10 Elegant Things You Own But Probably Never Use

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Have you ever opened up a letter like a barbarian? 😅 (Please tell me I'm not alone.) Let us know which item on this list resonated the most with you. Your comment could be chosen as comment of the week on the blog. And thank you to The Chic Connoisseurs for bringing us today's video. I have listed these wonderful people in the description box. Some of them have KZbin channels and other interesting websites. Please check them out and give them some love. See you soon! Love, Jennifer

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

Heh! I do own a letter opener- a gift from a friend; I wouldn't have purchased one. However, without thinking about it, I open letters on my way back in from the mailbox, using my built-in letter opener... my right-hand index finger. And then I see the letter opener... Too late. Oy.

[@luba-healthywithluba6866]

Yes, I have definitely opened letters like a barbarian. 😢

[@valchica7]

Yes, I open mail like you did in the beginning of the video 🤣

[@conniestanton2273]

Yes definitely guilty of ripping into mail! I never thought of a letter opener though I have one at the office I should take the time to use.

[@dirgniflesuoh7950]

I use kitchen knives, not my best though.

[@JodiLaRae]

I grew up with my mother using her good china and table linens for dinner every week after church. She always said, "What's the point of having beautiful things if you never use them?" She never worried about my brother and me using these fragile items. She felt like it was an important learning experience for us, and at the end of the day, it was "just stuff" and her family was more important. It's a valuable lesson that applies to so many areas of life. Loved this video! ♥️

[@rebeccamusser1645]

JodiLaRae I agree! My mother-in-law (who was from Germany) taught me this. My seven children (six of whom are boys) have grown up with our wedding china used everyday. Yes, it breaks. But it is replaceable. And one benefit that I have noticed is that my children do not feel uncomfortable when dining out or at other people’s homes, as far as using nicer things.

[@jendyson6729]

I grew up with all kinds of china and silver used at every dinner (candles too). It really rubbed off on me. I have lots of different patterns and use them all throughout the week. Even a burger or hot dog tastes better on a nice plate, lol. My dad didn't like paper napkins (or other disposable stuff) and that rubbed off on me also. We always use cloth napkins, it is really no bother at all and better for the planet too. My brother is the same, you really carry these traditions that you learn at home into your own home. Its great to use the nice things you are lucky enough to have! I saw a you tuber re organize a closet and her wedding china (which I am sure she registered for and was gifted) was still in the boxes although they had been married for many years. Sadly, for thanksgiving she was at Costco buying a bunch of plastic plates and cutlery for the holidays. I don't get it.

[@elizabethventurini8088]

Your mother was absolutely right. I grew up the same way. Must be a generational thing.

[@Elliefunc]

I feel like a letter opener would be a classy way to open all of my Amazon boxes haha!

[@tbrand06]

This makes me smile! I received a letter opener for high school graduation. My husband always gives me grief that I use my favorite paring knife to open my boxes. We don't get much actual mail, but I do get a few Amazon boxes :)

[@yasemeenelson6495]

😂😂 yes! Something else I can buy on amazon!

[@IAmTheZombieGirl]

@@yasemeenelson6495 I was just thinking that too LOL

[@DominiqueFrancon]

I remember as a child, my family would take a Sunday drive. Anyone else remember this ritual? Sometimes, we would stop at a country inn restaurant to have dinner. It was so elegant! White tablecloths and napkins, proper place settings, and even finger bowls! I remember how captivated I was by the formality. I still love dining formality but rarely experience it these days due to outside influences. (Bad company really does corrupt good character.) When my grandchildren first came along, while they were still small enough to be in a high chair, I employed the finger bowl concept to clean them up after a meal. I would bring a large bowl of warm water mixed with a little bit of soap to their high chair tray and helped them wash their hands in it. They were mesmerized by the experience and I think it got their little hands cleaner than just using a wash cloth.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

What great memories!

[@frostgoddess]

I love the idea of the finger bowl for a young child! I’m going to try this tonight. UPDATE: tried it and loved it. Never going back to a washcloth!

[@LynetteYoung]

I would add jewelry here as well. I tend to go to my 'same old' earrings and leave my beautiful pieces in the box.

[@sissabibisissi7311]

Yes so true with the jewellery and also those beautiful leather handbags that we let for "special occasions" 😅

[@athenamissinghome619]

We use delicate floral fine bone china every day for every meal. It’s all completely mismatched, collected one or two pieces at a time, from goodwill/junk stores. Beautiful teacups and saucers, they break sometimes, but I don’t worry about it. I can find them at estate sales for a dollar. Sometimes the men in the house don’t like it, but there’s also a set of rustic wooden dinnerware they can use if they like. Every day is an elegant day. It’s other-worldly. Visitors think I’m a little bit crazy.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

That's the way to do it!

[@jmcast3195]

Can you microwave plates like that?

[@DominiqueFrancon]

JM Cast A lot of china is adorned with gold paint which will spark if microwaved.

[@jmcast3195]

@@DominiqueFrancon yes that is what I figured. The gold on my plates is what keeps me from really using them.

[@loxleybattle2591]

My thrift store ( but dearly loved) China also can’t be microwaved so I use them for sandwiches, salads, and other cool meals. 👍

[@soniaspf9705]

We always use our Villeroy and Boch china every day - my daughter too, people say to her why do you let your seven year old use it and her reply is "how will she appreciate the nice things in life if they are not part of it" and after all you can always replace a plate.

[@mmthomas3729]

My daughter wants the sets of family fine china. People I know say their children aren't interested in the silver and china. I ask, "How often do you use it? Are there good times associated with your china or do your children just see it as something on display or taking up space?"

[@maryqueenofScots2023]

I always let my youngest daughter use my fine bone china tea set for her tea parties when she was little, she took very good care of it and now owns it. She still has fond memories of those days. x

[@sherylgifford9387]

I now own what is left of my mother's wedding china . . . I probably broke most of it, but she always let us use it and wash it and enjoy great meals together. She taught us to be great hostesses!

[@HappyToBeKLB]

“Ma said, ‘Special dishes are for special people, not special occasions.’”-From season 2 of Little House on the Prairie :) It’s one of my favorite quotes from the series, and made me totally rethink my use of our “special dishes”. I would love to have a beautiful letter opener (I’m one of those Barbarians lol) and invest in some lovely skin care and body products. Fun video! I’ve learned so much from your channel!

[@elizabethventurini8088]

Several years ago I started collecting beautiful vintage Italian bed linens. My women friends are stunned that I actually sleep on them. Their mouths drop when I tell them I wash, starch, and iron the linens before they go on the bed. Hubby loves it. He says he feels as if he is sleeping in an elegant bed in a beautiful Italian villa.

[@cjay233]

You go girl!

[@elizabethventurini8088]

@@cjay233 HI. They are all trimmed with handmade lace. Dated at least back to the 1920s. Some of them are as thin as paper. Others have a blend of linen and hemp (more rustic and sturdy). Bleached white by the hot sun. When they are starched and iron they are very stiff. I also have beautiful Italian tableclothes and napkins. Sadly we will never see this quaility of product again in our lifetime so I enjoy them now.

[@cjay233]

@@elizabethventurini8088 I know that's right. Seeing how most things are made nowadays, makes me realize how much I took for granted the quality of things when I was younger. Who knew it wouldn't always be around.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Jennifer, I HAVE TO ADMIT I AM GUILTY! I love nice tablecloths, china, letter openers, you name it! I have discovered that my 60-hour work week is a major reason for my lack of being a better homemaker. I wish I could work an 8-hour day and come home, but unfortunately as an employee in the medical field, it isn't likely to happen. I was an English literature major before I switched over to nursing. I long for the days when I could spend a few hours reading and sipping hot tea. My friends in college thought I was a nut case because my idea of fun was to go to a bookstore that had a cafe and stay for 5-6 hours reading and studying. Sadly, I haven't done that in years and it makes me sad. Still, I love your videos and I hope one day I can incorporate some of your beautiful suggestions into my life!!!!!!

[@estherwaluyo]

Regina I do think you shouldn’t wait. You can incorporate one or two of Jeniffer’s ideas like using beautiful plates and china. in fact brewing tea shouldn’t take that long.. you’ve worked so hard you deserve a beautiful moment to ease and relax and you’ll see that your remaining evening will turn out more beautiful. pardon me, not trying to lecture you here.. however I can’t agree more with Jennifer.. having practised most of her ideas myself in my life has made my own really enjoyable and filled with gratitude though some tragic things have taken place in my 55 years of life. Kuddos to you Regina.. nursing is indeed a hard job that deserves my putting off my hat to you 🙏🏽🥰

[@ashl3ymich3ll3]

I dont own a letter opener, fountain pen, nice table cloths or napkins, or nice bath products, but I do wear my nice clothing every day and we use our nice dishes once a week.

[@LOTRLoamduviel]

I'm in the same boat. We use the fancy china we got for our wedding every day, and I try to wear dresses every other day.

[@beautyofdawn9565]

You are so right! I tend to leave my elegant things for an "occasion"... when every day we wake up healthy and happy is an occasion worth celebrating and being our best! Thanks for the reminder!

[@edennis8578]

I've been wrestling with my lifelong habit of saving the good stuff for special occasions that almost never happen. Since I turned 65, I keep asking myself how much later I think I'll be saving that stuff! 😮

[@brandi8040]

Yes! Use your luxurious bath products! People gift them for the intention of being used. 💗

[@genevieveweiss3538]

I had a bar of lemon verbena soap (my favorite scent ever) that I saved for ages because it smelled so pretty I didn't want to use it up. By the time I did, the scent was practically gone. I never deny using my beautiful bath products anymore, and it makes the every day routine of getting ready so much nicer! Related so much to the letter opener, lol.

[@tawnytuppence5573]

I own: -One teacup -Nice clothes worn on a daily basis (many are handmade by me!) -Luxurious bath products (if Lush counts) -working on my posture! -classic books, but they are behind cupboard doors because I don’t like the look of bookshelves-they are so messy. I am currently reading Little Women! I don’t own: -A letter opener -A fountain pen/really nice pen -A set of teacups (I do own one!) -Nice dinner plates (we have one set of white Corelle dishes for everything) -A tablecloth -Cloth napkins Guess I’m not as elegant as I thought. We are minimalists with a clean, Scandinavian style-not Victorian at all.

[@MimiNwabuokuMD]

It’s absolutely possible to improve your penmanship at any age. One way to get a prettier print is to slant your script ever so slightly rightwards. Another tip is to aim for rounder formation of your vowels. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but small changes do make an appreciable difference. Go for it, Jennifer! And as always, thanks for posting.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thanks for the encouragement!

[@kate2create738]

I agree, my dad is a testament to improving penmanship as I recall asking him how he has such beautiful handwriting. He told he had a moment that he was determined to improve his penmanship and practiced everyday, the result is elegant writing that I can't think of anyone with a more clearer and stylized writing. It's the little things that can create such a dramatic result.

[@stephaniejones2565]

The hardest part for me is just sloooowing down when I write lol. But when I write slow and deliberate, my hand writing is so much better, imagine that.

[@suzanneturley4433]

I have always loved writing, be it letters, short stories or poetry, and I always use a ball point pen, as I no longer have a fountain pen. The greatest compliment given to me was ‘Your writing is very neat for a left-hander’. 🤔

[@andree824]

@@stephaniejones2565 Oh my goodness, same with me!

[@harinifrancis]

Seriously, this is so meee.. I love to use all my fancy cups and plates, which people often save for occasional events.. but I don’t really understand why people just buy it and not use it..... I am always soo excited to use new stuff and just experience the happiness and that beautiful feeling 😋

[@helenawoods]

I love to use my fine china every day for my tea or hot chocolate

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I love that!

[@jodycourt]

I learned a lesson from my mother-in-law about 38 years ago (when I was married to her son) to use a letter opener. She gave me one with a Hereford bull on it (we are ranchers) and I still have it and use it almost daily to open mail at my office desk. Thanks for the reminder that she was the one who taught me to open mail smartly and elegantly -- I never thought of it as elegant, just smart! You look beautiful today.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Jody!

[@BendnStretchwithSue]

I love your comment about posture!!! You mentioned some wonderful benefits I totally agree with you, however, as a Pilates and Yoga teacher I emphasize the benefits of posture daily to my students and subscribers. By standing tall and in proper alignment the muscles required to do so are strengthened toning the abdominal muscles which support the back making it stronger. Strong abdominal muscles help relieve back pain of which 80% of people will suffer from at some point in their lifetime. Proper posture helps you to breathe more efficiently, this allows you to tone and strengthen the lungs, all the muscles involved in breathing and in turn allows you to draw more oxygen in which is key to overall good health and mental clarity. Breathing efficiently also lets you tap into the parasympathetic nervous system and it reduces the effect of fight or flight in your body so you are not stressed out:-) I just get really excited about good posture!!! Thank you so much for mentioning it Jennifer.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes! What a great comment!

[@southerngrace7895]

One thing I do use that wasn’t mentioned is linen handkerchiefs

[@jendyson6729]

Yes! Also I told my husband to carry one handkerchief for himself and a spare, clean one for a lady who may need it, that is me, lol. You never know when you may need one for a sneeze or a few tears or whatever. Its really a classy thing I think to have a man hand you a hankie if you need one :)

[@jessieelliott3157]

I love having my little 3 yo niece over. She sits at the table with pretty china plates and clothe napkins and candles. Then she snuffs out the candles at the end with the candle snuffer. She feels like a grown up with her big cousins.

[@alcogito8287]

I bought "White Gloves and Party Manners" (publ in 1965) when my girls were young. They loved it. One of them still has it.

[@lourencolaura1]

Dear Jennifer. It is so good to see young people enjoying this beautiful things every day I did all my life and the good thing is my daughters are doing the same mixing old and new.most of my stuff are from goodwill and garage sale but they are so beautiful and the same for the linen . For the baptism of my 3 grandsons we used my dishes, glass and linen for more than 80 people and everybody love the elegance of it.Thanks❤️

[@tori9951]

What a fun video Jennifer! Your content never ceases to interest me-I don’t know where you find your inspiration BUT I truly enjoy it! Thank you so always encouraging us to use our best. It really makes the day more enjoyable. I don’t have a letter opener (I’m the barbarian 😆) but I love good penmanship, I often get compliments on my penmanship, it makes for a nice conversation and it makes my husband chuckle when people say “her writing looks like a font” he’s heard it for years now, and it makes me feel good. Using your best has been something I have been doing now for 6 years and my favorite thing about doing this is that it is rubbing off on my family - every meal feels special and my daughter loves “setting the table” which I hope instills a love for meal time for her. Lastly, a ten item wardrobe is a game changer- truly I believe it has made these last few months of uncertainty feel manageable since it creates a healthy sense of self and beauty first thing in the morning. Thank you again for all your encouragement. This is my favorite KZbin channel and for anyone who questions this channels intent, I promise you- it truly encourages beauty, not snobbery, just try her suggestions, get out of the yoga pants, put on a pretty blouse or cotton dress and you will understand what I’m saying. 🌷💕

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you so much, Amanda! I can't imagine having beautiful writing like a font. Mine is such a mess! haha

[@DansonforJoy]

I think I “decluttered” my letter opener! 🤦‍♀️ I used to use one regularly. Now I’ll keep my eyes open for a new one. 😉 I’m pleased to report that, thanks to reading your book many years ago, my family does enjoy nice dishes, cloth napkins, pretty clothes, etc. on a daily basis. Whenever guests seem surprised that I’m offering them the use of something so “fancy,” it almost confuses me, because it has become so natural to me. Ha - that reminds me of the last time I traveled to visit my parents. They directed me to their cupboard of cups and glasses to select one for my water, and I delightedly chose a beautiful crystal water goblet and continued using it for the rest of my visit. Afterward, my dad laughed and said something that made me realize he thought it was bizarre that I would casually use the goblet for water, since they only use it for holiday dinners. 😂 Anyway, GOOD FOR YOU, Jennifer, practicing handwriting. It is so worth it. ✍🏼

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Oh no! It didn't spark joy? 😂😂

[@DansonforJoy]

the Daily Connoisseur Haha! I guess not! 😂

[@kaiwindingwest]

I think some people have 'scarcity issues' and worry about using their best every day for fear it might be damaged and they won't be able to replace it. I like the motto of Pepperidge Farms cookies: "Never have an ordinary day!" ;D

[@victoriasmees5625]

I love this

[@amierikke6225]

This is a great video! When you said, “like a barbarian” I lost it! How did you know!? Lol. 🤣 Because of your videos, I’m dressing everyday in my “nice” clothes, and I love doing this! I have a few aprons I wear when cleaning and cooking, and one I’m only wearing outside when gardening. This has been a major change for me, to dress nicely, and I feel more productive and organized. I’m more myself. I have a heatproof dinning table cover I purchased on amazon that I place on the table before the table cloth. I have one every size my adjustable dining table adjusts to. I can put piping hot dishes on it and my table is protected. It is also waterproof.

[@AB-fr5lg]

1. Letter opener 2. Fountain pen 3. Nice China teacups 4. Nice dinner plates 5. Nice tablecloths 6. Nice cloth napkins 7. Elegant clothing 8. Luxury bath products 8. Good posture 9. Classic books and literature.

[@christinepetracca5201]

I agree with elevating our daily life and adding a little class. We have gotten lazy and have forgotten some of these beautiful ways of life!

[@milicamarshastefanovich3312]

In the next few weeks, we’ll be moving, and I’ve decided to elevate my in-home experience. I’m going to use my gorgeous Lenox plates daily, my crystal Waterford glasses and other beautiful pieces that I own. You’ve inspired me to use a tablecloth and cotton napkins on the daily! While I own them, I’ve only used them for holidays, which is precisely what you spoke about. Thank you for reminding us, that every day is a special day 💗

[@iahorvath]

Great reminders...I would add manners to your list, especially table manners...so important and often forgotten.

[@ashleybuffa2093]

We use nicer china everyday, I just bought Burgess & Leigh's Blue Asiatic Pheasant for this. I'm also working towards getting us using the sterling silver every day, but I don't have quite enough place settings yet. I have 9 settings, and there are 12 of us. I love using beautiful things daily, it makes cooking more fun to be able to serve it on the best dishes, and a beautiful table!

[@alcogito8287]

Replacements.com . In the meantime, supplement with the everyday, but use them.

[@margaretschaefer9786]

The suggestion to use your best dinner plates on a daily basis is nice but not practical for our family as they would quickly get chipped. Our alternative is to use them for our Sunday dinner and holidays. This way the dishes stay in good condition and we feel each Sunday is special.

[@marlena.]

I agree. And that way they're still being used and not just catching dust.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

That works too! :)

[@yvettesummers1339]

Great idea about the mail station I always open mail and dump it in the living room. I laughed when you said we don't use our good china enough. I looked over at my granddaughter who is 3 1/2 yesterday and she had amongst other sets my royal Dolton cup and saucer out on the dining room table and was having a tea party. I gave her a little jug of water and let her get on with it. She didn't break anything

[@jessieelliott3157]

As I listened I was writing a recipe out using a pen my Mum gave me. It's a stick she found, sharpened the end and painted the tip. She bundled 5 of them together with string and gave them as a gift with some ink to dip them into. They work well and look earthy and artsy. Not elegant though unfortunately. Now to work with ink stains on my finger. I forgot letter openers exist. I think my husband has one in his junk drawer. I'm inspired to put it to use. Thankyou.

[@saundrajohnson1571]

I always use my letter opener. It's so much easier on my hands & nails. I don't own a fountain pen, unless I still have my mother's. If I do, it's been in storage for nearly 30 years. 😔 I do use table linens on my small, but beautiful table. I tend to eat off my lap in front of the TV these days. But when my things are available, I change them & my centerpieces monthly, according to the seasons and holidays. For now, these things have been in storage, out-of-state for two years. 😔 Nice dishes, again in storage. But yes, I'd save them for special occasions. Clothing... In the winter, I live in soft, plush lounge wear at home. But all are presentable & pretty enough, I don't mind being seen in them. In the summer, it's dresses. Usually dresses that have been culled from my wardrobe, due to a light stain or a small hole. Usually, the imperfections are not terribly visible, and only known to me. Most people think I dress nicely. 😄 The only remaining item I can remember from the list are tea cups. All I've ever owned go with my nicest set of dishes - my mother's wedding gift from 1954, I believe. Feminine and beautiful, but never used, and again, sadly stored away for nearly 30 years. A long story goes with why so many of my things have been stored away for so long. It's personal and I won't go into it here. Suffice it to say if I can ever get out of my current rental situation, I intend to unpack and enjoy everything again. That will be like a lifetime of Christmases! 🥰

[@gailmariage5318]

My husband's last parent died in April, his dad, and he and my mother-in-law had collected so many antiques and antique glass, that most of us, including the grandchildren, didn't have room to take. And we live over 1,000 miles away. A lot of glassware ,that was beautiful was sold at an auction last month. My in-laws china, the whole set, sold for one dollar. It was heartbreaking that all of their collections, sold for so little. I cried when my sister-in-law told me how little they sold for.

[@elizabethventurini8088]

I live in the desert and see lots of stunning beautiful china sets made in England selling at thrift shops for nothing.A lot of people do not appreciate these beautiful things handed down generation from generation that we will never see again in our lifetime. They would rather buy crap from discount stores

[@loxleybattle2591]

Dear Jennifer, I have gotten pretty good at using my “best” things regularly, due in part to your books, and it definitely adds more comfort and happiness to my day. Lately though I have accrued several candles as gifts and haven’t been lighting them because I was waiting for a special evening or event but now I have lit one and am enjoying it as I have my computer time. Don’t wait for a special day- instead, make today special!

[@graceweiland6089]

Speaking to the posture: I am in physical therapy school currently. One of my professors cues us and clients to "push your head up toward the ceiling" and that helps activate muscles and properly align everything

[@gailmariage5318]

Thanks for that tip!

[@brianjronk11]

Lovely video Jennifer! Your skin is looking so fresh and clear and you are absolutely glowing! I only own about half of the items you listed but the ones I do own we make a point to use! We have instituted Sabbath Dinners every Saturday night where we have a formal dinner to help prepare our hearts for worshipping the next day at church. It has been such a blessing to our family! My girls love to set a formal table with flowers and candles. They also use the napkin folding techniques that they learned in Connoisseur Kids!

[@franapple2528]

I love the peace I feel as I listen to you...

[@gailmariage5318]

Yes, your voice and demeanor are very soothing. Thank you.

[@susan9522]

I recently purchased some elegant crystal on eBay. I’m now enjoying the juice glasses, cocktail glasses and iced tea glasses on a daily basis. Watching your videos inspires me. Tablecloths are on order, and since paper napkins are among the scarce items, looking to order cloth napkins, too.

[@NikkiSchumacherOfficial]

Books! Such a good blessing to slow down and read a beautiful book.

[@jmcast3195]

I have a book that is 200 years old called Emmeline the Orphan of the Castle written by Charlotte Smith. My mom had the Huntington Library restore it about 20 years ago since it is a keepsake. Anyways, we are a homeschool family and this very old book became our read aloud. The vocabulary and sentence structure is very complicated! But it has been nice to read from this old book and not just deem it too precious to ever crack open.

[@sharonr5848]

Your advice reminds me so much of a Dear Ann Landers letter from years ago. The man wrote in about his much-loved wife who had recently died. When he was going through her things he found a beautiful slip in her drawers wrapped in tissue that she had never worn. What a waste -- she never enjoyed wearing this lovely item of clothing. What good did it do her sitting in a drawer? When we save things for the "special" times and events in our lives, they have a way of never coming. We should enjoy what we have now.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes! That is a great example of why we shouldn't save our best for later...

[@gailmariage5318]

I read that post also.

[@kathrynhemstead7251]

Gosh, I do nine out of ten things every day, yes every day. We use pretty placemats instead of a tablecloth. This is a delightful list and I hope others try each and everything on your list!

[@elizabethgonzalez2701]

Thanks to your advice i start wearing my black silk nightgown, my daughter said "mom you look like a rich mom"

[@lisapeterangelo1714]

I've been using my grandmother's Currier & Ives plates since I was on my own. The blue design for everyday and the green design for " Sunday Special". It's a lovely way to stay connected to someone I loved.

[@jessicafjohnston23]

Unused bath products, that’s totally my mom. Haha.She had some of them for years purely for decoration.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

The women in my family too. Never use the bath products I give them! haha

[@elinarajaniemi]

Dear Jennifer, it feels like you are reading my mind. I watched this video in my living room and right in front of me is a cupboard I inherited from my late grandmother (an elegant lady indeed, who always wore a beautiful hat, when she left the house). In the cupboard, there is a gorgerous china (that she painted herself) she left for me and the tea cups and pretty plates are literally stearing me in the eyes! I suppose it is time to be brave and give them some good use ☕️ Thank you so very much for constant inspiration and enjoyment💗

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Elina!

[@chrisoulalakkas7935]

Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you once made. If you want different results, make different choices.

[@kathycusumano2445]

FANTASTIC! WELL SAID, COULDN'T AGREE WITH YOU MORE!!

[@luba-healthywithluba6866]

Using nice table linens adds so much to the beauty and elegance of a meal. I purchased both at an estate sale for under $10.

[@LesReadBooks]

Love this list. I am such a minimalist I really only have things that I use on the daily that are pretty boring. I may need to start switching those things up. Great gift ideas for Christmas and Birthdays. (I will say that during quarantine I have been wearing makeup most days as it makes me feel human and it reminded me that I like wearing it for myself, not just for other people. I deserve to use the best! I don't mind if I run out. That just means I enjoyed my expensive products.)

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Leslie! I list your channel in the description box today xx

[@LesReadBooks]

the Daily Connoisseur thank you so much! I appreciate that!

[@dirgniflesuoh7950]

1. Letter opener, I have more than one, but I tend to use a kitchen knife, or whatever, depends on how important the letter. 2. Fountain pens . Used them all the time once, and a calligraphy set, nowadays I write very little ... 3. Nice China tea cups. Somehow we accumulated a very nice set of mugs, that are individual, but the same, and so the cups get used for serving pannacotta ... And on Christmas, Easter, and birthdays 4. Nice dinner plates, we use them all the time. We have some old chipped ones that are used in the microwave, and for odd things. 5. Nice table clothes. I have a lot of them, and a lot of them are wrong proprtions for our dinner table, that has unusual dimensions. But the veneer is thin, so I like to protect the table. 6. Cloth napkins mostly I use them in my bread basket. Some of them I just have two of. 7. Nice clothes daily ... Not nice dresses so much, or my better trousers 8. Actually I threw a lt of such stuff decluttering because it had gone bad, so yes I agree use it or give it away. 9. posture is good for breathing ... 10. Good old books ... There are so many new books I want to read. I used to reread certain books all the time

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

That white v necked blouse is beautiful!! If a teacup is too small for you, try a breakfast teacup and saucer. They're much bigger and more satisfying!

[@cynthiamoyers9805]

I am making a concentrated effort to keep the art of letter writing alive in the children within my realm of influence. It is thrilling to see a young person desire to learn how to write cursive and write to loved ones.

[@nazihaaili7327]

Love your advices ❤❤ very chic lady finally Someone classy and elegant

[@margaretwhitt3851]

I do use a letter opener. Having worked in an office for many years I know the value of good, well-weighted letter opener! Regarding fountain pens ... when I was in 2nd grade (in the 50's) we were required to bring a refillable fountain pen to school along with a bottle of ink for our personal use. Using that fountain pen we were taught cursive writing. What many people don't know is that a fountain pen that a person uses regularly adapts to the user. It sets a slant at the tip according to how the user forms his/her letters and becomes a very personal item. If someone else were to attempt writing with the pen it would give an "awkward" feel. Ahh. Now I've shown my age. :-) Thank you for your lovely tips, Jennifer.

[@anye76]

Can I add furniture to the list as well. My great grandma had a living room ( the parlor as she called it) that I sat in 1 time because I was being sneaky. I got to sit on the sofa but not the giant wingback chairs. The room didn't get use. It was her nice expensive room no one was allowed in. It was tragic to me. I think we should enjoy our homes and spaces. Never too late to improve penmanship, I'm doing the same💕😁

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I need to do part 2!

[@KristynLorraine]

My friend's grandma kept her good furniture in plastic covers. She sat in a threadbare recliner. When she passed away they were like brand new after 40 years. One of the newlywed grandkids has gotten good use out of them.

[@anye76]

@@KristynLorraine good thing they were able to use it😉

[@gailmariage5318]

@@KristynLorraine That's awful.

[@karladoyle6241]

My friend keeps a basket of cloth napkins with napkin rings in a basket by the table, everyone picks their own for each meal. Of course ,there are favorites so there is a fun "who gets the elephant napkin ring game". When they are washed, she slips them back in the napkin rings and back in the basket, no folding. Also If you find older napkins at estate sales, get the larger sizes, the small ones aren't very helpful.

[@MLisaDenning]

Karla Doyle I love the idea of the basket ready to go with fun rings. Such a good idea!

[@hellensiemens3028]

Good ides. It was very encouraging because I find I already do most of these anyhow. I got rid of my coral kitchenware when my last kid moved out and my beautiful pottery became everyday dishes and my China dishes for weekends along with proper silver ware, and always napkins and cloth linen. The letter opener will come out of my desk though. We do cloth hankies too. And when COVID struck I began reading through my classic book collection starting on letterA. I still have lots to go. My adult children tease me a little because my table do not have plastic containers on it. I like jam, yogurt etc in a nice container no cream carton on my table either. I think these things communicate care . I am ready to start working on the 10 item wardrobe. I have a long painful road to go there.

[@gerigowers8318]

I rotate using my pretty tea cups and saucers. I love picking which one I'm going to use when I do drink tea. Haven't read any of my nice leather bound books on the shelf. Going to buy the cursive book - always working on my handwriting and when I see someone that writes beautifully, I always try to incorporate something into my handwriting. I also have calligraphy books, pens and ink that I haven't used in years - have to bring them out again too. Thanks for the reminders.

[@kathleenmcgimpsey7855]

New subscriber here and loving your videos. Yes light the scented candle ! I’m Irish and I always remember going to a wake as a child and during a viewing of a body I remember a relative saying “ Oh doesn’t she look well” and my mother replying “ Well that’s because someone finally put her best dress on her. “. You are right let’s wear our best every day and use those items instead of saving them for just special occasions.

[@christiejean2653]

Funny story about an elegant item I have and never use... I got these really pretty Christmas tea towels a couple years ago and they sat in a drawer, unused. The other day I made cinnamon raisin bread and since I'm trying to not use plastic wrap, a tea towel was the perfect thing to wrap it up, since it's bigger and nicer than my everyday dish towels. My husband walks into the kitchen and goes, "uhhh do you miss diapering or something because I see you put a Christmas diaper on the bread..."😆🤣

[@sherylgifford9387]

I keep my teacups on my Great Grandmother's hutch . . . and I use them according to what color appeals to me that day! I even serve small portions of cottage cheese or yogurt, or other snacks I have prepared for myself and my husband. Then, put it all on a fun tray and you have a more satisfying experience.

[@silviagregorowicz4786]

Fancy paper stock! I JUST started using this beautiful stack of papers I received when I was TEN! I'm now in my FORTIES!!!

[@lucianaoliveira-de2ju]

you change my life! and i m just 26 years old ❤ thank you ❤

[@athenamissinghome619]

So proud of you! The world needs more woman like you, who understand this and pass it along. Fragile femininity is the most powerful thing there is. God bless.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you so much, Luciana. You made my day!

[@suzanneturley4433]

What a super video. I scored 6/10 of the list, but I no longer have a fountain pen nor cloth napkins. I am also guilty of not wanting to open special bathing products but I totally agree that they should be used and as you say, before they reach their use by date. My posture I am working on greatly as I have a back massage monthly loosen up areas of my back that have become knotted. My favourite of your list was No 3. I have always drunk tea out of a cup with a saucer, but I don’t mind coffee in a mug but chipped...oh no, if I spot anything chipped in my china cupboard, then it is straight into the bin. My mum always said that chipped china harbours germs and the same was said at Domestic Science College. They can’t both be wrong. Thank you for taking the time to put this video together.

[@jacirogers9109]

I use my silverware every day. I have some sterling and some plate. I collect mostly late 1800’s pieces.

[@pamlong448]

Quite a few resonated with me. I too use cloth napkins and table linens and love how it elevates my dining. In fact when I do go into my office, I pack my lunch, eat off of dishes and bring a pretty Tea towel to serve as my table cloth. Another thing I have started doing in the past couple of months is to drink my water from a nice glass instead of a water bottle. I find I drink more and it taste better. I hope you will do more of this type of video in the future. It’s a good reminder of how the simple things can enrich our lives greatly!

[@kate30monroe]

I grew up in a house afraid of braking a dish "must handle with extreme care." We use a beautiful reproduction of blue willow pattern for daily meals, with tablecloths. I have started using my nice china on Sundays and setting the table with flowers. I just finished reading Sherlock Homes, It is a good read I certainty couldn't employ his methods in my life, how ever my Daughter and I have been watching NCIS and we pause about 10 minutes in to discuss who has done the crime. This book as well as Shakespeare I am encouraging her to read this year.

[@xochitlpv8849]

Jennifer, thank you for another lovely, thought-provoking video. I always thought I was the type of person who didn't find it necessary to enjoy life's little luxuries. But now I realize how a little effort can really upgrade our lives in such a beautiful way. I would definitely like to pick up some beautiful dishware and I also think my wardrobe needs help. It's not really comfortable or flattering! I need some clothes that make me feel inspired! I think I would also like to find a good quality pen for journaling. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's day!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you! Happy Mother's Day!

[@meghandavitt1618]

Another great video! 😊 A few years ago I began using the phrase "live the life you would like to read about" to make changes in my life. I began curating my life. Little things like those you mention here have made a huge difference in the way I see myself and how comfortable I feel in my own home. Using a letter opener gives one great satisfaction. Am I the only one who loves that they are essentially little daggers we are using to carefully cut open an envelope?! My inner victorian gothic thrills each time. I'm probably reading too much Sir Arthur Conan Doyle and Bronte. 😄 But they're classics and we should be reading more of those, right?

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I love that, Meghan!

[@LoriSkees]

I have started using a tablecloth and it makes me happy!

[@aprilh5186]

I have a milk glass collection passed down from my grandmother and I have collected additional pieces while thrifting. When we started hosting weekly family dinners with grandparents and local Aunts and Uncles I put out my milk glass plates. At first several people were hesitant and even asked "are you sure you want to use these, paper plates would be fine" but I love them and if you love something you should enjoy it! We did have one break but that was because we weren't thinking and put it in the microwave. PSA: vintage dishes are likely not microwave safe!

[@HarrisPilton789]

I have been making a concerted effort to use all of my things this year. I’m using my tea sets and china. I always use a letter opener for mail and Im using my personalized stationery more often. I’m using my table linens and wearing all of my clothes. Every item must be worn at least once. I have a large wardrobe.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I also use my sterling flatware as my only, everyday cutlery. When I needed to replenish my everyday stainless set 10 years ago, I discovered that it was nearly the same cost as adding to my sterling collection, so I bought the pieces I needed in my sterling pattern, and didn’t get any stainless. I really enjoy using my sterling at every meal, it is so much nicer.

[@valerieannrumpf4151]

I do wear my elegant clothing to work and I do use my elegant bath and body products every day, it's a little treat to myself.

[@paulajohnson7075]

I do so love to see you in that beautiful floral top, Jennifer! This was a very interesting list, and I agree with you about using our beautiful and elegant items. That is something I learned to do years ago, and I derive great delight from doing so. When we traveled to England for our 50th wedding anniversary, we purchased some Wedgewood China from the Wedgewood factory, after enjoying a tour and tea with our British hosts. On my husband's recent 83rd birthday we used the cups and saucers, teapot and plates for an elegant breakfast. I love serving my grandchildren on pretty dishes, and the girls love to choose table settings from a variety of pretty selections I have. I use two letter openers: one is a carved, lightweight wooden one that a teenage girl designed and gave to me and the other is totally utilitarian but zips those envelopes open straight and true! :) I am glad you encourage us to use our elegant items; how clever to include our posture! :)

[@dailyequanimity]

Thank you for this lovely way to start the day and I am grateful for the reminder to use my grandmother's letter opener and be less of a modern-day barbarian! Starting today, I will go to my desk, where the letter opener is stored, and use this for my elegant mail station. As for nice china teacups, I use these daily for my coffee and tea and I generally use a saucer with a folded paper towel underneath to manage any spills and noisy clunking and it looks pretty. Yes, to good posture as I adjusted at this moment, and I may begin to use cloth napkins rather than the paper variety. So many excellent ideas on how to add elegance every day.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I understand about the spills, Vicki!

[@aprilh5186]

I would like to add special cookware to the list. I just made a carrot cake for Mother's Day and was about to bake it in a simple cake pan when I remembered a bundt pan I have with a beautiful design! It really got me thinking about other special cookware or baking dishes I rarely use.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes! I'll have to put that in part2

[@lisa-qd6bh]

Hi Jennifer! This video couldn’t have come at a better time! I was switching out my seasonal clothes this morning, and I was actually excited to see some of my dresses from last spring/summer. It was like opening a wonderful gift. Even though my plans continue to involve not leaving the house, I’m going to wear one of those dresses tomorrow. I also was planning on sewing some masks for my family. When I looked into my fabric stash, I found beautiful patterns I forgot I had. Now I plan on making some simple fabric napkins while I have the sewing machine out. That way they can add some beauty to our meals each day! Thanks Jennifer!

[@jenniferlamontleo6114]

I love to shop in antique shops. Next time I go, I will keep my eye out for a letter opener.

[@andreaboyd111]

I have tablecloths, nice clothes, posture, and books...everything else on the list looks fun to use.

[@18daisydoll65]

Ouch!!! You hit the nail on the head with this... apart from the letter opener, I said yep that's me to every single one of these. I'm off to change my slovenly ways😘

[@kristiLB93]

Amen to all of this sister! Now is the time to life our best life and things! God gave us only one life to live! My husband and I are taking this head on now. Why did I wait so long?!!

[@marissajones1840]

I really applied this with the clothes I've really been trying to dress more feminine as my normal dress rather than special occasion dress I've been wearing a lot more simple elegance clothing and sundresses and I love it, I love the way it makes me feel, I feel pretty

[@AMcDub0708]

Southern granny’s use their fancy dishes on Sundays 😊

[@katiethomas5889]

I have some lovely jewelry from my husband and my parents, we don't go out much and with 2 kids I usually do not dress up much. But I want to start looking more put together, so there is hope!

[@stacyb6461]

These are great lessons. My mom loves to lock all her nice plates in a cubbard for what reason I’m not sure. I think it’s a waste of space. I dong own any fine China because I love to use my things. If I ever get a set I will make sure we use it once a month for Sunday dinners. I’ve learned to use my stuff in this lifetime as each day is a gift. I use my bath products, expensive perfumes and even my purses while on walks during this quarantine.

[@MA-iu5hu]

Agreed, people deny themselves so much possible pleasure in not using and appreciating their pretty things

[@amandazplace5663]

Thank you, Jennifer! Such an uplifting video for these times. I have not done very well in the "dressing presentably" department while in quarantine as so many things have shifted up & down the priority list. But, I have been doing many projects around the home, using what I already have, to stay mentally strong & positive. Even if you don't have a dollar extra to spend, you can find ways to add class & beauty for yourself & family. 🙌🙌

[@deannab9511]

I don't have a letter opener or a fountain pen but I do use my china and table linens every day! Thanks Jennifer

[@SweetAndSimpleHome]

I love my cloth napkins! It’s all we use! I have 24 white ones I picked up second hand for $4 and a set of six dark green as hand me downs from a friend. They are very pretty and easy to clean. I make my own bath products and I’ve really enjoyed treating myself in the evenings with these days at home. ☺️ You know I also love my classics! Molly and I read Pride and Prejudice together in April- it was so fun. Thank you for sharing!

[@megan2176]

My mom passed down her "good dishes" to us years ago, and we used them all the time, mostly because we needed extra dishes and I didn't want to buy them. I think she was actually kind of offeneded and thought that I didn't consider her "good dishes" good enough for special use. I heard the tip to "use the best everyday" years ago, and followed that rule, and my mom just didn't understand. The dishes are all gone now (broken one by one over the years), but I don't regret it at all. We now have a nice set of simple white dishes that we use daily and on special occasions. Like you said, there are other ways to make special occasions fancy (tablecloths, special napkins, etc). :)

[@BeyondClaire]

Small lemon/water bowls clean fingers before they hit the cloth napkins. ❤️

[@cm-nj]

I've been trying to use my best things (inherited antiques mostly). Recently I broke 2 glasses in one week! Even with the occasional loss of a piece, I'm still happier seeing these beloved items being used and appreciated daily than packed away!

[@Butterflybleu14]

I use a letter opener & fountain pen daily, but guilty of saving delicate china, best linen & best clothes for special occasions; that said I always wear clean and tidy clothes daily. I always use scent and good cleansing products daily too! As you said if you save best bathroom products they go off before you've used them, so smell nice daily and use scent and smile too! 🙂