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I’ve had trauma on going for most of my life with some really big traumas like being hit by a car at 9 and left for dead I suffer from flashbacks daily even though I have no memory of the accident I’ve just discovered DENos and I’m so identity as I feel lost to this day I’ve been single 12 years after an emotional abuse relationship the thought of being in a relationship horrifies me as I’ve been a witness my whole life to violence within relationships…. I’ve spent years trying to figure myself out but not really knowing where to look what I find really interesting is that even though my brain has blocked out my hit and run every night as I fall asleep I have flashbacks but never the same always a different experience of hitting a child in the car it’s not nice at all it’s very annoying getting these jump scares daily but it’s intriguing how the brain does this to me , I am a driver now and always hyper vigilant but this description of DENos is a new term for me and definitely something I can identify with thanks 👍

when i was 19 my mom complained to me & vented abt how she couldn’t pay her car insurance & my little sisters dad wouldn’t give her money either , & i was dumb & naive at the time . i just wanted to help my mom out. i lent her the money , i paid her car insurance & i think registry or something but in total it was $440 & i told her she could pay me back in small amounts, it didn’t have to be paid back right away. we then got in a argument once & she threw it in my face that i asked her for money back for paying for her car to be put back on the road. i was like whaaaat. even at 19 im like this isn’t right. i’m 27 now & i still live with her , she’s not as bad but she still has her ways & i get so confused bc she always makes me think she’s changed or she’s *TRYING* to change but then i hear her talk to my little sister so rudely or get mad over little things or only talk about herself & what’s going on in her life . i refuse to believe this is normal , that’s why i try to educate myself thru youtube videos , but it’s so hard to try & be myself & grow into a happy person when i feel like i have to tip toe around her mood swings

My freeze mode made people criticize me. Abandon and neglect me. How can you tell a sick person to catch up? Ketchup

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My child just turned 50 years old. She is a psychopath. My daughter had social issues since she was about 4 years old when I first noticed she was extraordinarily aggressive towards other people. She always had to have her way and bullied other kids to get it. I thought it was normal for children. In first grade I was notified that they were transferring her to another class because she was causing a disruption. She managed to isolate one child and pressured other children to isolate her. She is doing that to me now. She contacted all my friends and relatives to tell them lies about me so that no one would want to have anything to do with me. I decided that if it was so easy for those people to treat me that way, I didn't need them in my life. Only a couple still remained friends with me. My daughter has treated most of her children the same way, except for two, who she favors. She has ten children from seven relationships. My other grandchildren don't deserve this. I let them know they are valuable every chance I get. But they need to hear that from their mother. Every time I asked for professional help with my daughter as she was growing up, professionals would tell me she was too young to diagnose. She would grow out of it. But, she never did. She only got worse. She has had problems with the law and she has a criminal record. Once she grew up, there was nothing I could do to control her. Why wouldn't anyone help?

So scary to see many psychopathic traits in my stepson. He shows no remorse or guilt for the horrible things he continues to do. Its so isolating being a parent to one because its hard to find anyone that can relate. The judgement is swift and harsh whenever he offends

In America, there is a cult that makes a sport out of dissociating people through committing white collar crimes against them. They want to turn that person into a car they can psychic drive. Anyone with a business needs to know you are target for this, and it breaks people, so don’t let anyone convince you the cult is trying to save people from themselves. They are murderers!

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Is psychopathy or sociopathy a spectrum condition? My step-son appears to have many of the traits, though he has never been given to violence, deliberately harmed animals (as far as we know) and doesn't appear to have sadistic tendencies. But he certainly seems to lack conscience, and he rarely seems to demonstrate remorse, shame and guilt. He is a risk taker, is extremely selfish and self serving, readily lies to close family, and he generally seeks to live a very reckless and hedonistic life.

I NEES HELP! CAN YOU PLEASE EMAIL ME YOUR CONTACT IN MY COMMENT. IM AN ADULT AND MY FATHER CONTROLS MY EVERY MOMENT. HE HAS ME FOLLOWED WHEN I LEACE MY HOUSE AND HAS SPREAD FALSE LIES ABOIT ME TO MY COMMUNITY!!!! I NEED HELP SIR HE OWNS ME.

I was diagnosed with a PE in September of 2020 I was hospitalized for a week my mom came to see me once for 20 mins. Two years later her friend go sick, she took her to the doctor n stayed at her house for 5 days to take care of her. My mother has always neglected me since I was a child. I have had 2 breakdowns of reactive abuse and after that I just accepted that she will never be a mother to me unless it suits her to be. She will always abuse me emotionally and mentally treat me like a burden should I ever need her for anything. Now she needs me and I am just grey rock all the time. She recently asked me whats wrong I didn’t even look at her and said nothing and left for the day.

I may not have been on the front lines.. but I still experienced some crazy shit. The only two people that understand that.. my shrink and my nephew, who was in Afghanistan.

He speaks the absolute Truth. And trying to explain this to someone that hasn't gone through what I have gone through, and all they can say... "everyone goes through it.. and you will too" NO.. everyone doesn't

Label and destroy. Don't consider any problems you may have caused them.

My father is exactly like this

Thank you for this

My ex husband

pray to me i want seriouly job and leaving this house :(

That is true. I was retraumatised yesterday. I did deal with ok using toolkit. Im sheltering in place till i feel safer. Friends are going to shop for me as i wont leave. I have a few in network that look out for me. I will in the future. Id a supportive ex also.

How to nock down to sleep without trying to fall asleep. Just skipping the falling part

THIS is exactly how a very good therapist should be with children of narcissists regardless of their age.I realize this video is old but we still need more folks like this fellow.For more resources 👀 at other channels on here like Jerry Wise, Surviving Narcissism, & Dr.Ramani.

My mom always hurts me deeply. Then she cries like i hurt her. I thought to kill myself many times. I cant able to handle this emotional torture. But i am adjusting everything for god jesus.

I have a narcesstic mother😢

It's easy for someone else to say but my husbands boss blackmailed into sex, I was 28 and his boss was in 60s and obese. It was my husbands fault he did something very illegal and I ended up paying the price to save his skin. Being blackmailed was the same as having a knife at you're throat, in fact even worse since he demanded that I dress in certain way and perform in certain ways and had to appear willingly. The other thing that still niggles away, five years later and two years after his death, is the orgasms, they were intense. I'm sick of the statement size doesn't matter, because I found out otherwise. What makes it worse is that my gorgeous attentive husband has only ever managed to bring me to orgasm through hundreds of finger hours but this fat repulsive old man over a weekend made me orgasm many times. I feel robbed, he manged to make feel the way I always wanted through penetration, he was much larger than any of the other three men I have experienced, that includes my husband. People don't appreciate that if the rapist is well enough endowed and isn't in a hurry but enjoys the fact that all his thrusting will eventually have you thrusting with him, that's really the difficult bit, you have somehow become a willing participant. It's not just lying there and you feel an orgasm happen, at some point your body gives in and you want the orgasm. The next day and the ones that follow your haunted by how you have behaved, you cannot escape the guilt, because even once you think you have put all this behind you, you haven't. What you find is that when you're having sex with your husband or masturbating you keep returning to the memory of this horrible event to achieve an orgasm and worse it's now so easy. You're changed for ever and you can never go back to being the person you were before it happened, your husband might think he's having intimate loving sex with you but you know different and cannot even tell him what's in your head now, he'd be disgusted, you cannot even tell friends.

11 yrs ago damn and some of us are learning of this recently

Excellent

I believe we're still supposed to financially help our parents even if they're a narcissist to the best of our abilities , because they're still our parents.

A doctor who doesn't blame the parents and trauma. He has observed the indicators pointing to the wiring, the genetics, the learning. Shows that the "building blocks" are most responsible.

Still dealing with a narcissistic mother. It is beyond draining because now she has the beginnings of dementia. 😭 Her paranoia is at an all time high. Still trying to find my way through this....

I can so relate to this

Thank you! I suffer with ptsd but just wanted to say your voice is very relaxing and helps me feel safe<3

I had a stent put in my heart, Thre act of dozing off causes me to wake up in a panic and have to huff and puff. Really need some sleep

Wow!

Thank you 🙏🏻

My husband was so nasty. He went behind my back and went to a lot of effort to meet a certain person, a person, the chief abuser and he colluded with my family. He then went and learned a load of tricks that he would use in the most covert ways possible He got information from the horses that could only have been riveting- “ their perspective’” he used this to hone his tactics and look lime the nicest, shy guy you could know. Tall, lean, good looking easy smile, said little, played football, enjoyed a few beers with the guys. Good to his mom, granny, nieces and nephews. And shy… The meeting, which he mentioned in a casual way… happened 2 weeks before our wedding, it was in a town miles from where we lived, but he had a business call there. “I saw your mother today” Why? To see could I change her mind about coming to the wedding ( she refused her invite- only sent to give her the opportunity to refuse- then she was officially invited, mine was the only wedding she refused attend). Short story she was a sadist- over 6 years together he heard so much from me, I hid nothing. I could go on.

Pakistani narcIssistic parents are on another level .

I don’t trust that men exist that aren’t jealous of women’s success, aren’t abusive, or cannot accept rejection.

Husband died 11 years. That son a bitch. PTSD Bereavement sucks.

What if nothing can be done about the things on the list cause everyone is groomed for human and drug trafficking? Does a doctor have to be bought for them to be willing to provide actual medical treatment, instead of just framing me and leaving me spitting blood? How do i do this?

And what's the second step?

And yet psychological, "diagnostic" labels are so destructive, such a fallicy, so damaging to people. They are lies from the pit of hell and so is the field of psychology made to destroy human souls. The problem lies elsewhere. And that is as far as I will go. I've seen normal people become so called experts of "diagnosing" people and think they are so intelligent and destructive to the people that came for help. They are like vipers in human garb.

How can there be a "recovery period" when nobody cares to stop the abuse?

I like to ask this question because I’m honestly curious and I like the answers I get. No judgment here. Why does it seem like just about every or at least a bunch of psychopaths and sociopaths have the blank eyes? I don’t get it.

Lot of guys I know have both cptsd and ptsd. Growing up in a shithole to blowing up a shithole. At least I learned it’s all one big garbage heap. Didn’t help tho.

I was bullied and screamed at by a coworker and when I got upset and had a panic attack I was offered a Figgit bit, then told to go home when I just needed a few minutes. Workplace don’t understand about ptsd

Im obsessed alright. I cannot let go of what happened to me. When i say the word, DEVASTATED,,... that's what happened to me. The insomnia caused my stress, anxiety 24/7. The Depression. Anhedonia..... is !!!. He sounds like it can be Easley cured, and hey,... just take medications..... ☠️⛓️😫... !!

7 months ago,.. I foolishly made a mistake and retired from my best job of 25 years. My job was everything to me.! I stressed so badly to return. The anxiety of the reality of my lifestyle, dreams, and goals were over. I got chronic insomnia and severe depression. The grief I have is horrible. I can't get my life back, and it was my fault. I have no mental energy to do anything anymore, I don't go outside. I have lost the desire to do anything. I just sit almost 24/7... ruminating on coulda shouda wouldas. My mental and physical health are declining.... but im like mentally paralyzed. Unable to stop this. I've called 988. Words are not helping.... im unable to reframe what they suggest. It's my life that was altered. I was so happy, healthy, and always laid back, worry free. Now I'm a wreck. Unable to sleep, stressed with depression. 911

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Ptsd sucks. It never goes away. Theres no end to the nightmare. Theres no help and I wish people would stop trying to convince me to keep going to make everyone else happy.