10 Ways to Keep Calm and Remain Classy in 2023

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I hope you enjoyed today's video! Thank you to Beam for sponsoring. Click here bit.ly/3JOt3nT and use code JENNIFER to get 35% off your first order when you subscribe and then 20% off all following orders. I would love to know your tips and strategies for keeping calm. Leave your experience with this subject in the comments below. I look forward to hearing from you! Thank you for watching. Love, Jennifer

[@kimalonzo3363]

Thank you, Jennifer.

[@shannonmccoy9103]

Jennifer, I came across this lovely reading this morning and thought of what you said about praying....I thought you might enjoy this. In to Thy silent place of prayer, the anxious, wandering mind recall--- Dwell mid Thy own creation there, Restoring, calming, hallowing all. Then the calm spirit, won from sin, Thy perfect sacrifice shall be, And all the ransomed powers therein Shall go forth, glorifying Thee... Anna L. Waring

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

@@shannonmccoy9103 That is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing it with me.

[@hollywood1014]

It's 'Noblesse oblige' NOT: 'Noblesse obligé' [pronounced: obliSH NOT: obliSHAI -which would be past tense and sounds like oublié / forgotten :)

[@natasha5622]

As a person of faith, I love that you shared about prayer. This was lovely.

[@joannmoon949]

I agree! Prayer is my lifeline through everything ! Thank you for being a light Jennifer!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Always! Thank you for watching!

[@dyancollins6894]

Agree with my sisters! 🙏❤️🙏

[@leslieh3785]

💯!

[@hananeasassi6219]

I am a muslim and that’s the number 1 recommendation in Islam

[@lindahenderson1625]

When I am not as in control of my emotions as I’d like, I take a deep breath and pray, “Your words, God, not mine.” Calms me down, every time. This was a wonderful video. Rudeness is almost celebrated now. Your video provides a practical alternative. Thank you . Much success in your endeavors.

[@andreiadetavora8471]

I loved this!! Can i borrow your prayer?

[@marya.pierce5236]

"Your words, God, not mine"..... Wow, did that speak loudly! Thank you so much for sharing that! ❤️😊

[@lindahenderson1625]

I hope that you find my prayer as beneficial to you as it is for me.

[@rebeccasawyer6634]

“ You are privileged because of your conscientiousness.” Yes, so much wisdom in that phrase. Thank you for another valuable, thought provoking video. God Bless❤️

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes! Because of our consciousness. ✨

[@irislinkletter7635]

My husband has in past years in our 47 yrs of marriage there were weeks and months of 80+ hrs/week working in our company..many nights we're battle grounds between a weary mum and 3 lovely children who missed their dad and were growing independently, as they should...when things would get especially tempestuous, I did 3 things 1 Hit a dark corner for 10 seconds and cry out Lord, it just you and me and the 3 you gave me, I need you to show up...then I would look the particularly quarrelsome little in the eye and complete focus on them and whisper not just quietly but whisper......while they were still puzzled I would light a candle and turn down the lights.....here we are decades later and I see my adult children employing some of my desperate actions in an attempt to be calm and yes classy. So thank you for finding solutions that may help other harried parents out there.

[@wackthegood8884]

Hello from France! Words of wisdom here indeed. You are so right! Just a little correction on pronunciation - Noblesse oblige is pronounced as 'obleej' and not oblijay' The is no accent on the e of oblige. Thanks, as ever, for the wonderful content.

[@Runningwiththehorses80]

Thank you for Talking about your faith!!! I am a Christian too and i Love god! I also try to bring my things to hin First!!!

[@juliecarns]

Hi Jennifer, Your topic reminds me of a great Truth in Luke 12:48 For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required. Thanks for these powerful reminders today. Julie 🌷

[@laurendrake3395]

I would love to order these on a printable that I could reference! I might even have to laminate it… ha. I am also a woman of faith and prayer is so powerful, thank you for sharing on your list. Wishing you a grace filled day sweet lady.

[@toliveischrist3330]

Thank you Jennifer for all your advices, specially the “go and pray” one. That’s the one that works for me 😅

[@lauraguerin8615]

I LOL'd about the "shrinking" inside yourself to make a problem go away! Funny 'cause it's true, I catch myself curling up when I'm stressed. Amazing what some deep breaths and straightening the shoulders can do. Great reminders, thank you.

[@elisabethensor8460]

I’m in conflict with my family over my parents estate and I watched this 3x to really listen to each one fully!!! Thank you for always sharing wisdom❤

[@christiejean2653]

Wonderful tips as always, Jennifer. A few of them made me think of the recent lessons in my homeschool. My daughter has been learning about the Civil rights movement, and yesterday we read The Story of Ruby Bridges. What a remarkable little girl, to face angry mobs of people every day to and from school, and what did she do? She prayed for them, every day. We were so very moved by her story.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Wow! So powerful ✨

[@halcyondays8945]

She was so small and young but had the heart of a lion.

[@TheRealHarpoJo]

Thank you for sharing this! I love that you ended with prayer. Thank you being bold enough to say it. Sometimes I literally just gather my children when they are having a squabble and pray out loud for them. Ask for wisdom and help to be kind to each other. I love the verse in Philippians 4:6, “The peace of God which passes all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus”.

[@Thekatedelaney]

Great list Jennifer. I wrote down the the definition of Noblesse Oblige in my planner! The graphics on this video are very cute. Thanks for talking about turning to God. I don’t really talk about that either publicly, I work in an extremely secular field, but I think the world needs more faith and turning to God. 💕🙏

[@dianemoore1184]

Excellent reminders and tips. I have really been working on my internal reaction as well as external response. It’s hard but worth it. And yes, always with God’s help.

[@bria1107]

Thank you for sharing these great tips Jennifer! Prayer is always number 1 for me as well. God has certainly done a great work in my life in this area. I can't wait to start implementing some of your other tips! blessings

[@gracegirl3]

Such wonderful tips you shared Jennifer! I wrote them down. This is just what I needed so God provided through you, thank you! 🌷 Words of wisdom, pray before anything you do. God is in control, He is always faithful. His word & His promises are true. May He bless & keep you. ♥️

[@-living4jesus4ever-]

My favorite tip is pray. Yes and amen! God gives us His Holy Spirit as the wonderful counselor so at all times we have His discernment, guidance, self control, and comforting presence at all times as we remain in Him. What is the lovely little piano melody that plays at the end of your videos? It’s so enchanting and beautiful. ❤

[@carolinehackett5141]

Jennifer, I’m convinced that our brains are on the same wavelength. I’m writing about noblesse oblige and evidence of it that I’ve found in the French archives…literally was just writing about it 5 min before I watched your video!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

We are in alignment! 💫

[@christiana_mandalynn]

💛 I really needed these reminders. I am fairly good at # 1, having started doing that when I was a teenager, but the others I need to work on. Especially in a time when rudeness and crass/reactive behavior is almost celebrated, let us press forwards with dignity and grace, and try to take the high road. I’m not kidding when I say I try to use these techniques as a mom, amidst difficult days with kids when it’s so much easier to yell… That “nobless oblige” is also quite profound if you apply it to a mother/child circumstance. 🥺 are we not adults who are to show restraint amidst difficulty with children? We have higher, more rational brain capacity. We are “privileged” compared to little children who are still grasping this. This is truly something to reflect upon.

[@elainemiller2690]

This was just what I needed to hear today! I have a very crabby toddler who’s recovering from the flu and tries my patience to no end. Thank you so much for these practical tips to remaining calm and classy.❤

[@joannmoon949]

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[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

It really is a wonderful product. Works so well.

[@martybontumasi5058]

This is such wonderful sage advice for staying calm. I made a list during your video, so I would remember. (You know what they say about writing things down.) Thank you, Jennifer!

[@Miriam-qb4cr]

Great tips, dear Jennifer. I’m a quiet and calm person but sometimes when I feel someone os annoying me several times, I loose control. It’s true what you’ve said, I always regret it. Wishing you and all friends here a beautiful weekend ☀️

[@amandabrown4895]

I love all of the Bible references. Thank you!

[@galinawasiczko8824]

Very good! Thank you!

[@lissetsanchez5316]

Thank you Jennifer for this video. I loved that you mentioned prayer. It is a powerful tool 🌺

[@molly9732]

This is brilliant. Thank you, Jennifer. I’m saving it so I can listen to it many times again.

[@iiawatha]

I love that this video has become a yearly things. It never hurts to hear this lesson regularly ! I loved the other two you did about this topic and this one is great as well. Thank you very much Jennifer 😊

[@moniquelacroix1706]

Great tips, Jennifer, and really helpful! The one tip I prefer is the last one: pray. When I feel anger or frustration building up, praying is the one thing I automatically do. It’s not a long prayer, because in those heated moments, a short one is the only thing I’m able to do! It usually consists of asking God for his help! He always responds, but I must say that I’m not always able to listen!!!! That’s why I find all your tips so helpful and will use them for sure! Thank you for bringing grace, good manners and elegance to our world! I appreciate it so much!

[@AniaBumba]

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[@ramonaritz7815]

Thank you❣️ I must say that I have been saying to myself over and over again, "My ships come in over a calm sea." This has helps me so much and it is so true by every sense of the word. I had someone tell me about lowering your voice in confrontation because that makes the other person quiet down too because they can't hear what your saying if they are being loud. Both of these things work very effectively as I have been trying them out and it has been working.🙏🌍🙏🌎🙏🌏

[@mommabear5059]

#1 is difficult for me because I detest bullies and keyboard warriors. When I see people use the anonymity of the internet to release their real world frustrations and venom on others, I feel like I’m going to explode. I’m working on that within myself…..but it is sooooo hard.

[@sheetalmulay]

When I became quite my daughter knows something is wrong 😊 without saying a word. you are so very right. Love all the tips. Saving the video. Going to watch it every weekend before starting new week gracefully. Thank you

[@j.r.7716]

Wrote down all of these tips. So helpful. My favorites are pause and pray. ❤️

[@heartsandmindsathome]

Empowering! Thank you 💛

[@heather5926]

#10 is my favourite. God bless, Jennifer. God will always work all things out for good for those who are called according to His purpose.

[@helenevans9332]

Great advice. Thank you 🙏

[@marep5597]

These are such great tips and great reminders of how to handle difficult moments.

[@kellieliacopoulos8005]

Good Morning, Jennifer! I so appreciate the tips! I tend to bubble up on the inside more than the outside, so this was especially helpful! Thank you! See you tomorrow! :) With love, Kellie

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Kellie! See you tomorrow!

[@calluna7065]

Oh no! She said PRIVILEGE!!! I joke…well done on “noblesse oblige”.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

😅

[@Rosie_C]

I can testify to #10! I have absolutely done that before, and my friends thought I was silly at first - especially if they didn’t share my opinion that it was something to be upset about - but they still say it is better than reacting wrongly.

[@oliviaknight1123]

You are just lovely Jennifer, you make me feel better and soothed. I aspire to be as composed and measured as you are, you really are an inspiration. Thank you 😊

[@bellavita2484]

Such helpful tips! Thank you so much! You truly are an inspiration. I also love that you included scripture and the reminder to pray. God bless 🙏🤍

[@kimberleykroeker5972]

The last tip was the best and definitely one I need to work on. Thank you!!

[@AshleyCraigDiazRealtor]

I so appreciate you sharing your faith with the last tip. Being in the midst of competitive sports with our son, these tips will definitely come in handy!

[@heidi770]

Thank you Jennifer for the excellent content.

[@sarahsoderberg4741]

I think all 10 of your tips are spot on, and are such good reminders for me. Thank you for sharing!

[@robyn3349]

Thank you, Jennifer! First class 10!

[@saskiavisser1279]

This was beautiful and helpful.

[@robyntalamo8324]

So beautiful! Thank you for the advice and I loved the last tip. Such a wonderful reminder. Wonderful tips. Love your books and videos!

[@jilly8372]

This is a beautiful video.

[@bridgestowisdom]

Amen! All excellent tips! 🙌🏽😇💖🙏🏽

[@caraboska]

Thank you for this edifying video. You have evidently figured out that "noblesse oblige" (note: the E at the end of "oblige" is silent) means "nobility obliges". This seems to be a short expression of the Scriptural principle "To whom much has been given, from them shall much be required." (Luke 12:48) A timely and timeless reminder. Thank you again and God bless you!

[@leslieh3785]

Thank you for this important reminder!

[@amberrr_v]

Oh Jennifer, such a beautiful and inspiring video as always. As a mom of two boys under two, I get rude & inappropriate comments daily whenever I take them out and about. I always greet it with a smile and happy attitude- it usually diffuses their judgement immediately. I loved that you incorporated prayer, amen to that. The ultimate way to find peace in our crazy lives! Thank you for such a wonderful video ❤️ loved every second.

[@21972012145525]

Why and what rude comments?!

[@andreiadetavora8471]

Rude comments? About children????

[@amberrr_v]

When your babies are close together in age, strangers find it acceptable to make inappropriate/sexual comments about “bad” family planning. Such as, “you know how babies are made right?” or, “well you certainly couldn’t wait very long.” And much worse. I’ve had a stranger come up to me at a restaurant while my family was eating and say, “how awful” it was for me to have them close together in age. I’m not going to list every example as they are often very sexually inappropriate. So as I said earlier, I usually just smile and make a positive comment about how they’re already inseparable best friends. This usually diffuses the confrontation or judgement.

[@21972012145525]

@@amberrr_v I am shocked at that. I think in that situation it is definitely appropriate to get angry if it’s coming from strangers

[@andreiadetavora8471]

@@amberrr_v That's so rude of them!!!!! My heart goes to you and your little ones! It must hurt so much when you hear them say that :( Its beautiful to have kids together in age! They can play with each other, its so much fun for them. And their bond!!! Oh Amber, i'm really sorry... May they be blessed

[@dhvh6580]

These are so great! Thanks, Jennifer.

[@candecarro]

This is a great presentation, much appreciated.

[@AB-mz2ev]

Your 10th solution is the most effective for me! Thanks.

[@jessieelliott3157]

I remember 'noblese oblige' from the scarlet pimpernell. I LOVED that movie.

[@terryriley7490]

This just happened to me...instead of me lashing out to this person I remained classy and said nothing!!! That says alot

[@Amanda34952]

Thanks, Jennifer. I needed this so much. I need to do better about going to the throne ✝️ instead of the phone when times are stressful.

[@jenniferp403]

Your point about noblesse oblique (sp?) reminded me of the book A Little Princess by Frances H. Burnett. Sara is always trying to act like a princess would.

[@tcb1672]

Dear Jennifer, I love #9 (Smile) & #10 (Pray) these ALWAYS work for me. I use the smile technique with my son, it always works.

[@vanessamay3689]

Of course. He’s your delight and delights in you and he reflects that delight back at you.

[@cindybauman3008]

Very good reminders for me to hear! Thank you for this today!🌸

[@EliseRoseCrochet]

Welp, I wish I had watched this video about an hour ago! 😅 Love all these tips and will be using your suggestions in the future! ❤️

[@DG-pu1lp]

This is very good advice. Thank you Jennifer.

[@shannonmccoy9103]

Oh I loved this...thank you for the words of wisdom and the reminder to pray.

[@esta1ful]

You are so right

[@debbiesedgley100]

Thanks Jennifer. Love this! You're a great inspiration! X

[@leighmatthews9713]

Super. Thank you. I would add that fear is often involved. My favorite verse from 2Timothy - “ For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but rather one of power, love, and self-discipline.” Absolutely love your videos ❤

[@dickietalmage7918]

Second time I have listened to your video! I may make a poster and read it every morning! Such good advice. I feel better and hope to be a better spouse, and friend 🙏

[@elizabethelizawker8212]

Thank you Jennifer! Love these tips and love you ❤

[@janeburkhart4051]

Prayer is always the answer. 🙏❤️

[@ourforsurelife3334]

There were so many great points in this. But the tips I'm going to try the hardest to do would be finding Bible verses for affirmations, Pray, talk quieter (I've tried this in the past, and I just end up yelling, which I hate), and smile. I love that one, I've never thought to do that. So I think that will help a lot. Thank you, Jennifer, for sharing these tips!!! 🩷

[@Rositasparks]

Fabulous and helpful advice ❤Elle

[@kristinaali2050]

Such a wonderful video! Thankful you added prayer into this video. I will be saving this to come back to!

[@MustardSeedish]

You reminded me of this verse. Beautiful wisdom as always Jennifer. "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

[@kimgordon3695]

What a wonderful reminder. This will definitely allow us to elevate our response Lady Jennifer! #CALM

[@gaileenpeters8206]

Hi Jennifer, Thankyou for you 10 tips. I’m a high school teacher and at times teaching teens can be frustrating. Your tips are so helpful. Some a general behaviour management strategies, and your video is a timely reminder. ❤😊

[@dickietalmage7918]

I needed this advice! Thank you so much!

[@keekac3119]

Wow!! This is SO timely! I really needed this on Tuesday but have written all this down. Thank you Jennifer!! I am a pastor’s wife and often have to be slow to speak while trying to be slow to anger 💜🙏🏻

[@CherylAnderson0]

I would say I’m calm 99% of the time but this past weekend I did lose it with my adult daughter and you are so right how bad you feel afterwards. I’m still upset over it and the entire argument was over me trying to get her to see my perspective about a situation. I sometimes feel when it comes to my loved ones I have a much too high need to be understood and forget different personalities sometimes just see things totally opposite. In hindsight what a non important thing to get in a heated argument about. I feel just terrible not being a good example and arguing over something like that.

[@deannab9511]

You shared really good tips I needed this. We are a work in progress! Thank you Jennifer!

[@lauraneaves6912]

Thank you for sharing Jennifer and for getting our back ! I will definitely think of you and put these into actions. Also the book Breath by James Nestor is one of the best I've read on the topic. Everyone should read it! 💜 God bless and yes love hearing about God as I am a believer too and always running to Him!

[@jamierae3284]

Jennifer you are such a light. So much truth here, thank you for sharing faith in this. All of these combined can make such a HUGE difference in the quality of life someone has. I speak from experience... slowly learning! Thank you for the reminders

[@melaniedaniels228]

Thank you for these tips Jennifer! I've been experiencing a lot of tension in personal relationships lately so I think these will help! I'm also excited to try Beam--I do at times have trouble sleeping but don't like taking sleep aids. Maybe this will help ❤

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Melanie!

[@kimgordon3695]

People come off of the season feeling deflated & at times even feeling sorry for themselves. It's our right to protect our peace. 🙋💞

[@cv7357]

Thank you Jennifer for including bible verses & prayer with these tips. I will be rewatching this a few times and try to remember these during heated moments.

[@HeatherLaurenCo]

I so need to work on this. I can be incredibly impulsive sometimes. It’s terrible.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

You're not alone!

[@violetstarla]

Jennifer thank you so much. This is such a powerful video full of positive affirmations, you really delve deep into the subconscious practice of self control and meditation when dealing with difficult situations. All of your tips are so valuable and helpful. I can envision you writing your next book on this subject. You are an expert and I both admire and appreciate all you have to share on this subject on remaining calm and classy. It’s a skilled art really worth practicing in our daily lives.

[@jessicawarner7634]

I was heavily pregnant, trying to get my 3 year old and 1 year old into the car... long story short, a random stranger yelled something very rude in my direction. I did ignore it but it bothered me all day. I'm working on actually not caring and being able to accept God's grace for me. I ruminate a bit too much.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes, those are the ones you don't need to respond to...

[@tdean5840]

Get quiet when frustrated… that’s what they teach you in the college of education to prepare new teachers. It’s a wonderful skill!

[@kristiLB93]

I loved the tip of being Noble. Noblesse oblige. I never heard that term before. I love that.

[@mariondapsance7803]

Very good advice!!!

[@rolson1695]

This was excellent. Thanks so much for the tips and encouragement, Jennifer - your calm demeanor and loveliness are in such short supply these days, and I'm too often tempted to go the way of the rest of the world when my emotions run hot. Cheers to being ABOVE average!

[@homemakingwithdenise]

Very nice. I loved all of these tips.

[@barbaramarsh3704]

I so wish you would write a book on this subject and on how to deal with the rude behavior of others and live our best lives. Number 6 is fantastic. This was an excellent video! Thank you!

[@wendy121]

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[@kathleenbolanos]

I just watched your 8 ways to remain unbothered yesterday 😊😊