I really needed this , right now in school it’s tough I moved skl’s and still after a year of being there I feel like the in class setting can be so terrible when it’s either the storm within me bursts out and I’m unconscious of how it’s affecting others or embarrassed later bc of it or I try keep inside so much to not only do I fail I miss everything and just feel like it’s all a waste of time

This is so cool and so helpful! This video made me realize that a reason why I struggle with tasks so often is because A) I don't write down everything and then I forget about things and later get overwhelmed B) I consciously realized how one task may require a totally different approach than another. I think I go back and forth between only "do urgently" and "do in spare time" and that's kind of a stressful way to live haha. Going to implement this ASAP! Thanks!

I’m on Concerta and planning to shiftt towards Straterra. I would appreciate if you have any advice 🙏

Memory palace review also works just like this

My guy, you are talking to people with ADHD and expect us to pay attention to what you say when you have multiple things with flashing colored lights in the background.

My daughter was proscribed Ritalin recently, she is 5. I am concerned to say the least.

I really enjoyed listening to this, you were very well spoken! Shifting your attention by not identifying as a depressed person but just a person, and some of the other tools you mentioned seem so simple but I’ve also recognised their big impact! Not beating yourself up for your situation but shifting your mind towards positivity is something I myself want to work on as well : )

Plz read this comment I am sorry I have no time to watch the whole video Can I ask u if you have always struggled with adhd since you were a child or it just suddenly started at some point? I mean I have always been normal till I hit 12 Then I was day dreaming all the time and was nor able to make friends .. But I was still able to focus on stuff like while studying , playing video games or football.... But then when I hit 14 I still had day dreaming problems but I just can't focus on studying or playing or anything I feel like my brain is stressed out all the time and that caused depression I think I struggle alot with learning I don't feel anything is the same anymore Places I used to visit and have that feeling I don't have it anymore Food I used to eat I don't enjoy anymore And all sports and games I used to play I dont enjoy them or feel the same anymore... It might be that my adhd caused depression? I dont know But please if you read this till me if you have been through any of this (Am undiagnosed adhd btw)

I had NO idea that this is how it started and would have never guessed! 🤯 What a wild piece of trivia. I for some reason assumed Ritalin was developed in more recent times, like in the 80s or 90s. I always learn something new when I watch your videos!

I had NO idea that this is how it started and would have never guessed! What a wild piece of trivia. I for some reason assumed Ritalin was developed in more recent times, like in the 80s or 90s. I always learn something new on your channel!

Im struggling to give myself goals 😔 i stopped long ago because i never achieved them or forgot i even set one , im more aware of my condition now but im struggling to to change that habbit of not having goals does anyone have any advice

Modafinil 50mg a day has been a miracle for me. Adderrall and the other adhd drugs made me feel weird and anxious. People need to learn about modafinil.

Thank you very much! This sounds like a really helpful strategy. I will most definitely try it.❤

I’m loving all of these sleep tips, SUCH good advice to keep your mind busy working on something (that doesn’t stress you out) as you fall asleep because I feel like I naturally want to problem solve when I should be trying to fall asleep. Can’t wait to try this, thanks!

I went through the same exact traumatic experience and now that I know that I’m not alone, it’s such a relief❤️

As a child I was yelled at by teachers, I was just there. Then I taught myself to read, basic math and became engrossed in drawing and music and exercise. The exercise saved me. Walking, cycling then skating. Never took the meds. Today I take a nootropic stack every morning with coffee. It works.

This is so good, I tried it and immediately felt so much more at peace. I’m definitely going to try it before I go to bed.

Please make sure your messages are coherent, or I'll have to block you. I'm tired of dealing with unreliable sources.

It’s really upsetting that you were made to feel like a burdensome child who should not exist; the adults in your life should have taken your cries for help as a sign that the way you’re being treated as a patient and person is insufficient. These are all feelings neurodivergents know all too well, but the fact that you were forced to be on a medication that you reacted poorly to is beyond infuriating and almost abusive. I’ve started taking ADHD meds as a late-diagnosed adult, and cannot imagine having been forced to take it as a child when you are still developing your brain and personality. It really makes life very dull after a while and doesn’t help with habit forming, social, or executive functioning of ADHD, only the motivational part (but only for mundane tasks). It helps us cope in a neurotypical world, but to a far lesser extent than we were promised... which is disappointing. In some ways, it makes us sacrifice our individuality in service of *appearing* more neurotypical-despite us feeling dead inside. IMO it’s a very old school way of treating ADHD and only helps mask a portion of our symptoms. The side effects suck and I really have hope for future generations to find better treatments for us.

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"Don't get in your head about it." I needed to hear this today.

Happy to give you a first view! Nice content.. Keep going..

Thanks Nic

I took Ritalin for a few months and I noticed no effect. My doctor and I tried a few doses and it really didn't do anything. I've been on and off of Adderall as well, and while it definitely does *something* it doesn't really help with my day to day work, so I've been working through other solutions/strategies. Anyway, your videos are great! Good to hear your perspective on these things!

I grew up not knowing I had adhd. I'm a woman and I was smart as a kid, so I could skirt through school easily. My activeness showed up as raising my hand a lot in class and being interested in everything. I was slow in dressing up for breaks, eating at lunch, walking to afternoon activities, reading silently... And I was somewhat forgetful, and always a little late for school in the morning. But nothing that would warrant adults of a problem. In secondary school, I didn't have friends because my best friend had moved away, so I was like a sad nerd reading a book in a corner. Some kids started to bully me because they could, because nobody defended me. I was happy to leave the school for upper secondary school, with only one other nerd entering it with me from my old school. It was an academic upper secondary school that many STEM kids went to. The first week was amazing, I had one healing experience where some 'pretty girls' were nice to me by the coffee and soda machine. I realized that because everyone was focused on themselves and their education, they didn't care about bullying others. I could blend in pretty nicely and liked it. That school also challenged me enough to discover my problems. I took on too heavy a course load, volunteered in my freetime, did homework at night and went to school with little sleep or overslept a lot. I started to fail some of my classes among the A's, and my grades were all over the place. I blamed it on my trauma from middle school and mental health problems. I graduated with burnout and took some gap years, where I went to community college and worked. During the gap years my mental health continued to be crap and I was very scared to talk to someone about it. Already in upper secondary school, a couple teachers had suggested to me that they could book an appointment to a psychologist for me, but I had said no. I told them I would do it myself, but I was too ashamed to. During my community college years I contemplated about going many times, but was scared of the process. I had heard the lines are long for public heathcare and they don't take mental health seriously. In university I thought about contacting the healthcare in advance and telling about my past, but didn't find a way to do it. I ended up crashing during the pandemic and it forced me to finally call. I was in the Math and Physics program and failing my courses, and so ashamed I wanted to die. The nurse booked me immeaditely, I think we met within a week. I remember I was so scared in the waiting room on my first time at a mental health nurse. I recall when I was younger, I always knew I was different. I was scared that if I was treated for mental illness, it would change who I am. I had a rich inner life. I wrote poetry and stories, inspired by how I perceived the world. I was scared that I would lose all that, in exchange for dulling down the suffering. Talking to a mental health nurse was the best thing I have done. Just a few meetings and talking helped me get redirected. I reapplied to a different major I had preferred, but hadn't been accepted in - it was Geography.. I accepted art as my way of excisting, my means of staying alive. I thought, being an artist is an innate thing, like being gay, that I can't get away from. How did I finally find out about adhd? On accident. My friend had been diagnosed with it, and we talked about it. Later I had a discussion with another friend, where they complained about some things I do. I brewed on the emotions and thoughts for a couple days, thinking about all the mistakes I had made during the past few years. I realized my life was very stressfull, and it wasn't just in my head, but affected other people - it was real. I apologised to the people I volunteer with and promised them, I would get to the bottom of this. I have to say, I was almost sure it was adhd and when I discovered that, I haven't been depressed since. It was like I was reinserted into my childhood brain, which was the last time I had been fine. At the beginning of the next semester, I contacted student healthcare about my suspicions about adhd. At first the person who evaluated my need on the phone, didn't seem to believe me, because my problems didn't sound adhd. A bit later, they called me back. They had realized I had been there before for mental health issues, and booked me for interviews with my nurse. It took almost 2 years to go through the process. When I got the diagnosis, I told the psychiatrist first that I wanted to try therapy or coaching before meds. Generally, I was still scared to sound too enthusiastic about the meds, in case she would change her mind and take my diagnosis away. But I had been to many coaching groups already during the 2 years and pretty much knew all the techniques. So I looked at the therapies the psychiatrist had suggested, and messaged my nurse I wanted to talk to a doctor about the therapies and medications. The nurse asked me to go take different tests (blood test, heart film, urine test, blood pressure tests). I wrote a list about what I wanted the treatment to help with. And based on our discussion, the doctor prescribed me to try Concerta. First with a smaller dose and after a week, with a higher dose if the effect weakened. There was a two weeks try period after which we had a phone call. I told her about the effects and she sounded satisfied, and gave me a longer prescription. I have been satisfied with it. First of all, it didn't work like I expected it to. It wasn't noticiably easier to focus. However, it eased off overstimulation throughout the day, so that I was able to eat at lunch restaurants and had more energy in the evenings to volunteering and hobbies. I can do more tasks in a day without losing my executive functioning: I have more "spoons". I notice sometimes there is a crash at the end of the day, where my energy drops and I'm very hungry, emotional and tired. It used to happen sometimes anyway, even before medication, but with meds the overstimulation maybe builds up undercover during the day, and I'm able to build more of it because I don't notice, so the crash is greater. It's also a helpful thing sometimes, because now I actually get tired in the evening, without always having to take melatonin. I have to work on my diet and other habits a little bit. The medication makes me able to go about my day without eating properly, so in the evenings I'm really hungry. I've also noticed headaches and a eye twitch sometimes. I'll have to keep an eye if they are related. This became long. 😂 Your prompt was pretty vague.

ADHD medication makes it so hard for me to eat and have an appetite I had to stop but I still struggle to eat because I forget. So either I can't eat cause I am not hungry or I don't eat because I forget I exist and need to feed and water myself constantly.

I have never been zombified on my ADHD medication. That is a known response to being overmedicated. Your story is so sad. It’s not fair that some kids go unassessed, undiagnosed, untreated, inadequately treated, or even over-treated like you were. An inexperienced, ignorant, or misled clinician may mistake zombification for either appropriate or even under-dosing. Maybe you even started at too high of a dose to begin with? If you’re too sensitive to your dose, it can worsen ADHD symptoms as well as trigger Tourette’s in those that are vulnerable. I am one of those kids that was denied anything. When I was in trouble, I was literally sent away, then continued to white knuckle life, along the way accruing 2 misdiagnoses. I was finally diagnosed with autism and ADHD through thorough neuropsychological testing through a private specialty clinic. It then took most of the year to correct my chart and start a first-line stimulant. Come to think of it, I was zombified on the antidepressants I was first trialed on, but my reactions were so bad that I couldn’t continue them for more than a few days. One even gave me the black box warning adverse effect. I later had genetic testing showing that I do not tolerate the vast majority of antidepressants and am a relatively normal to rapid stimulant metabolizer. I was at one point trialed on vyvanse due to the adderall shortage. I was expecting it to work the same. It did not. I guess because it is a prodrug it was more likely to cause my reaction. I became highly allergic after only 2 doses. I had to be on antihistamines for an entire week after stopping it. I’m glad that adderall is available again 😅

Thank you for this video. Great insights. My son is on concerta now and we have really stressed with him that if he thinks that's not good for him, he should speak up. It was always important to us that our kids are part of making decisions, especially to things that affect them.

Dude, you were SIX years old. You're not SUPPOSED to have homework at that age, you're not supposed to "pay attention" or "sit still." You're SUPPOSED to run around, coloring the walls with your crayons and finger paint, jump in the mud, pet every dog you meet, say "Hi!" to complete strangers, and be dripping in melted ice cream, Kool-Aid popsicle juice, and playing hide-and-go-seek when your mom takes you to the store! You're SUPPOSED to be getting into lots of trouble and figuring life out for yourself the hard way! NO child should be evaluated for ADHD at any age younger than ten years old, and even then, that should be the exception, NOT the rule. ADHD isn't truly diagnosable before that age BECAUSE it's NORMAL for any child to "act out" or whatever. NORMAL. Buddy, please use the Search Bar to search for "The Wayseer's Manifesto." ADHD diagnosis in young children is just a school's way of blaming and medicating little children for being NORMAL kids, rather than altering its curricula and activities to meet the actual needs of ACTUAL little kids. NO child should be put on meds for being a normal kid. What the actual hell. God, this makes me think of "Uncle Buck" in the principle's office. Please watch that one too - you can probably find that scene via the search bar as well. Dammit all anyway. This makes me so mad. UPDATE to the above comment, as I listen further: Yeah, when my parents put me on meds as a teen, I felt the same way. They needed a divorce but their religion wouldn't allow it, so they scepe-goated me and lied to a doctor about my supposedly being "depressed" and "problematic" and whatever. Yeah, the meds I got put on made me suicidal. Anyway, I felt the same way: unloved, unaccepted, all the rest, like you're saying here. And you know what? You and I were both correct. Our parents did not love or accept us, because they were jerks. I know you want to think of your parents in a positive light - everyone does - but you have to wake up one day and see them for the flawed and unfixable human beings they are, realize they aren't gods, and just move on and walk away. They were adults when they did this to you - they had choices, and they could have chosen better than to scapegoat you for, in your case, the divorce that did take place. There's a reason they got divorced: they're overgrown IDs, and incapable of actual love. It has nothing to do with you. When you realize that your parents didn't really love you, take the "you" out of that statement, and think, "My parents didn't really love." Well, they didn't. It's hard to accept it that you were unlucky enough to have parents who were just selfish pricks, but that happens all the time. Selfish pricks bed down and conceive and aren't smart enough to either adopt or abort, so they birth and keep the child, then ruin it's life, because they are assholes. They'll work hard, very hard, to get you to love and respect them, and to see them as good, smart people and all that, but that's because they are NARCISSISTS. Please search for "Dr. Ramani" as well. Also, search for "narcissism." I'm very sorry for what your parents did to you; that was just evil. So is what mine did to me. No one should be allowed to put a child on pills if there are no blood tests that show that the child's physical health warrants it. In any event, please get as financially independent as you can, permanently. After that, whether you ever want to speak to your parents again is entirely up to you, and honestly, I can't recommend it. They murdered your soul to try to cop-out of their own adult responsibilities towards each other, and they blamed you for their marital problems. You don't have to say it - I know it; I was put through the same thing. They don't want to admit they have problems, they don't want to accept the blame for their own issues, so they say, "It's all my child's fault! They're the problem! Let's 'fix' the child!" They're immature and stupid for doing that, and the stupid doctors that write scrips for psych meds for kids just enable it, because, why not make more money off of this trend??? If I were you, I wouldn't ever speak to those brutes who had orgasms and popped out a kid they didn't really want, from the inside out, again. Leave them to stew in their own soup! Second update: Oh, of COURSE you mom "did all she could." To make you think the problem was you, because she couldn't accept it that she has her own problems to deal with. By the way, kids being depressed during a parental divorce is also NORMAL. Good grief. BTW, there is no "god." Why do you think you wound up with assholes for parents who convinced you that they're great people? A "god" worth your time wouldn't have allowed that to happen to you in the first place. Also, that whole "why not you" thing is such garbage. Never, ever excuse things done to you with the whole, "I can help others" cop-out. Yeah, you can, but you shouldn't have to. You shouldn't have had to go through that at all. You did go through it, and you need to accept that it happened, it was horrible and sad and angering, etc. I really recommend that you visit WWDN (Wil Wheaton's Blog). Seriously, buddy, your issues aren't over yet, and that's completely NORMAL and OK. They aren't your fault, but you're stuck with them. Wil's blog can really help you work your way through these things, and I think also save you a lot of adult-aged pitfalls of trying the wrong ways to deal with these things, too. He's been down a lot of roads in trying to find help for himself, after what his narc parents did to him when he was about the same age you were. I get it, you think you're the guru of ADHD and want to help parents of kids with ADHD and all that, but honestly, you're not done with your own experiences with this yet, even though you're a full grown assed adult now. That's the evil of the burden our parents placed on our shoulders and forced us to wear like a F'n backpack with 100 lb. weights in it while our spines were still growing. Now our backs are bowed, and it takes decades to fix that. But there is a lot of help available, and WWDN is a really great place to start. As a fellow content creator, you might even be able to make connections directly with him; maybe do some interviews with him or something. He'd probably be up for that, if his schedule permits. Third update: "There are so many people that have great results... I was not one of them." Excepting that every single person ever given psych meds as a child or teen says those exact same words... Seriously, psych meds aren't even all that great for adults, and they're soul-murdering for children. There are so few legit cases for any kind of psych meds at all, that we need laws in this country that put the brakes on any doctor writing scrips for them for kids without having to answer, first, to a real medical board comprised of actual judges who also have medical degrees, to convince them all that it's appropriate to write each scrip in each child's case. What you probably don't know is that psychiatrists, pediatricians, and other doctors are just handing these psych med scrips out like candy, very often without even spending an entire 5 minutes interviewing the child apart from the parents. Sir, you got snowed. I'm very sorry this happened, but it did happen. Welcome to America, where this sh*t goes down all the time. Fourth update: Yeah, the stuff they did to WWII soldiers, first, was done to ADULTS, not to children, and second, even then, there were entire legal battles over that later on, because of the BAD EFFECTS of those drugs on those soldiers. This is hardly a reason to justify using psych meds on little kids. There is NO justification for that at six years old. None. It's never "ok" and you should not be "ok" with it. I'm sorry that you've gotten caught in all the grooming and brainwashing done to make you take interest in thinking it's somehow ok. It's just not. I don't know what else to say about that. So help me. Kids have to be kids. There's no point in childhood if kids aren't allowed to play, be happy, run around, get into trouble... That's what CHILDHOOD is FOR. Literally, it has no other purpose. It's not just a waste of time while childrens' bodies grow into their adult size, where that time has to be filled knocking their souls out and cramming them full of information that will be useless by the time they're out of college anyway! Oh good grief, amphetamines, methylphenidates... Yeah, these do NOT belong in childrens' bodies. Period. Most adults don't even do well with these, and they're derived from the same chemicals that STREET DRUGS are. Just because the FDA "blessed" these things, that doesn't actually make them OK. Go check out the FDA's criteria for that; you'll see for yourself how poor their criteria are for allowing these things to be on the market at all. You'll also see that these things were not originally tested on children. Finally, you need to find out about things like how, once these meds are on the market, doctors are allowed to just decide the dosages for themselves, with little to no actual guidance on dosing per lb. of body weight, and so on. Anyway, that stuff's poison to little bodies and growing brains. Come on now. There's NO justification for this, in reality. NONE.

I have a bachelors in psych. I’m glad you’re speaking out. Unfortunately we need professionals to be accountable. A lot of this medicine makes problems worse. And a lot of people are told they have problems they don’t have.. almost everyone can be diagnosed with ADHD. It’s sad you were medicated so young. Your parents didn’t know any better but medicating that young can cause so many issues. You don’t give pills to cover underlying issues, you need to find healthier ways for a lot of stuff like “attention issues.” If you don’t have severe reactions everyone I know with adhd meds had bright, amazing personalities and the medication zombified their beautiful personalities. Doctors are wrong about many things. Therapists are wrong about many things. It’s good to trust the professionals. But people trust professionals too much.

Wow, this was so powerful and I'm sure many people can relate. I like how you are now solving the mysteries of why medication affected you the way it did many years later- I can see why that would give you closure. I really hope parents of kids with ADHD see this and take it to heart so their children are helped in ways that you unfortunately weren't.

Women are socialized differently than men are at the start. We are rarely taken seriously by the male dominated healthcare system for any of our symptoms. Overall, it is a disorder than isn't well understood and the differences how men and women behave as a result.

lol @ “just try harder” just knowing I have ADHD has been a gamechanger… even though I still have lots of struggles, it’s incredible how much easier it is to navigate those struggles when I have an explanation. I can say “Hey, this is my ADHD brain, it’s not ME.” love the dentist metaphor! that alone was worth watching the video

I relate to ALL of this, especially #1 -- I was scared to turn in my homework all the way through college. On syllabus day I would calculate just how many assignments I could miss and still get a decent grade just because I hated it so much. This stuff would've helped me a ton growing up

This is amazing, I can see how this would help so many kiddos! 👍

Say, CDS (formerly SCT) is an interesting phenomena and could attribute to the old ADD/ADHD confusion. Maybe you can talk a bit about it the next time, if you can somehow tell about it in a comprehensive and compact way (I see that you try to keep the talks very short)

Thanks for keeping it short 👍🏼A true ADD person wouldn't make it through otherwise. You know your audience 😅

I’m not sure about others, but I am fairly certain I have ADHD but mask well. I’ve tried to bring it up to doctors and they overwhelmingly have said what’s the point of getting a diagnosis if I’ve managed so far in life? 😅😂 I love the left vs right handed comparison.

Hair is a perfect 45 degree angle 😅

Ah that’s better :-)

Thanks for posting without music!!!

Thank you for posting the no music version!!

*Hi everyone! I just uploaded a version of this video with NO MUSIC. WOO! Considering having no (or very low) music in future videos. Thank you for your patience & I hope this helps you on your ADHD journey. I am here for you and I am always more than happy to help. I appreciate all of your support 😊 THE "NO MUSIC" VERSION: ➡kzbin.info/www/bejne/iGK0c3ejnt2fbpY

I can't listen to this as the music is overpowering the speech, I can't actually hear what he is saying 😞

Your video was so validating. Thank you! As a kid, I suspected I had ADHD, but everyone told me it was impossible for me because I got good grades. I actually got good grades because I was too worried about disappointing my teachers, so I took my time doing assignments. I was finally diagnosed with it at age 24- two years into my teaching career. It hurt that I couldn’t be as organized or as good at time management as the other teachers. It really sucks though that the neurotypical world really has no empathy for people with ADHD. Explaining the struggles can feel like beating a dead horse. Once I feel comfortable in a place or group, I act like the stereotype. I think a lot of why I internalize my ADHD symptoms because of gender roles. My boy cousins would do things and it would be “boys will be boys” then I’d get in trouble for doing the same thing. Spoiler alert: these boy cousins also ended up being diagnosed with ADHD (but much earlier than me). I had extreme shyness growing up to the point where I would hold it in instead of asking to go to the bathroom in school. Your mention of sensory issues was also so validating. I didn’t even know about that until you mentioned it. I thought I had autism for the longest time. I can get very intense sensory overload in some environments- like restaurants and movie theaters. Thank you very much for your video!!

where are your sources for the information you spoke about in the video?