 where we do a more in depth podcast on Type 5s and then host another panel.😊

[@KristyKapp]

Depends who asks me about the battery life. My husband, another 5, I would love that because he would understand & help me or give me space. My mom, not sure her number, has always been very understanding of my personality & would also help or give me space. However, another close family member, if they asked, they would roll their eyes then either mock or make fun of me, try to convince me that that is a wrong thing to feel, & then pressure me or manipulate/guilt trip me to keep going & do what they want or pout & ice me out for a week or so. For people who understand, I'd love it. For those who would use it against me or mock me, I'd rather they just not ask.

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

Thank you, Kristy, for your insight!

[@searsfam0942]

Wow…this is such an amazing interview and insight into 5! I’m really struggling with typing myself and I relate so closely to most of 5, but almost everything I’ve read or watched makes 5s out to be the mad scientist and extremely awkward and unable to communicate with people. These two were very “normal” in their demeanor and I can totally relate to them! Now I need to go take a long shower and think about everything that was said 😂

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

We’re so glad you found it helpful!😊

[@tjtj7161]

Gabreale's mom sounds like my dad. He was a 3 and extremely overwhelming. I'm a 5W4.

[@StAu8390]

A friend was having a relationship problem and she started to tell me about it and responded with investigative questions and she was like, “No fixing needed, just need you to listen.”

[@Slaveternal]

Which seems unbalanced as an interaction. And they desire solutions then why not just endure it quietly/don’t burden people with the negativity.

[@HikiOmo]

The question at the start, I would feel surprised, honestly. I don't really let people in so someone magically knowing something about me like that would feel a little intrusive probably, like, "How did you know to ask that? Stay away from me. I feel like you know too much without my permission."

[@1dudecrush]

I’ve taken numerous tests, and the best representation I can find for myself is 5w4. I’m not mad about this interview series, but I will say that I do not feel represented by the 5 specialists you brought to this interview. They come at this topic from a very female-centric world view, which if we’re being honest, sounds more like a traditional 5w6. I’m a 5, and anybody who knows me will tell you that if they know enneagrams, but I have pride, ambition, etc that pervades my every decision in life. I want to be seen for who I am and what I’m capable of, even if I don’t want a ton of limelight and need to recharge by myself. I dunno guys. Am I in the wrong place? I don’t mean to attack or demean anybody’s life experience here, I just think that the 5w6 was over represented and I found myself not relating to their experiences very much as a “5w4.”

[@YourEnneagramCoach]

Thank you for sharing. We can see how sometimes you may not fully resonate with our guests, but the Enneagram is much deeper than just main types and wings. This is why it can be challenging to type yourself. You might be interested at looking into subtypes for the 5, because those help distinguish each type even further. We hope this helps.😁

[@annalee4609]

What was that C.S. Lewis book that reminded you about type 5 again? Hehe thank u

[@natashatrump7875]

It was Shadowlands. The movie was great too. I have to go back and watch/read now because he was definitely a 5!

[@anewhypeiv9898]

Is it me, or is it such a type 5 behavior to NOT be on video during an interview.

[@GenAcev]

Thank you!

[@johnhill762]

How god created them to be? 5w4 INTP. I do not believe in god. Let’s describe personalities without throwing in religious terms, or framing things in terms of religion. Not everyone is religious!

[@loriaustin8089]

I think it pigeon-holes me as a #5 w4. I’m not sure exactly why, but it triggers me and feels presumptuous and invasive, esp someone I don’t know well asking me this. It’s limiting and patronizing. Humans esp 5s are complex and this is too simplified. I would not feel 💯 understood and annoyed if someone asked me this and would resist being put in a box.