On Tina’s podcast we cannot comment. So taking the opportunity to express my admiration, respect, gratefulness to Tina. She is so so right if u ask me. The very best of all n i have listened to many! Tina has helped me to correctly understand, to deal with it, to get over it. Thank you so so much Tina. I hope millions will get to know your work n benefit from it.

My daughter banned me from her life...i became depressed.. She changed big time, she is now a elitists 😢

I blame iton the therapists...telling them to leave their mom behind..your wellness is more important. 😊

40:07 Love your presentation on this powerful topic. Thank you! ❤ And your logo is fabulous!

She’s a mild vocal fry. I really hope she addresses that if it’s a chronic thing for her. It’s really bad for her vocal fold

Because it was a betterschool and a better place to live. Any time I had a date in the 22 years I had full custody, their Dad sued me in court with extremely strange accusations. He lost every case. I had to tae days off work to travel to the court, and I protected my children from what was happening. I was emotional and shaken by these legal atacks, and he told my chikdren that meant I was crazy. Now my childre are in their 50ies and I am the targeted, alienated mother. I have been in constant growth and improvement since 1974. Their Dad says, he has never done anything wrong God, brung healing heathy connection with each of my 3 children My oldest daughter has been condecendung and has rediculed blamed and shamed me, like their step mother. The otherc2 children now midlife adults try to stay neutral. Receive my chats, but do not respond. God help us heal these broken relationships between me and my adult children

I never tried to alienate our children from their Dad, before or after the divorce. Their Dad on the other hand. Sued me over Nd over trying accuse me of beingufit 9ther. He lost every time. I even encouraged the children tol8ve wittheir Dad for high school

Narcissism in a son or daughter law combined with some neglect you did with own child. Even if become a better person and great to your grandkids and say your sorry for not doung better...the in law can agitate matters especially when they are dysfunctional themselves.

I don't find anything about being lost and depressed HSP or not as something to laugh about... Suicide is so Funny! Very sad that so called Professionals are this cold and ignorant

The reason i dont feel like i was given reasons is because the reasons given were broad and personality attacking, with some isolated instances for examples. And leaving me no ability to even address their reasons because they dont really clear reasons.

Women only ???? I’ve been an HSP for all my life, I’m a +60 gentleman

Thank you. This is encouraging

So many of us wish we had distanced ourselves from a controlling parent. I'm glad to see so many adult children protecting themselves. I'm sorry for the parents who have mentally ill, narcissistic children who have lost them through no fault of their own as well. That does not discount that the movement of people to protect themselves and their one precious life, not allowing an overbearing rejecting parent to live through them, is a step forwardfor humanity. The parent may not have the mental ability to have the insight that they are destroying their own child no matter how many attempts the child makes to ask for the abuse to stop. That does not mean the child has no right to save themselves. Most often these parents are not open to any conversation where it is even inferred they are anything but perfect and 100% correct at all times in all ways. This is a brain disorder and it's tragic. The child sacrificing themselves will neither make the relationship between them better nor save their parent.

I started therapy at age 29 I am now 79 years of age. Ive had many breakthroughs and spiritual awakening I've used every approach to mind body, mental and emotional and relationship health, including medication. Individuating. Grief and 12 step programs. Vitamins, diet sleep hygiene reading learning, dream work and faith family, volunteer work, giving gifts to homeless because my children don't want gifts from me Yes at least one of my 3 adult children seems to be very self centered and self medicate with wine and beer Ive gone on with my life after 3 years of profound grief and dispair. Im alright now with a satisfying meaingful life. I never dreamed I would not have my adult children in my life. .

43:12 thanks for this i sjared it with my mom she and i were estranged

My friend has a daughter who be a Aw estranged after my friends ex husband died from cancer. The daughter blamed her mom. Plus, the girl is now married to a felon drug dealer. This is really good info for my friend who keeps trying ceaselessly to contact her daughter.

I am so thankful for the therapists who were able to identify hsp's. It took me 67 years of constant questioning before my questions were answered.

Lourdes sound is soothing.

Thank you a trillion for sharing, this is very helpful 🙏

Excellent!

I’ve found Pete Walkers book to be very insightful. His explanation of the four F’s-fight, flight, freeze, fawn as well as emotional flashbacks to be helpful in my recovery. Helped me understand myself and engage that inner critic

Too much talk useless no concrete info 👎👎👎👎

My parents also claim it makes "no sense" (my hurt) but they ignored my texts, ignored my whatsapps, wouldn't read my letter. They looked around to see if the neighbours were looking when i tried to give them a letter which showed me that they care what the neighbours THINK but not how their daughter FEELS

All it would take to fix the relationship with my mother would be one real conversation, but she will not have it. When I tried to give a bit of feedback about something hurtful, she was super defensive, threw herself up on the cross like she was the victim of me!! My dad came over to reprimand me for "hurting mum". The bit where they listened to me was just skipped entirely. It"s exactly like you said, they set the terms and conditions of our relationship. There can be no shift to a more reciprocal type of communication. This family revolves around my mother's ego. Her view of herself is that she is LOVELY, so that's that. Calling me sensitive disguises her lack of empathy. Calling me aggressive disguises her complete refusal to engage in a conversation. The terms and conditions of this relationship are *hers* to set. Not mine. I have given up now because the pain is just so awful.

Who here is Rh-?

Thank you I am struggling with estrangement from my son. He was a very difficult angry child, we adopted him at 6 weeks old. He grew into a very angry young man. My ex husband was not able to control his anger there were physical altercations between my son and husband. We divorced. My son blames me for the divorce and cannot accept I have someone else in my life. He screamed and yelled at me on several occasions and threatened physical violence. I had to ask him to leave my home. I was his person I put the pieces together with him , got him a good therapist offered to go with him as did my ex husband. It has been a year of no contact could not go to his graduation from college and he is best buddies with his father. Go figure

I really could use some help. I feel like I’m needing to seek some therapy because I can’t seem to move forward. I think I need professional help could use any recommendations thank you for your podcast.

I currently have three adult girls. It’s such a long story, but we don’t speak and haven’t spoken in 10 months to a year my grandbabies included. I have a wonderful relationship with each one of my grandbabies, but my oldest children are very disrespectful, and I had to move myself from the situation and my 14-year-old son, I just don’t know how to continue. I feel like I lost my entire family including my mother, whom still is alive, but I don’t speak to because of the toxicity.

I realized I hadn't finished listening to this podcast before answering your questions in your survey [from one year ago] about what info I want, as you are addressing some of it, right here, thanks [in terms of all of the overlap]. You are bringing up so many painful things I can [continue to] relate to :(

I am almost 65 years old. Listening to this still makes me want to burst into tears, bringing it all in the forefront. It has been a rough life, especially having grown up invisible.

I am watching this video precisely because I couldnt trust in the licensed mental health professional and their dangerous meds.

I find these videos helpful. Thank you!

When she said people are born with this trait. I remember being inside my mother's womb, I remember feeling her grief as she lost 2 children in a terrible accident months prior to becoming pregnant again. I was not a planned pregnancy, so I also felt the rejection that came with it. That always made me wonder if that was the reason I developed hyper sensitivity as my developing nervous system was inside an environment that felt tremendous grief, pain and frustration.

your story is exactly what mine is..her narcissist husband was the catalyst tho..he started filling her head with lies about her childhood..he rewrote her history like the CIA does when they brainwash you..she turns her head when she passes me in the car...her brother is building her a nice home just to get this crazy narcissist off our 40 acres..we have called the police twice after her husband threw a 10# barbell at my husband who is 77..waiting on hip surgery..she doesnt visit us in the woods..its been a year..and of course our grandaughters have been taken away by him..once she signs off on her 20 acre inheritance that will be the end..my son is putting a gate up and her narc husband will not be welcome..narcissism is so evil and toxic

So incredibly HELPFUL andctimely for me. Many thanks!!

Spiritually speaking, feminine wisdom can also begin with a fundamental understanding of the cyclical nature of reality (God). Represented by the snake in many creation myths, the living cycle has a trinity of a beginning (head), a middle and end (tail). As above so below, the sexes were created in the image of God's cyclical nature where Mother is the head and opening to all beginnings and Father holds the tail to all endings (through which the sowing of seeds allow for the next great matriarchal rebirth).The joining of the two (symbolized by the Ouroborus or the marriage ring) is the sacred union needed in assuring the creation and continuation of new life cycles. To speak of the present day God as "Our Father" is simply an admission to our collective positioning within the bigger cycle. As all mothers have direct experience with the creator quality of birthing, so is the direct experience of rebirthing the divinity within (baptism) belong to that which is spiritually matriarchal. (John 3, verse 3-8). Sekhmet statues (ancient Egyptian) carry most of their weight in symbolic memory of what was a mother culture dedicated to the direct experience of baptism. As the leg shaped hairlocks extend from maternal breasts to the womb of rebirth, the lioness's head proportions are such that they highlight the bust of a second animal figure. The Lioness's ears as eyes and eyes as nose (nostrils) brings to life the figure of a reptile. 'Neath the halo headress of the solar egg, the lioness's egg fertilization process being internal (Set) and the reptile's egg fertilization process being external (Setting), such being key components to the safety of entering the trans-egoic or "born again" state. The life threatening fear associated with the predatory nature of a lion and/or crocodile encounter are reflective of the intense ego death experiences associated with the transpersonal awakening process. In spiritually matriarchal times, illumination could be seen as wearing the false beard (ancient Egyptian funerary "ego" death mask) as the high state of cyclical self knowing; high awareness of both our upper matriarchal half and our lower (later) patriarchal half (compared with a mini lower body replica, an "as above so below" tail end beard extension); in full recognition of her civilizational Underworld; her inevitable cyclical destiny. The male pharaoh wears his beard tapered in reverse, indicating a pointing upwards towards the patriarchal head, divine representative of God's tail end cycle. Mary's anointing and wiping of Jesus's feet with her hair can then be seen as "Head to tail" (toe) imagery as she descends her matriarchal head to his patriarchal feet, thus reenacting the high understanding of the divine cyclical process. (John 12, verse 3) To carry the Ankh was perhaps to symbolically carry that upper and lower understanding. As the upper matriarchal womb symbolised the fertile birthing of civilization, below, the now Christian cross is carried to place emphasis on the lower (later) "End Times" Father principle of the great cycle. Lord Ganesha, the elephant headed Hindu diety, displays a cyclical head to trunk symbolism and points to the Mother head of his matriarchal elephant society. Ganesha (like the elephant) wears God's cyclical nature on his face. A whole temple was dedicated to the ancient Egyptian goddess Hathor, who is the matriarchal "Uterus" personified. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gGHQYa2AiKp5gZI "See all women as mothers, serve them as your mother. when you see the entire world as the mother, the ego falls away. See everything as Mother and you will know God." - Neem Karoli Baba

"i just dont know why" - says the one who doesn't want to know or change

Alcohol used as a crutch, even small amounts, can take over😮. Religion too, esp cult religions

I just found this podcast and absolutely love it! Thank you for the content, it’s really helping in gaining more insight and education as an HSP. A great book is A Highly Sensitive Persons Guide to Dealing with Toxic People by Shahida Arabi, MA

I am HSP with Complex trauma but my former therapist diagnosed me with Bordelrline Personality Disorder. So I was thinking this would be a great subject to talk about, and how they intersect or differ. Thank you!!

Awesome positive interview. With my own experience, there are 3 things to do to reduce sensitivity and not to get affected by future traumas. 1) Seeing a good Therapist to overcome existing complex trauma using EMDR etc. 2)Like Carmen mentioned , having healthy boundaries 3) Not many talk about this and is the hardest and best thing that makes a person less sensitive-- That's reducing all your addictions at least by 80% for period of 6-12 months, especially things like social media, TV, video games, even some music, news, alcohol, Caffeine , sugar, smoking, drugs etc. Once you reduce these, you be will be less sensitive to get triggered again while you maintain a healthy level of empathy. So these 3 can help a person achieve the balance and prevent being traumatized or triggered again in my opinion. I managed to become less sensitive to many traumas that bothered me for decades while I'm on the path to overcome and prevent more.

I chose MYSELF over being devalued and abused. I was disowned. The will was written wrong and I still got the house. :) Glad she used the imbecile cousin who ALMOST made it as an attorney. God really does look out for us. :)

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This is so wonderful-thank you. I’d welcome listening to the motherhood episode, as I’ve definitely found myself revisiting moments of my trauma as my child is hitting that childhood age / milestone marker and it’s so profound. I think this is something that would be of interest to all parents who experienced developmental trauma

Vocal fry makes this fing torture to listen to 😂

Talk normal. Trying to speak too low

Her voice is annoying as f

I still hear my mother's scornful words to me when I was 4 years old ." You're SO SENSITIVE!"

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