24 Regrets of People Who Are Dying - Matthew Kelly

[@DudeWatIsThis]

Straight and to the point. Not 27 minutes long, not padded with stupid ads. Thank you, good sir, kind sir.

[@charles-y2z6c]

One regret is not to be long winded and waste time

[@DudeWatIsThis]

@@charles-y2z6c HAHAHAHAH

[@StephonsDoom]

Rare to find this nowadays.

[@MaryJane-bk9vj]

100% right👌

[@orleytravels]

Yes! Concise and to the point. Thank you!

[@JamesPetroff]

Most of the regrets stem from failing to have courage. Fear is not your friend.

[@mrdeep6406]

Sometimes Fear is a friend who's misunderstood

[@MR-backup]

@@mrdeep6406They say "perfect love cast out all fear", if so, there is no misunderstanding that fear is the ultimate goal of humanity to destroy, forever.

[@Laceh1]

Exactly!

[@erictustison]

The list is biased since it does not include anyone who died from cliff diving 😂

[@Hopkins132]

​@@mrdeep6406ok there John mayer

[@daan7783]

I really like the quote I once heard "fear doesn't prevent death, fear prevents life"

[@Mika_chester06]

♥️♥️♥️

[@autenthic7579]

fear does prevent death in certain condition but yeah it makes senses too

[@turbex7963]

That’s god damn deep

[@kimyoung3484]

❤❤❤

[@shao8614]

how do you explain the day I didn't jumped off a cliff because I was afraid?

[@super7ace]

A few years later, one more thing will be added to the list, that is "I wish I spent less time using my phone & did something valueable"

[@ScissorN]

🎯

[@OutrageHarvester]

I just liked your comment with my stupid phone. I'm a hypocrite. Proud hypocrite. I'm smiling now. Gonna turn off KZbin and do something useful. Yep. Any second now. You'd better believe it. Gonna happen. Pretty much very soon...ish.

[@mikeyyoyo6464]

Haha!!! @super7ace that’s the spirit soldier! Get out & about, do things, anything, keep moving 👍

[@Salz88]

And yet you're on your phone right now writing this comment. Oh the irony.....

[@godlessheathen6425]

​@@Salz88It's not ironical if he understands that he is part of the people who's going to have that regre

[@ramsayross]

" I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened. " - Mark twain

[@PappyMandarine]

So inspiring, thanks! This is the one "regret" that speaks most to me. Less work, more traveling, more dreams I'm already doing. But I worry about stuff, I worry about the future... And I'm sure that a lot of worries would not materialize themselves. Yet I still worry...

[@Autojones]

" Live such a life that even the undertaker will be sad to hear of your passing." ~ Mark Twain.

[@samricher]

Notice how all of the regrets are individualistic and matter to the person who is dying! In the real life we tend to worry more about others until we realize it’s just you. It’s always been you. Until the end

[@Stefan-wi1mv]

One of the greatest comments I have ever read on KZbin. Thanks a lot for that! It is always about perception. You decide how to perceive your life. It doesn’t matter what anybody thinks of you. Their thoughts about you don’t matter in the slightest. It’s about you and always will. Very well said.

[@samricher]

@@Stefan-wi1mvGlad it resonated with you. I’ll keep reminding myself the same thing over and over again.

[@gregh_777]

the truth is though, we dont want to live on our own. we are social so it kind of does matter what people think to an extent

[@garyg7549]

Yes but that's the fulfilled life. You before me. Others first. You don't want a selfish existence just thinking of you. That's wrong and fruitless.

[@samricher]

@@garyg7549 wrong. It’s always me first. By putting yourself first you’ll become a better man and anyone around you is going to appreciate and benefit from what you become. Being selfish is most selfless thing you can be

[@In_time]

When you’re young, you care so much what others think of you. When you get older, you care less what others think of you. And when you are old, you realize no one was ever thinking of you at all. (They were too wrapped up in what others thought of _them.)_ I heard that once, and it stuck with me ever since. The moral of the story is live the life you want and don’t worry what others are thinking of you... Because they’re probably not anyway.

[@aussie8114]

As you get older you realise that those you tried to impress were not even worthy of your time.

[@maxsheng8215]

I am sure there are ppl who think about you. Namely your loved ones and your enemies.

[@In_time]

@@maxsheng8215 _of course,_ lol. We’re not dead 🙈 No, what is meant by “no one is thinking of you” is _no one that matters_ is thinking _unkindly_ about you. So be free. No one that matters (like loved ones) is going to be purposefully critically cruel regarding what your goals/dreams are in life, so you should not live in fear of what they think. Anyone that matters (like loved ones) will take care to encourage you and build you up and spur you onward. Anyone that _doesn’t matter_ (like your enemies) truly _doesn’t_ matter... because they’re your enemies and their opinion never mattered in the first place 😉 so it’s even less of a reason to live your life concerned with what they think of you when/if they do at all. (And even so with both parties still, thoughts will be fleeting because, try as we might, we all tend to focus on self the most.)

[@maxsheng8215]

​@@In_timeRight . as a grown up, you are responsible for your own life. As a child, what your parents think of you and your goals do matter, and they could positively or negatively affect your decision making.

[@leonardhevia5452]

I don't have any of these regrets. I left behind childhood friends. They have their own troubles and responsibilities. Not interested in chasing a dream or passion, and spirituality is an empty cup for me. I stopped worrying what others thought of me long ago. My main concern is just to have fun, exercise, and keep working until retirement.

[@ayeright1131]

My father always said "you will never hear anyone on their death bed say i wish i had of worked more".

[@Marvin-dg8vj]

I have often heard that said and I have changed my mind . A lot of people have too much time on their hands and should have worked harder .It would give them a sense of purpose instead of complaining all the time.

[@SERG__ZV]

But there are a lot of homeless people who died of hunger or disease on the street because they don't have money because they don't have a job. No one will hear their complaints because no one needs them. Do you think we're just working for fun? If you paid me money for nothing, I wouldn't work, but just enjoy life. Unfortunately, smart guys like you only get smart, but they don't solve the real world problems.

[@ayeright1131]

@SERG__ZV Calm down petal, I said work more, I do a 50 hour week. That's already too much. All I'm saying is don't work your life away for someone else at the loss to your family. I am NOT saying don't work. Dear God almighty, I thought everyone could have worked that out without me having to explain it 🙄

[@moonhunter9993]

agreed

[@devilsoffspring5519]

Dang, I wish I had seen that one movie on a BIGGER TV! *croaks*

[@AegisAuras]

I almost fell off a cliff once. My life flashed in my mind, much like in the movies. Memories flashed from that point back to when I was a child. They seemed to be the most meaningful scenes from my life. I can’t remember most of them but some were just me playing legos with my brother as a kid, hanging out with my friends, and several were of me bending down to pet the various pets I had throughout my life. It wasn’t memories of when I got hired for jobs, or got raises, or graduated, or shit like that. I think about this more and more nowadays. I don’t want to have to be on death’s door again to have perspective.

[@nickdeacon]

Wow. Thank you for sharing. I've thought a lot about how much of what we (I?) dream / desire is visualized in the 3rd person...but I live my life in 1st person. And (until I realized this) I didn't visualize things I wanted the way I'd actually experience them, in the 1st person. The thought of bending down to pet your pets...that reminds me of that. And it's a sweet moment where it's just you and the animal, sharing a connection.

[@AegisAuras]

@@nickdeacon I don’t think I’ve ever thought of that before. That’s a very good observation. In dreams, even if I can tell each of the characters is a manifestation of my subconscious, there’s still always one character I inhabit more than the others, seeing from their eyes in 1st person. I suppose personifications in the psyche viewed from the 3rd person are considered “distant” to the self; distant to the ego, perhaps. There’s probably a lot of potential depth there to be explored.

[@discodingo1596]

This comment needs to be on the top

[@grav8455]

Pure gold.

[@stealthragnarr2644]

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[@monster_in_the_closet]

1. I wish I had the courage to be myself. 2. I wish I had spent more time with the people I love. 3. I wish I had made spirituality more of a priority. 4. I wish I hadn't spent so much time working. 5. I wish I had discovered my purpose earlier. 6. I wish I had learned to express my feelings more. 7. I wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying about something that would not going to happen. 8. I wish I had taken more risks. 9. I wish I had cared less about how other people thought. 10. I wish I had realized earlier that happiness is a choice. 11. I wish I had loved more. 12. I wish I had taken better care of myself. 13. I wish I had been a better spouse. 14. I wish I had paid less attention to other people's expextations. 15. I wish I had quit my jobs and found something I trully enjoyed doing. 16. I wish I had stayed in touch with old friends. 17. I wish I had spoken my mind more. 18. I wish I hadn't spent so much time chasing the wrong things. 19. I wish I had more children. 20. I wish I had touched more lives. 21. I wish I had thought about life's big question earlier. 22. I wish I had travelled more. 23. I wish I had lived more in the moment. 24. I wish I had pursued more of my dreams.

[@KKLKK2210]

Thx

[@jakeschwartz2514]

Who. Asked?

[@CabinetPlasma-q8z]

@jakeschwartz2514 I did

[@digitform2832]

@@jakeschwartz2514quiet kid

[@ujjwal5129]

​@@digitform2832😂😂😂😂

[@sandramillar9067]

“The inevitability of death should inspire us to get busy living “. Wow! 🙌🏻🙏👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@user-ep3ck5re4o]

Sounds like a part quote from The Shawshank Redemption 😂😂😂 I

[@frankclements1431]

What is it we do when we are living? Is it riding a bull, jumping out of a plain.

[@joevil6259]

In the western worlds do we tend to ignore death. It falls under ignorance is bliss. The Buddhists on the other hand says that we should think regularly about our death. That is how you get the north star in your life. In other words, what you should be doing with your life.

[@lerubikscubetherubikscube2813]

Memento mori

[@jimj2683]

It should also inspire us to progress the research of biological aging reversal and longevity escape velocity. We have to occupy our time with some kind of purpose/work, so why not make the purpose one that actually could give a great outcome.

[@sarahillingworth9257]

I wish I'd taken more risks. I wish I'd taken better care of myself. I wish I'd travelled more. I wish I'd lived more in the moment.

[@mrSbig20]

Nothing is guaranteed

[@jonh9561]

@@mrSbig20 Death and taxes are.

[@MR-backup]

I wish I understood why it is so difficult to conquer daily fear & laziness.

[@ΚυριακοςΚοτσιαφιτης-φ7δ]

​@@MR-backupit's never easy and that's the beauty of it,to look back and think proudly of what you have achieved despite the difficulties you faced but until then you do that,you struggle for your purpose and remain with a smile on your face thinking about how much you wanna change your situation for the better. I say that because I am in the exact same spot and I think I have finally realized that the beauty of living is found in action and improvement of yourself

[@thesurvivorssanctuary6561]

@@MR-backup It's because we are literally beings made up of TRILLIONS of other smaller beings, who are themselves made up of TRILLIONS of bits of data contained in DNA, which is all just REPITITIONS AND PATTERNS of behavior. That's our unconscious mind, and it's stronger than the conscious mind. The only way to overcome it is to realize that you are redirecting a TRAIN. You cannot redirect a train through brute force.

[@daenerysdivine1906]

The list they said: They regret not being themselves, not spending more time with people, not being more spiritual, working too much, not looking into discovering their purpose, not expressing feelings, wasted time worrying, didn't take more risks, wish they cared less about what others thought, know that happiness is a choice, wish they loved more, took care of themselves better, were a better spouse, paid less attention to other's expectations, wish they had quit their job and done what they loved, Wish they kept in touch with friends, spoke their mind more, felt they were chasing the wrong things, wish they had more kids, wish they touched lives, wish they thought about the "big questions", wish they traveled more, wish they lived more in the moment, and wish they pursued their dreams.

[@redbakery8943]

Thanks

[@avi1766]

thank you you so much!!!

[@valuetraveler2026]

very good

[@prashantbisht6384]

Thanks 🙏🏾

[@jackmiddleton2080]

If I was a scientist I would wish to gather data about the people that make lists in youtube comments.

[@minimalist2406]

From my experience Hating someone and living offended for years is a huge waste of time and energy. It makes you feel miserable, affects your physical and mental health. If you can't forgive someone, just let them go. Don't try to get revenge or prove them wrong. Trust me, sooner or later they will learn their life lessons. Don't repeat my mistake.

[@hectorortiz8224]

As time passes, your words resonate with me more and more. There's beauty in wisdom, yes..

[@Kirokill1]

Revenge is a fool’s game

[@estebanalvarezfazi1397]

i've been hating an important friend of mine for almost 3 years. I will follow your advice and i hope i become a happier person as i always wanted. thanks

[@minimalist2406]

@@estebanalvarezfazi1397 I had been hating my ex husband for 7 years. We have a mutual daughter and he keeps in touch with her. One day l decided to cut of all ties with him and his family and disappear completely from his life. After some time had passed one day he called me and suggested to become friends. He admitted the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Yeah, it's a long story and there were many other reasons and consequences but the moral is obvious.

[@minimalist2406]

​@@estebanalvarezfazi1397I had been hating my ex husband for 7 years. I couldn't delete those bitter memories...and our mutual daughter was a reminder to me because he kept in touch with her. But one day everything changed...he called me and asked for help. I was the only one who could solve his problem. I refused to help because l felt it was unfair....he didn't deserve it. Then l just decided to cut of all ties with him and his relatives. After a while he called me and suggested to become friends no matter if l help him or not. He also admitted the fact that everyone makes mistakes. That was the only thing l needed to hear from him. The story has more reasons and consequences but the moral is obvious. (I'm not a native speaker of English).

[@steceymorgan814]

As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help

[@patriaciasmith3499]

People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Is he on the internet?

[@worstnetizenbasedonmicroso653]

As I get older, I realized that regretting something is a waste of energy. It doesn't mean that people are dumb, but we just had no idea that certain actions in the past could apparently be beneficial in the future. Just focus on things we want to achieve and be consistent in doing it.

[@loverofhumanity]

Yup 👍🏾.....not to mention that perfection of life isn't even possible. You'll always feel short changed by life and have wanted things differently because life itself isn't perfect. It's okay. It all played out the way it did.

[@SurpriseMeJT]

As they say - "Hindsight is 20/20".

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

My mother passed last Wednesday evening after a long illness and even though i find it tragic and heartbreaking, I was lucky enough to be by her side and she was lucky enough to have me and some of her family there. I felt her last pulse and was happy that her suffering was over. I myself have had a decade long history of health anxiety but in the months and days leading to her final moments my mother expressed no fear of dying whatsoever. I find this incredibly brave and inspiring. She and I no longer share the heavy burden of her long slow demise as I felt pain because of her being in pain. Now at nearly 55 I have a brand new life in front of me because she’s gone and I no longer have her to look after and worry about. So death is a gift to end suffering and life is a gift to start living. It’s only 3 days since she went but I can feel her everywhere and she’ll live on in my memories until I take my final breath someday.

[@ianstuart5660]

.very beautiful attitude, all best wishes to you!

[@scottowensbyable]

Im glad you cared for your mother. Be kind to yourself 😊

[@joevil6259]

I'm sorry for your loss. Let's consider the alternative...if one is not sorry to see a parent die. That means that there was bad blood. That is terrible too. My dad passed away April this year at 87 . I loved that guy but his slow demise over the last +-5 years put the whole family on edge, pins and needles. Financially and emotionally it was very taxing. After his death I also experienced enormous relief. It is normal.

[@Psychology_Exposed]

Thats very brave to say, many people find it difficult to admit that caring for their loved ones is a real mental burden. I am happy you are now at peace. I am currently experiencing similar with my mother. Remember to make time for some therapy :) keep going.

[@lma5508]

❤

[@holyn8]

many of those points have 1 root: STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

[@conanobrian8580]

so your telling me you dont care what i think about you?

[@DevMobile-rm7er]

​@@conanobrian8580no

[@Dean03133]

@@conanobrian8580😂😂

[@snowymuffin]

big respect for putting the 24 regrets in 2 minutes, sir!

[@Geico23]

W

[@nivid01]

Lot’s of lame regrets. Surely some of these didn’t come from mouths of dying people or were they just made up for this video!!!

[@zvuchko9785]

He didn't want to have regret of wasting too much time on 1 video

[@MagarethWoods]

Honestly our government has no idea how people are suffering these days. I much feel sorry for the disabled and homeless people who don't get the help they deserve, Investing in alternate income streams should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment.

[@NatalieDormer-or4jj]

You are absolutely right 💯

[@NatalieDormer-or4jj]

Am looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I really need to create an alternate source of income, what do you think I should be buying?

[@MagarethWoods]

Cryptocurrency/stock investment, but you will need a professional guide on that.

[@MagarethWoods]

Facebook 👇

[@MagarethWoods]

Evelyn C. Sanders

[@cheetos585]

No one's headstone says, "I should have worked longer". I have a coworker in his 60's who said to me that he wouldn't know what to do if he retired so he just keeps working. Mind you that the job is the most soul-sucking, meaningless, melancholy pit of despair you have ever seen. It's just awful. I have another coworker in his late 50's who is like a robot. Same routine, same conversations, same jokes, same stories, same everything, day in and day out, over and over and over, no hobbies, no nothing, just comes to work and goes home, wash, rinse, repeat. He too is just going to keep working. Financially, they both could have stopped working long ago so that's not an issue. I've tried to tell them that there's more to life than just work but it falls on deaf ears, so I've stopped talking to them about it. We've had people die at work, no joke, two of them, old dudes. Not me, I'm not financially as well off but I'm saving as much as I can for the next year and I'm out of the rat race. No more alarm clock, no more commute, no more enduring the incompetence of management, no more clock-watching, no more putting up with nonsense, no more weekends flying by and gone before you know it, no more Monday mornings, no more working for the weekend, no more of any of that, every day will be Saturday when I "retire". I'll be on a budget, but I'll survive. I'd rather live on my terms than die with a big pile of cash. I can think of a million things that I'd rather be doing than carrying on a meaningless existence and wasting away at a job that's choking the life out of me.

[@stevecarmack6267]

The best thing about retirement is Sunday night 😜

[@DropShort105]

Spot on. Godspeed when you retire. 👍🏻😊

[@XhizorBE]

Golden advice for young people under us, just stay at home with your parents as long as possible if you have a good bound ofcourse. And invest big parts of your money in a index fund or etf funds. In a time window your capital will be grown at least double the size. If you are like 39 you will have a decent passive income. I'm talking about a yearly extra income with the rent of your funds. Will even be a lot more if you are able to keep your work in all those years, and no problems with your health Its pretty easy overtime to build wealth with passive investments. At least if you start at a proper age with the right knowledge. Whatever you do don't buy a stupid car to impress dumb women I'm advicing etf or index funds, because it doens't require tons of knowledge about the stock market. And you are like investing in the whole market of a certain list of company's. Those list involves big company's and are like 1400 company's. And the market on the long term alway's spins around a profit marge around 10%, so you defo beat inflation with such a investment Don't be afraid of investing in stock, people who lose big money with such things. Just invest all their money in a few compan'ys. And that's alway's a bad idea and involves a lot of risk. But if you invest in tons of company's and build it progressive, then its really a good decision to build wealth it The taxes are a downer ofcourse, but you only pay taxes on your rent and if you decide to sell. Its important to create a snowball effect with such things. Don't buy such things for just a couple of years Also fuck work i defo agree with that one. To be really happy you need to have fuck you money. And you can't achieve that with just working hard, you need to have knowledge about the stock market Don't mind my english grammar, i know its crap xD

[@KB-th9jm]

Excellent

[@nat0106951]

good thing I have a decent paying job that is work from home for life. its like everyday is saturday . 😅

[@alicyr9631]

"I wish I had discovered my purpose earlier"--great reminders to think about what we might regret.

[@frankclements1431]

does anyone know what their purpose in life is?

[@qyoinqyuri]

@@frankclements1431 my purpose is to pass butter.

[@cheezy0893]

purpose is an illusion

[@richardesponja693]

The more you find out about life, the more you get numb and depressed, so enjoy the lies

[@sonnyc3826]

im sure everyone does...it snot on our time but Gods and soem peopel never find their purpose in life...thats not our control

[@shivensaini3643]

You know the list is informative, when the first one is "I wish I'd the courage just to be myself."

[@notmedude]

It's amazing that it's completely devoid of any materialistic possessions or finances.

[@SENSEF]

Sort of... if they had had more money they would have worked less, picked a more meaningful job, spent more time with loved ones, etc. But you're right that "stuff" was not on the list.

[@istvanglock7445]

@@SENSEF Not sure about that. Many people work as much as they can to earn as much as they can - and it never seems to be enough. Not sure what the mindset is, but money spells security (to most), and I think that's what they're really looking for.

[@jakephillips4453]

Some people's passion is actually making money.

[@BonJ-zl2kp]

@@istvanglock7445there are a lot of people that earned enough money and enjoy it in silence, but you don’t hear about them

[@digitform2832]

maybe its because its at hospices only the higher class can afford?

[@aanand_babu]

I always live by this quote :- "No matter what, you will miss out on something." . A hungry man dreams of nothing but food. Our priorities, our needs depend on our current situation. So, don't let other people's experiences define your happiness. Stay grateful for what you have and you'll find your life a lot untangled. 😊

[@lovelychauhan664]

thanx aanad ❤️

[@sfZ4M]

Not one single person wished they had a better career or more money. Yet so many chasing just that and don’t see what they miss.

[@chrishayes5755]

the thing about life is either way you're going to suffer. if you're content to work a low paying job and settle you will suffer, badly. if you embrace that you will suffer and willingly decide to suffer in huge amounts every day, you can make lots of money. money is a tool that gives you freedom and power. power to make choices others can't, the power of self-ownership, the power to influence others, the power of security, the power of controlling your time. the choice is yours, I hope you choose to take the hard path and you will come out on top.

[@BonJ-zl2kp]

Money is a neccesity, if not a really great contributor to most of the things on this list.

[@pugdragon]

Money is important for survival and freedom to do things, but if you work too much, especially in a job you're not passionate about, it may lead to 'I wish I hadn't worked so much'. I suppose it's not so bad if one works an uninteresting (to the individual) job just for the money, and has enough time and money to pursue one's own passions and dreams outside of working hours. But in my experience, having a full time job in a field I lacked passion for truly felt meaningless. Like, I was meaninglessly passing time and life away. I'm working part time now in a field I'm passionate about, and I'm much happier and find my work more meaningful now. On my deathbed, I wouldn't regret taking a major pay cut to do something I believe in. But I would most certainly regret if I were to not take the risk, and stick to my old field just for the sake of money. Human life is only a few decades short, typically, regardless of accumulated wealth. Accumulated time from doing meaningless work, that, you'll never recover.

[@interekwebinars]

All of these regrets have one core: courage and constant overcoming of fear/anxiety to do or be something. COURAGE PEOPLE! Be strong and assertive.

[@janel342]

Interekweb I might be wrong but I think Courage has nothing to do with being assertive. it’s an inner quality that doesn’t depend on being more than someone else- as assertive’ implies.

[@interekwebinars]

@@janel342 Thank you

[@fieldingjames6808]

I feel someone will always have something to regret I think you just have to accept that no one is perfect

[@istvanglock7445]

You can't do it all in one life.

[@Ivan-wp1ne1]

A funny thing about regret is… that it’s better to regret about something you have done, that about something you haven’t done

[@Braveheartman123]

I’ve heard the “I wish I hadn’t spent so much of my life just working, spent more time traveling and doing things I love” so many times from my elderly patients. Their advice is to retire early and enjoy every minute of every day. And don’t waste it watching videos on social media either !!

[@mickyLat3652]

About once a year I like to walk through a graveyard & just look at & read the details of the head stones. Seems a bit weird but i always walk away appreciating life more. Cheers

[@agquad]

This is actually a neat idea, I might try this. It also gives the living time to pay respects to those dead--some who may be remembered, and some who may need to be remembered.

[@Ivan-cm6bz]

I do that every week. Am I weird lol.

[@sweetsweet3753]

ohhh i couldnt do that... i dislike the old concept of a human taking up land for so called eternity..

[@istvanglock7445]

OK when you're young, but when you're old It can be a bit dispiriting when you see hardly anyone who lived longer than you.

[@DABK2024]

Where you are, I once was. Where I am, you too shall be.

[@paramedicchrisbookseries]

Miss my Dad everyday, the memories are the most important thing.

[@Mmmznznnxnxnnx]

Thank you 🙏, I am 87 years old and I am ready to finally live my life.

[@obiwankenobe3962]

Meanwhile, some top regrets while still alive: - being broke and stuck in a crappy 9-5 (I wish I had worked/studied more and chilled less with friends and family) - having many enemies (I wish I was less courageous about being myself and speaking my mind) - in a wheelchair after an accident, or bankrupt after risky investments (I wish I took less risks in life) - bankrupt or injured (I wish I worried more about things that could happen) etc... everything has 2 sides of a coin, and grass is always greener on the other side. There are no right and wrong answers, just luck. Just don't be extreme. If you're already crushing it in 1 aspect of life, you can let that slide a bit to make up on the other sides.

[@chrislagos44]

Just take risks! And don't be afraid of change

[@bentrider]

It is inherent in human behavior that we all make decisions and do things based on what we think is best for us at the moment. I am 70 years old and I don't regret any of my decisions or actions. That is simply because I realize that they were done for the above reason. The only things I regret are some of the consequences of my decisions, most of which, were completely out of my control. We all just do the best that we can. There is no sense in beating ourselves up for just being who we are....human. 😊

[@navidpivau]

I can't agree more 👍

[@Jan96106]

Thay's basically what I said in my comment on this video. I'm 72.

[@bentrider]

@@Jan96106 😀👍

[@fdef12678]

Im 18 and i agree to this. The only regrets i have so far are things I havent done, not the things I had done

[@hiddenname9809]

Correct.

[@michaeldamico9592]

I WISH I SEEN THIS VIDEO SOONER…!!! I am 55 years old…. Glad I saw this video in time… THANK YOU

[@Oceansta]

Better at 55 than at 80. God bless.

[@MoZaHo]

I agree with all the items, but lets be real here: "I wish I travelled more. I wish I didn't care so much about my job". As much as I want to quit my job, I cant. I didn't have wealthy parents to give me a great starting block, and I'm sure a lot of other people don't have that luxury either. So as much as we "wish" how things were, there will always be sacrafices we have to make. You can't travel more, but not care about your work. Unfortunately those things have a knock on affect.

[@DiceDecides]

Some people travel by hitchhiking etc, you dont need a lot of money to travel

[@pedroroque829]

Exactly. I wish I could never work and just travel, but there's no way around for us normal people.

[@ferb9623]

Ever since i was young,i always craved for a more adventurous life,and like you said,since i did not have a luxurious starting point,i cant just care about myself and do all the travelling i want.i have to be responsible if i want happiness of me and my family,but my fear is that when i get a job i wont have time to do the things that i want to do

[@astrahcat1212]

​@@ferb9623in this life, granted you're healthy and born into the 1st world, you should do what you want to do. If you have kids it's different.

[@Ethanlim-gh3kt]

We always regret not doing something rather than doing something and regretting later. Lifes too short to worry about the result so we should just focus on the journey instead❤

[@thanatosor]

Most regrets made us feel like they all were surrounded, blinded by the noises in life way too much to realize the true reality.

[@madelineharris4974]

Great insights from nurses! Thank you for sharing Matthew. This quote resonated with me: "I wish I hadn't worried about so many things that never happened."

[@timeparty718]

All true ... my guess is about 97% of worries never happen, all you can ever do is prepare well for 'whatever' and then be phlegmatic about the process forthcoming.

[@frankclements1431]

everyone worries. It's part of the human experience. If we knew what not to worry about we would not worry about them. But we don't know. There are many uncertainties in life.

[@Mike-qg3zd]

This is so true……makes me really think.

[@BlueSkyCountry]

@@frankclements1431 Learn to suppress them and never share them with anyone. "Human experience", I prefer to experience what I want to experience. Everything else gets buried underneath a concrete lid like the Chernobyl ruins.

[@Herbert-dy1uf]

Every day I wake up and don't want to go to work. Wish I had a job I love. I have skills and passions that I no longer pursue. I spent my twenties partying and messing around largely. Now mid thirties I feel time is running out to do something meaningful. Yet I don't take action. I go to the same job day after day, week after week, year after year. Who knows when the clock will run out for me.

[@gdyby112]

Can relate to that 100%, also mid 30s.

[@ellismeah8110]

Time creeps up on you very quickly, when I was 30 I thought 60 was was light years away but found out it was just around the corner

[@argonianaccount1876]

After all the pain & suffering I’ve endured. I can’t wait to just REST!!!

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Omg, what a load of bull

[@argonianaccount1876]

@@karlabritfeld7104 explain please.

[@diego04]

☹

[@jinfin221]

❤

[@PepitoMegaChocolato]

we are probably made to experience consciousness, to suffer, to feel, to love. It's part of the experience down here. It's not supposed to be easy I guess. Take care :)

[@Jus7Wonderful]

Live with intention, love deeply, and chase your passions. It's all about you... and those you love! 💖

[@MementoMoriXIII]

"Get busy living or get busy dying" -The shawshank redemption

[@user-mm4je1sb9b]

I agree with the more children wish. My children have been the absolute most amazing part of my life. I never imagined what real love was until they were born. Nothing else even comes close.

[@pbaker7160]

100%. People who don't have children will never understand.

[@brianmeen2158]

“I wish I would have thought about life’s big questions” This surprises me as I’ve often thought about purpose and deeper meaning to life and it’s gotten me nowhere but sliding towards nihilism and depression

[@philv3941]

same, It sounds like the misinterpretation of someone who has found (or thinks he'has found) something too late that "makes more sense in their life". Life IS absurd, that's just a fact, looking for a profound autonomous meaning in life, and hoping to make it a condition of one's existence only leads to depression.

[@TheCycloneTrooper]

There is no inherent meaning to life but the one we create for ourselves. Create a one which prioritizes you experiencing more of life consciously than not.

[@BlueSkyCountry]

There is no deeper meaning. Thinking is for the slow and feeble. Just live for the moment and live for instant gratification. We don't know what might happen tomorrow and I cannot care less.

[@btsmochimi7924]

Same. I am religious but these questions put my mind in a very dark place.

[@davie0123]

"I wish I had the courage to be myself" hits hard as I'm always scared of what other people think of me. And I believe therefore never truly lived in the moment and enjoyed the wonderful and extremely privileged life I have. Also, I believe because I'm so scared to be myself and to be rejected, I havent met the woman of my life either.

[@BlueSkyCountry]

And the reply to that should be: "Wish all you want, but you ain't getting it". At that stage, a person might as well just keep their mouth clammed up, because anything they say will be useless and only make them look weaker.

[@trk660]

@@BlueSkyCountry explain

[@luisvi92]

I recommend you to read the book psycho-cybernetics from Maxwell Maltz. Its a wonderful book and the principles laid there can definitely help you with what you are struggling right now

[@Jared_Albert]

Wish I believed this before my sons grew up and left and have families of their own. i was a good provider, but I missed so much of theirs years commuting and working late. I was too tired to go over homework or ride bikes at night. My wife and I took trips alone the kids went to her moms. I was a good father, but not a good dad and now I hardly see them or the grandkids.

[@snowrocket]

The song "Cats In the Cradle" by Harry Chapin comes to mind.

[@markjackson887]

You were a great provider - kids must eat and have a roof over their head first and foremost. Be proud of your achievement of getting them to healthy adulthood. You did amazing. Now is the moment in your life when you can give them some time, reach out to them and tell them how much you care and how you’d like to become closer. They’d probably love your help with the grandkids doing school runs etc. It’s never too late. Good luck 🤞

[@ekcelhenrichekoumelong4457]

"2 minutes", that was the main reason I clicked on the video. Straight and to the point. Thank you!

[@Irisphotojournal]

Being happy is the most natural state for a human being, we should never allow ourselves to be pushed into despair by anyone. We owe it to ourselves to be Happy; Always.!

[@MatthewKellyAuthor]

Thanks for sharing with the community.

[@Cleopatra_912]

I feel differently we have to make an effort to be happy but our natural state is sadness without any work.

[@nigel4776]

These things matter when you're about to die - life gets in the way of stuff like this when you're in the middle of it.

[@akshatgour8981]

'I wish I didn't spend so much time worrying about (or fantasizing about) things that never happened'....This is my regret at 18

[@Kaymitlit]

18 is still very young don't worry 💖

[@Mgonz9034]

I wish i had more humility & loved authentically

[@gauravsinha6060]

"The inevitability of death should inspire us to get busy living." You spoke my mind. ❤

[@darthjump]

I am 30 and i have always lived life knowing that it will end one day. That fact alone makes me feel like i am already ahead of most people, all the things said here are things i work on improoving daily.

[@btsmochimi7924]

You are way ahead of the curve. Keep it up buddy❤

[@cgimovieman]

One that I do disagree with is that happiness is a choice. I’ve been horribly depressed for over 15 years now. But I can’t just flip a switch and decide to be happy. Any more than I can pop some pill and solve it. There are specific reasons why I’m not happy. Like not having a decent job or not having a loving relationship with someone. I try and try to fix those things, but I’ve just been unsuccessful. But I’m not going to lie to myself and put on an artificial smile when it’s not how I truly feel.

[@IvyCatholic]

I just said a small prayer for you. One step at a time.

[@deepcovertales]

The end quote is the same wisdom from Virgil nearly 2000 years ago: “Death twitches my ear; 'Live,' he says... 'I'm coming.” That we are still struggling with the same issue all this time later, shows how hard the self-limiting mindset is to overcome.

[@Pickleslip]

The debt that all men pay.

[@octohex2908]

being yourself is the best ever decision you wil ever take. Be kind to yourself. Do what you alwyss wanted. You will survive thrive and give more to yourself and others.

[@samplautz5586]

I’m now 22, and the older I get, the more I find that I need to spend more time with my family. Some days I don’t want to, and want to do my own thing, but as my parents get older. (They’re in their 60s and 70s), I never know how many hours I have left with them. I’ll regret not spending time with them and instead sitting in my room alone

[@tranceformeeer]

This was one of my best 2 minutes spent on youtube.

[@MrWudragon]

In other words: "I wish I had a different life which allowed me to do all these great things" which probably wasn't possible under the circumstances. Everyone reading this is probably doing the best they can, and I hope when our time comes, we can acknowledge this and feel at least some pride.

[@Psychology_Exposed]

That is really well said.

[@alecbiswell-ayres5084]

This reminds me of the Alan Watts quote: "the meaning of life is just to be alive"

[@Jet_Electro]

Thank you for this post. I’m really worn down today and this gave me the boost I needed.

[@YouBetterBelieveIt]

In other words, you seriously missed the point of this video.

[@elultimo102]

Despite our efforts to achieve some success, for many of us, all we were able accomplish was survival.

[@drbonesshow1]

Don't die with your music still in you.

[@manniimannii8253]

Wayne Dwyer

[@drbonesshow1]

@@manniimannii8253 At least, spell his name right. RIP

[@MárkArató-b9x]

Videos like this are the best. No BS, no ads, just straight to the point amazing content!

[@sirthumbsup]

That's one of the most important messages, no matter the generation. But happiness isn't (always) a choice. Many people are bound to things they didn't choose, some people have to fight day by day, either mentally, physically or even both. That's just as important as realising happiness can sometimes be a choice. It's okay to not be okay.

[@GNICHO]

“I wish I had taken better care of myself”

[@alanbell1821]

It is what it is ,,,,I'm just thankful I can walk , see ,hear ,I'm so lucky ,,I'm blessed to have a life 😊

[@onezerooneo]

One more important thing is to not go the wrong path trying to please your parents or live their dream. They grew up in a very different world to their children and sometimes their love can be selfish or blind to what their children really want and or need.

[@winner33660]

That was Very Good, I Lost my 7 year old Great Nephew, I Think About Him Every Day, I Miss him ,

[@shivanshkhare5943]

In reality, nothing matters. No matter how you live, you will always have regrets. The only way to not have regrets is to believe that everything happened in your life for a reason and you did good. Now its time to rest.

[@astrahcat1212]

What matters is karma, that is doing good deeds for yourself and others, those karmic points are worth everything and money and resources in the end aren't taken with you.

[@PW-qy8mf]

To be honest, not a single one of those 24 regrets comes as a surprise... yet most of us fail to live by those principles on a daily basis, because we think we have enough time left anyway...

[@istvanglock7445]

True - when you're young, you think you'll live forever. When you're old, you realize too late that time is running out, and you no longer have the capability to do the things you dreamed of doing.

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 3 months ago about self development. Now I have 198 subs and almost 90 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@MatthewKellyAuthor]

Building a channel takes quite a long time. You’re doing an incredible job, and moving along faster than most! Keep up all the great work, it’s all worth it in the end. Great work, Nathan. You should be proud of yourself.

[@nathananderson8720]

@@MatthewKellyAuthor Thanks so much! I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories while helping others do the same as I shared the lessons & experiences through making videos to have a sense of meaningful purpose. Therefore, I’m planning to quit nursing to pursue youtube full time as there are lots of issues in our traditional health systems as these don’t align with my values. It’s a huge learning curve but I love helping people through making videos.

[@Anna-bd7or]

What kind of issues? I think i can relate even if im not in the medical field..

[@nathananderson8720]

@@MatthewKellyAuthor Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my KZbin channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a KZbinr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this KZbin thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

[@nathananderson8720]

@@Anna-bd7or I recently quit nursing as I hate it and it doesn’t make me fulfilled at all. Working in a very toxic environment isn’t worth sacrificing for. From constant gossiping, backstabbing, the lack of support from the management, micromanagement and to being treated like a piece of sh*t. These are the most common themes in mega corporations and even small ones although there are a few corporations that do still value their employees. I also don't agree with how the healthcare system is running. They are treating the symptoms of diseases but not the root causes. Promoting a very poor diet and just medicating them although some pharmacological interventions can be beneficial but their approach is not holistic at all and is lacking many aspects of life that are needed to have a healthy lifestyle. This type of lifestyle is what I truly do not agree with. I was in a career that is deeply flawed in so many ways. There are some nursing careers that are better than the other but most of them aren't holistic. Most businesses only care about making money and not about the well-being of their employees and clients. I then decided to slowly dig my way out. I spent every drop of my limited free time working on meaningful projects I truly care about and applied for as many jobs as I could until I found a job that is more enjoyable and is a positive workplace to be in. I am now an office manager in a clinic and do creative stuff via KZbin and freelancing on my days off. I am still at a corporate job but I’m happier than working as a Nurse. I like the people I work with and they treat me with respect and as a human-being. That’s what’s more important to me. Having a sense of purpose through creating online content I truly care about also helps a lot. My freelancing gigs also give me creative outlets. I like the variety of tasks of being a manager as well as it offers tons of creativity. This job also gives me more free time for myself and I can spend some time socializing with my loved ones and meeting new folks. I couldn’t have been much happier if I didn’t start taking actions to change my life.

[@robertharrison9452]

Amen 🙏 “Get busy living or get busy dying” - famous line was delivered both by Andy Dufresne, played by Tim Robbins, and by Ellis “Red” Redding, played by Morgan Freeman, in the movie The Shawshank Redemption.

[@MatthewKellyAuthor]

Great movie

[@frans.nadeak]

Greatest film! My favorit film.

[@kendallevans4079]

Yeah, but what does that really mean? It's a BS movie line that lemmings think is so profound, which it is NOT!

[@rontreen3278]

That's damn right!!

[@ianstuart5660]

​@@kendallevans4079 Excellent point. I guess it would have different meanings to different individuals!

[@sozekyser2837]

Wise words from classic The Shawshank Redemption: Get Busy Living Or Get Busy Dying.

[@tioray9982]

Thank you from the bottom of my soul, my good Sir! Already 32 aged and most of the list are checked! Still working on some of them but running my life as I WANT!! Blessings from Mexico 🇲🇽🙏

[@brookesmith4018]

Courage to live authentically is fantastic! Thanks for sharing, Matthew.

[@monicadaniels784]

My #1

[@frankclements1431]

What does it mean to live authentically?

[@Prodrive1]

​@@frankclements1431sticking to your principles. Consistency.

[@mizolafoufounna]

"My biggest fear, the one I hope will never happen, is realizing that I FORGOT to LIVE."😇👃❤

[@Marvin-dg8vj]

It is overrated .Everything gets dull in the end .

[@FeelFree3]

People who work hard will wish they didn’t work that hard. But people who didn’t hard will wish they work harder.

[@daraudobong7195]

Fair point

[@mrwangkai]

The tricky thing about these things is that you can't truly, 100%, relate to them until you have built empathy around it. And the only way to truly have empathy is to go through it. And to truly go through it... I had a friend share with me the other day that he can better connect with me now that he has kids, before that it's just a concept. That feels like the constraint and the reality of our lives in this form.

[@rickallen9099]

A lot of this is pie in the sky silliness. Quitting your job, spirituality, etc.

[@benjaminocampo3359]

I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year... Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life.

[@nissan38p69]

I know nothing about investment and I'm keen on getting started. What are some strategies to get started?

[@x0cat711]

All we need is the right advice on how to invest and we will be set for life, I have been making $18k weekly from trading and I'm happy about it

[@lea5898]

As a beginner, the best you can do to yourself is to get a professional that will handle your account and minimize lost to it's nearest rate..

[@inicMich-rc5wo]

I'm guided by fergus Waylen an experienced coach with extensive financial market knowledge. While you can consider other options, his strategy has yielded positive results for me. he offers valuable insights, including entry and exit points

[@charles2395]

A huge part of my growth has also come during this bear market. This year alone, I have scaled from $60k to $210k investing with Fergus Waylen

[@bm7760]

If I live as long as my dad I've thirty-five years ahead of me. If I lived as long as my brother I'd be gone by now. I'm already aware that I'll wish I'd been less self-conscious, and that there's no such thing as being a 'good enough' parent or partner. If nothing else, everybody gets a hug every day and is told that they're loved. Everybody is made to feel good about themselves. That costs nothing.

[@amywhitener3795]

Live each day with purpose! Thank you!

[@SecretsOfMartialArts]

Good video. Carry the Cross and rejoice ! Serve God and help your neighbor!

[@biitimate3697]

I wish I hadn't exposed myself to this much negative world news I had no control over.

[@TIOLIOfficial]

Notice how all of these are around "I" and "me" and people wanting stuff for themselves and themselves experiencing different things throughout life they didn't earlier. There is basically not one out of these 24 regrets that is focused on others and treating others better. The only one is "I wish I was a better partner", but notice how no one said "I wish I was a better parent l". No one regrets how they treated others, especially their kids. No one care about that...

[@omgshad0w]

great observation. I love minds such as yours who are courteous

[@roy-kn7pi]

Because they might not know about the day of judgement

[@roy-kn7pi]

The second important thing in life is giving everyone their rights

[@robertthorpe2401]

I have begun by not watching the news or listening to people who tell me bad news, I feel much more relaxed, The only person i can change is myself 🤗

[@astrahcat1212]

If you quit social media completely things are so relaxed and nice

[@hoa3512]

I have four main priorities in my life: family, community, health, and work. Two of these are self directed: my health and my work. Two equally important priorities, my family and my community, are more altruistic.

[@paulkrenz9593]

Excellent video, another common regret is spending most of your life with a partner/ spouse who treats you badly

[@leonseymore263]

These wishes have one common theme "I have free will". People generally over-estimate their importance, their value, their influence, their impact, their capacity to make correct decisions. It's all just grace

[@jimliu2560]

At least half of these regrets are “unobtainable at the time…” The other half is money related….unless you are rich…most people simply can not afford to pursue what they “like to do”…

[@geddon436]

Makes me question the point of even being alive.......system is rigged.

[@vuho7832]

Matt, I regret the day I was born. Life is painful, lonely, and ugly. I can't wait until the wretched nightmare comes to an end.

[@tebelshaw9486]

"If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most to be pitied." 1 Corinthians 15:19

[@robertsaladino]

A salary from a company to a subordinate is the number one reason why most of the items on this list exists. A salary is the fix needed to survive and living check to check brings fear of keeping most boxed in and trapped their whole lives.

[@roydamanna]

"Having always lived in fear of being suprised by the worst, i have tried in every circumstance to get a head start, flinging myself into misfortune long before it occurred"

[@akaski777]

I have no regrets as I've done all of these, All means nothing when you're in a better place

[@anmolagrawal5358]

The problem is people live reality like some kind of reference or standard they just cannot afford to mess up. But what's stopping you from playing it like a video game? Do side quests and what not. The only necessity is to ensure food, a house and internet connection. Once you've achieved that much stability, it's a free for all then onwards

[@astrahcat1212]

Well, 1) health problems 2) financial problems And that's pretty much it, in that order. If one is healthy AND financially secure though and living in a 1st world country, they have no excuse to go out and live life to it's fullest.

[@lichtsoldat7697]

Excellent quotes. I'll try to remember them. But, those people didn't run out of time. They are continuing on. Our soul never dies, we merely transition. Beautiful things await them and they will be reunited with their soul family. God Bless.

[@seanodwyer4322]

Godbotherer demon- Sean O'Dwyer- 136- 140 Hobson Street.- Auckland City. 1010.- New Zealand.- South pacific.- yeah ahh seen all types off spirits and ghosts in my 65 yerars of life so farr.

[@patrickohara5925]

It's important to acknowledge all of these things to have the right attitude and to enjoy life more, but it's also important to acknowledge that actually doing a lot of what's mentioned here is easier said than done, and not to beat yourself up for not accomplishing them all

[@loverofhumanity]

Actually you never will. This is the human condition. If they were young again and had time, many would probably live it the same way. It's just the stages and cycle of life. It's the same way as adults we see teens doing dumb shit that we once did and one day they'll watch teens and think the same thing at our age. It's just the cycle of life. That's what's terrifying is that we know it but still can't change

[@dayalu108]

I am a monk and I can confirm that I live a life that fulfils all these desires 🙌🏻

[@Morgan-Zolko]

these really come down to being yourself, pursuing your passion, and living more fully