Enneagram Type 4s Explained - A Complete Guide

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for watching y'all! And please remember to hit that SUBSCRIBE button if you haven't already 🙌🙏💜

[@Dolph-fe2ks]

Call me strange (or not), but on account that you said: "please Remember," you (fersher) sealed another subscriber right here. Respect💯🫡 😎💪🏼💜.

[@MrSnowpaw1]

I have been researching and studying about enneagram types for a while I cannot believe I did not come across your channel before. Thank you so much for great descriptions.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@MrSnowpaw1 Glad you found it!

[@okeanos317]

hmm,I thought I was a type one,now I'm reconsidering that

[@stardustccino]

I had to pause so many times because i felt so ungodly called out LMAO

[@YouveGotaType]

haha sounds like that classic enneagram feeling ;)

[@Dolph-fe2ks]

🤣🤣🤣 You took the words right outta my CardioLogical process. 🫡 😁

[@rebeccaroig7922]

Me after every other sentence: “…yeah, that’s fair. 😬😅🤦🏽‍♀️”

[@elijahpethtel2217]

I just finished episode 5 and now I know exactly how you feel.

[@mememeome]

I’m a 4, but a lot of the traits named are most relatable to me from when I was younger. I remember in high school thinking that there was something wrong with me, and being so envious of other girls that could just laugh and chat without a care. But I remember on the flip side feeling so special, I felt like I viewed the world so differently. I was very expressive, loved all the sad music, and wrote poetry as well as painted. I had a feeling like everyone else didn’t understand me but that they also weren’t “good enough” to, so I was shutting them out really out of fear of being rejected. Now when I look back, I have a lot of compassion for my younger self because I know now that it was a lot of self-loathing I had. Now I don’t compare myself, I’m at peace with my own inconsistency; there are so many versions of me and that’s okay, I love who I am (quirks and all and even those parts that seemed so shameful), I prioritize connecting with others on a human level and I fight my impulse to shy or push trustworthy people away, I accept how special and unique others are and love learning about what makes others so unique, I’m aware of my empathy and love to help others through their feelings, but will protect my energy when I feel I need to and I put boundaries to not let other’s feelings affect me as strongly. There’s nothing wrong with me, I just had ADHD, but there is nothing inherently wrong with that. I still feel soooo deeply, and it’s still confusing, but I can talk myself through it. I’m not perfect, I still struggle, but that doesn’t make me any less worthy. All this to say, if you’re a 4, and you view this type as a negative, or it makes you feel like these traits are all you’ll ever be, just remember how much everyone can grow and you don’t have to define yourself by only your lowest points. This type is such an overall beautiful type. There is so much good in there and so much to love.

[@YouveGotaType]

Amen to "There is so much good in there and so much to love"

[@novppa]

I completely relate to how you describe your youth-I was the same way! I've also realized that my deep empathy and desire to help others have often taken a toll on me, so I've focused a lot on protecting my energy and setting healthy boundaries.

[@sarahs.9678]

Wow. I really relate to both of these comments. Uh. I love seeing you uplift yourself and speak about the hard experiences and the good perspective you’ve gained. We should all remind ourselves of this regularly. Sometimes I find those old adolescent insecurities come back just in different circumstances and it’s so painful and awkward, but I have to remember how far I’ve come since then too. 🩷 Showing compassion and grace to oneself is just as important as showing it to others. And it’s more genuine both ways when we do. Keep being awesome! I also have ADHD and am on the journey of learning how to release shame from that and overcome some bad habits and resignation. It’s hard but I believe will be worth it over time. Fortunately I married a kind one who helps push me into better habits. Pray for them! Lol they need a lot of patience with me.

[@Rosalieburke]

Thank you for articulating something that I could never

[@erinmarie94]

You know more about me than any therapist I've ever had...spooky.

[@YouveGotaType]

Spooky is a good word for how it can feel sometimes!

[@mandrews5295]

I know, right!! I'm just sitting here, in disturbed silence, as he describes to me how my mind ACTUALLY WORKS!! It's uncanny, man...

[@Dolph-fe2ks]

Right????

[@Errrls]

YES. It allows me to throw away everything I have learned and what I should do from the perspective of those around me and that I was created in this rare way and to live by being myself and accepting it from now on even if "me" as a human is not common.

[@oliveredensanchez]

Wow, this was offensive, and so fun! Yes, I'm a solid type 4. I'm just so suprised to see how accurate your description is. Thank you so much!

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha offensive and fun is a solid description of the enneagram experience. So glad you enjoyed it!

[@surlamuron]

So offensive, lmao. I must be an Aristocat😹.

[@jadey4843]

Yeah😅

[@amusedgal]

Watching this while smoking a cigarette on the balcony in Paris…..

[@YouveGotaType]

Sounds like 4 bliss... and honestly, just picturesque.

[@Flybaby333]

It's giving aristocrat

[@sarahs.9678]

Something tells me you’re not joking. And I love that for you. 😄🇫🇷

[@lovelylindsey]

😂👏

[@lesliesalas4853]

Thank you for your great insights! In my 66 years around the planet, I learned thirty or so years ago that I am a 4....from a family of predominantly 9's. I was 4w3 for most of my life, and quite comfortable with my 9 family. I have found my 5 wing emerging these last couple of years...notably in the autumn season. Then in late winter and early spring I start to energize like a 3 and become much brighter and focused! With time and wisdom, the penchant for darkness has lessened greatly. I am calm, steady, and very thankful for one day at a time 🙂

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you for the beautiful description of your experience as a 4. I'm so glad you found the video insightful. Fascinating to hear about the wings shifting with the seasons!

[@clashwithpliziowski2985]

I can truly relate to that as well. When you're a 4 the weather (not only emotions that you feel right now) impact how you feel. When winter is coming to an end and finally spring and summer start to come you feel more upbeat and positive about life. You start to appreciate smaller things even more such as weather and beauty of what the season has to offer and more open to people when at ease. I feel like we are very absorbent in a ways so we also tend to absorb people's mood

[@tobioflyhigh666]

the dot dot dot before mentioning 9s XD i have like 4 9s in my life and theyre so uhm disappointing. they dont make me feel special nor wanted even tho i rlly think i am to them and im not speaking from narcissism here. they are so invalidating too i grew up w 2 of them in my family and even tho they didnt do anything- the fact that they didnt totally added to my trauma. but anyway good to hear ure doing great. just keep it up!!

[@GoldenOwlEvents]

This is HORRIFYINGLY accurate.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it resonates haha

[@FallenAesthetics]

Hello! I'm a 4w5, and I have a lot to say. First of all, thanks for the video. It kept me informed and entertained throughout! Especially about Instincts and Triads! :) Well, anyways, onto my very Four-ish comment... probably. You nailed everything about the Enneagram Four - from our brooding phases, the dark side, hating the mundane/popular stuff (guilty with this, haha), dealing with deep emotions of ours and other people, the imagined rescuer, and disconnection to seeing the beauty around us and appreciating it as they are. Even our sin Envy tends to stop us from being content with ourselves. As for my personal reflection, I was disconnected from my family and peers early in my childhood to my teenage years. I have a Type One mother and a Type Five sibling. I'm not sure about my father, but he's probably a Type Seven. Maybe this is a very Four situation because some people wouldn't say it directly to me, but when others do, they see me as a "very sensitive and withdrawn yet creative and insightful individual." Due to my wing 5 coming out early in my childhood, I observed a lot of behaviors from people and wished I was them or at least had their outgoing qualities. My peers also refused to teach me anything they knew, so I started to be independent and learn things they did not know or care about. This was when I got really interested in art and music. I had to dig around for hidden gems and share them with people worthy of my trust and friendship. My interest in art became my passion, and I use different mediums to express myself (esp., painting and animation). I also have a very intense imagination which made me interested (and actually made it my undergraduate thesis) in Maladaptive Daydreaming. This made me talk about it more recently and even express my authentic self too! Yay, progress for me :) I found some online friends (I've been friends with some for a decade) who could withstand my raw vulnerability and have the same intensity regarding imagination. However - as you said about Fours - I still undercut my genuine emotions as I'm afraid of "drowning" them or I am too much for them to handle. Currently, I am slowly but surely integrating into Type One. It's hard to change my inner narrative of self-deprecation and self-pity, but I'll take your advice and start with the smallest things! I really need that now because I've been burnout from life recently. Anyways, if you see this, thanks for your time reading my comment! :D

[@YouveGotaType]

I'm so glad it felt accurate for ya and was helpful to some degree! I appreciate you sharing your personal experience and I'm sure it will resonate with many other 4s. While I'm sorry it's been an exhausting season of life, but it sounds like you've got a foundation of self-awareness to at least navigate the trappings of the ego and hardship of life. Best wishes on the journey!

[@Faeriefungus]

You rule for taking time to write this. I relate to this and it shined a bright light on my otherwise bleak day. Truly thank you!!

[@Vivivofi]

Great comment, thank you!

[@elysebuehrer5981]

Man, I laughed out loud when you said France. I’m a 4 and a major Francophile. When you added Japan, I yelled, “Yes!!” I couldn’t believe it! I adore Japanese culture too and have actually always felt there was some indefinable similarity between French and Japanese artistic expression… films, literature, music, etc. My home is literally decorated in French and East Asian inspired styles! I’d say you nailed it. Had another moment when you mentioned Anne Frank as I am currently staring at the whole shelf of books I have collected about her. She’s another lifelong obsession of mine. You should look up Hector Berlioz, by the way… French composer from the Romantic period. The 4-est 4 that ever 4-ed. Love that guy! Great video ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for sharing! Glad the countries resonated - although I can’t take credit for suggesting them (learned them from Richard Rohr). The Anne Frank connection was icing on the cake haha always nice to have the 4est 4 in the YGAT fam 🙌

[@elysebuehrer5981]

@@YouveGotaType Seriously, this video was so well put together. Wonderful work! My knowledge of the Enneagram is fairly shallow, so I definitely learned from this. I came here because I discovered that Berlioz (my favorite composer) was the same type as me and wanted to learn more. I felt you were describing both of us! Maybe with differences in some of the subcategories… super interesting.

[@PearlPaisley]

I yelled yes too. But at Japan. I knew it 😀

[@jensardam3429]

Haha, me too!

[@jensardam3429]

And when he mentioned something about Anne Frank, and I guess you type 4s really love to journal. I do! It's been a lifelong practice :) So interesting how these types are so accurate!

[@maelucchino6339]

The 4 wing 5 description absolutely read me to filth, I have never heard my biggest struggle in life described so acutely. Goddamn!

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@lisawilder7626]

My father was a 4 and this episode helped me understand him better and why he was the way he was.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was helpful, Lisa.

[@carolinethompson4195]

My uncle was definitely a 4w5 Bohemian. He taught English in Paris for a time, worked later as a translator. He was a bit of an ex-hippy, into peace and love and expressing his own unique opinions. Tastes in Pre-Raphealite art, dabbling in semi-autobiographical writing and water colour painting. Confirmed bachelor, probably lived in the same way since his student days in the 1960s. I could sooo imagine him sitting outside a Paris cafe (probably Montmatre), smoking a cigarette and discussing art trends and expressions of deep/spiritual ideologies with some like-minded friend. He passed away in 2019 and I miss him a lot.

[@REV5EN]

You, brother, are a gift to the typology community.

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@progressivegeoff]

4w5 here and this video is EXTREMELY well done. I've been studying the enneagram for a few years now and you've really done a profound job of ARTICULATING EXACTLY what it is like being a 4. Thanks. ☮

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for the high praise!

[@sabrinaclaus2513]

Advice for growth: 1. ACT: Dont try to feel or think but DO your way out of it - practice tiny acts of self dicipline, like making your bed (no matter the mood). 2. YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS: Notice, except and let them pass at a specific time and then move on - dont get stuck in selfpity. 3. BLESS OTHERS: Overcome separation and instinct to withdraw by offering your gifts to others, join groups. 4. COMMIT: Overcome narcisitic tendency by commiting to meaningful relationships, that can mirror and confirm a grounded sense of self and can handle your dark emotions. 5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF: Dont use our negative selftalk to justify your bad behaviors. There is a line between feeling guilty for what you've done and feeling ashamed of who you are. Selflove is like writing with the opposite hand.

[@mamatha987656]

❤

[@jensardam3429]

So much of this is so scarily accurate! I think it took until my 40s and 50s (now I'm 51) to really harness the emotions for my creativity. I'm now in this sweet spot where I feel my head and heart are really working in balance. I've become very spiritual. I can feel my feelings but then go on with my days. I feel them and move through them or process or resolve them now, rather than getting stuck in them or having them stay in my body. I really love where I am at these days, and it feels so free!

[@DigiShaby]

Will definitely write down your tips and stick it to my wall... I have SUCH a hard time getting into action and to NOT identify with my feelings, but I want to work on that 100% and adapt more healthy 1 traits - I definitely feel those a lot when things are going well for me :) I loved the categories and pacing in this, keep going pls!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it!! Thanks for watching and dropping this kind comment 🙌

[@sveps8883]

Exactly! Im 4w5 and i always felt missunderstood. Im an INxP (between T and F)

[@YouveGotaType]

Definitely a tricky type for most people to relate to - but you're not alone!

[@Embodiment.Empress]

Omg. You might be my personality twin 🫢

[@sarahs.9678]

INFP woman with inattentive ADHD. I relate to feeling misunderstood. 👍

[@sarahs.9678]

Also pretty sure I’m a 4w5.

[@leesamia4624]

🥹 Yes, I feel this. I’ve never felt so attacked and seen at the same time. Also INxP, F and T switch for me too when I test. Mistyped myself as 9w1 as a kid, but that was very true to who I was at the time. I feel solidly 4w5 these days

[@ruthielalastor2209]

I so appreciate the advice of self-discipline and how straightforward and encompassing it is. This is totally the way to go. When I get into a depressive breakdown, it's like this breaking of a dam of negative emotions that I don't even believe roaring in my head and there's almost a comfort in the wallowing that makes me not want to stop feeling it. So the elegance of "do something small but helpful" is brilliant to get out of the loop of emotion. ❤

[@olahalicka37]

You're always so good with describing instincts - there is so much material available on this topic, but you somehow manage in these few minutes long sections to add value to the conversation. Well done, thank you! It always bugs me when people with great content don't have an audience they deserve. Oh, mad gods of quality-blind algorithms, make this channel more visible! We need Colton to be heard! :)

[@YouveGotaType]

Hahah I pray those “quality-blind algorithm gods” accept me one day as well!! This was one of the best comments I’ve read in a while, so thank you so much for the kind (and hilarious) words! It really does mean a lot to this fledgling KZbinr.

[@Emily-sf8wz]

I'm so thankful I’m learning about enneagrams at 24 and not at an older age. I’ve always had this looming fear that I’ll do nothing with my life, and I’ll just live in my mind. If I wasn't focused on emotion and insecure about my limitiions I think I'd live like a seven because that feels like me at my best. I was glad to hear that when you said it. Maybe its possible or just the fantasy version of myself. I want to be a four that actually does something with my life and is fun loving and contributing not the four that is self loathing into old age. Thanks for the insight 🙏

[@YouveGotaType]

Best wishes on that continued journey towards your true/best self!

[@katrinaaustinmancclpcc7275]

Just recently learned about the instincts and instantly knew I was in the sexual triad. Your description had me cracking up and explained why my past relationships failed miserably before I got to my healthy 4 state. Though I do love that I can bring unique things to the table in my intimate relationships. Been told (and experienced) very spiritual experiences with partners… it’s magical. I love this part about myself BUT it does make finding a partner wildly difficult.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you've got a good sense of humor about it :) And thanks for sharing your personal experience to bring some life to these theories!

[@Ardorstorm]

I'm probably a 4 with a sexual instinct and this video was like a warning of a fate I never even thought of 0-0

[@oprahesemuze5409]

I feel…so painfully called out 😭 I knew I was a 4w5 already but now I KNOW. Phew. Great video!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks! Glad it helped lock in your type 🙌

[@may-vt8vj]

why and how is this so accurate?! I've currently been struggling with the tension of wanting to create and release more art while fighting the fear of feeling exposed... I didn't know that it had almost everything to do with me being a 4w3! Because everything you said was soooooo spot on! I will now become very obsessed with you because you've made me feel so seen and understood, haha! :)

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha I'm glad it resonated so much 🙌 hope the new insight helps encourage ya put those creative passions out into the world!

[@parkerburgio]

Phenomenal video! I’m a 4 with a 5 wing. You described me so well and definitely provided some important insights I couldn’t find elsewhere. I appreciate you

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it! I appreciate you watching and leaving the kind words.

[@brijbalavyas]

I relate with everything… literally everything you said… I’ve never had this kind of accuracy with any personality test… thanks for making this elaborate video

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it! I too have never experienced anything like the Enneagram :)

[@gregoryritchie7852]

Been working on myself for some time - appreciate your clear, organized, and DETAILED presentation. LOT'S here to chew on and digest - thanks!

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it - and hope it helps with your continued journey of personal growth!

[@spaceengineer1452]

I’m a 4. Talented singer, songwriter, musician. My recorded songs are ignored by radio and people. I couldn’t be happier with my songs. Melodic, poppy and interesting lyrics. Space Engineer, Memory Trip (KZbin album) Spotify, Sound Cloud.

[@YouveGotaType]

So how does this correlate to your journey of self-awareness?

[@LilithLi13]

I am IMPRESSED! Really dynamic and thorough presentation, Colton. I’ve been waffling between type 4 and Type 2 awhile, but know that the instincts also are super important in the mix, as well as other factors. Prob will shake out as 4w5, SP/SO, but plan to listen to what you have to say for type 2 as well. I love that you acknowledge nature versus nurture, right off the bat - well done on that. Mostly I just want to thank you for such an impressive rundown on type 4. If this wasn’t created as a masters degree thesis, it’s not too late! Subscribed and sharing. Thanks again. Renge’ 🌟💕🐙💞🌟

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much for this affirming comment! I'm so glad you enjoyed it and recognize the effort put into it :) Thankfully though, my masters degree is about 10 years behind me at this point haha I certainly don't miss the homework. Thanks for the sub & share!

[@jdt8983]

4w5. I'm not consistently assertive but it's not usually because I'm timid. My main reason is because I don't want to act histrionic and I have trouble knowing when it's a good idea to speak up about something. Sometimes I think it's petty to be assertive but then again I end up being way more crazily aggressive if I bottle things up

[@YouveGotaType]

Makes sense! Thanks for watching & sharing your personal perspective.

[@whynot4]

Really enjoyed this video! Thank you for putting so much hard work into it. I love videos that actually have good valuable information . I appreciate you

[@YouveGotaType]

And I appreciate you for watching and leaving such a kind comment! The hard work is all worth it for viewers like you

[@_bleaux]

I have been suffering with depression off and on my entire life, and I retrospect I can see how as I child I had attached myself to some negative emotions that felt real. Truly years of therapy, meditation/medication and even the 1000s of people I’ve met and I hadn’t been able to make sense of myself. Then today my homie told me about enneagrams and how type 4 felt most real to me. Then I see this and am in tears from -actually- being seen/understood for the first time in maybe 7 years. I believe I can start healing now.

[@dynikaa]

currently doing a uni assignment that requires us to delve into our enneagram type. your video is really insightful and too spot on hahaha!

[@YouveGotaType]

Sounds like my kind of class! Glad the vids are helpful ;)

[@Nick_Taylor.]

Woah cool! Which uni?

[@RENIGUIDRY-tr9no]

Just learning about Enneagrams and myself as a 4 & you Sir, have BLOWN MY MIND!!! 🤯🤯🤯 We’re you talking directly to me?!? I feel like you were since you look STRAIGHT INTO MY SOUL and gave it a BIG HUG!!! In my need for validation & search for acceptance, you made all my dreams come true! Now I am on the road of personal growth, knowing I CAN do this and I do t need to be rescued! BRAVO 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻 And thank you SO much for your keen insight! ❤❤❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Hahah thanks so much for this glowing compliment! Love the emoji usage 🙌 I'm so grateful I could be at all helpful in on the road to personal growth! That's what I got into this work for so it truly makes my heart happy to hear.

[@rathan3288]

This is probably the best video that I've ever seen on type 4s. Keep up the good work man 👏

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Rathan!! I appreciate ya watching and leaving the kind words. Definitely put a lot of work into them!

[@akpenguin1859]

Thank you for your compassion for 4s in this video. I've read that 1's have a tough time with 4's emotions and I have had my fair share of run-ins with impatient 1's. :\

[@YouveGotaType]

My best friend is a 4 so I do have a loving bias towards them :) but I can’t totally see 1s taking out their wrath on 4s because it’s where they go in disintegration and they can see themselves in you. Here’s another fun watch in case you want to see my friend and fellow 4: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kH64o2SZh9djatE

[@YouveGotaType]

@@michellemonet4358 Yup :)

[@meglizbrown]

Freaking nailed it. I haven’t gotten into the enneagram since I found out about it 5 or 6 years ago. I think I was a 4w3 when I first started learning the enneagram… now i’m definitely a 4w5. Great vid!

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it!

[@helenstratigos4862]

Very insightful, Cole! Love and respect to you. Type 4w3 here. You captured it all! Learned a lot about aspects I was unaware of - the instincts and triads. Immediately subscribed for your potent advice and wisdom! Peace. ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Helen! Glad you enjoyed it - and appreciate the sub 🙌

[@helenstratigos4862]

@@YouveGotaType 🙏🥰

[@rabbitrockfish7491]

I never knew anything about any enneagram until a few hours ago. Answered the questions, got the results, watched this video and my mind is thoroughly blown. I am going to dig deep into this now. I had always had a curiosity about the man, Gurdjieff. I'm really looking forward to learning more and feeling better about myself and my place in this world.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it - and I hope the journey continues to help you feel grounded & at peace with yourself!

[@liug_yiuh]

I dislike writing anything rn but you owned my tiny little comment. So 'thank you', 'spot on', 'excellent video', 'I love you', come on, have a bunch of these.

[@thatwolfinyourbackyard6011]

That "SLOOOOW" felt so personal for me lmao. Im definitely a Bohemian Individualist due to struggling whether I should follow what my brain says or what my feelings say. Sometimes, they even have voices of their own (which im sure is definitely normal). The primary "sexual" instinct hits me though no matter how much i deny it. Oh man, what a wild ride.

[@juniorgonzalez3900]

This put all my anxiety and emotions at rest. I understand myself more… thank you amigo.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it hermano ;)

[@SpenceKnapp]

Thank you so much for such a well crafted and intentional video. I found this exceptionally informative as I’m just now learning what a type 4 is. By the way, completely agree with others that it feels strange yet comforting for a stranger to almost know me without ever meeting. Subscribed and looking forward to learning more!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Spencer! It's always great to hear this video resonates with folks, and I very much appreciate the sub!

[@tripwire202]

This clears things up a bit, thank you! Great videos - love how well you described the inner workings of minds. Amazing resource for a writer. I think I mistyped as four because I was autistic and answered 'yes" to many of the "most people cant relate to me" style questions and also value authenticity since I soent so long pretending to be who I wasn't. Thank you for clearing it up - will look into the other types. I know I'm not alone in the world now, thankfully, even though its uncommon to meet someone relatable. There's still a base level of connection between me and everyone thankfully but often there is a gaping void. (Not their fault. My mind is sometimes too scrambled to express ideas or communicate - I'd be lonely even with the kindest person in the world.) I'm currently working on verbal/written expression and understanding. I want to understand people to better write my characters and hopefully the loneliness will ease as I learn to communicate better. Thank you for the wonderful video and have a great day.

[@tripwire202]

I think I may have found my type. 5w4 I looked up this types greatest fears... And uh. Yup that fits. For the first time since learning about enneagram types I felt a personal connection instead of "hmm that's interesting hopefully I can remember this and use it to better my understanding of characters and people" Greatest fears: Expending energy and time without finding answers Being unable to communicate/being misunderstood Definitely! Feel very happy that this part of myself is understood and thay I'm not alone or untypable. I even cried a little. What a clever system this is, that so many people can be understood by it. Thank you very much for introducing me to enneagram types. Hope you have a lovely day.

[@Faeriefungus]

Eli Jaxon bear had the most potent description I’ve heard until you, thank you again

[@Faeriefungus]

Wow I can’t express to you my gratitude! I’ve been researching for five years and this is top ten understanding of fours I can vouch for. Thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much! Glad you found the channel so helpful/accurate.

[@andreaforero1985]

wow I have just recently found out I am a 4. I am also a Sagittarius Sun, Sag moon and Scorpio rising with a lot of other Scorpio placements. While I consider myself an ambivert, I tend to withdraw into myself a lot. I love deep dark emotions, it´s such a beautiful part of life! I am going through a tough time feeling ¨part of the group¨ in my friendships but it has been like this all my life. Like I have friends but I never felt like they truly understood me. Only a select few do and I am grateful for them. I also have an elitist view of myself and I do think I am special than most which is a horrible thing to think but I´m working on it. This is all so dang accurate and is helping me on my journey to finding my true self, which seems never ending. haha. My goal is to stop this victim mentality. i am meditating daily which helps me a ton. Also, I married a French guy and Tokyo, Japan is my favorite city on earth! I am also a freelance nail art content creator and I enjoy working on my own and having my own business! Thanks for all of this, it really helps to understand why I am the way that I am and how I can apply these tips to becoming the best version of my 4 self

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing, and glad it resonated in so many areas!

[@chasingwaterfalls8227]

Wow, loved this video! This is the first description of a sexual four that I actually feel like it connects with me. But I have to say there was one comment here that really cut deep to what I was like in stress “Don’t settle for the people who can’t handle the dark emotions because they’re willing to attach themselves to you.” - ouch! This was exactly how I was before I went through my own self growth.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it resonated with you! Albeit somewhat painfully :/ I think those “deep cuts” are the true beauty or gift of the enneagram. Anywho, thanks for watching and sharing your experience!!

[@millicentmakoala5637]

Yhoooo. Thank you for being brutally honest whilst sharing great insights. Much appreciated

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure, glad you enjoyed 🙌

[@hayyyitstay]

This is amazing! You literally just described my entire personality in one video! Gotta love being a type 4 💙

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad ya enjoyed it!

[@amandaburnham.8817]

I just found out about all this! I'm not sure, it seems like I'm a 4w5. This was very detailed and informative. I'm wanting to delve deeper into all this. I love writing and I always strive to understand them better.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you've found the enneagram! Hope my content helps as you continue to reflect on your type. The enneagram institute is full of helpful resources as well :)

[@EMDEEW]

Hey man this is way too good and helpful an analysis for you to have so few subscribers. Subscribed, and thanks. I hope your channel grows like cabbage, as we say in Dutch.

[@YouveGotaType]

I hope it grows like cabbage as well! Thanks for the kind words & support. It’s definitely hard to grow a KZbin channel organically in 2022, but it’s still such a joy everytime these videos find their way to kind, interested folks such as yourself.

[@sjorden1980]

This has to be the most useful KZbin video I have ever seen! Thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

Damn, I'm glad to hear it was so helpful!

[@Dolph-fe2ks]

I've yet to check your other type vids out, but this right here, is the most concise, engaging, & accurate depiction of this type I've viewed on KZbin (in 11 years of various typology system adventures). I hope you keep at it 💯🫡✅💪🏼😎

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it!

[@ADevilsHollywood]

How dare you attack me in this way, sir 😂 Excellent video, I feel so seen.

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha 😅 Glad you feel seen!

[@TheSoundHog]

I’ve been trying to type myself forever. This is the only enneagram video I’ve gotten mad at and had to pause it. I’m a sx 4. Damn. Thanks for this video.

[@YouveGotaType]

Definitely sounds like the classic enneagram feeling when you hit your type ;) Glad it was a helpful watch!

[@selinaspencil6406]

I quite don't know what type suits me best, but what you described really reminds me of myself. Since childhood, I was told "be special, don't do like everyone else", which can be a prerequisite for becoming a type 4. But now it became a problem, cause I used to be really creative and love making art, but lately it's hard for me to turn on the imagination, because I constantly think "what's the point, there will always be someone better than me." Lately I've become too eager to be successful and popular and and my hobby gradually becoming a burden for me, I'm afraid that I will stop loving what I do because of this. Self-pity is so similar to my behavior, because I compare myself to others and always find out how pity I am... However I don't do anything due to lack of discipline. I agree that it's very important for fours to learn self-discipline and accept their emotions. I practice these things for quite a long time, life has become much easier. You feel more accepted by the world and by yourself when your workplace is neat and you're clean 😂

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

I came here determined to be skeptical, and now I'm so called out I'm genuinely shook. The worst part is, this helps me understand why I have such a sense of foreboding around my plans to withdraw . . . but I still feel like it's something I have to do. Definitely not forever, that's not the end goal I'm aiming for, but . . . I think it's something I have to go through to make it out the other side, and on a level it's a relief to hear someone validate that feeling that this is indeed a dangerous journey I'm undertaking.

[@YouveGotaType]

It's a complex journey indeed. Glad the video was a helpful watch, and best wishes on the continued journey of self-awareness/self-acceptance 🙏

[@YouveGotaType]

Just came upon this quote from my studies and remembered your comment. I hope this helps: "As soon as 4s devote themselves to a search for self by withdrawing from life, they are going in the wrong direction. No matter how necessary this search may seem to them, they must become convinced that the direct search for self is a temptation which eventually leads to despair." - Riso & Hudson, Enneagram Institute.

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

@@YouveGotaType Thank you for this comment -- it really means a lot. And trust me, I believe it. The thing is, for me the "withdrawing" is mostly a bid for control of my life. What I'm really craving is to build a solid, wholesome life that I can invite people into -- kind of like the cacoon of creativity you mentioned, I think -- but I've spent my entire life around people who ignore my boundaries and expect some level of caretaking from me, and that combined with me being really pretty introverted and never having the space to recharge . . . it's like I've spent most of my life too exhausted and burned out to have a life of my own, much less to be able to genuinely engage with people. (Not to mention these mandatory interactions make me feel actively disregarded. They're strangely isolating, in a way.) It's all so backwards, but in a way I feel that if I stay as I am, I'll end up mentally checking out forever, but if I can get away, to a space where I don't have to be defensive about my boundaries or mental energy, I'll be able to connect with people much more freely. It's just this sense that I'm leaping over a bottomless pit to get to safety that's got me nervous. Don't know how much I'm making sense, but I really appreciate you hearing me out. Your videos have certainly given me a lot to think about.

[@jimfarnham8978]

@eyesofthecervino, you might check out the 5w4. That’s what I am and what you said described thoughts I’ve had.

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

@@jimfarnham8978 Perhaps. There is a lot -- way more than I expected -- about fours that very directly called me out, but at the same time I'm not really satisfied with this explanation of the underlying motivations. I just wasn't sure if that meant it's just superficial similarities, or if it meant I'm the most four ever to have foured, haha. I'll check it out.

[@oonaghmolyneux7760]

You are truly gifted in your encyclopaedic knowledge of the enneagram, and ability to teach it and communicate in such an engaging and informative way., 10/10 or A++ 👏👏👏👏👏

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much! You're to kind 🙌

[@sarahs.9678]

Wow. I feel so seen. 😅😌 Thay advice about just doing small things to overcome slumps is so good. Sometimes that feels like the absolutely hardest thing to do. It’s easy to literally just be stuck in a slump and want to stay there or feel unable to move from it but just doing something to help get myself out really does work…when I’m willing to do it. 😅

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it helped ya feel seen & was some relevant advice :)

[@Athomica]

Yo I just learned about Enneagrams and I think Im a 4w5. I just wanted to say that the tips you provided are GREAT! I found these tips for myself and I was soooooo enthusiastic about journaling and doing little things like doing the bed and organizing my desk. I PREACHED ALL OF IT TO MY FRIENDS! They dont understand, which... well whatever, but... anyway your video gave me some peace of mind. It sounds like my life is finally heading in the right direction and I am hopeful for the future.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was such a helpful watch! Best wishes on the continued journey of self-awareness and personal growth!

[@charlenequiram1145]

Great comprehensive overview! As a type 4 wing 5, I of think of Russia as my spirit country for their long-suffering view of life and tragic stories.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it! Interesting thought about Russia... their literature, ballet, and other artistic excellence set against the bleak, snowy backdrop would align with that too.

[@PurpleGold.]

I feel like your video is the most concise and easy to understand explanation as well as deeply insightful. Thank you-just subscribed.

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it 🙌 and thanks for the sub

[@milaki7722]

ENFP so4w3 here. This video helps me remember that even though I do have some unhealthy beliefs centered around image in my head, I am still much more healthy than I think. Oh and also wdym I can't just feel it out 🤨🤨🤨 I am my feelings always obviously 🙄🙄🙄

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was a helpful watch ;)

[@user-ib2bt4ck7y]

I find it a lil strange though, how it is glossed over or not really mentioned how a lot of the issues of thr Type 4 are congruent with childhood trauma victims. Feeling defective/issues with emotion regulation, fears of abandonment yet pushing others away (push pull dynamic) the feeling that something is "missing" inside oneself or feelings of emptiness, being hyperaware or hypervigilant of others' feelings and their own, as well as seeking out their authentic self (likely due to a disconnection from their authentic self in early life). All of these traits are commonly found in people who have experienced some degree of trauma in childhood, usually attachment trauma, or more specifically: childhood emotional neglect or abuse. It would be interesting if that were delved into further. I also know of many enneagram 4's who are neurodivergent, and those who are neurodivergent tend to have many more adverse experiences in early life than that of neurotypicals.

[@YouveGotaType]

Yes, I agree that much of those traits are tied to trauma, but people take that world to mean so many different things that I don't want to skew the message that even 4s with "loving parents" can still feel unseen, or misunderstood. Our innate temperament has as much to do with it as our experienced trauma IMO.

[@GLVESMUSIC]

I had a classic 4 emotion, shame, when I watched this, but also wow. So real. I’m pretty even with my wings, but 3 wing a little more dominating. Thank you for the reminders on how to look after myself. They resonate 💙

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it resonated with you 🙏 thanks for watching & dropping this nice comment.

[@TheSungjiun]

I am so grateful🙌🏽, encouraged to hear that 4s can also offer many things to other people! Thank you🙇🏽‍♀ for all of your great videos again! learning many key things that are super helpful!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was helpful for ya!! Each type definitely has many wonderful traits, so I’m happy to help ya love your 4ness a bit more 🙌

[@EnglishInLifeWithKate]

This description is very insightful and kind to Type 4️⃣ "Be kind to yourself" - is a helpful summary because this type is self-destructive for even minor mistakes they make and loses their self-esteem for even minor social rejection. BTW, for this specific reason, this type is more likely to suffer from autoimmune diseases than others (this is my guess though).

[@IntuSounds]

Loved this-so dang accurate. And helpful. When you went to countries, I was sure you’d say Russia. I feel France has an attraction to the glamorous side of type 4 themes, but it’s not really living there. Whereas Russia strikes me as embodying the experience. I’ve never been to Russia so I could be very wrong about that. Just a feeling, that’s all. Very fun and informative all around. Thank you so much for making this.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it! I've always thought Russia seemed rather 6ish in it's adherence to a strict authority that has put them into centuries of war and communism. The France part is more about being the country most drawn to aesthetics (high fashion & quality art) while also having a kinda of melancholy arrogance to them...but all just symbolic conversation! No science to it :)

[@sophialaird6388]

I came in wondering what a type 4 was. I came out thinking of my brother. He does have depression and anxiety, but a lot of the “don’t let 1 mistake be an excuse for 99” and “be kind to yourself” stuff is what we’ve been saying for years. He apologizes so often, one of his teachers in high school put the “GL [his initials] sorry counter” on the board - and that counter got pretty high (and confused more than a few students).

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you for sharing this Sophia. One of my best friends is a 4 and we tease him for having the longest, most elaborate text apologies. It’s hard because they do enjoy the attention they get from expressing “woe is me” so often. They know if they get their life together, they may receive less attention/support. Those tender hearts are so endearing and it requires such patience to root for their slow journey of personal growth. Best wishes as you continue to love on your brother throughout his journey!

[@nataliemosdell5919]

Thank you for this. I find your takes very nuanced. A lot of the type 4 content I've engaged with seems to indicate that nobody really likes sexual fours, but you've given a well-rounded description of them. I've been going back and fourth a bit between 4w3 and 8w9, but I think I'm probably presenting as a sexual 4, which people often gets mistyped as an 8. I was mistyped as a 7w8 the first time I took the test, but I think it's because I have 7 and 8 in my tritype (478). My sexual instinct was repressed due to religious shaming, but it's really coming out now as I'm growing. Based on my early life, I think I'm a SpSo4, but right now I'm looking, acting, and feeling a lot like a sx 4. It's almost as if I've dealt with my shame to the point where I've become numb to it. I guess I just don't have any fucks left to give.

[@haneenasad]

I feel so called out, I'm shaken. *Especially* during that personal improvement part, like damn. You didn't have to expose me like that 😭

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@katherinegraffeo5363]

Soo accurate with authority figures but I’d only heard this about 6 sexual subtype. So grateful for this video! Very insightful :’)

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you found it insightful! Thanks for watching and leaving the nice comment.

[@sealcove2698]

I have never been described and skewered so perfectly. 4w5 here.

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha hopefully the skewering felt sympathetic at least...

[@maxdeborde6772]

Yea same I thought I was a 4w3 but after watching this I’m 100% a 4w5

[@jeslynlane]

4w5 - thank you i think i needed some of the advice un this segment right now as i left my corporate job to pursue my own business and go back and forth often with mental confidence and struggle.

[@susanbloemhof4391]

Incredible!!! 😢😢😢 Thank you!!!❤❤❤ relieved to know! Actually totally thrown that you know me this well. ENFP type 4 x3. 🥰

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it, Susan!

[@matthefalcon]

Holy Batman! Bruce Wayne total Type 4. Outstanding work. Congratulations!

[@l3ftward]

the way i've found out my enneagram is just watching a bunch of videos and seeing which one makes me feel called out the most and i am feeling VERY called out rn

[@YouveGotaType]

That's def a great way to find your type!

[@joanne153]

26:19 nah man Black Widow isn’t a 4, she’s definitely a 6 (sx). Loki is the most obvious 4 in the MCU.

[@YouveGotaType]

Ok

[@nothandovilakazi8131]

This is brilliant- thank you so much for the insight. Now to fight the feeling of being overwhelmed by another rabbit hole moment of trying to find myself 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha well I’m glad you enjoyed and I think the enneagram is one rabbit hole worth going down! Best of luck on the soul searching. And if it’s of any comfort, my best friend is a 4 and he’s definitely a great example of “finding himself” and practical self-improvement.

[@Faeriefungus]

I do my best to explain myself to my loved ones. I can’t do more than I’m attempting. I’m hoping through my research I can better understand how diluted my experience of this world is. I’m owned by emotion. After learning this yesterday I’m determined to stop feeling so much and start doing more. I don’t want to be held back by the single lens view of beauty of melancholy. I have so much more potienitsl untapped. If I don’t get a handle on my emotions becoming reality then my reality with remain and emotional rollercoaster helping no one not even me

[@TheDwoolensnider]

I just learned about the enneagram about a week ago (yes, I instantly went down the rabbit-hole the moment I learned what it was). I've learned that i am a SOLID type 4 with a 5 wing. It was hard to hear the first time, but once I sat back and was honest with myself I realized just how accurate it was. Reading it and hearing someone say it are different things though, so thank you for that! This video was actually quite inspiring for me. First thing I'm going to do is clean my desk off and get back to work on something I've been "working-on" for 4 months now with nothing of value to show for it.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed the video and that your trip down the rabbit hole lead you to some helpful insight 🙌Thanks for leaving this comment and best wishes on the continued enneagram journey!

[@bryangarwood]

As a long time student of the enneagram (a pretty way of saying I’m old) I love how dynamic it is. From triads to (new to me) tri-types. And I believe you are one gifted speaker and contributor. So very many “coaches” out there and they love to speak a lot while saying very little. I believe the instincts are the most important aspect of the 9 types and I have found bits and pieces of Naranjo’s lecture on the 27 types. If you have a suggestion as to where to find the elusive recordings (happy to pay any fees etc so as not to infringe) I’d be forever grateful. As a sexual 4 who has come a long way from the dramatic self-hating and therefore others-hating extrovert in constant competition with the world, as Naranjo called us, the “mad four”, I can see how I looked like a crazed 8 when we are almost opposites. I also believe Naranjo said we were the most ruthless, angry and competitive of the 27 types which is almost frightening (to others) because it comes from the most horrible pain (trauma the most common I have found). My point is that mistyping is almost always due to subtype and yet 4s are usually the easiest to type…while also the number or type with whose subtypes/instincts appear or present in the most opposing ways from each other. Thank you so much for the suggestion to begin with one seemingly tiny task in order to get to equanimity. As much as I detest the word routine I know being grounded begins with structure. We are a lot. But we truly love as much and as powerfully as we can destroy. God knows I still have a long way to go but looking back to 1991 and now seeing beauty in the everyday….was the beginning. I apologize for rambling.

[@KJ-wx2su]

I'm a 4, but, based on the descriptions provided, I can relate to both the 3 and 5 wings. At heart, I am a very "out there" person. But financial responsibilities (i.e. student loans) have forced me to play the 9 to 5 game, so I have lost a bit of whimsy over the years. Well, it's still there, just hidden beneath layers of adulthood. The one thing that still allows me to access it, though, is music. So I'm very grateful for that.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@hanatarek1987]

Thank you 😊 best 4 description ever ♥️

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much 🙌

[@melissaluciani2914]

This was the best video on the topic I have ever seen Thanks

[@YouveGotaType]

Great to hear, thanks!

[@hafsaveladzic8623]

You explain rlly well and im so happy to finaly understand myself and others better with your chanel. But i have a question😅 As a type 4 we tend to act like type 1 when we are healthy and productive so i was wondering how do 1s get things done. What is their method for being productive? Do they plan for each day, month, every goal or ? Anyone who is type one please share tips for me😅 i am struggling with self discipline.

[@TaraDoris-ib3fz]

Im listening to this over and over. You r spot on. We have to do our way out. Uou know ur stuff. Thanks. I knew i wasnt a 7. Too hyperactive. Im guessing i have a 3 wing

[@rickyinfinite5229]

16:39 I am most likely a ISFP Sexual 4 (SX4) ; I am very darn intense, I love deeply and hate deeply at the same time.

[@Tangerineinthekitchen]

Type 4 here! Very artistic and love cooking. Romantic and creative. Hosting a KZbin cooking channel inspired to discover the beauty of life. Thanks for sharing the type of guide!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing your experience as 4!

[@YouveGotaType]

And your food looks delicious 🤤

[@Tangerineinthekitchen]

@@YouveGotaType Thank you! They are delicious :D I probably eat too much of those haha!

[@taykhamilton]

you did really good with this breakdown

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@chachyesmeralda18]

I enjoy your channel a lot. Lots of insightful comments too. That being said, I don't get the 4-Envy thing. I was content discovering I was a 4 until I learned from this channel and other sources that Fours biggest flaw is ENVY. Could the fact that I am a 4W5 (I have almost zero affinity with Group 3, compared to the other 8 groups) make me an exception? I admit I do compare my life & values to others but I don't "judge" them per se. (OK, I may get to feeling a little superior.) The ideas of Equality and everybody moving at their own speed on different paths to the same goal resonate for me. In fact, I feel bad for folks who don't agree. So what's to envy? Am I being self-delusional? I'm new to enneagrams having focussed on MBTI and mysticism in my search for self-discovery. (Plus, there are so many museums, theaters, books, movies, and TV shows to watch who's got time to squander it on a vice like Envy?) Do I not understand the definition?

[@YouveGotaType]

Sounds like the 6 or 9 may be more up your alley. This is a foundational aspect of 4ness.

[@MageBurger]

EDIT (for title only): LOG 2: Type 4, START[5, HERE] 2nd Enneagram Guide I've watched (first was Type 5). I'm noticing a little how certain deep truths might overlap between them, suggesting there are distinctions that I might be picking up or at least will need to pick up. I thought I'd be an individualist because of my long desire to create my own original cartoon, something that I could put a name to, but that does seem to lean towards type 3 stereotypes a bit, and I'm not 100% sure if I'm a 4w3, so Type 3 Guide is on my schedule at some point. I'm not much of a dark humour person, heck, I tend to shy away from swears and sex jokes a lot and I've been surprised recently that dark humour disturbs me when I'm a little more honest with my emotions, versus my perceived numbness when I try to be intellectual about any patterns I notice (patterns that tend to both specific and shallow, such as recognising dark humour broadly when its there but reacting to it as if I know every niche of dark humour when I don't) Writing this, I want to identify those patterns and have all this stuff figured out to get a perceived power from it that can help organise my world or let me control my thoughts. The broad idea of control in Type 8 entices me to see that Guide next too. I may have exhibited very light type 4 traits such as having a sense of mystery to seem impressive when I was younger, and I have dampened that aspect to integrate and reflect into my developing understanding of society. I can change faces quite a bit, but my images are stabilising and I usually change faces very deliberately to hide my cards so to speak, which ends up not being too often. The rescuer trait is definitely one I had very strongly, and in some ways I still have it but maybe not to the point of being a type 4, as that rescuer trait is itself an obstacle to me, calling upon my knowledge and experience to overcome it so I can get a stronger sense of self by having that independency, but I'm unsure of this point. I am curious what other types exhibit oversharing traits since, from this hyper long comment, I feel I have a bit of that, but I'll watch the Guides first and make my conclusions as I go.

[@fayfee8968]

I really liked your video! I didn't really relate to the 'childhood experience' part, but the rest was spot on for me. Could that be because my parent is also a 4?

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad ya enjoyed it! Can I ask what your relationship with your parents was like growing up? I know that’s a personal question for the ole KZbin comment section, but it will help me better answer your question :)

[@lessonsonlinen]

Thank you very much- I did want to mention just in case someone else has this happen- I actually mistype with a type 1, but am a 4.

[@YouveGotaType]

You're very welcome :)

[@987Beaver]

I am very impressed

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks Vincent.

[@sarahburgess7306]

I recently reread my favorite book as a child, "It Was You, Blue Kangaroo!" and it is such a Four book. If anyone is looking for a simultaneously funny and tender explanation of Fours, I recommend it.

[@YouveGotaType]

I'll have to give it a read!

[@fankaoliviilivki]

That was an amazing pep talk at the end! You should do longer ones for 4's, 9's and other types who have a problem to get s*it done ;) Your words spoke to me, but I also identify with 2's and 9's descriptions. When you talk about this childhood experience, when is this "switch" from one type to another - at age 4 or more like 16? Or at any age when trauma happens? I know you should type yourself healthy, but what if you're eager to help (to the point you're tired of results, but you still do it), get persistent depressive disorder, when you're tired and anxious most of the time, creativity helps you very much, and you're quick-witted (according to other people)?

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it! Hard to say when trauma impacts our personality expression, but I would say it can happen in the first years of life and never truly be understood consciously as an adult as we have no memory of what happened, what stimulus we were around, or even what physical ailments occurred to us. Also hard to type someone via KZbin comments :) I do 1-1 typing sessions if you're interested - just go to youvegotatype.com/contact

[@SaoirseS.]

I feel it should be said that narcissism and a focus on self or self-absorption are 2 very different things. Other than that, loved this! Really clarified a lot for me. 🌹

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you loved the video. But also, if you listen closely, I say narcissistic tendencies (tendencies is a very important and accurate clinical term). One of which tendencies is an over-emphasis on the importance of the individual self. Also, the depression 4s are prone to often stems from a negative self-obsession, which is why my advice at the end is about getting involved in community and/or serving others to get their focus off of themselves.