INFJ: Why You’re Not Getting Respect (And How to Change It)

[@Wenzes]

Are you also struggling with people not seeing everything that you can add to the equation?

[@TroyPosey]

My whole life… 🙁

[@francisjudge]

oddly enough, the timing of this is perfect

[@MegaCyberleader]

I have nightmares that I am fixing a problem and somebody i know purposely sabotages it for no reason.

[@myhalflifecrisis]

That's the story of my life. I've learned to be unapologetic about what I want to accomplish. Often all naysayers cannot understand the abstract vision in my head until it is finally concrete, and then they get an epiphany when I made it happen despite their lack of support.

[@aycaerakbas980]

Getting backstabbed / deceived/ taken advantage Guess I m better off myself with my cat ❤

[@rebeccalouise81]

No one respects me, no one believes me that I’m telling the truth, I get blamed for everything and no one offers me help.

[@natureglimses]

Rebecca ! hold on to true values , , those who do not conform to today's way of life are not welcomed indeed hence they are hurt even just by our presence .

[@natureglimses]

🤍

[@Kaelus41]

Stop dimming yourself. Make people conform to you, just by being you. There are a couple people at work that still don't like me. It's okay. I'll be their supervisor at some point. Then they can just hate me for being their supervisor

[@kencornwell]

Don't waste an ounce of your time on negative people. Enjoy your life

[@djrafaelhulme]

One day you'll wake up and realize it's not you, it IS in fact them. Now I identify somewhere between Ninja Shogun Master and and interdimensional wizard alien after a LIFETIME of shame and doubt. Thank you Wenzes!

[@Cococokieful]

Here's what I learnt from years of deliberation: 1. Good things laid out in the open (like free help) is regarded as cheap - easy to get service won't be valued. 2. Acceptance is taken as a sign of weakness - that's why help is shunned. 3. Greed knows no limit, and focuses more on what one wants than on what one has, like a gun that recoils. 4. Envy disregards charity, envious person sees help as condescending to them, as if you look down on their ability. There are a couple more but I'm not listing it all out. So once you quit helping, the dynamic changes, you start to increase your value. Respect begins with self-respect. Sometimes, you please others, not because you're good, but because you fear another person's anger. When you help, you're denying other people their privilege to grow, to do good, and to discover themselves.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

Good stuff

[@selorasoulstice]

So much wisdom here, thank you!

[@susangarrard2753]

So true!

[@susangarrard2753]

Can you explain #2 it’s not clear to me.

[@AnnieTyzak]

You are doing God’s work thank you

[@metaperceptual]

"We're the ones who are here to set the tone." 🙌 That.

[@frederickbrousseau-gauthie3663]

The timing of your videos in relation to what’s happening in my life keeps amazing me. Thank you

[@aquariusstar7248]

Thank you, Wenzes. Your words of wisdom have impacted me greatly past 4 years since i discovered you. Each time i watch your vids i feel i get a little closer to my true self. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@brendamarie7241]

Being able to have perspectives and solutions that others can't see, makes me valuable to someone who is struggling. They express so much gratitude, yet there is no one that I can turn to for help. I can be very specific about what I need, I mean really need, and there is no one to offer help.

[@rebeccalouise81]

@@brendamarie7241 same!

[@carolinemccullough9838]

This is so true! I remember watching a little girl argue with a grown man in a way that showed wisdom, confidence, that unapologetic way, and being blown away by her! Some people find it naturally, but for some of us its a battle. It's something we have to very conscious about creating in ourselves. Great talk! Great conviction! Great energy! The next step, exactly, focus on that. Thank you for speaking my language and the language of other INFJ's! Its healing. Great job sister!

[@darrenparkes9805]

Wow, The few minutes it a nerve , I just had an episode with a friend that hit home hard, no respect at all to my person, I walked away, maybe for good, I have returned to playing musical instruments and gaining new passion and enjoyment, wow everything you said is true. Yes unapologetically, be myself, take it or leave it, again thank you for you’re channel, I’m so appreciated, I’m Darren from Australia

[@RogueYogiPodcast]

@Wenzes “loving detachment” and being a living example (and pray away hurt feelings!)

[@MBAinternetmktg]

This is very helpful.

[@TroyPosey]

Exactly! Awesome video Wenzes! 🙂👍🏼 Hope you’re having an amazing day my friend! ❤️

[@foodbythewordmedia]

Much needed insights!!! Thanks 👏🏿👍🏿🙏🏿

[@市島明美]

this format really suits me

[@jerome6572]

Wenze's what said is so true.Being taken advantage of I feel abused,unloved,used,unwanted.Wenze's I'll be doing the infamous INFJ doorslam.I'm selective whom I've for friends the are extraneous using me for their shortcomings and else have no interest whatsoever.Wenze's I thank you for you Wenze's.Jerome❤❤❤

[@Giovanni-o3h]

Thanks so much friend wenzes

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

this is such a good perspective to have: take up space, so you don't feel so much of their energy and respect their autonomy when it comes to choosing if they want to be around all that or not. ( & don't look outside of yourself for permission)

[@dreamchaser7603]

I just wanted to say to all of my fellow Infjs, I Love You ❤ You are precious!! ✨ I want all of you to be happy!! 🙏 You deserve the world!! 🙌🏼

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

@@dreamchaser7603 you, too🙏💗

[@dmcsunshine1]

This is the best truth

[@flynneart1111]

Need more respect and that halter top u got☺️

[@nowhereman6391]

♥🤯 Just in time.

[@MareHoangThuy]

this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in ebook magnetic aura from Borlest

[@anatorres3845]

Just recently my manger told me I am being toxic in the workplace, that many employees have complained about me being negative. I didn’t know speaking my truth, and making suggestions would make me look like a bad person. I’ve learned that I can’t truth some people because they will twist my words

[@fuzbugg]

what about people at work who you kind of can't afford to push away all the way at least? like your boss. navigating this right now

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

I would say do what you can to improve your life - even if it means improving your life outside of your work situation- Wenzes calls it the 5% rule - If it's 5% of your life you love - focus on this - and expand from there - As you do this - your job will become an inevitable situation that will change - You are becoming mor eof who you are thru the process and the things that no longer align with who you are will fall away -

[@RogueYogiPodcast]

@fuzbugg I pretended my boss was my mom. It forced me to stay respectful never-minding the negative energy. Hope it helps!

[@braxtonmills1235]

What are they like

[@dmcsunshine1]

I’ve been hurt too much over my life time. Im 57 and speaking my truth and starting again seems useless now.

[@manjubhartola3011]

Hey! Your life is worth every bit of effort. Hope you find the contentment and joy you deserve

[@djackman4229]

As an INFJ feeling this way what Elaine Aaron said in The Highly Sensitive Person resonated with me as to why people often dont listen to or respect us - she pointed out Western Societies are 'warrior' societies - valuing toughness, strength, the ability to take large amounts of stimulus before reaching the point of overwhelm - basically things that come with less sensitivity. The sensitive INFJs reach overwhelm earlier - and perhaps that is why the 'warriors' (who totally buy into this) don't value us.. I and I imagine most INFJs instinctively couldn't buy into this - we could imagine there were better ways than powering our way through something with force.. but there it is?

[@HarryLegro]

Great vid as always

[@D.E.Middleton]

Great content.. Thank you.

[@PhungTuongSan]

best!!!

[@davidarguedas5735]

Awesome

[@jyotivyas9286]

😊Newer Good Look.👌💐

[@the_alizerah]

Because guess what? You're not doing anything immoral, you're not doing anything illegal👍

[@dmcsunshine1]

Im not your side character anymore!

[@royal_lotus8834]

Yeeaah power❤‍🔥❤‍🔥

[@OtiliaRadu-l1n]

Sounds so great when you say it, Wenzes, but in reality i feel that if a don't dim my light, nobody will want me around, so i will remain alone for the rest of my life. How should we deal with the loneliness which comes from not finding the right persons, which are sooo hard to find? I didn't found even one in my 35 years of age. Maybe this is why we dim our light, we prefer this instead of loneliness.

[@Wenzes]

I know exactly how you feel. It was the same for me. The truth is all the people you think will leave you, probably will…but you will make space for people who would want to be around you. For me it only worked because I was willing to stay alone forever if the alternative meant I have to hide who I am. This pain was worse.

[@SamsonPavlov]

THIS!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@tobiasstockner8885]

Hi guys, im a 22 year old infj man. I just found out about it a few weeks ago. Im also an empath, i feel everything other people feel. I can literally "feel" their energy and emotions, not just sense them and be empathetic for others, how its usual for infj's. This empathy makes me go nuts, it hella drains me when being with people, especially because of my zhodiac traits, cancer sun making me very sensitive to energy and emotions, and scorpio moon making me feel those emotions very strongly (two damn water signs as a man, especially cancer sun is tough to have). Life been hard, i feel like a god damn woman in a mans body. Tho i dont like the thought of being a woman and i would never think about that id rather be a woman than a man. I like being a man, but my traits make it hard to be one and love/apprechiate myself for who i am. Many people also bullied me for those reasons or didnt respect me, dropping gay slurs and saying that im acting like a woman ect. Im a pretty good looking man actually with a lean body, deep voice, beard and a good looking face with sharp facial festures, but i guess that doesnt really matter anyways. Idk how i should live with this now. Since i found out who i really am and how other people perceive me, i started to get even more depressed. I was depressed before too, but now it just feels like there is no hope for me in the future, cause i just am like i am unfortunately. I also dont know if im truly being myself, tbh im not even sure if i know how to be myself around others, and if i even should be myself or if i should just be more assertive and cold, to not just make others, but also myself feel better about me. I don even really know who i am. Do you guys have some tips about life maybe, or some hopeful outlooks on my future? Or will my life be hard forever and i aint really ever gonna be truly happy? Also, do you have some job considerations maybe? I have no god damn clue what i should work in my future. I also hate 9 to 5 jobs, as an empath infj those jobs take up all my energy. Im absorbing all the emotions around me and being pressured into doing small talk with stupid people is making me go crazy. Also i dont like my job either. Im a wood worker rn and i despise the work im doing. I get home after a whole day of work and just feel exhausted. When im home, am too tired to do anything, i just go into my room and do nothing for the whole evening. Im just a lost soul rn, struggeling hard with this thing called life. Id rather be dead ngl, asking myself every day why im still here. Am suicidal since about 7 years, never tried to commit suicide but many times im thinking like id rather just be dead and chill in space again. Idk guys, i would apprechiate any help from you if you got some positive thoughts or advice to give. Apprechiate it!

[@poojachoudhary7534]

You are enough for who you are.... Instead focus on narcissistic people, focus on things that makes you happy....read about narcissism...for hsp people it's very tough to understand that world is full of fake , dramatic, evil , egotistic people with no moral , no empathy nothing.... Once you go through all this and learn your lesson like me then do inner healing with lots of self love , self care , no one going to help you emotionally bcas this world is full of empty people.... Do not feel shame for your good qualities....but be assertive... don't trust new people when you meet them initially...take your time ...don't always be helpful to others until you know that they really want your help and they can't do that work themselves. You are very young and have lots of time in your hand to change your life . Chase your goals. Always be happy and keep smiling. God bless you.

[@tobiasstockner8885]

@@poojachoudhary7534 thank you! I am struggeling a bit to focus on my goals, i dont have anything meaningful. I would have some ideas, but i dont know if those are even worth pursuong you know? Sk instead of doing something that might or might not be of service in my future, i just do nothing instead and just think about my future. Have a lot of problems with doing stuff in the physical world. I dont know how i can change that or what i could do. Need hobbies or purpose but i have nothing

[@TheGameSeekers]

pretty😍 cute purple dress.

[@noname61581]

I wish Wenzes is my sister so we can chat and she can say those things everyday to me.

[@sigmainfjbulgaria4478]

In simple words - you don't have to be doctor House, but it's necessary to adopt his way of thinking to some extent. It's actually a big problem for us because we have that urge, but we also have our Fe that holds us back saying that it's not appropriate for us to be such pure sigmas, but this is not right, we have to be and that's the only way we can be our true selves, by being such a controversial figures. Think of it like it's actually not controversial, it's not that you are a bad person, it's you using your „dark“ traits in a way that reveals your brightest side.

[@rebeccalouise81]

First ❤

[@lifewithmargot]

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[@Wenzes]

$100 off 😊👍

[@lifewithmargot]

@@Wenzes off of what?

[@Wenzes]

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[@lifewithmargot]

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[@lifewithmargot]

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[@NguyenAnMadge]

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[@tobiasstockner8885]

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[@youandme0075]

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