12 Signs You Have Toxic Siblings - Toxic Family Relationships

12 Signs You Have Toxic Siblings - Toxic Family Relationships. Presented by Anna.
In today's video we're taking a look at 12 signs you may be dealing with a toxic sibling. If you've been struggling to get along with your brother or sister and are finding the the whole relationship is bringing you down and causing you to feel depressed, it may be that you're dealing with a toxic sibling.
Toxic relationships of any kind can be very difficult to deal with. Recognising the toxic behaviour and the effect it is having is one of the first steps to improving the whole situation.
Do you know of any other signs of toxic siblings? Comment them below and let us know.
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[@lj6604]

Anyone else have a toxic sister?

[@NguyenDuy-ob8eq]

mine has all of this

[@sararose212]

I am the toxic sister My brother is almost as bad tho

[@misssford_4528]

yes ! she dropped me cause I went out of town w/ my bf for work. Txtd me angry as HELL. I didn’t respond cause it was 12am & waited until the morning to txt back cause I didn’t want to snap on her. I wanted to have a civil conversation but she blocked me on everything the next morning. so I just left her alone. & now she is really expecting me to reach out to her lol a small example but this has been going on for YEARS & I’m just so confused/over it.

[@shadowstar8619]

Yup; two of them. They have several of the traits listed, and one is practically the other's younger twin.

[@k.ainsword]

me. so sick of it

[@asmaasma1524]

Definitely , i have a toxic sister

[@pinkcats2994]

Same, I just wish my father would stop pushing me and my toxic sister together and trying to get me to give her a second chance, when every time I do I just end up getting hurt...

[@eakeoredo3412]

SAME

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear this. Thank you for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@shireenwallace9153]

@@pinkcats2994 same

[@pinkcats2994]

@@shireenwallace9153 awwwwww your profile pic is adorable

[@admirx_]

After watching this I realized that my sister is a toxic sibling due to her belittling me, manipulating me, she is selfish, always had to be right, jealous of the fact that I was the youngest and every interaction with her made me anxious. I don’t want to blame her but partly due to her behavior towards me growing up I have been struggling with depression but yet when I confronted her about how she used to treat me, I’m the asshole

[@johnnygunzfilmbuff7821]

I know the feeling I have the same problem with my older sister they have no idea what it's like living with depression anxiety and how I'm fighting my own demons. She's just to much hard though childish and wont give me space and realize I'm human I make mistakes and I'm not perfect.

[@johnnygunzfilmbuff7821]

@e boi well the sad part is you can't and if you feel that way call and get help and counseling there a lot of counseling on the internet that can help you and check what insurance they take. I'd say try sticking up for yourself without being passive aggressive and try to distract yourself with your hobbies and focus on becoming you. Also maybee get a small part time job. Also try to focus more on school and studying I know that's not fun believe me no one likes to study its either that or more torture. When I focused on school it was hard but at least it distracted me from my family.

[@johnnygunzfilmbuff7821]

@e boi hope your not feeling suicidal if you are depending on were you live call the suicide number in your area. Hang in there stay strong and though.

[@johnnygunzfilmbuff7821]

@e boi yw glad to have help.

[@johnnygunzfilmbuff7821]

@e boi talking helps.

[@alexandramateo4444]

Growing up Latina, we were raised that family comes before everything. Basically we were raised that we have to put up with our family just bc they are family . My parents and brother are very toxic, they’ve always judged me for everything! The way I dress, the friends I have, the guys I’ve dated you name it! I moved out at 19 years old and stayed as far away as possible. I’ve always tried to have a good relationship with them but they always push me away. Not to mention they LOVE DRAMA!! No matter how many times I tell them to stop coming by my house unannounced, to stop coming by my house with gossip and drama to stop criticizing me and also to stop throwing the favors they’ve done for me in my face they always disregarded my feelings saying I’m being overdramatic. So recently I decided enough is enough!! I needed to cut them off for my peace of mind for my sanity bc I don’t need negative energy in my life! I’m now 35 years old and a happily married mother of two beautiful boys and I promised my boys that no matter what they will never experience the drama I endured growing up mind you I almost committed suicide bc of them!! Let’s just say now I’m happier than ever with the family my husband and I created !! Just bc they are your family does not mean your obligated to put up with their shit and you don’t owe them anything !! YOUR PEACE OF MIND COMES FIRST !!! They don’t feel guilty for treating you the way they do so don’t feel guilty about cutting them off sometimes it’s necessary for you to have peace happiness and tranquillity in your life .

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for commenting. I'm glad to hear you're in a happier place now :)

[@innerknowing6303]

Your words are on point !!! I am experiencing this right now i thought I was gonna have mental break down and I get so angry everytime I am around them , they tried making me look crazy until I started to pay attention and they are very toxic and whenever I have family one day I will make sure none of this will happen.. just by seeing their face i get angry i will cut them loose completely.. it feels like they have bad intentions towards me because I have a good heart. When u get older u see people for who they are

[@alexandramateo4444]

inner knowing you are spot on sweetie! Hope everything works out for you and remember your peace of mind comes first !!!

[@amitavabaul5850]

I am just so happy to see you in peace. Toxic families doesn't come first. You are so relatable to me

[@2davivadiva]

This is so bad in Hispanic families and this toxic loyalty is sick. They have to keep this image of a family rather than actually putting in the work to be a healthy family

[@NafisaBello-jn6mq]

I hate my sis she makes me feel emotionless 😐

[@eakeoredo3412]

Same

[@zenajenniferabdul8196]

Same here . I got both. My brother and sister

[@taco9051]

@@zenajenniferabdul8196 same, the most annoying is my sister becuase she is super selfish and dum

[@pranavramraj5141]

My sister treats me like a walking ATM machine

[@nourtamer3189]

Yes,me too,in a family dynamic like this the first coping mechanism is that you shut down your emotion also bc this mostly happen in your childhood and teenage years litrally the years where your charater morals feeling personlaity everything built you just find it hard to recgnoise what it is like to love hate care worry

[@RMW22222]

Oh my goodness... My older brother has ALL of the traits you mentioned in your video. I reached out to him today to wish him happy birthday and he didn't even respond. I'm done I'm not reaching out again 😒. So sad. Life is too short are all the negative energy. I'm focusing on myself going forward. Thank you for this video.

[@mexicandeem9473]

I just did the same wishing my sister a Happy Mother's Day. I called yesterday asking if I misunderstood a conversation and apparently I did 😥.

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear about that. Focusing on yourself sounds like a good idea. Thank you for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@emilyw.1186]

Same, mine crushed me and broke me for a long time. I was such a sad and broken person for a long person

[@hilaryneffcrevier540]

My brother is missing two

[@fairylilytarot5960]

sibling rivalry is completely normal and should die down when u are in adulthood. It is meant to help teach u early on how to stand up for yourself and grow thicker skin. Please forgive them after each mistake whether they say sorry or not. I’m sorry you’re going through this but did u know many mean siblings actually have a past of getting extremely bullied? Do not take it personally. I would actually be more worried about your sibling. Labeling someone toxic is not the same as someone being completely toxic to you forever. You have no idea who’s heart u might crush u cut them off. Just for now maybe keep a distance and let their true character heal and show as you both grow up and mature ❤️ family is often something that requires periods of keeping a distance building boundaries overtime and then seeing each other again in a more healthy way etc. please try watching reiki for releasing karmic cords.

[@gameslover8268]

my sister always been a negative distraction ever since we were kids, I thought we would grow out of it when we get older but it seems not. she left home for university (that makes me 14 ). those years without her were the best, I fully enjoyed life/ lived confidently , 5 years later she finish Uni, came back home then those feelings that vanished came back and worse. so yup it sums it all

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear that, sounds like a difficult situation to be in.

[@theaveragebrat1828]

same

[@TheInvisibilisation]

yeah same

[@antonio_090]

Same.......

[@fairylilytarot5960]

sibling rivalry is completely normal and should die down when u are in adulthood. It is meant to help teach u early on how to stand up for yourself and grow thicker skin. Please forgive them after each mistake whether they say sorry or not. I’m sorry you’re going through this but did u know many mean siblings actually have a past of getting extremely bullied? Do not take it personally. I would actually be more worried about your sibling. Labeling someone toxic is not the same as someone being completely toxic to you forever. You have no idea who’s heart u might crush u cut them off. Just for now maybe keep a distance and let their true character heal and show as you both grow up and mature ❤️ u can’t take her behaviors so personally and reiki for karmic cords can help u both heal

[@kaydee8731]

I have a toxic brother he calls me fat and over weight and even hits me if i stand up to him

[@Joyanima]

I'm so sorry to hear that, that's horrible. Is there anyone available who can help you in this situation?

[@kaydee8731]

Joyanima No because my family says he just being a brother but he really hurts me. I even have a bruise on my leg from him.

[@denizzzzz6404]

I feel you...he will do everything to make me upset...I did attempts of suicide a couple of times since he always tells me to die

[@TheInvisibilisation]

@@denizzzzz6404 Oh no! Please don't do it. Your siblings aren't worth throwing away your life. Saying stuff like this is NOT OK. I am sending you love and if you need to talk I am here.

[@denizzzzz6404]

KrisKrae awh ;c

[@okayokay2484]

My 25 year old sister is all of these . I’m 15 . Her and my family made me so depressed for years. Recently , I opened up about my depression and they shouted at me and called me names for being depressed. Pray for me , thank you

[@minayu541]

How are you doing?

[@okayokay2484]

@@minayu541 not so good. Still in a depressive state. Tried to commit on the 4th sept but then something stopped me

[@renee6524]

Shame on them. I am actually going to be getting counseling soon and my toxic sister is the primary reason. Can you imagine being g the reason a oerson feels more stress, anxiety, ir depression. My sister has almost all of these traits

[@okayokay2484]

@@renee6524 omg I’m very sorry that you’re gong through that. Sending you love , peace & healing

[@angelacasein7059]

My pre teen years we’re completely overshadowed by my toxic brothers manipulative behavior and constant partying

[@official._indigo182]

imagine, You argue with your sister , she gets angry and tells you to die, You're clearly hurt and try to hide it. Your other sister hears, and instead of standing up for you,she laughs and says " (sister 1's name) Hehe, that's a bit meaaannnn " she giggles. You go to your mother, she tells you its fine. You start crying, she notices how hurt you are and she talks to your sibling, Your sibling is now mad at you and you wonder if you did the right thing Welcome to my everyday life

[@shyamdubal6719]

Same with me.. But here's my advice... Toxic people are weak and jealous. Don't argue with them or you will also become toxic. instead use them for your work they are easily usable. Don't try to beat them they are already beated instead love them.

[@SynthWqve1]

your not alone man... this is exactly what i go through but this time i have 2x more siblings..... which are jerks..

[@sochxrri16]

Damn sure you serious??? What type of sisters do you have??? I feel so bad man.

[@PussnBoot2516]

I have a toxic sister and a toxic mother both extremely manipulative and selfish. You make some very good points on toxic relationships, Anna. They are very difficult to be around so I just see them only when I need to. It's a shame when you can't feel comfortable around your own family but I don't need the stress they bring into my life. .

[@myapapaya3525]

I'm scared of my older brother 😭

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear that, hope you're okay. Thank you for commenting!

[@gunnsandal6098]

Me too

[@ejc8933]

I’m the older brother in my family instead of being toxic to my younger siblings they are toxic to me smh

[@fairylilytarot5960]

sibling rivalry is completely normal and should die down when u are in adulthood. It is meant to help teach u early on how to stand up for yourself and grow thicker skin. Please forgive them after each mistake whether they say sorry or not. I’m sorry you’re going through this but did u know many mean siblings actually have a past of getting extremely bullied? Do not take it personally. I would actually be more worried about your sibling. Labeling someone toxic is not the same as someone being completely toxic to you forever. You have no idea who’s heart u might crush u cut them off. Just for now maybe keep a distance and let their true character heal and show as you both grow up and mature ❤️ siblings are not the same as friends for special reasons. Please watch reiki for releasing karmic cords and u should feel better. We are all struggling in this life. Don’t take these things so personally 💕

[@gingersnap5085]

I sometimes am, only because of the anxiety that is inflicted.

[@sajjadalikhan9148]

99% of the comments: I HAVE A TOXIC SIBLING 1% that actually has a good sibling: am I a joke to you?

[@Joyanima]

Some people manage to get along with their siblings very well at least! Thank you for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@mumcydire6131]

"They take Credit for things they had no input on." Spot on.

[@ladybird491]

My sibling constantly feel right about what she say about everyone but will snap if anyone say anything to her about herself. She acts as if she is perfect yet she is very toxic

[@fairylilytarot5960]

sibling rivalry is completely normal and should die down when u are in adulthood. It is meant to help teach u early on how to stand up for yourself and grow thicker skin. Please forgive them after each mistake whether they say sorry or not. I’m sorry you’re going through this but did u know many mean siblings actually have a past of getting extremely bullied? Do not take it personally. I would actually be more worried about your sibling. Labeling someone toxic is not the same as someone being completely toxic to you forever. You have no idea who’s heart u might crush u cut them off. Just for now maybe keep a distance and let their true character heal and show as you both grow up and mature ❤️ siblings are not the same as friends for special reasons. Please watch reiki for releasing karmic cords and u should feel better. We are all struggling in this life. Don’t take these things so personally 💕

[@lessismore8533]

OMG! My sibling does this TOO! He’s a hypocrite! He’s no less imperfect than anyone else in this house! Shame my mom never corrects him This is why I wish I was an only child sometimes

[@denizzzzz6404]

I have a toxic brother he tells me I’m fat, ugly a weirdo stupid and he says I will unsuccessful and he says “I don’t care” when ever u tell him something or show him my art. He tells me to die as well most of the time

[@trabBBN]

That is literally a description of my sister

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for commenting. That must be difficult for you

[@Riri-pf2pb]

lol same

[@taestheticc37]

samee

[@_Ananta_]

Yup same

[@annesyabanerjee1892]

🤣exactly

[@stephaniekaylive]

This is my sister. I don’t know if I can have her in my life anymore. She is destroying my health so much and she doesn’t see it.

[@lessismore8533]

Me too this is my BABY sibling of the family who acts like he’s older and smarter than all of us! I HATE that my mom birthed such a brat. Sometimes I wish she stayed at 3 kids but she went on and had a 4th one

[@NCO1426]

Everyone is here complaining about their older siblings, I’m the older sibling and my little brother has anger issues and I feel like he thinks these things about me so it hurts. But he also hurts me so much because I try to be a good sister and he just doesn’t care

[@lessismore8533]

Yes! For me it’s a younger sibling too! I rather just be an only child being a sibling is too exhausted. Sadly it wasn’t my fate

[@lindaeasley5606]

One incident with my older sister was so traumatizing it made me lose any feelings I had for her. It was a couple of months after our mother died. She was trying to help me sign up for some government assistance online and I was having alittle difficulty. We were talking on the phone and she grew impatient and started berating me. That afternoon she called me while I was taking a nap and I missed the call. The next morning she went into a lunatic rage at me because of it . I can't deal with constant verbal abuse from a family member

[@alinecardoso9668]

I never did anything against my sister but she constantly talking about me, another day she thought I was sleeping so she called me lazy, the funny thing is that I'm jobless so I clean up her room, all the house, I cook, I shop, she once said to my father that I was spending all my day long on the cellphone and was not looking for a job, it is ridiculous because we are older and it looks like something that a teen would do. Since we were kids she used to bullied me, she thought that both of my parents liked me most.

[@eakeoredo3412]

yepp i have a toxic sister.

[@deniseb1875]

My little brother is soooo toxic ...that i can't handle his personality.

[@Muskan-mansuri]

How unlucky I am..😭 having exactly this type of sister...😥

[@shinlucario]

My sister is in the "they are always right" category there was a time when she accused me of not paying our dad rent then demanded to see a bank receipt as proof that I paid him, she even went as far as to accuse me of taking advantage of our dad and she says that she is not going to stand for it any longer... Another thing to add is that, even though she is 31, she gave up on work to focus all her attention on collage, her boyfriend who is just as abusive as her, is her source of income. Another thing to add is that her boyfriend threatened to break all my electronics and on top of that threatened to break my jaw and arm in the process, my sister was present the whole time and she laughed about it as her boyfriend threatened me...

[@dianamary6170]

That’s awful. Please be safe and keep your distance from them.

[@AnarchyMagic]

That's honestly pathetic I would cut ties with your quote "sister"...

[@ella4828]

My cousin and I were planning to both spend the night at my grandparent’s house to see their new puppy. My parents said that if I spent the night, my brother would have to also. We let him stay, too, and even convinced my grandparents to let him stay. The rule was we had to be in bed by 10:00 PM. Keep in mind that this is on a Saturday and we had nothing to do the next day. It seemed to be going well until 10:02, when I was setting my pillows up on the bed, while we were chatting a little. My brother yelled at us, “SHUT UP!” While trying to sleep, my brother told me that he and my mom were plotting against me (he was pretty much her spy) and since I was awake a couple minutes after 10, I was going to be banned from spending the night anywhere for a long time. My cousin and I moved to a different room because we were mad. We figured out he was spying on us and listening to everything we were saying and reporting it back to my mom. Not to mention, he was breaking the rules by having screens on in the bedroom and didn’t get in trouble. Now, I lost my privileges to stay the night anywhere. Is my brother toxic?

[@sayittomyfaceortapglassfar4392]

Yes. Watch out now.

[@aathirapillai4788]

No he is lunatic

[@briancagordon2308]

yikes. depending on how old you are move out as soon as you can

[@Autumn-zd9nq]

Yes. He's a "golden child" being used by your selfish mother to manipulate and control you. I hope you escape soon.

[@sallybush6454]

I'm 52 and when I was a 14 Yr old my brother used to sit at the table for dinner and I would try to have a conversation about the day...he would sit eat and totally ignore me...I would complain and my mother would say be clever and don't try to get his attention...he knew what he was doing...the last 6 weeks I decided to cut him out my life as it was getting to me...he has been gaslighting me my whole life...it was a hard choice...but I couldn't carry on like that...I'm much happier now ...I hope u get it sorted.

[@bcbro142]

This is why I went no contact with my sister you’re describing a narcissist which she is and I’m an empath

[@shyamdubal6719]

Same with me.. But here's my advice... Toxic people are weak and jealous. Don't argue with them or you will also become toxic. instead use them for your work they are easily usable. Don't try to beat them they are already beated instead love them.

[@cara3858]

when you decide to watch this video to search for a confirmation that your sibling is toxic, but instead come into the conclusion that we both are toxic asf 🌚 well

[@enliven7648]

Get that stuff figured out man. Wish the best for you

[@ProjectCreativityGuy96]

Instead of murdering my toxic siblings, i am just waiting to be delivered, you honestly don't have any clue what it's like... I am starting to resent my Mum and Dad for creating the 6 of us, and i just want to get away! Why doesn't anyone help??? Please, can someone please take action and do something? Because i am sick and drained with depression!

[@karib8489]

how many traits does someone need to be considered toxic? Does it depend on how strong the traits are? Like, my sister has four of these (belitteling my feelings, making fun of me in front of others, pretty selfish, gives me anxiety) but she doesn't even hint at the others and sometimes she is even oddly nice to me? Like, she will just randomly talk to me like I'm one of her freinds, but the next day she'll ridicule me for the most mundane things (like, how I walk or talk).

[@pinkcats2994]

I feel you, I think that even if they have one sign they're toxic because that would mean they don't see anything wrong with their actions

[@gingersnap5085]

I feel like my anxiety attacks from fighting with my brother happen every time. My hands sometimes shake my breathing gets unsteady and my chest tightens. When I point out things that would be better then fighting it gets deflected or he tries to point out things I did in the past and use them to his defense. I remember being hit or punched by him during fights when I was growing up and sometimes I would end up in tears or with bruises. It felt like we were constantly fighting over nothing and it was very stressful because I felt like I had nobody to talk to.

[@juliangalvan3969]

Heyy Ginger snap you ain't alone hope you doing okay if you need any one im here for you

[@gingersnap5085]

@@juliangalvan3969 thank you 🙏🏻

[@lessismore8533]

OMG! MINE DOES THAT TOO! He brings up things I did in the PAST and uses it against me! And I’m 7 years older than him so it’s quite pathetic of him to think I couldn’t come up with more stories about HIM But I try not to stoop to his level. I am Christian and taught not to keep account of past mistakes and ppl at my meetings do NOT see this side of him. They think he’s a little Angel but don’t see his REAL self at home I hate siblings sometimes. I wish I could’ve been an only child.l sometimes. However there’s one sibling it’s easier to get on with. It’s the BABY sibling I can’t stand. They should’ve been a cousin instead

[@Snoebal]

A perfect description of my sister. But if I as well as breathe on her, I get grounded. If I didn’t suppress my feelings, she would’ve been dead years ago.

[@outpost31737]

The best way to deal with poisonous siblings is to completely detach and apply the no contact rule. These people will steal your light don't let them cut contact and move on.

[@moreadventure3627]

omg. Is this different from having dysfunctional relationships?

[@meezy3188]

Toxic household a real thing ! it can be your older brother,mother,or sister😒

[@karene.364]

This is spot on. My sibling is described like this! Thanks for this video!

[@chikencakey]

My brother just makes me feel like I can't talk to my friends and I must let him control my life

[@robertpadua6096]

I have toxic sisters... They like trouble and gossip.

[@DoubleM-hf6ih]

One of my sisters is toxic as hell. She neglected me as well as the rest of the family. I remember one time back in April she came over to visit, we were talking, I brought up a fun time from the past and she replied with “ That was in the past. Let it go.” That showed me how much she loves me. What’s wrong with talking about fun times from the past? I told one of my other sisters (who loves me unconditionally) to never change who she is.

[@percisnatta]

I have a toxic brother. You have hit the nail with this video

[@lessismore8533]

Me too except mine is a BABY brother who got WAY less correction than the rest of us from my parents. No wonder he grew up like this

[@Sarah-wd2eb]

sounds like my little sister one night i told her to respect my boundaries and she said 'we are sisters, we dont have those' and she has cause 80 percent of my panic attacks, its pretty sad honestly because i love her and dont want her to ever be hurt, but she just doesn't care about me at all

[@fairylilytarot5960]

sibling rivalry is completely normal and should die down when u are in adulthood. It is meant to help teach u early on how to stand up for yourself and grow thicker skin. Please forgive them after each mistake whether they say sorry or not. I’m sorry you’re going through this but did u know many mean siblings actually have a past of getting extremely bullied? Do not take it personally. I would actually be more worried about your sibling. Labeling someone toxic is not the same as someone being completely toxic to you forever. You have no idea who’s heart u might crush u cut them off. Just for now maybe keep a distance and let their true character heal and show as you both grow up and mature ❤️ siblings are not the same as friends for special reasons. Please watch reiki for releasing karmic cords and u should feel better. Don’t take these things so personally 💕

[@suzanneporter7907]

This sounds like my brother all the way. How many of you have had a sibling who has asked you "What are you doing here?" This happens with my brother at holiday gatherings so I haven't been with my family now in 18 yrs. Also my brother called me a s.o.b. when my husband and I bought a new home. Most family are happy for each other when this happens but my brother just got mad and stormed out the door and he's 5 yrs. older than me.

[@dianamary6170]

My brother said that to me today on my father’s bday. I had the oncoming of a migraine but because luckily it went away I decided to stay so we can all have cake together.. so my brother just assumed I was lying and started yelling at me and opened with, what are you still doing here? And that progressed to him yelling at me. He’s in his 40s btw. I truly don’t understand why my brother is so mean to me and why he sees me in such an ugly light.

[@suzanneporter7907]

@@dianamary6170 I'm sorry to hear you have had to go through the same thing as I have. I can't help but wonder if our brothers are jealous of us or maybe they are afraid on not being the center of attention. Just remember the Lord is there by your side and that's what really matters.

[@dianamary6170]

@@suzanneporter7907 Maybe you're onto something. When that behavior is exhibited in a child it's troublesome but in an adult it is very hurtful and can even be nefarious. My brother and I are in our 40s. Maybe it's that he never grew up beyond that phase.. and it's now turned into something downright monstrous. So cringe and so unnecessary. Thank you for your comforting words. I will remember that. Thank you! ❤💐💙

[@prernasingh6611]

It is really painful to see my younger brother turn into the most toxic person of the family.

[@lessismore8533]

“THEY HAVE TO BE RIGHT ALL OF THE TIME” yup! That’s the baby sibling in my family and he gets away with it too because my mom doesn’t care TALK ABOUT YOU BEHIND HER BACK

[@linamarie84]

Tell me about it. I have five brothers and two sisters. My mother is super religious or so she says and didn't believe in birth control. My father delivered all of us at home and no he wasn't a doctor. He studied Etc. One of us was brought to the hospital after birth but that was about it. My mother began having these fits I don't know how to explain it but only a few people have ever heard the story and only a little part of it mainly due to the fact that it's so weird and abnormal that if I were to explain it people would call me a liar and I pride myself on the truth so I'd rather not put myself in a position to where I would become angry over someone accusing me of being anything but honest especially when it comes to something like my childhood. Secondly because of how abnormal it is there aren't any words that I could really use to convey how bad it was. When attempting to explain the circumstances there are no words that can truly let another person know or feel how utterly horrid it was. I would feel as though I was minimizing every part of it by not being able to find words that would come close to sharing what the experience was even remotely. My father was in the peak of his success and the food business and was selling his products in stores was on the front pages of the news paper, he was happy and he deserved it. Within that time my mother decided one day to pile all of us up into the van my dad got her. It was a Dodge ram.. burgundy and silver.. I believe it was 12 passenger van. She packed our belongings and we got on the road not knowing where we were going or how long it would be until we saw our dad. We stayed in a basement where we weren't allowed to be out much and we would fast for 3 days in a row and read the Bible many days of the week. We were not Jehovah witness but my mom practiced non-denominational Christianity in the same fashion a Jehovah witness would. Long story short my mother ran out of money and began calling my father from a payphone in the middle of nowhere. My dad would come and meet her and give her money for our food and things like that. I remember times that my little brother a year younger than me would scream for my father he would just scream and cry for his dad to come get him. My mother kept us in the basement for about 6 months. During that time my father immediately started filing paperwork at court. He is told me that it was never a choice as to whether he was going to get his kids or not. He said that he knew the instant that happened what he had to do. He ended up getting a five bedroom house right next to a high school and middle school with and elementary school right down the street. He fought and he won sole custody of all eight of us. Otherwise we would have been split up into foster care. I remember the day that they came to get us. There were Men In Black with their rifles out pointed at the house.. it was really dark outside and I remember seeing these lights commanding they let the children out of the house. It was gut-wrenching as although my mother kidnapped us she was my mother and it ripped my heart apart not knowing what to do and also with not having a choice. My little brother specifically was really close with my father and he was hurt the most on the outside. He didn't let my dad go... While the kids scattered some of them wouldn't let go of my mother either obviously I mean I was 10 years old and each of us were a year apart so you have kids of all ages just not knowing what to do in a moment like that.. for the first time we were placed into public school and we're bullied harassed and it was one of the most awful times of my entire life. I had always had a kind heart but I didn't understand the other kids and how evil they were. Until this day it's like a part of me never changed and I just never understood why or how anybody could ever be so hateful to someone else and that is what hurt me the most because I never understood what I did wrong. I just remembered trying so hard so I could have a friend. I just really really really wanted someone to be my friend. I had food thrown at me I would sit in the stalls and I would cry. I didn't ever want to be around anyone I was always putting slam books for the ugliest person in school the ugliest teeth you name it and my siblings were a mixed bag when it came to their experiences at school although a lot of them were like at certain points. Growing up my mother would come into the picture here and there when she wasn't supposed to be as there was a restraining order. I remember how hard it was when she banged on the doors and she would cry and her cry was this piercing blood curdling scream at times because you could just hear it come from the center of her soul like her kids had been ripped from her. And my brothers and sisters would scream on the other side of the window for my mother as well. The cops would come and arrest her. Throughout our lives we all went separate ways but we all have had issues alike in terms of confidence, ocd, PTSD etc. One thing I can say is that every single one of them have a hatred within them and they haven't let it go. It everything that we went through affected the way that they love the way that they let themselves love, how they communicate, how they understand happiness etc within that I've had a tremendous time with understanding their lack of boundaries. I'm not saying that I'm perfect by any means however at a younger age I knew that the things that happened to me were in no way shape or form going to dictate my future nor would they dictate my present. I did every single thing that I knew how possible in order to feel a happiness that I longed to feel in order to feel the sense of normalcy in the way that I saw fit. I wanted to be confident Because deep in my soul I knew that I was capable of much more I just didn't know how to get there. My point is that ultimately each and every one of my siblings gained something very toxic from our upbringing and instead of trying to get out of it or find something better in life they've held that within them and it has been the most training the most complex and most frustrating experiences. I realized as a place that there was something that I didn't understand. As many times as I told them that I valued respect and communication that was something I never ever received. I had multiple conversations with my brother and I explained to him when he stayed with me that there were boundaries within our home. Yet he literally just continued to do what he was doing as though I didn't exist. As though I was not in my own home. I realized then that he has no concept of what boundaries are. To him respect and boundaries are a foreign concept. When growing up with that many kids and no mother around it was very very difficult to have that. If you lack a sense of boundaries within your life how do you have a starting point of where you have gone too far or where you learn to better yourself? They aren't just a starting point for living in my house it is something that people have to use within their lives and within all they do. That is the scariest part to me. How are you supposed to fix that and you can't fix it then how are you supposed to go about having relationship with someone who has a lack of boundaries?

[@cosmiccometchichi]

i believe every word you say and I think you have a beautiful soul. If you want to watch some of my videos feel free I am working towards making more content soon. Love and light 💕🌈🌸

[@char7510]

my sister is the reason i want to escape this world so much

[@danan6376]

I hope you will find a stranger who will be the reason to love this world So much. 🙏🏻♥️

[@jeffyou6340]

I think this is a great video! I've watched lots of videos on narcissist and narcissistic family, yet there's just something you get in dept on the 101 that didn't get before crystallizing the whole disaster these folks present. Thank you for this video! It heals my heart

[@bobbobby69]

Huh

[@lionessslionesss3819]

i am a witness for being in this kind of situation , all u want to do at the end closed all doors and stay alone with out them

[@syd5099]

THANK YOU! I can’t tell you enough that all 4 of my brothers are so toxic to me and I’m an only girl so things are more difficult then they have to be! I swear I can’t be myself around them because they will call me out stupid or tell me to shut up. My youngest brother has always been on my butt about EVERYTHING! Every little thing I do, he reports it to my dad and then I get yelled at for it. I don’t even have a relationship with my oldest brother because he never cared about me. And then my two middle brothers. They don’t care about my accomplishments or feelings at all while I care about theirs. They always judge everyone by who they are and it starts to drive me insane. In fact everyone in my family judges others and I hate it because then I feel like I have to hate them as well when I don’t. Oh yeah and I forgot that I can’t get angry at all because they say that it’s embarrassing them and that I shouldn’t be mad around them. When yet again it’s okay for anyone else to get mad but not me for whatever reason. I don’t get it. I don’t get my family and I don’t get anything they do. I feel like an outsider all the time when I’m with them

[@ayahasad4437]

My own sister talked bad about me to her friend IN FRONT OF ME.

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear that

[@zenajenniferabdul8196]

Thank you so much for the video❤

[@Joyanima]

You're welcome 😊

[@akilith3820]

Is it abusive if my sister tells me to commit suicide, cut myself, get cancer etc? It often makes me feel empty, but over the years I've been getting used to it. I don't know if it is my fault, because my parents never actually stand up for me.

[@destroyraiden]

Yes it's abusive that's emotional, mental, and could be spiritual abuse too and your parents enabled her or didn't think it was an issue if someone is saying those things to you and the people you know who should have your back aren't speaking up they're either there for the drama (watch their faces & body language), they're scared of that person (look at them who or what are they looking at are they submissive in body or starring into the floor) or are either clueless or frankly don't want to get involved these ones aren't any better clueless can't see red flags nor defend you and don't want to get involved is enabling and unsafe all these groups are unsafe & you shouldn't call them friends or family.

[@paulapoetry]

Oh dear, you are literally describing my mum, brother, and most of my in--laws.

[@shwetachauhan8507]

I hate my sister I m the perfect child to my parents I m good at studying don't use social media And respect them But my sister is totally opposite but still my parents and she is like a team I feel so alone Can't explain why I have anger issues but still I don't carry out my anger on them Don't know how to deal with her Always plays victim Never supported me but moreover my enemies Make me feel insecure about my body Whatever i do I can't be good enough but she already is for my parents always says she is weak But actually i m the weaker one What should i do Please help me out

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear you're experiencing this.

[@creativeteeny925]

My small sister is like this, i understand you :(

[@sash8099]

Record her behavior, move out and show it to your parents. Also if she ever decides to get married then to her future spouse. At least you warned them after that it's on them.

[@SynthWqve1]

man your not alone.. mine sucks too plus my parents dont care even if they know how bad my life has been...

[@lessismore8533]

@@SynthWqve1 YES my parents don’t care EITHER My baby sibling is 7 yrs younger and got away with everything growing up. It’s my moms fault he always had entitled behavior. She never corrected him and he took advantage of that

[@anotherplanet5828]

Love and validation to all of you who are abused, neglected, stonewalled, gaslit, breadcrumbed, dismissed, and treated with contempt and disdain by a sibling. I am the scapegoat of a covert narc mother and a golden child sister. They are both so toxic and I am about to go no contact. I am 55. I have studied and learned everything I can about narc behavior for the last 4 years (with the worst malignant narc as president traumatizing an entire planet) and I can tell you with certainty, the narc will never change, they refuse to look inward because they are cowardly bullies. It is not your fault so please, keep watching these videos. Another great channel is Inner Integration with Meredith Miller. If you have a toxic sib, you probably have a toxic parent who modeled toxic behavior and triangulation. Get therapy, tame your inner critic and learn that you are valid and worthy of love. The best revenge for abuse is to love yourself enough to walk away. Thank you for this video.

[@tinycharlie6694]

My sister just ruined my birthday by freaking out about the fact, that I got 2 little cakes and she only got one (I turned 20, she turned 17 a few months ago). She even admitted, that she let out her negativity on my birthday, just so mine wouldn't be better than hers. My parents let her yell and leave, to then come back and yell even more and in the end blamed me, because I got upset about it. That was two days ago and my parents still haven't talked to my sister about how mean that was... Happy Birthday to me I guess...

[@mellugones]

god I hate that so much I hope you had better days later! but in my house is the same and the true is that thay tipe of actitude thay becomes anabit in our sosters is partly bc our parents never though much about it... my mums favorite phrase " your drama... fixt it yourselves" when actually is always my sister throuing tantrums and hate at me over nothing

[@amitavabaul5850]

My own elder sister has all qualities you said🙂

[@tacocatlord1177]

My life is bad and I'm tired of being controlled and being bullied

[@ashimasharma3635]

My sister talks behind my back to every relative of ours. I just don’t feel happy around her. Always judging me as a sister mother wife etc. Always keeping her high showing that only she does everything towards this relationship

[@sashasasha2254]

I have a very toxic older brother.. his ruined my life & ruined my mindset

[@kaypopgamer]

My sister does half of these things,she’s controlling, she doesn’t respect my boundaries, she always wants to be right. I guess I’m toxic because I vent about what she does to my cousin, when I try to talk to my sister about what she is doing she gets Defensive and upset and then it just makes me get upset and we both are in a shouting match. She goes into my phone and looks at my text messages,basically she violates my privacy. She gets upset or annoyed when I don’t do things right then and there when she asks me . She gets annoyed when my cousin stays the weekends and tries to tell me she’s over too much and she doesn’t want her over the house. I have to move out to fix this situation I can’t talk to her without her getting pissed off at me. She lives with me and she will not move out until I do, she acts like the whole house is hers except my room . She’s not on the lease but she helps pays the bills, it’s not worth it anymore I’d rather struggle and do it by myself or with another person.

[@katy.vamp_]

She just proved to me that I am the toxic sibling

[@katy.vamp_]

Me and my sis are toxic

[@jimhanold9026]

I have four younger biological half-siblings-three half-sisters and one half-brother. The OLDEST of the aforementioned is the one that I have a "toxic" "relationship" with-hence no mutual communication between us for the rest of our lives; I am FINE with that!

[@cheese7635]

my brother BULLYS and all these things fit him and i feel like my parents don't love me either because when i get angry at him i get punished and not him and don't love my family and i get awful anxiety around him he humiliated me in front of his friends by kneeing me 4 times in the back and onto the floor

[@Paula27181]

Hi, so idk if my sister is toxic, it’s because I got used to it but I don’t think what she is doing it’s good she told me that I she wanted me to die and that she hoped me to kill my self that she didn’t love me and she won’t cry if I do it and that I was an error she always said that I’m ugly and stupid idk tho... I’m the younger sibling and I don’t have a good relationship with my brother too but he is better than my sister

[@misssford_4528]

Don’t listen to her negativity. I know it’s hard & it hurts coming from a relative, but just know that it’s nothing personal. She’s clearly going through something within herself & most likely takes it out on you or others. Which is not acceptable. You can’t control how she is but you can control your own emotions, don’t let it get to you. Don’t engage, just let her wallow in her own nasty energy until her self reflections skills kick in.

[@abbygrunenberg16]

literally what my sister does. I've gotten used to it though. Whenever she sees me (she went to uni) she tells me to kill myself and that no one would miss me. She did that before she moved out but I started to ignore it.

[@scoobiezoobie3612]

@Elizabeth Gurnmy sister says the same things

[@dianamary6170]

I have a toxic mother and brother. I hope one day i’ll be very far away from them. They hurt me so much and continuously do so. 🙁 today my brother yelled at me and kept making disrespectful remarks towards me because he thought I was lying about a migraine coming on. (He ended up having to leave work to take my mother to the garage to pick up her car. Mind you she could have easily just taken herself. She had a loaner car.) so because in his delusional mind I was lying he thought he was justified in treating me like shit. And oh the self-righteousness! I think these kinds of people are just emotionally sadistic. And It was also our father’s birthday. He turned 86 and my brother and I are both in our 40s. He says whatever he wants to me and no one in the family cares. This type of scenario has played out repeatedly all throughout my life and has contributed greatly to his rotten attitude and rages towards me. And he always feels justified! It is insane! Life isn’t supposed to be like this. They have one face in the public and a demon that awakens behind closed doors. Also guys, he gets migraines himself. You’d think he would have some empathy but his mind goes directly to -“She’s lying.” How pathetic is that? I wouldn’t wish this hell on anyone. I truly have compassion for everyone here. You are not alone. And the ones who got away and made a better life for themselves - Congratulations! May we all follow in your footsteps and be free one day as well!

[@crystalinabacteria3430]

Omg this is amazing! You really know my sister!

[@MoeActual]

This is an exact description of my older brother 🤣

[@shelliepetty4951]

I am the oldest of 5. My dad got very ill. I was the only one to take him in and care for him, he ultimately passed away and my siblings took control of his funeral and were nice to me only to get their way. Manipulation. Have not heard one word from any of them since his passing. I have been in recovery for many years and a strive for spiritual growth daily. I don't have any desire to have these toxic beings in my life! Thank you for the validation of this video!

[@roskvamoller6655]

❤

[@pavithraprince8524]

I have toxic selfish brother he always wants my money but he didn't caring loving me...😮

[@tahlialewis3549]

This is my family

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear that

[@shashankkulkarni993]

Keep distance and don't allow them to torture them to parents and youself .. Dont provide unlimited money so they wont took you/family as granted.. Its nasty way keep distance from. Such siblings either he or she is there..

[@mrunalshendad6751]

Soo surprised that everyone in the comments have toxic sister including me , don't worry friends one day we will get away from them

[@jas_koo1722]

So.. I can say my elder sis is toxic

[@Joyanima]

Sorry to hear that. Thank you for commenting

[@husnahoque]

That is exactly my toxic sister

[@ellabara1966]

My sister has been getting so much worse lately:( I am not very nice to her myself but I have tried to get along with her, but when I stopped she magically got nice and says SHE has been the one trying to start a friendship. I can explain everything I do wrong and she will agree but never say what SHES done wrong. I will tell her what she has done that has made me angry and she will insult my physical appearance. She’s called me fat and ugly and other things more times then I can count now and tries to play the victim. She is 17 and I’m 13 which explains a lot but honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been more Patient, understanding, and calm. Of course I throw insults at her aswell, but they are very rarely about her appearance and more what I feel she has been doing that is irrating me and putting dents in our relationship. I write her paragraphs through text because she won’t listen in real life but she refuses to read them. I really need help trying to figure out where I am going wrong here because i don’t want a relationship with her anymore but I do want to atleast get along

[@cosmiccometchichi]

wish i could say it gets better and it will to an extent when you live in different homes but from my experience if they dont make an effort or apologize it never feels life a friendship

[@pain4393]

My older sister hits me and take my things away without asking. She is my parents favourite kid and I can't speak up for anything she have done because of that and I don't feel like hitting her cause she is a girl. There is nothing I can do it's really annoying

[@priyaprix5786]

Omgosh!!! I have one! Psycho brother! Been dealing with this since childhood. Haven't talked to him direct only through parents...but now to think that he has changed after these many years!! Nope 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@roskvamoller6655]

Give him a chance to speak to you.

[@hiranyawijesekara5206]

these signs remind me of *Rodrick* from The diary of wimpy kid

[@trublmkr75]

Despite all of the craziness 2020 has been a dam good year since I cut contact with my toxic sister. She's so toxic that the Corona Virus is afraid of catching her toxicity!

[@NathaniaDemecillo]

Mine too

[@roskvamoller6655]

Why did you cut contact?

[@RachelLWolfe]

Describes my sister perfectly.

[@kenishahammond3935]

It's so easy to be done with a Narcisstic sibling. I'd rather have peace in my life, then to keep trash around! Bye!

[@susannah1066]

Both my 2 older brothers were like this-I thought we would be closer as adults-but they seemed to stay emotionally at age 14. I haven't seen either for 15 years-nice and peaceful.

[@user-sk4up8wz5b]

I needed this

[@PizzablastCeo]

My stepbrother constantly is selfish and doesn’t appreciate how much the family wants to help him, he constantly avoids me and he literally has hurt my little brother , who is very sensitive and “weak” compared to him. He acts up and doesn’t do his schoolwork on purpose, so he doesn’t have to put any effort into the work. He makes sure attention is on him 24/7, He manipulates my mom and has made me relapse multiple times because he’s literally tearing this family apart.

[@teresarodriguez821]

I have 6 sisters and 4 brothers, sadly all my 6 sisters have Narcissist personality disorder and Sociopath traits as does my eldest brother and I can't stand to be around them. These learned behaviors came from my grandmother my father's mother she was very a manipulator.

[@bread2096]

my siblings are jus draining. my little sister is so selfish and no matter what only cares about herself, even if i try talking to her about how her behavior makes me feel she dismisses and makes fun of all my feelings even if i am literally crying. my older is def better and i love her sm but she also extremely negative and if i’m around her for too long i feel rlly down and jus exhausted. i also have literally no friends, everyone i tried to talk to ghosted me. yea i rlly don’t get it i have God tho which is rlly all i need.

[@cosmiccometchichi]

keep your head up and stay strong eat healthy and exercise stay away from drugs

[@kleintje4391]

My sister Mets all these. And I am going into 6th grade so I have deal with this for a long time.

[@AshutoshPandey-po6wr]

Any one else have toxic elder cousin brother?

[@opnaltech7264]

FOR ALL PEOPLE SUFFERING JUST HOLD YOU CAN DO THIS

[@lessismore8533]

My parents had 4 kids. The youngest and oldest are 14 years apart The youngest was spoiled and MOST by my mom. He was under disciplined compared to the rest of us and as a result he grew up being ENTITLED. My mom NEVER corrected him All those years he annoyed/embarrassed me! My moms bad parenting is what drained me emotionally for years My dad was always gone working and that sucked because he would’ve stepped in when my mom never did I HATED having a manipulative baby sibling. I did not ask to be an older sibling anyway it wasn’t my choice Funny thing is he has a victim mentality when he thinks he’s ALWAYS the victim and does nothing wrong

[@gopherb3985]

I had to dump one of my sisters & my only brother a couple of years ago. Best decision I ever made my life is a lot quieter. My deceased mom would be disgusted by us though

[@roskvamoller6655]

When did you dump them , how long before or after your moms passing?

[@hm.5003]

SURE. My sister wasn't aloud to go to vacations and was always left alone and had a pretty bad child hood but... my parents force me into her dreams like. They force me to go to vacations with them and they keep buying me foods i dont need and i felt bad for my sister until she trusted my cousin more than me... she would always fight me for things as stupid as "WHY DID U PUSH MY CAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!" "U ALMOST HIT HER U- *arabic bad word*" even tho the cat tripped me.... when i get hurt she criticises me sayinb taht i am an idiot. MY PARENTS ALSO DEFENDING HER AND SHE ASKS FOR MY HELP TO MUCH- she even answers me rudely... cant wait to get out of my house and live freely after 4 years

[@mariaobeirne514]

All of these apply to my sister!

[@Lumine_.Xstrax]

As the toxic sibling, i know im hurting my sister, but i just. can't. Controll it, i've veen screaming at her, slapping and almost beating her. This hurting me mentally too. Please, help.

[@phenomenalfemale524]

My younger brother is a control freak. He makes a ton of money and has his entire career and he is in his 60s. I have had pockets of unemployment due to working in contracting and having contracts end without any notice or reason that was shared. Asking my brother for any help results in him telling me I make him feel put upon. He is single, never married and has lived a self-centered life full of travel, new cars whatever he wanted. Trying to connect and have any relationship is torture. If I Ever point out any flaw of his he gets So defensive and overreacts -- it is frightening to witness. Just because a person is a sibling doesn't make it an obligation to have a relationship when it results in no joy. I always feel bad after talking to him.

[@Musical.Gabbie]

My younger sister is such a drama Queen and a toxic person. Shes scary and She has said that she hates me.

[@ドラゴンボール_おたく]

There’s no such thing as toxic siblings. If you think your brothers and/or sisters had it better than you during your upbringing then blame your parents or whoever brought you up for allowing it to happen

[@roskvamoller6655]

I empathise with my brother around the circumstances for his childhood. He was abandonned by his mother and me the smaller child, to be alone with a dysfunctional father.

[@lessismore8533]

For me it’s 50/50. Yes upbringing is a HUGE part of why siblings can be so toxic once that sibling becomes a young ADULT, they’re free will is their responsibility. The annoying young sibling in MY family KNOWS his mom NEVER corrects him; so he was never afraid of picking fights with me in front of my mom. I started loathing him certain times and I think my feelings are justified. I should’ve moved out at 18 that was my chance to escape living with him

[@darkcadence938]

You forgot jealously and putting down your accomplishments for they can feel better about themselves..