16 Personalities Life Lessons | What the MBTI Types Can Teach You

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Each one of the 16 personality types can teach you many things. In this video I've picked one lesson for each type that stands out to me as useful. Feel free to let me know the lessons you've learned from each of the types down below in the comments!
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[@magnificalux]

0:04 - ENFJ 0:49 - ENTP 1:26 - ENTJ 1:59 - ESFP 2:52 - ENFP 3:34 - INFP 4:18 - ESTJ 5:11 - ESTP 5:56 - ISTP 6:38 - INFJ 7:11 - INTP 8:20 - ISFJ 9:00 - ESFJ 9:39 - INTJ 10:36 - ISFP 11:20 - ISTJ

[@lovewho]

Thank you for succeeding where I failed ~ Nathan

[@Snarl_Marx]

"No one has ever become poor by giving." My mom, an ISFJ, had this really lovely needlepoint above the kitchen sink with this exact quote. How funny and spot on! Now it hangs above my own kitchen sink and every time I see it I'm reminded of all the things she taught me. She was definitely the definition of holding power through grace.

[@lovewho]

That's really cool! It's nice to see examples of these things popping up in people's actual lives ~ Nathan

[@kevinlulu6683]

So cute that you've actually kept it from your mum 😊

[@flameking2178]

I find it ironic that INTPs are the personality type most detached from reality and yet their strong suit is their strong understanding of reality.

[@andrewswanson4819]

Yup, only once you've stepped outside of something can you fully understand it

[@moodcheck3242]

lmao facts

[@chunktuff]

@@andrewswanson4819 As an INTJ, I've instead noticed that you might have to understand something before you can step outside of it. I've been friends for a long time with an INTP, and he's always seemed very similar to me, but in a completely opposite manner on every level, like a double helix. This seems like one of those opposite, yet similar, sort of deals.

[@jimclayson]

@@chunktuff Electric motors versus electric generators. Mechanically identical, but totally different functions depending on the application of energy. Electrical energy into mechanical/kinetic energy in one case and mechanical/kinetic energy into electrical energy in the other. That's how I usually consider INTJ versus INTPs. -- an INTP NOTE: I'd probably say INTJs are the motors and INTPs are the generators, as INTJs tend to like seeing real world results, and also tend to utilize INTPs as minions.

[@andrewswanson4819]

@chunkatuff interesting, like you mean as an INTJ you feel like you're part of an existing structure (Te) and need to get a strong foothold on it (Se) before you innovate and expand upon it, whereas INTPs try to create their own detached frameworks by default? Or something like that? Understanding something is definitely often prerequisite for transcending it though, just look at how Godel used mathematics and logic to prove their own ultimate incompleteness. And yes, I do feel like the INTx gang will often arrive at similar conclusions, but do so using very different methods, each of which of course having its own merit

[@arozinos863]

Thank you for always putting INTJ at the same place in those Videos. It's always a little before the end

[@KingDeadMan]

Lucky~! INTPs are always smack dab in the middle of f*cking no where, so it's always hard to find our panels. 💀

[@mirriyastia7041]

Nathan just knows, that we are the majority, so he puts our section in the end to make us watch the whole movie)

[@randomcreations7]

@@KingDeadMan yeah, in half the vids we're like at the end, in the other half around the middle. annoying as hell. i always to straight to the comments, and if it's not there, i check the vid sections to see if the types are separated, and if not, i just skip forward in 15sec intervals

[@lovewho]

I use the same template every time it's just that sometimes I will write certain types before others and decide to record a partial bit of the video so the order changes ~ Nathan

[@audreyhowler]

The ESFP teaching "Comfort comes from within" is what I think most people are looking to learn to access when they are in therapy. Or so it's seemed, based on friends who've been there. I tried one session and thought the whole time, "You're a stranger. I'm not telling you sh*t.". Didn't return. Learned that I'm my own best therapist, and that the pub was my office.

[@lovewho]

The ending to this made me laugh, well played. ~ Nathan

[@annisafebriyanti693]

it just occured to me about Jung's concept on circumambulation of the self when you associated INFPs with their affinity for identity as a sort of their touchstone of being an individual. i think that's a profound way to come up with that idea from a psychoanalytic perspective. so thank you!

[@lovewho]

I had to google that word! I will look into this concept more ~ Nathan

[@jimclayson]

8:10 Nate: "...reality, as it is, not how I'd like it to be. That is something that INTPs do, almost as a default state, and is definitely something they can teach everyone else." On the "teach" part, it's much easier said than done. Many (not all) people try to decide what's true based on what they feel, rather than base how they feel on what's true. You can lead a horse to water, but submerging its head for several minutes isn't the same as making it drink, and it's very, very tiring...

[@nerysghemor5781]

I actually remember the exact scene Nate is talking about where it cut to the starving wolf cubs that had to eat. It hit me too, but as an INFP it’s not so much a zen “it is what it is” as understanding that more than one thing has the moral right to survive and we have to learn how to balance those things.

[@flameking2178]

There are many ways to teach. Not all are done directly. Oftentimes people learn far more from a person's actions than their words.

[@flameking2178]

Btw the three main ways to convey information are think, talk, and act. You can convey a principle or truth simply by taking action and using it create change that conforms to your will. You can convey a principle or truth using words to guide a person's perspective. Finally, you can lead the person into a line of thought where they discover the truth or principle for themselves instead of trying to convey to them directly.

[@lovewho]

That is indeed true regarding the difficulty of teaching this mindset. I think that's why those more emotional, or emotionally engaging examples might be effect ways to communicate that approach to life. I suppose that's quite ironic actually, that you'd need to be emotionally engaged first to appreciate that notion of detachment. In the story I mentioned it was a strange case of having two emotions that kind of cancelled each other out somehow. The feeling that was left over was quite enjoyable in an odd way ~ Nathan

[@jimclayson]

@@lovewho "...that you'd need to be emotionally engaged first to appreciate that notion of detachment." INTPs have and experience ALL the emotions everyone else does. Seeing multiple sides frequently means feeling multiple, often conflicting emotions. We try to put them aside, but often forget to deal with them after, which can lead to some wear and tear on our psyches and sometimes leads to catastrophic failure. Emotions may inform our understanding, but they aren't allowed to define it. BONUS: We're contrarians, largely because we can't help but turn a scenario on its head and see it from a different angle to what everyone else is observing. You say it's good? I'll point out the potential problems. You say it's bad? I'll point the potential benefits. It's one or the other or neither or both, depending on how you perceive it. We lean toward either neither or both.

[@alexmcmahon2810]

I find it hilarious that as a young INFJ I was shown the Tao Teh Ching and have pondered it ever since. It's the closest thing I have to a bible. For you to quote the sage of sages is so delightful, and also hilariously proper. Makes me feel like a good wisdom-bot.

[@lovewho]

Clearly there is some synergy going on right there! ~ Nathan

[@evanwweiler]

As an INTP, I really resonate with the ENFP quote. If you take this a step further, you get a quote that I coincidentally wrote down LITERALLY THIS MORNING through one of the random bursts of inspiration that I get in trying to decipher this world: "We only open our eyes to the things we already believe. Do not be beholden to your own beliefs and you will see the world for what it really is." (To steal a quote from Patrick) The machinations of our minds are an enigma, and it is also the lens with which we view the world. We really do live in our own heads, both literally and metaphorically; and because we fail to realize that reality is a LOT more complex than what we think, we so often miss out on the intricacies of the world when they misalign with our preconceived beliefs. To that I say we could all benefit from some amount of humility and open-mindedness, the antidote to the bit of ignorance that comes with our own arrogance. At least from my perspective, this is an essential step in the INTP way. (And if you look at the both the INTP and ENFP quotes, they really go hand in hand together :))

[@lovewho]

I love that quote of yours! ~ Nathan

[@Stacy396]

This was beautifully and articulately said.

[@suki5048]

Beautifully put

[@nerysghemor5781]

I really love the respect you show to the much maligned ESTJ on this channel. Like I’ve said before, one of the reasons my mom (ESTJ) and I (INFP) end up really vibing sometimes is because when she relaxes, there’s this hilarious sense of humor that pops out from the den it’s hiding in to snare you as soon as you’re not paying attention. 😂 Also, the ESTJ is more flexible than the stereotype. She used to get really frustrated with her ISTJ dad who could not make a decision or change ANYTHING even when it was sorely needed…whereas with her, while she might go grudgingly sometimes (as sometime I do when it has to do with my earthly creature comforts because third slot Si whines like a brat when deprived and yes I am STILL angry about getting kicked out of my cubicle at work even though it’s coming up on a year sgo 😂), she WILL do things different or new when needed.

[@MM-gk1tm]

As an ESTJ the Te over Si gives this weird ability to do violence to my own habits and preferences; sometimes I can make the change because I know it's the right decision, but it hurts more than I want it to. I feel our limitation is not so much changing as conceptualizing the future, in which I personally feel very limited compared to my INTP son and INFP wife.

[@lovewho]

I'm an ESTJ fan! One of the nice things about doing videos on all the 16 Personalities at the same time is that people of other types (who might not have much experience with some of the less discussed types, such as ESTJs) get to hear about them in an accurately positively light. This is opposed to seeing a stereotypical summary or well... a meme. There is a funny thing that happens, or rather a funny thing you notice about the types as you see them more and more in practice. Often mature versions of a type will utilise their lower functions better than types who have those functions as their main ones. ESTJs being more "creative in an effective way" because of the order in which they do things is the example I used in the video, but it does apply to many types! ~ Nathan

[@captainpapership1892]

Yes! You describes that really beautifully! I love ESTJs. Really kind in their own way. Make things work. Want to Help people and are really fun to be around

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@captainpapership1892 Yep, and if you have a good ESTJ in the family and you happen to see something really smart and efficient that they have and you comment on it, don’t be surprised to find that thing under the Christmas tree, for your birthday, or just because they felt like it! 🥰

[@captainpapership1892]

Beautiful video - as usual. Really liked the ENFP-part. I think this describes them really well. They just believe things are possible - and go on the adventure. The opposite of me :D

[@cinziat8354]

I agree about ESFPs. They're just so comfy and relaxed that they make this INTJ jealous 🤣🤣🤣 (kidding but not kidding) I just can't imagine how it feels to live with a brain that doesn't overthink. When i was typing my ESFP brother, i asked him questions about introspection when he cut in and said "oh i barely think" For an INTJ that's an offensive joke.

[@keiju49]

As an INTP, I learned that people hate me when I drag them into reality. 😂

[@renbrent2314]

The istp and isfj ones were amazingly accurate. The others were swell as well

[@lovewho]

It is always nice to hear feedback about some of the types that don't typically get as many views. I do try to make a point of still covering them individually so it's great to hear this! ~ Nathan

[@suki5048]

Great job Nathan! It's amazing to me that each of the other personality type's life lesson seems soo profound to me and many are things I think I should consciously apply in life; but my own type's life lesson did not seem profound at all as an INFJ because it has always been my belief, an understanding I have come to on my own and believe inherently. So it's spot on, in knowing your type if someone is still confused.

[@i_accept_all_cookies]

Nathan, this was a great video, very well made!

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! This idea popped into my head about a week ago so I decided to prioritise it and just to get it out there ~ Nathan

[@user-ey9ym6jq4k]

very inspiring video nathan. nice work.

[@trinaq]

I live with an ISTJ and an ESTJ, and they've both taught me how to plan ahead, and to self evaluate myself so that I can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

[@lovewho]

They seem very simple and straightforward ways to approach life, well, they are, but they are so underrated in my view ~ Nathan

[@beefee7279]

I think I have learned the lessons of ISTP, ISFJ, and ENFJ mainly, all of which I find aligning with my values, and I do appreciate it, I may not have learned them directly from the types, but I learned them! Great Video! :D

[@dizzy388]

"Some things have to be believed to be seen." What a lovely quote!

[@Snarl_Marx]

Right? It really tickled me as an ENFP! A great way to describe a thing about me I've always had trouble describing!

[@denisesiddon7241]

As an infp I admire enfp for their spontineity and sudden imagination without it being triggered by something. Stay wonderful enfp

[@ecaterinaungureanu9410]

ISTP female, 21 I find my self to be the most rigid-fluid person I know. I am most of both and both together.

[@lovewho]

It seems paradoxical, but somehow it works ~ Nathan

[@farbeyondtheshapelessheart2321]

Idea: The 16 personalities as the 4 elements 🌱🌊🔥🌪️ In the format where you also did the Hogwarts Houses

[@lovewho]

Ok, this is a really brilliant idea. I'm going to make a note of this now. I might just make this one in the near future! ~ Nathan

[@jimclayson]

Keirsey did something like this. He gives many examples of correlations between SJs, SPs, NFs and NTs with various historical classification systems. NOTE: It also works with the Fantastic Four from the comics. Just sayin'.

[@thanhheu4129]

Wow I just - like just avoid making mistake of something that derailed me in the past from gathered knowledge, and then I see this video of yours. Another time, brilliant 👏 - ISTJ

[@lovewho]

The quote I used in the video is from Charlie Munger. He is the person who first made me ponder that idea deeply. It's so simple but infinitely applicable to life, and so powerful! I'm glad to hear that you found that part accurate ~ Nathan

[@thanhheu4129]

@@lovewho Thank you for your dedication !!

[@zain4019]

Thank-you!

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan

[@irekaias]

As INTJ I would say my mantra is that "There are no walls in life that cannot be used or broken"

[@johnny_roots]

Amazing, we really can learn so much from all types. As an ESFJ, I thank you for bringing out this warm side of us which is rarely portrayed in other channels - they get us all wrong... PS: I feel like I want to learn from ESTP, ISFP and ENTJ sometimes. Not sure why lol

[@kevinlulu6683]

I agree. The ESFJ explanations seemed so spot on to who I am as a person

[@johnny_roots]

@@kevinlulu6683 do you watch other MBTI/16 personalities content creators? Do you also feel they usually don't represent the ESFJ well? I feel like many of them just cling to the cliché that ESFJs and sensors in general are always shallow and dumb. That's why I feel this video was a breath of fresh air.

[@kevinlulu6683]

@@johnny_roots I do to. But it doesn't bother me that much. Most of us are complex individuals. Because I'm very career driven, ESTJs stereotypes often have a closer fit with how I think. I've recently discovered the notion of "subtypes" in 16 personalities, according to Dario Nardi and the personality hacker KZbin channel. It has made me understand I was an ESFJ version very connected to my NT zone.

[@johnny_roots]

@@kevinlulu6683 Interesting take! I myself have searched for other typing systems and found out I am enneagram 9w1. Combined with ESFJ, my enneagram typing makes it clear why I have trouble with people-pleasing... although we know that each person is unique, these systems are great tools for self-development. Finding your correct type is the first step in the journey... I will definitely be checking on those subtypes youo mentioned. Cheers bro

[@fortune_roses]

*INTJ,* who'd learn from *ENTJs'* action-taking & *INFJs'* ability to "get" people's emotions & *underlying intentions,* especially when they're based on *emotions* rather than logic.

[@lovewho]

A very good mindset to have. As that strategy shows, it would be illogical to discount the impact of emotions ~ Nathan

[@fortune_roses]

@@lovewho Exactly! ♡

[@farfaraway4285]

As INTJ I feel like constantly yelling - see the bigger picture people! Maybe we are so open that we appear closed of. We are like goldfish in round fishbowl. Other fish can only see the bowl. We can see what’s outside.

[@moodcheck3242]

being an INTP I feel so inferior to the rest of the world. I live in and with my mind, yet I know my capacity for understanding is superior. But defining my purpose makes life seem like a means to no end. Which causes a sense of worthlessness and a need to escape the inescapable reality. while I see much more I see so much less for me. (mhhm that felt good)

[@malicious_content_]

An emotional rant but by someone highly intelligent kinda rare. Lol

[@menachemhermann]

Kinda insightful thx for that lol

[@jimclayson]

We (INTPs) tend to be keenly aware of our ignorance. Those gaps in our knowledge and experience sometimes eat at us and make us feel like we're faking our way through life, while many of those around us don't even see the point in considering the questions which capture our whole being. It's a mixed bag, and coming to terms with who and what we are can be a huge challenge.

[@cayk481]

@@jimclayson right? i always think about what I don't know rather than focus on what I do know

[@lovewho]

My advice would be to find people who will make use of your knowledge. It is such a shame for an INTP's insights and understanding to only be to their own benefit (although that is of course a great starting point). Seeing your ideas and influence change things in the world, or change people who will change things in the world, is rewarding and quite validating in my view. Not everyone is going to be great at actually understanding things deeply. Not everyone is going to be great at taking understanding and doing something with it. That's an opportunity for great synergy! ~ Nathan

[@salemsmith2878]

ENTP's lesson should instead be "Always look on the bright side of life."

[@vixen7774]

I’m getting back into the rabbit whole again and I just wanna know where do you get this information?i want to learn more -A Curious ENFP

[@astericks53]

I keep trying to triangulate what personality type i am through what i can relate with, but it feels like the words i use to express my internal philosophy changes so often that what i actually do and believe in is hard to see

[@lovewho]

Well, there are some types that would be more likely to have that kind of fluidity. It did strike me as a very Ne sentiment when reading what you wrote. ~ Nathan

[@astericks53]

@@lovewho but that would mean i have a high introverted judging function, but i do so much for the sake social validation, its like my lifes a pendulum swinging multiple times a day from I need everyone to like me to i hate everyone and why cant i be content with myself

[@solarisan_]

@@astericks53 What if you were to look at cognitive functions separately? Could help you track your cognitive process. Hero function is the one that “saves the day”. Inferior function feeds the hero and because of it “suffers a blow” and loses its strength. So, it is normal to feel insecurity coming from that function. Parent function is the one we feel responsible towards. Child function is part of us we protect. You can think of those 2 middle functions as a relationship a parent has with their child. Imagine all possible scenarios and you should be able to integrate the understanding of those better. Then think of the 7th function. Perhaps that could help you.

[@denisesiddon7241]

As an infp i see the cardboard cutout sensors and feel sorry for them

[@MokiRol]

hi.

[@theperksofbeingabookworm906]

Can we get a hint as to what your mbti type is?

[@daegzy3031]

Oh wow. The ENFP quote is too spot on for my ex. I hope she sees watches this.

[@user-ey9ym6jq4k]

I love ISTP teaching.

[@johnknight9150]

Jello? 🤨

[@rauliuxaa]

I think ESTP quotes work for all high Se users.

[@DSTRK93]

Okay, saw the vid. Now tell me what am I going to do with ths information? - INTJ [probably nothing, I'm too lazy for that.]

[@Apeiron242]

One medium, ten media.

[@infpsych]

❤

[@midnightsky3782]

How do I become as eloquent as you?

[@lovewho]

Well, most of what I say in the videos comes from a script I've written. In conversation I stumble over my words much more often! ~ Nathan

[@midnightsky3782]

@@lovewho Your diction fascinate me regardless.

[@ecaterinaungureanu9410]

So early

[@Linawouldrathernot]

0:25 Him talking about people made in labs living separately. Me: "I need to: 1) find an ENFJ 2) make them read Asimov's Naked Sun 3) observe reaction"

[@steveruqus2680]

👏👏👏

[@bma051000]

Fun

[@realSimoneCherie]

Why does the ISTJ one seem so sad

[@LizzMo]

If I only went by this video, I would "diagnose" myself as ENTP, rather than ENFP. I can never land on which one, despite testing as ENFP, and studying cognitive functions. I think I need to talk to more ENTP women to compare. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@foxnharo]

If you don't agree with "be believed to be seen" you're most likely ENTP, I'm not totally against the quote but I find it kinda what my 4yo cousin when she tells me about her imaginary fairy friends

[@LizzMo]

@@foxnharo LOL...that's exactly what I think it's like talking to an INFP or ENFP sometimes. You may be right. I like to use my imagination, too, but I'm well aware it is only make believe. I have really big feelings, like an ENFP. I have childhood trauma, though, so maybe it changed me, and made it harder for me to manage my emotions. I didn't really cry much until I was an adult, after I had lost many loved ones. I actually try to avoid emotional situations. I don't understand women wanting to sit around and tell sad stories about themselves, or watch emotional stuff on TV. So maybe I'm not as emotional as I think. The ENFPs I know don't seem as logical, do seem more emotional than me, and do seem more impulsive. I painstakingly think through every decision. I just wonder if ENTP women can be as emotional as I am sometimes. I can be moody as hell. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@RosheenQuynh]

The INFP one hit so hard, OOF

[@lovewho]

Good! ~ Nathan

[@RosheenQuynh]

@@lovewho I don't think I'll ever know my true self ugh 🤣

[@HeliNoir]

So is Nathan an INTP?

[@jimclayson]

I'm not sure if he's officially outed his MBTI or not. Lots of people online seem to think he is, but INTPs are overrepresented on the internet and a lot of people project their biases onto others. If so, he's pretty emotionally advanced for an INTP, but it's not impossible. I'd lean toward xNFJ, but it's REALLY hard to tell just from someone's KZbin persona. -- an INTP

[@lovewho]

I'm a man of mystery... ~ Nathan

[@jimclayson]

@lovewho So INFJ, then...? 😁 I pick up on some strong Fe, which doesn't eliminate INTP as an option, but it makes it less likely. Definite xNxJ vibe with a focus on personal and interpersonal betterment. Just guessing. Again, it's tough to say from just observing someone's KZbin persona, but I think I see some recurring themes. EDIT: That said, I know of some ESFP MBTIers who can seem VERY xNFJ when they're in the zone.

[@brocklytodd5317]

third :D

[@Raphsophomes]

Isfp and infp are virtually the same, in fact id say the infp one is less specefic, and both apply to isfp more than infp in actual practice. In fact infps are the ones with a more concrete identity.

[@lovewho]

That's an interesting thought regarding INFPs being more concrete in their identity! ~ Nathan

[@Raphsophomes]

@Love Who I should clarify i believe in cognitive personality theory more so than normal mbti or the grant variation, so we dont believe the tertiary is a second inferior function. We view the tertiary as an auxiliary to the first function in fact.

[@Multitudes_]

INFPs do have a more (internally) concrete identity, but concrete does not mean simple or static. It's still complicated and does evolve in some ways over time, though typically in a more organic and incremental way than for ISFPs. It's ExFPs and ExTJs that have relatively more static Fi in cognitive personality theory.

[@solarisan_]

@@Raphsophomes MBTI adds behavioral elements to mental process. Your introverted functions are those that process/connect the information on the inside. The extraverted ones react to things, show/direct the attention towards something. What MBTI has done (basically) is integrate info into forming a rather confusing system in hopes to tell us how to break our mental loop and what sort of focus and activity we should undertake in order not to be “stuck in our head” (a process introverts go through often). Or, to put it differently: MBTI is a system that people further decipher by focusing on the first function we use in our mental process and first function that directs our attention towards something. In practice, our mental wiring doesn’t really follow such structure.

[@Raphsophomes]

@sanni Im not a fan of mbti. Especially the internet version where it has to be Ieie or eiei, it literally isnt accurate. Imo a better approach to helping people while using the system is accurately defining. Because imo the goal of mbti isnt personal health, but its based on the idea that "health" is doing what works for "others". Mbti is one big fe circlejerk. I dislike its intentions, i disagree with the idea that you have to essentially trick people into fulfilling a role. I dont like how mbti is essentially about types fulfilling roles in a societal structure. Its taking it too far and its not making sense anymore.

[@stormlord1177]

First?

[@marcolengyel4167]

fourth

[@sumerajaved]

Those acting as intj fail to make me feel understood

[@fl3640]

Fiiirssttttt

[@morphean2438]

First to have absolutely nothing worthwhile to contribute? Sure, why not but at least you got to give a pointless "First" comment.

[@fl3640]

@@morphean2438 yeah forgive my ignorance. Stupid people be like that sometimes 😂. Your comment was super enlightening and useful 😘. Thanks for taking your precious time to write it. Just try not to show how butthurt you are next time.

[@morphean2438]

@@fl3640 I think the word you are looking for is bored. Thanks for the amazing reply though!

[@fl3640]

@@morphean2438 ahh you had nothing better to do. Forgive me. Your most welcome 😘

[@morphean2438]

@@fl3640 *You're 🤪Whereever you are, have a wonderful day/night