10 THINGS TO AVOID DOING IN YOUR 40s

[@MissEdie1973]

From MY personal experience, the best way to remember your yearly medical exams is to schedule them at least a week before your birthday every year.

[@tenwaystowearit]

That’s wonderful advice Edith. I’m going to pin this comment and start doing that.

[@dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237]

I have a question that may come off as a bit strange - What's a yearly medical exam? What does it intial, which parts of the body and how do you sign up for one?

[@MissEdie1973]

@@dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237 yearly exams consists of a pap smear; vitals; dental exam; breast exam; vision exam (for eyes).

[@keylacmckemp1309]

@@dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237 mammograms, physicals, gynecological checkups, annuals etc.

[@dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237]

@@MissEdie1973 ohhh thank you!

[@sandragreenthumb12]

One thing we shouldn't be doing is getting our hair nails and outfits together but our kids walking behind us looking like they just got out of bed, that's a No No at any age but definitely at 40!

[@bradinabraxton8836]

We should not be standing still, Life is short, Travel safely take yourself on dinners for one. Get a massage. Be good to yourselves young ladies.

[@tenwaystowearit]

I love you for this Bradina. I agree 1000%. 😘😘😘

[@livelovehulakim2685]

You think your 40’s are good? Wait til your 50’s❣️. Everything gets better❣️ Your finances, your self awareness & confidence, your relationships, sex drive, body image everything❤️♥️♥️ Yes on exercise, healthy eating and good skincare LuvU girl 🥰

[@ms.ladysanders3939]

Girl the 60's are even BETTER!!🎉🎉

[@livelovehulakim2685]

@@ms.ladysanders3939 YESSS❣️

[@amandadean3948]

Yassssss! You killed it in my opinion with this list. I’m in my 40s and I totally agree. “When you’re no longer a child, you must put aside childish things”

[@bradinabraxton8836]

You bought the business today, I'm 57 single happy and waiting on God to send the right man. To old for DRAMA. Thank you for a teachable video.

[@kdooley41]

I'm 52 and I totally agree.. At this point drama is not a option!!

[@StyleCultivated]

I can totally relate to most of these don’t. This list actually pertains to all women the earlier you can start implementing these don’ts the better off you are. I am 44 I wish I would’ve started this list earlier but I’m here now. Thank you for sharing!

[@lindamccray177]

I am so glad that you did this video I am a woman who is 71 years old and to look at me I look so very young and I did the skin care when I was in my 20’s, but now that I’m older I am doing it even more so you are right about doing things that keep your skin looking beautiful day and night moisturize moisturize. Thank you Linda McCray

[@saranagh7097]

Ditto.

[@marciahector4051]

Fighting, That part!! It’s nothing saddens me more than to see overly grown women fighting

[@lulubelle2009]

Here's me watching your videos religiously thinking you are in your late 20's early 30's. Girl you look soooooo good. I agree with most of what you say apart from the financial one. I know a lot of women in their 40's are retraining & starting a new career. Therefore in order to enable this, they will be taking on debt & living beyond their means. I say this because it happened to me for the last 4yrs. I've finished studying, I have my new career so now I'm focusing on paying off my debt. Love this video and all your content 😍

[@hilenikullakapepo9338]

I'm doing the same!😁

[@CDeeva05]

I'm going to be 40 this month and I wholeheartedly agree with the entire list! 😊

[@chinny50]

Thank you for discussing this important and fun topic. I am in my fifties and still learning how to completely care for my mind, body, and spirit. My oldest is 35 years old with 2 boys and married. We talk all the time about self-care and why building your spiritual house is very important to your over-all health. In my forties, my time was spent in college, taking workout classes, dance and weight lifting. and much more, I grew so much, I met powerful women that are the age I am now. They saved my life. The advice you shared is solid. Thanks for your continued love and support to your subscribers! Blessings

[@Courtnos302]

Along with the doctors - go to the dentist regularly as well👍🏽 Great advice on this list🥰

[@feleciaa4712]

This is great content & I love it. I can’t wait for part 2. Every spoken word was so true for any woman at any age.

[@tenwaystowearit]

Yay! Thank you so much Felecia. I’m so glad you enjoyed it. 😘

[@kdooley41]

You gave some great advice, especially about sex before having a serious relationship and the one sided relationships, they never end up good!! But on another note, sis!! You are glowing in this video!! I can tell you are happy and in a good space because you are gorgeous!! I really didn't think you were anywhere close to 40.. Stay blessed and stay happy!!

[@tenwaystowearit]

Thank you so much Kimmy! I truly appreciate you sweetheart. 😘😘😘

[@tiffanymoody620]

Loving this advice. I've had this mind set in my mid 20s I'm now 36 years old still have a even more mature mind I was always around mature people as a kid. I teach my 5 year old not to let stuff get to her and not to fight unless someone hits her.

[@VivnVegas]

So much good advice for 40 and older! Great to hear you saying it out loud for everyone! Thank you!

[@tiawatts160]

I bought a peloton at 51 and haven’t stopped riding daily even if only for 15-20 mins/day when I don’t feel like it. Most days are 30 minutes rides twice/day. I’ve started yoga, meditation and strength training.

[@lindacrutcher6444]

This is such an informative talk that women of any age needs to take to ❤. As women we carry so much weight from family, men, jobs and life. THANK YOU for"nourishment" for the soul, mind and spirit.

[@MoniqueMichelle777]

One thing I will add for women 40 and above is to stop dressing like they are in their 20s!! You can still look beautiful and classy without skimpy, short clothes. I’m not saying you should only wear long dresses or shirts to cover up everything, I’m just saying to look classy and age appropriate😇

[@tiffanyblue1242]

Thank you so much for this video. I’m a mom of 2 teens and currently going through a divorce from a marriage where I did put myself last…all the time. This video is a friendly reminder that I’m well overdue for getting back to me. Thanks and keep doing what you do! 🤗

[@luanngooding6358]

One thing you should not be doing , is blaming everyone else for your mistakes.

[@lifenmovies]

I know you said things we should not be doing in our 40's, but I just want to say that a lot of what you stated and I agree with it all, is due to past trauma. We should all have a therapist, a licensed therapist. Loved this conversation!

[@nanadoctrove5590]

yes....

[@jyniahpruitt9011]

Secure the bag Ladies . Set standards and make requirements! I agree don't buy anyone's affection. Men should be privileged to be in our company 🥰

[@shannafarrare282]

I love the honesty. We need to be real with each other ❤❤

[@vonnieb7411]

So true we need to be emotionally intelligent, not out here cussing and fussing, fighting and biting 😅 we too grown out here!!!

[@tenwaystowearit]

💯💯💯 We gotta protect our energy babe. 😘😘😘

[@Yenniffer-ht1hw]

I am 37 and since I hit 30 Everything you said I applied as a suit.

[@phoe23nix58]

Right on point as usual! I also joined the 40 club this year and it's amazing to see some grown folks still doing these things.

[@darkiejames6807]

Oh yes preach it sister 🙌 👏. I agree with everything you said 1000%. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@marybrown964]

Thank u for sharing. I am a women of 72 yrs of age. My skin care has always been a part of taking care of myself. I started the savings and 401 svs plan late but it worked. In this day and time every little bit helps. Can't wait for part 2.

[@marciaanderson668]

Hi Alesha or Alisha? ... Apparently you did this video just to me. Thank you very much! I'm 52 but I still needed to hear this. You know you learn these things as you grow. I was a very responsible person. However people do regress. They do. I have. I can totally see your reasoning that I put people first because of a lack of or low self esteem. It makes sense to me now looking back. I often wonder why I am not much further on in life. Why have I not achieved more? I see the correlation in your argument. It's late and much harder now for me to fix things. Also, the motivation and energy is sadly lacking. I know it's a type of ongoing depression for many years. Because I do recognise at a deep spiritual level what is happening. Sigh 😔

[@shanimajones1983]

Perfect video! The advice is life changing. Living with intent, accountability & responsibility can make a world of difference 💛

[@orangeglow_]

I can't lie, you had me cracking up from beginning to end!! I'm in my early 30's and I agree with all of this!!

[@pam8044]

Great video, absolutely on point.

[@AvaLynne]

Welcome to the 40s club and yes to everything on your list!

[@JustJayci_]

I swear black don’t crack!! (Well, when properly cared for lol) I would’ve never guessed you were 40, you barely look 30. Keep glowing sis!

[@QuannieTips]

Right?! Lisha looking like fresh 30's.

[@JustJayci_]

@@QuannieTips okay!! 😀

[@ritatillman5193]

Hello everyone it is true age any number but a number if you feel good about your age and I will will be 62 on tomorrow and I don't look my age but I feel good and God have blessed me to live each and every day

[@denisegriffin4343]

Happy Birthday 🎁🎉

[@kdooley41]

Happy bday!! And stay blessed

[@ritatillman5193]

Thank you Denise and Kim for wishing me a happy birthday

[@klevamollison7866]

Very sage advice Ms. Alisha! I completely agree that our behavior, our finances, our health and our relationships should mature with us respectfully as we grow older; I 100% agree!! This is another good video!!😘😊👍

[@MoniqueMichelle777]

I can totally relate to most of these but especially the last point. I will be 50 years old in January and I know everyone usually do big parties or celebrations but honestly I feel the need to be alone and celebrate me. Go to the spa, relax, and eat good….this is my idea for my 50. It’s not about people but me. I’ve always put my kids and family before me and couldn’t say no but now I say NO a lot. I love your channel, vibe, and style😇

[@tiawatts160]

I celebrated my 50th on a 2 week solo cruise on 2 separate CruiseLine’s with 7 days each back to back. Best birthday EVER. I did me, with me, for me, by me and called it a MeCation!

[@MoniqueMichelle777]

@@tiawatts160 it sounds like you had a great 50 th birthday…all about you!! I’m so afraid to go on a cruise alone. Who will I talk to…even though I’m a people person but the world is so crazy now.

[@QuannieTips]

Listen, you said ALLL'AT and then some. This was necessary. We have to be intentional about our lives (what we do and do not allow).

[@samanthag.5354]

I agree 💯% with everything you said! I wish I was there having this conversation with you with my 🍷 of course. I love these kind of conversations with people. ❤️❤️

[@antoinettecroker6384]

What a breath of fresh air you are. You’ve said it all especially about the fighting. So classless

[@alamedadanceparty]

Such good advice. Love spilling’ da wine! Maybe all I can think to add at the moment is to not be afraid to take risks.

[@NTNGALE10]

This video is not satirical. It's the God's honest truth!!! If you are offended, this video is for you to get your life right. She told no lies!!! Thank you for using your platform and putting this message out. I hope younger women are listening too. This is a great guideline.

[@cristinalee6157]

I'm 30 and I'm trying to get a headstart on maturity. Thank you for these tips.

[@missyoli1227]

I am a woman in my sixties and you were spot on! That hair and skin is a good one. I use to have very thick 4c hair.. It is now very thin. It is a very good idea to get your financial situation in order because the 60s may seem like a long way off. When you're in your forties. But it comes on you fast. I don't exercise enough. I have to do better. I have a brother that is very fit who is also in his sixties. He said if you don't do anything else, you have to do stretching exercises. Another tip: stop being around people you don't like or that makes me feel uncomfortable.

[@actuallyterry]

Here I was thinking you are in your early 30s! I turned 40 this year.

[@saranagh7097]

Learning to let go and let God.

[@jazminegardner918]

Thank you love you THANKS FOR SHARING QUEEN ❤❤❤❤

[@meekal3078]

Thanks for sharing. Everything was on point! Im checking my list like I need to tighten a few of those things up. Love the outfit 😍

[@anjanettewyatt9566]

Thank you Beautiful, I love it! There are too many beautiful ladies out here that really need to hear and heed this!!

[@charlierogertango1055]

I think women should not be putting up with disrespect from those closest them i.e. cheating, belittling or bullying. That includes betrayal of any sort. I see it too often and I'm amazed that people put up with it. My patience and tolerance for that bs is extremely low. And I'm happier for it. Less drama.

[@dweakley1]

No lies detected....THANKS!!🤩

[@MsRight-sb5ds]

This video was NOT lighthearted, but it was very important to watch.

[@essiewhite1106]

You pretty..much summed it all.up! Such Great sound advice and much needed advice!

[@ingridbolton656]

I agree with everything you said on point. I turned 40 in July my mindset is very similar when thinking about my life and actions.

[@KeishaAKAklo]

I turned 40 in July (16th) also! Hey girl 👋🏾

[@t.l.c.6197]

great info. must have conversation about informing, elevating, encouraging & loving Yourself!

[@nw6242]

Yes sis talk to us👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kristallindsey4195]

Excellent video, appreciate all you said. I used to do some of these things, no more! Appreciate you, Alisha!

[@MarNicole76]

Wonderful! This was a much needed conversation. The culture is telling us otherwise and it’s time we do level up=grow up.

[@deshickerson4531]

Yes. I had my fun in my 20s, going out every weekend having fun but I'm in my 30s now and like she said. I'm getting my shit together

[@MsYeahman1]

Beautifully presented Alisha/Alicia. I sure appreciate your gentle guidance.

[@anitadelacruz4897]

I'm shocked! I was on the style tips mind frame...you getting down to the real real dear!

[@pretty4one33]

Girl!!!!! All I can say is AMEN to errrrrrthang you said!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@boldmover]

The last one I'm recovering from, I learnt that bad behaviour from my Mom.

[@MeMe-ue8hc]

I agree. Waiting on your Christmas 🎄 decorations!

[@wilmadavis1659]

Hey Alicia, you're so right about forties. Let me tell you about the fifties. The our fabulous there's ups and downs and everything but the 50s are fabulous you learn about that exercise girl and get out that bed and get it started get it moving I love your Channel and I think the 50s is about doing you boo putting away for retirement doing things that you always wanted to do travel places where you wanted to go and since the pandemic yes I'm doing me being safe and careful but enjoy life❤❤❤❤😊

[@natashaparker5363]

Wonderful video!!!! I'm 45 and you have nailed it!!!! Thank you!

[@Happily2010]

Hey girl hey! Love, love, love this topic. I am 43 and I don’t have time for foolishness. I am bigger than the nonsense. By the way, looking good sis😘

[@catherinevincent191]

Hi my name is Catherine i have been watching you for a while I’m older but I fallow you anyhow the I like about you is your woman to Chat it’s wonderful I love it keep them coming

[@joycemorrow5840]

Fantastic video. You have a beautiful platform to share with women in all age groups. Many young women don’t have someone to tell them the truth of life.

[@dollygutz8418]

This has been one of the best advice videos that i have watched , excellent job

[@lukisha1976]

Could you please do a video on ten ways to wear velvet pieces😊

[@jcmac3157]

Beautiful, thank you. The talk was necessary. Well done. Thanks A

[@gigi4874-w3w]

Nice background and esthetic.💕

[@coolostean918]

Perfectly said 👏

[@deloresretter7752]

You gave a lot of good information!

[@styliciabowden8682]

Always sending you love and this list was on point & relevant. It is never too late to make the necessary changes to do better. I'm a wine connoisseur so wine & champagne are my element.

[@LadysoulsingerTV]

This video was a whole word on today. Great job!

[@mcjoymm]

Great advice!

[@judithm2992]

Very helpful girl. Thanks i

[@ewekneekness2576]

Beautiful topic 💗

[@cjenkins8785]

Wine clubs are tasty and enjoyable. The pairings of wine and food make meals delightful. The right glass stemware help you to enjoy a glass of wine at its fullest bouquet. "I say this to say" you are sipping a white wine in a glass designed to sip and enjoy red wine. "Moving on . . ."

[@jeanellreynolds7291]

I'm so happy you did this video.

[@Leftrightnow1530]

Great advice! All around, a mature lady now. Good for you Alicia.

[@luciathelius3016]

I likes you video, you know a lot , the truth,God blessed you

[@kieshalee6563]

This video is on point! You are so right. I have learned and don't mind saying no. Ready for part 2

[@tenwaystowearit]

Thank you so much Keisha. 😘♥️

[@mrsdiane2009]

Thank You 😊

[@hollyh2343]

Thank you for this video. You’re are so right. Especially #10.

[@kimberlycuyler5411]

Thanks, Alicia much needed video and very informative as well as inspiring.

[@abbycharles7308]

This is so on point,that last one, thank you.

[@pattysmart9283]

Ola. Great content, one of my favorite channels. Loved this topic.

[@sandragreenthumb12]

Yes Sis, thank you for the advice love it!

[@rbrice3567]

Say it again for the people in the back. Everything you said is true. I’m 60 and most people think I’m 40, skincare and exercise is key, what you doing your 40s shows up in your 60s. I didn’t think you were anywhere near 40. You look great and keep giving out great advice and styling videos.

[@sargeant33]

Love your chit chats. Love this topic.

[@onetallgirl1369]

Ma'am I'm going to need to see your license, I would have NEVER guessed you were 40! I thought maybe you were 33, 34 but not 40! Yes I agree with all these tips, even though I'm 31 I agreed that these are things to avoid in your 30's. You were definitely talking to me about the overreacting tip. I used to get so angry and scream and cry when someone said something to me, but now I'm working on controlling my emotions and learning to remain unbothered!

[@cherylruley9965]

Love you and everything you said.

[@narvealjohnson1479]

Great video! You are on point with this video. I definitely think these things apply to women in there 30's as well.

[@tishacollick7815]

Hey Sis I just slapped the shit out of myself for my past overdrafts in my 30's lol. But I did sue PNC BANK on a class action lawsuit because it wasn't all my fault. I received $211 back but spent way more than that so they still ripped me off.

[@dedeb2206]

Agree with a lot of these ..soo true ..

[@agnessesay3118]

So true beautiful sis