Enneagram Type 5s Explained - A Complete Guide

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for watching y'all! And please remember to hit that subscribe button if you haven't already 🙌🙏💚

[@Khe11endross]

Brave of you to assume we want to leave comments at all. Sincerely, a five.

[@YouveGotaType]

I definitely assumed some sassy and/or sarcastic comments would come through. So far the 5s haven't disappointed ;)

[@midnightsrequiem3909]

Bold of you to assume we wouldn't subvert this new status quo you believe us known for

[@YouveGotaType]

@@midnightsrequiem3909 Bold choice having the most type 5 KZbin handle I've ever seen ;)

[@midnightsrequiem3909]

@@YouveGotaType I like to think of it as expected of a person with my KZbin status. Which is low XD

[@sladebarbosa4105]

@@YouveGotaType is type 5 also associated with itnj asking for myself of course 😅

[@jerryy4658]

As a 5 I love how you roasted the shit out of me and then proceeded to offer some very constructive advice

[@YouveGotaType]

lol hope it was enjoyable 😬

[@aprilterrellcreates]

😂😂😂😂

[@srutland3959]

“Go toward the light, fives.” Just one of the stellar, on point comments. Thank you.

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@SummerChambers-r5e]

5w4 here. Absolutely delving into enneagram stuff for hours while real work needs to be done..... 🙋🏻‍♀️ you caught me

[@YouveGotaType]

haha well I'm glad you're enjoying the content at least!

[@tangerinefizz11]

I'm a 5w4, and I've always been close to my mom. I think that the reason why I'm so detached is because I frequently dealt with rejection and verbal abuse from my peers (and some adults) when I was a kid. (I had undiagnosed and untreated ADHD and autism, so I always stuck out like a sore thumb.) My detachment is no doubt a means of self-defense, but my mother has always been a source of unconditional love and support.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing your experience Delilah. My brother is a 5 and has a similar experience with my mom. The childhood pattern is mostly defined by not feeling like there’s a role for you in the family. Did that part resonate?

[@tangerinefizz11]

@@YouveGotaType Well, I guess I had some confusion in my early years, because I had a single mom at a time when single parenthood wasn't so common. All of my classmates and most of the child characters I saw on TV had a mom, a dad, and siblings. I was an only child with a mom, but no dad or siblings, so I definitely felt different.

[@kierat7954]

Same here. I never fit in with kids my age and was/am close with my mom. I don’t have ADHD or Autism (that I know of). I did have bad anxiety that caused me to have frequent panic attacks, which is what made me stick out from other kids. I’m also a 5w4!

[@musicalone8123]

we are twins, except i dont think i have adhd or autism. but i have realized that i have similar qualities as people with those conditions do.

[@Stonezster]

I'm also a 5w4 and like he said, I have always kept my distance with my parents, especially my mother. You sound very fortunate to have a great mum...

[@Allthekingshorses2]

I am a self-preservation 5w6. You described me 100%. I am a minimalist. I am very independent. I am socially awkward. I hate small talks. I had 4 older sisters, one with special needs. Yes, i had an unspoken agreement with my parents about not expecting much from them if they don’t expect much from me. People drain me. I prefer staying home on a Friday night reading a book on history than sitting in a noisy bar attempting to converse with people. I am too critical of my work and often delay submitting my projects because i always feel like it’s not researched or polished enough…

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing your unique experience/personality as it aligns with the type 5 patterns!

[@tomrunner3908]

I'm 5

[@tomrunner3908]

I'm 5

[@teliszalamy]

you always sort of apologize that the content of your videos may be too serious or heavy or that you dwell on one topic for too long . it's not extreme though, but maybe you need to hear it once more (alongside with all the positive feedback in the comment section): your videos are super informative, well structured and expansive in the subject, while being compact and perfectly digestible. oh, and about the subject: it is an important one, and those who are interested in enneagram will be patient enough to sit through even longer vids, especially if they are so well put together. so congrats, and keep up the good work ;) (a type 9 here)

[@YouveGotaType]

I really appreciate this support / affirmation :) I definitely anticipate the critiques and try to navigate them ahead of time (type 1 inner judge going 24/7). Also, I do think some types are naturally better at handling the heavy critiques and tough subject matter, so my disclaimers are more for my type 2s, 3s, and 7s that are here for the love, affirmation and/or fun of the enneagram - not the dark dive into stuff like childhood trauma or ego deconstruction ;) I’ll keep tying to soak in the support of these comments and be less apologetic though 🙌 so thanks again for the kind words!

[@TheFreeMannn]

I learned today that I’m a 5. Lost my mother at a young age, never had much of a relationship with my father. I was always the odd one amongst my peers. Detached, isolated & constantly researching different topics, so that I can become competent at everything. Being competent at various things makes feel as if I’m on top of the world. Now I understand that I have to make time for family, friends & most importantly myself. Working to be a healthy 5.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for sharing that personal experience. Best wishes on the continued journey of personal growth & healing.

[@Strength_In_Wisdom]

I've worked hard since a kid to become a healthy 5. I'm not very experienced in much of anything. But have stuck my fingers into a lot of different things enough to communicate about them to a point. Except my empathy, I'm very enduring and considerate to a fault sometimes. I'm working to become more versed in subjects that'll help me succeed. Healthy 5/4 at what cost 😅

[@lovelyinlux82]

This 5 is blown away by your accuracy. Fantastic content!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it! I know you 5s are some critical thinkers - so the compliment means a lot :)

[@AG-se5fj]

I've always been fairly skeptic when it comes to these type of things, but I am absolutely struck with your description of childhood experiences. I have a sibling with a disability, and your description of that unspoken dynamic is spectacularly accurate.

[@YouveGotaType]

I’m so glad it resonated. There are so many personality assessments that are worthy of skepticism - and I too am wary of so many of them. But the enneagram struck me the same way as you over a decade ago, and it continues to stand the test of time & due skepticism. Thanks for watching and sharing your experience! Always affirming to hear perspectives like yours.

[@Philip550c]

I had a sibling with several extreme personality disorders and my parents were busy with him. This video is uncanny

[@twhitten828]

@19:00 I Like intellectual 'push back'!... It's like sparring. If I am wrong, I learn something. If I am 'right', they do. I admire those who defend their point of view, with facts. I detest ppl who are needy, lazy or just go with 'authority's narrative', go along to get along, without challenging or THINKING. I don't mind being wrong. It means I have a Blind spot, to Investigate, within my Self. 🙌

[@YouveGotaType]

Great perspective - thanks for sharing!

[@ashitaonline]

Best explanation, and the easiest to digest video ever! I'm a 5w4-SP, INTP. I consider myself a minimalist. I love staying home. When I was a kid, my older sister suffered from migraine badly, so she was always be the priority between two of us. My mom was so needy and emotional, only to me. I don't like small talk. At work, I was praised a lot for being able to stay calm and get the jobs done in serious situation when most people are so emotional and complaining.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much for the high praise! And for sharing your personal experience as it relates to the type 5 patterns.

[@jrag4633]

Same!

[@sylviaowega3839]

I’m an INTP, 5w4 sexual, and certainly relate to just about everything you said, only that my mom was not overly emotional and didn’t have any idea what to with me as the socially awkward and curious child.

[@coldchillin8382]

I’m a 5w6 ISTP and my older sister was a trouble maker so she got a lot of the attention. Also recently went through the family album and noticed my eldest sister has like 50 photos, my older sister has maybe 30, and I only have 7 and 2 of them are repeats. Only 6 childhood photos is me. I truly feel unwanted

[@laurenweiss2249]

Sx 5 here. Great video! It’s really hard to find information on the sexual 5 other than a sentence or two, and you’re so right, I often feel like a walking contradiction.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much Lauren! So glad it felt accurate.

[@mikhailbotnovik1594]

Same. I honestly hate it. I never would have guessed it if I didn't hear this info beforehand. Honestly thought I was a self preservationist since it makes sense to want to protect myself. I then realised I think about love too much.

[@justsaying993]

Gave you a like for the, “…data rather than going on a date” thing. The confidence of owning that was killer 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

lol I couldn't bring myself to edit it out

[@Maybeyoudorho]

I feel called out, damn. Tbh I felt relieved when I read up on the Type 5 personality trait. Like “oh- I’m a normal person.” I remember before being told that I’m “Cold but well meaning.” While a lot of my behavior leans towards the unhealthy side, it’s nice to know that there is a better way for me to live my life without forcing myself to become someone I’m not. there are realistic goals I can set for myself. I also like how Type 5s are often artistly creative because I’m also like that. I never could quite explain it before until recently. I love art and making art. Art is pretty, yeah. And I love the storytelling aspect of it and the emotions it stirs in people. But I honestly end up thinking less on the emotional side and more on the technical side. With art you are constantly learning and honing your craft. Artists never stop trying to improve their skills even when they’re old and grey. I love learning new artistic skills and analyzing how things work in the real world so I can accurately represent it on paper/ screen. Another thing I realized is that I’d rather be stressed out than bored.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing your specific experience of 5ness. Good stuff!

[@athenarisman]

Great video and excellent, informative explanation, thank you! I’m a 5w4 and am literally a scientist (mathematician) and artist (painter).

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@kalaklah4848]

When you said Doctor Strange it give me chills. As a child Dr Strange was who I thought life brought me here to become

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@Me-xn7kx]

Very good! You gave practical examples that are usually missing from other videos.

[@YouveGotaType]

It's what I love about the enneagram - the practicality of it - so I'm glad you liked that section as well!

[@cherirosabella1553]

Love the back & forth of criticism & advice. Its needed

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it

[@nibbleniks2320]

Well done. I laughed several times thinking how someone who is essentially electricity (virtual you), could describe so many of my behaviors so accurately. Clearly I am generic! As an INFJ with the 5w4, my first "check" for any insight is "if I see it, surely everyone does"--those patterns. Renaud Contini did a fine video on types 5 and 4 and I recognized those traits you describe here. You described it more thoroughly. Thank you.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much the kind words! Ironically, I too am an INFJ so we've got a bit in common. 5s are always a discerning audience, so when I nail something with y'all, it always feels like more of an achievement ;)

[@yeshua-on-wings]

Good content. (That's high praise, btw.) The only thing I disagree with is the idea of using intellect/competence to intimidate people. That may be how some types (esp. those not in the competence triad) experience it, but it has nothing to do with our intention. I think we default to "just the facts" because it's safer, more reliable, and less volatile than a free-for-all emotional contest where "he who yells loudest wins." We're very bad (by default) at asserting ourselves, so we try to avoid situations where the outcome depends on a contest of wills. We neither have the interest nor the tools to advance our ideas on stubbornness alone (like an 8 would), so we ensure that relevant information will be the deciding factor, rather than charisma or badgering forcefulness. To those who don't make decisions based on information, our resulting insistence on sticking to the facts might be seen as intimidating -- but it's still driven by self-protection, and not an intention to affect others in any particular manner. It's similar to the idea of control: we only want independence for ourselves, not control over others.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for watching and sharing your perspective! I'm speaking in general terms, rather than personal terms. I definitely agree that some 5s are how you described it to be when using your intellect/competence, and others do use it as a weapon for self-defense. Like everything in the enneagram, it all depends on the individuals level of health. Also, I'm not so much describing these tendencies as an "intentional" response, but an ego response, which is often subconscious. I certainly agree it's not about controlling others as 5s at their core are typically survivalists, not conquerors. As a Type 1 myself, I totally understand where you're coming from on the "we don't intend to intimidate" perspective. The hard thing is to acknowledge that our well-meaning behaviors do cultivate a space that is more intimidating for others (specifically less intellectual, more simple or emotional folks) to meet us in. It's like how Yoga is so inviting and well intentioned, but if you're an inflexible dude who sits on the couch all day, it's intimidating as hell to go to your first class. That's all I'm saying :)

[@yeshua-on-wings]

@@YouveGotaType Thanks for the reply. I see what you mean about the ego response. In that regard, I still think intimidating might not be the right word, as it's specifically directed toward the experience or perspective of another person, whereas the unconscious motivation (ego response) is something more like establishing impersonal boundaries -- e.g. only engaging in discussions that are rational rather than emotional.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@yeshua-on-wings I hear that. Definitely a good topic for continued discussion!

[@rwvidal]

This is a fantastic overview. You definitely hit home on many spots. Interestingly, I associate with 5W4...though I have always felt humility is an important part of my makeup...now I need to reflect how much of it is humility and how much is being withdrawn (or both). Thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it! And that's a great point to key in on (RE humility vs withdrawal).

[@B10401]

I think I'm 5w4 too. Not sure.

[@sagemaster1357]

I'm a 5w5 sp/sx

[@FaolanHart]

Finally landed on my type after nearly two years of looking into it.....which in hindsight is very telling. 5w4 explains a lot. Now I'm looking more into that. What I love about this system is it isn't shy about getting into the darker & less pleasant or uplifting parts of oneself. Most of these systens just point out how special you are. Rather than providing anything helpful to build from. I'd much rather say I'm a 5w4, than an INFJ. Because oh boy the way people talk about INFJs... Great video by the way. Very helpful.

[@mischiefsguid3055]

I found enneagram 5 as something extremely relatable, I’ve always been detached from my emotions and life. Even though I was pretty much neglected as a child, which makes me think that I’m possibly a 4. I was never close to my parents, they never liked it when I questioned their logic. Thing is, I’d love to interact with people around me, since I pretty much crave for the connection (yet I get avoided or pretty much dismissed. Which I’ve found interesting). I have tendencies on making countless researches, due to how I wish to expand my views and able to help those around me as well. I enjoy making observations, since I personally find people interesting. I do get very argumentative, due to how I’d like to know what others know. I love theories by heart it’s just. I heavily prioritize my own time too

[@natali3luvsu2]

Omg same

[@josiesmith1295]

Your 5 content is definitely the best I've come across to date. Its rare for someone to get me so well unless its another 5 which you do present strongly as. I thought your comment on easy things being difficult was funny, it made me laugh. The simplest things give me the most aggravation. I get so irritated and frustrated. No one around me can wrap their mind around how an apparently intelligent person can't get a simple latch to open or a button on my phone to do what I want it to do.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear the content felt so accurate! And thanks for sharing the specifics about what stood out to you :)

[@katyandchisolmbeckham]

Extremely well done from my perspective as a 5!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks much! So glad it resonated with ya :)

[@jollojakar8995]

Having an unusual memories for details hits home. I never made that connection before.

[@sagemaster1357]

Your analysis on type 5 was really spot on. Especially, for the sp which is what I am. And, I appreciate you giving us tips on how to become healthier like not being too consumed by conspiracy theories because that's something I struggle with as time passes by and I could've done something fulfilling.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it! Always nice to hear it was a helpful watch.

[@englishrose8570]

Wow - I am loving how content-rich your films are and so well structured and paced - thank yooooooo! Really glad I found you.

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear this!

[@BluGiant14]

This might be one of the most important vids I've ever seen. That personal growth section is what I NEEDED to hear. Also...OWLS, baby!!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad that section was helpful! I was tentative about being too "advicey" - but the enneagram is all about personal growth so it felt wrong to not include something like it.

[@Stonezster]

I've been interested and skeptical about this Enneagram until now. You just described my life, my relationships and my childhood experiences to a tea. Very impressive. Now I want to understand what is behind it and how this Enneagram works?

[@YouveGotaType]

Always great to hear that this content is helpful and feels accurate. Appreciate ya watching & commenting 🙏

[@henriettalovegood]

your presentation and knowledge is off the charts! thank you for explaining things in a way that is very easy to comprehend!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much for the kind words! That's exactly how I hope they feel to watch (easy to comprehend) 🙏

[@CarlosCG24]

Outstanding video, Colton! Your insights really hit the nail on the head for me as a Type 5. Thanks for your tips on personal growth and raising self-awareness. I appreciate it a lot. Greetings from Ecuador! 🥳🙌🏻

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much! And I'm very happy to hear my modest channel found it's way to you in Ecuador 🇪🇨

[@MichaelGaribaldi]

Great job! I'm a 5 for sure, and I could see portions of myself on both wings. I'm definitely a creative person (musician, Songwriter, actor) so I suspect I'm a 4 wing. As far as fictional type 5's go, you should consider including Wesley Gibson (the main character from "Wanted") as well, and Reed Richards too!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks! *Googles Wesley Gibson and Reed Richards*

[@andrewnorris5415]

I appreciate this. Reminded me of the key points of my type and well presented. I've not searched for Enneagram vids for a few years and the quality has gone up. I am not 100% sure this is not just read from a popular Enneagram book, how much the speaker knows himself I am not sure. But it is a very useful video all the same. This guy could be a voice for my books any time!

[@santosfelipe13]

Good shit! Some different ideas from other materials I've watched, yet felt sharper and more complete

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks Felipe! That's an awesome compliment to start my week with 🙌

[@treasurechest2951]

What a fantastic video! You are so thorough and personable. This is enough information that I feel like I got several therapy sessions' worth, from work quality insecurity to learning to trust in social relationships. It feels exposing to know that my type feels at home in complex subjects but fears daily survival and basic chores - I don't know what to do about that. You're right on when you say that dance and bodily activities are good for 5s. Somatic sensing is a whole different kind of knowing that is new to us, rather than the usual calculations that flash in our minds.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much! Glad to hear it was a helpful watch :)

[@stephenswaim]

Excellent analysis. More than deserving of a like and sub.

[@YouveGotaType]

Much appreciated Stephen!

[@rcgrant82]

I thought this was very well done. You have a great manner too. Will you be doing concentrated dives into each wing type? I’d love a 5w4 video.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you so much :) Watching the full type 4 video would be the best content I have for ya to learn more on the wing influence, otherwise I don't have any more wings content for the 5w4 coming for a little while. Someday tho!

[@ShadowAndReflection]

You have the best channel on Enneagram. I'm eager for more.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you!

[@aeumurolake9563]

I agree!!

[@hjm9586]

I cbb to read my report fully atm, so this video really helped me understand my result for the time being. Thanks Cole

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was helpful!

[@fduniho]

I liked how you explained the difference between 5w4 and 5w6. When reading descriptions of these types, I can identify aspects of myself in both of them. However, I've normally identified as a 5w4, and the way you explained them helped reinforce that evaluation of myself. As you described the 5w6, I imagined Sheldon from Big Bang Theory, which I've never watched, because I feel like it is trying, but failing, to represent people like me. I once saw a minute or so of its prequel Young Sheldon, and I couldn't stand it. For the 5w4, the name Iconoclast is fitting considering that I used it for a Geocities website I ran in the 90s. One book I'm reading calls it the Philosopher, which is also fitting given that Philosophy is what my degrees are in. But I also find descriptions of the 1w9 fitting me well. So, I'm looking for more tangible ways of understanding the difference between these types. Regarding the shopping list, I use a checklist app on a rooted Nook Simple Touch. Before shopping, I go through the kitchen checking what I have enough of and unchecking what I don't have enough of. In an earlier comment I wrote today, I already identified Dr. Strange as a 5. I suspect he is not alone. I expect more superheroes are in the competency triad, and 5 integrating to 8 is a viable path for heroism. Stan Lee created many intellectual superheroes, including scientists Tony Stark, Reed Richards, and Bruce Banner, doctors Stephen Strange and Don Blake, the lawyer Matt Murdock, and the high school science nerd Peter Parker. Of these, Dr. Strange is the most obvious 5, since he starts out as a greedy surgeon and gains his mastery of magic through extensive study. Richards is probably a 3 given his very public persona as a great scientist, and symbolically at least, the malleability his power gives him fits with being a 3. As a lawyer, Murdock is more likely to be a 1, and he does seem driven in a way that Dr. Strange or Spider-Man do not. I don't have as much familiarity with Stark or Blake from the comic books, but in the MCU, Stark is a 7, and Blake is just absent. I've already suggested that Banner could be a 2, because Hulk seems more like a disintegrated 2 than an integrated 5. However, Stan Lee may have been a 5 who was drawing on his own 8 side to write about Banner and the Hulk.

[@sparklefulpaladin]

Ah, I've also seen Tony Stark described as a 3, but either 3 or 7 would make a lot of sense for him. Stephen Strange gives off 5w4 vibes to me and Shuri (from the Black Panther storyline) seems more like a 5w6 (or maybe a 6w5?).

[@gandfgandf5826]

First video I've watched on this topic. Really good. Thank you.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@racheldistefano5961]

Type 5 here- this was great.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it, Rachel! Thanks for watching and dropping the kind words.

[@karneymac]

Great work and sharing! In my understanding, instincts are fundamental to type...more primitive, as they are instinctual, built-it. Type is more superficial, although, both are bound and integrated, clearly. Also, I would encourage anyone to seek out the Ennegaram Tritypes which are offered via Katherine Fauvre here on YT. Tritypes will bring you home much more specifically, accurately than just types and instincts, wings. Keep up the great work!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for the kind words! I would say tho that the tri types are already embedded in the nature of the enneagram triads. I would say that the true fulfillment of your enneagram type brings you into contact / connection with each of the other 8 types. My last series on the Triadic Self covers this in much more detail and is to me a better way to understand a tri type theory.

[@effulgENTPossibilities]

Enneagram 5 seems the most accurate for me, yet I have more of a social side than I knew was possible for a 5. Therefore it seems plausible that a social 5w4 could explain this. Especially since I'm also very creative in music and dance. ENTP MBTI. I enjoy a combination of the creative, social and intellectual. Your video explained to me this seeming enigma.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you found it helpful! That's definitely a tricky subtype to nail down. Best wishes on the continued journey of self-awareness!

[@vincentbrock2717]

Contact me, please. I want to get to know you. I think I'm the same type, wing, instinct, and MBTI as you!!!

[@vincentbrock2717]

And I have literally studied music my whole life and dance since 6 years. I have realized, that I need to get into the body to survive. Still struggling with the training routine xD

[@YouveGotaType]

@@vincentbrock2717 that’s a fascinating combo - type 5 dancer. Thanks for sharing your experience!

[@Noelciaaa]

Oh hey, I'm also an ENTP with the same conundrum! Yeah I can enjoy being social but on my terms, always having the ability to dip once I feel too drained (sometimes it only takes an hour, lol)

[@enfieldjohn101]

Very good video. I've never thought about there being three subtypes of 5's in this way before. I'd say that most of the time, my default state is avoidance. I usually avoid pain - whether it is physical, emotional, or intellectual - as much as possible. I've never broken a major bone, even working in one of the most dangerous jobs - as a ranch hand, growing up. The worst physical injury I've had was totally dislocating my left pinky in basketball practice. We were doing rebound drills and the ball landed squarely on my pinky in just the right way to pop it over to the left. Oh my did that hurt! Had to go to the hospital to get it reset and splinted. I always taped my pinky to the next finger in sports after that. I didn't want to play basketball at all, but our high school was so tiny that they pressured every kid to go out for sports so that they could field teams. The only thing I was really any good at in basketball was setting defensive screens for other players to hide behind since I was the tallest kid in school and had the longest wingspan. I also got pretty good at freethrows through hours of practice at home. I was too clumsy for anything else. I had tons of stamina too, so I was the long distance runner on our track team. I was super clumsy, but that rarely led to me hurting myself because I quickly figured out how to avoid getting hurt by avoiding doing the things that I was clearly too clumsy to do as much as possible. When I couldn't avoid it, I'd figure out ways to minimize the chance of hurting myself. A good example is driving nails into boards. Very difficult for me to hit a nail with a hammer, so to avoid hitting my fingers, I'd hold the nail with a pair of needle nose pliers instead.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks again for sharing your unique experiences John!

[@angelocarantino4803]

Dude in the same way! Weird how that works :) I always wear gloves, goggles, and ear and head protection working as a mechanic, wear good helmets and suits when racing, etc etc. Saftey first lol :)

[@enfieldjohn101]

@@angelocarantino4803 Very good! I've never regretted having the proper protective gear.

[@M.D.M.X]

It finally dawned on me why deciding between the two types 5w4 / 4w5 never actually felt possible, fair, nor completely honest... Though undeniably being these numbers, it's also undeniable that 5w4 covers half of me and 4w5 covers the other half. Like 2 circles next to each other, but being a 3rd circle in the middle overlapping one half of either circle. Consistently relating to only half of either type. Making it almost always seem like I needed to decide/accept one half of me present in one type by betraying, disregarding or diminish value of the other half of me present in the other type.. And then you mentioned the "space in between"..... 👀 I can't fly with only one wing. My heart/feelings give meaning to my head/thoughts and they give reason in return. This crucial and vital combination in balance goes so deep, that bridging the gap between both head/heart to that intense extent, is because doing that is my actual core self. "It's never easy to see at first, what's always hard to hear at last" Essentially making type 'w54w' feel more full circle, hehe. Having it be two wings instead seems vastly more accurate [on a personal level, of course]. Anyway, Thanks for the sparking this weird personal 'in a nutshell' thought I had that genuinely is giving me some peace of mind about the ?which? of the two types conundrum hehe.

[@anajorge4444]

Thank you so much for this information! This might be the “something” I’ve been searching for. I only just learned about enneagrams an hour ago… I have gone down the rabbit hole… and I love it 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it!

[@say_pal]

You're absolutely AMAZING at this! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@ItsAtakan24]

Hey Colton, it was a hell of a enlightning video! I have a one thing that makes me little confused, just stick with me. I started to question and research about Enneagram for the last two days. It was an suggestion from a friend whom finished her doctorate at Psychology. She made me resembled as an Type 5. And oh boy, I guess you already forsee how enlightening and exciting this was. As I watched several videos (and recently this one and your Type 5 playlist) I can't unsee how relatable to me all of these are. Even the facts that what makes Type 5 feel attracted to Type 8's. And as an person who studies Cinema at university, it quitely suprising and interesting to see some of the well-known persons who considered as an Type 5 by Enneagram Institute are directors! (Hitchcock, Kubrick and Burton) It's even a little bit of weird. So, I'll head to my question then; So, I took the 16 Personalities test (which is an Myers-Briggs results oriented test) 4 different times throughout the years. And the result never changed, it's always resulted as INFP (sometimes -T sometimes -A) So I recently learned from you that is a meaning of INFP is mostly Type 4 primarily and Type 5 secondly. As I watched your videos about Type 4 there is also something that I relate with. So I've got a little confused here, I think I'm feeling a bit more close to Five since I have more things that I can relate to Five; but on the other hand the INFP is still means 4w5. So what would be a better judgement here? To me 5w4 is slightly better to express myself but I'm literally feeling confused. And as I watched a video of yours about Myers-Briggs test, I can't unsee that there's pretty much evidence that I might consider mainly as an Type 4 and secondly Type 5. Since they're more into arts, having dominant right brain and etc. I guess I might be an 5w4 heavily combined with 4. Do you can consider this as an good and enough judgement? Or 4w5 is closer, in that type of situation? (It might seems I only asked this for Colton but eveybody can answer though.)

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you for sharing and asking such a thoughtful question! I always go back to the CORE ISSUE that plagues these type's ego, rather than some of the more general personality traits. 5s, at their core, fear that they are incapable of SURVIVING on their own, so they hoard resources, minimize their needs, and/or become anti-social. 4s on the other, fear that they are too emotionally dysfunctional for anyone to LOVE. So I would ask you to consider whether your central fears/concerns/motivations, center around survival & competency, or love & acceptance? One of those motivations should stand out more than the other, which is not to say you can't have both! We do in fact have all 9 ego fixations to some degree, but it's all about finding which type helps you climb out of that ego fixation the best (even if it's just 51% more 5, and 49% the 4). Hope that helps!

[@ItsAtakan24]

@@YouveGotaType Ohhh, you're right! Yep; that really helped. Much obliged! Then, I guess I count myself as an 5w4. It seems more possible on me. Thanks for reminding and making me remember that Enneagram is not about "what" but it's about "why" and it's not always about positive traits but how those positive traits exists. And they usually exist because of an negative reason. Thanks to you and LocalScriptMan, In past two days (that I've been researching this topic) I doesn't got myself into this topic like it's an pseudo-science or astrology. I'm sure this topic will be useful to me for both personal and creative wise.

[@dianamadrigal2290]

OMG I feel so seen!!! 5w4 here and you have described me to a t! Thank you so much for doing this ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad the video helped!

[@brennenhrebeniuk9661]

Fantastic video well organized to understand type 5 better as I have recently realized myself to be

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it! Thanks much

[@Noelciaaa]

In some other videos by you I've watched you've said that for example, type 2 might look like 4 or type 7 as 5 in childhood, as basically their healthy egos. Is it also true for 5s? I can recall myself being way more bold, always protecting who I thought was a victim, extremely assertive to the point at which there was no point at to force me to do anything that did not make sense to me, as well as unintentionally ending up as a leader of kids in preschool. But later on I've kept failing to fit in, due to low emotional intelligence at the time and refusing to entertain anything that's illogical, being very blunt about things and how I thought everyone else was really stupid. Which got me bullied and that killed my naivete and made me very closed off, deeply distrustful and retreat to the world of my imagination and intellect. It just kept on going until I've hit a point in which I couldn't have a conversation irl properly, in the meantime spiraling into researching very dark things and only rly talking to people online who did the same. It's not like I really want to move away from people but most of them definitely drain me. I tend to routinely overprepare in accumulating theory before acting, or refusing to just listen to good advice that could speed things up, instead of me wasting time kind of reinventing the wheel haha. I've become more healthy as of late and find myself taking more of a proactive role in social interactions. My emotional intelligence also had improved so much due to extensive self-study of psychology and dealing with social anxiety. To the point at which I can read people like books, nothing can hide from me. And can help them help themselves, make them see what they need to improve within to heal what's broken, to break through obstacles, believe in themselves etc. It's quite shocking there's a 5 who's a life coach! My ambition is to be an art director because I actually love bringing the utmost potential out of creative people! It makes me so happy to contribute that way, honestly. I just sometimes feel a bit too emotional for a 5 but maybe it's the 4 wing? I like going outside but not really where there are lots of people. A hike in a forest is something I love a lot, it relaxes me so much but a walk in city centre is just exhausting and unnerving. I'm an ENTP btw, but the more introverted subtype in socionics. Do you think I could be a 5? I feel more distractable than the typical 5 but I seem to lack the courage, enjoyment of unexpected situations I've not prepared myself for, at least mentally, and distaste for anything but positive that 7s do. I'm naturally very caring and empathetic to the point of hyperempathy, which used to be so debilitating sometimes that for a good while I've lost the ability to feel that at all, as self protection mechanism. I really wish to help but am afraid of people coming to actually depend on me and me not being able to consistently deliver the amount of emotional energy needed. I'm more inclined to help by sharing resources and explaining things to them. I only really have the energy for one special person, to be supportive emotionally. Which ig works with me being an sx dom. Maybe being sx/so makes me less of a hoarder of knowledge. I love accumulating it but sharing as well! But only with the ones that will appreciate it.

[@seraphion]

Awesome presentation! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 Of course, as a Five, I can neither confirm nor deny your analysis 😉

[@YouveGotaType]

Lol I appreciate it

[@jollyroger1009]

I was fortunate as a child and had stable supportive parents so we had a good relationship. I began to use the withdrawal he describes later on when I met less trustworthy people (at school and on into adulthood), although with healthy friendships where there was trust I would have a similar comraderie to the one I'd had with my parents.

[@meganwoehl5277]

Self preservation type 5 wing 4 .... absolutely astounded and uncomfortable with how accurately you described me. I feel almost....naked. As an interest, for others with my same traits, what were your best subjects in school? Mine were Math and English. I think this fits so well...most people are usually math and science related or English and arts related. My intellectual ability draws me towards math as it is purely rules and formulas, a world that I would love to live in. And it ties into English a bit as well because there are rules within language. But my wing 4 tends to push me to the creative side, I love being able to use these rules of language to tell a story or create a whole new world. I've always wanted to be a writer, it's a profession that relies solely on yourself...but my ideas seem to stay stuck in my head and never make it down to paper (unless I am tasked with writing for school or work). I love fantasy worlds and 90% of my freetime is spent with books or shows. I have over 5 months of listening time on Audible, am always finding new creators and videos to watch on KZbin, and you'll never find me without at least 1 TV show I am currently watching. I binge stories (regardless of format) like no one else. But I'm also perpetually curious. People often get mad at me for being on my phone while watching something because a question will pop into my head and I have to research it immediately....I will google any and everything. My family even used to make fun of me for how quick I was to research something if someone was unsure of something during group conversations. Anyways, not sure where I'm going with this whole post, I'm just glad to know a little more about myself, and connect the dots so to speak.

[@YouveGotaType]

Happy to hear it resonated with you so much, and thanks for sharing your personal experience/catalyzing some conversation.

[@Atticus_Moore]

Wow this video makes a lot of sense thank you. Once I heard the childhood experience it helped me understand that I can't be any other type other than a 5.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was helpful!

[@ggwilliams7091]

Wonderfully thorough! Thank you so much. I appreciate the tips and examples.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and dropping this kind comment 🙌

[@shayshayman3369]

This video is really helpful to me. Thanks for making it available.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was helpful!

[@idinkain2691]

I just took this test for the first time (it said, I was type five) and thought it was a very curious thing. Here I am doubting it’s legitimacy, and spending about three hours researching exactly what it means to be each number. I think you nailed it lol

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear it 🙌

[@samtmh7240]

I'm a 5w4. As a young child, I was actually outspoken and bold. But I was constantly berated for my outspokenness by my family and other adults in my life. (Probably also a bit of sexism, because I'm a girl. As an adult, I've looked back and seen no good reason for being shut down so hard.) I also always got weird looks from other kids for my niche interests. On top of that, my dad was never around and my mom was a very introverted 9w1, while my sister had major issues that I'm not going to dig into. It seems like 5s start out like 8s, but through feeling neglected/getting shut down, we retreat inward because that is our safe space where no one can criticize us for being ourselves. Edit: I've also just remembered that my extended family would straight up make fun of my sister and I for niche interests that didn't fit with their "southern" dynamic. It got to the point where digging into those interests more and being "different" felt like a rebellious behavior. It definitely shaped how I have a desire to be somewhat abrasive to people.

[@natenallmusic]

Thanks for the video. As a type Five, this was helpful. Lots of resonance points

[@GothicNightmareProductions]

This is spot on. I'm a 5w4 SX ISTP, I'm an artist myself yet I understand about playing devil's advocate a little too much to ideas that are taboo. I've still working on my "eww people" phase and I'm not that young and it's still there. I wanna work with others and play nice yet my logic bulldozer likes to flatten people to just be done with something and move on at the dismay of cooperation. The light is a good thing to keep in mind for me. My angel and devil fight a lot, like a lot a lot. 😅 Excellent video here! You seldom get info on SX 5s.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it 🙌 and thanks for sharing your personal perspective on 5ness.

[@VortexThePrime]

Color me confused... I tested as a 4w5 initially years ago and related to the base type 4 description (fears/motivations and such) in your type 4 video but I relate far more to the description you give of a 5w4 than the 4w5. 🤔 The 4w5 description was what I'd call sufficient, but it didn't resonate quite as much as what you described with the 5w4, and being able to see how people are thinking and what they are thinking. The need to be alone and spend time pursuing video games and research.

[@YouveGotaType]

It’s certainly always a bit confusing when you’re on the fence between two types that boarder each other. But the core desire of 5s (need to feel secure) as way different than the 4s core desire (need to feel special) so I usually advocate for looking at those core desires vs personality traits because those overlap with many other types. Hope that’s helpful!

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

So far I've related most to type 4w5, but here I'm sorry to say I really relate to that feeling of resenting social interactions -- or at least, social interactions I feel forced or coerced into. I'm not sure if that's a personality trait per se, though, or just a learned response, since I seem to attract people who are looking for some sort of caretaker and become angry if I reject them or try to establish boundaries. I just end up feeling so used, like they can only see me as something they can harness to serve themselves, as something they're owed that's being taken from them, and not as my own person with my own dreams and motivations who yearns for a life of my own.

[@YuliAnna372]

great explanation and the tips ! I will searching the light from now on 🧟‍♀️🧚‍♀️ Thank you & hope the best for ur channel ! - Type 5 wing 6 and 9 too , ISTJ , Female here btw I'm from Indonesia (just leave my footprints here☺)

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks Yuli! So glad you found the content helpful 🙌

[@jenilynneful]

I test as a five but I had none of that as a child. I was close to both my parents and my dad and I were best friends as adults. I was the youngest and my bros were older so I was doted on and cherished as a child, my parents were hands on and involved in my interests and activities, I wasn’t crowded out of left out. I’m not sure where I fit.

[@GracieNadine]

This video is absolute gold. Well done! Subscribing.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you 🙌

[@Cestlaviemonamizero]

"Go toward the light 5's" I feel called out 🤣🤣🤣

[@YouveGotaType]

😬 🔦 🏃‍♂

[@keithparker1346]

We would think it's a train headed towards us

[@shebvixen]

But... the dark side has cookies.

[@Lamp488]

😂

[@danialsyahmi6338]

I wonder why you have so little subs. You make good and easy to understand stuff. You deserve better

[@HyewonYoum]

5w4 here and you were so right when you said I use logic in arguments and feel superior

[@YouveGotaType]

✅

[@StAu8390]

Oh, thank you! I am currently working from home and while listening to what’s happening at work, I am also listening to podcasts or a documentary and my hands are busy taking notes and drawing at the same time. Plus I’ve been drinking more tea than is healthy. And I haven’t been out of our house for weeks, good thing my sister sometimes remembers to take me to buy some groceries. It’s noisy out there.

[@YouveGotaType]

Sounds like it's noisy IN there as well, the head that is ;)

[@Ginger-hi2to]

I'm a sx/so 5 (or so/sx, I don't really know) and I was confused why am I so driven to relationships, if I'm so independent and OK with myself. But when I learned typology I understood that intimacy is just an another way for me to get out of my head and feel alive. This should be weird from a side that I choose loud and tactile people to hung out with, but they just sober up me when I need it. Thank you 8s, 7s and 2s🙏

[@karlakuriger2097]

Incredibly informative and helpful. Totally a 5

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it!

[@HouseHoldAdventures]

Probabaly the most accurate explanation of who I am ive ever heard lol

[@YouveGotaType]

haha glad to hear it 🙌

[@ethanjolly9732]

im a 5 i j discovered this recently by taking the test and doing an immense amount of research and oh my it is scary how much this sounds like me, everything is adding up and itss blowing my mindd

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you’ve found the enneagram and that it feels (scarily) accurate! It’s definitely a lifelong tool for personal growth.

[@onion-headed]

I had a yelling grandfather who lived with us and a disabled grandmother living apart from us when I was a kid. My parents were good people, though, and they were the ones who were always telling me to get up to my room for my own psychological safety when the grandpa was not in the mood. Since then, I became kinda afraid of conflicts and detached from people, but I find myself excited when I hear my parents argue about business stuff. It's interesting to observe each point of view and that way to find the thing that caused the misunderstanding. It may feel like I'm the only one understanding the issue while those two are arguing (But it can be not the case, lol). Though, I think my type is 1w9 with a strong influence of the fix 5. I'm really confused. I can relate to both equally - like straight 50/50, at times favoring one of the sides with a miserable difference.

[@YouveGotaType]

This is an upcoming snippet of my next video on mistypes which pretty much nails this experience: "9s with a dominant a 1 wing tend to be more imaginative, emotionally reserved, and move towards fields like philosophy, spirituality, or psychology. They like roles where they can play the counselor because they naturally empathize with many points of view while still maintaining a critical opinion about the what people should be doing. That 1 wing also creates more of a tendency for resentment as well as an emphasis on proper or polite behavior. Lastly, the 9 wing 1s calm, almost stoic exterior, mixed with their tendency to live in their head, makes them mistype as 5s all the time - especially men."

[@qtdoggy2787]

Im a dominant sexual type 5, and you described me perfectly in that one bit, wow!

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@hq1082]

I had once told my mother: "Don't ask me for anything and I won't ask you for anything, I will do my own thing and make my own choices and you fulfill your obligations as parent as you see fit."

[@YouveGotaType]

That ole type 5 pattern!

[@pinklove7371]

Is it possible to be split in the middle between 5 & 4? I have mostly both 4 & 5 with a bit of other types of course, but I'm unsure if I'm a 4 wing 5. Or 5 wing 4. I also have some characteristics of 1,2,9... (Perfectionist, peacemaker.) Perhaps you could help.

[@YouveGotaType]

Well we all certainly have a bit of every type within us! That's why I always say the Circle is the most important part of the enneagram (because it links us all together, rather than makes us feel different/unique). That said, we only have one primary type, because it's all about having a core motivation and a core fear/fixation. I would wash away all the traits you may share with other types, and think about what is driving the course of your life/identity. The fact that it's hard for you to identify one type is the most telling aspect of it all :) As 6s and 9s have the hardest time with this aspect of their journey towards self-awareness. If you're identifying with a strong personality in your life (like someone intelligent who is a 5 or someone strict and moral who is a 1 or 2) that is a great place to start. 6s identify with authority figures and 9s identify with everyone around them. That's pretty much all I can say without knowing you personally! Hope it helps :)

[@xayah6391]

i feel like most if not all of the things described when talking about a five describe me to a T but i’m not so sure on my wing, it was a little bit here and there for both that resonated with me

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was accurate for ya! The wings are tough because we all share traits with both wings, but typically one has a predominant influence. May just take some time and studying to figure out.

[@AlCo-f6g]

Thank you so much for your time & efforts & care in making these videos. Holy 🐄. I have always tested as a 5 but it has never fully resonated. You've led me to dig in more about 9s (through your channel of course) and whoop there it is! 😆 Also your videos associating the Meyers Briggs types were super helpful in understanding that turbulence. 😌🙏✨

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure! Thanks so much for leaving this kind comment, and I'm so glad the videos have been helpful 🙌

[@Lineer2]

Very interesting video. I did a free test and got Number 5. I am a logical person and also have artistic skills so this is valid. But one thing is out of the ordinary. Number five do not like sports but I on the other hand like sports, always do something about that. Rn only working out at the gym but like 3-4 times a week.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it. I think there are many professional athletes that are 5's actually, like Kobe Bryant and Aaron Rodgers for example. The general pattern though is that 5s get lost in their mind, which inhibits physical activity or just prevents them from cultivating their athletic abilities. However, because 5s are so detached from physical discomfort, they can put their bodies through grueling training sessions because for them, they're only experience it as a mental test of fortitude.

[@1113AdidasG]

I’d say you’re pretty spot on

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks AJ 🙌

[@DavidKoehler-r5u]

This was excellent - thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you!

[@saschaezteban4099]

keep up the good work. this is very very well done

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@myrtila]

5w4 sx here. It describes me to a T. I consider myself to be pretty unhealthy, especially right now, but surprisingly I already do some of the practical tips you described. I even started dancing recently, which you mentioned, and it’s hilarious. It does help indeed. The time I spend dancing is the only time in the day that my mind is empty, in a good way. I’d say that my biggest problem right now is procrastination. As I’m watching this video, I’m procrastinating. I feel the need to isolate for some time in order to get myself together tbh. Isolation isn’t always bad. It’s even good when you limit your social interactions to a very few people with whom you have a close relationship. And you spend your alone time productively, doing things that will benefit your mind. That’s what I wanna do. Interact only with 2-3 people and spend a whole lot of time alone. What drains me the most is the small talk and pretending I have to play with acquaintances. I’ve been trying to getter better at it because I feared that some day I may end up lonely with no friends. But I’m figuring that shallow relationships make you feel as lonely as solitude does when not spent productivily

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you for sharing, I hope you keep dancing, and best wishes with the continued journey of personal growth! It's always a very slow process to make significant progress, so don't be discouraged.

[@The-Best-Version-Of-You]

I’m a five and I feel like you’re talking directly to me. When I was 8 years old I came to the realization that everything is fake, almost like a computer simulation (this was 22 years ago). I am now a data analyst and I have dark struggles with sex. Since I started doing mental health improvements I have been able to achieve amazing accomplishments. My parents are the most amazing people in the world. They are very healthy (mentally speaking) and I have an amazing relationship with them. I do believe it’s completely their credit and I would probably wouldn’t have a great relationship if not for them.

[@carlospomares3225]

14:54 well...that warning came a little too late , lol

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha better late than never I guess

[@jjDollarhide]

I am really curious about your comment on type 3 that indicated that a type 3w4 could look like a 5 and visa versa? Could you elaborate more on that? While I clearly have 5 tendencies, I am increasingly called to the chameleon of the 3w4; and then I thought by the mere fact that I want to know more I am probably a 5, and yet I can’t explain why 3 really calls to me. Thanks, your work is amazing!!

[@YouveGotaType]

This one can be a tricky mistype for sure. It use stems from the 3 being raised by intellectuals that value mental achievements over physical ones. The 4 wing makes 3s more internal, introspective, or even withdrawn in some ways while still being able to "turn it on." I could go into more detail but I'm in the process of making a "mistype" series, so more on that in the future! Really glad to hear you're enjoying the content!

[@lecoledesanimauxbyilanadem8404]

Thank you, this is exactly me 😊 I understand better many things !

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you found it helpful and accurate!

[@MattGleason1]

5W4 - has anyone (like me) found a “community” as suggested at around 12 minutes in? Might be willing to give that a go. I do (have to) socialize on occasion but I’d never discuss much beyond weather and work while eyeballing the clock.

[@sad_hedgehog]

okay, i gotta comment this. i dunno how it clicked like that, but. i am currently trying to flesh out my character and using enneagram for the first time to test things out and learn in the proccess. and i had a certain vibe going on for my character, but i was trying to find the type for the past, like, day. and right now, when u talked about childhood, EVERYTHING FIT NOW!! she is 100% 5th type. gonna figure out her wing, but it will prolly be 5w6. i gotta wonder: do we just have certain archetypes of other people tucked in out brains? is this why things can just wonderfully click like this? ofc things are not 100% perfect, but it is just enough to make me wonder about wider implications about out brains and behaviour patterns and especially evolutionary behavoir patterns intertvined with survival mechanisms we use. thank you so much for your hard work!!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed the type 5 vid, and it'll be interesting to see what kind of finished characters you create!

[@Lauren_Fields]

Yes, I love the iconoclast name, too.

[@greyscapeentertainment4816]

Well. I just got on this enneagram train recently. I've been going one by one, listening to videos and reading up on the archetypes. On one through four, I saw a little bit of myself in each of them, and couldn't decide which one I was. Then I got to this video and fell out right attacked. 😂😂😂 I guess I've found my enneagram type. 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha yup that'd be the classic enneagram feeling!

[@Pochipacth]

Writing a 5 charcter and this was really helpful!

[@rowanjoy419]

HI there, my dad get along more with his dad than his mom, he said that since early childhood he feel left, his parents pay attention more to his older and younger bothers, and he also said that he was very obedient. So what type you think he might be? cuz I cannot make him do any test, he gets soooo bored and annoyed by it.

[@Anonymous-zw9ud]

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