10 lessons I learned in my 20s | for anyone feeling lost :')

"Most people overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in ten years." Hi potates, I recently turned 30! As someone who genuinely enjoys getting older, the weeks leading up to the big three-oh were met with more resistance than I expected… I’m not married yet, I don’t have kids, I don’t own a house, I don’t have the things that 20 year old me thought I’d have by 30 but I caught myself and reminded myself that even though some of these boxes have been left unchecked, I've made strides in other areas of my life. So I took this as an opportunity to reflect back on all the lessons I've learned, in retrospect, from each year of my 20s. ❤️ Whether you've been around since post-it-on-wall days or today's your first time chancing upon my video, thank you for being a part of my journey thus far. Immensely grateful for you all 🥺🌱🫂💫
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[@chamont]

I’m 22, Ive been feeling lost and like life is passing by way too fast. This video has been a lovely reminder that other people experience the same things, and you just have to trust the process sometimes

[@samanthajennings1878]

just turned 23 and it feels empty and sad but there's hope

[@agdam0004]

@@samanthajennings1878 the message of this video is good but can do harm in some situations (not all of course), what i mean is, I was in such a bad place too and i was trying to do all the things those youtubers were saying that help and was trying to go out of this bad place by myself, long story short i ended up with severe clinical deppression, if you are feeling bad i would recommend you to seek profecional help: psychiatrist, if you have resources therapist (i know in some countries there is no free therapy or is very expensive), there are also a lot of channels on yt and IG accounts who are made by menthal health professionals (not coaches or whatever but licenced therapists or doctors) those can help, the worst think you can do is to follow advices given by someone who actually don't know, i really hope you are gonna be better and you really can be in a better place in the future 🙏

[@samanthajennings1878]

@@agdam0004 thanks so much kindly help me recommend therapists because in my country they're scarce and very expensive♥️ i really appreciate your assistance

[@Summer-7]

@@samanthajennings1878 same and that’s so stressful 💔

[@GummyBear5105]

Dude same Like I know I need to do something but then I get sunk back into autopilot and I’m turning 23 in May but I have grown somewhat so that’s something positive 🙃

[@luisacast1llo]

23, graduated from college 6 months ago, living with my parents right now and seeing other people from my high school that travel and live these amazing and fun lives. Feeling like I will never escape this little shell I am in.

[@goldenchipmunk]

i'm in the same exact situation as you. i'm just stuck.

[@marleneshirachhangte8722]

Same;-;

[@ASHU.ASMITHA]

My friends are earning

[@regerniquerasco7428]

I bet you will!! 😃😃 Darling!! Please take advantage of that fact thst you are back with your parents, especially if you are comfortable!!! TRAVEL, TRY NEW HOBBIES, LEARN NEW THINGS, MEET INCREDIBLY KIND & DIFFERENT PEOPLE, EXPLORE DIFFERENT CULTURES!!! Do not fall in love, well… maybe you can!! As long as you both are going in the same direction and evolving and becoming better because you are sharing life with one another! Please take advantage of such an incredible opportunity! Explore! ✨✨

[@regerniquerasco7428]

@@goldenchipmunk You are not stuck!! You have a massive and incredible opportunity on your hands to EXPLORE, CREATE & DISCOVER!!! Go for it all!! Fail forever, dust yourself off and go at it again or try something completely new!!! You have a winning hand!!! Play your card with ease and joy! Enjoy the game!!! If that makes any sense. Explore! 🤗🤗

[@MEERAXDEFRIETAS]

This was so good I slighlty shed a tear, turning 22 soon and totally needed to see this . Going from 19 -22 in a world wide pandemic has truly been a rollercoaster to say the least , always good to see uplifting and positive content .

[@soysaucetina]

girl im in the same boatttt :) turning 22 may 17. 2000 ganggggg

[@user-lm9gf2wh6t]

I'm 19 I don't know what to do I'll be in college after few months so I'll just live how the things come

[@Sihara.Liyanapathirana]

Turned 22 3 days ago. I completely understand where you come from!

[@saramari1957]

You put words to my feelings and I released them thru some tears girl

[@SaffJuno]

I'm 20 tomorrow and still living at home because I didn't want to go to uni... have no social life and struggling to know how to move out ah

[@rowanwomble5668]

I turned 20 today. Here's my takeaways: • learn to love the present as much as you idealize the future (which is hard when you're in a traumatic situation, but hopefully not impossible) • try to do things you'll be proud of in your later years. You may not know just yet, but you can guess, and you can give it your best shot. • speaking of... GIVE YOUR BEST even if it's washing half the dishes. • remember to look inward and follow whatever spiritualism is close to you. Grounding is important and helps to clear things up (I'm really trying on this one!!) • starting something is hard, but very worth it. Take some risks and find what you love. • "there is no substitute for hard work" - this one, I don't get yet. But I'm not supposed to. I'll get to find out eventually, I'm sure. • rest is just as important as work. • sometimes it's okay to go to extremes! If it helps you learn the middle, that's good. • REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE, REMEMBER WHERE YOU CAME FROM! A big one, for me. • believe in love. The realistic kind. • downtime can create the BEST ideas. Make time to do nothing and rest. • remember what your biggest (theoretical) purpose is, and try to live in a way that helps it. Partly writing all this to check in with myself through the years. I'm looking forward to growing more, and understanding more of this. It's good to watch someone else learn themselves inside and out, as it helps us to find our own path. I hope everyone reading this has a wonderful day.

[@chlnmich]

hey is your bday on March 4 too? I've also turned 20 on that day which is really cool! i luuuv ur takeaways, they help me to ponder out some things in my life out too. hope u'll also have an amazing day!

[@sabrinarachel6053]

thank you for your insights; it was really helpful reading them! I love your first point too, especially as someone who has trouble being mindful. Hope you have a wonderful day/night as well

[@saniak630]

And I turned 20, 5 days ago. This video inspires me to to not stress too much and keep learning.

[@mikei6605]

turned 21 today, on march 20th :')

[@joannekim4114]

@@anatols911 It sure was! Gonna be turning 20 as well in May. I hope for all the best for you!

[@OrangeCatsAndFuzzyBats]

Not me about to cry when you said “life is worth living”. I’m turning 25 this year and I feel like I’ve only been coasting my entire 20s up until point. I always have huge ideas of what I want to do but stop myself when the “what if’s” start flowing in my head. I have such a strong desire to be creative, but I stop myself a lot when I feel like “oh, it’s been done before,” or “oh, that’s actually not a good idea…”. I don’t want to do that anymore! I live my life so much in the future, I don’t stop to enjoy the process. Anything slightly different or uncomfortable, I tend to push it away until I get the drive again. I’m gonna keep the ball rolling. The discomfort is just me growing.

[@spiderwomen8410]

I couldn't have expressed myself better than this.. You said it all. That's exactly me, and I'm too 25 y/o. I just wish I can be more courageous/motivated and less anxious about the outcomes so I can live my life.. To live my life in real time and not projecting myself into the future, which is essentially a childhood fairy tail playing on loops, 10 years ago I thought I'd be somewhere else in life but nothing major changed since that time nothing of what I wanted or envisioned.. I'm scared I'm going to waste my whole life dreaming about a life I will never have.. That is what I want to start living my real life.. See where it takes me and be present.. Even if it's not what I dream about I still want to find happiness and enthusiasm in it.. But how? I'm lost.. I don't know what to do or where to go, no one can help in my surroundings.. It's hopeless place ( I live in 3rd world country), everyone here dream of leaving the country but I don't.. I want to find happiness in my life in real time..here..

[@seebzt]

I feel like I wrote this b/c it hits home. Well said!

[@komaljoshi7589]

I've just turned 23 last week and I feel and relate to what you wrote so deeply ❤❤🥺🥺

[@clem2023]

Exactly me. Power up, team 97' !

[@ASHU.ASMITHA]

I am 22. I am just tired of these shits of ‘what if’ recently. I just thought not to think about a lot and just what you feel. If things are meant to be yours it will probably will reach you at end.

[@barbarakuvezdic39]

I started crying when you said "You fought to live, so live" I feel like I'm not even living, just existing and I'm tired of feeling like this. Hopefully, this will change starting with this year. Wish me luck!

[@phlasaban]

Good luck ! You can do it

[@nehokerumi9290]

Good luck!!♥️

[@lonette8314]

Hope everything’s going well. I believe in you! It is never too late to start. :3

[@amritasharma2908]

did it changed? do you feel better now bestie?

[@ria1918]

This sounds a little like depression. Maybe a therapist can help? But even without one, you can still do it! Good luck, pal.

[@ralcesh250]

"Where you are now is where you once dreamed of being." This is 1000% absolutely, truly correct. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear that today. Thank you.

[@mayaleex3]

‘92 babies feeling all sorts of emotions 🥺 happy belated birthday, Ro! Thank you for also guiding me when I started my channel 💕. You’re amazing! So much has changed in the last 10 years 🥲

[@hugzpls]

I’ll turn 30 next month and yes …can’t believe it myself

[@Spreadlove2991]

Turing 30 this august😅

[@buvic3321]

'92 babies here and I cound't lie that I feel all sort of emotions too

[@opie_candoit78]

youre welcome be my friend

[@onyxstone5679]

I’m crying lol. Just turned 30 sunday

[@maple36]

I’m 19, turning 20 later this year but I feel so lost. I don’t know what to do with my life and I feel like I have to figure out my life right now. Your video was really inspirational

[@roxaneconstance4981]

same, the big turn is in june and even thought I feel like I'm sometimes getting a grasp of what I want to do, I still am swimming into this pool of self-doubt and uncertainty around everything not just my future but also my present, who I am, who is in my life... everything seems unfocused

[@toluwadamilola]

Same.. I turn 20 in August and when I see what kids my age have achieve. I feel oppressed

[@bobproctor-ev4bc]

@@roxaneconstance4981 I turned 20 earlier this year and felt a sudden sense of needing to be more mature than I was in my late teens ,LOL,to be more responsible and the fear that another 10 years would go by easily as the last one did having nothing figured out just yet. But ig I need patience. Come to think of it 20 is pretty young !!

[@joannekim4114]

I feel the same way and it's reassuring in a sense to know that I'm not alone. Let's keep going no matter what😊

[@seoyoungkimchi]

Same, i’m turning 20 soon and I haven’t been able to goto university after I graduated high school because of my family’s financial declination due to covid. I had a mental breakdown throughout the past year and a half, and honestly, I’m still trying to learn how to cope mentally with it as I feel as if I’m falling behind in life because I’m not able to goto university as I was supposed to. I’m scared of what my 20s has to offer but at the same time extremely excited! Lets all take a step in together towards the big 20s and enjoy the present and look forward to the future

[@andyyang2797]

I agree so much, I'm now 24, and not sure wtf I'm doing everyday, just everything on autopilot, doing whats needed to survive, day and night like what??? a week just passed like whoshhhh. Thank you for making the video and sharing your experience. Thank you!

[@aris7554]

I'm 21 and lost..... 😂🤧

[@nickssilver]

24 too still trying to figure it out, i feel lost sometimes too

[@harsharnkaur2075]

Yep same have no idea what I’m doing at almost 24

[@mirandapillsbury7885]

you msut practice mindfulness. please do it now. I am 28 and only felt ready and stable in life by now. I do have so many regrets that I missed out on my 20s (never partied, never dated, never hooked up, never travelled alone etc...) BUT as the old saying goes "it's never too late". That said, the earlier the better right? It will save you so much pain. I'm lucky that people still think I look 24 but knowing I am soon leaving my twenties altogether and wrinkles are starting to show up near my eyes..it does make you think more and it makes you upset you did not milk your youth

[@alexp5364]

I'm turning 32 at the end of this month. I spent 10 yrs in restaurants and decided to pursue my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor. I was doing great until the university I went to failed me and I was forced to leave school and work so I could afford staying alive. No career. No kids. No idea what to focus on. I just want to be happy and try everything as long as it's contributing to my happiness. I want to be a doctor, a chemistry tutor, restaurant beverage director, nanny, EMT, fitness coach, and I want to open my own bar concept... How do I pick? I want the flexibility of leaving things when they no longer make me happy.

[@sameerskulkarniicse6162]

All ur goals are really nice. The problem is u can't do all at once U can become a nanny by having kids U still have a lot of time U can choose whatever u want to do I understand there s a confusion ask ur self what u really want U might get 2 or 3 options Pursue them Most important part is enjoy what u do

[@Liza-wp1sm]

what about doing it in smaller time chunks or in combinations? for example, you can be a kid's doctor at a hospital or school (combining childcare and medicine), while in your free time/after work hours, giving chemistry lessons to cram schools or privately to students who aren't strong in chemistry and in weekends be a personal fitness coach, or making (youtube) videos about fitness, etc. what do u think?

[@enitjuh3344]

Read your last line of your comment. You’re looking for happiness, not a passion. As soon as you get bored, you want to get rid of it. That’s not possible in any of your wanted careers.

[@alexp5364]

@@enitjuh3344 maybe you’re right. Maybe I just wanna die lol

[@enitjuh3344]

@@alexp5364 I’m sure you deep down don’t want to die. I see you have been really contemplating for a better future, which is there. Don’t let this small ugly world let a “job” determine your happiness. I beg you, life is about so much more than that. I think you’re being too hard on yourself. That’s why you want to do that all at once, or you are afraid of something that you might have to face when something fails or doesn’t bring you happiness. You probably tend to isolate or run away when things get bad. But what is that thing that frightens you so much? It seems like a really hard question, but as she said in this video; listen to that little mighty voice, it’s trying to tell you something. And if you really wanted to die, then take the goddamn risk, what else do you have to lose? And after that, you’ll see that that biggest risk made you step out of your comfort zone & you’ll be able to handle more since it might give you motivation. Maybe try to work in a lower position of the proffered job first, so you can see if you like it. You could always leave or work your way up or see how the business goes behind the scenes, which could be beneficial if you plan to start up something. Small steps. But don’t keep yourself stuck out of fear. You’ll never get to work towards happiness; experiencing joy in what you do. Let’s not romanticise happiness, because being sad, angry or other “negative labelled” emotions are just as important. Our dumb society has learned us that those are bad emotions and we shouldn’t feel them. But happiness cannot be forced. It comes to you when you have embraced the fucked up ones too. Now my fellow human, don’t give up. Grab the magic wand and enjoy this life that you have agreed on. And remember, even if you think you made a bad mistake, you still made a good choice. Because only the wrong ways will eventually let you know what the right path is. You cannot learn without mistakes. Imagine how boring life would be if we had all the answers correct. See what life gives you as a challenge and by conquering them, you’ll become an unstoppable beast. Much love.

[@leslieandreadaluro1307]

Rowena, I just turned 23. I had a massive argument with my dad a few minutes ago. I’m more confused, conflicted, scared, etc. than I have ever been my entire life. And then I stumbled on this, crying as I’m watching it and never been more grateful for this light of hope you’re sharing with us. Thank you.

[@andreyapatinha6727]

Me being 22, watching this video makes me assured that it’s okay not to complete all the goals u need. Bc time will come for everything that you want. Every thing we go through helps shape us and helps our future self. Thank you for the amazing video !!!

[@aleidaorozco9343]

I'm turning 23 this year, I feel incredibly lost. It's been feeling like I keep working but see no results, and tbh I'm not even sure if the path I'm in is right or not. This video made me realize that it's not the end of the world being young and lost and that I can take the long way round. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I will trust the universe's timing, and keep working hard while also being compassionate towards myself, because she's doing the best with what she's got rn.

[@TheCardboardPizza]

I really appreciate this video. I'm turning 28 in a few weeks. One way your story and mine differ a bit, is that I was really miserable in college and I had no social life. I still have no social life. I've never partied with friends, had a group of people I did things with, all of that. A lot of it is just where I live. I've decided that working on my social life is my primary goal for 28, because feeling like I missed out on the good times sucks. I wish I hadn't gone to college in my hometown. My mom went through several abusive relationships that she leaned on me through, when I was in my early and mid twenties. There was so much loss, really bad poverty. Honestly I'm happy to have made it out alive and I'm doing so much better. I learned so much, but there was a lot of pain. I am SOOOOO ready to have a good time with my life, and things have finally aligned for me where I can make that happen - I'm moving to Seoul and hoping to make some friends and see some things. I've decided my thirties are going to be an adventure because I've worked so hard in my twenties, it's time to have fun before my youth passes me by.

[@ishtarestuita-chen5453]

I love what you said about your true love. That it should feel steady, safe, and calm. When I found my then-boyfriend-now-husband, one of my friends called me and asked about the new BF. She said I do not sound excited, I said I am excited about the new relationship but I am more calm and at peace with my decision and with the person. Thank you, Rowena for pouring your heart out and showing your vulnerabilities.

[@khalilahd.]

Oh my goodness HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! I’m about to turn 25 in a few weeks and I also feel that sudden dread of getting older without checking off the boxes younger me thought I would. I love how open and honest you are about such a real fear. I pray this year brings you nothing but joy, laughter and success 💜

[@am13007]

Girl I keep seeing you everywhere 😂 I guess we have the same elite taste in youtubers 😂😂

[@josefinea4765]

Same! I’m turning 25 this year too and it feels so weird!

[@lee-13]

I just turned 26

[@tanushreemishra4987]

@@am13007 ya even I m seeing her everywhere 😘

[@serenitybeats1677]

I recognize ur profile pic

[@Hannah-zw6px]

my feelings of uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety, made even worse by the pandemic, has been a main source of distress for me for the past years. hearing you narrate your journey throughout your 20's makes me feel like I'm going to be okay. I'm so glad I subscribed to your channel. You're like the big sister I never had ❤ I'm 21 but I think I'll be fine.

[@Bruzayroze]

Ofcourse you will.. :)

[@happyhippie2123]

I’m 22, almost 23 and I’ve never so lost as I do now. I feel like time is moving so fast and I’m frozen in time. I don’t know it feels like the end of the world and as if time is running out even though I’m so young, I feel like I haven’t accomplished enough in my life compared to others in their 20’s and it makes me feel immense amount of FOMO :( I really needed to hear this thank you! I’m crying as I’m watching this

[@frontlinebreakthrough5723]

I watched this at a moment when I was. I mean I am feeling very depressed. I’m feeling so heartbroken and hurt and lost in this relationship I’m in. This was. Comforting. And warm. And guiding. Thank you for making this

[@rowena]

sending you a giant virtual hug my love!! 🥹🫶 hope you're days have been a little lighter & brighter since x

[@belindaaurelia]

As someone who’s in her early 20s and struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel, this is so reassuring. Thank you🥺❤️✨

[@JudyAbbott494]

There's no light at the end. I think you just realize that it's not a tunnel after all and there's light and darkness everywhere around you

[@olinafan4459]

There is a light at the end of the tunnel if: 1. you grind leetcode 2. invest aggressively in low risk index funds like blackrock/vanguard 3. Save 80% of your income every month

[@zaheerrehman8816]

hey

[@zaheerrehman8816]

how are you

[@mayzmay]

I'm turning 26 next month and can't remember a time when I haven't felt lost :') thank you for sharing your journey, I loved hearing about how valuable your late 20s have been for you. I honestly hated turning 25 last year but I'm learning to embrace the fact that I'm aging and can't go back and do things over. I'm not sure why I'd even want to go back, because my early 20s were very tumultuous and I wasn't in a good place. Your point around not taking life too seriously and learning to live in the present hit me hard, these are definitely things I'm still learning to do. A lesson I've learned is that you can't really push or pull life in a certain direction, unexpected things happen, unexpected paths open up, and sometimes those end up being the best ones.

[@ImaniKhadijah]

I’m 21 and stumbling across this video was the best “accident” I could’ve possibly had in this moment in time! I know that this is what I need to hear right now, thank you for such a beautifully orchestrated video with so many moving moments, I will keep these lessons with me on my journey through adulthood :)

[@zaheerrehman8816]

hey

[@sofidofie]

i'm 16 and im awfully terrified of growing up. this video was so reassuring for me and i hope one day i can see aging as a beautiful thing just as you do.

[@iamgorgeous]

Same, I'm also 16 and kind of scared of growing up. I'm afraid of the idea of getting old and losing people you love as you grow older. I'm only 16 and already feel stressed, can't imagine being 20s or 30s where the competitiveness is at its finestt in the working field

[@Soulseeker0902]

OMG !! 16 and more people like me...I am amazed

[@hsuehejjw1731]

I feel the same way. I’m so fucking scared dude. I don’t even have my driver license

[@ec2032]

Me but I’m 15 and feel so old I miss my childhood so much

[@LenaD10]

I’m turning 30 this year as well! And even though the small details of our stories are different. I feel like it’s definitely a universal experience a lot of people go through; just trying to figure things out. I don’t know if I’ll ever have it completely figured out, probably not, but I’m starting to feel more optimistic and sure about myself! Happy birthday!

[@noneedtoclaireify8413]

this was what i needed to hear. i turn 21 in two weeks and i'm having a quarter life crisis. feeling lost and untethered is terrifying and knowing that i will be graduating college soon and not having a solid plan for after does nothing but add to the fear. it was so reassuring to hear that you've gone through the same thing and everything's going to be okay and that you just need to to trust the process. genuinely, thank you :')

[@hannahr4548]

I'm 27 and I'm feeling quite lost. I'm torn between 2 countries, between family and friends that are family. Trying to be productive is a chore and I totally don't know where I'm going with a job. Hearing your story was wonderful and I'm hoping that one day in the future I can look back and feel more grounded than I do today ♥️ love to everyone. One step at a time 🍀🌱

[@KristhinaChen]

im at the age 24 gonna be 25 this year 2022.... im lost, stuck with my parents who want me to get married ASAP while i still feel like i havent achieved anything. i wanna travel, i wanna go and look the world before open my heart to someone. i have trust issues... dunno who to trust but im still keep my friends i know for 1years above... usually reconnect to them. and still being nice and friendly to new peeps who i met. and i saw this video on my yt timeline. i feel relief after watching your yt. thank you so much

[@Vivalinaaa]

This helped me feel so much better. Ty. I’ve been feeling lost and stuck for awhile. I may be the oldest here. At 27 (2016), I went back to school to get an associates. Started my “professional career” at 29 (2018). Caved into lifestyle creep and had the best time of my life in 2019. Super happy, super motivated, and super confident with life to go back to school in a combined bachelors/ masters to make more $$$. End of 2019, got laid off. Got super depressed. Beginning of 2020, pandemic happened, got more depressed. End of 2020, got a job! Felt better. Beginning of 2021 fell down the stairs, couldn’t work, and got depressed again. I agree that the yo-yos in life helps create who we are but like... Does anyone else feel more lost and unmotivated between 2020-2022? I’m unsure if I want to continue grad school or focus on spending quality time versus rushed time with my family (as a single mom of 6 year old girl).

[@regerniquerasco7428]

Hello!! These recently years have been crazy, & you definitely endure and overcome some major obstacles! I’ll say… hmm, I’m really shooting for grad school if you can balance it all out! I know the achievement will really do some incredible things for your spirit! How long will grad school be for you? What will you be studying? Will it definitely be benifical once completed or can you take a different route and bring in the same earnings??

[@Shinobi926]

Your story is inspiring. I hope you do complete your bachelors. The pandemic really messed us up , still is . But we are all trying to move on and be better versions of ourselves. I’m happy coming across like minded people. Makes me less scared. I work in the hospitality industry and after lockdowns and no tourists, I’m planning to move to another country. Scared to though.

[@eona6548]

I’m still 19 and this year I’ve made the decision to grow myself before 20, and quite honestly it’s been THE hardest thing I’ve ever done. But watching this video kinda gives me hope, reassurance and especially a reminder that everything comes with time and that it’s okay to focus on one thing at a time. Maybe this year is about breaking habits and letting go, next year will be full of new things to replace the old

[@rosymaze]

Similar with me :) I’m 19, I’m gonna be 20 this year and I’m basically preparing myself for my 20s so that way I can know what to expect and really go for it.

[@millytza_]

I got teary eyes, for real. 🥺 I've been feeling so lost lately, this came at the right time. We're doing our best, potatoes. That's all we can do. 💜

[@janeosun]

^^^

[@chinny7700]

💜💜

[@MB-yb3lh]

I am turning 25 soon and feeling as lost and disappointed in life as ever… It really helps to hear from someone who has just lived through it!

[@0808charlene]

Hey Rowena, '93 baby here. I went through similar phases and I'm at resting phase after burnout. Many judged and worried my decision to quit work but only few knew I was hospitalised due to stress induced sickness. Breathing and moving caused sharp pain on my right side, slight numb on right side the doctors thought I have stroke. I'm resting...and feeling better and more reassured of my decision. Thank you for this, I feel less alone.

[@manyabee3635]

In my 25th year -- it has been quite hard to say the least. After my painful breakup this year, i've also embarked on this self love, mental health, self improvement journey. I related a lot to what you said about avoiding love to work on yourself, it's fear. I feel heard. Watching this gave me so much reassurance, thank you.

[@louera]

It's so comforting to know that you didn't find your groove either until some time later

[@Little_Kerbs]

This was such a beautiful retrospective on the growth you have experienced! Thank you so much for sharing this. I also needed this so badly, as I turn 30 next weekend. So grateful for all you do!

[@toetovocaloid]

Belated Happy Birthday Rowena! As someone feeling really lost at 22, this is super comforting. Thank you for the work that you do, and most importantly, for being you ❤️

[@zoe-xx5zm]

Rowena. Thank you so much for this video. Hearing your journey is helping this lost 23 year old realize that its okay to be lost, as long as I work towards the things I want to find. I’m feeling so disconnected and discouraged but your videos have always resonated with me and this one is no different. I’m currently crying in the bathroom at my job and I really can’t thank you enough for sharing your story.

[@mm_7202]

I just turned 38 last week. I’m guessing I’m one of the oldest who watched this video? I got married at 23, and my first born was born when I was 24. The kids have been homeschooling since end of 2015, though I’m sending them to school soon. To say the least, I’m very inspired by the young ones these days, because you guys are learning all these life lesson things when you are young. It’s a blessing. I have lost myself in motherhood (I’m a SAHM), and I’m slowly finding myself again. Time is finite, and decisions have to be made. It’s not that clear cut to decide wether to pursue what I want, find myself, when I have people whom I love rely on me greatly. But I have to remind myself, I guess my time has passed and I have to accept that my time now can’t be totally and all about me. I’m trying to find that balance 😊 All the best Rowena, you are doing great. And thanks for the video. You made me reflect on my life 😊

[@Lucy-eg6us]

Just wanted to say that your time hasn’t passed, you just have more responsibilities now and taking time for yourself can be small things too! Maybe you can join a fun community group when your kids go to school or start a new hobby you’re intrigued by. I’m not a mother, but I can imagine it’s hard to make time for yourself and I wish you luck in finding yourself again :)

[@rachaelwhite8614]

Wow!! I feel the same way as you.. Turning 39 in September...

[@mm_7202]

@@rachaelwhite8614 thank you, now I don’t feel so alone.

[@mm_7202]

@@Lucy-eg6us thanks for your suggestions 😊 yes it is not easy to find time for myself. It’s okay, I’ll keep on trying 😉

[@nana-fb4yu]

my biggest fear it to turn 20m look back and realized i wasted 10 years of my life. my problem is idk how to measure my own success and happiness, all i do is compare myself to others and what i see is that i am wasting my youth being alone and depressed. i see everyone going out and partly, travelling everywhere, meeting so many people, and just overall enjoying life. but when you are a little anxious and depressed bean, all those "perfect and ideal" ways to spend your 20s seem hard and impossible to accomplish. right now i am on the other side of the world studying for a master's i don't even like, in a country i am absolutely hating. i am turning 23 in two weeks and all i want to do is lock myself in my room and cry, cry because i miss home, cry because i feel so lost, cry because i'm tired of my mental health ruining my life., crying because i miss my dogs so fucking much haha i feel like the things i have "accomplished" so far would be a matter of laugh for most, i feel like i haven't been a relevant person for anyone, like if i disappear no one would care or even remember who i was. uff sorry that got deep. thank you for the video rowena

[@fireflies15]

I hope my warm words reach you, from one soul to another 20's soul, I believe in you, and believe that you can have a fulfilling life, it is on the horizon and is already for you ♡

[@_lublub]

This is extremely precious and touching. And reminded of the old me. I've been very lost in the past few years and thinking that I was the only one experiencing it. The truth is, no one really talks about the things they are actually going through behind the laughs. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Rowena.

[@joyliu2244]

This is so authentic and so vulnerable at the same time

[@lunabare]

Words can’t even describe how much I needed to see this video at this point in my life, thank you so much for everything you do 💖

[@ezerstudio9195]

I'm currently only partway through this video and am already finding it so beautiful. I'm in the last year of my 20's right now and am trying my best to reflect and look forward. Thanks for sharing this with us!

[@crystalsnow9620]

I knew I was gonna relate a lot the moment I saw the title. I am feeling lost right now and I know that I have so many years ahead of me but it just feels hopeless. I definitely cried watching your video and actually made me feel a little bit hopeful that everything's gonna be alright. Thank you for being an inspiration Rowena! And belated happy birthday!

[@maykruvi]

I love you Ro! I love being a part of your journey, as small as it is. You've helped me so much over the past few years, I honestly wish you all the best things the world has to offer. I appreciate you and what you do, sending you a big big hug! - from your sweetest potato 😘

[@giovannacesare7589]

I'm turning 25 in may, and this video made me reflect on everything I've experienced and lived in this first half of my 20's. I'm going through a lot of changes this year and hearing you narrate your journey throughout your 20's makes me feel like I'm going to be okay 💖

[@pallavidass9737]

This video was absolutely stunning and exactly what I needed without even realising it! I have recently just turned 21 and feel so lost! Thank you for this beautiful video and I hope your 30's treat you well!

[@nnnahcyy9705]

This is really inspiring! I'm now 27, my life journey is pretty similar to yours and now I'm slowly picking up myself again to more socialising and outings. The fear of rejection being left out is real. The past me would try to fit into any group of people, but now, I make time for the most quality group of them, and I treasure them. Thank you so much for the reminders for the past, present and future me

[@stephanietchou6292]

You made me cry… You have such a talent for telling stories. Happy belated, Rowena, and thank you for all that you share with us 💕

[@mei6605]

At the brink of 27, your timeline resonates so much with mine. I also,finally, tried hard at the things important to me…and moving at 26 also left me with so many of the same feelings. Having run away from burnout after hustling through it, it’s super eye opening to see that you need to just breathe through it, and look around. Thank you for sharing your journey, it helps identify and name things in our (my) own life

[@nicoledavid7732]

I just want to say, you’ve helped me be more kinder to myself and you’re videos and podcast help me slowy find my way into getting back into my feet. I hope you receive more blessings 🤎🤎 Love and light ❤️✨

[@maryannestorco4799]

Thank you so much for sharing this to us. This will surely serve as a reminder for me soon. I'm 19, turning 20 this year and a bit lost with life and I'm really comforted by your words. Thank you for that!

[@sydvaca]

thank you rowena! always fell less alone in my experience when i watch your content. you are helping me! i just turned 26 and have been feeling a mix of your 20s feels, so comforting to know there's so much to this journey and i'm not alone in my experience. happy belated!! also, this video was impeccable, thank you for all the work you put in gathering and editing and voice overing all these beautiful clips!

[@pnh165]

I've been following you for several years now and have really valued your work. Thank you for being the older sister/friend I needed. Happy birthday, Ro!

[@better7704]

Teared watching this.. Happy belated birthday Rowena! Thankyou for having that idea of creating a KZbin channel! Even though I am not an OG subscriber from the start, I am really proud of your journey. Thankyou for all your hard work and I am so thankful that I came across your channel and it really help me alot in term of growing as a human, learning about ways to cope with my perfectionist, anxiety and alot more. Thank you ! I don't know how my life will turn out if I didn't come across your channel♥️

[@thebeltofvenus]

i am 23, living one of the darkest years of my life since i was a child and teenager. i just typed in 'advice to get through your mid 20s' and your video was the first i clicked on. i have never watched you before. but you helped me this night. thank you for your content and following your dream of helping people; you are helping complete strangers every day. thank you and im glad i found you! happy beginning to ur 30s!

[@lyndong9508]

I love Rowena’s videos, they’re like a warm comforting hug. You inspire me to share my story Rowena and one day that will happen x

[@lynettelim8955]

I love you so much, Ro. I teared from this video because I realised how far you've come (and how far i've come since discovering your channel). I feel so connected to you all the time and you are truly the big sister I never had. Thank you for everything you do and may you continue to evolve and stay true to your most authentic self (the little voice within you). x

[@permatadwintaa5188]

I just turned 20 this month and I'm so touched watching the last words you want to say to your 20th self. Thank you for sharing your story! 🥺

[@RababAlhunaidi]

Oh girl, I was smiling watching the whole video. Been following you since 2018 and never skipped a video. Love you and proud of you.. and we appreciate the time&energy you put into this channel to help us and entertain us❤️

[@aadityadesai9564]

It's been 5 years since I am watching you Ro and today after this flashback clip it felt like this is how we grew, as you were sharing your story..it reminded me of all those memories when I was small listening to you, writing down my thoughts,listening to your voice while traveling or working, making time for self care. It's really amazing Thankyou Ro for everything. ❤❤❤

[@SaveOurselves]

I just turned 24 this month and have been realising a few of my own lessons along the way. I truly love how you put all these together so transparently ♥️

[@amols2169]

Thank you so much for this!! I'm finally taking myself seriously, and I'm so so much happier. I suffered for so long with undiagnosed ADHD, and finally being diagnosed with it and treated for it has really validated all the struggles that I've been through. I failed out of university, spent 2 years in deep self-pity and failing subsequent college classes, and then a moment of clarity hit me during 2020. I realized that I had too many of the same symptoms that people with diagnosed ADHD have, so I decided to go to the doctor and talk about it. Lo and behold, I was diagnosed in the first session after the specialist heard my entire story. I felt really angry and relieved at the same time. Relief because I was finally told that I'm not crazy, or stupid. I just had untreated and out of control ADHD. But I felt angry because it felt like all of that pain and suffering was for NOTHING!! I wouldn't have failed over and over again if I just had the support I needed. Why did no one notice I was struggling? Why did no one care? And why on earth did I have to finally do it myself when so much damage has been done? But I have decided to (and still in the process of) accept it all and forgive everyone: myself, my parents, my teachers, and my family for everything. I decided that even though I've failed over and over again in the past, I've learned from it now. My brain is just different, and I have to work with it to get the things I want. I set systems now, I'm proactive now, and I don't punish myself now. I'm so grateful for you because watching your videos sparked a desire to improve myself. Thank you for being so vulnerable and open. I wouldn't be in the place I am now if it weren't for you.

[@nomkakaii]

Hi! Happy birthday Ro- I 'suffer' from birthday blues almost every year now ever since I turned 16. Like you, I have a lot of expectations and goals that I set for myself to achieve in the next 3-5 years and as much as it is nice to dream big, it gives me a massive emotional burden to carry every year on my birthday when i see that my steps aren't big enough/ it feels like I haven't made enough progress. I really appreciate your transparency here and to be honest, I feel lost! BUt thank you for reminding me that it's okay to feel this way. i wish you all the best and let us remind ourselves that we're all taking baby steps towards our goals every day even though it may not feel like it and we need to go easy on ourselves.

[@bongiwebuthelezi6058]

took me some time to watch this because i've struggled with social media this year. but thank you for this incredibly intimate and beautiful video Ro🖤 i'm so eternally grateful for you and your videos.

[@shaylatran6945]

This really helped me see what other people's lives are really like, especially in a span of 10 years. I've been struggling recently (on and off for the past few years as well) and it makes me feel like life is over and that I will never overcome what's happening nowadays. I really want to take you for sharing a personal part of your life with us. It allowed me to really see potential and know that regardless of the amount of heartbreaks, struggles, stress, etc. that everyone will learn from their past and move on to become better. Thank you ❤

[@nyadierapech9313]

Wow! I really needed this. I’m 26 and been feeling so lost, overwhelmed, anxious and just co confused as of late.. this was a beautiful gentle reminder to keep going.. things get better. Thank you. So happy your video was recommended by KZbin. Thank you.

[@WesleyAnna]

Turning 30 this October :,) it's so bittersweet but honestly, I feel very ready for this new decade. It's been a joy and a privilege to follow your journey (even if it's just online) these last few years on KZbin. Cheers to ever-evolving, always growing, and forever learning 🥂

[@bluejins]

Honestly, I couldn't thank you enough (and the universe) that I found you in my early 20s (currently). You're the big sister I need and look up to. Teaching and helping me connect with myself and my life. Can't wait to bloom and grow to be an amazing person like you. (Also kudos to all the team behind this channel and community--your existence and work help so many people, thank you and please continue to work hard and pursue your personal goals as well. Much much love from the other side of the world 💜)

[@simplybusimee]

WE ARE SOO PROUD OF YOU and thank you for taking us on this journey with you!

[@Delala]

What a beautiful recap! Thank you for sharing all your lessons and wisdom ❤

[@Brie85V]

You definitely experienced a lot more than I did during my 20's. I was not as adventurous and mainly stayed home during that time. I wasn't as goal oriented and didn't pursue being at a big university, just went to community college and then my home town university. After college I started focusing on my career path. For me, once I hit 30 and started working full time in my career, things started hitting hard for me. I started questioning every part of my life a lot more. But I also experienced life more, and lived alone for a year and went across the country for vacay time. I'm still in the process of figuring things out and I'm in my mid 30's. I guess I'm learning not to be hard on myself even at this point in my life and take it one day at a time.

[@sheylabenavides5679]

Thank you so much Rowena! I have been following for years and I have been learning so much from you to live in the present and make myself a better person, you are such an inspiration for me and many others! I wish you tons of happiness in your 30's

[@juremulla610]

I love this. I love you most especially! This content of yours is like a gentle hug for each and every person out there struggling to live a meaningful life. Aaaa keep making more. :c

[@maryannet2419]

I love this, and we’re the same age! Nice seeing the similarities in our journey and lessons throughout the 20s. This video makes me want to dig through my old journals. Being 30, not married, no kids, not a homeowner, and starting a new chapter, this good was for me. A great reminder to keep doing my best. Happy Birthday!!

[@ChavelleLiu]

turning 21 this april and recently been feeling more lost than ever. this video felt like a hug of reassurance that eventually, everything will be okay and it's okay not to know. i also find that my dependence on external validation is a strong driver for all the decisions i've made so far in my life - and after months of diving deeper and looking inward, i recently decided to let go of pursuing medicine as i realised i wasn't being true to myself. instead, i was following a path i thought would lend me the praise, prestige and uphold this image of myself to be some high achiever and in my head, 'enough'. after taking this leap of faith into the unknown, i'm scared it's the wrong decision and i'm scared because i don't know where i'm heading. so thank you so much for just giving me hope, reminding me to cherish the little things, continue to ask myself the hard questions, and have faith.

[@deekshabhat]

Watching your videos is like getting a warm hug after a long conversation by the seashore with a dear friend. Always, always, always grateful for your decision to share yourself with us like this on the internet. Happy birthday, Rowena!

[@lydiah4092]

Happy belated birthday, Rowena!! Your honesty, insight, and wisdom has been instrumental in my personal growth the last 4 years. Thank you for sharing your light and warmth with your "sweetest potatoes"...we love you so much!!

[@hzensmelody]

watching this video didn't make me tear up at all.....it just made me bawl my eyes out 😭 this video gives me the assurance that although life is a never-ending rollercoaster, we will somehow divinely make it through. thank u rowena. here's to growing up

[@Ppvvoo]

Im about to turn 30, this just made me cry and reflect, and loved my journey, even though I don’t fit into society standards and haven’t checked a lot of boxes. Thank you for your message. It really filled my heart.

[@africastravellingseed]

Turning 30 this year and this video was the hug I needed. Thank you Rowena for always sharing your vulnerability and insights 💛

[@sanmononoke7764]

This video made me cry in the most wholesome, comforting, voice-huggy way possible 😭😭😭 thank you for this Rowena ❤️❤️🥺🥺🥺 and happy belated birthday 🎉❤️😍

[@danaeclean1328]

this made me so emotional. i turned 20 4 months ago, and I feel so lost. hearing you talk about your life throughout your twenties with so much understanding and affection made me want to cry. i want to be able to feel like this too. I'm so scared of growing up and I constantly feel like life is leaving me behind every day. i haven't been in love in so many years. i don't feel like I have a solid group of friends that I feel truly comfortable and like myself being with. i want to change all of those things. i have to do something, I can't just let things happen to me without truly living. this video was a wake up call, but also a reminder that I am not alone in feeling this way. so many people my age and older feel just as lost as me, if not more. and that's okay. we have to keep moving forward and taking life into our own hands. true success is personal happiness, never forget that.

[@kendriabou]

discovering your channel at the beginning of my twenties was one of the best things, thank you!!

[@clarissetorres2435]

Almost cry while watching this. This is like a warm reassurance to the soul. Thank you!!!

[@hannahnova749]

I have been following you for a few years, and I find what you share as absolutely relatable and inspirational. I think you have a beautiful soul and a lot of what you say has touched my heart, I've cried more than a few times knowing exactly how you feel, feeling a lot of what you've gone through in my own life. When I need it the most, I pull up one of the many videos you have looking for a little nudge back into the right direction. Thank you so very much for sharing you in the graceful, creative way you do. 💚💚💚

[@Basicbirchh]

Rowena I am just about to enter my 20's this is incredible timing! I hope you had a wonderful birthday

[@ais2bb]

happy belated birthday rowena, thank you for making my 20s less daunting ❤️

[@angelinealyannaespiritu5441]

Happy Birthday Ro! This is inspiring~ I am also turning 30 this year, I also experienced the same thing as you had in my early 20's when my social life is thriving but felt lost on the inside. But happy to overcome it as well and one of many things that helped me grow to be who I am today are your vlogs. Been a subscriber for I think 4 yrs now. 💕 Thank you, Rowena 💕

[@Rebecca-qm1ux]

Thank you for this video! I cried as I was watching it. As much as it is a reflection on ur 20’s, as I listen to your words and see the clips, it also reminded me of the times I’ve looked to your videos to regain balance in my life or learn how to focus again or to potato over the years after crying and journaling my heart out. This channel has become a warm and safe spot for me to come as I am and leave a little bit better and comforted. It is also especially sentimental as I am graduating hs soon and am approaching my 20’s. I can still recall vividly the times I’ve watched your videos confused and am just burnt out over various things. Although I was feeling very uncertain and quite stressed about my future, watching this video made me realized that I don’t have to have everything figured out and that it is okay to take my own time to learn my own lessons. I can’t wait to continue sharing this growth journey with you into my college years. I’m so proud of the leaps you’ve taken in your 20’s and can’t wait to see you learn more in your 30’s. Best wishes to you! Happy belated birthday!

[@junecute20]

I'm turning 23 soon and I'm going through major changes in my life. The feeling of uncertainty is so terrifying and scary. I don't know if what I'm doing is right and what to do next but hearing about your journey helps me feel a little more at ease. Thank you for sharing with us!

[@ayaya5888]

I'm turning 20 this year, so this really hits me hard. I'm so excited for what's to come, and so proud of where I am now! Here's for a fun next decade for everyone!

[@davecespedes5268]

I’m 23 and everything about your experience is so relatable. I love how genuine and authentic you are throughout every second and it’s feels like such a breath of fresh air compared to most of the other content here on KZbin. What I got out the most is to take it easy on yourself as life is about living not thinking about it. It’s so easy to be so hard and want to be where you expect to be “I’m this age so I must already have x y z” yet it’s about the journey. Thank you for this video

[@aishatoulegenova2365]

That was so beautiful, I was smiling the whole time 😭 Thank you for all the hard work you put into this video and every other, Ro ♥ Happy belated birthday!!

[@bethelgashawgebeyehu8296]

This motivated me more than you can imagine. Thank you for your vulnerability. 💕💕💕

[@vyphan8911]

i’m turning 20 this year in december (my birthday is actually one day before yours!) and my heart is so full watching this. with all the bad things in the world like the pandemic and war and my general high standards for myself and my life i feel so tired of being these days. i sometimes feel like i failed life. but seeing this i’m reminded of how young i still am and how much time and space i have to grow. it’s enough to stay curious about what can happen in the future. tysm for sharing all these things to us, your videos really made a difference in my life. and i still have my 20s ahead. there is so much more to come. sending love from a silent subscriber but a big big fan

[@lizzie4988]

same here! turned twenty last year thought but feel the exact same way you do.

[@lemmings6516]

I feel the same way currently. I want to remind myself that even though I am a only a small piece of the puzzle I still am an important one. We are alive, we already won, there is no need to be passive or overly careful and security driven. The choices we make do matter and our light can be infectious and help creating the peace we all so desperately seek. I am 29 now and had my fair share of ups and downs in my 20ies but I have to say that these years were meant for discovering and truly becoming comfortable with myself and my decisions. I wish you to be brave enough to follow your instincts and bold enough to fend for youself and what's right. connect with your vulnerability, I think I this is the bravest and most valuable thing I did in my 20ies.

[@vyphan8911]

@@lemmings6516 thank you for your warm words! i love the way you said ‘we are alive, we already won’... it makes me feel lighter. sending lots of love !!

[@divyasingh8786]

Same...turning 20 this month

[@aquaaack422]

4 min in and I've shed a few tears already. You help me feel valid and encouraged🥰 thank you

[@Stephanie_Cr]

I just wrote my life based on the Erik Erikson’s theory. Culture helped me understand myself. I just turned 30 with 3 beautiful kids, just bought my first home 🏡. Your life is beautifully unique! I love watching Hometown ChaChacha!🫶🏼

[@melimartini1286]

Rowena, this is so beautiful. From my deepest heart, I thank you so much, I'm so grateful I found you. You make me better in every way. Thank you for your big heart and also being so strong and positive. We love you. You deserve the world. Wish you a happy life you dream of, cheers ❤️